Kenny Chapman shares three ways to handle rapid change and anxiety: cooperate with the inevitable, match your worry to what actually matters, and stop replaying past mistakes. Based on Dale Carnegie's 1948 classic.
Ability to change quickly. Really? Yes. As human beings, we have this great opportunity. However, many of you are like, wait a minute, Kenny. Things are changing really quickly out there. Externally, I'm not sure I can process this. I'm not sure how to handle this. Very fair and very valid today. I'm just going to be quick and I want to get to the point of sharing a few things from Dale Carnegie's incredible book called how to Stop Worrying and Start Living. This book was first published in 1948 and without going through the entire book, I want share three things that can help you right now regardless of where you are. Number one, I want you to think about cooperating with the inevitable. There are certain things that are inevitable right now. There are certain things that are going to happen that are outside of your control, my control, anybody's control right now, Right? So if we cooperate with that fact, things happen a lot better. There's uncertainty, there's challenge, there's all kinds of different things going on. We need to get out of resistance and begin cooperating with that. That's point number one. Point number two, give the amount of anxiety necessary based on situation. So think about that. There's a ton of anxiety going on. If you are losing your home right now, you have a certain level of anxiety. However, if you're missing your favorite band that was coming to town and they cancelled the concert, that also brings a certain level of anxiety. You, you need to choose how much anxiety you give to each one of these events and challenges in your life. Okay? Third thing, stop worrying about the past. You go, oh, great, Kenny, where did you learn that? Where did you read that? I hear that all the time. It's true, we hear that. But how are we executing it? How are we thinking about it when it comes to, okay, there's worry, there's, you know, man, I just, I wish I would have done this differently. Some of us are jumping back to 2008 and thinking about how we operated in the Great Recession and the different things that happened, right? Some of us are going, man, in the last 10 years, if I would have handled my finances different, just last year I added another car payment. What was I thinking? And we kick our own butt and we judge ourselves. There's no value in that, my friends. As human beings, we have the gift of being able to adapt to change very quickly. Now is your time. You've got this, my friend. You've got this.
