Edward Nelson shares three principles for facilitating family constellations: minimal intervention to let clients find their own answers, resourcing the client's capacity to bear difficult circumstances rather than fixing problems, and using brief, poetic language to reach truth beyond reason.
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Hi, my name is Edward Nelson and I want to talk a little bit about a family constellation and some of the principles I use to guide people through one. For me, as an outsider working on anybody's issue, I'd always take the position that I know very little about what's actually going on and that if I'm to really respect the client and support them, I will actually do as little as possible. I would leave it up to the client themselves to think about what it is that they need and gather the insights that they can manage and integrate. Often when I do a family constellation, there's a great deal that can be gained from just noticing the truth of what's happened. So another guiding principle is that of resourcing or amplifying the client or your person. The person working's capacity to handle their situation. And by that I mean it's not trying to fix it or make it light, but to look at their capacity to bear all of the challenges and circumstances that they might have been dealt with. And rather than fix them, it's to make them able to sit with and accept those circumstances as part of the who they are. While uncomfortable, this can actually be very fortifying for the person involved. And one of the third guiding principles I use is to use very brief poetic sentences. Poetry. Short words have a power that goes beyond the rational mind. It isn't about explanation, correction or justification, but opening doorways to truth and resourcefulness that can help you find the power and the capacity that you need. To find out more, Visit my website, theconstellationcoach.com get in touch. Or better yet, come along to one of the workshops. I look forward to seeing you soon. Thanks. Bye.
