You Can Re-ignite The Passion That Your Relationship Has Lost - Here's How

Finding equanimity in the midst of your woman's storm means your heart's open, your breath is full, and you're totally with her. And you're feeling everything she's throwing at you. You're feeling the criticisms, and they hurt like fuck. And you're training your nervous system to take a knife to the heart as she stabs you in that one way that's actually going to have you collapse. And you train your body to keep your heart, your breath open, feel her fully and not need the moment to change. To be totally at peace, totally in that state of equanimity with whatever's going on. And when she can feel you doing that, that will diffuse the moment more than anything. As you described diffusing the moment in what we call a second state stage approach. So we can certainly use therapy to resolve tension in the moment. That's what therapy is designed for. But therapy produces neutrality sexually. So I could say, you know, "How are you feeling? Tell me how you're feeling right now." And she'll say, "Okay, you know, this is how I'm feeling." And that's a great skill to cultivate between two beings. It's necessary to live and function together. But what happens in those moments is it'll neutralize sexuality. So this specific practice, this tantric practice of polarity, is training our body-minds to show up to that moment when it's appropriate and actually turn it into fuck. Becoming the container of the moment, giving her true equanimity inside of us, breathing that. And if you stay with her and hold her in such a way, she will open, find congruence in her emotions, and she'll become more vulnerable to you and the product of that experience than probably she's ever been. And that's the time to rapture. That's the time to embrace her, and you can immediately turn that into ecstatic lovemaking. That's part of the art we're exploring here.