You're A Pushover (And Here's Why)

How often do you say yes when you really want to say no? It turns out there's a specific reason why this keeps happening to you. Most people I work with think, I don't have a spine. I don't have courage. There's something wrong with me. No. The truth is that you have a mistaken belief that saying no is hurtful to others. So you're going to be a bad person. You say no to this person, it's the equivalent of, like, pushing them down and taking their lunch money. And so, ultimately, you don't want to be a bad person. I don't want to be a bad person. So you don't have a choice. You have to say yes. You have to be an extension of someone else's needs and desires, and this leads to a very specific psychological situation. Scientifically speaking, you become a doormat.