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Dr. Aziz breaks down what stops you from creating or pursuing goals: external excuses and internal stories mask the real blocker, which is fear. He treats fear as energy you can work with, release, and move through, not something to overcome.
Dr. Aziz breaks down what stops you from creating or pursuing goals: external excuses and internal stories mask the real blocker, which is fear. He treats fear as energy you can work with, release, and move through, not something to overcome.
What really holds people back? What might be holding you back from something that you want to create right now? What's causing you to maybe feel anxious, incapable? I can't do it. I don't know, you know, what's going on. Let's uncover that right now. And if you want to go further with this stuff, be sure to first of all, subscribe and click the little bell so you can watch all these videos as they come out. Because the more you immerse, the more you're going to grow. And secondly, you want to go even further. I have a free ebook I want to give you as a gift called Five Steps to Unleash youh Inner Confidence. It guides you step by step on exactly what to do sequentially to skyrocket your confidence. And it's absolutely free. So just go to my website, socialconfidencecenter.com there's a link down below in the description, and you can get yourself that ebook for free. So what's really holding us back? Okay, there's two top layers that we get lost in, and there's the one real thing, top layer, number one, excuses. That's like, what? Something out there is stopping you. I can't. They won't let me. It's too hard. The environment won't work. The economy's bad. There's no good men out there. There's no good women out there. Online dating doesn't work. This is, you know, that's our list of complaints, basically, right? Those are our excuses. I can't get to it. The gym doesn't. I don't have to. I can't. My kids, dogs. I can't get to the gym. What are your excuses that you're saying about why you can't do that thing that you want, Create what you want, get the results that you want in your life. The second layer beneath that is our internal stories. Excuses are out there. Stories are about in here. I'm not enough. I can't do it. I'm not smart enough. I'm not intelligent enough. I'm not skilled enough, don't have enough connections. I'm not confident enough, not good enough, whatever. Enough, right? I'm not strong enough. I'm not disciplined enough. I don't have enough willpower. I'm ugly. I don't have the right personality. I'm too neurotic. I've got too many problems for my past for someone to want to date me, right? So those are our stories. And between those two, the excuses and stories, we could spend our whole lives there. And you know what? Unfortunately, many people do until we say, you know what? Those are both designed to stop me from facing the one thing that's really holding me back. And there's only one thing that's holding you back. Isn't that fantastic news? Here's what it is. It's fear. Underneath the excuses and the stories are fear. Because what if you weren't ugly? Would you go approach that person for them to date you? Yeah. And guess what? You might start to feel some fear. Then what if they reject me? What if it doesn't go well? What if it actually goes well and I start to open up my heart and really fall for this person and then they don't like me anymore? That's. I'll stay in my stories, thank you very much. Right. Same thing about, like, creating something in your career, growing a business. Oh, my God. There's no way I could possibly. No one would buy my stuff. Right. Stories and excuses. The truth is. Well, that's really scary. To put myself out there, I'd have to get rejected. People might give me negative reviews online. Someone might not like me. What if a customer doesn't like what I got? I have to figure out all this stuff about finances, how to run a business. Oh, my God. That's confusing. That's overwhelming. Stick to my stories. Right? So it's always just fear. And the fantastic news about that is, guess what? Fear is just a feeling. Fear is just an energy. You can learn to work with fear. You can learn to move through fear with fear. Release fear, resolve fear, Relax around fear. Let fear go. Let fear be there, but not have any power to stop you. Fear is just an energy. Like, instead of it being this solid, tangible thing, our excuses and stories feel so real. It's like this brick wall. And it turns out it's just an energy inside. Like, more like a mist, clouds, vapor. Just move right through it. And you can create anything that you want in your life. So just remember that the one thing there is fear. If you want to go further with this, if you haven't read my book called the Art of Extraordinary Confidence, I lay this whole process out in exquisite detail and hopefully in a way that inspires you to take a ton of action, which is what the second half of that book is all about. But getting about your excuses, stories, fear, and how to work with fear, there's so much good stuff in there. So if you haven't already picked up a copy of that, you can head on over to Amazon or audible. In the audible, I read it to you. You get to be hanging out with me for 13 hours in your ears. But check that out and also share down below in your comments. What are you noticing? What are you learning? I love reading those and I love connecting in that way. Until we speak again, may you have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.
