Why Can’t I Get Your Dating Advice For Free?
26 Sept 2016 · 15 min
Dr. Aziz explains why he doesn't give away his paid program "30 Days to Dating Mastery" for free: access without commitment won't create change. He points to free resources like his podcast archive and YouTube channel, and paid books like The Art of Extraordinary Confidence, but emphasizes that help only works when you actually claim it.
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And now it's time to Ask the Shrink. Hey, welcome to this bonus episode of Ask the Shrink. Yes, good morning. It is 12:44am When I am recording this. I passed out at about, I don't know, probably 8:05pm with my son. Woke up at midnight with my mind racing. And I find the best way sometimes just to create a little bit and then I can go back to sleep. So what I'm gonna do right now is I'm gonna answer a bonus episode, a question of Ask the Shrink. This one is fascinating and this one is all about. Well, I'm not even gonna say what it's about. Let's just dive right into that question right now. My name, I'm just gonna use the initials here for this one. My name is CM And I would like to ask some questions. Can you. 1. Can you give me 30 days to Dating Mastery for free? 2. Can you make ebooks on dating and also give that for free? 3. How did you get rid of social anxiety? 4. How do you eliminate the negative thoughts? I'm asking why you should make these two questions that I have mentioned for free and I will explain it quickly. I totally understand that you have to make a living and there is a lot of hard work you put into it. But I will have to be honest with you, Dr. Aziz, that you give advice on your videos like confidence and dating, etc. Is so useless and very little. Why do you have to give unless advice for free and if you want to get real answer that you have to charge. It really frustrates me. Look, then you should not give advice at all. People will buy your stuff regardless if you give it for free or not. Not everyone can afford it. You know, it really does get on my nerves because why does it always have to be a secret? And I wonder why a few guys are good because they can afford it. And while the rest of us still have to figure things out, this is my suggest to you, Aziz. Give more advice and at leave give your 30 days to dating Mastery for free for a limited time. Please reply to me. Yours sincerely, CM So that's the question. There's a lot of questions in there, but I'm going to answer the first one mainly, you know, why don't you give out 30 days to Didi Mastery for free? And here's why. Because we don't. Because, okay, I have a number of goals, right? And he's got a point. I want to make a living, but I could make a living doing a lot of things. I'm A bright guy. I studied computer science for a couple years in college. Didn't love it, wanted to switch to something else. But I could have done that. I could have succeeded highly at that. Made great money being a computer programmer and then working my way up to probably project management. I'm a smart guy even now. I could go work in so many different industries. With my degree in psychology, I could work in companies and corporations. I could, you know, work with them in their marketing. There's just so much different things I could do. I don't want to do any of that. That all sounds fucking terrible right now. This is what I'm here to do. This is what I love. And my mission is Operation Mass Liberation. And so I want you and everyone else, myself included, I mean, I'm part of this to be as empowered as possible, as confident as possible, as extraordinarily confident and in charge of our destiny and our lives as possible. And that's why I don't give out 30 days to Dang Mastery for free. Because there it would be. It wouldn't help you in the way that you think it would. Cm even if I we gave you the whole program for free, it would not help you. And here's why. Because this message. I have secret information. This message is sent almost exactly a year after the first message that I received from ucm One year. And you messaged me a year ago. I love search threads, on emails. Messaged me almost exactly a year ago saying virtually. Here are some interesting things that you said. I tell myself I'm ugly, that I can't get women that women don't want to don't agree with me. They disagree with me. It really hurts to see a beautiful girl and realize I can never have her because I'm not handsome. I feel like there's nothing I can do. I'm not meant to be confident and I see it as impossible. Even if I wanted to change my life, it will only reflect it and will never happen. Because destiny chose my path that I'm meant to be. Negative, boring, not meant to find love, date, socialize, and many more. Okay, so that was a year ago and I responded. And at the time you wanted Dating Mastery for free and a ton of other stuff too. And here's the kicker. I want to get your book, this break the Solution, the solution to social anxiety. But I can't afford it. Dude, where are you living right now? A Kindle version of that book is not $10. $10? Seriously, man, we've had people from all over the World, places that are really, you know, the country is in upheaval, the currency's fucked, and people find a way to scrap together enough money to get a freaking copy of that book. So what's going on here? What's going on here? What is holding you back? Because this is not about giving me money. This is about you stepping up and taking charge of your life. Because this email and the five others that I got and the one that you just sent me is flooded. Flooded, floating in victimland. I talk about that in my new book, the Art of Extraordinary Confidence. Just this. When we get stuck in Victimland, we are lost, we're helpless. We're never gonna get there. And we need to step into being an owner of our life, a creator of our destiny. That's where our power comes from. That's where our confidence comes from. And so there. There's this like, I, the victim of circumstance. I'm helpless, I'm hopeless. Things outside of my control. I've always been this way. I'll always be this way. Women don't like me. You won't give me this program. No one gives me anything in life. Fuck everyone. It's not fair. Oh, God, poor me. And we say stuck. Is that really true? Is that really true that you could not scrounge together $10 to get a copy of the book? And look, fuck it, this isn't about me getting. I don't get that much from those $10 books anyway. A lot of it goes to Amazon. But someone else's book, right? This isn't about you giving your money to me. This is about you stepping up and taking charge of your life. Whether it's you investing in yourself because you want all this stuff for free. But unless you step up and claim it, you're not gonna get it. Unless you choose to invest in yourself, you're not gonna get the results that you want. And you know what you're doing is you're also totally dismissing the free stuff that you already getting. It's crazy how we do this, right? And this is not just to you, cm. This is for everyone. That's why I'm focusing on this. This is so valuable for us all to see. Cause we all do it on some degree. Oh, I want the. I want. I need this thing. I need a program that free shit. Fuck that. Give me the program. Give it to me for free, though. And it's like, dude, I again, I get probably one to two emails a week at this point of people telling me that they've listened to Anywhere from half dozen episodes of this show to they've gone back and listened to the entire archive of this show, and holy shit, their life is different. But do you know why? Because they invest themselves. And yes, the show is free, but guess what's not free is your time. They listen to every episode. They do the action steps. Those aren't just, like, some fun way to, I don't know, like, end the episode with some energy or something. Like, that's my goal, is for you to shift your life, and you got to take the action. And we both know that, and you know that on some level. So we got to take that action, and we got it. So there's the. That happens. Other people are doing that. And then there's my YouTube channel called Get More Confidence, and we get hundreds of comments weekly, and there's thousands of comments in there about people saying how they're becoming better people, they're changing their lives, are taking action. So I don't know what you're waiting for, C.M. you're waiting for something to magically shift without you stepping up. And it's never going to happen. So now is the time. So, no, no. 30 days to dating Mastery program for free. I would say go through every episode of this podcast and listen as if you spent $1,000 buying them all. Go to my YouTube channel. Get more confidence and watch every video and take notes and apply what you learn and bring this into your life. The time to step up is now, my friend. Now. And all those things that you told me in the email, I want this, but I'm not good enough. And I'm destined to be this way. This is all just a story that you tell yourself to protect yourself from taking action, to protect yourself. But you got to break free. And the weight and the tools and the resources are available to you right now. They're at your fingertips. You guys probably all know the story. It's a common one right now with the person who's in a flood, right? And the water level is rising, and someone comes by on a boat and says, hey, come jump on our boat. You know, the water level's rising. You got to get out of here. Person says, no, no, I'm. I'm praying for God to save me. I say, okay. And they go off, and the water is chest height. Another boat, canoe comes by. There's an empty space. The guy's like, get in the boat. You're gonna die here. No, no, I'm praying for God to save me. I'm asking God to come Save me. And the guy's at the tip top of his roof. Water level is rising. Everyone else is gone. There's a Coast Guard helicopter, flies above, sees him, throws down the rope, says, climb up the ladder. He says, no, I'm. I'm praying for God to save me. And then as the water is overtaking his head, Never really thought about the story, but that's a fucking serious flood if it's going up above the houses. That's how my dad used to tell it. Anyway, as he's dying, he says, God, shit, why didn't you save me? And God's like, what are you talking about, dude? I sent you two boats, a helicopter, so you gotta claim it, man. There's nothing. There's nothing. Even if I gave you the program, it wouldn't serve you at this point. I've worked with enough people to know that. And I believe in you. This might sound harsh, you know, either to UCM or people listening might be like, dude, Dr. Aziz is recording this at midnight, and he's pissed off. But, look, I'm trying to pierce through something because I've seen a year of this go by and I don't. I know people that live their entire lives this way. Or I meet them when they're 30, 40, 50, 60. And sometimes I can reach them and break through, and sometimes I can't. And there's. I know there's millions and hundreds of millions of more that I'll never talk to that are just trapped in this and they're gonna die in this and they're gonna fuck up their kids because they hate themselves and they hate their lives and they're depressed and they take it out on their kids. And I'm never gonna reach all those people, but there's some people I know I'm gonna reach, and that's why I'm coming through in this strong way, because I want to pierce through something. And the truth is, cm, you can do this. The truth is, you can transform your life so much faster than you think. It just requires you deciding right now, in this very moment, as you're listening to my voice, as hurt or as pissed off as you might be, good. Use it. Use that and say, fuck this guy. I'm gonna figure this out. If he's not gonna help me, fuck it. I'm gonna do it on my own. And then use the podcast, use the videos, use someone else. Someone else's teaching. Find something for free. YouTube is amazing in terms of what you can find for free, but you gotta use it. And when you do, your life will transform. No matter what story you've told yourself, no matter how long you've been stuck, no matter how much you believe it, you can and you will break free if you decide. If you commit. So that's our episode for today. Thanks for listening. Stay tuned for future full length episodes and much more. Talk to you guys soon. Till we speak again. May have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome. Sa.










