Dr. Aziz explains that fear of others' judgment stems not from others' opinions but from a weak sense of one's own reality. He advises strengthening your personal reality—owning your values and willingness to speak up—so others' judgments matter less and you can live more authentically.
Are you afraid of people judging you? And if so, how does it hold you back? Does it make you tense, Anxious in your head? Holding back, afraid to speak up? I mean, it does that and so much more. And we think it's about the other person's judgment. But the reason that you're afraid of the judgment is not because someone could think negatively of you. It's because you don't have a solid or strong sense of your own reality. Because if you're solid in your reality and someone doesn't like what you said, or someone thinks you're bad for some reason, you say, well, in my reality, it's okay to speak up. In my reality, it's okay to say no. In my reality, it's important to say what you think and feel even if someone doesn't like it. And so if you try to go through your life avoiding all judgments from others, I mean, good luck, you just have to like, live in a hole in the ground or just be the most smiley approval seeking chameleon in the world. Instead, you can choose to strengthen your audience. So next time you're afraid of someone's judgment, say, well, in my reality and let yourself own how you want to live your life.
