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Dr. Aziz explains why people act too nice: fear of conflict, upsetting others, and abandonment. You say yes when you mean no, smile while disagreeing, avoid bringing up problems. The pattern starts with fear.
Dr. Aziz explains why people act too nice: fear of conflict, upsetting others, and abandonment. You say yes when you mean no, smile while disagreeing, avoid bringing up problems. The pattern starts with fear.
Are you too nice? That means you say yes when you want to say no. You smile and nod when inside you.
Actually disagree.
And you don't bring up.
The things that bother you.
And are you being nice because you're a good person, because.
You'Re patient, because.
You'Re flexible, because you're kind? No, I'm not saying you're not those things. But the reason you're being nice first and foremost.
Is because you are scared. Scared of.
Conflict, scared of upsetting other people.
And the fear is.
If I upset you, then you're going to leave me. Then I'm going to be abandoned and I'm going to be alone and I have to to do what you want. I have to be this nice, kind, good person.
So that you.
Don'T leave me. That's the real reason that you're nice, and that.
Is the cage that keeps you from being fully yourself.
