A 12-year marriage with Brian taught one person that expecting a spouse to be your best friend, confidant, and adventure partner all at once creates strain. Brian prefers golfing in Florida while his partner craves edges-of-the-earth travel. The fix: stop asking one person to be everything.
Being married is not enough. It sure ain't. He can't be everything for me. And I tried to make him be everything for me in the beginning. And let me just tell you, it, it did not go well. Like, that's when our relationship was the worst, is when I wanted him to be my best friend, my confidant, my cheerleader, my, just all of these things that, that's way too much pressure for one person. I feel like I'm looking at a mirror as you're saying all this. I've been with Brian for 12.
Mm-hmm. And those first few years were the hardest. Mm-hmm. Brian, believe it or not, he's not much of a world traveler. He likes to go to Florida to golf, but he's not going to go to the Amazon and jungle with me. And you feel called to that. 100%.
You're just like, bring me to the edges of the earth.
Bring me to— and I've been there. I've gone with my best friend. So great. That's my partner. We've traveled to 15 countries together. And Brian, we've created a lot of safety in our marriage where he lets me fly and values my best friend Megan for being that person for me.
