Neil T. AndersonFreedom in Christ Ministries · Pastor

It was not real life. It was awesome.

14 Feb 2026 · 1 min

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A man married before senior year while working as an RA, a job that gave him 12 hours of work weekly, free meals, and easy classes. He adopted a son named Alan and lived what felt like an idealized version of college life, though he struggled with setting boundaries as a people-pleaser.

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And I actually got married prior to our senior year in college. And that was awesome. I was an RA in the on campus satellite housing and so had a pretty easy job of just having to be present in those in that housing area 12 hours a week and had, you know, senior classes. We had a meal plan. I mean, it was not real life. It was awesome. It was awesome. It was so much better than real life. That's right. I think it's. Deuteronomy 24. 5 says that a newly married man is not to be sent off to war for his first year so that he can stay home and bring joy to the wife he's married. I'm like, I love that verse. I mean, it was just. It was an amazing first year of just setting a pace. Yeah, yeah. Now, we did have a kid. His name was Alan. He was a sophomore. Adopted, Right. He would come over. He would come over up to three times a day, as early as 7am and as late as like 9 or 10pm and I was, I was still that nice guy, people pleaser. So I didn't know how to draw boundaries. So that was a learning experience for us.