Lori HarderFounder of glōci | Bestselling Author

The Hidden Cost of Staying Where You Are

22 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief dialogue, Speaker A raises the dilemma faced by people who have built lives laden with massive obligations that loved ones depend on, and who suddenly realize they cannot continue on that path without causing disruption. Speaker B counters by highlighting a common miscalculation: most people assess the cost of leaving but ignore the cost of staying. He outlines the hidden costs of staying—deteriorating health, stalled success, loss of freedom, and diminished joy—and declares that for him those costs are too high, urging personal responsibility and the willingness to make hard choices despite potential fallout.

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What questions should someone start asking themselves around the realization that maybe they have built this life that a lot of people that they love rely on them? These massive obligations that all of a sudden you wake up in the middle and go, I know I can't continue on in that way. I'm gonna have to blow things up. People are not gonna like it, and it's probably gonna be really hard for a while.
What would it cost me if I didn't go? And that's the calculation people are not making. They're usually calculating what will it cost me to go, but they're not calculating the cost of not going. The cost of not going is your health, your success, your freedom, and your joy. And for me, that's too big a price. You do you.