Lori HarderFounder of glōci | Bestselling Author

Is Your Man Putting Up Walls? #feminineenergy #relationship #personalgrowth

23 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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The speaker (Lori Harder) advises that men are motivated by opportunities to give; beneath complaints are desires. She recommends that women express desires from the heart using positive, feeling-focused language (e.g., “It would make me feel so yummy…could you plan a date?”) rather than complaint-oriented or critical phrasing, because positive framing invites men to rise up and fulfill the request.

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Men fall in love when they give to us. Good reminder, everyone. They want to give to us. Let them. Underneath every complaint is a desire. When we drop into our hearts and actually speak from our desire, then our men want to rise up and make our dreams come true. So instead of, like, why don't you take me out on any dates? We never go on dates anymore. Totally wall. They're done. Why don't you do this? Because what does that make our partner feel like? Not good enough. I'm not pleasing her. She's not happy. I don't feel like I'm doing a good job. I'm not good enough. Whereas when we say, oh, my gosh, it would just make me feel so yummy and it would make me feel so turned on and cherished. If we went to this new spot or if we took the time to connect this week, could you plan a date for us? He'll say, leave it to me. I'll handle it.