In this monologue, the speaker argues that a man's purpose is intertwined with love, and that a woman's deepest desire is to surrender completely into love—a surrender that is simultaneously her greatest terror. He explains that guiding a woman toward her fullest expression requires asking her to become larger, more radiant, more loving, and fiercer than she currently is, which inevitably provokes resistance. The speaker links this process to the concept of annihilation, describing it as a total letting‑go that can lead to a profound "full cervical orgasm" for some women. He emphasizes the need for the guide to respect the fear inherent in this surrender while maintaining a demand for deep, mutual love and growth.
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In my circumstance, it's either purpose or love. It's not just love. It's purpose and love. And the irony, when you really do this with a feminine being, the irony is she wants nothing more than to surrender fully into love. And the most terrifying thing on the planet for her to do is to surrender fully into love. So, as you're guiding her and feeling into her heart and how to serve her in her own growth, you know, as we're trying to do for you guys, but you do it for her. She's going to be terrified where you want to bring her if you're doing a good job. You're going to ask her to be bigger than she is. You're going to ask her to be more radiant than she is. You're going to ask her to be more loving than she is. You're going to ask her to be fiercer than she is. You're gonna ask for all of her fullness, and it's gonna be terrifying for her to do that. So feeling into her growth, expect as you shepherd this woman into her fullness, she's going to resist you every step of the way. Fuck. To find that fullness is a part of herself has to annihilate entirely for her to surrender completely into love. Annihilation. Lundin talks about it constantly, this full cervical orgasm that women, some women are able to achieve, comes from an experience of complete letting go, annihilation, no holding on whatsoever. So you're guiding her into that annihilation in so many different ways. It's terrifying. So having a regard and a respect for that, how that's scary, how scary that is for her, and also not letting her be any less than that. That's the asana from the other view is how do you hold that for and demand that level of depth and love for both of you?
