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My guest here tonight is Ali Hayes. Hello. Hi Ali. She is a porn star.

Yes.

Okay. She was 22 years when she made her first porn debut. So how did you get involved? I know you've been asked this 8,000 times. People just want to know, like, how does it happen? They're like, oh, her father abused her. Like, sound like a great relationship. You know, you seem like a very well adjusted, smart human being. Not that all porn stars. I'm just, I'm talking to people who have those.

Yeah, no, there's a stereotype in any direction, in any career, we embrace them and move on. No, I actually got started in the business because of my love for women. Crazy enough.

So you're bisexual?

Yeah. So once I became bisexual, I was a lesbian first, and then I became bisexual in my younger years. Okay, how young? 18.

Wow. Okay. How did you. You just. Did you feel it earlier?

I mean, I did my thing with guys and hung out with them, but I was just so much one of the guys that I was just like, why am I doing this? This is boring.

And guys must have always, like, loved you.

Well, pee pees are boring. They were boring to me. I'm like, this isn't fun. I mean, you know, I think my body is more fun than theirs, so why don't I just find somebody to let me play with the body?

Right. So how'd you find that at 18?

I mean, I did it younger, before 18.

Okay.

I was with girls before 18. By the time I was 18 is when I ended up getting married to a preacher when I was 18.

And was he down with the bicep?

He was my best friend since seventh grade. And he didn't know. So it was like my life took a crazy turn. I was kind of did this thing when I was younger and I was experimenting and living on my own and. And then for whatever reason, I was raised really religious. So by 18, I felt very convicted about the way I felt, how I felt sexually, and what I was doing with myself. So then I got married and did what I thought was the right thing. Quotations here. Big bunny ears.

Big quotations.

Yeah. So at 18, I was like, I'm, you know, I'm doing everything wrong. Ended up getting married.

What are you for, like, being able to buck, like. Cause so many people are caught up in their religious background, like their family, and they don't know how to get out of that. But that you were strong enough to.

Yeah, it took me about two years. I did the religious thing. Hided, you know, hid who. I didn't tell my ex husband anything about that.

Were you hooking up with chicks on the side?

I was flirting with them because I was very dedicated to my relationship because I was like, I'm going to do this. I'm gonna do this.

Right? I was really conflicted. Right? Yeah.

And then so two years after that, we had some issues and we split up. And from there, a year later, I was actually hanging out with some of my old friends, getting back into some of my old habits, and I was finding it very hard to bring a woman home. Crazy enough men. I know how you feel. I would hit on them in bars and they would like, you know how chicks make bars because they're like, oh, I want to get that guy's attention so they know. And I'm like. And then I'd, you know, say, hey, you want to come home with me? And I would freak them out, and they'd be like, ew, are you serious?

Maybe. Or girls who were more.

Well, I just. I worked at a bar, okay? So, yeah, I was a bartender and a cocktail waitress, and so I would just, you know, play the part or whatever, and I would. I would, you know, hit on the women that I was like, ah, she could maybe be the one that I can hook up with. And it just never worked. So I started dating somebody at that time also. But I was like, look, I'm still gonna keep trying to have sex with.

Women for being so open and saying that. Yeah, yeah.

I'm like, really?

Like, yeah.

I was just like, I'm gonna do this. If you're not okay with it, I. Then maybe we don't need to be dating. Okay. It ended up working out. And through that and through a couple friends, they were like, look, you have always been open sexually, and you're totally chill with your body, so why don't you just, like, do girl girl porn or something? Like, why do you keep trying? And I was like, oh, porn? I'm like, I don't know. I never even watched porn when I was younger. It was never even something that I knew anything about it.

Right.

So I was kind of like, oh, well, why not? I did a little research on it, went and found. Did some research on some agents, did my first gig, and I loved it. And I was just doing it for myself, you know, just to get my own rocks off. It's not like I had a job. I was going to college. I wasn't even thinking about it being a career.

And you were like, starlet of the year. Like, you hit. You was like your natural thing. Yeah.

Then a couple months later, they offered for me to do some boy girl work, and I was like, oh, I never really thought about doing anything more with this, but sure, heck, why not? And I kind of just dove in head first, and like you said, just. Yeah, I know, right?

There's so many puns in this business.

There are so many puns. Yeah. I just went for it. And, you know, it'll be five years in June, so almost five years later, this is where I'm at. And I'm loving it and wouldn't want it any other way. That's an amazing career.

Is amazing. I mean, so that's Congratulations to all your success. And you're a businesswoman. You've got a good site going, and you're, like, doing all the right things.

Yeah, I got my website, my Twitter, which is also just Ali Hayes or Twitter forward slash Ali Hayes. Okay, so it's just a L, L, I, E, H, a Z, E. You can find me on there. I do the same thing you do. Questions, emails, all that stuff.

Questions. That's great. But we actually have some callers coming in. We're gonna get to those, like I said, in a second. But I also want to know, so when you started. Oh, so you're. You're in a relationship right now. So do you guys bring other women into the relationship, or do you kind of do that on your own?

We haven't just yet. It's not an issue. But you know what's so funny? I feel like when you really find somebody that you love, even though those are your tendencies and those are things that you like to do, a lot of those things fade away. Like, I'm not objective to it, but I am having so much fun with my partner that it's like, there's no reason for it. I mean, we've had our own crazy.

Times during the day. Maybe you're having your day job. I mean, you're having sex with women, but. Yeah, but are you turned on during those scenes? Even though you're in love with someone? Like, it's still hot doing those scenes. Yeah.

Sex is different. Sex is different for me. That's why I'm saying it's so. It's There are two. It's two different types of sex. It's so hard to explain because, Yeah, I definitely. I swear I was born with a penis in my brain. For some reason, I don't have one on my body, but I definitely think like a dude, realistically, so I definitely have. I just actually was talking about a new movie that I'm about to start doing, and I was, like, telling the director that, you know, my current. Whatever. You know, my current.

What we call.

I hope I can say this. I'm sure it's a podcast, what I call Clip boner.

Right.

My current clip Boner is for certain girls. And she was just cracking up, and I'm like, no, I need to bang these girls. Or mine.

Yeah, someone tweet that. Clip Boner. That's amazing. So you get to cast the girls and stuff that you're doing? Yeah, Yeah.

I get to pick. I'm at a point in my career where I definitely just get to choose right. You don't want some girl walking, things like that.

So are you actually, like. I mean, when you're having these scenes with them or you're having orgasms? Like, do you ever have to fake an orgasm for a scene when you're like, it's just not gonna happen?

Sometimes I've had my moments where sometimes I do. I definitely always enjoy myself. But always when you're working with a new partner, sometimes if they don't catch the signals during sex and they happen to be a little too far to the left or a little too far.

To the right, and you can say that in the middle of the porn. It's not right. Or can do.

I mean, you can. You can do whatever you want. You're more than welcome to. But even then, sometimes it takes more than one shot. Because I've worked with girls, sometimes the first time I work with them, it doesn't happen. And then the second time, they remember and they're right on it right at the right time, and it's great.

Men were more like women. They don't remember oftentimes.

No. No, they don't. Because I do have a lot of male partners that I work with, and I do things that I remember from before, and they're like, how did you. And I'm like, we've worked together before. I knew what worked last time, so.

I know what works now that men are so focus on, they get distracted.

Yeah, I think they get distracted. You know how they say you're cum drunk? I think as soon as a penis gets hard, they're immediately cum drunk.

Women get after the fact, right? It's like. It's like having like. Like. Yeah, like you blackout. Like, that's almost like a. Yeah.

They get so excited. It's like. It's like a. It's like a puppy dog. When you go to the Dog biscuit, right? They just don't know what to do. My dogs are, like, all over the place. They'll run in things. They'll roll on their back though, right? They just get so crazy.

I don't even remember what you wanted or what. I want to please you. That's really important. But wow, there's.

Feels so good.

I can't think of anything else.

I know. No offense to men. I mean, it's great.

Totally love men. But this is show. We try to help men. That's what we're gonna do. I'm actually gonna be asking Ali a lot of really good. She's got, like, some experience, and I love hearing from, you know, since you. You have been so sexual. And I want to hear, like, I'm gonna be asking you about some of your, you know, top tips for sex. Pleasing women, pleasing men. We're gonna get into so much good stuff.

You've got so many calls coming in. I think we should take one. Let's talk to Matt in Canada because he's been holding for a while. Hey, Matt, you're on the Sex with Emily show. You got a question for Ally? Matt's in Canada.

Hi.

Hey, Allie.

How are you?

I'm good. How are you?

I'm good.

Wait, what should I say? I'm good. Don't you know?

Right.

Isn't that what it is? Bobby's world?

Yeah, you're good, eh?

Yeah. How you doing?

A.

So what question do you got for me, Matt?

I was just wondering, what's the hottest scene that you've ever filmed, like, with a boy in it?

Currently, I would have to say it changes through the years as I learn to learn about my own sexuality through porn and who I am and what I like and don't like or what I want to experience or new things I want to play in. I would have to say, currently, one of my favorite scenes would be found in an evil angel video directed by Dana Vispoli. And it's called Flu. And I'm just recently getting into a little bit more rougher sex, kind of, you know, not knowing what's going on. There's a lot of waterboarding in it. I love water play. Waterboarding is actually a military thing that they use to torture people to get information out of them.

So more like bdsm?

Yeah, a little more bdsm. Basically, you get a sheet or something put over your head, and they pour a bucket of water over you. So as you're trying to breathe, you're also breathing, you know, getting in water. So it's. It's very. When you eliminate one sense, all the other senses heighten. And when you learn to control yourself and calm down and trust your partner, a lot of crazy things happen. Wonderful, beautiful things that you wouldn't imagine come out of such an extreme experience.

So for me, I would have to say that that's probably currently one.

So you get really turned on by that then. Yeah, scary. But then you say it's like the same. It's exhilaration. But then you get.

I get excited with the fact that I could trust somebody so much with my own body that they.

And even someone you're doing a scene with, like, you trust them Cause it's like.

Yeah, because I. Yeah. So currently, Matt, that would probably be the one that I would say to check out. And then obviously most all of my favorite scenes, because I choose them and direct them and am there, you know, totally in it. And it's what I want to do. Are always found on Ali Hayes dot com. Because that's kind of like my own ideas. I know you put my dreams on there.

Basically what I dream about you.

Yeah, anything.

I have weird dreams about all those they're hot videos. Like, I was late coming here tonight. Cause I was watching her videos. I was like, oh, wait, I gotta go meet her in person. So, Matt, did you sign up for a site yet? You should go do that now.

Yeah, for sure.

Thanks for calling. Okay, bye, Matt. Have a great night. Okay. When you just said, though, you said. You said you're learning about your own sexuality through porn. I'm wondering what you've learned. I mean, probably. You're probably always learning, like we all are. I always say to people, like, sex should be expansive. If you're in a relationship right now that you feel like, eh, we're not learning the same way. He comes that way, she comes that way. She. She. Keep expanding it. Keep. You should never stop learning. So what do you think you've learned lately? Or how you.

Wow. That your body makes the most hilarious noises when you're really doing it right. That's what I had to say. I feel like if you're not laughing about, you know, body sweat farts or, you know, vaginal farts, whatever. Whatever happens. Hilarious. Always acknowledge the funny things. Because if you heard it, she heard it, or vice versa.

If you don't get it, women get so, like, oh, my God, he's not gonna like me. It's gonna grow. Like, hopefully you're with a dude.

And you know what?

If that person you're with doesn't like you anymore because of that, you don't want to be with anybody. Yeah. Most times turn on if you can get into it and not think about it too much.

Yeah, exactly. Yeah, it goes both ways. Either you're having too much fun because it's drunken sex, or you're having serious sex and nobody talks about it.

Exactly.

It goes both ways.

Talk about sex.

I know.

That's what my show has been all about. I've done 2,000 podcasts, and it's all about all comes down to talking to your partner or even at first, learning your own body so you can communicate to your partner about what the hell you need in Bed to feel good. Because it sucks. Why shouldn't we all be having like amazing sex all the time?

Yeah, I mean actually something that I've learned about myself too is that I love to masturbate after I have sex. Even no matter how good the sex is. I don't know. And luckily I have found a partner that doesn't find that offensive. Some. Some men would be very, very offended by that. And I have.

If you had an orgasm during sex? Yeah.

Even if I've had an orgasm during or I've had multiple. It doesn't. It's just something that I now enjoy like doing for myself because I'm so turned on by the experience I just had. I'm so horny still that I saw. Think about that.

Except for you don't fall over and roll asleep. That's amazing. And you can have multiple orgasms and.

I can have multiple.

So do you have orgasm easily? Like do you need toys or extra things or do you usually just come?

No, I mean I'm pretty much like a. I've mastered the skill because of what I do for a living. And sometimes it is very hard for a new partner to figure it out real quick in a 45 minute video. I have mastered the skill of pinning a man down and saying sit still. All I need is about a minute and I can figure it out, make myself come.

Oh my God. So is it more like with a pen inside you?

Yeah, well, it's a penis inside me and grinding my clit on the right area. You know, obviously if somebody's bone structure is a little bit different, that's really what I think girls forget that they have to find is. I mean I think if you're clitorally stimulated you can find that anytime you have a penis inside you and you're on top, you know, it's just a matter of. Some men I understand are bigger boned or a different way. But if any man were to project his pelvis up in an upward direction at.

You'll find or put a pillow underneath. Right. So is it you like grinding in circles? Are you just moving up and down?

It's just kind of all over the place. I'm a real big like eye contact person. I'm really intimate. I like I said right now I'm really into spit. So I'm like, not like spitting on people but like making out really slobbery stuff during sex.

I love that. It's so hot and connective and intimate.

Yeah, I love hot sweaty. It doesn't gross me out. It's very. Like, it lets me know that my partner is into it as much as I am, or they're really exerting energy. Like, if we both come out, like we just came in looking the same, like, our makeup's still on. We didn't do it right.

Exactly. It should be sex.

What is that?

Sex is, like, messy, and you should always be great.

It's supposed to be a painting. Your bodies are supposed to become a painting. I say sex is art, and together. You should create a painting together.

You're so right. I love that. So also, like, learning your own sexuality, were there different ways? Like, do you think when you started doing porn, like, were you only able to orgasm one way? And now you've learned, like, there's other ways that you can orgasm or other ways you experience other parts of your maybe other erogenous zones you discovered.

I never knew I could orgasm during sex, period. And I didn't know that there was different kinds of ways to come. That there's different, you know, different ways to experience that. That's definitely something that I've learned in the porn business because there would be times.

What were the different ways that you learned? How could you explain them?

I. I wish. I wish I could.

Right. That's crazy.

Like, I know clitoral. I can definitely identify when that's happening. But sometimes when I'm having sex, also, a man's penis will just. I guess it's hitting my G spot in. In a sense, I guess that's the theory. And then coming from that feels so much different. Then I feel like it's like an overwhelming surge through my whole body where it, like, just shocks me so much that I can't move. I'm dead. I'm done. Versus clitoral. It's just stimulated just to that area where I just, like, feel it in my pelvic region, and it feels great. And then when it's done, I'm ready to do it again.

Right. Do you feel like you sometimes have to have a clitoral orgasm first before you have the G spot orgasm?

No.

Okay. You can have.

I can do it.

You're so lucky.

I can do it on either. Either form. I know, right?

That's amazing. She's multi orgasmic. She Orga. Yeah. That's hot. That you masturbate after, too. I love that. Let's take another call because it's just. They're coming in. Okay. Let's talk to Adrian in Tampa, Arizona. Ooh, Ooh. Adrian. Or Jonathan in Las Vegas. Or Adrian.

Okay.

Adrian. Hi. Hi, Adrian. You're on the Sex with Emily show. Hi. Hi. Great. Do some questions for Ally. A question for Allie.

Oh, yeah.

First of all, can I say, Ali, you're my favorite porn star.

Aw, thank you.

You're freaking gorgeous. And for this interview, I can tell that you're, like, really down to earth, so that's cool, too.

Oh, thanks.

And.

Oh, yeah.

So my question is, what's, like, a funny, awkward high school story that you have? Because I just fled out of high school, like, months ago, so.

Wow. Well, congratulations, by the way.

Thank you. Graduating. Yeah.

Crazy, funny high school story. Oh, my gosh. I. You know, I never. I don't even have any weird stories. I got through high school pretty. Pretty easy. I can't even think. I mean, I can't even think of anything crazy happening. Yeah, I was pretty much a good kid. I did my thing. I mean, I did now and then. Redlands, California.

Okay.

I grew up. And I grew up around here. Um. Wow. Worst thing that's ever happened to me.

How about the awkward sex story?

I wasn't even really having sex in high school. Cause I was into women, so I didn't even. I mean, I gave a couple blowjobs, but that was about. That was about it. I mean, I didn't even ever go past that. I mean, I was. The only thing I could ever think of is, like, drunk and throwing up in front of everybody.

We all did that, right, Adrienne?

I'm like, I'm sorry, Adrienne. I was such a normal kid. I'm the worst to ask these questions. I wish I could say I had some. Like, I peed my pants in geometry class. I don't have anything weird.

I was a good kid, too, so it's not that big of a deal.

Yeah.

I mean, maybe I ate too many. I never even farted in class, so I don't even. I mean, I don't even have good stories like that rain prompted. I know.

Thanks, Adrienne.

It was cool to talk to you guys, though.

Yeah. Thanks for calling.

Bye. Talk to you soon. Awesome. Yeah, I was a pretty good kid, too. And then people were like, I think my friends from high school are like, you're doing what? Cause, like, I kind of. Was I prudish or whatever? Like, not prude, but, like, I didn't do a lot. I was like a good. And then.

Yeah, see, I was such a tomboy that it wasn't like I was never in those situations where I had those girly, embarrassing moments or things like that.

Didn't bother you because you're very confident into yourself. I mean, into your, you know, yourself, you know.

Yeah, I kind of, you know.

Yeah.

Like, I was just doing my own thing and then, you know what I mean, it was hard for me because I was pretending to be. Because I was a cheerleader. So I was pretending to do the guy thing then. Also, you were probably.

So everyone probably loved you then because you were like the girl's girl and the guy's girl.

Yeah, I was kind of all over the place. Definitely.

You still are.

Yeah.

The girls girl and guys girl. That's not your thing.

I really am. My mom still gets mad at me because I don't know how to cross my legs.

Are they cool with your career?

It took them a while, to be honest with you. Only because of the stereotype of the business. And let's not be wrong, in any entertainment business. I think in. Mostly in the entertainment business, which unfortunately, we've seen some people die from lately. There are, you know, the curse of getting involved in drugs or alcohol or, you know, if you have an addictive personality, sometimes it can be very, very hard and tough. So, you know, they were more concerned along those lines of me putting myself at the forefront of those things.

Afraid of your, like, what kind of right? Do you ever experience that stuff or.

No, I, actually, to be honest with you, I, I. It's so crazy. I mean, my name is Ali Hayes for a reason. Let's, let's not, let's not be wrong about that. I don't, I never deny that, but I have never dabbled in anything else. I don't. It just doesn't pique my interest. I've never been really crazy about it or anything like that. I mean, I love who I am and I'm very happy with where I'm at.

Super confident and great. You seem like I want to hang. Like, I think we're gonna be bff. Yeah.

Yeah. Heck, yeah. Let's do it. I love Wine and Uno. That's my thing. Wine and Uno night.

I love Uno.

Ah, see?

Wine and night.

I don't play nothing. I know.

All I do is work. Okay, we're gonna do that. Okay. I have a question for you. Well, we actually kind of covered this, though. Cause I was gonna say to you, one of the top questions I asked is, I did ask you, have you already reached orgasm? But what advice would you give for women who aren't having orgasms during sex? Or what advice would you have for their partners?

Orgasms. Women that are having orgasms during sex, I would have to say that you need to find a dark room and play with yourself.

Right.

Cause until you understand, you know, what you have going on there, you don't know where to put what where. And you can't tell somebody how to do it either. And if you're just so frustrated and you feel like you can't find those things, I mean, then bring toys in and toys. Do you have vibrators? And you know, the first thing that I ever masturbated with was a Mach 3 vibrating razor.

Oh, really? That sounds like you hurt yourself.

No, you take the razor head off those things. You know, the bracelet.

Right, right. Like people use toothbrushes and stuff.

Exactly. Had. Had no clue.

How old were you?

I was ex husband.

Okay.

So I think it was probably either 18 or 19 at the time. And sex just didn't seem right to me. It just didn't make sense.

Whatever was going on with the first husband.

I never ever remember it. Don't even. Can't even say that I was it.

After you broke up with it and you started porn, or in between there, you started exploring your own sexuality and masturbating on your own.

I would have to say right after I started porn a little bit, a little bit before that. Only because I knew that I was going. I mean, I was being hired to play with myself. And I was very confused. And because I'd never watched porn, I didn't even know how to quote, unquote, fake being a porn star. And I wasn't doing porn to be a porn star. So I was very.

That's how it works for you. Because you're so authentic and you're yourself. And they always say the reason why people are successful and this was any business, entertainment, talk, whatever you do, it's when you're authentic of yourself and you seem like you're very like self, self aware and you know yourself and you are yourself. Like the fact it's great that you weren't like, like trying to watch porn and become like, I was in a reality show last year. I'd never. I haven't television 20 years. Like, I didn't even. I'd never seen a reality show on the station that I was on. I was on a Bravo show and I was like, Then the director's like, you should watch. I'm like, I don't even care. I don't. I'm just being myself, you know, it was totally fine.

Yeah, that's the difference.

Right? I totally get it.

It's hard to pretend to be. You can't pretend two people. It's like. It just blows my mind. And it also breaks my heart for the people that do do that.

I know.

It's gotta be exhausting.

Top people aren't confident, and they. Exactly. Because I always say to people, if you're trying to be someone else, you're never gonna be as good at being them, at being them as you are being yourself. They're gonna always gonna be the best them, and you're gonna be the best you. So you might as well work on becoming the best you. Yeah.

And I feel like people forget that they probably got that opportunity because for that one moment, they let their guard down and that's why they're there.

Exactly.

So, you know, you always have to remember that you are where you are because of who you are, not because of who you create.

Exactly. Be yourself, people. This is all good messages. Okay, we got another call. He's been on waiting for a while. So let's talk to Jonathan in Las Vegas. Ne. Hey, Jonathan, how you doing?

I'm doing all right.

How you guys doing?

We're great. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily.

I'm doing all right. Hey, I just want to know what's like, the wildest thing you ever did in the studio.

Wildest thing on a girl or a guy?

More so with a girl. Because I like girl on girl action.

Girl on girl action.

Craziest thing. You know, I think the best part about. If you do or don't know a lot about me, I have done a lot of, you know, porn parody, and I'm known for a lot of my couples porn and all this stuff. So there's a lot of craziness still to come from me in the years to come. You know, I'm. I'm definitely gonna be around in the business for at least another five years, and I have a lot more to show of my wild side. So unfortunately, Jonathan, currently, I don't think I have any really crazy stories. I mean, I've done some cool spit videos. Like I said, I'm into all that, but I haven't. The craziest thing that I would think I would ever done would be what you wanted to talk about was winning most outrageous sex scene.

Yeah, I wanted to get into what that was. What died and answered it all night. Why? What was the most outrageous sex scene that you won for?

That was a girl, girl, girl video. So right up Jonathan's alley.

Jonathan, here we go.

And it was in Belladonna's fetish fanatics enema boot camp. It was an enema boot camp thing. So it was two women, Amy Brooke and Adrianna Nicole, who are like anal queens. And they are amazing at it. They love it. And I still don't do anal.

You don do anal scenes?

No.

You don't anal sex or you just.

I just don't do it yet.

Okay, got it. Something to wait for. Jonathan. Stay tuned, everyone. Good. It's got to wake up. Wait for something.

It's definitely coming. Coming soon for sure. But in that it was basically little old me getting enemas squirted on me and, you know, and then like sticking fist toys in their butts. And I was just. I feel like in the video, I was just so in awe. Like, I feel like I look like a scared little child.

So they were giving you enemies?

No, no, no, no. The girls were getting enemas and squirting them out of their butt onto me.

Oh, my God. How did you feel about that, though?

I was like, no, no, it was all clean up.

They were all cleaned up. Everybody's clean up.

Everybody's clean.

Right.

Okay.

I mean, but was it hot? You turned on by it, or was it just.

Yeah, because it's one of those things that a woman is confident enough in herself to feel sexy and do that, you know, and still orgasm and feel great about herself. Like, this is what I'm doing. It's very hot. It's. You know, an empowered woman is very sex.

A confident woman. Right, Jonathan? Don't you think that's the sexiest thing? A woman who knows what she wants and asks for it.

Yeah. And, you know, Jonathan, and anybody that's out there listening any of these videos that I'm mentioning, please find me on Twitter and you can just tweet me. Yeah, go ahead and tweet at me. And I can send you a signed copy of that. You can purchase that straight from me from my Twitter. Something else I'm gonna be launching soon is gonna be shopallyhayes.com. it's also gonna be called Playhouse Ali Hayes. It's gonna be a giant store where you can purchase anything you would like.

Oh, that's so cool.

Shoes, clothing from a movie, toys you want me to play with. And then also you can. You'll be. There will be a link to get the custom videos.

Oh, that's awesome. That's all on alliehays.com.

That'Ll be a new site.

Oh, my God.

Which will be announced.

Yeah.

A little entrepreneur. Yeah.

Which will be announced. Everything will be linked to either my Twitter, which is just forward slash. Ali Hayes. A L, L, I, E, H, A Z E or will also be. You can also find on my site, which is ali haze.com.

Okay, Jonathan. Yeah.

Let me save you some grief. You should find out what Jonathan's Twitter handle is so that you don't have a ton of people claiming to be Jonathan and so you have to send out that free stuff.

Oh, no, it's not free. He's got a purchase.

I thought you said you were gonna send it out.

No, no, no. Okay, thanks, Jonathan. Thanks for calling. You rock. Have a good day.

Okay, good night. Whatever the hell it is. Okay, so I wanna know. So you've also recently started directing porn, right?

I'm about to. That is something that I. I'm.

What in it. And I'm very, very excited. And what I'm gonna do is try and work with new girls or girls that aren't being shot a whole bunch due to the new market and kind of work with them and put a new series out based on that. And I want it to be a little bit more reality based. So I'm gonna definitely talk to the girls and if they know a hot guy or they want to ask me some of my favorite guys to work with or girls to work with, I want the experience to be definitely what they want to do.

Right. Because that's the hottest thing. You don't want to force any scenes. No.

And sometimes when you first get started in the business, people don't know you. You don't know people.

You might even know yourself.

Yeah, you're just kind of like, okay, you know, you just. If the guy's hot, you're working with him and things like that. So I'd like to give those people those opportunities that they know they do good scenes with or they want to have another chance with this person that's so cool. Put those together so I get so proud of you.

So you're gonna start doing that like you're starting to do that next month?

Yeah, next month I'm gonna start. Yeah, I'm gonna start shooting, hoping to release in June. So got my fingers crossed with all that. You'll be able to find that hopefully.

That's awesome. There needs to be more porn. I mean, there's a lot of porn out directed by women than there were years ago. Yeah. But I just think it's a different perspective because a lot of times porn is like made for men, but women want porn. Want to watch porn too.

Yeah, exactly.

Not that men can't do it. But just I think it's great to get the female perspective. So. Good for you.

Thanks.

And I have a question for you. So you do a lot of girl on girl scenes. We talked about it. You're bisexual. So what is your advice for bi curious girls who want to hook up with other girls but they're not quite sure what to do?

I used to say, you know, if you're talking with your girlfriends, you definitely feel open with one of them to communicate that with. But there's also issues in that too. So I.

They might judge you.

Yeah. I deter from saying find your best friend and tell her to just do it with you.

Yeah. I feel like whenever I had my experience with women suffer, like with my friends, like it's always like not. Yeah, it's always my best friends. Like it's. I don't feel sexual towards them, but yeah.

I would say somebody that's not necessarily. Yeah. Talk to them about it maybe. But I would say necessarily somebody that's more of an acquaintance that you know of. Maybe that one friend that you just, you know, call up when you want to go have a glass of wine and get a little loopy and be a goofball with. That may be the best one. Definitely somebody obviously, you know a little bit.

Right.

I mean, if you're. If you're really that open, there's a lot of groups and different things like that.

Websites.

I don't have any good websites.

Right.

I know. That's such the bummer. I wish I did. I should definitely do more research into that.

That. Right. I have given some sites out. There's like some swinger sites and stuff like that. But just look around. It's the Internet. Like you can find people in your neighborhood also. There's like a lot of. It's not a sex.

You think is what I should. Is what I should say. Like if you're feeling reserved about it. It's really not. I mean, and obviously start with kissing. Start with touching.

Exactly.

You don't. It doesn't mean you gotta, you know what I mean, shove your fist in somebody.

Exactly. Not yet. Not for the first date. I know.

Right.

Okay, so. But speaking of fisting. No, but let's go to oral sex on women. So what, what would you say is one of your top tips or just a few of your really good tips for performing oral sex on a woman that you think maybe people don't know or that like, that you kind of know is like a sure thing Even though all women are different.

Yeah, all women are different. But I feel like I read an article which most of the time statistics are very off the wall. But I did read something that 75% of women are, you know, stimulated clitorally.

Right.

No, always start there. My suggestion would be always start there and always start slow because it's such a sensitive area. It's like if, you know, it's like if I bit the head of a guy's penis, right?

How would you guys know about that?

Exactly.

I'm slowly kissing your stomach, all of a sudden you're being done. I took a friggin bite.

Yeah. Or you just suck too hard or touch the head too much.

I always say go five times slower than you think you should.

Yeah, exactly. You know, take a breath. Yeah. I mean keeping the area warm too is like breathing and like being moist is definitely the number one thing. You know what I mean?

Saliva.

Yeah. And then work your way through the motions. You know, there's twisting the tongue, there's sucking, there's up and down, right to left, you know, there's all different things that you can do. I would always say start with your mouth first. Don't incorporate your mouth and your hands too much. Sometimes it can be overwhelming.

It can be at the beginning.

Yeah. Especially if you don't warm her up. Yeah, it is. It's definitely a warm her up kind of thing, right?

Exactly. So what about fingers? Do you find like most women like that or they don't or It's a different kind of thing.

I feel like.

I know it's different with everyone.

It is different with everyone. But I feel like hygiene is such a, such a thing that's in right now. You know, we go through phases in society of what's cool, what's not. And I feel like hygiene is such an in thing right now.

As far as what. What do you mean?

I feel like women are very aware that also men too, that people are dirty, hands are dirty. So a hands thing is not.

I know, I'm always like, if we go to dinner, I'm like, guys, wash your hands.

Like, you know, it's like if you didn't just see him or hear him go to the bathroom and wash his hands. Women are very aware of that. So it's compared to what it used to be.

It's. I think you're absolutely right. But speaking of like, oh, I was thinking of hygiene but then also like grooming. So what about like, what do you think about the bush? Like I heard some rumors like people are like, not big, bushy, bushy zombie bushes but like people are starting to grow hair again now. Women.

I have a bush and I have. I did one year in the business without it in the constant sex. Definitely made her very uncomfortable and made her very uncomfortable down here in your vagina.

Really?

She did not.

So how much of a brush though? But you don't have like you still trim around like it's trimmed bush or is it like a landing strip?

I'm trimmed around my lips and it doesn't grow down. It stops right at the hood. But it's more than. I mean you could land a couple planes on it. It's pretty thick. I have a beauty mark down there that matches the one on my face. Yeah, you have a pretty little beauty mark. So yeah. So they're opposites.

Okay.

So I expose that beauty mark. Otherwise I would definitely have a full trian. I'm really into the bush. I love to play it, play with it. I love to tug on it as a joke. I grew it out one time and cornrowed it.

I love it. I just feel like I'm super snowy. I'm always going to come back, I swear to God. Not crazy all over the bush, but I just feel like.

Condition it. Treat it like your head.

Exactly. Bring it back. So what is your advice for stimulating a girl's G spot with your finger?

Ah, G spot with her finger. Strange. Women have to understand that you're not gonna pee. A lot of women feel like they're gonna pee when they're gonna.

That's usually when you're about to orgasm a lot too.

Yeah. Which also sometimes can be confused for squirting. I'm. I'm. I'm bipolar. I'm bipolar on that. On the squirting thing. Sometimes I'm okay with it. Sometimes I think it's right, sometimes I don't.

Sometimes you think you're squirting or sometimes you think you're not.

No, not necessarily me. Anybody. I don't. I've had a couple episodes where I've escorted where it hasn't really been squirt. It's just been excessive ejaculation. So I know that that is the technical term for squirting, but I have never squirted like a ten foot stream in somebody's face.

Right.

I have been quote unquote squirted on which I knew wasn't squirt because everything smells like.

Exactly smell like.

So that wasn't okay.

Right.

But I would have to say like, let somebody push you enough and don't.

Stop them when it feels I mean, it might feel uncomfortable, but it's not.

It does feel uncomfortable. That's my thing with squirting is a lot of men are very into the fact that they can make a woman squirt, Especially some men into the business. And I am sometimes, like, that's not fun for me. Let's not keep doing that. Yeah, right, right. When you get there, let's.

But there are. People want. There are some great. If you explore the G spot. Because I always say if your partner, like, wants you want to explore the G spot, there's also. You could use your fingers. That's a great way to start.

Definitely.

The hook is the thing.

There's not much more than you could.

Describe two fingers come together. But although there's some great sex toys, if you go to sexwithemily.com good vibes you can check out. There's like. Just look for G spot. Look at my page there. But also there's some, like, amazing, amazing G spot vibrators. And you can see, like. I also love the end. Do you ever use dildos like. Like enjoy or like the ones. It's like a. It's a steel.

I have like, the lilos and the.

You know, I have really good too.

I have all those things. I like fancy toys like that that have a lot of gadgets and gizmos and things to push and a lot of, you know, things that do amazing things. I sometimes can't find all the reason to use them because I'm so focused on my. So those are the kind of toys I like to give my. Yeah, and those are the kind of toys I like to give my. I like to give my partners and say, play with this with me.

Like, do something.

Because you get to. They get to. Then there's something for them to play with. Not only does your partner love watching you, but sometimes they get a little bored. Like, okay, in and out, in and out. When is this gonna be done?

Exactly.

And if they have buttons to push.

There's so many remote control vibrators right now.

They have buttons to push. Then they love to play with you with toys. And that's a new sexual experience.

Exactly.

It's kind of like a video game.

Exactly. Exactly.

Yeah.

Guys, you love your. Is there any toys that you love now? Like, anything new that you've gotten that you think?

I mean, the Hitachi is my go to all the time. Everybody. Everybody loves that. It's a quick, easy, simple thing. And it's just so overwhelming sometimes.

Exactly.

But I do. I do like my Lilo, which one I have?

Is it clitorol one or is it.

It's both.

Okay.

It's both. And it's the black one. I forget what it's called.

Oh, I know. I think I know. Yeah.

And it's got the tiniest little. I gosh, I've had for a couple of years now.

I think I know. I want to give the name of it now because I love Lilo toys, and I love jju. I always talk about that. Any of their toys. Yes. I have the Mimi. I love the Fifi.

Yep. Luckily, I've been to a lot of toy conventions, so I've got to get a try a lot of Ils free. Yes, I do.

Every year.

Yeah. I've got to try a lot of these things for free.

Yeah. My. My entire. Well, everyone's heard me say this on my show. I have an entire garage filled with sex toys. Literally. I just.

I just went through them today.

I actually just got an office today, and I said to him, him, there's not enough room. Like, I need storage. Like, I. Because I want to get the toys out of my garage, and I'm like, I need more storage, but I do get to try everything. So here's all the pictures. Is it that. Is it this smart wand? Come over here. Is it the smart wand Rechargeable? Wait, which one is it any of these?

Oh, no, it's this, but it has the clitoral thing. Oh, it's this.

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Yeah, exactly. It's kind of like. I just like that they're waterproof and things like that, because I do a lot of stuff in the shower. In the bathtub.

Exactly.

I mean, that's.

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Oh, my gosh. That is my. I am very well known for my oral skills.

Have you won awards for that yet?

No.

Job of the year.

They do. They do. They give out best oral sex scene and things like that. I have yet to win that one yet.

Okay, next nominator.

I know, right?

What are your big tips for that?

Actually, there's gonna be nominations coming up for a convent that I'm going to. If you'd like to meet me and you want to come. Which one? Atlantic City. It's exotica. You're local to Atlantic City. We are going to be there April 11th through 13th. So you can come and meet me and many other stars at that.

Awesome.

They also are going to start a voting thing for that. Speaking of voting for something for best oral vote. So you can find that. Yes, it's a fan vote only. They do best oral, best female performer, all that kinds of stuff. So please, I would love the extra promotional.

Okay. Is it on your website, the information?

It's going to be on my Twitter. On Twitter, Yeah. I will post all that.

I know.

It's called the Fannies the Fanny Awards.

I love it.

Yeah.

Okay. So. But what is your tips?

My tips are always like. It's another thing to start off slow. It's. I mean, it's always a good thing to start off slow.

I love to use my hands and my mouth at the same time. It keeps anything from getting tired too fast.

Right. Sometimes we get tired.

Yeah. Sometimes we do get tired. And sometimes it does take. Take a long time and sometimes it goes too fast. But I do feel like when the penis is completely overwhelmed, like all at once, and you're doing a whole bunch of things at. It freaks out and just goes into over. Overdrive, basically. Kind of like fembots.

Exactly.

Freak out and blow up. And that's the whole point.

So you got to keep mixing up too. Like you twist. Yeah.

Never, never do the same thing for too long. I say give everything about 30 seconds. It's 30 seconds in your head. Seems like a short time, but it's very long doing something like that. It's a very long time. Especially if you were to count it in your head. You'll be like, holy crap, I could have done a whole bunch of more things.

Exactly. So. And lots of lube. And what about Deep Throat?

I'm a fit girl and deep throating is something that I do. I actually also do live shows. You can find me sometimes at your local strip Club. Wow. It's called feature dancing. Feature. Feature dancing. Yeah. A club will hire an adult star to come out for a weekend. If that's something you'd like me to do, go ahead and let your local club know or let me know what club you have. Local. The highest features. And in my show, I take a 10, about a 1012 inch, a double sided dong and shove the whole thing down my mouth. Wow.

I bet you crowds go wild.

It's pretty insane. It's pretty intense, but that's definitely a relaxing thing. I ask. Women ask me all the time. And I wish there was some crazy thing I could tell you, but it's, it's. You got to be comfortable. You got to be comfortable with who you're with and you got to be with yourself.

And you have to be.

And you have to be into it.

Yeah, definitely. As long as you keep it wet, you use your hands and you seem like you're into it. You use enough pressure. And also if you're not sure if you're doing right, because I know there's a lot of, a lot of younger women working for me. You're like, I don't know what to do. It's like, ask. You know, it's practice, but also ask the guy. Or like, you can tell, you can tell if.

And you can feel where it's at in your mouth. A lot of men get scared about the deep throat thing because. And just so you know women, you just may not be constructed. Your jaw just may be of. If you have a narrow jaw, you won't be able to deep throat a lot of things because it'll scrape your teeth and it feels.

I mean, the molding teeth is always the number one thing, so.

Yeah, but sometimes women don't understand that. They can't help it and they think they're doing something wrong. But we're all designed a different way, so sometimes it has. It's, it's not you, and there's nothing that you can do about it.

Exactly. Like, it's not like your guy sitting there going, oh, the last girl did this. If you, you could make up your own blowjob routine, I'm sure I'll be very happy. So there's no right ways.

But never forget the balls. That's. That's also. I was gonna say never forget the balls.

What are your balls?

I have a ball fetish. I am obsessed with balls. I love them in my face. I love, I love to touch them. I think it's the most amazing thing I'm Very, very into it.

Really?

Yes. Very, very into it. I could be comfortable watching TV with a pair of balls in my hands.

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You are such a trooper. Thank you. My baby.

Hey, Marcel. What's going on, baby?

Well, I'm great.

How are you? Great. Ali's dying to talk to you. So am I. What's your question?

Yeah, what do you got? Say.

Well, a question for you is.

Like.

Any advice for, like, a guy that. That's trying to ask a girl for the first time.

Yeah. You know, that's another thing where you just need to. To be yourself. You know what? Whatever your thing may be to calm down right. Before you talk to her, whether it's, you know, take a shot, have a cigarette, you know, whatever becomes. I mean, yeah, smoke a bowl. I mean, all those things tend to calm people down in some way. If you're really nervous, I would say use one of those. Use one of those things to kind of calm you down. You can never be too honest. The truth is the best. I'm such an honest person. I don't know any other way. So definitely, I would say be honest to a T. But don't smother, don't smell. The woman can be scary, right? So enough information to let her know how you feel without letting your heart bleed.

Right? And if you just meet a woman, here's the thing, the guys think they have to, like, have pickup lines. There's gotta be the right thing. I gotta compliment. No, be yourself. So you know what you do, Marcel? Next time you see a hot chick, like, let's say you're, like, standing in line to get coffee, right? I always use an example. I need a better example. Like, let's say you're standing. I don't know. What do you do for a living, Marcel? A student?

Well, right now I'm in college, but I work at a movie theater right now.

Okay, cool. So do you take tickets or do you. Popcorn, whatever. I work Projecting projection.

Yeah, I do. Tickets.

Okay, tickets. So let's say there's a cute girl that comes up, right? So a lot of guys, do they freeze, like, oh, my God, she said, I can't talk to her. Maybe she's with a guy. Just be like. You could just say something funny. Like, think, like, you notice something around you. Like, man, you just got the last ticket for this. Are you excited? Do you know about this film? It's like my favorite film I've seen here. Like, you just kind of just observe something and you ask A question about something that's going on in the situation. So you can just say, you look excited to see this film, or, guess what I heard about this film, or just something like that. She's there to see it. Ask her a question. It doesn't have to be a pickup line. Just be friendly. Be flirty. Be yourself. Think of, like, you're talking to a guy even, you know, like, just. Just make conversation. And you know what, Marcel? It gets so much easier. So if you just start practicing, like, start with the girl that you're not attracted to. Start with a grandma that comes in and be like, are you excited for the movie? And I'm not kidding you, Marcel. It's like everything in life. Because a lot of guys your age, all ages, actually, I've met all ages, they're like, so nervous. But it's like everything in life, it's. Practice makes perfect.

Don't forget to breathe.

Don't forget to breathe. And just. The more you start practice talking to women and just having conversations like it was a dude or you're hanging out with your best buddies, the more confident you'll be around women. And you won't have that. What do I say? What do I do? She's really cute. Oh, my God, she thinks I'm staring at her. You just start talking like, you'll just, like, I'm just gonna have a conversation, like. And it helps you in life, too. It'll help you in jobs. It'll help you be like that guy at the party that wants to talk to you. It'll help you be great in interviews just to learn to talk to people and make conversation about what is going on in the moment. So observe something in the moment about what's going around you. Like, if she walked in, you wouldn't be like, you know, you could be like, how was your day? She'll be great. Give my ticket. But if you're like, oh, you're seeing this movie, man, this has been the most popular movie. You're lucky it was sold out last week. I mean, anything. You know what I mean, Marcel?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Because then it's not related to, you know, how technically how you feel. So you don't get distracted and you don't get scared because you're starting a conversation. It's just a conversation about anything.

And then you practice, and then you get more comfortable, and it will give you more confident because you'll start to see that. And honestly, maybe the first time, when I'll be like, whatever, dude. Give my ticket, you know, it doesn't matter. Whatever. And that'll still happen. Cause asking women out is all about rejection. But you gotta keep trying, Marcel.

Believe me, I know. I've had my share of rejection by women.

We all have.

I feel your pain.

Yes. So good luck, Marcel.

Thanks for calling.

Sex with Emily.

Thank you.

Thank you. Have a great night. It is so true. So many men. I mean, do you get hit on all the time wherever you go?

You know, I've been told I give this aura about me, like, I'm gonna eat somebody. So apparently my dude. Yeah, my dude energy comes out. Sometimes I try. I really won't eat you.

Look like dude, right? She can eat you. Well, she might. Yeah. But not in the moment. Not the first time she meets you. She's not going to eat you.

No, but I've had. I've had my fair share things like that where. Where people hit on me and it's. It's definitely interesting. And most of the time, like you said, they just try too hard.

Yeah, they try too hard. Hey, baby. What? Don't just be. Because the guy. I always think about this. Like, when I first started in the show, when I started giving advice, I was like, like, okay. I think about, like, my boyfriends I've had or people I've been with. I'm like, well, why was it like, there's a million guys out there, people hated me. And it usually because they struck up a conversation and I found them interesting. Like, our brain is the largest sex organ. And they feel like they, like, were saying, quoting some, like, thing from Proust or something, or. It was like they just were, like, funny and they got my attention. It was something different. It wasn't like, hey, baby, look at the hat tonight. Or like, where are you from? What do you do? Like, that was so boring. But just observe. It's not like a genius thing. It's just having conversation. So that's a good thing.

Can I pile on?

Oh, a little trial.

I ended up teaching myself right before I got married. Was. I would. Well, actually, I shouldn't say that. It was 10 years before I got married. Okay, but like, if I was, like, having, like, dinner with a girl or something, I go to the bathroom, and then when I was coming back to the table, I'd pretend that she was a dude in my head.

Oh, right.

If she was a dude and she was saying these things, would I still want to hang out with her? And a lot of the time it was, like, really annoying.

It was like, oh, God, she was.

Like one of my Guy friends. This will be like the most annoying dude ever. Really? Yeah.

That's. That's kind of a good way to look at it. Like, I always tell my friends, it makes them less.

Way less intimidating. It's.

Think of it because you got. Most people are comfortable around their friends. Another thing I think about for women, like, advice for women, like, if you're dating a guy and let's say things aren't going so well or he's not treating you well, like, I feel like I have these conversations with people all the time. They're like, yeah, but he didn't call me back and he said he would. Or he's out drinking and he was texting this other girl, or he said he kept broke three times in a row. I always say, how would you feel if one of your girlfriends treated you like that? Which would you be mad at her? Would she still be your friend? Because they're trying to figure out is he a good guy or whatever. I'm like, no, you probably wouldn't put up with someone, a girlfriend treating you like that.

Yeah. So why would you do any different?

Why would you do it with a guy? I mean, it's kind of a similar thing. Like, you should not.

It's very similar.

Yeah. We all get tripped in our head. Like the opposite sex. We gotta be so different. Like, just be yourself.

Well, you want your partner to be your best friend, so if they're not. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, you're totally right.

Allie, I love. I love your perspective. You're so, like, you have so many, like, you're so, like, bright and you're so, like, insightful and great to talk to.

Thank you.

Thank you. Thank you so much for being here. So tell everyone what's coming up, where they can find you, what you can do.

Go to allyhays.com or streamate and you can find my account. Like I said, if you're an Ali Hayes.com member, you can find me there live and in the flesh.

I wanted to be a member.

Yeah. So you can definitely check that out. So. And then allyhays.com is my website. You can always find me on Twitter. Ask me any questions you'd like.

And also, all this information about Ali will be on my website, sexwithelmy.com so I love you all and thanks, Ali, for being here.

Yes, thanks for having me. Love you guys too.

Thanks, everyone, for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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