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Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend, cuz? My man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh my.

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Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

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Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Hello.

What up, Menace?

Hi.

You made a very good suggestion. Last time we did shows and you said, people, hey, if you like us, go to itunes, put in a review. It helps. And a lot of people did. Oh, I did. Awesome. And so I think we love it. So if you love us and you like the show, go to itunes and as long as you're there, subscribe and do a little review.

Because we need to stay ahead of Oprah. Cause I know Oprah, she had a podcast like in. We're like in health. Yeah, like health something.

She was like one above us.

Yeah, no, we were above her.

We were above Oprah.

We were, right?

Yeah, but, you know, kicking that ass.

Who knows where she is right now. I haven't looked at the itunes in. In a while.

I know, but I was. It was really like. Because I don't either. You said that. I was like, oh, that's really nice because like a few years ago we like charged for the show. Sorry about that. People got pissed. That's why you just gotta listen to me read ads and support my sponsors. And I'm not gonna charge you for the show. So all is good. Good, good. Today's show, we will be your emails. Because I love hearing from you at feedbackexwithemily. Dot com. I read all your emails and I answer them on the show. And some of the topics include, someone's got a kegel question about kegel exercises for men and for women, bad oral sex experiences, suspicious boyfriend behavior, how to tell if she's really into you, how to give a girl multiple orgasms. So many exciting things.

Always good stuff.

I know. And also one thing. I have to announce that I am going to be teaching workshop in San Diego Oct. 25 at Hustler. The Hustler store there. It's a sex toy store, which is amazing if you've been to the 1. The Hustler Hollywood here. Well, now I'm teaching in San Diego. I'm doing the same workshop. I did how to blow his her mind in bed. And he was a smash success. Like 300 people. It was crazy. Crazy. So we're doing it in San Diego. Come see me there. Email me feedbackexthelmy.com to RSVP. Or go to my sex with Elmy page on Facebook and there's an invite there. You can rsvp.

There's a lot of military guys in San Diego.

Really?

My hookup.

I've never been.

He's got a. Oh, you've never been.

Five minutes years ago.

I. A lot of people disagree with me, but I always say it's like a mix between Honolulu and San Francisco to me.

San Diego.

San Diego? Yeah.

Like, it's kind of just like people hanging out at the beach, working out, getting tan.

You said he'd never been there, but that's what. I've been there multiple times.

Really? Like, they had, like, a sophistication to it, like San Francisco.

San Diego is really cool. I like it a lot. There's some people that hate it because they're like hipsters that moved there from San Francisco. But it is.

Seems like perfect weather.

Yeah. Great weather. Cool downtown, super clean. Yeah, it's awesome. I love it.

I'm very excited to go and teach the workshop and to go. I've never.

I can't even watch out for those military guys.

Wait, they live there? That's like, their base.

Oh, it's a huge military town. There's a bunch of bases.

Are they walking around in their military uniforms?

Some of them, yeah. See, the thing is, with military guys, every friend that I have in the military, they.

They get dogs.

No, they're not dogs. What happens is they want to get locked down because if they get married, they can get their own house on the base. You know, I'm saying. So they don't they just don't want to just date some girls because.

Oh, so they want, they want to marry me.

They want to marry you right away because then they can get like a free house and stuff like that.

Oh, I'd be down with that. Would I have to be there every day?

You would have to live.

I think it's good to have separate houses. We could, I could just say, yeah, I'll just come out and visit on the weekends. It's only like two hours from here.

Yeah, you'll be two hours.

You're right. I won't even drive 30 minutes to the guy at the beach. But that's true. Okay, I'll look for the most.

So just FYI.

And I'm teaching a blow job class. It was so funny because we were talking about in Loveline the other night, and Michael's like, Mike. Catherine was like, so does that mean, like, people are gonna, like, will people. Guys, if they go, they'll get blow jobs. I'm like, pretty good chance that people are gonna be riled up and I'm.

Gonna want to practice.

Yeah, totally. You might even get a blowjob. I'm not saying everyone's gonna get a blow job. Not for me. Unless you're. You have a house. But besides that, like, blow jobs are not for free there. Okay, so, Menace, what up with you? Except for your birthday's coming up, which is very exciting.

Yeah, my birthday's coming up on the 28th of October. And I don't know when this podcast is being released. Probably before then, right? Yeah, we got a couple weeks. But the, the thing is, you say, oh, you're getting so old. Right? I'm gonna be 35 years old.

I can't believe that because I met you, we've been doing the show for almost 10 years and you were like 25, 26. And you were just a young. You were sleeping in the radio station, you were living. You didn't have a house. Weren't you like homeless?

Kind of homeless, yeah, but I was like, you know, working my way up.

You really did. Look at you now. You're on a billboard in Los Angeles. I just can't believe you're 30. I always think of you as like 28, 27, you know, like, that's like you're like a full on adult.

But check this out. So I think that I happy, man. I think I look at least legal age, right? Within the past two weeks, I got carded for lottery tickets, right? And then I got carded at the movie theater. To see Gone Girl.

Seriously? Swear to God, I do look young. You kind of. Because you're like. You dress like a. Like the hips. I don't even know what it's called with your pants and your things. I don't know.

You.

Levi's jeans, your glasses and your baggy pants.

Yeah, I'm not. I don't dress like a hipster, but.

Not hipster. What do you. What do you call your thing?

I know. Style.

No, but you're like.

All my shirts are from, like, Banana Republic, and then most of my jeans are from, like. They're like Hudson jeans. And then I wear, like, a million.

Pairs, different types of shoes.

Yeah, I have, like, a million pairs of different Nikes and Reeboks and my favorite LA gear. But the. The thing is, like, why the f. Am I getting carded? I definitely look older than 18 years old.

I mean, I don't. Yeah, that's true. I don't know why. Just. You do. Your skin looks good. You look healthy, actually. Did you, like, lose weight or something? You've been exercising.

I've been exercising. Nothing like extreme.

You have the Fitbit on. We both have it on, which is so funny.

Yeah. I'm not.

I'm gradually hard to get to the 10,000 steps a day.

It is. It is, dude.

Right.

But I'm gradually, like, you know, just going. Keeping healthy, going to the gym, a little bit healthier, less soda and stuff like that.

Good.

But I did get some sun. I went. I actually went up to the Bay Area just recently.

Okay.

I took my dad and my sister to the new 49er Stadium.

Okay. Right. Exciting.

And super nose. Candlestick's the old one, but the new one is in Santa Clara over by San Jose.

I don't care about San Francisco anymore since we moved.

I know. Yeah, you shouldn't. But the thing is, got a bunch of sun and stuff like that, which.

You think you've got a little sun on your arm here. Yeah.

You would think that I would get a bunch of sun living here in Los Angeles.

Right? Exactly.

Does not happen.

You have a pool, though.

I have a pool, but I get up at 3. 3am I get to work at, like, 3. 45am, get on the radio at 6am on the radio until 10, and then I'm in the office till 1, and then I go straight home into my apartment.

And what do you do?

And then I sit there and I just work on the show again for the next day. This happens every single day until we ever hang out. Because I work Then what time do.

You go to bed?

I go to bed by 8 o'. Clock.

Seriously?

Every night?

Every night, like, you're out like, 8:00'?

Clock?

Never 8:15?

No, I have to be in bed.

By 8 because how many hours is that? And then you get like seven.

Seven? Yeah.

Wow, that's intense. That's like Howard Stern.

Like, not every. Well, I wish I was Howard Stern, but even Howard Stern, he still has a rough time.

No, he does. I've been here. I've been listening to Howard Stern a bunch, by the way.

Good. I've been telling you for years.

I know, I know. But now I listen to the best interviewer ever. The best interview. And I just. I love his show. And not that I hadn't heard it, I used to have it in my car, but now I listen to it like, on my phone, my whole thing. And yeah, he's amazing, but he always complains about that. But that's freaking brutal. Yeah, but your girlfriend's cool with that.

Yeah, you know, whatever.

But then she probably gets home later. She's not. Doesn't want to go to bed at 8.

Yeah, no, she stays up till like, midnight and stuff like that. While I'm sleeping in bed.

Does she hear you get up? And she must, but she just used to it.

Okay, but the thing is like, you know, no time for slow. If we're gonna be relationship. That's just how it's gonna be.

Yeah, that's you exactly.

You know.

Right.

And then just take her to leave it.

Right.

I very dated girls in the past or like, think they're cool with it. And then like, their girlfriends that, you know, they want to go turn up or get drunk on a Tuesday night. And my. My girlfriend at the time would be like, pissed off because I remember this. I don't want to go out on a Tuesday night when I have to get up at 3am I've always admired.

That about you because you probably are one of the hardest workers I know and that you. I mean, you let go on the weekend, you let loose. But, like, you're very regimented with your, like, work your schedule and you never just, you know, you never go off the schedule. You never got off the schedule.

And I. And I might seem like an sometimes like, oh, come on, man. And I was like, no, I don't care. No, but you're so out there worth, like, right.

You want to be on, you want to be in. And I just. I've always admired it. You always show up. You never like, don't you never, you've never. Not like shown up or blood an offer like you've always. That's just me. Like you. I'm nothing like your real jobs too. It's impressive.

Thank you.

Yeah. Really, you're amazing. Thanks.

I try. You're amazing too.

I've known you for.

And you've been doing this like all the time now. Like, this is your like, you know, full time job life.

And it wasn't.

You're doing like crazy amount of podcasts. We'd always do podcasts together. But now you have all these other ones when you're cheating on me.

I'm sorry. Anderson thinks I'm cheating on him too now when I with you. Just kidding.

But yeah, I'm like your old lover.

I know you are.

New lover.

I know, but he's awesome. Do you know him? Have you met him?

Well, I've known Anderson.

We should all do a show. You guys just trash. I mean. No, I'm just kidding.

Oh, it'd be amazing. No, Anderson, like, you know, because I know you don't pay attention to any of this kind of stuff, but I, I don't know Anderson like super personally, but I've, I've met him a few times, but I've known of him for years because such being a fan of Loveline, you know, and Loveline that you. You're part of the Loveline, right?

I'm on every Thursday night, you know.

So a lot of people know who Anderson is, you know, so.

Yeah, that's true, I guess, because they always bring. You're right. And have you always though, did you always listen to.

I always listen to Loveline. Yeah.

Like when you were a kid.

Not when I was a kid, but.

I know you worked at Live 105.

I worked at Live 105 in San Francisco, which is a Loveline affiliate. And then so I would, you know.

Did you work the.

Listen, I didn't, I didn't never work the board for them or anything like that.

Right.

But I would, I would definitely listen to the show all the time. You know, Dr. Drew and then Adam, you know, when Adam Crow was on there all the time. They would be on television constantly together.

Right.

And like, you know, when I was really into watching mtv, they would have shows on mtv. I just saw Drew the other day. He was, he was interviewing all the, all the teen moms and I loved it.

Oh, you love the Teen mom show. I met Farrah Abraham.

She's got a wife.

Yeah, I just met her at a show this year and she's actually gonna be at the Hustler store, Hollywood.

The Friday night, October 24th.

Oh, really?

I'm gonna be in San Diego 25th. So if you want to go see her, she has a whole new sex toy line. It's like her butt and her. Whatever.

Crazy. There's this one teen mom that I'm so upset with. I gotta tell Drew it's because there's this one that's like. I don't know, she's like, doing cosmetology or something like that. And she. She has, like, auburn hair.

I don't know. I don't.

Anyways, her like her baby's daddy. Like this guy. You know what? I don't know him personally, so I don't want to call him a douchebag, but. But, you know, on television, he comes off as a douchebag.

Right, Right.

But he just has a lot of issues in his life. He's like, getting and all this stuff. And the thing is, this teen mom is always talking a bunch of crap about him, but yet she's still hooking up with them.

Right.

You know, and that happens all the time when I. You know, you see a group of girls, and if you get into that group and you talk to them and you see a girl, like, talking a bunch. Ish about a guy.

Right.

That's the guy either she wants to sleep with or she's sleeping with on the DL, you know, the one that she's.

But you think that women are just always unhappy and complaining their friends, but at the end of the day, they're gonna stay with the guy? Is that what you're saying?

Yeah, of course.

Yeah. On the bad. When they get together.

Yeah. And I'm just like, how does he stay with.

Then he watches the show and he's like, oh, so you think I'm an. Or whatever she says about him.

Yeah. I mean, when he just did this reunion special with.

Yeah. He was filming it a few weeks ago.

Yeah, yeah. And yeah.

Yeah.

He got on the show and he's like, you know, I know I come off and like everyone. It sucks because, you know, he gets. You know, social media, like, people can message you and tell you that you're a douchebag.

Right.

And. But it don't be like, that's why I messed up with the chick. I'm like, dude, don't be talking all this. This ish about him and how he's like a bad father and then still hook up with him.

Exactly. You know, is she with them or she's Just hooking up with them.

She's just hooking up with them, right?

Well, sometimes that's hard. We get.

I'm trying to find the name of her. Yeah, like on Team mom too.

Teen Mom. Check it. I don't even know. I've never, I've seen it maybe once. Oh no, I, you know, didn't it used to be called 16 and pregnant?

There's 16 and pregnant and then there's Teen mom.

Because I did see 16 and pregnant before. I one day watched a marathon for some reason. Like I binged on it when I was with a friend in a hotel room.

Nice.

One more thing I have to mention though also is that I'm going to be giving the keynote and I'm the spokesperson for the Sexual Health Expo which is in Los Angeles in Hollywood. And it's gonna be awesome. It's January 17th and 18th and go to sexualhealthexpo.com it's the first consumer show. Like men, women, couples can come. They've got the top sex educators in the country speaking to people and you can take workshops and there's like all the toys they talk about are gonna be there and it's gonna be an awesome two days and I'm gonna be giving away free tickets. So people should email me feedbackexlme.com while you want to go. And it's super gonna be fun and swanky and you should comment us. Awesome.

Oh, I found the team mom.

Okay, what's your name about?

Her name's Chelsea. So Chelsea, if you watch the show, it's like I. And the thing sucks is I really like, I like Chelsea the most.

But you don't like her.

I don't like her. Like dude, don't talk all the smack if you're just still gonna hook up.

But women do that. All guys. I know guys do that too. Guys like, I hate her, I'm not into her. And then you see he's hooking up with her. Cuz it's easy. It's a low hanging fruit. It's hard to get out of relationships. When you have a baby together and used to having sex, it's hard to break up.

Yeah.

It's like a really like, it's like a discipline. It's like quitting a drug.

Yeah.

When you're trying to get away from someone that you're in a long term relationship and you have a kid.

Yeah.

But did they like feel bad?

Because Chelsea's parents also, they, they're like.

Going, I love that you go through all Chelsea.

They Go through all the drama too, you know, and then you're like, they're dealing with all the drama, and then you find out that your daughter's still hooking up with the guy that you dislike, you know?

Right.

Like, what do you do in that situation?

I don't know.

I mean, so pissed.

How old is she?

Huh?

How old is she?

I'm sure she's, like, in her 20, 22.

I mean, seriously, people think they're so in love and they're 20. Like, it's just not that you aren't in love, and in fact, like, you really are in love. But people change, and they're not always emotionally mature enough to, like, handle it. But we get addicted to the sex or attached to the comfort. And you always think, do you remember when you break up with someone in your 20s, even your 30s, I guess, and wherever in life, you always think, I'm never gonna find someone else. What if. What if. What if this person was right? What if? Like, you know what? Guess what? Most time, if you think you want to break up with them, you probably should, and there will be someone else that you will find that is a better suitor. So did you do that with yourself? Like, what if I made a mistake after you break up someone, or were you not really in relationships until now?

No. No. Well, I was like, oh, I probably broke up with them for a good reason.

Right. That's the thing. It's like, I've never regretted.

Yeah.

Like you have at the time.

At the time.

Yeah, at the time, you go through.

In your head, oh, man, should I really have done that?

Right. And you tend to put it on a pedestal, the whole relationship, and you glorify it unless it was, like, really abusive and awful. But typically, like, if you think of.

All the good things.

Yeah. Like, even on, like, a Facebook now, like, I'm friends with all my exes. It's like, oh, wow, he's having a really good time right now. They're out biking. He never biked and hiked with me, probably because I was like, if you want to hang out, bring over your laptop because I'm working tonight. I was really fun.

All right, there's three things I want to talk to you. We'll go. We'll go through real quick. We're talking about exes. It was funny. We had a topic on our morning show about.

Getting invited to weddings of exes.

Oh, right.

And because I get invited to weddings all the time.

Yeah, you're in that age. Yeah.

And it's. It's crazy. And I don't go out of respect for the guy that I don't even know.

Right. Like, I boned your wife. Hi.

Yeah, hi. I'm, like, hanging out at your wedding.

Yeah, it's like.

It's crazy. But so we had this conventional on the radio, and girls were just, like, saying, oh, yeah, you know, I had, like, five guys I hooked up with at my. At my wedding and all this crazy stuff. And then we had. This was the ultimate call. We had a call from a girl who said that, oh, I dated this guy, like, in the past. He's, like, been a really good friend of mine my entire life. We hooked up and, you know, we've had sex numerous times, but then we broke it off. And then I found my husband, we got married, we had a kid, and now my friend is the godfather of the kid.

Yeah, I can see that.

And. And the. The. The. The dad of the kid does not know about anything.

Oh, that's not good. That's transparent that they dated.

Yeah, that's.

No. I know couples who are like godparents to their ex's kids. That's not weird. But you know me, I'm friends with all my exes, and I travel with my.

But the guy does not.

That's bad. That's dishonest. See, I think that the guy, if he's cool, that you guys used to sleep together and you're friends. I think men and women can be friends after they break up. Absolutely.

If you find somebody, well, you too. You go, like, on vacation.

I go to Mexico. I went to Mexico. Right.

Current boyfriends, you go. My ex, you do this, like, weird orgy cabin stuff. I don't know.

Yeah, we used to go to the cabin. There was no orgies. I wish there were orgies, but. No. My ex. Yeah, we used to always go to the cab. We went to Mexico that year with the. With the. Now they're both exes. But, yeah, it's cool. We can hang like that. I'm. I don't. I don't. Because the thing is, if you're with somebody and you bond with them, and the first ex that I was with who managed the whole trip thing, it's like, we were really, really close. Like, we really loved each other. In the time that we were together, we weren't best friends right away. Right after we broke up, it was hard. But then usually if you're with someone, like, there is a friendship there and you care about each other, and we had the same group of friends, so we just you know, we had dated eight years earlier. It wasn't like we were still sleeping together. Although we did kind of sleep together a few years after we broke up. But then he's fine with my new guy, you know? I don't know. You just be comfortable with yourself. What's the second thing?

I guess. And. Okay, the third thing is there's a movie everyone needs to go see. Is Gone Girl is so good. Don't give away the ending. If you know the ending.

I'm dying to see it, but people.

And don't be that person. If you see it, give away the ending. Like, it's immediately. Immediately. If you haven't heard about the Enemy, because I think if you do hear about it, it might ruin it for you.

Don't.

But immediately go see the movie. Like, right now, after you hear the.

Because why?

It's just so good.

What made you. What. What part of it? Like, I don't know.

Well, it's about romance, you know, being married for a long time and, like, not being interested in the. In the marriage. That's. That's the part that I can give you.

That is a good one.

So if you're like, is it hopeful?

I don't know. I kind of know the story. Yeah. Okay. Don't tell me anything.

I'm not gonna tell you, but I'm.

Gonna go see it. Yeah.

And the third thing is. So I. I heard some. I don't know if you talked about this in past podcasts, but we didn't, like, Hitachi, like, sell off the magic wand.

Yeah, it's no longer Hitachi Magic Wand. Just match.

Are they, like, making it still? No, they're not making it. So another manufacturer is making it.

Yes.

It was just in the news recently with some porn star who got burnt.

I know. She got burnt using the old Hitachi, right? Oh, the old one. Yeah, it was a Hitachi. It was an old one. It was the old, old, old version. Yes, The Hitachi. Well, because they said it was the Hitachi. That's why you should get the new one, because it's actually lighter weight and it doesn't. Whatever. But her vagina. Yeah. Sparks. She was probably pushing it. How does that happen? Yeah, like, honestly, like, that's. That's bad for Hitachi, for the old magic wands, which is why if you have one and it could be malfunctioning.

You got to get on that new one.

Yeah, it's been a new. Right now, if you go to good vibes.com, keep a code GVL20. Get a new one. And they're lighter weight.

Say, like that one. And then the. The rabbit are just like, up there, right? Yeah, like the most popular.

But I wonder what else she was doing. Like, how long was it on for? I don't know, like, three hours. Was she? You know, who knows? But you're right, I did see that. And that was the Hitachi magic wand. And that is no longer Hitachi. They separated. They're just making TVs now, I guess.

So is there any sex and technology stuff that you've been hearing about?

Yeah, a little bit. I mean, there's so many dating apps right now. Right now there's healthvana, which is a new app that shares your sexual history, which I think I came up with this before that. If you're dating and things are going great, and then comes that awkward moment when your partner casually inquires, hey, so do you have any, like, STDs or anything? You need the conversation. So next time that happens, you can verbally relay your sexual history. You can whip out your smartphone, call up Health Vana. And a free app that retrieves your test directly from the labs sends to your smartphone users can also forward results to new doctors and to partners. Download the same app. It was developed with the AIDS Healthcare Foundation. Cool. Sends Chlamydia, hiv, syphilis, gonorrhea results. Kind of can be a buzzkill, though, if you're like, oh, wait here. Oops, I got gonorrhea. We're not getting on tonight. But that's cool technology. I mean, because. And use condoms, people all the time. I swear to God, no one uses condoms. I was talking to a guy friend, like, do you use condoms? No. He's like, no one. I'm like, I know. I feel like people just don't. They think that they're safe. They forgot that you can get diseases. And I get. It's not fun or sexy, but, like, go buy them, have them next to your bed. And also a lot of guys that haven't found the condoms that work for them because they. Every condom fits differently, right? I do not have a penis. But there are some that you found, right? That's your jam, like thinner or bigger. Whatever, duh, duh. There's some that have, like, her pleasure. They have lube in them. Lifestyles makes some great condoms right now. They just sent me, like, a huge box. I couldn't believe the variety. So shop around a little and find ones that work. But work. Goddamn condoms. What conversations. What else were you thinking? Oh, there's a new friggin Tinder app that's actually for sex called Mixer. So Tinder is the online dating app that copied Grindr, which was the gay app. And everyone says Tinder is a dating hookup app.

And what's. It's funny because. All right, that's good because remember years ago when Grindr was really like, yes, hot. Which is still is really hot. But it was the only thing out there. And we would always joke like, oh, this would never work for the single person. Because straight people. It's for straight people because it's like, it'll be a billion single guys on there and two. Two girls. Right. But I think like Tinder has gradually it primed. Yeah. For this, for the like the straight hookup app.

Yeah.

Because Tinder was just like Grindr, but it was like disguised as just like dating. And now people are just opening up to like, all right, this is straight.

Mixer's like hook up. Tinder's like, maybe hook up, whatever. But Mixer is somewhat different. He knows exactly, you know exactly what you're getting. And it finds people in your proximity geographically and you put in like your age and all that stuff or what you're looking for and you can hook up with them.

Wow.

Which is so overrated anyway. Because you know what, there's another story that can't let us read. Like women. I mean this, this has been around for a long time, but like sex, just not as satisfying just during a hookup. It's fun, the anticipation, but women don't have or they fake them. If you, most women have an orgasm the first time you're together, are faking it really. And not that it's all about the orgasm. It's actually the best part of sex, I think for a lot of women is the anticipation and the build up and the chase and the excitement that comes. But I don't know, I just think that people are just having a lot of. I don't know, what am I getting like, so jaded. But I just feel like it's better just to get to know someone.

Wow. Who are you?

I don't know. I just feel like, ugh, that awkwardness and the faking and now that I fake it, I just didn't have one. And you didn't care because we were just hugging up and you pounded away and like the whole thing just not safe.

You're changing before my eyes finally.

No, but I've never been really into like just hooking up, have I?

No, it just came off that way because you were like, never really fully into anybody that you were dating.

Well, I'm still never into anyone. And I still. But I just wouldn't hook up with someone in a night that I make.

Yeah, but it just. It just comes off that way. You're like, oh, I'm just hooking up with this guy. I don't really care.

Right. And now I just don't hook up with people I don't care with anymore. Now I just. I don't do anything.

Now you're totally celibate, it seems.

I'm not celibate. Do you remember my manatorium that I ran like a few years ago? It was like a moratorium on men. And I did it for like six months. I had no sex. Cause I was actually having too much sex.

Too much sex? Yeah.

Too many partners with people I didn't like. And I wasn't that into. And I actually did it. I was like. People were like, can I have a womanatorium manager? And I actually toyed with it again because I found myself getting in the same situation where I was like dating people that I wasn't, which is obviously my pattern that into. And I just thought, what if I just cleared the whole men thing out and just, you know, worked on myself and da, da, da. But then now I have a hot date like next week, so kind of gave it up. But. But that was fun. Good times. Okay, we can get into some emails. All right, so thanks everyone for emailing me. Feedbackaxwithelmy.com as you know, I love hearing from you. Here's one about Kegels for men. Kegel exercises for men. Hi Emily. Thank you for your app and your work. I have an app called Kegel Camp. My question is, when doing Kegels, is it better to be doing it with an erection? Is one more beneficial than the other? Thank you, Matthew.

No, you're not supposed to do it with an erection. Actually, it's better to do it without one. But you might get one while you're doing them. The important thing for kaggle exercises is. And if you don't know what they are, because I'm always surprised, not surprised. But a lot of people don't know what they are. That men and women can do them five minutes a day. It's your pee stopping muscles. So you stop and start the flow of urine. And for five minutes a day, you can learn to last longer in bed, have stronger orgasms for men and for women, stronger orgasms. And so my app has 20 levels. And it reminds you the thing about it Is like, doctors tell all men do it for, like, prostate health, but no one remembers, even though it's so easy to sit at traffic light. So my app pops up, remind you time for Kekko Camp. And then my voice walks you through it. Yeah, five minutes day. And there's 20 levels, and people get to these levels, like they get to level 20. Like they've. The couples have, like, races and they send me their screen grabs and stuff.

Wow.

Yeah, because when it first came out, it only had 10 levels, but now it's 20. So anyway, Kegel Camp, you'll have better seconds. But no, Matthew, I would say it's better to do it without interaction because then you'll just be jacking off and you won't finish the five minute thing.

You'll just be excited.

Exactly. Just get all hot and bothered. So the next thing is how to get over a bad oral sex experience. But before that, a word from our sponsor. You can think about that. This is actually a man writing in who had a bad oral sex experience, and you might be able to relate to that. But first, a word from our amazing sponsors. Okay, so thanks, everyone, for listening to the show. And I love being able to help you have the sex and relationships you want. So I only talk about things that I think are gonna improve your sex life. Like, the Fleshlight is the number one sex toy for men for a reason. First of all, it actually stimulates the feeling of having real sex. And I, you know women, we got hundreds of sex toys we can choose from. So many. Right, Manus? And you're like, oh, every guy's like, oh, I got my him. What's the problem? But this feels like you mix it up.

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Oh, just anything but sex.

Right? Like what? Like my friend thinks about like dead rats in a trash can.

Dead rats in a trash can.

Which is kind of. I think I would just be like.

Completely grossed out once I start trying not to think about it. That's when you know, right?

Well, a lot of guys know. They think about bait, whatever. This way you don't have to even worry about it.

Just slow down, man.

Yeah, exactly. And promescent will help you, so you don't have to worry about it. So go to promescent.com check it out. Okay, now we're gonna talk about oral sex, which is my favorite subject always. We're gonna help a guy here. Dear Emily, I have a question that requires a bit of explanation. The first and last time I tried oral on a woman, I was 17. She apparently did not have a good genital hygiene. The smell was horrible. But being 17 and a trooper I did it anyways. I gagged. I lost my erection, and both of us left the encounter embarrassed and unsatisfied. Ever since then, every time I get close to a vagina, I have a flashback to that smell and gag. How do I get over this? From Tom.

Hypnotist.

Oh, God. I mean, that's kind of. That's sort of post traumatic vagina disorder, like in post traumatic stress. Like, it's sort of. That's like, a really bad experience. And I could see he doesn't say how old he is now and how long it's been going on, but I feel like you.

Could also take a shower together, like, beforehand. Yeah, you could try to. I mean, because this is gonna do.

It in the shower. Yeah.

Try to just be like, let's clean up. Clean up. That's not all women. But guys have experiences like this, right? And you get through them. Yeah, but this sounds pretty traumatic, like gagging.

That's what I'm saying. He got to go to the hypnotist.

He's got. He's got to go.

He got to go.

He got to go. Hypnotist or. Yeah, I mean, it could be. You could talk to a therapist. You could do EMDR training to get over this. I don't know about therapy.

That's. Admit much.

No, but there's, like, trot. I mean, I don't know. He could really. I think that, like, every vagina is different, first of all, and they're not all going to have that odor to it, which some do, some don't. And I actually just did a show on this that we were talking about, like, hygiene and women and that I didn't even know till I got a little older. Like, before you have sex with someone, you should just go. You know, you're going to fool around, go in the bathroom and, like, wipe. Wipe down. Like you don't have, like, toilet paper. We talked about, actually Madison, about this stuff. Who's my toilet paper crumbs? Has that ever happened to you in a woman's vagina where she gets, like, toilet paper crumbs?

No.

No one's ever. You've never had the things in there, like, she left toilet paper or whatever? No. Okay, so this can happen. And so just take some water, use the hand towel, whatever it is, and just wipe it out. And guys should do it too.

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I do. Well, you say that to me every single time.

I have some in my trunk. I have some in my trunk. Yep.

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Emilyantonian.com use coupon code EMILY. So, anyway, Tom, here's the deal. Not every vagina is gonna be like this. I'm really sorry you had this problem, but I think that if you take a sexy shower, which is great, you can, like, give her a massage and, like, then you'll know that, like, at least she's fresh and clean at the beginning. And then you'll start to see that all vaginas are not like that. They're not. We're all gonna have bad penis. We're all gonna have bad experiences, but you gotta move through it. And maybe he could use some hypnosis if it's really that severe, which I don't know the hypnosis is. Ever. Have it ever cured you of anything?

Hypnosis? No. Well, I've never been hypnotized.

Like, people, like, quit smoking and stuff.

They did it, like, when I was part of a morning show. Like, I don't know, like 13 years ago. They brought in a hypnotist and the. They were trying to hypnotize me, but I bit my tongue because I didn't want to get hypnotized.

Why?

Because I didn't know what they were gonna want me.

Oh, embarrass yourself.

I could have, like, said crazy stuff, you know, that I didn't want to say, right?

No, that happens for real. But. But some works. Okay, so this. Another email. Suspicious boyfriend behavior, which. There's a lot of that going around lately because. And girlfriend behavior, because we're all online. We're all doing things.

Are the most effing, scandalous people on the planet.

I know. We never get caught. Never get caught. I'm a really. I used to be a really good cheater.

Cop to anything. And you can justify anything.

You know, guys do the same thing.

No, guys are too effing stupid.

Guys are stupid. They don't care their browser, they leave their Facebook page open.

They don't know how to justify things. Like, you.

Like, we're so good at it. We're like, no, what do you mean?

We were talking. We were talking before.

We are better cheaters.

We were talking before about, you know, these phone calls that we're getting, you know, about, you know, sexual confessionals, something that we. We did on this morning show that I'm part of in la.

And you did sexual confessionals without me.

On the morning show.

It's called the Woody Show. If you want a podcast or if you're in la, go ahead.

And the thing was, this girl called in and she said, oh, you know, there's this guy that I dated before my boyfriend, who I love, who I've been with like, two years, and I. I ran into him and I kissed him and we made out, right? She's like, all we did was make out. And she went to her current boyfriend and said, hey, this happened. Which is whatever. That's what everyone says what to do. And she was saying, oh, yeah. You know, it's because I just felt like I never had closure with the other guy.

That was closure. Okay.

I was like, yeah, that's what I'm saying.

I was like, really? Closure.

Come on, dude. Right?

That's again, that's like women justifying, right? She said, oh, yeah. And then so, like, a couple months later, I ran into the guy again. And then we, like, we hooked up again. But I didn't tell him this time. Like, that's. So you get. She's like. And going on.

On the radio. Is her boyfriend listening?

Who knows? But she's like, again going on, like, justifying it, right?

Well, I don't think it's a big deal. She's like, I already been with him in the past.

No, she's like, just didn't have closure with this one guy.

You know, if you guys, like, you're insane now.

Yeah, totally said that.

You're insane. But the thing is, guys do this too.

Yeah, but guys don't justify it. Like, you guys can.

Guys just block it out and they come.

No, you, like, you make it, like, so you don't feel bad about it.

Yeah, I kind of blocked it, but I'm like a dude. But guys don't feel bad either. They just. They think it sucks. Sex is sex.

Yeah, yeah. See, that's what I'm saying. But you. You're like, trying to say women justify.

Because they're more emotionally whatever. But I was able to just compart when I cheated in the past. I'm a reformed cheater.

Yeah, whatever.

What?

No, I just blocked it.

I was really good at blocking, I guess, and I didn't think that it really mattered. Yeah, no, it did, but it was never. I never. What I did was a cheater. And now. That's why I just don't commit as much unless I'm really ready. But when it was, it was that I wouldn't necessarily. It was never in the. In the country or in the state. It was when I was traveling. And it was never, like, ongoing. Like an ongoing affair with someone.

Yeah.

So that's my justification. Oh, my God. Here I go. Anyway, let's hear from this one. So, Emily, I hope you're well. I recently came across your podcast and I have to tell you, I absolutely love your shows. I've been ranting and raving about you to anyone I come in contact with. But I have a question that I would love to get your view on. I've been seeing my boyfriend for the past two years and only recently did the deed after I brought up the question why we haven't done it yet. First, I felt that he wasn't just into doing it, but after snooping, I found a girl sending him half naked pictures. Found condoms in his car that at random would change color. Basically, one week it would be one color and another different.

Yeah.

So that means there were several. I guess. I've discussed this with him, but was given a lame story as these belonged to his friend and he told me that he would put a stop to the girl flirting and sending pictures. Should I be worried or am I just reading too much into his lack of interest? I can understand after waiting six months to have sex to show respect, but two years isn't that suspicious. How should I handle this? Would love to hear from you. Warm regards, Ashley.

You're together for like, two years.

Okay. Ashley. Did she say how old she is? I wonder if it's like, Ashley. What? No.

I wonder if it's like a long run.

No, she's not. Two years. This is just like. I'm just confused by. I mean, there's naked girls.

Yeah.

There's photos and they haven't had sex. And there's condoms in his car. Like, it's probably like, not even, like, like an suv. It's like, just like, in the car. Like, seriously. Because I'm seeing, like, if it's a truck, his friends are all. I don't even know why that makes a difference.

What's crazy is he might like having sex with somebody else. But he likes being in a relationship with you. That might be.

But they've never even had sex. I know that to me is, like, awkward. I don't even know where to start with this. But, I mean, I. You've got to bring it up to him, of course, and that it's actually disrespectful for him to. Getting pictures from other women sometimes. And have you asked him, you know, why? Like, why has he waited so, like, two years just seemed, I mean, six months. Yeah, I mean, I know people have done that, but two years is just like. It's like your roommates, your friends, your. How does a guy go to. I would be thinking, like, if I really think that he's gay. But she's finding condoms. Either he's gay and those really are. Or he's having sex with men. Right. Or he's just cheating. Like, what, what? What? You're a man. Why would a guy do this? Do you think he's gay and he doesn't want to come out and he's having sex with men? Ashley, you should use protection. There's something going on here. If you do have sex with him eventually, but two years?

Yeah, definitely. Like, you're. You're wasting your time. You need to talk to this person and find out what's going on.

And she doesn't even say what she really likes about him. I mean, honestly, I would be very suspicious of all these things. And I don't. Maybe you're a bit younger, Ashley and I would just, like, try to get some answers and move on. Set a deadline to this. And I hate to say, just break up. I don't know. There's two sides to every story.

Have a conversation.

Have a conversation, not a heated conversation. Tell them how it makes you feel when you find the photos and how it makes you feel when you find the condoms and that you haven't had sex. You need to have the sex conversation after two years, get some answers, and then talk to some of your rational, smart people in your life that you trust that, you know, maybe not even a girlfriend, because you always say girlfriends. They give you advice, you don't listen. But. But really, I think this is a situation that you have to make a decision to go either way really soon. People just stay in relationships way too long, then they're unhappy, and. And I try to give advice and they're not ready. They asked me.

You only get one life.

That's true, actually. You are in one life and you should be having sex and having really good sex with someone who cherishes you and loves you and respects you and even, like, the naked girl. And I know you're saying it's not a big deal, like, to get naked photos from another, but if you're.

Sometimes you get them, like, unsolicited.

Yeah, dude, I get. Yeah, I know. I know you do.

But these hoes out there. But if you see dudes sending winter.

Pics to chicks, she's flirting and stuff. I'm sure it's like a flirting thing that she saw in the text. But we all just. Not only do we justify what we cheat. You're saying women. But you justify someone's behavior that you're dating because you don't want to look at the truth.

Yeah, truth.

You got to look at the truth.

Totally agree.

Okay, so another one. How to tell if she's interested. Dear Emily, how do you know if a girl is talking to you? Because you are a good conversation. Good conversationalist. Or because she wants to hook up. Thanks, Jonathan.

This is the ultimate question we've been talking about for years because so effing dumb. Like, we do not pick up on signs at all.

Nope.

At all. We do not know if a girl's interested in us unless they tell us to our face.

Exactly.

Or, like, tell their friends or grab.

You and kiss you or something, you know? So, yeah, it's true.

It sucks, because I wish I would have known, like, a bunch of times.

I know. You could have gotten laid so many more times. Like, women come up. Like, I had the biggest crush on you in high school or college. You're like, really? Why didn't you tell me? I get it. I get it.

I hate it.

She. Okay, so, Jonathan, the thing is, you don't know maybe for sure, but if she's talking to you for a long time and you're a good conversationalist, I mean, she might not have even decided yet. She might just think he's a good. But you know, I think it's a pretty good chance. If she's sitting talking to you, it's probably because she's interested.

Here's another thing.

And let her know you want to avoid the friend zone. So how long are you talking to her? If you're interested in her as well, then make a plan with her. Say, hey, Saturday night. What do you. Let's go out. Let's go here. Like, try to kiss her. I mean, see, how long has she been, like. Has this been going weeks and weeks? And you're just. She's Just dumping her whole life on you. And maybe she's just looking at the friend zone. But if it's. A lot of girls are coming up and chatting with you for, you know, they're probably interested. And if you're interested in them, that's the important thing. Because then you should just make the move.

Yeah, we've talked about this for years.

We're like a married couple. We could like.

Yeah. Look, if she. She's not into you and you're into her, then good, you already figured it out. If you. You make a move and she's not into it, guess what? You're not gonna die. Nothing physically. Nothing physically is gonna happen to you. Maybe. Yeah. You might be depressed for a second. You're like, oh, I really like this girl. She's not into me. But good, you didn't waste any time. Again, you only have one life.

Exactly.

I've been that person where I don't know if she likes me or not, and then I don't make a move. And then I. I wasted all this.

Time.

And I could have just moved on to the next person and would have been happy.

Exactly. So I believe that this is a great takeaway from all of this. That people gotta start taking responsibility for their own lives. And seriously, Jonathan, if you're interested in him as a man, you might get rejected. But it gets easier and it's practice. And if you're interested in her, be like, let it know and touch her. Not in a gropey way, but there's certain things you could do to let her know that you're interested and to avoid the friend zone. And let her know right away, like, hey, let's Saturday night, you're coming with me. You know, we're going out.

And women love confident men too. Anyways, you know.

Yes.

If you don't have confidence, just fake it.

Who cares? You got to fake it till you make it. Because it's true. The more that you practice talking. So for guys listening, the more that you. It's a muscle. It really is. Like. Like the dating muscle. The talking to women or men muscle. Like, you gotta practice. So whenever you're out, like, just start talking to. To women wherever you go. Men, where I'd say, hi. Like, practice those skills and then it won't seem as uncomfortable.

You might be, like, walking by and you'll see this girl with this guy and you're like, how is that guy with that girl? And I'll guarantee you, most of the time it's because he had the guts and the confidence to go ask her out when other people didn't.

It's so true. And the guy's like, oh, he probably is really rich. Or he's just confident. It's confidence. And I have to say that I didn't even know as much about this until I started doing the show. Is that the guys that I've essentially dated in my life, most of them are the ones who had the balls to, like, ask me out or to start talking to me or hit on me in a confident way. But there was all these really nice guys, like a lot of our listeners sitting in the corner probably that might have wanted to date me that I would never have known because I didn't go up to them. And they were really nice guys who didn't know how to talk to women. Because I know all these men that are amazing and have just this one thing. And what I'm saying is it is a skill set and you can learn it and you can get comfortable with it.

So don't worry about women. Sign.

Yeah.

And stuff like that.

Exactly. That's our take.

Just go for it if you want it, you know?

Exactly. And she's not gonna. I've had guy friends try to kiss me, and I've said no, but I didn't get, like, mad or whatever. It's all fine. It's all good. Nothing lose. Okay. How to give a girl multiple orgasms. I love men who care about female pleasure. Emily, could you advise, please, the best way to get a woman to orgasm, or better still, multi orgasm? And would you recommend this for the best sexual position to achieve this? Thank you, Emily. Kind regards, Ron.

It's called the YSL purse. You just, like, hand it over and then they instant.

They instantly orgasm. It's so amazing. Yeah, it is true. You gotta go shopping.

It is a little bit costly.

Might run you 2,000 bucks.

Some Christian Louboutins, some Versace.

I know I still haven't dated that guy yet.

The Louboutin guy.

Any guy who's like, I need guys to buy me really, really. Well, yeah. Really nice things would be awesome. Maybe I need more orgasms. No, really, Ron. Every woman is different. They all orgasm differently. And the most important thing is that you need to communicate with them how they orgasm. So if you're with a woman, like, a lot of women can orgasm, you know, on top or on the bottom. But most women need their clitoris stimulated first before they can. Even if that's how they have an orgasm. A lot of women just have clitoral Orgasms. And then other women can have like multiples by their G spot. So when you're actually having sex and their clitoris, G spot during sex, like, they could mix it all up. But you don't. You're not gonna be able to figure out without talking to the person about how she orgasms or trying to figure it out. She might already know how to move. And so if she's never, not even orgasming at all, she might not have ever had an orgasm. And so a lot of women expect men just to be able to give them that orgasm. But really it's a woman's responsibility. So I would, I would just give. Do a lot of foreplay because that'll really help her of an orgasm, like, go down on her. And a lot of women can orgasms that way on her clitoris. In fact, a lot of women need to have an orgasm first, like a clitoral orgasm, before they can have one during, like a G spot orgasm during sex. So warm her up. And even if it's not oral, whatever you do to warm her up, foreplay, oral sex, give her a massage, will get her turned on and more in the mood and more likely to have more orgasms. But if you just like, go ahead and stick it in, like, that's probably not gonna be the time she's gonna have multiple multiples. So target or G spot or clitoris, you can find the best way to find her G spot beforehand if you, like, are going down. Or you can use your finger and the come hither motion. I feel like people already, like, go to my website and Google g spot location sexylemy.com no1sexy.com no one's done the G spot locator app yet, by the way. See, I told Dr. Drew about it. He just laughed. I'm like, yeah, I don't know how it's gonna work. And then. Sex toys are amazing. A lot of women might have toys and they might not want to tell you that a lot of women just can't have an orgasm with a guy or during, during intercourse. And there's like little clitoral toys, whatever. Don't be intimidated. She might use that. You might want to use that on her while you're going down on her. You can use your tongue and the vibrator. She can use it during sex. Ask her. She'll probably show you that she has one. But be really cool about it. And then she'll have orgasms. And it's not just because of the toy. It's a combination. It's not going to replace you. Don't be freaked out. And that's what I suggest, Ron. But I think that's great that you know, if you're in a long term relationship. Let me look a lot. I don't know if you are, but. But there are. Again, there is no sexual vision. You got to talk to her and you got to work on it. But women can have multiples. Women can have 10. I've had 10.

It's crazy.

It's crazy.

There was this news story. The other guy or the guy who can't stop having orgasms, he like have a hundred plus in a day.

Really?

Yeah.

I've heard about. I heard a woman like this, but yeah, it's kind of a burden. Okay, so it can be. Okay. So I think we're gonna wrap up now.

We do.

Yeah.

Have to wrap up right now.

I know. I love you. It's Friday. We gotta go party. It was so awesome seeing you.

It was nice seeing you too. Thank you for everyone that always hits me up on Twitter and Instagram, Menace M E N A C E and talk about the show and stuff like that. It's cool.

I know. It is awesome. People love you. They love us. They love us together. We're back together 10 years. It's almost our 10 year anniversary.

I know.

I was thinking we have to do something like we used to talk about. Remember we were like the 69th show and then we were like the 1 69th show and now it's like 2000 that I've done. Can we do something?

Yeah, we can do something.

A live show.

A live show?

Yeah.

What do you mean live show?

Like a live podcast show Somewhere in la people aren't doing that. That's like the trend.

It is the trend.

Do I want to do? We've never done a live show, have we? No, we've talked about it. Let's do that.

Okay.

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