Beards, Blindfolds & Finger Vibes: What Women Really Want

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? My man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know, Emily's not the kind.

Of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com and check out all the fun stuff we have going on there. All the blogs, all the posts, all the videos. And also you can easily subscribe to the podcast. You know, we release two podcasts a week. Subscribe to our newsletter, social media, all that stuff, and also shop at our store. You know, we have a store there because I talk about a lot of fun toys that I like and products and you can find them all on the website. Well, I'm excited for today's show. Cause we've got the team here.

Hey, guys. Okay, we've got Madison. Jamie, welcome back to the show.

Thanks. Good to be here.

Always a pleasure.

Always a pleasure. Happy spring.

Oh, yeah, Happy spring.

That's feeling very springy here in California. But I don't want to complain because it's like snowing everywhere else and people will hate us for that. Yeah, look at me talking about the weather. Sex show. People are just tuning off right now. I will not talk about weather very often. However, it is spring and I'm glad you guys are here because we've had quite a year here, quite a. Quite a winter. And now we're talking about some toys that we like.

Yeah.

And you know, doing that kind of thing today. I don't know.

Yeah. You know, just something different for us that we've never done before.

Yeah.

It's always fun to get tasked with masturbation for work.

You know, it is. I'm like, have you tried this out? But I'm usually the one because I'm kind of late with things like, I haven't tried it out. Yeah.

So, yeah, no, that's really funny. Like putting on your calendar like, emily, go home and masturbate.

No, literally, it says that stuff on my calendar. It says like toys. Not that it's not fun, you guys. I still love my job, don't get me wrong. But yeah, we've been, you know, trying out toys, talking about sex, all that stuff. What's going on with you guys? Anything new and exciting I need to know about? I haven't been around that much, like the last few weeks. I've had like family in town and travel and so I feel like we can just really connect here on front of everybody.

Well, it's not really sex related at all, but that's fine.

Jamie, just tell me what's up.

Well, me and Madison actually are both experimenting with.

Together.

Yes. No, but a. Like a new way to take vitamins, I guess.

Oh.

Oh, okay.

Yeah.

Health with la.

Okay, so get this and this. Actually, now that I Think about it is like, one of the most LA things, probably, but it's a vaporizer, but just for, like, vitamins. For specific vitamins. Because, like, I really low in B12, like, like seriously low. And my doctor wants me to come in, like, every two weeks and, like, get a B12 injection. And it's like, I don't have time to do that.

Who's got time, right? I can't even put gas in my car.

No. So I saw these vaporizers online, and each vaporizer has four up to 14 injections in it. It's like $9 per vaporizer. And it's supposed to give you, like, you know, the amount of B12, same.

As you get in the shots. This is amazing. Everyone's low on B. It seems like it's like the thing now.

Yeah.

Maybe we're just finding out more.

So I'm curious to see how it works out. And I was telling Madison about it and we were both like, oh, we're gonna buy it right now. And they came. They came in the mail super fast, too.

Yeah. No, I mean, honestly, I have one. You can try.

Vaporizer. Why not just take the pills? The B12 pills, vitamins. I get it. Because I get a shock.

Yeah, life moves pretty fast, you know, if you don't slow down once in a while, you're gonna miss it. No. So it's just for LA people, because apparently we will vape anything that you hand us.

That's true.

I was like, do you get confused.

Between your pod Vape and your B12 vape?

No, it says vitamin very big on it.

What a nice accident to happen. That would be fun.

Exactly. Like, oh, my God. I meant to get. I meant to, you know, get healthier here at the B12, but I just got really stoned at the office for some reason.

I feel like the energy's not coming.

Hmm. Right. Exactly. I can't focus on tasks at.

I just feel tired.

So, you guys, last night I went to America's Got Talent.

Oh, that's fun.

Did they have talent, though, is the real question.

They did have some talent. I thought it was interesting, though. I went with my family. Cause they're in town and I've never seen the show before. Shock. Although I do have my new tv, shiny TV that's all set up and I'm waiting to turn it on any day now. But it was interesting. It was like, you know. Yeah, there was some talent, but it was one of the talent. It was one of the shows where they, you know, it's the audition shows, auditioning for it.

So it's not people who are like, we're 100% certain that they have talent. These are the people who were talented enough to get to a point where we can figure out if they have talent.

Right, exactly. And it was all. A lot of them were not Americans, though. That was a weird part. Like, they were not Americans with talent. They were like Ukrainians with talent.

Well, that's exciting. I mean, we're the land of opportunity.

We are.

That is good. That's inclusive.

The only awkward part there was a comedian. He was the only one who got buzzed off because he did a stand up thing and it was about sex. And I thought it was very interesting and he was very funny. But I knew that for the American audience that they would never let that fly on television, which still really upsets me.

And it's a family show.

It is a family show. So what was this guy thinking? Except for this is the weird thing is that my niece, who's 8, was looking. She just knows that I do something with like. Sex is the word. And she also. We're on Snapchat. And so the second he said sex, she just looks at me like this. These eyes. Like, Emmy knows what that word is. So that was a fun night.

She's like, do you know him? Do you work with him?

Do you work with him? Because sex is like the thing. Like, that's the only time I've ever seen it and heard it. Now someone's saying it on stage.

Especially when you.

But they buzzed him off the st.

He's the only one that got buzzed off.

He's the only one. Out of all the people. Oh, wow. I thought he was funny.

America's just not ready for that.

America doesn't have sex. America needs more sex.

Certainly not during prime time.

Not during prime time. Okay. Speaking of sex, you guys, I've got some sex in the news. Let's talk about this. If you want to turn a lady on, just frown at her and sweat profusely. How about that? The things that we find attractive.

I'm turned on already.

We wouldn't put that on our bumble profiles, for example.

I would.

You would. You'd say, sweat all over me, baby?

No, but it would be hilarious.

You should actually. This actually would be funny. You'd be like, I read a story.

No.

Yeah, literally. I mean, it'd just be like, hey, like, only swipe right if you're really good at frowning.

Exactly. Right.

Well.

But apparently we find this attractive. What turns a woman on is something most men often find complicated. Science has done a little of the hard work for you, delving into the intricate female mind to discover what really gets her going. Well, most men, we hope, know that listening to her, treating her with respect, putting in the effort to spend time with her goes a long way. There's a few other traits that put you ahead in the race for her affection. So before you go on the date, take a look at what turns a woman on according to science. Now, the only thing upsetting about this I'm going to get. I'm going to read this to you all because I just found it interesting and I thought we could talk about this. We've got women in the room here. I don't want men walking around now with a furrowed eyebrow because that's just what they think is cute. Like, if there's like, hey, I better. This is going to be attractive. I think it's just if you naturally fur your brow.

Yeah, I mean, well, I think it's the furrowed brow. So when I was in my communication courses, we took, like, entire segments of nonverbal communication. And there's like, all these little, like, micro expressions and what they mean when you look at someone with a furrowed brow. It's not the furrowed brow that's necessarily the attractive part. It's what it means about the furrowed brow. Maybe he's just glaring because there's sun in his eyes. Or maybe he's a broody bad boy with, like, a problem that you can fix.

That's what it is. That's what it is. So the first thing is the furrowed eyebrow. So a furrowed. A furrowed or wrinkled brow can turn a woman on more. More than a happy face. So the study says that feminine who displayed the dark triad features of narcissism, Machiavelliism and psychopathy.

Yeah, no, that's a dark.

More attractive to women. I was like, wait, we like our.

Men Christian gray style.

What was I saying exactly? Totally. He's so complicated. I know. That's Alina. Okay, we're bringing Alina. We've got a fourth year. She's like our silent fourth person. Wasn't gonna say, but Helena is, like, new on our team. Hi, guys. I was like, do you want to talk? Do you now want to talk? No pressure. And here she is.

Only if I get to talk about complicated men.

Please. Yes. No, we are talk about y'. All. Welcome to the show. Because that's what we do. And women. So it finds out these traits are more attractive to women, and it all has to do with the perception of social success. So of these traits, narcissism was most clearly associated with social success and physical and psychological health benefits in men. The study found that women with a preference for highly narcissistic men's faces had more children.

Interesting.

Attracted to narcissists.

What's really funny is if it was a woman walking around this furrowed brow, it would be approximately five seconds before some well meaning man walked over and was like, so smile honey. You're so much prettier when you smile. I'm gonna start going over to guys with furrowed brows and being like, smile. You look so much prettier when you smile. And like watching them or one of.

Her friends is like, you should totally get Botox. Yeah, that's what happened for a woman. Okay, so the fur brow, this is just, I mean, it's just, this is just interesting about what we find attractive. I'm not saying you have to do it, but the other thing we find is creativity and intelligence. It seems obvious maybe, but this is important nonetheless. The study found that men who take part in more creative activities such as photography, playing in a band, writing poetry are more attractive. Sports also topped the list. And the study found that the most guaranteed way to attract a partner was through intellectual interest and creative achievement. So men who work in creative industries such as web design, writing or art are more likely to get the girl. But are they likely to keep him? Because seriously, the guy in the band, like unless he's in a successful band, I'm sorry, but like, I love people pursuing their passion. You know, when I pursued this, I had 10 other jobs at the beginning. So if you're only in a band or you're only. You know what I mean, you're not making it. I get it.

But like I dated a drummer, a very not intellectual drummer for two years. And at first the band thing was really cute. Cause I was 18, I was like, oh my God, like he's a drummer in a band, it's so hot. Two years later, I'm 20, I'm like looking into like getting serious about school and transferring. He's still talking about how his band's gonna make it. And he was like 26, 27 at the time. And I was, yeah, he was older and so I was just looking at him was like, no, it's not cute anymore.

Right, right. Nothing wrong being in the creative industries. But you know, I guess what we in a primal sense find attractive, it's.

A sweaty thing, it's cause new confidence.

Really it is True that they're confident in pursuing their passions and their dreams. But then do you think this changes though also because you're like, yeah, but some women are like, I want the guy who has a stable job and the investment banker.

Absolutely. Most of my friends, granted I went to private kind of religious college. But yeah, all the women there wanted like business majors. That was like it, you know, the.

More passionate though I feel like it's like also associated with like being in tune with like your emotions in a way. And so they're not afraid to be like romantic and they're not afraid to be certain ways. But sometimes I found in my thing is that they're too emotional. Like I dated a basist and like he was super great and you know, like the sex was really great and he was like really in tune. Conversationally and passionate, intimate. But he was just too much, like there was too much emotions there.

So I was like kind of like the Celica balance, right?

Yeah.

And this is so confusing. I'm not going to say that you all need to start. Well next we're going to get to sweating and stubble and furrowing brows. But you don't need. We're just saying that this is like, you know, a study that was shown that what women kind of find attractive. And we're kind of just giving our opinions on this. But I don't want people to go start like furrowing. Do you know what I'm saying? Like the point of this is just sort of.

Yeah, this is like, it's fun, it's lighthearted. It's like this is what women find attractive. According to science isn't like you need to go out and join a band.

And grow your concerned about men right now. I just have so much passion, compassion always because I get, I get concerned. But it is true. I've been at all sides of the spectrum. Dating the artist, eating the guy, you know. And I think it does come down to passion to someone who's really like when you're looking. And it does change. Like in college, like I dated a drummer as well. It was like in the popular band at college. And like I probably dated him for two months because I had the biggest crush on him for like the entire semester. I remember a class we were taking. I don't even remember the class. Slim sociology class. We were probably learning about this stuff, which is why I'm learning about again now because I probably was staring at this guy Jeffy the whole time and he was in the popular band and he was so Cute. But I dated him for two months just because he was in the. And it was hard to watch him in the band. But you see, not that bright and not that. Not that interesting. Never make the move. And then I had to make. It was. He was confusing, but it was just. There's something very sexy about that.

I think a pianist would be a good, A good musician to get with because they're like very technical and like, I would think of as more like.

Artists are very sensitive too. Yeah, that's probably part of what we're drawn to. Yes, we are. Right. But not the overdose of sensitivity, but I think the passion too. Because even now, like when I'm dating and I'm talking, I actually had this guy asked me, we were talking on the phone because now I'm doing all the, the online dating stuff. And I'm like, okay, I'm not gonna go out for a date with a guy. I want to talk to him.

First phone interview.

I want you on the phone just even for a minute. Not because if I find your voice attractive or not, but like, let's just break some things down. And, and. And he's like, well, what are your deal breakers? Like, he asked me that right away and I thought that was interesting.

And I thought guys who asked me about my deal breakers.

Yeah. No, really, I'm like, you just did it. We're done. I'm out. But I really said to him, and this is where I. Again, this has changed. This might have been different answer. But I said, I just want someone who's kind of, who is kind of settled in their life and their path right now. And they're like really passionate about what, what they're doing for like with their life's purpose. They're not still trying to figure it all out, which I get. That's kind of the stage of the life that I'm in right now. And then I said I couldn't really. It's so funny because it's about the person really, because I think we could say we have a million deal breakers. Then you could just like meet someone. You're like, all those things go out the window. Like, I don't want a smoker. And then he's like, smoking. I'm like, that's, you know, I love the way your smoke smells, love the way you blow it out your nose. That's smart. Okay, but moving on. Stubble. Forget what you heard about being clean shaven. It's not what women want. An older beard. I thought it was like an older man. Older Yeah, I was like, what? Or stubble. Specifically 10 day old stubble. 11th day. I guess you shave it or something. I don't know. Is more of a turn on to women. Men with a clean shaven look appeared just as healthy as men with beards, but women rated men with beards higher for perceived parenting skills. But heavy stubble was more attractive than beards. And they said this is more manly when they have facial hair. How do you guys feel about facial hair?

I like it.

Yeah. My husband has a beard and I.

Would die if he shaved it.

Really? Has he always had a beard? No. When I look at pictures of him back when he didn't have one, I'm.

Like, I'm so glad he grew the beard.

Yeah.

He knows.

He knows how I feel about that. Yeah.

It's just very manly.

It is manly. It's true. But then there's some guys who just. They can't for whatever reasons, and that's fine. No, but some men can't. They're like.

It's the saddest thing I've ever.

It's not that they're less manly.

I never realized it was like a genetic thing that you're either born with the ability to grow it or not. And like, you just. You hit a genet genetic lottery. If some people are able to have full beards. But like, I have a best friend who he. His girlfriend listens to this podcast, so she knows exactly who I'm talking about. But he. For the longest time, it was like a running joke that, like, he couldn't grow facial hair. And after a while I realized, like, we would all tease him about it, but he probably felt kind of bad.

Yeah. No, it's like men who lose their hair and can't grow the hair, like, they can't do anything about it. We can get extensions. We can get. We get hair where we don't want it. We get lasered. Men, like, they can't do anything about it. You can't have, like, fake stubble extensions put in.

Gonna use some of that, like, revital ash on his facial grow.

That bad boy Biotin. Right.

It's only 2017. Just wait. I'm sure there's gonna be more extensions.

You know how when you get the fake eyelashes, you put one eyelash. They put one stubble in at a time.

The new hair plugs.

But then you'd be having sex with them and they'd fall off on the bed.

Oh, no, no, no, no.

Okay. A deep voice. A voice is known to affect the perceived attractiveness of a person. A Low, husky voice to be more attractive voice as it's perceived as more dominant. It's also influenced by breathiness, which can soften more aggressive tones. So when asking her on a date, use a deep, tender voice with heavy breath and a husky undertone.

What does that even sound like?

I don't know, like, I think it was a stalker. Cause, like, hey, Emily, what are you doing on Friday night? What are you deal breakers, girl?

I'm gonna take you out. Like, oh, my God. In a trash bag and pieces. Like, what on earth?

I don't know. Right, exactly. What was that? Do you guys have ever. Have you ever talked to a guy in his voice? You're like, uh, yes. No.

I mean, I just.

I don't think any of these are conscious either. Really?

No, no. I just feel like. I mean, there's just random times where someone's voice does not match what they look like.

That's true.

That sometimes throws you off, and you're just like, okay. Like, you see them, you're like, great. And then they start talking. You're like, whoa, wait a second. Who is speaking for you? Because that is not you.

Exactly.

That's the only time I get a little like, meh. And then there are times, obviously, where I'm like, oh, that guy had a hot voice. But I don't know what it is about the voice. And I wouldn't say that it's necessarily deep breathy or deep and husky or breathy or anything. I think it's just like, some guys have, like, oh, you sound like you're probably attractive.

Yeah. And then sometimes the voice is great, and then maybe they're not as attractive.

The person is awful.

Yeah. Okay. And then sweat. This is the one that was kind of the headline of the story here. Well, most men would be quick to jump in the shower to wash off that post workout trauma. Turns out it's quite a turn on. Women are more sexually aroused, had faster heartbeats, increased levels of the stress hormone cortisol when they smelled male sweat.

Yeah, I mean, I've had that word. It's more of like, I love a guy's scent. But the sweat thing I like so much.

I like the look of like, a sweaty guy. Like, that's like a turn on. But, like, don't come near me, and I don't want to touch you, and I don't want to smell you. I don't think that's attractive at all.

See, there you go, guys.

I used to work at a gym. Like, male sweat is my kryptonite.

Right?

Like, no, thank you.

How are you guys? What do you think?

Yeah, I mean, I think I do like a guy's natural.

The natural.

A natural musk. But like, no, like, if you're like super sweaty. Like, no, especially. Cause it's like. And then like when you're at the gym or when they were testing these women, I'm sure they weren't around their sweaty genitals, they were just around them. Sweaty in general. So, like, if you're around their, like, penis and it's all sweaty, it's going to be way grosser. It's going to smell worse. It's not going to be a turn on at all. It's like super disgusting. That's what I'm saying. So it's like when they were. I think that this study is a little skewed because you can't really just put a woman's face next to a guy's junk.

Right.

In the name of.

I mean, you could if you don't know the junk either. Like, maybe for someone that you're already dating. But it is like, it is, you know, biology here that it's chemical change, a pheromones thing. It is kind of. It is a pheromones thing. I don't think it's.

It's a visual thing.

It's not. No, it's not.

I think it's the smell of sweat. It's the. It is hormones that get off. That come off of a sweaty person.

Exactly.

But I could easily take just like a guy who sat in the sun for a few minutes over, like a sweaty guy who just came out.

Is that the UPS guy you like?

No, no, no, no, no. That's not. That's funny. Okay. Yes, but I have commented on that. But only because he smells like hot skin. Not like a hot man. He smells like. It's like when a person has been in the sun for a long time. Beachy smell.

It's.

Yeah, it's like you can smell the pigmentation. Like you can smell like the top layer of their skin. Kind of like being hot. Like, it's. It's a process. And you can smell. I don't know. I'm also really sensitive to smell.

We get a lot of men delivering packages here and they all smell the same. No, they all smell. This is something I just learned last week because Madison, usually sick. Signing off for them. Do you smell them too, Jamie? Like, I feel like I just want to sniff them next.

I mean, I know what Madison is referring to. I just don't think that I am conscious of it when the UPS people come in. Like, I'm also, like, really sometimes, like, super observant about a lot of things, but I'm in a certain type of zone. Like, literally a war could be going on behind me, and I have no idea. So, like, I'm not really the best person to ask.

I get it. I get it.

That's not a man smell. I smell like that if I spend too much time in the sun.

I've been meaning to talk about that.

Yeah.

Okay, so next thing is clean. She just kidding. Clean sheets. No, you carry deodorant around with you. Like, I love it. Okay. You. You smell like roses. Okay. Clean sheets rank higher than a new hairdo, makeup, and even. Okay. I'm so glad because we say this all the time. And even a hot bath when it comes to. To getting a woman in the mood. In a study of more than 2,000 men and women, researchers found clean sheets came in second on the top turn on lifts right behind losing weight. So get those sheets in the washing machine, you guys. Please, guys, I understand. Like, it's hard, right? So if you don't, you don't have a washer and dryer in your apartment.

You live in an apartment.

Yeah.

You live in an apartment.

Guys, like, it's such a pain. I get it. But, like, you can't. I know. You guys are masturbating every day. You've got. It's just. You got the clean sheets. Can't you just. And I didn't want to tell guys, you could spray stuff on it to make it smell a little better.

Febreze.

That wouldn't work. Febreze. But then it smells good. No, you really need to clean those sheets just like you clean your underwear. Hopefully you guys do that and your socks. But guys just. They, they. They don't know. I don't know. I remember it was a hard struggle for me, too. Like in my 20s, like, trying to figure out, you know, you. When you share a building with someone, yeah, you go down the street, get the quarters, whatever. But you guys, it's important, and it's hot. And we are judging you on that.

Yeah, no, cool. Who.

Who. What sheets do I love? I love the parachute sheets. They're amazing. If you haven't tried them.

No, I haven't.

You get them online. Cut out the middleman, that whole thing.

What was the other one that you had that we did?

The bowl and branch.

Bow and branch. Bowl and branch.

They were really soft.

Those are.

They probably took Away my cue. I don't know why these companies do this. My podcast lasts forever, literally. Evergreen, right? You can listen to them for the last three years on iTunes, if anyone's interested. I have 12 more years before that or nine more years before that that aren't available. Just email Madison.

Just kidding.

But. But it's like the codes go away with some of these companies, but Bowling Branch, who knows? If you use. I don't know if it was Bowling Branch slash Emily. They'll be pissed right now, but. Or code Emily. But those are really soft.

They were so nice.

They were.

We did a video.

Yeah, we had a video. And like, about having a meeting in Emily's bed. But the funny thing is, is that we actually had the meeting in Emily's bed. Like, it wasn't, like, fake. Like, it was a real.

We were all in my.

Wait, this is on Instagram, right?

It's on our website, I believe. And it's definitely on YouTube.

I thought it was an Instagram. No, it isn't Instagram.

I know.

Roll down. You can see us all in bed. But it was like. That was kind of funny. It was cuddly and they were soft. Okay, whatever. Just get. Okay, here's the other thing. You know how much money you're wasting on other things? Because I know for the longest time, it just occurred to me that I was like, oh, I could have two sets of sheets.

Yeah.

And they're, like, not that expensive. You could get really nice, like, thread count. High thread count sheets. So you know how you just like wasting money on other things? Just don't get that extra beer or whatever. Save up some sheets.

Promo code Emily. If it still works.

Oh, yeah. Promo code Emily for 20% off. And if not, tell them they should do it again. Email them. Okay. And this one's interesting. Attractive name. Have you guys ever thought about this? Apparently, it's a thing when it comes to dating. Names like Ryan, James, Jack, and Chris are the most attractive names a man can have. James topped the list for perceived success. Jack for the luckiest. For the list of the luckiest name, followed by Chris. I hate to say the least attractive names, because these guys are gonna feel bad right now, but you're hot. Don't worry. Peter, Thomas, and George.

George Costanza. That's all I can do.

I don't know, but that's. I guess I could. I don't. Do you guys think about that? When you're looking some calls, you're like, oh, God, you really want to get George. It's very Romance novel Y to me. Yeah, exactly.

I've heard. Yeah, I've heard people be like, oh, like, Madison, That's a hot name. And I'm like, really? Because I know a bunch of children named Madison right now. So, like, where are you pulling that out of? I don't understand this whole idea of hot names versus not hot names. And I would never. I think Ryan, James, Dak, and Chris just sound, like, really lame.

Whose name? It isn't Chris. Every guy's name is Matt, though. I've realized, like, I even noticed, like, literally every guy. Is that your husband's name or something?

No, it's not.

It is. Every guy's name is Matt. Wherever you go, every guy you meet. Hey, Matt. Yeah. Really? I just guessed that their name's Matt because it probably is. But I'm not great with names, especially in college. And this is not a new thing. I know you guys think, like, I don't remember anything, but I didn't in college either. I know. It's true. I actually don't remember anything or anyone. But this has been going on since college. And here's why. Men's names are so hard for me, because, like, most of them have one syllable. So, like, Bob, John, Matt, Chris, Mark, Dave, John, Rob, Bob. I said Bob, Matt. And I was like, I don't know. Like, they're all. They all kind of sound the same, and then eventually they look the same. That's a whole other story. So, okay, let's give a shout out to our sponsors. This was good. Anything else? Any other? Let's round this up. This was just interesting for science. And clean your sheets, I think, is the biggest.

Absolutely. I think that was the most relatable of all of these. I was like, yeah, dude, clean sheets no matter what else. Like, that is a deal breaker, especially.

If you have pets. Oh, my God. To be honest. Have a great story about that.

What? Go.

Okay, so. And I got really mad because they were close. I'd never really been set up before. Like, my friend was like, hey, I think that you would really like this coworker of mine. And he told his coworker, like, hey, I think you'd like this friend of mine. So we met, and I was like, okay. He's like, you know, he's attractive. Like, I'm down. So I went to his apartment, like, you know, after we had hung out in public, like, around a group of people, and I go to his house. And first of all, it wasn't even. The worst thing was that she. Well, actually was the worst things. But, like, get into his apartment, and apparently he lives with, like, seven other dudes. And they were just all there. So I was like, okay, well, this is not awkward at all because I'm obviously coming over here for what, cookies? Like, no.

Right?

So we go into his room and he. I'm like, it's really cute at first. I'm like, oh, you have chinchillas. That's great. You know? And so he's, like, letting them out, and they're, like, running all over his room and all over his bed and stuff. And I'm like, they're, like, shedding. They're shitting on your bed.

Shitting or shitting?

Shitting. Like, they're taking craps. Like, well, you were there. Yeah, they're like bunnies, you know, so they just crap everywhere.

And he was like, hey.

And so he just goes and sits on his bed, and I'm like, are you gonna.

Like, there's poop right there. And he sits next to me. Yeah.

I was like, hey, you gonna do something about that before we get going here? Because. And he kind of looked at me like I was the weird one, questioning whether or not he should be cleaning his sheets right then and there. And I'm like, I don't know how this normally goes for you.

I'm like, I'm not okay with having intercourse on top of chinchilla. Like, I'm sorry.

No, dude, draw the line there. I'm glad.

No, like, literally, he's like, well, did it. I was like. I was like. I just pulled. I did it for him. I pulled his sheets off.

And then you had sex with him.

Well, I mean, I can't.

Well, you're already there. You're already there. Yo, dude, you're already mid city. You gotta bang them. You gotta bang them. I get it. Never.

Never saw me.

That is a good story, though. I love it. So clean sheets. Okay, Got it. Perfect. Okay, so now shout out to our sponsors, and then we'll be right back with some. Oh, my God. Some sexy stuff. All right.

Hi, everyone. We're back. I am back. Okay, Helena had to leave. Bye, Helena. Okay, so we talked a lot about spring cleaning this month. Because it is spring. Spring is a great time to clean up everything. Clean out your house, get rid of all the stuff that doesn't work, including bad relationships, dumping season, and we've encouraged you to get rid of that. Bad patterns, all that stuff. Okay, so. So we wanted to get rid of it. We even did a giveaway. Spring cleaning giveaway. We're going to be contacting you if you want a magic wand. But in that spirit of spring cleaning, we want to share what we've been up to in the bedroom this month. Because we have clean sheets and we've cleaned fresh. Spank, spank. We spank, spanking, clean, fresh new toys.

Brand spanking new, fresh, clean toys. It's like a word jumble.

I've had a rough night, you guys. America's Got Talent. It was a late night. Okay, so we do have some brand spanking new toys.

There you go, baby.

Nailed it.

Okay, so we've got these toys from FT London. So let me tell you about FT London first. So I used to go to the show called the International Lingerie show every year. It's funny. Everything in sex. Like, we're gonna call it a lingerie show. And there was lingerie there, but there was also. It's in Vegas. There's also all the sex toys, all the companies, all the brands. And then there was always like some standouts every year that people would launch their new brands there. And I met them at this show and there was this guy, Jack, and his partner. I can't remember his business partner. And they had. They're like, you go to these things. If anyone's ever been to a conference. I don't care if you're going to like a technology conference or you're going to like, like a floral conference, flower conference, a gifting conference. You know, they have those gift shows, sexwear conference. They're all like, kind of like, really, they look the same. Like, there's hundreds of booths. I mean, these. If you look in the booth, you're like, oh, there's dildo. Like, oh, there's like a pack of pussy. But it still is a big conference. Also nothing. It's hard to get things to stand out. And this guy Jack, he's Ukrainian and he. They made these. This booth was like this beacon in the middle of this conference of toys that just stood out because their toys were just, just. They were so beautiful. They were so unique. And they had the most amazing drawings and they wore these shirts that they has, like, flowers on them. It was like these blooming flowers. And the toys, which now we're going to talk about, were just. Just. People couldn't stop talking about them. They won all these awards that year, and there was like, nothing like I'd ever seen before. So it turns out Jack, who started the company, he's an engineer who was specializing in silicones for the space industry. I love how people get into this industry. He's like, oh, look at all these silicones. I know I can make a really cool sex toy with this. And he. This toy that looks like if you took a vibrator, like a dildo shaped vibe, like a penis shaped vibe, and if you split it down the middle and both sides felt, it looks like a flower blooming. And they're just very Madison Googled images. So to. How would you explain it, Madison, to our crowd?

The best thing I could possibly come up with was that it looked like an upside down bell curve. So for all of my fellow math nerds out there, that's what you're working with. Except it. I like Emily's imagery more because it does kind of split like two petals.

Two petals, yeah.

Yeah, totally.

And. And they were just cool. And you're like, yeah. And sometimes things just look really cool and you're like, oh. And they really were. They are very soft. It was just the whole design and shape of them were cool. And they just. Jack is the nicest guy and his partner, they were just cool. And everyone brought you pasta. He brought me pasta. He brought me like pasta and he brought me chocolates and he brought me like tea from Russia. He was very nice. He lives in Russia now. He's lovely man. So anyway, I've always loved their toys and now they have like a whole. That was like four years ago. And they have a whole new thing so FT London, and they have a whole bunch of new toys that they came out with. And. And we all got to try them recently. This toy that I was talking about was called the G Vibe, and it was very successful toy. And now they came out with the G Vibe mini, which was sold out because we started talking about this, like probably like a month or two ago. From a purely superficial level. I love the color. I love that mint green. Like, I almost think, like, that's not a reason to buy a toy, but like the softness and the color and the packaging. Beautiful. The G Vibe mini, we all tried it. Yeah. Very unique shape. And this one's, again, it's a little smaller than the larger one. And it's designed to adapt to every anatomy and body type. And that was kind of their point in making these toys. Oh, when he came up with the idea, when he was like sitting at Nassau, I don't know where he was, but he was like, oh, I. And he has a wife and they were trying these out, he said, God, I'd love a toy that could really go inside of a woman. And then it Would, like, bloom inside of her and be able to fill her up in a way and hit all of her spots. The G spot, the A spot, all the different spots we talk about. He's like, this could do it. And you could use it a lot of different ways. A lot of different touch points we're going to talk about. So the G Vibe Mini, very unique shape for every anatomy and body type. And you can use it for dual stimulation internally, externally, anally. Men can use it for prostate stimulation. We haven't had any men in here to try yet, though, which we. I don't know. Like, maybe we should give Michael Sound guys one to go home with. I think it's a great toy. So six vibration patterns. Their silicone is like no other silicone that I've ever felt in a toy. It's so soft, I kind of want to cuddle with it.

It's. No, it's like, it's nice to hold on to. Like, I was, like, holding it and, like, kind of spinning one of them around my finger and was like, this is just pleasant. Like, I would keep this around, right?

Yeah.

No, and you can't really tell. It doesn't really look like a sex toy. If you've got, like, kids, it kind.

Of just looks like, you know, like, you know, like how they have those stress relievers. But it's kind of like a hand crimp.

Yes. It's so.

It's kind. That's what it kind of reminds me of, because it's like, you totally would, like, just find yourself like, oh, crap, I've been holding this for, like, five minutes. I haven't even masturbated yet.

Exactly. You forgot you were even gonna masturbate. Because masturbation can be a huge stress reliever. Maybe this is a dual use.

Oh, there you go.

It's already has a multiple uses, but, you know, one more. So. So what did you guys think about the G Vibe Mini from FT London? Let's just have a chat about it.

Upon first glance, Madison. Yeah, Hi. I get a little bit nervous when they have a toy that's, like, use it so many ways. Cause I'm like, oh, crap, I'm never gonna be able to do all these ways with it. But, like, it was really cool to play around with it, to kind of, like, look at it. Be like, all right, so where is this gonna go? And then after I struggled for a night, Jamie was like, hey, there's a diagram.

I was like, okay, well, here's the thing about their toys, which I love. They're okay, again, to talk superficially. They come in these beautiful cardboard boxes, like the products, like, nestled inside. And then they have these drawings. I. I bet you Jack drew these. It has. Explains to you they're very pleasant drawings about how to use.

They're super great.

So Madison pulled out the instructions.

Yeah, so the instructions saved me. And then you can kind of see just the different ways if you're like. You know, if you're used to using a toy that, like, either goes inside you or it goes outside of you. Like, for instance, the. Another one that comes to mind is the Doc Johnson trip, where I was like, there's so many ways to use this. Like, I feel almost dwarfed by the ability to, like, masturbate with it. Cause it's just so unique. But this one's really cool because you can use it for clitoral and vaginal stimulation, which is how, like, you know, if you like rabbit vibrators and stuff like that, it's a really cool thing to do. And I like that a lot. I have trouble with just G spot stimulation by itself helps for me to have clitoral contact as well. So that's how I used it. And I thought it was pretty cool. I liked the way that it felt in my hand, which was awesome. And I thought it was really easy to handle, which is cool because you get big G spot vibes, and they're, like, long, and you kind of have to, like, finagle them into you. Whereas this one was just, like, perfect. It was so close.

Yeah.

Jamie, what'd you think?

I mean, I. I agree. I liked it for the dual stimulation the most because I feel like it's like a. Like a comfortable clothespin that you can, like, goes have like, the one, one leg goes on your clitoris, and the other leg goes inside of you and, like, hits your G spot. And the cool thing is, is that, like, when you. When you move your legs in certain ways, or if you elevate your pelvis or if you put your legs closer together, like, you can feel the difference in, like, how the arms are, like, right closer together or if they're farther apart. That's why it's, like, good to look at the instructions one, because it really does help you figure out different ways that you can do it. When I use toys like this, I like to start out with dual stimulation, but then try it just internally.

Right.

I really like the diagrams because it's like, when you put it inside you, they kind of come closer together. When you put your legs together, and up.

Up, Right. Exactly.

And that's how, for me, how I felt it more on my G spot, and it felt more intense.

Put your legs together and up. Like. Like elevated or like, back over your head kind of thing. Or like, when you're, like, getting a gynecological exam.

It's almost like when you're in wheelbarrow position, but there's no partner there. So it's just you laying on your back with your legs kind of, like, up.

Yeah, yeah.

And like, kind of like up your shoulders.

And the more you move, it's very delicate, right? It can. You can feel the different. Because it has those very strong motors on either end. Feel where it was hitting inside of you. I agree. Right. I felt that too. And before I know that I'm ever gonna have any, like, even G spot sensations or turn ons, I have to have a clitor. I have to, like, knock out the clitoral orgasm. So knock it out. Just get that out of there. And so. So I was like, well, I'm just gonna use this toy for that. And I used it, and I just before I inserted it, and I just, like, pinch those two motors together, like, on my clitoris and my labia. I'm just huge. Thank you. See, it's like recipes for showing recipes. Let me write that down. When did you add the flour? Oh, my gosh. So, yeah, so I squeezed it together in my clitoris, and then I would, like, invert it, and I would just put the two little tips on, like, my labia. And, like, because that just totally turns. That's what gets me going there. And then I, like. Then I would flip it back around. It's like acrobatics with the G vibe mini. And then had the clitoral, which was awesome, per usual. And then I put it inside me. And I know you're saying it's a little different because you have to squeeze it together, and then it opens. And I'd use their other. The G vibe years ago, when they got it. When I got it. And this is like. This is totally different. But. And I was thinking, well, how is this really gonna hit the G spot? Because it's like the other one was, like, so big, and this one's, like, so much smaller. Then I left it on my clitoris, and then I stuck it inside. I hit the G spot, and it hit it, like, perfectly the first time. So I elevated my butt. It was actually really. It nicely, like, nestled on my clitoris and hit the G spot. But I had to raise my Pelvis up. I had to, like, do that, which I. I sometimes forget to do that anyway, even though I know I talk about it all the time. And so that. That felt really good for me. Yeah, I hit it nicely. And then what else did I do with it? I did a bunch of different things. I did. I had a whole day. It was like a date on Saturday night. And then I. I twisted it around. Because we're always saying there's all these sensitive parts of our vagina. And we really talk about the clitoris and the G spot, but I feel like, again, we talk about, like, masturbation and exploration. And I twisted it around just to see, like, what kind. And I. And I really did feel on those motors that I was like, turned on the whole time from different areas that I hadn't felt stimulated inside of me in a while. There's kind of like dead, dead zones in our vagina.

Yeah.

Because if you don't. It's like muscles, like, or something. Let's say you only, like, run or just exercise and you play tennis. You're like, oh, my God, I have muscles I didn't know that I had. And you start to feel, like, sore in certain parts. It's kind of like that with your vagina. I think I keep saying vagina.

No, totally.

And I feel like it was like hitting spots. So I was like, twisting it around and it was like. I don't know. I had a really great orgasms and sensations, and a lot of it wasn't even orgasm. It was sort of like an arousal process that led up to, like, like, more orgasms. I think I had like six.

Oh, wow.

Casual.

Just regular date night, you know?

Exactly.

Yeah. It is cool. You mentioned earlier, but they have the dual motors, so, like, there's a motor in each leg and the part that you hold doesn't have a motor in it, so you're not losing any of the vibration power. Whereas, like, sometimes if you've got like a handheld vibrator, your hand naturally takes away a little bit of that vibration. It, like, absorbs it. So you don't get the full effect.

Exactly.

This has all the vibration. The motors are in the tip. So you know that wherever you put those tips is gonn to be stimulated the best. I think a lot of women don't realize I might have talked about this before. The opening of your vagina is so sensitive. It's like, like riddled with nerve. Yeah, exactly. The inner two thirds. It's like when we're always talking about penis size and why you know, having a big penis doesn't necessarily mean you can't pleasure a woman, because the inner two thirds are the most. Are some of the most sensitive parts. So I had a lot of fun using one of the arms, like, up by my clitoris. And the other one was just kind of like at the entrance of the vagina, which I thought was nice that I tried that.

Yes, yes.

And it was. Yeah. And I was like, oh, like, this is cool. This is something that most sex toys can't do. Like, you can't just have it resting at the opening, you know? So that was awesome.

And then.

Yeah.

Did I cut you?

Nothing.

That was great, because. No, you just reminded me of something. What I felt. I can't believe. It was, like, my best point, because you know what's funny? When you're. When you're masturbating and you're not thinking, you're just kind of in your body, and then I'm also thinking about what I want to say about it. It's very confusing, right? Because I want to, like, give you guys my authentic thing, but I don't want to be thinking about it because I'm masturbating and I'm in the moment. But you just reminded me that I felt like the little. The tips was like a little tongue. When I did the dual, it was like a little tongue because I'm super sensitive in those, in the two thirds. So I just left it sitting there for me. That's like, okay, how do I explain this? So it was just like, resting, like a tongue, like nestling, but then I push it harder, and then it's, like, hitting up on my G spot. So it felt like a little tongue, like it was like oral sex. Huge fan, as. You know, like, just. If I can have a toy that just does that, I'm happy. And that's what it felt like to me, like a tongue. And I got that same sensation of, like, oral sex. So I love that. And the toy also, I did not use it with a male partner, but it is great for that as well. It is for men and for women. You could share it. It's great, like, if you think about how it's shaped with the two, you know, prongs. Great for, like, nestling on the balls. Great, you know, for nipple play, too. Like, squeeze your nipples. So it's got a lot of different uses.

One of the diagrams.

Sketches.

Yeah, one of the sketches shows the two ends. Kind of like the way you're talking about stimulating your clitoris. The two ends Kind of like nestling, like, forming a V against his frenulum.

Right.

New best frenulum. Yeah.

So best frenulum goes in his frenulum. Exactly.

So you like. Yeah, you can, like, kind of, like, cup it around the frenulum.

Do you want to tell what the frenulum is?

Yeah.

People don't know.

For the underside of the penis, like, where the. Like where the. The head kind of like meets the rest of the shaft. On the underside, there's a little triangle. And it's got, like, almost like a little, like. It's like that ribbon, that, like, line underneath your tongue. Like that webbed kind of thing. It's got, like, a tiny little ridge like that. It's called the, like, coronal ridge. I believe. Pulling that out of nowhere. I could have made it up.

It's true. You got this. You've been here.

But then. So the frenulum is like. It's, like the most sensitive part of the head. And the head is the most sensitive part of the penis. So, like, if you're giving oral or something like that and you, like, flick your tongue against it, drives the guys crazy. So the idea, again, using it like a tongue, you could kind of get it up under there, which is cool.

Exactly. And trace it around.

I didn't get a chance to try that out. I'm going to have to.

Yeah. Okay. I won't tell your boyfriend.

Yeah. I have a penis in my life. I should actually be.

You really should. We don't all have penises. Right. In our life, so. Yeah, we gotta do that. So that was cool. The other thing is. Well, should we move on to the next one? Because.

Yeah.

The G Vibe Mini.

Let's move into the G Vibe Mini. The G Vibe. The G Ring. The G Ring. So the G Ring, not to be confused with a C ring or penis ring, cock ring. It's the ultimate finger vibe. You can wear it on your finger. Like, your finger literally becomes a vibrator. It's like the size of a Super bowl ring.

I was trying to think of what was a good. It. Yeah. Yeah.

Made of the same velvety, soft silicone. Perfect for clitoral stimulation during sex or even solo. Six vibration patterns, multiple intensity levels. And 100 waterproof. Just like the G Vibe mini, which. I don't know if I mentioned that.

It was the G5 Mini. 100 waterproof.

I thought it was. If it's not, I might be wrong.

Let me see. I want to double check on that just in case.

Maybe it's not, but this One has.

A metal on it, so I thought maybe it wasn't. Let me double check.

I assume they all are waterproof. I swear to God, I like just what I.

It says it is 100% waterproof. My bad.

I just. I just love. Okay, so I love the idea of just Eddie finger vibe. It reminds you of, like, Jimmy Jane came out with the hello touch years ago, five years ago. And it was so cool because you get on two of your fingers, like these little finger pads with that one, and you could touch your partner and you become like a human vibrator. Your finger does your hands. So this I love. And that was a little more tricky because you got to put on your wrist. It's like a whole contraption. This just goes around your finger and it's like. So that means that anywhere. It's strong, too, that anywhere you touch, you get vibration. So you could easily use it for. Yeah, for masturbation. You put it on your nipples, you put on your clitoris. You could, like, give a massage with it, turn yourself on. Like, I'm always telling, like, women, you know, take it slow. And I kind of did that. Like, I've been spending more time doing, you know, all these things, turning myself on slowly, not rushing through masturbation to knock one out. And it just feels good. It's like a little vibrator, like, teasing it all over your body. So it's great for that. It's great for clitoral stimulation and also great for partner sex.

Yeah, no, I actually used it. The first time I ever used it was my jaw was really sore, so I used it to massage the area where my jaw, like, comes up under my ear. And it was really nice. It felt really good. You put on your finger and you just rub the way you would like any sore muscle.

That's true.

And I was sitting there and I was like, God, this feels really good. Like, I had it on a low setting, so it wasn't like rattling my teeth or anything, but just.

Yeah, that'd probably be great for, like, during a blow job.

Well, I was gonna say that I think it's great for a blow job and a hand job. You could use it against your mouth. You could use it, like, on your fingers, like, as you're giving a. A. Yeah. Hand job.

Totally.

Shaft your mouth. Is that what you're saying?

Yeah, she was talking about putting it on your. Where I was putting it in, like, the back jaw area, how we always say.

Right, exactly.

Turning your mouth. But it would be. I think it'd be More advantageous to put it underneath your chin.

Underneath your chin. The chin trick. Do you guys know about this? Putting a vibrator underneath your chin when you're giving a blow job? We've talked about this, but maybe not in a while. Against your. Against your cheek? Totally. Yeah.

I used it on my boyfriend's taint area, and he said it was nice. It, like, was. It was really hard to do during sex. I don't know how anybody can, like, reach around and, like, put pressure on that. Cause I kept, like, accidentally moving, and he was like, oh, crap. Like, I was, like. It was, like, grinding into his, like, perennium.

And it felt good.

It was during sex, but, like, it felt good when it was lightly on it. But once I, like. You know, we're moving around a lot, so I was trying to, like, press it against. And he was like, okay.

Ow.

Like, too much.

Right?

So you have to be careful. Some guys are really sensitive in that area.

Yeah, they're sensitive. 6. You could turn down the vibration, too.

Yeah. Well, I mean, we were in the middle of sex. I wasn't stopping to, like, play around with the buttons or anything. We were just going for it. But I think that it would feel really good also, like, again, against his perennium, like, underneath, kind of like right where his, like, shaft meets his balls might be really good, too. You can play around with it. Cause it's wherever your finger.

Literally wherever you want a vibration in your life, this will go there.

And it was. And it was really nice during sex, too, because, like, a lot of sex toys are kind of bulky, so it's hard. Like, if you're in a position where, like, you're flat on your stomach, for instance, like, getting a sex toy under there is, like, really hard. Sometimes getting even your hand under there is really hard. But, like, if you had it, it's literally. It's, like your fingertip.

So I just. It's so true. I mean, I'm thinking about this. It's like, we always say, like, for. For women, like, we always need more clitoral stimulation during intercourse, that this is, like, the perfect thing if you're like, oh, I'm afraid of, like. Let's say you're, like, thinking, I'm not sure I want to bring a toy. You know, the relationship or whatever, which hopefully you're moving past that. But this is almost like, the perfect toy for intercourse, because it's literally just there on your finger, like, you already, like, start. It looks like a ring. Like a Super bowl ring. That would be Weird. Like, I guess as a woman who run the Super Bowl. But you could just hold it there. Like, it could be easily. Like, we need. We know that women require more clitoral stimulation. And this would do it. Yeah. It's handy.

It's not intimidating at all.

No.

It's literally the smallest thing that was.

It's the least intimidating toy I think you could ever use.

I don't. If anyone was, like, intimidated by that, it'd be like, really, dude? Like, come on.

It's like the size of like, a.

No, it's literally like a ring pop.

Except don't blame your.

I mean, you could.

But taste poly.

I mean, it's waterproof, but don't. It is odorless. That's one of the things that they say on the website. Yeah. And what else can we get?

I love the chargers. The magnetic chargers are so easy. It's just a beautiful, like, really, like, the pack. It's a great gift, too. The boxes, all that. Love them.

The cool thing about the G ring, too, is that, like, if you use some of the other toys that they have, it's, like, kind of serves as like, a remote control for, like, the G plug or, like, which I think.

Is the G plug, right?

Yeah. Which I think is just, like, really cool that it can be a sex toy and. And a remote to another sex toy. Like, that's really ingenious. Like, I don't think.

I think that's genius, too. I was reading review by. By a gay couple who used it, and they were like, oh, my God, it was so hot. Because. Yeah, you've got, like, yeah, two vibrator controlling another vibrator. It's cool.

When they first talked to us at the trade show that I was at when, like, it was the first time I ever met Jack and the saw, all the fun toy stuff, that was the thing that excited me the most was the idea that it could pair with a butt plug and you can use it with a partner. And it's like a remote. Like, that's so fun.

I know. And they also have a great speaking. Apparently they have a great kegel ball. G balls. And their G balls are so cool because I don't know if I've talked about these yet. Is that they. We'll get into it later, check it out on their site. But really, you can wear it and you could. They have an app that pairs up to it, and you can actually measure the progress of your muscles working with this G ball. Like, it strengthening over time. What do you.

They're Sorry. They're they on their website. So the cool thing about them is they.

Yeah.

On you go to gvibe.com, i believe, is the website. And for the G Balls one, they have a. They have tons of videos. Some are, like, fun promotional videos where you're watching it and you're like, this is visually entertaining, but I'm not sure what I'm watching here. And then you have actual instructional videos from Emily on the page as well, I believe, for some of them. But for this video, they have it. The title is Sensation Lucy and Her Pussy.

And it just looks very like. Like a circus font. Popcorn. Like, you know, just like, very. So it's just fun. It's funny.

Oh, yeah, I like it.

I was scrolling and we both laughed because it's like, loosey, you know.

Okay, well, go to our website, click on the ft Lana banner. You can check it out. Do you just see all that? They're just well made, they're well designed, they're smart, they feel good.

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Yeah. Can you? I think you can.

Yes.

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So.

Yeah. So sensation play. Should we talk a little bit about.

Yeah, that was another thing that we've all been kind of focusing on, experimenting.

With some sensation play. Yeah. Meaning playing with different sensations. We have so many senses in our body, and a lot of times we forget to incorporate them all during sex or maybe we've never even tried. And so if you think about what I'm saying, you know, sight, touch, sound, smell, voice.

Yeah.

Talk sound. It's like. It's part of foreplay, I think.

Yeah.

It'S generally, like, a good part of foreplay. And I know Emily, we did a video about it earlier, and I think there's a blog that should be out by the time this podcast airs, so we can definitely link to that so you can see it. Overall sensation play, it's just the, like, experimentation of different senses and how if you take one away, how the others become heightened.

Right. Exactly. Like, that's why I always talk about, like, starting with a blindfold, because then, like, if you put a blindfold on your, you know, partner, then everything else, like, even just the lightest, I just pictured this like a. Put a blindfold on your partner there and then take the G ring and on your finger and just trace it all over their body. Like, they wouldn't know what comes next. And then you could use a paddle for spanking, or you could drip like massage oil, candle wax, massage canned oil. Yeah. Massage oil, or even massage candle oil on your partner. And, like, it's just playing with different sensations and spanking. You know, feathers, touch. Just so fun. So we've been experimenting with that here.

Yeah. Been playing around with it, and we thought it'd be funny. Jamie had a really good sensation play story that we wanted to share.

Jamie's full of stories today.

Yeah. So I'm like, really. I really like cooling things down, like, during sex. So I like to use, like. I like to use ice cubes or, like, things that are, like, really, really cold. And, like, normally during oral sex, you make your mouth really cold and it feels really good to the other person. So, like. And vice versa.

People don't normally do that. You just said normally during sex.

No, I mean, like, I feel like.

That'S a good tip.

Normally people that do that do it for that reason, I would say, I guess.

No, no, no, no. I'm saying this is a good tip, so I want to back you up. Are you saying when you're performing on a man or when a man's performance in general? Well, both.

I say, like, when I, like, I would cool my mouth because every person that I've done that to, every guy I've done that to, like, goes crazy about it. Like, they think it feels really, like, crazy.

It was your mouth.

Yeah, it was really funny. Like, I told a guy to get ice cubes one day time, and he was holding a handful of them, and I started, like, going down on him and, like, making my mouth cold and stuff like that. And he was still. I was like, you know, you can put the other ice cubes down, right? Like, he got so distracted. He, like, was still.

There's, like, melting everywhere.

Yeah, but. No, but the funny story is that when reciprocating, like, my partner, I was like, oh, well, you know, like, cool your mouth down. Like, put ice cubes in your mouth and then go down on me. And then he's like, oh, like, what if I put, like, an ice cube, like, in your vagina? And I was just like, I mean, you can. You can try. Like, sure. Like, I'm sure it'd feel good, but it's like, you know, during sex, and the vagina is already a warm and moist place regardless.

So during sex, it gets even more so. And so, like, literally, like, he put one of the ice cubes in, and it. I swear I melted in, like, five seconds. And it was hilarious. Like, I felt.

And you feel it melting.

Did it feel good? Though.

Yeah, it felt really cool. Like, it was definitely interesting, but it was, like, hilarious because I'm like, oh, my God. Like. Like there's something melting inside me. Like, you know how like, when you drink really cold water and it. You can kind of feel it, like, go down, like your esophagus? It's like. It felt like that, but, like, in my vagina and it was like, crazy.

That's good. I love the blow job. I mean, the ice and the blow jobs, too, because I feel like that's a really. Like, everyone got ice.

Yeah, yeah, it's true. We can all but don't like, because sometimes you can keep the ice in your mouth while you're doing it, but, like, make sure that it's a smaller piece of ice because it will not melt right away.

You don't want it, like, you don't want to choke like that, you know, during that.

You don't want to go that way.

Kind of ruin the moment.

Right, Exactly. That's a good one. Okay, so thank you for that. These are all great tips. Love it. And I have. I was going to say everyone has ice. I did not have ice in San Francisco. Oh, for like, eight years. I lived in a place in the freezer. Just would not make ice. No. I have to, like, buy ice at the store. But if I ran out of it, like, you buy those bags of ice and, like, you don't. Because I was always. Never really had much in my house anyway in the way of food. I always like champagne and ketchup. Like, that was about it in my refrigerator. And then never made ice, so. But now I have ice.

What else do you need?

Yeah, I know.

Truly nothing, except for sometimes ice. But everybody has ice except for me. So let's talk about some other things. We could use handcuffs. Madison, you lately been experimenting?

Yes. So I'm not like a big, like, loss of control person. Like, it's just really who I am.

Yeah, I know.

Go figure, right? If you've been listening to the show for years, you would have had no idea that I like to, you know, know what's going on. But recently, I did give in. Emily gifted me with a liberator. And not just any liberator, like the mack daddy of liberators. It's like the huge one that's like the size of a librarian.

You might know what that is.

Oh, a liberator is a. It's sex furniture. So it's a sex wedge. It's made. It's got like. It's like the same Thing that you would buy if you had, like, acid reflux and needed to sleep upright, but, like, way sexier. And it's, like, with black velvet, and it's got handcuffs attached it to. So my boyfriend and I were planning our, like, sexy night, which is a weekend night, and he pulled it out and kind of, like, was like. He was a little bit dominating. He was like, lay. He's like, lay down. I'm gonna cuff you. And I was like, okay. So he did, and he put me on the ramp, and then he proceeded.

It's called the ramp, isn't it? The greater ramp?

I think, yeah, that's the big one. And he put me on the ramp, and then he, like, went down on me. And it was really more comfortable for him because it was closer. Like, it brought me, like, closer to. To his face. But I also couldn't move, Like, I couldn't, like, move my hands. And, like, they're Velcro cuffs. Like, I probably could have gotten out of them if I wanted to, but, like, they're pretty tight still. So it's like I had no movement whatsoever. I just kind of, like, laid there and, like, let it happen. We didn't have a safe word or anything. I would have just, like, kneed him in the face if something went wrong, but. Sorry.

Sorry, I'm looking it up right now.

Yeah, but, yeah, it was really, really hot. It was like. It was awesome. And granted, like, the positions were kind of, like. You're kind of compromised if you're, like, handcuffed on your back, then you're. You have to, like, switch around and stuff like that if you wanted to try anything different. But, man, it was awesome because I'm.

Trying to picture you sitting there, so your pelvis is raised. You've got the. You've got the handcuffs, and you can't move, and it feels like.

Yeah, basically, you can't. Yeah, you can't move. So I was, like. With it where my upper body was elevated, so I was almost, like, leaning up, and he was, like, still on his, like, hands and knees or whatever, but he had better access because you don't realize that, like, with a woman being, like, slightly tilted one, your G spot is so much more accessible. When it came time for having sex, it was like an entirely. It was like. It was like new penis. Who dis? Because it was, like, an entirely different angle that it was penetrating. Yeah. So that was cool.

Are you gonna hide that one when the parents come? Because it's kind of massive.

I know. Oh, my God. I didn't even think about it. Yeah.

You can feel like a quilt over it.

I have a sheet on it. But, like, right now, like, it has handcuffs on it. Like, I'm not gonna pass it as anything.

Pretty amazing. But you can also use pillows to get this. The same elevation thing. But it's. It's. I love that you used it.

Yeah, totally. And the. The cuffs were, like, a big part of it. And then we also have a. The one of the sport sheets. Paddles. Like, it's not a paddle. It's like a. One of their flogger. It's a crop. That's the one. Cause it's, like, a little bit longer, but it's got like, the really, like, flat, flappy part at the end. It's got two of them. And what that means is that it delivers, like, a sting. That thing can be intense if you use it the right way. So that's always fun. And sometimes we use it in little the living room and leave it out when people come over.

That's fun.

I feel like it looks more disciplinary. Oh, yeah, you're gonna get spanked kind of vibe than like, the paddles do. I don't know why. Even though the paddles look more like spanking tools, like, the crop is just, like, serious business.

Right?

Yeah.

And that. Yeah, like I said, like, that left. You know, we had to do. Afterward, I explained to him about aftercare and, like, the importance of, like, rubbing my butt after he spanked the. Out of it.

Did he notice bank you?

Yeah. No.

He knew how as well as I knew how to spank you. Yeah.

I mean, that's the truth.

True.

Emily. Emily and my boyfriend are the only two people who have spanked me before and also the only two people who have poured candle wax on me. So that is not especially so sweet.

Yeah.

Yeah. So since my biggest experience was Sensation.

Play west, kind of jealous of me A little.

A little bit.

Yeah.

He. I told him. I was like, yeah, I know. Like, Emily.

Emily's done this.

He's like, God damn it.

And he was like, wow. Really? Like, can I see the footage?

I was like, there is footage. People can check out the Sensation Play video that we did on the website.

Yeah, our website, sportssheets.com Emily.

They. I love sports sheets because, first of all, they send us a lot of cool, amazing stuff. And we've all tried it. We really like, it's so different than anything else. And it's all like, they have all different levels. Like, you get a crop or you get, like, a more Serious crop. Or a beautiful crop, like their midnight collection. I just. I don't know. It's been fun for. For us all to play with together. Yeah. So. Okay, so wait, so paddle, spanking, blindfold. Jamie, you use some blindfolds?

Yeah, I've used blindfolds before. And it's true. It's definitely crazy because you don't. It's like everything is surprise that's gonna happen to you. You don't know, like, what's gonna happen. And you really do. It's crazy how much more you feel things when you can't see. And like, it's just kind of like. Especially too. If you stay blindfolded the whole time. It's like literally like. Just like an adventure.

Right. You know, you lose control, kind of like a loss of control. But that's okay. You let that go.

I mean, you definitely have to have a lot of trust. I feel like you have to. It seems like stupid, like you're blindfolding someone to have a lot of trust with them. But, like, you should.

Yeah.

Because.

And breathe.

If you. If you don't trust them, like, you never know. You could be like, where did you go? And unblad fold yourself 10 minutes later and like, all your stuff is stolen.

Right. That's what madness always used to say. Oh, my God, I never want to be tied up to steal my wallet. I'm like, those are the girls you're dating.

I mean, that's what I'm saying. Have trust first.

I know, but blindfolds are fun. Paddles, making all the sensation play stuff is super cool. And yeah, check them out.

Try something new.

Seriously, people, have you even tried it? And this is not that hard. Like, you could. You could buy some of the stuff. That'd be great. Sometimes at home you can use a bandana, cover your eyes. That's cool.

Yeah, totally. I mean, yeah, you could use silk ties. Like, literally put a Fran T shirt over your head. Who cares?

Yeah.

Okay.

If anyone has ever bought the Jeju Mimi, it comes with like. I just. I mean, I don't think it comes with like this black thing that's just like. It looks like a block soft blindfold. I don't really know what it's for.

It's a blindfold or handcuffs. It's silk. I love the shape.

So I'm like. I just thought that that's what I did. Still my firstborn. Have it, like, I don't know if it's intimidating or not. I just have it hanging on my. Like the blind hanging out my Closet.

I did that in college. I remember my first. Just remembering this right now.

Flashback.

I remember that it was my boyfriend's 21st birthday and I rented a hotel room on campus and it was super fancy notes, probably like a Motel 6, but it was like cool. And I got him a cake. God, I was a good girl. I did this, got him a cake and I put in the thing. I think I went to Safeway or whatever it's called there, the stores in Michigan. And we were going back to this hotel room and like using his necktie and like blindfolding him with his like. Cause we were like a formal or something.

I was gonna say, why did you have a necktie?

Exactly. Cause no one did that. But it was like a formal dance, like a fraternity thing. I know. And like neckties work. I know. Flashback. Okay, so that was fun. So have some sensation play while you're out there enjoying spring.

Totes.

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Hi Emily. I've been with my boyfriend for three years and I really have nothing to complain about. Guess what?

What?

Okay, we have our issues like every couple, but he's a great guy. Not to mention the sex is great. However, I can't help shaking the feeling of what if this doesn't work out? And I'm terrified of Having wasted my 20s in a long term relationship just for it possibly to end. I know this sounds super negative to be thinking like this for virtually no reason, but I keep hearing how the 20s is time to be exploring not being tied down. I think it's starting to get to me. Should I be crazy and run for no reason or stay in my happy relationship and risk things not working out down the road? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Taylor, age 21. The age old question, relationship in your 20s. So I think like Taylor, I understand that you're like worrying and stressing if it's going to work out and I don't know where you heard that 20s is time for fun. I know we talk about that a lot on the show, but, you know, you could spend your time worrying. You've got two choices here. Basically, you could just like worry about it. You know, could you keep doing that? But that's not going to get you anywhere.

Or.

Well, there's actually three choices. You keep worrying and that's going to get you nowhere. But if you're going to stay in the relationship, here's the deal about the 20s. I don't know what's going to happen. Taylor, you might be this miracle related, not the miracle, but one of the few relationships that say that's beyond. It's not a huge number of many. We all know that story of people who are like high school sweethearts and they're really happy together. That could happen. But as long as you're in it, why not try working on these issues that you have? I know you're saying, you know, you ended up. You ended the email by saying it's a happy relationship. And then above you say you got issues like everyone else. Why not practice and work on those issues that you have right now? Because I'm telling you, every relationship is going to issues, have issues. If you stay with this guy or you move on, there's going to be issues. And guess what? Working on issues in relationships take practice. We are not trained, we're not learned. There's no instruction manual on how to even talk about issues in a relationship. So work on it. Do your best. Enjoy the time together and don't spend the time doubting it. You know, wonder if it's going to end, you're never going to be happy. Or you can say, you know what my impulse is here, My urge to, you know, the sense that I should be in another relationship and the urge to go, to kind of move on and experiment. What else out there is dominating my thoughts. And I'm just gonna do that. So those are kind of your choices. You gotta pick Elaine. Mm.

Yeah. And who's Elaine?

Pick Elaine. Pick Elaine.

Oh, I love that.

Either stay in it and be there and work on it. And I'm telling you it is. You could even think of it as like a practice relationship. Like you're practicing right now. You're gonna see how it goes.

You love them.

But do some work while you're in it.

Absolutely.

Or bail, start dating.

And I feel like when people say that the 20s are a great time to explore and all that, the way that I like to look at that is that if you are single in your 20s. It is the perfect time to be exploring and figuring everything out because you're still kind of young and then you can bring that with you as you age and into your 30s and whatever. However, if you are in a relationship that is good and you're in your 20s, like, don't use that as an excuse. Like, oh, they say your twenties is your time to explore. It's like, no, if you are single, then explore. If you're in a good relationship, stick with that. Like, work on it. Just because you're in your 20s doesn't mean you have to be single and exploring.

Exactly.

Or explore being in a relationship.

That's what I'm saying. That's exactly it.

Because there's plenty of exploration that happens between the ages of 18 to 21 that can happen with a partner. You might actually get your sexual mojo down pat with a partner. And then if it doesn't work out, you, you already know everything that you like. You already have practice, you know what you want for the next partner and you can have fun. Being in your 30s and being single is fine too.

Yeah, it's always fine, you guys. It just make sure that you're listening to like, what you need. And there should be no shoulds. Like, well, I should be in a relationship or I should be single. I. I'm not, I'm not. I'm never saying that here.

Yeah.

I'm just saying that like, 20s are a great. Yeah, great time for exploration. But also like, as long as you're in it. And when I say explore, that does. I think people also think they mean just running around, hooking up and having sex, like with someone else every night. Explore with your could do that. But I'm not saying that you should be sleeping around your 20s necessarily. I'm just saying, like, you know, no matter what you're doing, whether you're sleeping around and when you're having sex, try to have good sex with these people. Try to communicate your needs and same if you're in a relationship, try to make that a healthy relationship and work on whatever issues you're having there. Like, just don't waste time in your head. Start stressing and worry because that gets you zero place.

Yeah. The only time I would say, like, don't be in this relationship right now is if you feel like it's really holding you back from like growing as a person. If they're, if it's like you want to go abroad for a semester and you don't want to because you've got a boyfriend or you want to try this job somewhere else and you don't want to because you've got a boyfriend. Those are the times to question whether now is the best time of your life to be in a relationship or be single. Not because you're worried that five years from now you're going to break up and have regrets.

Thank you for just explaining the worry that you should be having. Yeah, no, you're right, because it's kind of like, yeah, you should move for a job. If it's your high school, I don't know, like, and they don't want to move with you, like, that's probably okay.

I wish, yeah, I wish I'd broken up with my, you know, 18 to 20 year old drummer boy or when I was 18 to 20, drummer boyfriend. I wish I'd broken up with him earlier because I probably would have transferred into. Into college earlier. I would have gotten my shit together a lot sooner.

Right?

But then I wouldn't have met my current boyfriend when I transferred in. So it's like everything happens for a reason. Just stop worrying about everything that's gonna happen and go with what you feel.

Right. And I'm gonna say something that might not be very popular, but I've been hearing this lately. If you got into like the college of your dreams and you're like 18, but your high school boyfriend didn't get there, you're afraid to be moving from a different city. Is that what you said you just did?

No, no, go for it.

But like, like, literally, like, because I think people are dealing with college acceptance. They're going after college. Like, don't stay home in your hometown and don't make choices based on your boyfriend from high school. And I would even say your boyfriend from college, live. This is when you got to live your life and make choices. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. You can travel and meet each other. You can, you know, there's airplanes, right? There's a lot of different modes of transportation. But don't let these relationships hold you back.

And don't choose a college based on where your high school boyfriend is going. Because then if you guys break up, you're stuck at a college for him for four years and your experience is tainted.

Yes. Good advice here. Okay. Okay, I think we're all set. This was, this was a fabulous show with you guys. I love my team.

Always fun.

It's always fun. I know. So, yeah. You guys remember spring? Spring cleaning. Spring. You can green. Thank you. Everybody for listening. And thank you to Jamie and Madison and Michael here doing the sound. And Helena and to all you amazing listeners. I love you all so much. Thank you for listening. Listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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