Adventurous Sex: Hot New Things to Try Tonight

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Absolutely.

So we wear them all the time. And you've seen me, Anderson, the necklace with the. Did you Take one for your wife. I wanted you to give her one for Christmas, but I can't remember.

No, I didn't.

You were, like, the only one. Like, Drew gave one to his wife and aunt.

We'll be part of the club. Yeah.

You're like, you're not in the club right now.

Wow. I don't know why she's, like, actually angry.

You're on the outside looking in, whatever.

Do you have one that's got, like, a coil so you can actually use it while it's around your neck? Like it. And then it springs.

Yeah. You can't. No, but take it off your neck. Take it off. It comes off. It's like a beautiful hanging necklace. It looks like a pen. I wear it all the time because it's actually one of my favorite layering pieces. So I love it. It's a vibrator and orgasm. It's jewelry and orgasms, which is sort of the most perfect thing. So I actually got a funny email. One of my longtime listeners who I adore, Greg. Greg Ostrovich. You know Greg. He emails us all the time. I read all your emails, Greg. He emailed me the other day. He said, I'm at the Embassy Suites today because my wife does these scrapbook weekends where they stay here and crop all weekend. He's a good husband. My kids and I got in the elevator with four women who I think were inebriated. One was wearing a vesper. I asked if her necklace was a vesper and she said yes. My kids asked what that meant and I just said, it's a type of necklace. I don't know if the woman was embarrassed. Funny story. Had to share. And I feel like they keep popping up everywhere.

No, actually, really funny story.

Kimber, my other assistant. My other wonder assistant. Yeah.

And I went to some concert or something and ended up at a 24 hour diner in West Hollywood afterward. And we're next to this table and there's all this commotion going on. There's these drunk people and one of the girls, I can hear her yelling, no, you guys, I can use my sex toy at the table. And I look over and she is waving around her crave vesper and using it on the gay guys at the table next to her to show them the vibrations. And I look over at Kimber, who's of course wearing her vesper because she wears it everywhere. And I was like, kimber. And we look over and we're like, hey, you guys have the same necklace. So long story short, it's everywhere.

It's everywhere.

It's at the table next to you. At a gay restaurant.

At gay restaurant. The gays love it. The thing is, it's always a conversation based thing.

Where did the orgy take place after that?

Yeah, it didn't, but I mean, we'll talk later.

It was a.

There was some husband swapping.

Really? With you guys?

No, no, no. We were watching all these like gay couples kind of like be weird and scandalous together. And we were like, well, this is fun. I was like, I gotta go. And Kimber's like, I could stay here forever. I was like, no, I'm tired.

That's the next story. But the thing is, is that the reason why we're talking about them is because we just got a call. Cause I love them. They're San Francisco company, they have a whole new deal going on. They've cooked up another toy that is literally gonna blow your mind. Because everything they make, they don't just make the vesper, they make cool things. And this one is gonna be like, I saw it and I've never seen anything like it. I can't even tell you anything about it. But if you wanna be one of the first people to get an inside look at their newest first of its kind vibrator, there's one way you can do it. You go to hi.lovecrave.cominsider sexwithemily. Okay, that's really long. So all you have to do is go to Instagram sex with Emily and. And it'll be in my bio, the link.

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Yeah, absolutely. It looks really good, guys.

Looks so good. Okay.

Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes they call them in a bygone day. Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cuz My man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding?

Me. Oh my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play play with.

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Oh, I thank you very much.

Thank you very much.

So, Anderson, what's going on? What do you got?

I am April 14th, which is this Tuesday, I'm going to be in Las Vegas and I'm co hosting the People's Podcast Awards in Vegas with Chris Jericho. It was gonna be with Dennis Miller, I announced, but now it was gonna be with Jericho.

It was Drew as well. I thought it was.

Yeah, Drew was gonna do it too. And now it's Chris Jericho. Do you know him? Wesler?

Yeah, he's a. He's a wrestler.

Yeah, yeah, he's like a fan.

Last week I told you on this, on this very program that he's a nice guy.

Oh, so we already talked about this. Jericho. Yeah. Good. Well, I've learned a lot more about him. I had a conference call with him. I have not met him. I will not meet him. I fly in, I get there at 4:30, the show starts at 6.

And then we practice his move in the ring. His patented move is he. He beats off and then throws it like Spider Man's his victims. He throws semen in his face.

That's amazing. That's such a.

But I listened to his podcast today and just to get a Sense. And he talks, first of all, faster than I do and more than I do. So it'll be an interesting. It'll be an interesting.

There'll be fast awards.

Yeah, the awards will be over. It's like 50 awards. It'll be over 22 minutes. And it'll be competitive talking all night. It'll be a good time. But you guys can also stream it, I think, if you go to podcastawards.com and you know what's so amazing, Anderson? And what's touching Madison? What up is that? So it was a big call. It was the people from these podcast awards, like the. What's it called at the New Media Expo. And I was there 10 years ago, the very first one, the first podcasting conference. And the. The owner remembered me on the conference call. He goes, you were here. There was like 10 of us, you know.

Yeah, I was gonna say it was like five, six, literally.

And he's like, there was an award show. I mean, maybe there was like 200, but it was really small. Now it's like thousands of people.

The presenters are giving awards to themselves.

Right, Exactly. I mean, I didn't even know people were like. But it was a small little community. And now we're all coming together again because podcasting has come so far.

How do you get nominated for these awards? Because I'm on two very successful podcasts.

I'm a lot.

And I'm not. The only way that I'm hearing about these goddamn podcast awards is from you.

I don't. You know, I got nominated, but then you had to do People's Choice thing, and I had to. I gave. I sent out the link to a bunch of people to help. I don't know if I. I might have to be up there and read my. Oh, but here's the thing. Loveline's nominated in the same category.

Feels like it's fixed. I feel like there's grease. The palms being greased.

There's like, 20 categories because there's so many great podcasts now. But it's also Loveline and Sex with Emily in mature adult categories. So, you know, it's a win, win, win. Unless someone else wins. And then I'd be pissed. I wouldn't even give them their award. I'd be like, dude, so that'd be fun. I'm excited about that. And also, one more thing is on.

May 12, hey, it's the day after my birthday. Let's all celebrate.

Let's just tell. What are we gonna celebrate? We've never gotten drunk together. And I just feel like it's a.

Rite of passage to get drunk with me.

Yeah.

Yeah, it is.

Why haven't we been drunk and had a good time, whereas you're like, oh, stressed or. I'm stressed.

No, no, I'm drunk most of the time, so it's pretty easy.

Here.

No, as soon as I'm out of here. Yeah.

I'm driving the car on the way home.

I.

You know, you wait till you get home.

I like. Yeah.

Hence why these things are on.

These things are on these microphones.

Yeah. Okay. You don't get drunk.

I do not drink and drive.

Of course you don't drink and drive. Okay, so. And on May 12, Lynette Carolla, who's awesome, she's a podcast, for crying out loud.

Husband.

Yeah. Her husband's Adam Carolla. We are doing a live podcast. It's her podcast. I'm going to be the guest. It's at 8pm Ringhorn Flats, wherever that is. But more info, it's in Hollywood.

It'll be live.

It's a live show.

You, A live show?

Yeah.

Dickhorn Flats.

Dickhorn Flats. We changed the name for the show. Ringhorn Flats. No, it's her show, for crying out loud. And I'm the guest.

Right? Ringhorn Flats. Yeah, I might be into that.

I came to both of your birthday party.

It's my fucking birthday, man.

Dude, this will be fun. It's the day after your birthday.

That's a Tuesday, right?

I don't know. Yeah.

I don't know anything.

I'll bring you whiskey.

Yeah. Yes. Is it time for me to bring you a new bottle?

Yeah, it is.

Really?

It's about that too.

Okay. I try to, like, remember. Is it whiskey? Okay. So today's show is gonna be. It's really important. I feel very, very strongly about the show. I'm gonna give you a little sex in the news first. But I just wanna say that, you know, I have been trying to change a lot. I've been going through a lot lately. Like, in a really good way, because.

Like, you seem very clear.

I do?

Yeah.

Oh, that's cool.

Well, you did last week.

Oh. And this week, not so much. Well, because I couldn't, you know, get the lights off in my rental car.

She comes in, she's like, I need a man's help. How do you turn off lights in a car?

No, she said, I need help. I need a man. And I was like, those are two.

I walked in, you. I'm sorry to interrupt your Pac man game, but I was Like I need a man.

I was playing Galaga.

Dude, I love Galaga. Can we play I kick your ass.

Not to be whatever but hell out of you?

No, no, I had it in my house growing up.

Did you really?

So listen, so what I'm thinking, my.

Uncle owned like an actual cabinet.

Let me tell you something.

You ever banged the joystick?

Sorry, no, but it's not a bad idea. I didn't know to bang til I was like 20. I didn't know to rub against anything in orgasm. Don't get me started. So my uncle, I'm gonna get back to this what the show's about. But this was kind of major as a kid to have an uncle who owned pinball parlors. So we need extra ones. We had four pinball machines. Listen to this. In the 80s, I had full size Pac Man. Full size Galaga or Galaxian.

No wonder you didn't discover sex. Guys were probably coming over.

Oh yeah.

And then they're like, yeah, sit over there. I'm gonna go play these games.

Level 22 Pac Man.

You don't need to put quarters in.

It's the ground spray. I had a pretty good. That was, that was the only good part of my childhood. So I've been thinking though lately, because I, you know, I've been doing a lot of just, you know, I went to with my family for two weeks. It was a spiritual trip. I went to Tony Robbins seminar. If anyone knows about Tony Robbins, love him or hate him, whatever. You're however you find trying to make change in your life. I've been trying some things and it's hard. I try to meditate. You know, we talked about this just when we came in because Anderson actually looks amazing. He's lost how many pounds?

5.

Do you not talk about this either?

I don't know.

He's lost a lot of weight.

I would go up and down, up and down.

I'm down. He's very disciplined and he's very healthy. He's got the Fitbit, the whole thing. And I was just thinking about. Change is hard and like I've been trying every day to just little things like meditate twice a day. I try to write every day.

Yeah, I'm afraid of meditation because I'm afraid I'm gonna fall asleep.

Well, you might be.

I'm always worried about being tired. You know what I mean? So the meditation thing seems like I'm gonna, it's gonna make me sleepy.

Do you know that meditation actually gives you energy? And so the reason why the kind I do. I do it twice a day for 20 minutes the first time I wake up in the morning and then I do it like two or three is because it actually gives you energy.

Okay.

So it's been great for me and I've been on and off for years, but this is the most consistent I've been. But I just think it's just every day just little changes, Right. You do one thing. Like some days I don't do it. I don't beat myself up, but I'm trying to change and just different things. And so I think people listen to the show a lot. It's like this whole self help thing. A lot of times you just, you know, you're listening, you're like, yeah, I'm giving good advice. I'm going to try that. And then there's like this gap. They're like, I hear what you're saying about tying my wife up, but like, I don't really know that that would be art, you know, So I thought, you know, let's really try to help people. Tonight I want to give you tips that you can actually use now that you can't use other ones. But that'll be like, kind of like, oh, I get this. Like, I could go home and try this. 1, 2, 3. We're going to read a lot of tips tonight to kind of just make it different, be more adventurous, do something different. Because let's be honest, with sex, we all know the pattern.

Amazing at the beginning, what it is about you. But I think that they're pretty decent ideas. And I seem to always get these fresh new ideas when I'm doing a show with you. Yeah. And I just thought of something that you could maybe do that would be good, is I could have a series of shows. It could be standalone shows. They'd be Sex with Emily shows, but they could standalone. And they would be geared towards a guy, like, who has a wife who he wants to do certain things with but he's not sure how to broach it. And there'd be like a code like you, you listen to the show with her, you just pop it on like, you know, casually. And you would gear the show towards talking about that and it'll bring them together or vice versa if a woman wants the exercises. But it would be almost like a trick, like, you know, like, well, a.

Lot of couples listen to my show together because they always email me and say, oh, we listen together. Because I think it's, I'm sort of the third party, like Emily says. So we should probably, you know, but I.

But if they're not open to that, maybe, like, have, like, you know, a show in the tit would be, like, giraffe licking or something. Something strange, like a code. A code, right.

Like, they think they're watching the Wildlife Channel.

And you tell the guys to listen to this one with your girlfriend or. And if you want to, like, get into anal play or tying her up or something, because I really talk a lot about that on that program, and it might get her. Yeah, right.

That's good. Yeah. And I could talk about, like, what the fear she might be having around it. Kind of debunk those. Yeah, I like that.

Especially the ladies, I think when they hear another, like, a normal, sane, smart woman, especially, you know, somebody like you, powerful and, you know, a strong woman, strong voice, talking about something, they can break it down.

I like it. We'll do that. Let's do a whole series. I'll come in next week. We'll do, like, 50 of them.

Okay, cool.

But at the beginning of the relationship, we know it's like you have almost like, 100%, like, if there was money involved, back guarantee that you will have great sex the first six to 12 months of a relationship. And then, you know, you might even say, like, oh, this is the best sex of my life. And then eventually, you know, you're having sex all the time at the beginning like rabbits. And then there's always that night. Madison, do you have this in relationship where you just. You watch the movie, you know, because you always watch a movie and you never finish the beginning. Like, you start dating, and one night you just finish the movie and you're like, yeah, it's okay. We still like each other. We have sex, but tonight we watch the movie.

What's. What's really funny is, like, I. I still go to that all the time. Like that guy who made the spreadsheet of all of his wife's excuses, and one of them, my favorite one, was like, I want to watch an episode of. I want to finish watching the episode of Friends. And everyone's like, it's a rerun. How dare you? And it's like, I'm sorry. Sometimes I would really rather just watch a show without being pawed at. Like, I just want to watch my show.

I know.

And it doesn't mean that I don't find you attractive. It doesn't mean I don't want to have sex with you. It just means, like, tonight maybe I just want to watch a show and not be treated like a piece of Meat.

Exactly.

And yes, we experienced that maybe about like seven months into actually being in a relationship.

Right?

That's about being, like one on one.

Right? That's about. Right. That's about the time limit. You're like, okay, now we got to negotiate because at the beginning, like I said, you always want to have sex. Then it. You realize some people, someone wants it more, someone wants it less. It can even switch at certain times. But no matter what, even if you don't feel like having. And that's fine, of course, for you to say, not tonight, honey. I'm watching, you know, Rachel's new haircut on Friends. And I totally got it. I had her haircut, by the way. The Rachel.

Rachel's haircut. You had that?

I had the Rachel.

I could see that.

I wanted the Rachel, like, age five. Oh, my God, do that to me.

I had the Rachel. It wasn't cute. And then I had it again by mistake a few years ago. I was like, what did I tell you? To cut the Rachel. It was terrible haircut. But so I was just thinking that. Yeah, you know, right. And then. But you gotta, of course, like, compromise. Cause if you said no every time, that would be a problem. But here are just some little things, you know, that we're gonna get into that you can do to spice it up. We're give you, like, things that you can, like, tangibles. And I like to hear that Anderson's actually is learning a lot from the show.

I do.

But sometimes I think I just want to make it easy. I don't want to be like, oh, got it, got it, got it. Bought a red room. Like, you know, red room of pain. I know what I just said.

Red room of pain.

It's a Fifty Shades reference. They think they got about that stuff. So we're gonna get back to that.

I didn't get to the end of.

Did you even go?

No.

Okay.

I had a girlfriend in high school. I remember she's a real pain in the ass. And she liked to watch cartoons after school. And when you're in high school and you got a girlfriend who lets you, you know, do things to her, it's pretty exciting.

Yeah.

And I wanted to do things to her. And she's like, I wanna. I wanna watch the show. And I'm like, okay, can you just watch the show and I'll do things to you?

Right?

And I remember she was just sitting there, like, watching this car. It was so creepy. She was watching a cartoon on the couch, and I was just having sex with her.

Seriously.

She was like. She almost like her arm underneath her head. Just kind of like relaxing, watching tv.

Just what you're pounding away. You don't even care when you're like 17, right?

Yeah, I was like 16. She was like 15. 16.

You knew Cara. You're like, it's an orifice. It's a hole. I'm in this. I don't need anything.

I felt very shameful afterwards, though.

This is creepy. I've actually.

And then we watched he Man.

You did.

I've had this experience recently where I was like, you can have sex with me. Like, I'm going to be doing this.

Yeah, Like, I'm just finished.

Were you like a crossword puzzle or something?

No, I was watching. I think maybe they just put CSI Las Vegas on Hulu Plus.

Oh, okay. Got it. She won't be having sex for a month. Yeah, that's strange. I would rather just say no. But you know. You know what? EO and I do that, to be honest, is the morning sex. When you wake over with the dick in your back and you're like, okay, I get it. Like, you wanna have sex. I'm tired. If you just do it from behind, I'm fine. Like, I don't. Now that I hate it. I'm probably not gonna have an orgasm in the morning. Cause I'm tired. But, yeah, you have a boner already. Let's get that. Do it. I'm fine. And I lay there. But it's not like I'm sitting there reading or like, texting. Although I have been known to take notes.

Yeah, I was gonna say, you check your emails.

Send us a check in my email.

That's when you should send out your mass email.

What newsletter?

Sex. Sex with Emily's actually happening right now, right this moment. Write that down and make some typos.

I mean, you have no idea. I'm like, that could be happening. Yeah, you have no idea.

See, that's happened before. I know. I've never had sex during the show. Okay, a little bit of sex in the news because we found some good ones this week.

A Bluetooth vibrating implant could be the next big thing in sex toys. You ready for this? We've heard of Bluetooth vibrators, right? Like the. The. Oh, I got it. The newer. I actually plugged it in and charged it.

The new is the back door ones. The dua.

Oh, the dua?

Is it really called a dua?

There's a DUA and a Newer. And the newer is for couples. It's remote control and Bluetooth. What? The do is for couples?

Yeah, the do is for couples. The new is for back door.

Okay. They're really cool. It's a new thing. It has a terrifying.

Why the terrorists are going to hack our wives and girlfriends.

No, they'll be wearing the vibrator.

Yeah, no, it's like we're gonna lose the entire country because our wives later.

It's actually one of the stars. I'm gonna explain to you about the drivers. We're gonna leave. No, they have to be wearing the vibrator.

At the time I thought it was like implanted.

Oh, this is.

Oh, this part. Okay, here I go.

ISIS is hitting me again.

No, you're so right. We could totally like get all of the waves of all the. All the pattern. Wait, what is it like, what would it be? All the frequencies of all of them. And make every woman orgasm in America.

At the same time.

Dude, listen to this. Though horny women can rejoice everywhere because sex toy implants are going to be a thing. Imagine the ability to have your clitoris stimulated anywhere you go. Forever. Jezebel reports Bluetooth controlled vibrating clitoral implants will become a huge deal. Fun Factory. And I love Fun Factory. They make. Actually I've been playing with their Amarino, which is a great G spot vibrator. It's a M o R I n o. It's awesome. Anyway, they make amazing toys. Love them. They are introducing the, the, the medical grade silicone imp plant called Orgasmia. Imagine that. I wonder how many like naming, you know, meanings they had as a device that can be used on its own for hands free orgasms. So just to go back to earlier, what I was saying is Bluetooth, now you can control someone's vibrator from your Bluetooth. This is like in your vagina, in your clitoris. So Orgasmia gives women control over their arousal and pleasure. The motor nestles against the pelvis and users report that they stop noticing it after only three to four days of use. They're just in excruciating pain at first. Inspired by the design of thermal electric watches, the device automatically recharges using body heat. As with all Fun Factory products, it's encased in medical grade silicone. It's in case of medical grade silicone. While the implant can be synced to respond to remote commands from a number of electronic devices, including many smartphones.

So. And along with this thing that's implanted in you, they're also offering discreet remote controls designed to look like rings, watches, necklaces, more so you could like control it through like your Fitbit watch.

So every time. Now, once this goes down, every time someone fiddles with an earring or something, I'm gonna think, are they turning themselves on right now? Literally.

But here's the thing. It's only being done by a Beverly Hills plastic surgeon. Not cheap. 6,500 plus the device. But it lasts a long time. A 20 year warranty for the Motor and Fun factory will cover half the cost upgrades. Okay, this just concerns me from a medical perspective. I mean, think about like IUDs. I mean, every night we get a call from someone on Loveline saying, yeah.

I put them on top of the.

Fridge so I don't forget what.

I have some lost and found stuff going on.

Yeah. When you put them back on top of the fridge. Thanks, man.

That's really smart. You leave them there so you know you got them.

But then. Goddamn janitors.

Yeah, goddamn janitors. At least he's doing his job.

Sorry.

Okay, so think about the iud, right? Have you ever had you.

I have an IUD right now. My body rejected it for like the first three months. It was like.

It's painful. But an IUD is an implant that you put in. It gives you birth control for.

Yes. Three to five years, depending on the one.

So it's a commitment. So. But why, like, first of all, if I had a thing in me that it was resting on my clitoris with a toy, I wouldn't go to work. I would just sit on my orgasms all day. I mean, this doesn't sound. I mean, it doesn't say, is it for women? Now if this was for women who are pre orgasmic or couldn't experience pleasure.

And joy, but for people who have money.

Yeah.

Who want to spend it on weird shit.

I kind of want to do it just to try it, but I really don't know. I'm afraid of the pain. I got to talk to Drew about it. I think it sounds good, right?

It sounds really dangerous.

So dangerous.

I mean, getting the iud, it put in really bad. That doesn't even have a motor on it or any type of.

The best mood all the time watch makers.

No, no, no. It's made by amazing sex toy line. If you go to good vibes.com code Emily, you get discounted. All these toys now.

But here's the problem. Certain waves, certain things are going to trigger it by mistake.

Brand new.

You're like, you know, checking out at the supermarket and all of a sudden it starts humming. You're going to be in trouble?

Yeah. In tsa, is it really trouble?

Like, she scans your bananas?

Yeah. What happens at tsa? Yeah.

I honestly, I wouldn't trust my boyfriend to have, like, a control to my pleasure all the time. It'd be really mean.

And then if you break up with someone, code.

We'd be like, at dinner with my mom, and he'd be like, but see.

That'S the fun part. That's what I like, the vibrating. So this is like.

Because they already got the underwear.

That's what I'm talking about. I've got the vibrating panties and that. You put the thing in, and I've done that. Boyfriend. We went to a party, and he had the remote, and it's kind of hot. That's what I'm saying. You guys, you're going out with your partner. You've been together a long time at that. That night, she's wearing the panties. You've got the little remote control in your pocket, and every once in a while, you know, you're standing around talking to your boring friends that you see all the time, and you turn on the vibrator, and then you go have sex in the bathroom or on the way home. It's hot. But this. I don't. I'm not implanting it anytime soon. Just saying. Okay. Sexting stats show just how much Americans get freaky with phones as smartphones have now become the norm. Sexting is more happening all over the damn place. So who's doing it? How often are they doing it? And just what the hell are these people sending to each other? Well, now we have the answer to those and many other questions thanks to this brand new infographic.

The nsa.

Thank God for. Exactly. The NSA is gonna let us know they're tracking it. Exactly.

They have an infographic, which, you know are great because you just have to look at pictures. Here's a few more interesting details that you'll learn from it. More than 35% of Americans admit to sexting. 90. Have you sexted with your. Have you sexted, Madison?

Oh, yeah, I was sexting before.

It was cool. But do you still sext in a relationship?

I mean, I usually don't instigate it, but yeah. Like, every once in a while during the day, I'll get, like, a random text message, and you're like, I'm working there.

Yeah.

I'm like, all right, let's just save that spunk for home.

How about you?

I've been with my wife for a very long time.

See, this is why you need to send Her a sexy text.

But before sexting, I used to send polaroids to people in the mail. Or just like hand them a week.

Later after the date, like it was a pigeon. That's cute.

Slip them into their hand when you're like, like, bye. It was good seeing you. You just took them a little Polaroid of your penis.

Was it your penis?

Actually, no. I did take pictures and have them developed by a place once. That's not smart. Back in the day, that's what we had to do, kids.

We did.

They can actually take them. Like, they can confiscate nudies. They process. Like, they're allowed to do something.

Right, but now that's why you use Polaroid.

We'll digress a little bit here. But I had a friend who actually worked at one of these places. And the first. Her first day working at the place, they said, all right, here's the number one thing. If you get any nudies, you make doubles. And then you put them in this book back here. And they had a massive book.

Oh, just for fun. Like at Rite Aid, they double them.

Yeah, they make duplicates for fun and then keep it legal in corporate America.

I love it. I think you want to get a job at Walgreens. Okay. 95% said sexual thoughts or ideas, 38% send sexy selfies, 36% explicit images, 32% said they started sexting between ages of 19 and 29. And 56 though percent say they who have done it admit that sex has improved, sexting has improved their relationships. And those who are dating are more likely to sexed than those in a committed relationship. And I think you people in your committed relationships here probably need to sex more than others. And what I'm saying is not every day, but like I always say, sex or foreplay starts after the last orgasm. So you can say, babe, last night it was so hot. Or you looked so great this morning. And I know you're like, mary, whatever, but women always want to hear that you're thinking about it. Yeah.

Define sexting, because I think I probably do it every day.

I think you're awesome. Like, last night sex was really great. Or you looked really beautiful. This I can't wait to see this weekend.

I know I can have sex because my wife and my mom are right next to each other in my phone. And twice I sent something very inappropriate to my mom. So I.

That's awesome. Wait, I think there actually is a statistic about how many people have accidentally missed something. Yeah, it's called, like, where is it? Oh, Oops. Sexting accidents.

Oh, that's funny.

16% of men have mistakenly sent a sext to a family member.

The last one I sent to my mom. This is a true story. It was a joke. But I just, out of the blue, sent I'll suck your dick for a dollar to my wife, thinking it would make her laugh a little bit. And then my mom said, no, thank you.

That could be worse than. That is hilarious, actually.

Really fast. Before sexting, I have a really funny story. I just. I've never shared it before. I have to share. Oh. I accidentally booty called my dad during a booty call. Like, back when your phone could dial on its own as it on it. I snuck out of the house to have sex with a guy. And while we were having sex, I guess my phone aged. It was, like, in my pocket in a jacket that had got under my. Like, under my butt while we were having sex. And then we drove back to my house.

Oh, no.

And as I'm driving up, I see that my front door is wide open. I can see the silhouette of my dad, who was a huge dude. My dad was, like, a football player. He's like a linebacker. Taking up the whole doorway, looking, like, just scary as hell. And I was like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. I found my phone. And so I pull out my phone. We were probably, like, five minutes from my house where we were having sex. We'd, like, parked in a discreet location.

And so that was good.

Yeah, exactly. And so we're like. We're, like, pulling up. And I was like, oh, I need to find my phone. I need to find out what's going on. So I pick up my phone. It says, call with dad. 13 minutes. And we had definitely been having sex about, like, 10 minutes ago. And so my dad is standing in the doorway holding the phone, just staring.

How old were you?

I was, like, 18, maybe. Like, so I was like. I was, like, legally allowed to have sex, but it was still awful. He had for sure heard me having at least four to five minutes of sex.

Don't get over that. What happened?

It was awful. I made the guy drop me off down the block.

I was like, yeah, he's got to get the fuck out of there.

He dropped me up down the block. I walked up, and he's like, where the hell is this guy? And he starts cussing.

Oh, my God. That's major.

It was awful. It was. But I booty called my dad during a booty call.

That is epic. That actually could be in Anderson's next Movie or something.

That would be too much. If I saw it in a movie, I'd be, come on.

No, I know most dads.

I think the phone. Now, he would have.

Yeah, he would have hung up, right? But he didn't.

I think most dads would.

Maybe he thought I was in danger. He heard five minutes at least. And then he probably heard me being like, all right, we got to get back, because. Right, okay.

So what?

I was like, I gotta go.

What do you think you heard, though?

I mean, he heard that guy climaxing. This is before the orgasm.

Okay, what did that. What was that like?

I have no idea. I don't remember this guy at all. But it was probably like really quiet. And then I was like, all right, give me a cigarette. Cuz I was super classy as an 18 year old and used to smoke.

Right?

That'd be great if your dad was like more pissed about the smoking than he was about the sex. I told you not to smoke.

Why are you smoking cigarettes? That's crazy.

Heart disease.

We never spoke about it again. Like it didn't come up.

So funny. People have all these like, traumatic things with their parents. Like if they walked on me having sex, they walked on me, like giving a blow job. And then they like. We never type, we never spoke. And you know that your dad's like, every time, you know, they get over it. They get over it. So my thing with this is I think that I am not gonna knock any way that you relay to your partner anything sexual that's gonna get you turned on and help your sex life. But I think phone sex, dying art, that was fun because it's not just words. It's like you can hear the voice and you can. It's real time. So sometimes if you're sexting, you're not really masturbating. I mean, sometimes you can, but it's like, how are you gonna masturbate in sex with one hand? The point of phone sex was that you'd both be getting off. Or sometimes you'd just be getting them off and I'd be lying but doing dishes, but pretending I'm getting them off. I'd be like, yeah, babe, what's that noise? I'm like, oh, nothing, Just really wet here, you know, But. But I'm pretty good at phone sex. I can get people off. And I feel like you'd hear it. It's auditory and. But the thing is. So I think it's a D. I mean, did you ever phone sex? No.

Yes.

Did you? Okay. Oh, yeah. Phone Sex. So I guess it's the same principle though. And I think they're both effective. Here's why I like them both is because there's something about being removed from your partner. And the reason why I think couples say it improves their sex life is because you can say those things that you can't say to your partner. Like, I see you right now all tied up with a ball gag in your mouth, roped from the ceiling, for example. And you might not want to say that when you see them, but then she's thinking, that's hot too. Like, that's another way to express your sexual desires. So that's what I never got.

The phone sex thing. Never. I never got. Or I call those 976 numbers.

I never understood it with people I liked.

Yeah, I know, but like the guys, I mean, that was a real market. People would call and it's just. I never understood.

It's a huge market. I used to phone sex operators on the show and they actually taught me how to do it pretty good.

Well, what's it sound like?

Oh, God. You gonna do it with me? Okay, when I come back, Anderson, you have a moment? I gotta give a quick shout out to my peeps, but I really think that you should have phone text with me. All right, but before we do that, I need to tell you about the Fleshlight.

Bringing people together, phone sex wise. You can use that during.

Oh my God, the Fleshlight is so such a great phone sex accoutrement. Because you could say, hey, baby, I want you to grab that flashlight and I want you to wrap it around your cock.

I try not to swear on the show about when I'm doing phone sex. But you said you prefer dick and I keep thinking about that.

I did.

You said you said dick over cock.

Yeah, cock is a little harsh.

Well, because I was phone sexing with this guy or sexting, and he kept saying dick and I was saying cock. And then I've noticed and I'm like, God, does he want me to say dick? And then I was confused.

Did that get in your head?

Yes, your dick got in my head. So anyway, so you can say, hey, babe, what are you doing right now? Get out that Fleshlight I got you. Okay, babe, what are you doing? What are you wearing? Nothing. I'm naked thinking about you. But we know that I'm not. Okay, babe, I want you to take that Fleshlight, I want you to put a little lube on it, and I want you to put it over your hard cock right now and I want you to rub it up and down, up and down. Does it feel good? Does it feel like it's like my mouth? Does it feel like you're actually having it? Having sex?

That's good.

Thank you.

Now, you were allowed to, like, when they taught you, you were allowed to use descriptive stuff because.

Oh, it's supposed to be very descriptive.

My friend owned a bunch of those numbers and since they're out of la, they couldn't use actual terms. They had to use like melons and all these like, you from like food euphemisms. And I, he had me call, like I was a secret shopper. And I would call these poor women and I would try to get them to say filthy things and then I'd.

Have to talk about filthy things. Christian, right?

For a while you weren't allowed to in L. A. Like the ones that were like routed through Vegas and the Philippines was different. It was very bizarre.

Did not know that. Anyways, Fleshlight, okay, so Fleshlight, it simulates the sensations of sex. They have so many kinds of fleshlights. If you love a particular porn star, her vagina just might have been molded into a fleshlight.

Maybe her butt too.

Maybe her butt. Yep, her butt. There's like ones for men too. If you're, you know, gay man, men might like a butt of his favorite porn star. He might like the penis. It is up to you. They make so many different kinds of material. It's all patent and actually NASA created it. It's the coolest material that makes you feel like it's.

They have any idea what it's going to be used for?

No, probably not. They're like, we're doing good here. We're going to the moon. We're going to the moon. We're giving them a really good orgasm. Oops. Hey. It all brings pleasure and important things in the world. So it's body safe and it's discreet and portable. You can use it with your partner. Use it alone. Plus for my Emily listeners, sex with Emmy listeners. Because they love you and I love you. If you go to sex with emily.com, click on the Fleshlight banner. Use code EMILY. You get a flashlight, pick out whatever one you want. Stamina training unit is awesome too. And you get award win, award winning bottle of flesh lube. So check it out. Fleshlight. Well, I guess I just did the phone sex Anderson. So we don't really have to get into that. You've been saved by the bell. But let's get into some adventures that.

So this. We got a Question from a listener. Which is going to tie in. How to keep the fire alive. Hey, Emily. I'm 20 years old. I'm a 20 year old man. I'm 20 or 20 years old actually. I'm not a man.

I need money and he's working hard now.

It's a woman, actually. Whatevs.

The fire is going on.

I'm from Australia and I so appreciate it actually, because I've been asking people and I love, love when you do this. If you give me your name and you don't have to use your real name and your age and where you're from.

Social media. Excuse me, your social.

Social Security number.

Yeah. And your Social Security number and credit card. Cool. And the number on the back. I love your show heaps. And it's totally eradicated much of my fears about sex that I gained from going to a Catholic school. Anyway, I've been with my boyfriend for 4.5 years and we've lived together for nearly two of those. We have a pretty great sex life and have experience experiment with a few things including a massage candle and the Form 2 Jimmy Jane vibrator. Love it. My question is whether you have any tips to keep the awesome sex and attraction going as I am worried that due to our young age and that both of us were virgins when we met that it will be difficult to keep the fire alive as we go forward. Any tips or advice? Cheers. From the southern hemisphere, Rebecca.

Yikes.

So this I know well, Rebecca is spawned this entire show because I'm going to lead into now some ways that not only Rebecca in a longer term relationship, but even if you're in in a relationship for a month or you've just slept with someone, these are things that you could use across the board because desire in life is kind of fickle. Like lust is fickle. Desire changes in a relationship sometimes. Like we were saying, you want it more than your partner. And you know, at the very beginning you have the best sex your life or so you can think. And then the next month or 10 years, you might get bored. It's like same old, same old. And so the deal is think about. We think we were talking about this, right, Madison? Like your favorite meal?

Yes.

What's your favorite meal?

Oh, you were asking me.

Sorry. Besides peanuts.

I do love a good cock sandwich. But no, I'm a vegetarian, so probably my favorite meal would be like a good veggie. Oh, a black bean burger.

Black bean burger. You love them, right? And you'd be like. If I was like, Madison, look what I brought for you tonight.

Are you vegan?

So excited.

A black bean burger.

I'm actually pescatarian.

Oh, you eat French?

No one eats anything in my outfit. They don't eat everything, I guess.

Brie Olsen, she's a porn star and she's vegan, but she swallows a lot of semen, so I think that she's not vegan. You know what I mean?

Yeah, that's.

That's gotta have some dairy in it, right?

Okay, can we go back to semen? And you remind me, I have a really funny story. Okay, so we use. We often use this analogy. Okay, well, first of all, what if I said to you, okay, Madison, but that's. That's what you're gonna eat for the next six years for dinner and lunch.

Probably cry myself.

Right, Exactly. Every once I'd be like, you know what I miss? Cheese puffs.

Yeah.

Or I miss chocolate.

So she needs to get a new boyfriend.

Yeah. No, what I'm saying is when it comes to monogamous sex, it's like having the same meal every day for the rest of your life. So no matter how great sex it is, it can feel like a routine. Long term, short term, all of it. So that's why we're doing the show, to help you with love and romance. And so a lot of times, this is what I was saying earlier is that when you hear me say adventurous or new things in bed, you ought to. If you're me. Or like, a lot of people who are trying to get help, they think that's a lot of work. Or, Emily's gonna make me buy a butt plug. I know.

It goes spelunking and having sex.

Exactly. They're like, eh, I'll listen to it, but I'm not gonna do it. So I'm giving you. This is stuff that you can actually. And I want you to do, like, one of them this week. Can you pledge to me that one of these things. It's like ripping a band aid off. You're like, how do I do this? Just do it. Okay, so. And it's a great way to get started. Trying new things, exploring new desires. I'm getting to it. Dude, how excited you are. Baby steps. So, and here's the other thing. Why I'm breaking it down for you, because, you know, like, when you're in yoga class or your exercise class, Madison, and they're like, you could modify this. They say, like, okay, you could do it on your hands or you could go down your knees. Like, these are all good. These are, like, modifications. So I'm gonna type some things. You could be like, well, I don't want to be. You know, I don't wanna do knife play and have her throwing knives in my face, but it might be nice to have my hair pulled. Okay. So when I say, like, think outside the bedroom.

Oftentimes in a relationship, you have sex in the same place all the time.

Public sex.

Public sex is great. So move outside the norm. Even if it's like. So I'm going to tell you, hotel sex, amazing. Switching up location so much. So great. So first I had a Cosmo Cosmopolitan magazine email me this week, and for a press request, they're like, hey, why is hotel sex so great? I was like, it is my favorite thing in the whole world. Like, I wish I could live in a hotel. Why is it so great? I thought about it. I was like, well, you can be as loud as you want, as messy as you want. It's like your new sheets. Because you know what I mean? Like a new bed and new sheets, it all feels good. It's fresh and it's just. You're looking at new things. You're not looking at your dirty dishes and you're away and it's different. And you can have amazing sex.

It completely gets you out of any rut you might be in.

Everything's new. Totally. Everything's new. But if you're like, we can't afford it. Well, like, maybe you should have sex and in your living room, in your backyard, do it just anywhere different. So this is just. The point is that switching up location is key to just making things different. So, like, having sex on the washing machine during the spin cycle. Ever tried that?

You've done that?

I have done that. It's in my book, actually, too, so I had to try it. And the reason why. It's because when you do something spontaneous and you're like, hey, babe, let's meet me in the kitchen, that increases the lust factor and adrenaline because it's something new and it demonstrates that, you know, you want to have them right there, right now.

And it falls in her court. I mean, she needs to kind of take. She's the one who's worried about it. And chances are the guy will follow whatever she's into.

Right? That's true. Well, I'm actually not answering Rebecca's email specifically because this entire. But that. Thank you for bringing it back to her. But that's. Well, okay, we should go back to this. She's saying that she. Well, she should share this with him, you know. Yeah. It's not in her court. It's in both their courts. Because if it's only in her court, she'll be the one making all the. You know.

But it sounds like she's the one who's up in her head about it.

Yeah. Which is great that she's thinking ahead of time. This happens even though they're both virgins, though, now in their 20s.

Too young. What are you guys doing?

Well, see, I don't want to say that, but they are very young to be together.

Speaking from a guy's point of view.

He'S going to want to sleep with other people.

Yeah. Because he's not going to have anything. This Rolodex to think back to, except for her.

Do you think that's a requirement that every guy needs that?

Absolutely. Got to go out and fill those banks.

He's got to get some strange.

Yeah. Need some strange. Add it to the memory banks.

I just think. I think you're right, you know, that I think that you shouldn't get married before 30.

Back in the 20s, when we died at 40. It was cool.

Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Totally. Getting married at 25, you got a good 15 strong years together. It's awesome.

Yeah. Deadwood days, you know? But not anymore.

Not anymore. Now we're together. You can have multiple, you know, whatever. I just think it's a. I think you don't really know yourself in your 20s. I think 4.5 years. And what happens is you get addicted to these relationships because you really grew up in them. You know each other's families.

Yeah. Any kind of change at that point in your life just seems devastating.

She's like, I can't live without him. But I like that she. Listen, Rebecca, whether you stay with them or not, these are gonna be great tips for. For everyone moving forward in your life. So also get some sexual inspiration. I'm a huge fan of watching porn with your partner. A lot of people watch porn, and it's secret in relationships. A lot of times guys are like, it's my thing. Or a lot of women. I mean, I hear this daily from women. Peers of mine, friends of mine my age, they can't. They're like, why? Why? Why is he watching porn? We're having amazing sex. Does he want me to be blonde with big boobs? Do you have that?

What? Oh, no. It's just funny because my boyfriend is such a horn dog. One time he was, like, at class and I had his laptop and I was gonna torrent something, and so I Looked up Pirate Bay. And I typed in PI and his search history. Pulled down the first thing. He would kill me if I told anybody this.

But we weren't telling you.

It was pink teen pussy. That was, like, the first thing that I saw.

That's what he actually typed that in.

He typed in.

I was like, so specific. I have a picture on my phone. And it was like, I went to type in PI for Pirate Bay. And the first thing that popped up, his computer was like, you mean painting pussy? And I was like, what?

Pirate Bay.

I texted it to him. It's a torrenting online Torrent.

Pirate Bay Torrent to steal things.

Because I don't steal things.

Oh, Em, you gotta. Like this. Cause you say I never give you anything. Here's something.

Oh.

When the wife and I first moved in together, she was doing. It was before I was, like, savvy on the computer and I learned incognito mode. And all this carrying the browser. I mean, there should be a class in high school now for dudes. But before all that, and we were sharing a computer and she actually. She was laughing about it. She said it was quite funny. But I was. Look, I looked up amateur facials. That was just. I was drinking. That was what I was into that. She saw that and her initial thought was, oh, how sweet. He's learning how to, like, do, like, a cheap facial formula.

He got, like, a cucumber formula.

She thought that's what it was for. And then she realized what it was. She was disturbed for a second. Then she started laughing about how ridiculous.

Oh, my God, that's hilarious.

I thought it was so funny because it was so specific. I was like, you really, like, you went right for it. And he was like, it's because I had seen, like, I'd seen, like, a porno that was titled that, so I wanted to rewind it.

Yeah, sure.

Are you sure? That's kind of redundant.

Teens tease or pink.

Nobody wants teens.

Yeah, but I sent him a picture of it. I took a picture of it on my phone and sent it to him. Was like, hey, so your computer. And he was like, oh, my God. He was so worried that I was gonna be freaked out. But I thought it was really funny because I know that guys watch porn. Like, it's just a normal thing.

You're okay with it.

Yeah. And it doesn't bother me. Maybe that's a generational thing. Maybe people, like, a little bit older.

No, it's not a generational.

It's all ages. I hear it from my friends who are in 30s. I hear from friends in their 20s that it's confusing, but it can be a great way to spark a sense of adventure and a big turn on for both of you and get you both revved up. Because it's great to learn about both of your sexual preferences now. For example, Madison, your boyfriend might come home and you might say, you know what, babe? I don't want pink teen pussy tonight. Let's try to find something that works for both of us.

Big black cock.

Yeah. Yeah.

Really scary.

Look at that one. Exactly.

First off, old black cock.

Hey, let's split the difference. I get big black cock. No, but it's like. I mean, I actually did this the other night with this guy that I'm dating. I was like. He was telling me about a porn that he watched. Oh, oh. Because I always talk about the Magic Wand. Oh. Because it's amazing. And the Magic Wand vibrator that we know. And so he's like, oh, I was watching a porn the other day, and I saw the Magic Wand. And I've been. We played with toys and I was like, cool, I want to show it to you. And he showed me. He looks it up. We're on my bed, we grabbed my computer, and we watch it together. And it was super hot. It was one of those kink.com videos where it was like she was all tied up.

And I looked up some of that kink.com stuff.

Yeah, it's good.

It's bizarre.

Yeah, it's awesome.

It opens up with a castle thing. Is that castle building up?

Yeah, I did there. I had a party there once. San Francisco guy, Peter Ackworth, who started it. Amazing.

My hair cutter was telling. She, the girl who cuts my hair, was really into all that stuff.

Oh, yeah, it's pretty amazing. It's mostly hardcore bdsm.

A lot of public weird stuff. Like, they just take a girl to a laundromat and they start banging her. Like, there's, like, people in there washing their clothes, like, taking pictures.

But that's all on set there. It's a really cool place. But the thing is that. What? Oh, no, it's not real. But afterwards, they have the girls on who are like, no, I really enjoyed that. Like, she looks like she's, like, about. Like she's being fixated, but they're all down, and it's consensual. So this was cool because I saw what kind of porn turned him on. And this one worked. Cause it turned me on because I love my magic wand. We watched it Together. And then I plugged in my magic wand and we had sex and like, kind of did what we saw on screen. So you might just want to go to like, Good vibes After Dark has a lot of great porn. Or just go to any. Whatever site you go to. If you guys peruse together for a few minutes, I'm sure you could find something. Maybe she likes lesbian porn, which is common. And watch it together. And it's a great tool because you learn new moves and tricks and it's a fun something different to do.

What if you're like a little uncomfortable with your significant other and you don't really know how to broach it?

I think that if you're uncomfortable with it and porn's never come up.

Yeah.

And I think you should say so. I'm wondering, do you have any. Well, this brings me to another point here, which would be a great. I'm gonna bring you down to another tip here that's gonna answer your question.

Are you sure?

Make a sexy bucket list. I love this because.

Oh, that's good. Yeah.

Communication key, key, key, key to exciting, you know, sex life. And when you share your fantasies and desires with your partner, it increases your intimacy.

Don't lead with threesome because that'll up know.

Don't you guys use some discretion, okay. Like, like your hot best friend coming over for threesome. Not gonna work, Jessica.

Get her.

And use sexual exploration so couples find it daunting. So you can make a game out of it and say, sit down with your partner and you make up sexy bucket lists. So you write down new things you wanna try. So like you each could like write down five and then change, change it. You know, like exchange it. So you can be like, I wish we had rougher sex. Like, I wish we made out more. I wish I could tie you up to the ceiling. I don't know. I keep saying that because I was watching kink.com. i was watching kids.

You could wr little post its or little index cards too. And each index card has its own. And then you could like do them one by one almost like you're playing.

Cards out of a hat. Right? So you could say, I want to watch porn together to see what turns you on.

Right.

That's a great way to do it.

That's a great way to do it.

Thank you, honey. I totally answered. You know, sometimes I don't go back around to the question, but I did.

I thought, we're back to jizz too. But I thought about it right as I was asking you I was. And I came up with another decent thing you could do is, like, you could. It's a little devious, but you could, like, slip. Like, have a Netflix Netflix sleeve, and then slip in like, a porn and be like, hey, let's watch the movie we got from Netflix today, honey. And you pop it in and you go, oh, I didn't. This is the wrong disc. But then it's on.

This should never believe you honestly, just.

Pick blue as the warmest color. That movie. It's, like, filled with lesbian sex. Yeah, just, like, put that on and be, like, brutal. Oh, man. Like, how did this happen? What? Well, what do you think about.

That's true. Right? Exactly. And that's a great point, because some women might not be ready for porn. So this is, like. This is how we modify. This is how we modify. Look up, like, the. The sexiest love scene movies like Eatu Mama Tambien.

Nine and a Half Weeks. You could start there.

Wild Orchid.

And then move into hardcore porn. No, I mean, you know, See what. It's a sexy bucket list. Great way to do it.

Me and my boyfriend watch Hollow man together, and we found out that he's like both of us. When we were younger, we saw Hollow man and thought it was really hot. The whole thing of him being invisible.

The naked raper.

I mean, her blouse and everything. So that was, like our code word. Like, we'd be hanging out with friends, and he'd be like, do you want to go watch Hollow Man? I'd be like, yeah, this is like when we first started hooking up. And we'd be like, yeah, let's go watch Hollow Man. And that was like our code word for, like, we're gonna go hook up.

Yeah. That's awesome.

Hollow Man.

Hollow Man. I get it.

That means.

Yeah, I totally get it. I'm glad.

Hollow me out.

Holler me out. Okay, so, yeah, I forgot it. Do you guys watch porn?

Madison, he watches more porn than I do.

You're not that into it.

Yeah, I mean, it's not that we're not that into it. It's just that, like, I don't know. Our point is. Are different. He likes point of view, like hardcore banging. And I like more.

This is the pink team.

Pussy is what he is.

Yeah, exactly.

Let's not mess around. Let's not beat around the bush. We know what bush he likes.

Yeah, no bush. No bush. That's the trick here.

Do you think the bush is coming back? I don't know. Okay, so here's one more thing. Voyeurism so, you know, we were talking earlier about video chatting. That's another thing. We've got sexting. We've got phone sex video chatting. Just using on your phone, Skype, Gchat, FaceTime. It's not just for long distance. So couples, like, in the same area code or in the same house, if you're feeling lazy, you know, you're downstairs watching tv. It's really hot for virtual sex. So because there's elements of, like, voyeurism and exhibitionism, and a lot of women get really turned on by that. It's a. It's a top fantasy for a lot of women. So you can watch her touch herself, tell her what to do. She can watch you. And if you're not your husband, start. Some women say it's hot when she's, like, watching porn. Like, if you guys are watching and she's, like, watching little porn, so it makes her feel, like, less awkward. Like it's something to get you both in the mood and she's watching porn while you're watching her. But I also think just getting started, like, telling her what to do, or you guys both getting dressed together. And that can lead to one of my favorite sex tips, mutual masturbation. Because there's a lot of couples who have been together for a long time, and they still are like, I don't know what the hell turns my partner on. And so if you're watching each other, you're like, oh, she goes up and down on the clitoris, or she never touches her clitoris, or he grabs his balls, and I've never touched his balls. I didn't know that. It's a great way to learn.

What accent was that?

I don't know. I don't know. Touched the ball. I made it up.

Role playing. She's role playing.

I'm role playing. Role playing is really hot, too. And I know that you think, okay, this is kind of weird. Well, I can't say this.

Yeah, you can.

I can't.

No, it's too late.

But I did dress up. Okay. So another thing. I had a really fun weekend. So this guy I've been dating who never used a sex story in his life, like, before he met me, like, nothing ever, ever, ever, ever. I've had a wedge for a long time from Liberator, Like, a really nice black adult label. Okay. Do you know what a wedge is?

No. It's a salad.

It's sex wedge.

It's like furniture.

It's sex furniture. And it's an amazing thing because It's a wedge. And a lot of women, in order to have experienced the most pleasure and to have orgasm, their bum needs to be lifted. So it's like, literally like a wedge, like a pillow. And so your butt rises on it. And this one comes with cuffs, too. Like handcuffs. Like, they have so much stuff. If you go to liberator.com and so I've had this wedge in my garage. So we open it up and we, like, use the. And it was hot because it was like you're elevated, and you had, like.

Cuffs and stuff like that suspended from the ceiling.

I was not suspended from the ceiling, but I'm going to work on that soon because I think that would be really, really fun. And I also tried.

Russian landlord would love that.

Oh, my God. I'm a Russian landlord. But now I don't know what to do with the wedge because it's so big. Not to mention my Sibian put on the curve. Do you know I got a Sibian?

I was gonna bring up the Sibian right now. I didn't know if I was gonna be stepping on the wedge. You gotta just get rid of, like, your lazy Boy if you have one.

I don't know what's the.

Just replace it like a couch with it.

It's like, I'm trying. Like, if anyone's. I'm not really great interior designer.

Civilians are expensive.

I know. I'm one of three people who have gotten a free one.

Wow.

I'm so honored. It has a million tattoos.

The other two are, like, Barack Obama and who else?

Yeah, Barack Obama's in the White House, but he's got more room. Like, the thing is, if I had a separate room.

I know. Yeah, exactly. So I got that. And then one more tip. I just want to say here is. This is another thing that came up for me lately is giving her oral sex from behind. A lot of men do oral sex the same way when she's lying down, but if you only do that, it's time for twists. So next time you're going in for the oral, as you should be doing, if she likes it, smack it up, switch it up, get her on all fours, and then perform oral from behind her. You could either do it just like licking behind her, or you could lie underneath her on your back with your legs, like, facing away from her body. And it's an unexpected sensation. It feels different, actually, because you're coming at it from a different angle. You're sucking on the clitoris and using your tongue from different angles, which, since the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings. It feels a little different. So those are some tips. Role playing's fun. What else do we have in here? We had a little anal. I think we covered a lot of it.

Yeah, we went on to a bunch and stuff that we usually don't talk about. That's like. The big thing is, I feel like people expect us to say certain things.

Oh, you want my ejaculation?

So I was on. Okay, back, back. Okay. So I was on a podcast the other day. I called in, and it was funny. It was called Detroit Cast. Right. And they're from Detroit. Funny enough, the two guys who host it. They're nominated for a podcast award. Sorry, Anderson. And so they called. They're like, hey, I heard they know my brother. They're in Michigan. I heard her sister's hosting the awards. I get on their podcast the other day. We both all went to the same high school, which is interesting because I went to a rando high school. And one of the questions they had for me was basically ejaculation etiquette. When I want to come on a woman's face, do I ask her first or do I just do it?

Ask her.

And I was like, you've got to ask her. You know, you've got to ask. It's like if someone else almost grabbed you and started, like, spraying, like, SPF on you or something, you're like. You're like, what are you doing? Like, I already have enough spf, you know? Or like, if they're spraying, if you're putting anything in someone's body, I don't know why I thought of spf, but. Because if someone started spraying me, it'd be weird. You got it. You got to ask them.

Or if you're real smooth, bring it up like a dinner somehow. Yeah, no, angle it in.

I'll be like, babe, I can't wait to come on your face. Dinner.

Once you let that stuff fall.

In the moment. No, in the moment. Hey, babe, can I come your face. So I was talking to my married friend last night about the same thing came up twice in a day. So I figured it's newsworthy. And they've been together, like, 10 years. And I was like. She's like, yeah. And sometimes he just wants to come my face. I was like, okay, well, what do you. What do you do? She's like, sometimes I say yes, sometimes I say no. I said, well, what. What is the deciding factor? Like, how do you know when she's like, I don't know. Sometimes you Know, like, I just. We're about to go out and I know that'll be on my face, and, like, I do my makeup and sometimes I just want to say no because why should I say yes every time? Mix it up. But most time I say yes. She says two out of three times. Yeah. Just want to tell you about ejaculation etiquette, which it's important to ask. Don't just come on our face.

Ejaculation etiquette?

No, I mean, it's.

We have a show called Ejaculation Etiquette if you'd like more information. Oh, and then she said, it's so fattening, isn't it? And I was like, no, it's good for you.

And only that it's supposed to be really good for your skin. Like, if you have breakouts, they say, like to dab a little bit on.

Teenagers, they say no.

I mean, actually, there have been studies coming out.

Take my jacket around your face.

There's somebody actually paying money for that study. Or women, poor women. People are just slathering semen on their face to see if it works.

It's science. Science.

And Heather Locklear, she does it.

Her skin looks awesome. Okay, Anderson, check everybody. Check them out on the film Volt, the film volume podcast. Check Madison out just everywhere. Where are you doing your Twitter or.

Anything not on Twitter. Let's do Instagram's Hurricane underscore Madison.

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