Instead of asking your partner to feel desire, describe the physical behaviors you want to see: a hunter's gaze, breathing from bottom to top, treating you like prey. Both of you embody the state rather than demand it, and the energy follows.
So for example, if you wish that your partner really sexually desired you, but you don't feel it's present, rather than saying, what I would want from you is your hot desire for me, think about if they achieved that state, what might they do physically that would demonstrate it? So for example, if I was to want Justin's strong desire for me, I think, okay, if he was feeling that, I would really enjoy that he would be so present, it was almost like he was hunting me, and that his gaze would be very alert but relaxed. And it was almost like he was looking at me from his genitals, so to speak, like he's just fully— so I would imagine, okay, that's what I would be experiencing in his body if his state was one of strong desire. So then What I request is, what I would like is for you to look at me like you were a hunter and I was in your scope, and you'd be breathing all the way from the bottom to the top of your body, and you'd be gazing at me like it was something you wanted to eat. Because he could still feel that sort of doldrums of whatever state our relationship is in, but he could embody that. And then by that, We are now engaging in something and like moving energy together, and I'm experiencing the thing that I'm craving, and we're gifting each other that way. Or maybe he asks me to embody an energy of a naive 25-year-old person. I'm 54, you know, but I could think, okay, I could maybe soften into something that's a little innocent. I could look at him like we're brand new, right? There's all of these ways that you can bring energies present without asking someone to be any different than what is authentically moving through them.
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