Dr. Aziz delivers a short spoken piece about confidence, arguing that trying to be an idealized version of yourself creates pressure, a feeling of not-enough, and lowers confidence. He advises acknowledging, accepting, and honoring your true self, and reassures listeners that they do not need to become a fantasy version to experience love, success, and the life they want.
One of the biggest secrets to confidence is to stop trying to be somebody else. Now, I know you might not literally try to be another human, but you're trying to be a version of you that you're not. You put a constant sense of pressure on yourself to be a more what? More peaceful person, more forgiving person, more accommodating person, a smarter person, a richer person, a better person. And that pressure automatically creates a sense of deficit and a feeling like you're not enough. And your confidence goes way down. And the most important thing you can do is to acknowledge and accept and honor who you really are. And guess what? You're not going to be that fantasy version of yourself. And that's okay. You don't have to be that fantasy version in order to experience love, success, and the life that you ultimately want.
