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A couple of weeks ago, I decided I was going to do a special podcast focused on the well-resourced woman. And after some thought, I decided, and recording a few of the episodes, I thought, no, you know what? I want this just to be on Leadership is Feminine. This belongs here. It doesn't belong somewhere else. And so the first episode dropped a couple of weeks ago, and now we're going to start releasing each one of the episodes going forward. So, Thanks for tuning in. Okay, welcome to the second episode here that we're doing about a well-resourced woman. And today I wanna talk to you about two things that I think go together, which is health and energy. A well-resourced woman invests in her health and her energy. I don't think the two you can pull apart. I do think, you know, I talked about time, and I do think time influences energy exactly specifically, but there's no way to have agency and fulfillment of your energetic feeling of your body and also not attend to your health. Right. Now, listen, there's a lot of things that happen to us in our body that we don't have control over. And so health is one of those variables that we can't always predict, right? But we can have heavy influence over. Years ago, one of my former employees actually, who after she and I stopped working together, we just were friends and we would talk. And I'll never forget her saying to me, you know, I've struggled with my weight a long time since I was probably 15, 16 years old. and she's a real athlete, someone who takes a lot of care of herself and has her whole life. I think she's done all sorts of really cool things with her body in terms of her athleticism. And I remember her saying to me, you know, Chris, you have so much to give, so much to do in the world to accomplish. And your body is the vessel that is going to hold you assistant this physical body of mine doesn't work is unhealthy. And I know that a lot of you listening are, are my contemporaries, right? You're probably in your forties and your fifties. And this is the time in our lives where we start to notice our bodies more than we did. We have in the past is my hunch. You start realizing, oh, look at that. That doesn't work like it used to. Oh, I can't drink wine like I used to. Oh, I can't stay up late like I used to. Oh, it's harder for me to get up early. Like I, All the things, yeah? And the other thing is that we build very full lives, just like I mentioned in time. We build lives that on the outset of it, we love all of the things we stay yes to until we get to this point in our lives where all we want to do is start saying no to things, right? And part of the reason that that's true is that we start to feel depleted both physically and energetically. so I don't think you can separate the two, but I do think that they are both separate. So there's, there's physical health, which is how you treat your body, how you take care of your body, what you feed your body, what, where, how much sunlight your body gets, the kind of fuel you put in your body, the kind of water you drink, all the things, right? Like, are you caring for your body? Do you go to the doctor? Do you go to the dentist? Do you attend to pains that you have, all of those things. Do you care for your body as if you were caring for your children's body or someone that you love's body, right? When someone in my family isn't well, I'm immediately like, let's take care of that. Do I do the same for myself? Not always. So I want you to really think about everything I just asked you. Are you good with all of the maintenance? Body maintenance. Do you have a physical routine that you enjoy? Do you walk? Do you run? Do you, all the things? Do you eat fuel? Do you take care of your body? It doesn't have to be rigid. Do you have a physician? Do you have a dentist? Do you go to OB? Do you get your annual breast exams? Are you getting your blood work done? And if you're perimenopausal or menopausal, are you working with someone to help you? to move through this period of your life because all those resources exist. You have to have a vessel that is functioning to be a well-resourced woman. And I know you know that. And because we are sort of insidiously infused with this belief that we should be last, a lot of women do not take good care of themselves and they ignore a lot of things about their body that they need to stop ignoring. So whatever that is that you've been ignoring, Today is the day you should do something about it. Energy comes from health, right? So if we feel better physically, we have more energy. We take on more. We are quicker with our mind. Our decisions feel easier. We move through the day. We have more joy. Like our body feels good. Our mind can work better. But if we take energy by itself and don't attach it to health for just a minute, I want you to talk, I want you to think about energetically What are you carrying? Now, I don't have stats, but I'm going to venture that 80 plus percent of the women I work with are what we define as empaths. An empath is someone who is also might be called a highly sensitive. And what an empath does and can do, and I've talked about on previous podcasts, is we actually feel the feelings of other people. we can hear the thoughts of other people. Empaths have another sense and the world that we live in doesn't really teach us what to do with that. And from the time I was very, very, very little, this has been true for me. And as somebody who tunes into and identifies and feels other people's energy and feelings and thoughts, it just adds to mine. So I have my own feelings and thoughts and I have my, and that affects my energy. And then I'm with other people and they have feelings and thoughts and that, so now I'm doubly impacted. And for years I thought I was, I didn't know what that was. And once I started to just allow myself to realize what it was and to learn about what that was, then I realized like, oh, that's mine. This is yours. This is yours. That's mine. I have learned to stop making so many cocktails of emotions and energy and feelings that I'm not sure where I am and where they are. Now, if you don't know what I'm talking about, don't worry about it. But if you're listening to this and you're like, oh my gosh, yes, yes, it's a real thing. That's why when you're with certain people, you're exhausted and you don't even know why they just suck it out of you. It's because they have thoughts and feelings that are sort of turning into this cocktail of energy that is literally pulling out of you. So there's people. People are a part of our energy cocktail and we have to be vigilant about the people we have in our lives for this reason. Because as a successful woman who is leading this powerful opportunity business vision thing in the world, We can't have you giving away your energy either because you think you're supposed to or unconsciously. So you can spend a little bit of time and be conscious over the next week and just pay attention to how you feel around people. Do you feel inspired and motivated and excited, or do you feel depleted and slowly but surely exhausted? There is a reason. And if you have surrounded yourself by people that after you are with them, or even while you are with them, you feel energetically depleted. You are not performing as your best self. You are not well resourced because people who energetically support you and lift you, that becomes part of your support system. You have to have that. And if you're just now, for the first time ever, hearing somebody say this, then good. And if you're just now hearing somebody say this and you finally feel seen and heard, good. I am at the age and the experience in my life where I have zero tolerance for someone in my sphere that pulls it out of me. I will not spend time with those people. And it doesn't matter who they are, it's a no. Our time is finite. We talked about that already. I have a lot I want to do. We've talked about all of us have all sorts of really cool things we want to accomplish. I guard my energetic space. Some of us are incredibly affected by our environment. The space that you were physically in, the home that you're in, the office that you're in, the room that you're in, the town that you're in, the state that you're in, all of it. That's why some people like get to the ocean and they feel like free. That's for sure for me. There's nothing like it. And it's also not all ocean. I want to say because I've been to, I've spent some time in Miami these past couple of years, not for me, right? Hawaii all day long. So that is important. How do I know how I feel? Visceral response, energetic response. I used to live in a house. I lived in a house for nine years and I hated it. It was such a hard house to live in for me. I tried everything I could to make it better. It just was never going to be the house that I could live in and I knew it. And, but we were raising our family and you know how that goes. And so I did everything I could, painted, changed floors, remodeled the upstairs. I did everything I could to try and make this house my house and it was never going to be my house. And it was an unhappy house. There were a lot of things that happened in that house. This was an unhappy house energetically. It was an exhausting house. I was a lot sicker in that house. New house, new energy, amazing. Never be afraid to change up your physical environment. If you have an office and you walk in and you feel dread, you feel heavy, this is not your office. You should not be in here. The town you live in, the place that you are, I want you to start to pay attention to how you feel, viscerally feel, when you are in certain spaces. And I want you to honor it. When I first started learning about life coaching years ago through a program called the Coactive Coach, it was created by Thomas Leonard. There's a really good book, by the way, called Coactive Coaching. It's one of the first books, really. Thomas Leonard is kind of considered the father of coaching. And, but he had this exercise that they taught us that was called the Clean Sweep. And I still love this exercise. And it was, you could probably even Google it. I bet I could Google it. It's called the Clean Sweep and it's Basically a punch list of every room in your house and all the things that could be in your house. And one of the first exercises that they taught coaches to do is to give this clean sweep to a client and say, okay, I want you to walk in the front door of your house with this punch list. And I want you to notice anything in your view when you walk in the house that makes you feel like energetic drain. Does it drain you? So like if I were to walk into my front hallway right now, there's a box that got delivered last week and it's still sitting on the bench in my hallway, right? That is an energetic drain. Sometimes my husband leaves the dog leashes on that bench. It's an energetic drain. All right? Then you go into every room and you stand in the room and you go very slowly through the whole room and you look at everything in the room. You look at all the pieces and anything in the room makes you go, you need to get rid of it. You either need to put it where it belongs or you eliminate it. You do that through every part of your house. You do that through every part of your house, energetic drains. What I think you're going to realize is how much you are energetically tolerating. And it's like why you feel so much better after you clean out your closet, Right? You clean your closet. First thing we always say is, God, I wish I had done that sooner. Why did that take me so long? And then the second thing is like, oh my gosh, I actually love going in my closet now and, oh, I really like the clothes I have now. Like we have this whole new relationship with our stuff, even though maybe you got rid of a couple bags of clothes, right? Why? Because you've eliminated all the energetic drain when you clean out your junk drawer. Ah, right? And I have found that doing that exercise to actually then ushers in money or people that I'm excited about. So you do this process of eliminating all these energetic drains and it creates space for what you really want. A well-resourced woman takes care of and tends to her energy as if it is her body, as if it is her mind. Your energy is vital. We have to take care of ourselves physically, And we have to take care of our environment and our commitments and our thoughts and our feelings so that we have energetic energy, but not depleted and drained energy. And I think so many of us are oblivious to this, that we that's why we get through the day and we're like, right? We sort of hate our lives. We're sort of it's because you are surrounded by drain. A well-resourced woman tends to that. Now, one of the things I did, right, is I hired an assistant. She helps manage my pantry and my silverware drawer and the laundry and the, and how the sheets are folded, right? We talked about this a lot. That energetically creates so much space for me. When I open my silverware drawer and it's all organized, it's not a train wreck. When I open up my pantry and everything's where it's supposed to be, it's not a train wreck. That is heaven. So how you function every day is a gift to yourself when you manage your energy and you manage your space. So these are my requests of you is to have you thought about your health, what needs attending to? Do we have an ache and pain? Have you had a physical? Have you had your teeth checked? Are you taking care of your body? Do you move? And then your energy, who in your life that you see on a regular basis energizes you or depletes you. And what are we going to do about that? We got to solve that. We have to solve for depleting. It's not useful and it's limiting you. What about your surroundings, your environment, and what can we do about that? And all of the pieces in parts, where are we just tolerating energetic drain that you don't need to tolerate anymore? A well-resourced woman attends to this like it matters because it does. When your energy and your health are aligned, I know you know what I mean, you feel unstoppable and you are. So give this some attention. I promise, I promise you it will make a huge difference. I'll talk to you in the next one.