Lori Harder didn't form close friendships with women until her thirties because she believed female friendships were inherently negative. Once she recognized this story was blocking her from being vulnerable, she rewrote it and built authentic relationships.
I made all my friends more in my, like, early 30s, like all of my really good girlfriends. And so many people look at me and they're like, oh, I'm so jealous of your girlfriends. I'm like, I just got these, like, not that long ago. But I had to change my story. I had such a painful negative story around female friendships. And so I carried that into every single encounter with a woman. And so I just carried the story over and over until one day I had to learn I have to view this in a different way in order to even be open to anybody because all I would do is put that story on every single person, whether they were amazing, they wanted to be friends, they could have been my best friends, but I just, I couldn't let that guard down.
