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How to Build Real Confidence (Even When You’re Scared)

28 Mar 2026 · 1 min

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In this excerpt, the speaker shares practical confidence‑building tactics drawn from a friend’s Substack advice. He emphasizes the power of regularly reminding oneself of past successes—no matter how small—by mentally recalling achievements like completing years of schooling or surviving challenging environments (e.g., living in Nigeria). He suggests jotting down these wins to reinforce self‑belief. The core actionable mindset presented is “do it afraid,” encouraging people to act despite fear, a strategy the speaker notes has helped him over time.

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I have a friend that writes a Substack. He calls it The In Pursuit of Better. And in one of his editions, he talked about always trying to remind yourself of those good things. Just try to remind yourself of the wins, even if they are little, or jot them down. I don't jot them down, but that sort of hits hard because if you remind yourself like, oh, you've done this before. Oh, you went to school for 4 years, 5 years. And so, I mean, you survived Nigeria to this point. What is there that you can't? But yeah, just reminding yourself of those small wins and then doing it afraid, I think That last one, the Netafeed, is what has worked for me over time. Yeah.