Dr. Aziz argues that real confidence comes from internal change, not external wins. Conditional confidence based on looks, money, or achievement crumbles when circumstances shift. True confidence means changing your self-talk and becoming your own ally.
There is one thing that you must do to significantly increase and transform your confidence. And if you don't do this one thing, it does not matter what else changes in your life. This is the most important thing that you need to know about increasing your confidence. I'm Dr. Aziz. I'm the founder of the center for Social Confidence. I'm the author of five best selling books and I've been helping people transform their confidence for 18 years now. And if you click down below, you can subscribe for free to this channel where you can watch new videos coming in. And, and I trust that by the end of this video you're going to find so much value in this that you'll all have earned your subscription. And then if so, please subscribe down below and you can stay connected and keep learning and growing. So what is this one thing that you must do? Well, I'm going to share what people do instead and you'll see exactly what's missing. One of the most common ways people think they need to get confidence is, well, I need more practice, I need more competence, right? Competence leads to confidence. You might have heard that. So if you're not very good at public speaking, or if you're not very good at writing, if you're not very good at flirting, I mean, anything is a skill. If you do it more and you get better at it, you start to get a little more confident, right? So people go that route. Sometimes people think, you know, what if I could just be a somebody, then I'd be confident and you know, whatever makes you a somebody. If I just had muscles, I'd be a somebody and I'd be confident, I'd be attractive. If I just had more money, then I'd be a somebody. Or if I could show that money, then I'd be a somebody. Or, you know, whatever it might be, if I could just achieve this or impress that or do something out there, then I'm going to feel more confident. I just got to achieve the next thing. Is this ringing any bells? Does this sound like tried and true path? You might say, well, no, that does give me confidence. If I am earning more, I do feel confident. If people do think I'm sexy, then I do feel confident, kind of. I would call that pseudo confidence, also known as conditional confidence. Because what happens if you get laid off? What happens if that person thought you were attractive, doesn't want to date you anymore? Do you sustain confidence or does your confidence just disappear and go down the toilet and you feel like a wretch and I'M a loser and I'm not good enough and no one's gonna want to be with me again. And you just. Every sense of confidence you had is now gone. You know what I'm talking about. And it can be not just big things in your life, like getting laid off or a breakup. Little fluctuations throughout the day. So you give that presentation and people look disinterested. Oh, I feel so unconfident today. Oh, I suck. And it's just a confidence roller coaster. Or you're working on your dating life and you're texting someone and it seems like there's a connection. Maybe you go on a date and then they don't. Then they kind of ghost you after that and your confidence goes down. You say, oh, I'm a loser. No one's ever want to be with me. Do you know this ride, this confidence roller coaster sucks? I'm a big fan of roller coasters. I don't like that one at all. And I'm sure you don't either. So what is missing here? What's the one thing that you must do to radically increase your confidence and have it be sustainable? Unconditional confidence? It's this confidence is an inside job. There is no amount of circumstances you're going to change around you that's going to bring you lasting, sustainable confidence. Confidence comes from you transforming the way that you talk to yourself, the way that you perceive yourself, and how you show up in your life. That's it. So things can be going well, things can be going poorly if you a start to treat yourself better. And I teach you this in my free course called Five Steps to Unleash youh Inner Confidence. You can click down below to get it. Now, the first step is fire that toxic coach in there. I can't tell you how many super successful people I've worked with who are successful in whatever ways you want to define success. They have money, they have career accolades, they have families, they have people that love them, they're creative, they're successful in all kinds of ways. And they are not confident. You might say, no, no, no. I've seen them. They seem very confident. Yeah, seem very confident. Because inside it's a war zone in there. I didn't do that well enough. Oh, their standards are so high for themselves. I failed there. Oh, people think I'm an idiot. Oh, why did I say that? And if you could hear their inner monologue, it's terrible. And that is something you have to get control of. I call it almost being on your own. Side, you have to do that. Otherwise, no matter how much you earn, no matter how many people that love you, I mean, can you think of someone in your life who seems to have it all, or at least a lot of what you would want, and they're depressed and they might even think about taking their own life? Have you ever been in that place? I mean, we can look at celebrities too, throughout time who, whether they actively and ended their own lives, like Robin Williams or more passive through drug addiction, kind of just destroyed themselves. I mean, it's the same story playing out and again and again, millions, hundreds of millions of people love them. They have more money they could ever spend, they have more success than like the top 0.001% of humanity. And they haven't mastered this. So when are you gonna take control of your mind, of that critic and start to become on your own side? And if that voice inside says I can't, it just happens to me. Complete and total bs. I want to teach you how. You can start with that course. Click down below to get it for free. Now. You can also watch more of these videos by subscribing down below. And if you're one of the few who really wants to take it further and experience a radical transformation, check out my site and click on the Coaching tab. You can see that down below as well. Drzeez.com coaching and learn about how you and I can work together and transform things in your life faster than ever before. Until we speak again. May have the courage to be who you are and to know on a deep level that you're awesome.
