Jessica Zweig and Lori Harder discuss why expecting your spouse to meet every need damages relationships. Zweig has been with Brian for 12 years and travels with her best friend instead when Ryan wants golf in Florida and she wants adventure elsewhere.
Being married is not enough.
It sure ain't.
He can't be everything for me, and I tried to make him be everything for me in the beginning, and let me just tell you, it did not go well. Like, that's when our relationship was the worst, is when I wanted him to be my best friend, my confidant, my cheerleader, my. Just all of these things that. That's way too much pressure for one person.
I feel like I'm looking at a mirror saying all this. I've been with Brian for 12, and.
Those first few.
Years were the hardest. Ryan, believe it or not, he's not much of a world traveler. He likes to go to, like, Florida to golf, but he's not gonna, like, go to the Amazon and jungle with me.
And you feel called to. You're just like, bring me to the edges of the earth.
Bring me to. I. And I've been there. I've gone with my best friend. Mm.
Like, so great.
That's my partner. We've traveled to 15 countries together. And Brian, we've created a lot of safety in our marriage where he lets me fly and values my best friend Megan for being that person for me.
