When your partner laughs during sex, it kills the mood if he's using it to escape the intensity. But if he stays grounded and present while laughing, it signals confidence and deepens connection. The difference between a buzzkill and genuine intimacy comes down to whether he's rooted in his breath or running away from the heat.
Laughing is usually sexy when it's not used as a mechanism to defuse sexual tension. In other words, like, oh, it's building and now we're like giggling about it because we're spitting it off. That's when laughing starts to feel like a buzzkill for him or her. You know, like one of the partners feels the heat rising and is just like pushing it away with like, hahaha. And then the other partner feels a little abandoned in it. But it sounds to me is he's laughing and he's still rooted. He's laughing and rooting her. How ecstatic, because he's showing he's so in command that he can release and stay. I mean, it's just now you're in like a full range of leadership. It's incredible. It's like you're penetrable and penetrating at the same time. But so much of sexual yoga is the person who's playing the alpha role rooting the breath down, and is the person who's playing the omega role willing to move with the energy? So we talked about letting those sounds and those movements come. So that's that element of like releasing into the energy. And then that alpha energy, that alpha gift is the rooting down. And when that comes with great laughter and the rooting is still there— yummy.
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