How Does My Purpose Impact My Relationship to the Feminine? w/ Justin Patrick Pierce

You know, one thing that comes up a lot in spiritual intimacy work or sacred sexuality work is this idea that somehow purpose or masculine purpose is part of it. How many of you have heard this before? That when you're in intimacy workshops, you have the masculine purpose is a piece to this puzzle. And what you'll learn through the work is that a man who feels purposeful, who embodies purposefulness, is essentially more attractive to the opposite sex than a man who does not. How many of you have heard that before? So there's something about purposefulness that even other people can see in you. And women might not know this is what they're particularly noticing in you, but that's really it at its core. So somehow when men are successful in the most conventional sense, they have lots of money, they have fame, they have power, they have influence, automatically there's something in their physiology that might also suggest they have purpose. And typically, you know, commonly they do. There's a reason some people get thrown into those positions who have no purpose and just kind of landed there. It happens. But a lot of people who have kind of cultivated something and established that have a purposefulness about them. Their purposefulness could be about making the world a better place and being a conscious human being, or their purpose could be very destructive, very selfish, very corrupt. But either way, that purposefulness is still just as attractive. So even if this guy is a tyrant, plenty of women will be attracted to that. Because there's something happening in his physiology and his consciousness that is different than other men. When you know what that thing is, you begin to understand the secrets of this yogic technology, and you begin to realize that you don't need to be rich. You don't need to be a powerful person in the world, in the political world or the social world. You don't need to be famous at all. At all. And there's two ways you can go about this. Some of you might have heard of the pickup artist community. They go about this using kind of tricks. They use NLP, they use social tricks, they use functions of entertainment. That are able to cleverly get in there and subdue or entertain the feminine in such a way that they become responsive to what they're doing. That can be done. There's a whole artificial world of tricks and treats that you can learn and manipulate other people. It can be done. It's done in a number of different fields, and these individuals just happen to do it to attract and have sex with women. But what's amazing about this work is it's rooted in something much deeper. It's rooted in spirituality, the spirituality of men, of man, around this idea of cultivating the authenticity that runs inside of us. And when a man understands those functions, those primal needs, those desires, and fundamentally transcends each one of them, which I'll describe what that means in a moment, But when he liberates himself and that his desires, his impulses become something he commands, he's in control over, he's fundamentally liberated from, he becomes very sexually attractive in that. But he also becomes the man that he also needs to become before he dies, or feels he needs to become before he dies. He's liberated in that, and women are also served by his presence, by such a man. So now I want to touch upon what that thing is. What in the body is that thing? How can you see this in one man and the guy standing next to him, you don't even know who he is, but you could just tell he's directionless, he's deflated, he's— his phallus of consciousness is impotent. He's shriveled, he's withdrawn, he cannot penetrate the world. And this is happening to more and more men because our culture is losing elements of the masculine that used to be kind of forced upon them. Wars would force men into these types of roles. Survival forces men into these roles. We're coming further and further away from those scenarios. There's more and more of the population that's not in the survival mode, and therefore this lackadaisical environment is causing impotence in a certain way. And men are like, what the fuck do I do? How do I cultivate this thing? And most of them choose to smoke pot and play video games because why not? There's nothing— I don't need to go fight for my food or fight for this or fight for that. I've got everything. So today there's more men feeling this kind of impotence, and I don't just mean physical impotence. I'm not just talking about your erection, because a man like Stephen Hawking can have a body that is totally impotent in a certain way, but his consciousness was anything but. His purpose was anything but impotent. He fucked the universe wide open. With what the life force that was moving through him despite his body. And that's why this technology is so important, because you can understand what that is, how you run that through your nervous system, and how you liberate the full force of your consciousness in this lifetime. Not just to attract a woman, but to actually deepen your love relationship with her, to fuck her open to God, and to fuel your own purpose in life, to project that towards your purpose rather than flushing it down the drain or ejaculating it into a sock or numbing out your mind with substances. So we have options here, and the men who show up to this call, all of you men who are here tonight, I know you're much more in line with this alternative way of life, but it is an alternative, a big alternative. This is not common practice for anyone. So here's where the practice comes into place. There's a flow of energy in your body and it starts at the base of your body. And from the base inside your body, this energy ideally flows upwards to the crown of the head. Up, and then as you inhale, you breathe that energy back down into the genitals and the base of the body. And it's this current of energy. And a lot of you guys have probably seen the chakra systems or the energy systems, um, in the Taoist tradition. How many of you are familiar with the chakra systems or something similar where you've seen energies inside the body. They're popular in Kundalini and Tantra and all of these different practices, Taoist practices. Yeah, there's a reason those exist. They're not arbitrary and they're just not imaginary. They really do have a function. And it's not that one map of them is more true than the other. You can pick a map. It's pretty much irrelevant as far as I'm concerned. They can all— they all have basis in truth and they're all maps. And the map is not necessarily always the truth itself, but it's a compass for you guys to understand. So in these traditions, at the root of us is our most vital center. It's the survival mechanism in us. And as it moves upward, it becomes more intelligent. Spiritual. And whether we're talking about the Kundalini chakras or we're talking about even Maslow's hierarchy of needs, right, you can see even his hierarchy of needs is very similar to the chakra system in the human body. They came to the same conclusions. Western psychology and Eastern spirituality say the same thing about that evolution within us, within man. So what is that evolution? Here's how it is. At the very root of us is our survival mechanism, and every man, every man here has an irritation in his body. Survival is an irritation. There's the irritation of hunger. There's the irritation of thirst. There's the irritation of weather, and there's the irritation of this force or need to reproduce, the irritation to ejaculate. How many of the men here know the irritations I'm talking about? Maybe you've felt this in your body. Yeah, every man, every man feels this. These irritations are real. There's something to this though. Very intelligent wisdom if we understand what this means. Inside of your physiology is this need to relieve this irritation for release. Release. I want to relieve myself of the irritation of hunger. I want to relieve myself of the irritation of thirst. I want to relieve myself of this pressure inside me to reproduce. So I want to ejaculate. And so your physiology is wanting to release itself, to expunge itself out into life, to spread your seed as far and wide as it goes, as much as you fucking can, right? That fundamental need, that irritation, is at the root of everything, every motive behind the masculine psyche. The need to release, the need for freedom, absolute freedom. And it starts with freedom from these irritations. That's where it starts. So in the lowest part of the body, these are the— it's called the vital body or the lower centers of desire. Buddhism, the oldest tradition of Buddhism, is focused essentially on overcoming desire. You feel these needs for hunger, these needs for thirst, these needs for ejaculating, celibacy. You know, there's a whole practice of transcending these reactive elements such that we can begin to lift the energy inside the body and get past them. But the thing is, most people live down here in their physiology. Therefore, they're constantly seeking fulfillment in food. They desire fulfillment, their desire in sex, right? Even money is an expression of guaranteeing the next meal is going to be there. Indefinitely. Money is a form of that. Money is also an expression of shelter that protects us from the elements and the cold indefinitely. So we're looking to be indefinitely sustained forever in our vital centers. And in the most selfish and unevolved form of survival, it, it's only about us and we don't care what we have to do to get it. We will do it. It's a reality of our lives. Some people are in that position where they have to live from that place. The luxury of us living in this part of the world is that we don't have to— we're not subject to those same conditions the way others might be today, or the way people were thousands of years ago. Just in the 1800s, the average age wasn't over 40 in any country in the world. Think about that. 200 years ago, nowhere in the world was the average age of life expectancy over 40 years old. That's crazy. Today we live a very different lifestyle. But here's what happens as we evolve and we start to think about other things in our lives. These vital mechanisms in us don't change. They don't go away. They're still impacting our decision to try to sustain ourselves indefinitely or to try and relieve ourselves absolutely, to be relieved of irritation, of responsibility, of all of this. As human being grows in the energy moves higher into the heart, we begin to transcend selfishness. And now we feel, hey, I would like to provide for others. I would like to create security for others, protection for others. I need protection, but I will also protect and provide for you. And others get included. We want to earn money for others. We want to earn food for others. We want to— this is when a human being starts to rise in that internal energy in their body. And someone besides themselves is included. But they're still obsessed with money, sex, and food. They're still obsessed. It's the basis for everything. And you can see it because no matter how much money one acquires, the irritation doesn't go away. I work with men who are multi-millionaires many times over. That irritation is no less in them than any other man I meet. Still irritated and fearful all the same because they haven't fully transcended that mechanism in the body. So then decision-making is made from all of these places as well. It informs our decisions. What we're looking for is to be relieved of of burden, of irritation indefinitely. We're so irritated that we are separate from our food, that we are not sustained, that no matter how much we eat, we're still going to be hungry later. That's a real burden. That's a real burden. So as man begins to evolve and see these things and come into alignment with them, he still seeks a kind of liberation from this prison or this irritation he feels he's in. And the energy starts to go up into the head. Now his life comes about intellectual freedom, philosophy, understanding the laws of science. He finds freedom in this If I understand, if I understand, I will become free. I'll be relieved of the burden of not knowing, all of my suffering. So the energy, you could see it moves inside of the body from the vital center through the heart and up to the head, where philosophy now becomes his escape or his liberation. And then as you keep evolving, as the human or man keeps evolving, philosophy and intellectualizing life is still not completely sufficient because there's a dimension of life that not even science can solve. And that's where we start to move into the dimensions of spirituality that are based in faiths, based in religions. And we see that current or movement now. Just being liberated in the mind is not enough. We have to be liberated from the complete human experience. We seek spiritual liberation, to be liberated from the conditions of human. This is how that current moves through the body. Some men live in one of those currents. How many of you know a man who lives exclusively in the vital current at the lowest root end of survival mode in the most selfish way? How many of you know someone like that? That way? Everyone, right? Then as we move up, there's people who are still fixated on this vital center, but at least they've included others in that process. How many of you know that place or know someone who's living from that place? Very common. And then there's those who, they're dealing with that, but at the same time they find this, um, desire to liberate themselves through understanding, through philosophy, through ideas, through sciences. How many of you know someone like that? And then there's those who live in this upper area who seek a kind of total spiritual liberation, to be relieved of all of that shit, to just check out of this human experience and just be there. How many of you know someone like that? Yeah, there's a lot of people living that way. To become stuck in any one of these areas isn't it. To become so detached from life that you only sit inside of this spiritual center, that could be wonderful for somebody. They might want that for their life. But when I'm talking about sexual intimacy and how purpose plays its role in attracting your partner, fucking open the world, right? With that, she wants to feel you breathing that down into your body, letting that part of you inhabit you to fuck her from that place, but include the totality of your body. So if your attention or awareness becomes stuck and cannot properly flow through this system, you will feel contracted in your attention, obsessive in your thought. Like some, some individuals become so heady— might hear this— so heady that a woman can't receive the fullness of his consciousness because he's not breathing down into his body and feeling his genitals, right? Some get so stuck up in this spiritual dimension that they don't even know how to come down or want to come down. And there could be reasons why they've chosen to evacuate. Trauma is a reason why people tend to check out and suspend themselves outside of the human experience. There's something in a woman who can feel that in a man, and that's not it. She doesn't— it's not the thing she wants to be fucked open to God by. So what we come to learn is that this current drops back down into the heart, and it's our practice, the practice we talk about here that comes from the tradition I'm from, talks about you must realize that you are already free. Here, now. You're already free. And that's when your attention settles back into the heart and you're able to breathe this current completely through the body, through every chakra, without getting stuck in any one. You don't cut off your sexuality. You don't cut off your need for food or hunger or anything. Nothing is divorced or contracted inside of this body. Instead, you breathe down into your genitals and you feel the irritation or desire, the passions to combine with another human being, and there's no contraction around it. You feel the desire for conquest, to acquire, to succeed, to do well, to develop oneself. To develop your mind. And all of these elements of the man are inclusive. And that's when his breath starts to flow through this whole system in his body. It begins to inform every element of liberation. So whether he's a man who's trapped, still trying to relieve himself of the irritation of reproduction or ejaculating, and his whole mission is to have sex with as many women as he can or ejaculate as many times he can, have the most ecstatic sexual experience, that release or he's obsessively stuck in the release of the spiritual attainment here. They're correlated in the masculine search for freedom. He's searching, he's stuck, and no matter which area or dimension of life he's in, he remains stuck. And it's his stuckness that renders him ultimately unattractive to the opposite sex. But when he is capable of dropping into such presence that all of those irritations, they might still be happening in his body-mind, but his attention is free, not trapped inside of them, and his breath circulates that attention through his whole form, that's when she becomes fucked open to something. Far beyond what any kind of conventional form of sex can create. So this in itself is really about man's conquest for freedom. And often a man will believe that his purpose is the key, is the secret door that's going to get him to experience that freedom. He associates the two. He thinks my purpose is here and freedom is just on the other side of it. Spiritual freedom, intellectual freedom, financial freedom, sexual freedom, whatever it is. He places purpose here and believes freedom is on the other side of purpose. But what happens when he fulfills that purpose? When he gets that amount of money or he gets that type of woman or has that type of experience? What happens? Does he experience absolute freedom on the other side of it? No, no. The moment he accomplished the thing, who was it? Um, I think it was McGregor after one of his fights, you know, beat somebody and he says he goes back to the locker room and he was in there and he felt the celebration for like 10 seconds and then he's just thinking, okay, what's what's next. I think it was the fight after he won the two belts. I think he said something like this. The victory in that lasted minutes and he was already on to the next conquest. What do I have to do next? Because the fulfillment is so impermanent, so impermanent. But his drive to keep going, a woman feels that. That's fire. That's brilliant. When a man suffers is when he believes that freedom actually is on the other side of that purpose wall. That's when a man suffers. When a man is liberated, he realizes that freedom is already here. It doesn't stop him from pursuing purposes if he likes. But he just simply understands that on the other side of that purpose wall is not freedom. Freedom is here to be realized now. And when she experiences that in you, that's the essence of this practice that we're in, is getting to that place. It's the two-bodied path, and you can arrive in that place through intimacy with your partner. She can help you get there. She can help you find that place. Where you fall into perfect stillness of consciousness. So I'm going to close this portion of the evening as that opening talk. And it felt so important to address because these chakra systems, these energy systems, are something that plays such an important role in our lives, but a lot of people don't know how to use them or what they mean. But this life current of attention and allowing it to flow through is the essence of what we're trying to establish here in our body-minds. And psychically, emotionally, physically, we start to perform optimally when that is in alignment. And when it becomes obstructed, we start to suffer in numerous ways. This practice is liberating that completely, and we can use our sexual energy to help do that.