When You've Tried Everything And Nothing Has Worked...

Have you tried everything to get what you wanted in a certain area? Maybe you want to be in a relationship and just haven't been able to make that work. Maybe you want to make a certain shift in your career. Just haven't been able to do that. Maybe you've wanted to get a certain job, you haven't been able to do that. Maybe you've wanted to be more socially confident. You haven't been able to do that, be free of the social anxiety. Haven't been able to do that. And you say, God, I tried everything and nothing is working. Have you ever been there? It's a common place. We can all go there. I was just leading a mastermind call last night, and one of the group members was in that place. I've tried everything and nothing has worked. And when you hear that language, I want you to. You hear yourself saying that. I want you to imagine that there's a big red light on the dashboard that is your life, that's steering, you know, the command ship of your life. There's a big light on the dashboard that says warning, warning, warning, whatever color you want, because that is a sign that you are no longer steering your ship. You've let go of the steering wheel and you're selling yourself a story that is not true, that doesn't serve you and ultimately is not going to get you to where you want to go, where you want to steer. And I get it. I get it. I know how absolutely true it feels. And I've definitely been there myself in many different areas of my life. Whether it's stuff involving my health and chronic pain, whether it's stuff in dating and stuff in being able to create a relationship. Just tried everything, and nothing's going to work. It's not only I've tried everything and nothing worked. It's like I've tried everything. Nothing worked, and therefore nothing will work. So not only do we feel frustrated and upset about the past, about where we are now, we feel demoralized and discouraged about our future. That's why I want that warning light to go off. Because it's a dangerous place to be. Because if we stay in that place too long, we give up. We become cynical. We become hardened. We develop tons and tons more stories to justify what, why it's never going to work. And here's the thing to remember about that. Every problem can be solved. Every problem has a solution. I want you to repeat after me. When there is a problem in my life, I know you're talking to a video screen that's Fine. That's fine. When there is a problem in my life, go ahead and say that right now. Okay, good. I confront the issue and I solve the problem. That's right. I confront the issue and I solve the problem. Now here's the thing. We've never tried everything. The fact that we're saying I've tried everything is not a reflection about reality and what we've done or haven't done. That's a reflection of our own mental state and specifically our level of commitment. So I talk about the five levels of equipment, talk about all my live events, well, most of them, and my online events. And also in, I think not nice is where I talk about it in one of my books. Level one is, ah, I don't even really want the thing. Whatever. No commitment. Level two is, yeah, that would be great to be in a relationship. That would be great. To have a million dollars. Yeah, that would be great. I don't want to do anything to get it though. I just want it to come to me, you know? What's the silver bullet? Give me the magic pill. Yeah, I want the abs sit ups, working out. No, let's just give me like the pill that gives me the, you know, the ones that say I can eat the hamburgers and get the abs Right. That's level two. Level three is I'll try. Okay, I'll try. I'll give it a shot. Right. That's the lower end of I'll try. Higher end might be like, all right, I'll try. Feels a little stronger, doesn't it? Either way, you're screwed because trying is weak. Trying is not going to work. Trying is a very low level of commitment and it will snap at the first sign of challenge. After your second rejection, you'll stop trying. Now that hurts. I don't want to try anymore. I tried. Let me say I tried. Now if we get real fired up, we'll say I tried everything. Even embedded in the language of try is level three commitment. So if you're telling yourself I've tried everything, that means you are at level three commitment. No, I wasn't, Aziz. I was more committed than I was at level four. Level four is I'm going to do my best. I'm going to do my best, and that's a powerful place to be. You know what? I'm going to go in here, I want to create this job opportunity for myself. I'm going to do my best. I'm going to fill out the applications, I'm going to do all the prerequisites I'm going to network people in the company. I'm going to give it my all here. I'm going to do my best. That's a powerful place to be, and it might work. You might get in that company, you might get that job. But do you see how that takes a lot? You might get rejected along the way. You might get someone to say no to you. You might have some doors closed in your face. But do you see how there's a level of strength to keep going in level four? And you know what? That's still not going to ultimately get you what you most want in your life, because your best is not enough. Oh, my gosh. How could he say that? Isn't that. This isn't the guy who's telling us to be on our own sides and you're telling me to say my best isn't enough, and now I'm going to be more perfectionistic. Oh, no, hear me out. Hear me out. Your best is not enough. Because in order to create what you really want, what's really meaningful, and ultimately, honestly, what's really fulfilling for you in your life, you need to grow. And when you grow, all of a sudden, your best is no longer your best. There's something more that you're able to do. And you know what? It's not even you anymore. There's something else that comes in that carries you, that supports you, that works with you, and that's level five. Level five commitment is, I will do whatever it takes. I will do whatever it takes to get the result that I want. I am determined, I am relentless, I am bold, I am fucking committed, and I will do whatever it takes. And you might say, well, that sounds like level four, right? I mean, you're just saying the same thing, but with more curse words and stuff. No, because when you bring that energy to it, you don't even know how it's going to get done, but you're just focused on making it happen and creating that. And here's where something happens. You are going to learn, you are going to grow, and the best that you had is going to be shattered because it was a limited version of you. That's like when people say they're doing their best, they're like, I'm going to do my best within the confines of what's comfortable for me. I'm going to do the best with the limited amount of knowledge and connections and experience that I have now. But that's never going to be enough. You got to grow. You got to Expand your knowledge, expand your experience, expand what you're willing to try and do and put yourself into in situations that you have no idea how to handle them. And you figure it out. And when you do that, it's no longer you making the result happen. Providence moves with you, right? When one definitely commits oneself, all manner of unforeseen events conspire to work in your favor. It's a Van Goethe quote. Now, it looks like Van Goeth to me, but apparently you don't call him Van Goeth. You call him Van Goethe. Maybe that's not right either. So I don't know what I'm talking about. In any case, some dude said that, and it sounds good, doesn't it? Someone wrote that on a piece of paper somewhere. And it's true. And not only that, other people come in. Because whatever you want to create, whatever you want to achieve isn't you. It isn't all you. It is. People are going to be involved. You want that job in that company. Someone's going to be involved in that. The company is involved. The company is other people. It serves customers who are other people. You know, you want to create a relationship that's another person. Unless we're talking a very different kind of relationship. Maybe it's with a robot, I don't know. Like her movie, her. But generally right now, for most people, it's with another human, right? So. But that energy that you bring of total commitment, level five commitment. You grow beyond your limits. Life comes to support you. Others come in and then, boom, it happens. But it's like a magic formula. It's like a fire that only catches when you're bringing that flame to it. Does that make sense? So the next time you try to tell yourself, I've tried everything and nothing's worked, just set a timer. Set a timer on your watch or your phone for five minutes and say, okay, all right. I'm going to spend five minutes just really tantruming about that, about how it's not fair and it's not right, and maybe even giving yourself some empathy, saying, yeah, I know it's hard. It feels like nothing's going to work. It sometimes feels like I'm totally helpless and hopeless. I get that. I hear you. And then after that five minute timer's off, regain control of the steering wheel of your life. You are the captain of your ship. You decide your destiny, and you decide where you're going to go and wherever it is you want to go. If you bring that level five to it, then your success is inevitable. You can create anything that's meaningful to you given enough time. You got to expand your time frame so it's not just like this second this week. That's awful. It didn't happen in a month, so it's never going to happen. Insanity. Give it a longer time frame. Give it that level of commitment. Boom. Things will occur. Things will happen. Things will grow. In fact, Share down below in the comments have you seen this happen in your life? What's an example from your life where you brought that level of 5 commitment and boom, something occurred for you? Take a moment to really think about that and then please share down below. Inspire all of us. And if you want to go further, you want to get more charged, get my ebook called 5 Steps to Unleash youh Inner Confidence. Go to draziz.com,-r-a z I z.com and you'll be able to get that ebook for free. And then you can join our online Facebook community for free. I'll tell you about how to do that after you get the ebook and really stay connected. Keep learning, keep growing so we can become unstoppable together until we speak again. May have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.