In this YouTube advice segment, relationship coach Elizabeth Stone responds to a viewer who has been abandoned by her partner of eight years. The partner left the family, still visits on weekends, and claims he is “finding himself.” The viewer wonders whether to keep waiting for his return. Stone observes that waiting has not produced the hoped‑for result and argues that the viewer is unintentionally offering the same comforts the partner chose to leave. She advises shifting to the opposite strategy: stop trying to “jam the wrong key into the lock” of the relationship and instead focus on self‑worth rather than on saving the partnership. While she remains hopeful that people can change, she stresses realistic optimism—maintaining hope without attachment to the outcome. Stone prompts the viewer to consider how they would advise a friend in the same situation and to listen to their inner wisdom. The segment concludes with a call to like, subscribe, and consider her one‑on‑one coaching or free masterclasses.
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Hi, I'm Elizabeth Stone, and here's today's question. My partner for 8 years left me and our daughter, 8 years old, saying he is not happy anymore. This was all of a sudden, and I thought we were okay. He keeps visiting our home every weekend. He said he is finding himself. Should I wait or should I move on? He knows that we are waiting for his decision if he will come back or not. He still has some of his stuff at home. First of all, I'm sorry that's happening. Next, so just looking at reality here, So far, it looks like waiting has not really yielded the result that it seems like you've been hoping for. So to boil it down further, you got left by an unhappy person who decided to leave your family because he imagined he would be happier somewhere, somehow without you. So now you're waiting around, essentially trying to provide him with the same comforts that he chose to leave, hoping he will change his mind about the whole thing. So far. And I get it. I understand why. But your remedy has been to offer more of what he chose to leave behind and not less. So that's why I'm suggesting that maybe it's time to try the opposite strategy. One thing that people do all the time with relationships is they keep trying to jam the wrong key into a lock. You wouldn't do this with your car keys, so don't do it in relationships. Your ex-partner hasn't gotten much closer to you with you waiting around for him. Well, so maybe it's time to look at reality and then try something else. So if you're actually asking me whether there's a chance for your relationship, I'm a very hopeful human. I tend to believe that people change in big and small ways all the time. But feeling hopeful doesn't mean that accepting reality is any less important. And optimism without a lot of attachment to the outcome usually tends to help people reconnect their relationships. And so does acting as though your opinion of yourself is the most important thing to you, not saving the relationship or anything else. Your opinion of yourself. So I'll approach this from that angle. Does it feel good right now for you to wait around? If you knew a good friend in this position, what would you tell them? If you knew you could say anything and have it be received thoughtfully? Does The wisdom about what to do is already inside you. It might be about changing things or following through with it. And I wish you the best of luck with this situation. So please like and subscribe to the channel. It really helps the channel to grow. If you're interested in getting my help with your situation, I offer one-on-one coaching. To book private coaching with me, please go to my website and hit the coaching tab at the top of the page to book your sessions. And while you're there, you can find access to the 7 Blocks to Manifesting Love and 3 Mistakes Women Make with Men. Those are free master classes that you can sign up for. And I wish you the best out there, and I will talk to you next time. Once again, I'm Elizabeth Stone.
