Lori Harder explores how childhood beliefs like "I cannot trust anyone to show up for me" shape adult relationships. People build walls and push others away to protect themselves, but these patterns prevent anyone from actually showing up for them, keeping them stuck in the very dynamic they fear.
The story I start to believe or that I have believed from a little girl is I cannot trust anyone to show up for me. That one belief can dictate your business, can dictate all your romantic relationships. If there's a disagreement or a conflict, my first thought is, like, see, I knew this was gonna happen.
And then a wall goes up, and.
You push him away.
Because it's protection. I went through that exact thing.
Every girl.
Every guy, like, everyone, everything. So I was like, I'm better alone.
And so many times we don't even realize the thoughts that we're believing in our own. I had no idea.
I was just like, I'm independent.
You don't know how to be.
With an independent woman.
Oh, that's what I say, too. I'm just like. I'm just so strong. And honestly, if you were safe for me, then I wouldn't be in my masculine energy. Like, you know, it's like, those are things that I say. Yeah, it's so true. It's so true. And, you know, of course, there's some relationships where that's true, but there's others that. That's your own issue.
Oh, yeah, for sure.
You know, we're not giving opportunities for them to even show up.
