Lori Harder introduces the Resentment Inventory, a tool to protect relationships. Before saying yes to anything, ask two questions: Do I have the bandwidth without becoming resentful? Do I actually want to do it? Hidden resentment builds when you say yes because others want you to, not because you do.
do a resentment inventory. Before you say yes to anything, you're gonna ask these two questions. One, do I have the bandwidth to do this without becoming resentful? That's question number one. Question number two, do I even effin' want to do it? Ooh, that's good. Because as HFCs, so much of the time, if someone else wants us to, it makes us feel like either we should, or it makes us kind of want to because they want us to. And that's okay. But we really have to ask ourselves those two pertinent questions before we agree, because the thing is, it is bad for our relationships if we stay in this state of resentment.
