Lori HarderFounder of glōci | Bestselling Author

The Biggest Lie We Tell Ourselves

2 Jun 2026 · 1 min

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In this personal‑development monologue, the speaker examines the common belief that external achievements—accolades, relationships, money—provide safety. She argues that this belief is a lie that traps people on a hamster‑wheel of comparison, leading to misalignment between the nervous system and the soul. She explains that anxiety is not merely a problem but a purposeful signal that can guide us when we learn to work with our nervous system. When we chase external validation, we become dysregulated, staying out of alignment until we return to a state of soul‑alignment, which restores regulation and authentic safety.

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When I think of surrender and when I think of working with my nervous system, I'm like, oh gosh, it's almost like I feel like that anxiety has purpose to it of needing it in your life in order to accomplish goals or stay safe. I used to believe this and a lot of people believe this. Accolades equals safety. And that's the lie. And a lot of people are caught on this hamster wheel. Oh, I want a relationship like them or I want money like them. I want success like them. And we're comparing and we're trying to achieve things outside of us. That causes misalignment. That causes dysregulation. Disregulation. When we're out of alignment, we stay dysregulated until we come back into alignment with our soul.