How the Most Successful People Motivate Themselves to Move FASTER

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And business plans for the first three months of annual subscriptions and blinds.com save 50 off when you spend 500 or more. Go to blinds.com and use code Earn at checkout. In America, we have been taught to see pain as bad. We've been taught to medicate it. All you have to do is turn the TV on. Any problem you have, they're gonna say that there is a pill for it. We've been taught to avoid it. We've been taught to out eat it. We've been taught to out drink it. We've been taught to pick up Instagram to distract yourself, to go on TikTok sh. But pain is actually one of your best tools. It's your compass. It points you toward what matters. Hey everyone, welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in. Inspiration. What if I told you that pain will get you further than motivation ever will? What if I said you don't need more inspiration, you need to change your relationship with pain. I want to tell you about a conversation that I just recently had where I was in Arizona. We flew to Arizona on Labor Day, you guys, and did a podcast with Pace Morby. And so instead of cooking out or having a day off, we chose to have have a really big opportunity. And I will tell you a lot of times the big opportunities are not convenient. And we literally flew there, booked a studio and had this incredible two part interview that was about two and a half, three hours in total from start to finish while we were there of this awesome conversation. And one of the things that Pace had mentioned on the podcast was a story about how scientists are working really hard to try to get rats to eat rat poison faster from these rat poison traps that get rid of rats. So I know that right now if you care about animals, this might be a tough story. But let me just explain to you exactly what I mean. And what was learned within this scientific experiment. So for years, in order to control, you know, the rat population or the infestations of rats, they have been putting out these rat traps, and they've been trying to lure them faster to these rat traps to, quote, unquote, solve the problem quicker. And they have been using so many different combinations of every food and motivator that they thought would motivate these rats into this trap. As many things as they possibly could think about. Right? This is literally people's jobs. They've tried every mix of food, different flavors, different fats, different sugars, different salts. Some are rotten, some are not. But nothing really exponentially sped it up. They did find a mix of. It was some sort of rotten cabbage, and I think like a syrup or honey or something like that that kind of sped these rats up. But after that, they started asking a different question. They thought, what if instead of motivating these rats with something that they want, right? With something that they think, think they want and what their body is telling them that they want. But what if we started using pain? What if we started to make these rats be in fear? What if we started using fear and running away from something that they are afraid of? So they took the scent of a cat, and they took the scent of a cat, and they put the scent of the cat behind where the rat was, and they put the cabbage in the syrup in front of them, but they put the scent of the cat behind the rat. And this sped up the rat. I think it was like three times more than anything they were able to do with motivation. Of the food, right. Of the pleasure. And they realized that pain and fear was a much more powerful motivator than pleasure ever was. And I will tell you that I have done over 1400 interviews on my podcast, and what I have learned is that the most successful people in the world were able to pull future pain forward. And we like to think that we're above rats, but, you guys, we're actually not. What moves us isn't pleasure. It's truly avoiding pain. And the most successful people have learned to pull that future pain forward. So instead of waiting until the end of their life to feel regret and not chasing their dreams, they let themselves feel the pain of the now. The pain of, if I don't do this in five years, where will I actually be? And what will I feel like? What will my marriage look like? What will my kids think of me? What circle of friends will I have? Will I still feel so unfulfilled in my friend group and in my life. It's the pain of saying to your kids, you know what? It's okay to play small. It's okay to not go for your dreams. It's okay to struggle with money. This is how it is. This is who we are. It's lying on your deathbed thinking, I never went for it. It's not knowing what kind of pandemic or economy or what AI is going to do and just kind of passively sitting back and not being prepared for anything. You guys, these things are happening. These things could come. And not to scare you, but I kind of want to scare because pain is the thing that can motivate you into getting all of the things that you could ever dream of and becoming the person that you came here to be. Because pain is fuel. Why do you think when you ask a successful person about their past, they probably have some very painful story that they are avoiding? They will work, they will go through the challenges and they will do more work because they know what they're avoiding. And this doesn't mean that you had to have had something massive happen to you in order to wake up. So if you're sitting there and you're thinking, well, shit, I don't have some, you know, crazy thing that happened to me. I haven't had a major money loss, I didn't go through a terrible relationship. I haven't ever been divorced. It doesn't matter. You can actually pull future pain forward. And if you've ever been to a Tony Robbins event, you know that he has this section of his events of every upw. Unleash the power within where you sit and you think of all the pain that you've ever gone through in your entire life. And you think of future pain. You think of what your life's going to be like in five years if you don't do the thing in 10 years, in 15 years and 20 years, you fast forward to your deathbed. You guys, you pull all that pain forward and you bring it into the present. You have the realization that if you don't start taking action right now, today, that is your reality. That is your reality. Because in America, we have been taught to see pain as bad. We've been taught to medicate it. All you have to do is turn the TV on. Any problem you have, they're going to say that there is a pill for it. We've been taught to avoid it. We've been taught to out eat it. We've been taught to out drink it we've been taught to pick up Instagram to distract yourself, to go on TikTok shop. But pain is actually one of your best tools. It's your compass. It points you toward what matters. Pain is trying to tell you what's wrong if you've ever had a pain in your knee. What do we do? Go get the aspirin, Go get the Tylenol. Not, oh, why did this happen? Am I working out wrong? Should I be working out more? Should I be working out less? Should I be doing something different? Pain always has a message for you. Except we've been taught in America and around the world now to numb it. And I was just listening to an Emma Grade podcast where she was on Mel Robbins podcast, and she said that one of the biggest things that has been so distracting to us in life in general is that we have been taught to seek joy. She talks about the rule of thirds. And I have been so guilty in my life of like, I just need to feel happy all the time. And the rule of third says that in life, no matter what, you're going to feel happy for one third of it. You're going to feel me for one third of it, and you're going to feel pain or awful or not good or depressed for one third of it. And if you're going to feel pain no matter what, why not choose the pain that actually leads to something extraordinary? Why not build the things that you want? Why not fail until you get it right? And here's the problem. We're in the consumption trap, right? We're in a consumption trap. And here's the truth. You truly have consumed enough. You've consumed enough inspiration. Podcasts, books, quotes, masterclasses. You don't need more. You need more execution. Consumption without creation equals constipation, you guys. It's like a spiritual constipation. It's a life constipation. You are getting all of this information and you are stuck. Maybe you don't have a plan. Inspiration without execution actually equals self persecution. It's chosen persecution to continue to consume with action. So you have to start taking action. And I would be doing you a massive disservice if I told you that you didn't have to take painful, scary action every damn day of your life. You have to change your relationship with fear and pain, because if you don't, you're never going to go anywhere that you want. Fear and pain is a good thing. It has lessons for you. So I want you to think about this.

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