Who's "Enough"?

Sorry to break it to you, but I'm not sure you're enough. I mean, I don't know if you're enough to be loved by the person or people that you want. I don't know if you're enough to reach that goal, become that more confident person, do the things that you want to do. I just hate to be the bringer of bad news, but I just don't know if you're enough. Is this something you're telling yourself regularly? Whether it's directly or indirectly, just a feeling in the background, maybe it fuels a lot of fear. I'm not enough. I'm not enough. What do people find out? I'm not enough. Have you ever taken a moment to really chew on that one and look at it? Enough. I'm not enough. And sometimes we just default. You kind of like, have the thought or the perception, I'm not enough. And we're like, well, I guess that's true. That's what I did for many years, right? I'm not enough. I'm not what enough? Right? I'm not attractive enough. I'm not strong enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not capable enough. It's just this vague story of impossibility and incapability. But if you really look at it and start to examine it, like, is it actually true? Now, what if I were to tell you that everyone, every human on some level, has that insecurity? Unless they're, I don't know, maybe some enlightened being who doesn't have that. Like, they just exist in a state of pure awakened consciousness, right? I don't know. So the. Most of us, most of most humans, 99.9% of humans have that insecurity. Now, it's not active at all times, but it's. It can come up and it's in there. And so if everyone has it, is it true for everybody? Have you ever had a goal or experience or something you wanted to create and you did take the action, even though a part of your mind said that you weren't enough, and you took the action anyway and you got the results. So were you enough? Somehow you pulled it off. You know that whoever you're with, that partner loves you even though you're not enough. Maybe you achieved that goal or got that job, even though some part of you, before you got the job said, you're not enough, they're not going to hire you. Can't do it. Not possible. And then you did, though. So was it true? Was it not true? And the crazy thing about it is, even though that voice says you're not enough and you're not capable and you can't do it, and then we. Well, either you live under its thumb for the rest of your whole life, and that's a life of surviving and getting by and keeping everything as small as possible. You're probably not watching this if that's the life that you want to live. But you've also probably taken some action and done some things and defied that voice and gotten a result. And the crazy thing is we don't say, you know what? I think that voice is wrong. I don't think I should listen to that one as much. We're kind of like, well, it comes back the next time. We're like, it's got some points. I am still not enough. So what if. And then people are striving, right? I gotta be enough. I'm gonna get better and get smarter and get. Get better looking and get richer and get. Then it wouldn't be enough. But what if the whole thing is like an absorbing illusion? What if it's irrelevant? What if you don't need to be enough? What if that whole thing is a concept? It's just an idea? And what if you focus more on what do I want to create? You know, I want to create a relationship. I want to feel better in my connections with other people. I want to feel more free to express myself. I want to feel more bold at work. Okay, great. So. But I'm not enough. Okay, thank you. Thank you for the input. Appreciate. Appreciate that you're always okay. Thank you. Appreciate. Appreciate you part that says I'm not enough. And so a question I love to ask clients is, okay, if you were enough and that were no longer a question, what would you do? I'm not enough to write this book or put my stuff out there in the world. Okay, if you were enough, what would you do? Well, I'd write the book. Okay. All right. I'm starting to piece together what you might want to consider doing, but I can't yet, because I'm not enough. So all of a sudden, being enough becomes a prerequisite to action, to change, to opening yourself up. And do you know why we tell this whole I'm not enough story in the first place? It's a protection mechanism. It's your safety police. If I tell myself I'm not enough, that I can put on my armor and not take action and not take risks and not experience any of the discomfort of failure, setbacks, difficult conversations and all the rest that's gonna come with your freaking life. So when we say, I'm not enough yet, I'm not gonna do that yet. I'm saying I'm not gonna live yet because I only want the simple things in life. I only want the peaceful things. I only want the pleasurable things. I don't want the discomfort. I don't want the pain. Here's the thing. Everything that you want to create has a headache attached to it. Every single thing. I want an amazing relationship. Guess what? That relationship's gonna have uncomfortable conversations and conflict in it, as well as amazingness. I want to create a family. Oh, it's gonna be beautiful. Yes, it is. And it's gonna be annoying as shit at times. I want to start my own business. It's gonna be great. Yes, it will. It's incredible and liberating and growthful, and it's a headache. It's a lot of challenges, a lot of growth required. So next time that voice says, you're not enough, just catch it, say, okay, safety police. If I were enough, what might I do? What might I do right now, today? And then take that action. If you do that consistently, you'll be able to create anything and everything that you want, and it has nothing to do whether some part of you says you're enough or not. Fantastic. Thanks for being with me today. Until we speak again, may I have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.