You're not kind. You're a Fixer.

15 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment of the YouTube video "You're not kind. You're a Fixer," Dr. Aziz introduces a personality pattern he calls the "avoider." He explains that avoiders habitually sidestep situations they anticipate will end poorly, using a personal story about years of not dating because he presumed every encounter would fail. He then expands the concept to professional life, showing how avoiders procrastinate on networking, business interactions, and sharing their work, often waiting for a perfect moment or inventing excuses. The core message is that avoidance is a self‑protective belief system that limits both personal relationships and career progress.

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The next type is what I call the avoider. This one's fairly obvious, right? You avoid the situation. I did this for so many years in my life where it's like, how is it going to go? I'll tell you how it's going to go. It's going to go bad. So why would I go talk to that person? And this is true for me when I was younger in my dating life. I didn't date for many years. Why would I go talk to a woman? I already know how it's going to go because of this. Like, look at me. What do you, how do you think it's going to go? And so I'm not going to go do it. That could be initial conversations, initial connections. This shows up with people, clients I work with around networking, business, putting anything out there of themselves, whether it's a conversation or their work or anything, they tend to avoid it. I'll do it later. I'll share later. I'll share when it's more perfect. I'll, I'll get to it at some point. There's always a reason, always an excuse.