Elizabeth Stone breaks down why you're still hoping after an ex lied about living with someone else while claiming you belonged only to him. The lie isn't harmless, it's a pattern. You're hooked on the hot-and-cold dynamic, focusing on his occasional good behavior while ignoring what his deception actually reveals about who he is.
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Hi, I'm Elizabeth Stone, and here's today's question. Why did my ex-boyfriend make promises and lie that he still lives with someone? He kept saying that I belong to him only. I know he cares, but I'm not a side or second to no one. I think she means side piece or second to no one. So I don't know why your ex-boyfriend did this. It sounds like he was— he thought lying was easier than telling you the truth. The thing is, you might think he cares, But that's very different from him acting like your feelings matter or that he actually cares about you. And this is why people get hooked on hot and cold behavior, because they ignore the cold part and get all hopeful when the person acts hot. But the cold part tells you everything that you need to know. So for goodness sakes, he lied to you about living with someone else. This is not a small white lie. He might be completely in love with you. He might be an angel from the heavens. I don't care. It does not matter. Not only did he lie to you, but he lied to the person he lives with also. So he can care about you all day long, but it doesn't matter because of his actions. And if— and that's a very big if— he happens to get it together one day, makes up for his mistakes, moves out, and then you can 100% verify that he's really truthfully doing that and wants a full relationship with you, then you can see if that makes sense for you to even remotely consider. But I think it would be crazy to trust someone who lied about something so huge because you're just allowing terrible behavior. And that's your decision to make about your life, but to me, lying about something like this is complete deal-breaker behavior. However, he hasn't made up for it or moved out, and that's not the reality right now. Right now, I don't even need more details to tell you that you already have everything you need to know that you should keep moving away from the situation. So that's my take on it. All right. Please like and subscribe to the channel. It really helps the channel to grow. And if you're interested in getting my help with your situation, I offer one-on-one coaching. To book a coaching call with me, please go to my website and hit the coaching tab at the top of the page to book your call. While you're there, I have 2 master classes you can sign up for, for free. They are the 7 Blocks to Manifesting Love and 3 Innocent Mistakes Women Make with Men. And I will talk to you next time. I'm Elizabeth Stone.
