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It's a throwback.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cause my man Eric, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standard. Oh, my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com so you can listen to all of our podcasts and sign up for our mailing list. Have you not done that yet? Really? You really should. Cause our mailing lists, they rock. We send out one a week. I'm talking like this, like a community. We send out, you know, once a week. We don't spam you or anything, but people really like them and we send you interesting information if you miss the shows. We do two a week. We wrap them up in there. Our recent blog post, so check that out. And videos, all that fun stuff. And I'm here with menace. Hello. Hello, darling.

I am excited to be here with you.

I swear, I swear, I swear. I actually. Really? Really. You like me today? Yeah. Now you like me a lot lately, because we don't see each other as much. We used to do show five days a week and it was like, yeah, too much. I know. This show's about oral sex.

Yeah.

I'm excited.

Real quick.

Yeah.

Okay. Where do you think is the craziest place you've given a blowjob? Can you remember?

Gosh, that is such a good question.

Yeah, I know. I've given some crazy blowjobs in some crazy, weird places that are sort of precarious. I remember at a wedding once, like, in the Hamptons. Really? It was like a super fancy outside, tents and everything. And we. I was with a boyfriend at the time, and we went, like, not too.

Far off the tent as the wedding's going on. Or is it reception?

They were already walked down the aisle. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It was the reception.

All the boring stuff is done.

And it was, like, outside. And I believe that people walked by and there might have been some kind of embarrassment. They saw you.

I know they saw you giving fellatio.

I mean, I'm trying to think of a crazy place. Oh, I know. Like, in my house recently, like, visiting my parents in Michigan. Thank God they don't listen. But I remember giving one, like, on the back porch, and then my mom woke up, turned lights off. That was embarrassing at this age still. And then also, you remember my famous Coachella experience when I had sex at Coachella outside? Funny enough, that guy from years ago, I haven't talked to him in years, but he lives in la and we ran into each other and now we're like, oh, speaking of me, Menace always says, I'm best friends with my exes, which I am really good friends. We're super good friends now. I'm like, remember that time we banged at Coachella? I talk about that all the time.

Ruled.

Yeah. What's the craziest place you've ever received fellatio?

Probably backstage at a concert. I don't know. Nothing too insane.

Yeah. Lived in car. Roadhead. Yeah.

Not that safe.

I don't recommend it.

We gotta borrow somebody's private jet and.

Just like, how about my brother's?

Yeah, your brother's jet. And just say, hey, we need it for a second.

I know. No, I mean, we'll see. Okay, so fellatio. But first, we got a little sex in the news. You'll appreciate this because it has to do with an Apple product.

Okay.

Which.

Yeah, that's weird. Apple and Sex together. That's interesting.

That's interesting.

Yeah. Tell me more, please.

Apple adds feature to iOS 9 that lets you track your sex life. You'll soon be able to track how active your sex life is using your iPhone. Thanks to a forthcoming update, Apple's iOS 9 will let people track when and how often they have sex, as well as letting women log their menstrual cycle. The company has previously come under fire for ignoring the importance of female customers, and this will be redressed when the revamped health kit rolls out in autumn. Isn't iOS 9 already out?

No, I'm on 8 right now.

Okay. I don't know. Users were able to track how much water they drink. So it's not like everyone's becoming like, the Fitbit, right? Like, everything's like that. So UV exposure, how long they sit still for. Mine would be like, you did not sit still once today. And as well as their reproductive health. But they didn't provide further details. They will be able to enter details as, like, when they had sex, when they used protection. But I wanna know, like, who's really gonna do that? I like the reason why. I love the Fitbit. You still have yours on. I lost nine months ago. Doesn't it ever fall off? I lost two of them. I'm done. I'm out.

How come you have, like, a small wrist? You probably.

No, it just pops off. Really pisses me off. Cause I loved it. I was like. Because the truth is about the Fitbit, if you all know it does. I'm like, oh, I've only done 5,000 steps today. You know, like, it makes me want to do more. But I think this is harder because you got to plug it in. Like, oh, I just had sex. Hold on, honey. Let's write this down.

Yeah, you don't want to write this down.

But then a few weeks ago, we had a sex industry about a mattress. Were you hearing when we were talking about mattresses that measure your sex life? There's a mattress that's going to be able to measure how often you've been active. And then it's gonna send you text messages and be like, hey, you should take your partner on a date tonight. Cause you guys haven't banged in a while. You guys should try the doggy style. Everyone wants to track your goddamn sex life. I think there's a crisis with people's sex lives, apparently. And I'm also kind of pissed about iPhones. Can I just talk about this for a minute?

Okay. What's wrong?

I think since Steve Jobs died, the iPhone has just gone downhill. Apple products in general and then we're all true believers and we all love it and everyone buys the iPhone because it's cool and we can imessage. But I think that the droids, Android, Samsung, they're far superior in a lot of ways.

Wow, look at you.

I know. You know I knew what Android was, but I do.

Yeah, that's cool.

You disagree?

Yeah.

Okay.

Definitely disagree. I think, I think. Okay. And I know man, because Android not.

Like tech with Emily.

Yeah, but Android users are so hardcore about Android and I know they get upset with that and I have an Android also and I've worked with tech startups. I, I worked at a store before moved to Los Angeles and every single app is a subpar version of an iPhone app. It just is. But Androids are great. They have amazing options that iPhones do not have. So I'll give them that.

Okay. Yeah, like my Kegel Cam app, which is not on Android yet.

I think with the camera wise, these, the newest Samsung is actually the, the best camera I've seen. That's what I've heard on an iPhone.

It's all about the camera and you're all about your. What is your Instagram Ennis?

Just Menace. M E N A C E so.

You guys gotta check out Android. Yeah.

So props on that. But I mean I went through the apps and the apps are okay, but they okay. Finally. I'm not like totally finally Android's there with the camera on, that phone is equal.

So I mean I'm not saying there's always like drawbacks, everything, there's pros and cons. But I did just get the six though, you'll be happy to know because I dropped the five in the toilet.

Did your brother get it for you?

No, my brother bought me an iPad once. Uh huh. And menace is like. Did your brother? No, that's all he's ever bought me.

Oh really?

Okay, let me think. He's bought me dinners, trips.

Didn't he get you a laptop? Your brother's amazing. I love him.

Dude, he got me an iPad. It was really cool.

I want to hang out with him.

I know he's in town right now. You can come hang out but you don't want to. And he loves you too. Dude, how wasted we get at the Ritz Carlton in San Francisco that night.

If we were okay. So I couldn't even speak. This is a quick story.

Emily's brother was staying at the Ritz Carlton in San Francisco and he's like he was on like some special. Her brother's like a baller. He's like amazing. So he was on some VIP floor where they have like a free alcohol.

It's like free open bar that's always open. Food, all you can eat.

It was crazy. I've never seen anything like this before. So we go there and we're just getting hammered, wasted. And there's all these classy people dressed up and you know, of course we.

Were not one of them.

Yeah, we're like, I'm dressed like a bum and I'm in there and we're just laughing so hard in there. And I just couldn't. I'm like, I'm stopping for a second. I'm realizing that everyone is just staring at us because we're just rowdy. And I love your brother. It's so much fun.

That's why I want you to come with us tonight. But no pressure.

I know. Because I know if I go out with your brother, then I'm just gonna be out all night. And I have on Friday, the next day I have a 22 hour day of straight work.

That's unhealthy.

It is unhealthy, but I have to do it.

You look good though. Did you lose weight?

I've actually been working out every single day for the past month.

Are you menaced? Okay, wait, you've never done that in your life?

I mean, I have not every day. Not a long time ago.

You look great. Thank you. I meant to say that when you walked in.

Yeah, Seriously.

I'm really proud of you.

Yeah. I'm training for a marathon. I know.

You have to prepare me for this.

Well, it sucks because you're running. Yeah, I'm running and stuff.

Everyday. Running?

Yeah. Every day. Every day for the past like month.

Like, I don't even know. Like, I need a moment. I don't even think. I just.

I just really want to get back to where I was 10 years ago when I met. 10 years ago.

I know, you keep talking about that. I never thought that I would do.

It, but it just sucks because. Okay, so I'm dying right now.

I can't even speak. Go ahead.

I'll tell you what happened, everyone.

You ate McDonald's every day for a month or whatever. Or Starbucks or something.

Yeah, it was really easy. Okay. When I was living in San Francisco and I was doing radio, I didn't really do that many events where I'd be out in public and people would see me. So, you know, whatever. Now I moved to Los Angeles And I'm part.

He's famous. He's on billboards everywhere.

I'm part of a morning radio show called the Woody Show. You can podcast.

It's not about boners.

It's not about boners or sex. So don't download it and think you're gonna hear about wieners and boobies. It's not gonna happen. But the thing is.

It'S getting a really hardcore fan base. And then so I go out all the time and people wanna take photos with me and. And you know how I like to control the photos. Well, I'm not gonna say, hey, let me take the photos or let me look at the photo. I'm like, oh, yeah, it's cool. We can take a pic. And then people take a pic and then put the social media out there and all that stuff. And then I look at it, I'm like, oh, my God, it looks so bad. It looked terrible.

This is what happens as a celebrity. This is what happens. And then you get anorexic. Don't get anorexic.

No, I'm not getting anorexic. I'm still eating what I want to eat. Look at my Instagram. I'm still not holding back.

Healthy for your longevity. Yeah.

So I definitely want to just like, at least, you know, do something about it. And then I actually feel way better. So that's cool.

Okay. Awesome. Menace. I'm really proud of you.

Thank you.

It really warms the calmness of my heart.

Anybody that feels like we gotta get.

To emails right now. Yeah, we gotta get to email.

One second. I know, I know. We'll talk about sucking on wieners in a second. But I just wanted, like, talk about inspiring people. If you feel the same way, just get up and do it every day. I know, it's like hard. There's days that I don't want to get in the gym and do it. I just do it. And you just start off slow. Don't go from zero to a thousand.

Just start off with ten minutes a day. Do you remember Michael Moore, the filmmaker? He was like, he started that whole walking thing. He's like, just walk for 10 minutes and then 20. So I'm just really proud of you because this has been a 10 year thing.

You've been talking about sexual. All right, let's talk about wieners.

Okay, everyone, thank you for emailing me. Feedbackextwithemily.com and vaginas.

And vaginas.

Listen, peoples, you can. Yeah. Feedbackextwitthemily.com I love hearing from you. And I also love even more when you include your name. Then we can change your name, but where you are, where you live and how old you are. And yeah, how you listen is cool too. We just wanna know how you listen. But really, it's how old you are. Okay, Ready? And near where you live. All right. Dear Emily, I came across your website recently and I listened to a handful of your podcasts while on a long drive. Needless to say, I've fallen in love with your podcast. Anyway, I'm a 24 year old woman and I'm pretty sure I'm a rarity when I say I love giving blowjobs. The main reason being I get ridiculously turned on by hearing a guy breathe heavy and or moan. And I'm sure it somehow subconsciously rel to my own ego. I guess I'm just curious if this is normal for women. I mean, I know guys really enjoy hearing women get off, but I've never really heard about it the other way around. Thanks, Emily. Sincerely, B. I think that's really funny because first of all, I think that women do. Definitely. I love that you're saying this because I've actually been having a debate lately with my friends. This just happened last week where my guy friend was like, I don't think that women do women really like blowjobs. Like, they're always saying, I can't wait to have your cock in my mouth or whatever. They text me that. He's like, but do they really like it? I'm like, yeah, some women do, some don't, but I think women like it. And then my friend who's got all her married friends, she texted them all and they all said, no, only has birthday. I don't like it, blah, blah. But I'm like, I like it. Like, I don't. So I think it's split. I don't think it's a 50. I don't even know what the split is. But what is your perception? Do you think that women like it in your overall? Like, do you think that they just do it or they like, they just like. Do you think they really enjoy it? What do you think?

I think I agree with you on the 50.

50.

Yeah, yeah.

I wasn't saying I don't know if it's 50. 50. I want to hear from you guys because I love it. Mm. I mean, I've never just.

Dude. Just to do it though.

Like, I remember, like, remember when Lynette were you here when Lynette Carolla was on the show and she was like, I've been with Adam for 20 years. I've never said no. Never say no to the BJ. I was like, why would you. It's like a 10 minute thing. It's like I always say, it's like flowers for women. Okay, so B, you're totally fine. You are in the zone. That's great. And you realize the magic and of the blowjob.

I know. And you keep your man happy.

You keep him happy. And it's great that you love it because it helps you get good at like everything in life. Like, I think that there are a lot of women who don't like it. They might say it's a taste or uncomfortable, but I think a lot of women and men, same with Kunn Lingus, they feel like they just don't know what they're doing or they're not confident. But the only way you're gonna get better is it when you keep doing it and you get the positive moans and the feedback and that totally turns you on. I think that's awesome. Be that it turned you on. So I wanna be clear though. It's totally fine for women to enjoy sex as much or if not more than men. So you are not unusual at all. But you are my hero.

Yeah.

Love it.

It's funny, there was this famous actress.

Drawing a blank, but she would say in interviews, just keep your man drained and fed and you're good and he'll never leave you. He'll be like a puppy dog next to you.

We'll see about that.

Yeah. Full control.

Yeah. It's true though. I mean, it's not that hard. And I just. They build it up with the blowjob would take like 10. It can seem sometimes oral sex with women maybe takes a little longer, but whatever. Either way, you should go down. Okay. Hey, Emily. First and foremost, I wanted you to know how much I love and appreciate your show. You provide an invaluable service and it's such a pleasure to get insight on sex and relationships from such an intelligent, well spoken, classy woman. I'm classy. Anyway, onto my question. I love giving oral sex. It's so intimate and sexy and there are few things as beautiful as. There are few things as beautiful as women climaxing while I'm going down an hour. But with the last few women I've slept with, it seems like it only goes on for a few minutes before they want to have intercourse. I'm the type who likes taking his time. So it's making me wonder, would they be Hurrying things along because. Are they hurrying things along because they're so turned on or because they aren't enjoying themselves and want me to move along? I'd appreciate your input. Thanks again, Sean. Oh, Shawn, I love you. You are my dream man. There, I said it. I wish all men had these feelings about oral sex because there's a really complicated thing going on with oral sex. Because I do believe that a lot of women, there's like different substance. They're like, he doesn't want to be doing it. Maybe I taste weird or smell funky and he doesn't want to be there. And it's going to take me a long time. So I'm just going to say, let's just have sex. And I think a lot of women can attest to that. That and the best thing that a guy, Sean, if you're into it, the best thing that you can say to a woman. And I'm telling you, I've had guys say this to me and it is like music to my ears when they say, I love doing this. And I could be here all night. Because then when he's going down to me and he's like, listen, I love this, I want to do this. Lay back, relax, chill. And you're like, takes all the pressure off because we're always thinking, does he want to. We're looking at the clock, 10 minutes, 15 minutes. Not anymore after this. But you know, I'm saying, like, settle in, tell me you got some time and you're gonna be there. And hopefully she'll relax more, Sean. So I think you gotta let him know how much you really wanna be there between her legs, pleasing her.

I actually never asked you this in the past 10 years. And you've always promoted oral sex. Is it your favorite thing that guys do to you if they know how to do it? Is it your all time favorite?

I think it's. Yeah, I'd say it's top, top, top. How many things are there? What is your top? 3.

Then what is your favorite?

I mean, I guess I like intercourse. I like being spanked. No, I like dirty sex. No, I mean, I really have to say oral sex is probably like my. One of my top things.

You've promoted it so much, I hate to.

You know what it is? It's like choosing between like children or something. Like for me sex is like. Can I say oral sex? But yeah, I love some really good warm up with oral sex. If a guy knows how to do it or I, you know, and he's into it because that's when I'm gonna tell you to come up. That's when I'm gonna say, oh, it's cool. Let's have sex. Cause I know you're not into it. It's just like blowjobs. You don't want a blowjob from a woman who's like, gagging and like, rolling her eyes and like, making.

It's just so, like, no pressure to it at all. They're just doing it to do it. That is the absolute worst.

Right? The number one tip I always give about oral sex across the board for men and for women, is to be enthusiastic and to be into it. And if you're not, you just gotta fake it.

You might as well not even do it.

Don't even go there. Don't even try it.

Just say, I'm not into it.

Exactly. And there are plenty.

Because then he's just gonna go around and say, oh, she gives terrible blowjobs.

Right? You might as well not even try that. Right. But Shawn, it could be happening for a number of reasons. Like I said, Pat has nothing to do with you. She could be insecure. She might have trouble relaxing. So you could try to do that. She could be sensitive. There's a lot of women who actually are oversensitive. In fact, women who are very orgasmic, multi orgasmic, tend to be women who actually don't like oral sex or it doesn't feel good to them. But I can't imagine that the last three. Three women you've been with are the best few that this is the case. So it's normal to feel insecure that it's about your oral sex skills. Like, we all question ourselves when our partners say no to something or turn away that we think it's us. But I think that you should just go slower. Every woman's different. And ask her what she wants again. It's always great to start off slow and just let her know that you are there and you're settling in. You're gonna pitch tent, hang out for a while. That's all I want. Okay. Hey, Emily. And staff ladies. That would be everyone here. I've been listening for a while.

And I've been listening for a while and now. You know what? Yeah. Okay. Hey, Emily. And safely. I've been listening for a while now and always find the show entertaining and usually find it instructive. Thanks so much for everything each of you do. My wife of 20 years and I have used your valuable information to enhance your sex life and grow even closer. This brings me to My question. A few nights ago, as I was washing the vomit off my genitals, I realized that my wife might need some help learning to give a blowjob.

That happened to my friend once, but I think just because she was drunk, she threw up on us.

That happens too. She only recently has started trying to learn this skill and apparently has a fairly active gag reflex. She's open to learning and I want to encourage her. We bought the Tickle as pickle book you featured on the show and that helped, but she doesn't learn from books.

Would any of you have a beginner friendly video recommendation towards learning this womanly art? Thanks so much. Have a happy season. Holiday season, everyone. Nate from Austin. Okay, Nate, I love this question and I'm going to get right back to it, but we're going to take a quick break and we'll be right back.

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Do you think she's just gagging? Because she's, like, just going.

No, I think that women. Yeah, she's probably going too far. She sees it in porn. She thinks that that's what men really want. But you don't have to deep, though, every time to please him. If you have a sense of gag reflex. Here's the thing, is that you can use your hands, you can put it in your mouth, that as long as you have enough pressure on the penis, you don't have to go all the way back there. Plus, the nerve endings that bring the most pleasure is the tip of the penis, the frenulum, which is on the underside of the penis. So if you just, like. If you like, keep your mouth around the head so your lips hit the area where the head meets the shaft, stuck gently on the tip. And you use your tongue to place pressure on the underside, the frenulum. So, like the underside of the penis where it's your erectus, you know what I'm talking about? The point that's pointing down towards your balls, that little area beneath the tip is the frenulum. It's your best friend. It feels really, really good when a woman sucks on it. So she could do that. I mean, I don't know if you're forcing her head in there or if she just thinks she has to, but clearly it's not her thing. And if she's vomiting on you, just tell her to, like, really, she could use her hand job, blowjob, combination those two sensations together. I mean, are you ever gonna turn down, like, a blow with the. They use hands. Women use their hands, the balls, the whole thing.

They need to, though.

They need to. Yeah, you wanna have more pressure. So I think she should just, like, step away from the deep throat. Although if you do want tips and you're listening and you don't actually vomit, but you wanna know more, the best thing is to just relax your throat and to breathe before you do it. And you relax your throat and you let your tongue fall back and you just, like, take deep breaths and you can learn to relax it, but it sounds like that's just not her thing in this situation. You know better what feels good for you. So if you teach your partner how to please you, you know, maybe you guys can do mutual masturbation. She knows how you want to be touched, but no more gag reflex for her. And ticklish Pickle is a great book for anyone who wants to learn about the pickle. Sweet. Yeah. Okay. Okay. A to V licking.

All right.

Hi, I'm 36 years old. I'm writing from Omaha, Nebraska. Is it safe for a man to lick my A and then my V? That would be anus and vagina. For those of you who aren't sorry.

I'm just laughing because there's a song.

Out right now called A to B.

No.

Oh, truffle butter.

Well, not even that too. There's another one that it says eat the booty. Like grocery. Oh, yeah.

Does Nicki Minaj eat your ass like a cupcake also?

Oh, yeah, it's very popular right now. So trendy.

I just lost my appetite. Not that I don't love sex, but.

Right now I think you go ask the mouth all the time. Cause you never denied that you didn't watch the mouth. Every time I bring it up.

You should never go ass to mouth. All right? That's bacteria. It's bad for. You can't go ass to mouth. You can go. No.

I don't know, it seems like.

What do you mean? Oh, do I ever just go to the mouth? Do I ever put my mouth on an ass? Yeah. Is that what you're asking me? Oh, I was thinking. Cause we're talking about vaginas and asses. Yeah. Yeah.

But I'm just starting.

No, I don't do that.

Very.

No, I don't. Can I be honest? Can I be honest? I don't.

Okay.

I don't.

All right.

And I should.

And I will finally made a statement about it. Because every time I bring it up, you kind of give a giggle like that. Is something going on in your daily life?

I probably should.

Should admit it or just do it.

Let's add it to our project list. No, I mean, I've. I haven't done it that much, to be honest.

Oh, see, you have done it.

I mean, I can't remember the last time.

All right, I'm just saying.

Here's the point.

I knew it.

So you even get through this email? Jesse. Okay.

She wants to know.

Oh, no, I didn't finish it. Cause you. Fuck you. Listen, she wants to know. The same question goes for me. Licking him and then going back to a blowjob. Is it risky for me? Can it transmit bacteria? Thanks for the great advice, Jess. Yes, Jess, it can transmit bacteria anytime. You go from anal to vagina or anal to penis or anal to friggin your turkey sandwich. It is a bad idea because then you're eating bacteria with your mayo. The whole thing, it's not good. Okay, anal. And then you go to the bathroom. You have.

So what do you do about that?

This is what you do. If you go anal, then you go and you wash it off. Like you don't go back and forth. You brush your teeth, you wash your hands, you change the condom. If it's like you're having anal sex and you're going back to vaginal sex. So it's really important. So you and your partner should both be showered and totally clean down there before any mouth to anus action. Not that I would know. I do know. I'm kidding. I've done it. I just can't remember last time. I'm super busy.

No, I don't need you to tell me the last time, just that you've done it before.

I need the new iOS9 so I can start tracking my anal activity. You haven't licked any anus recently.

Dude, my.

Is it gonna text me and be like, anal activity? You haven't had any anal activity in 14 days.

I know.

But do you know what also is crazy? My one of my old co workers said that he had a ex girlfriend that was super into it. Like she wanted to do it all the time.

There's some people, there's guys who are super into it. Everyone, everything's good, you guys. It's all normal. It's all fine.

Giggling because obviously it's funny, but we're not judging.

No, you guys, people freaking love it.

Yeah, don't be uptight saying that we're judging.

No. Yeah. Don't email anything angry.

Everyone wants to be offending.

I was telling you, I do it right. I know, right? Do people just get pissed?

Oh my God. Try being.

You on the air every day.

Cause you also are more offensive in nature.

Well, yeah. And then people just like overanalyze everything. Jesus Christ. You think that like being offended is people's like full time job?

I know. Seriously.

Well, they like, like have some freaking fun.

I know. All right, but we love you all. Can't we tell?

Of course.

Okay, so here's the thing, Jesse. You and your partner should both be showered. Like I said, be showered for any mouth to anus. Any anus, anything.

Just do it in the shower.

That's a great way to do it. Then your insulin, you can wash it off, right? It's not a good idea to switch from analingus to oral because bacteria. She's totally right. So if you want to engage in bacterial play during Oral. Whether it's during a BJ or while he's going down on you, you can explore using a finger or two. So don't use your mouth. And always, always, always, always, always use lube and wash your hands. And these days with like sanitizer and all those wipes. Like, have some wipes by your bed. Like, I have wipes by my bed. I have a lot of things by my bed.

What kind of wipes?

I have, like, those, like sex toy cleaners. I don't know. They're just regular wipes I got at the grocery store.

Is your nightstand just full of. Dude, my stuff just, like, lubed.

I really, I would love to ask my intern Lori here to come and clean up my sex dryer, but I'm not going to because she'd have to wear surgical gloves. And it's like, really embarrassing.

Hazmat suit.

Here's the problem. There's probably, and I'm no joke in my bedroom, 200 vibrators. And the problem is they're all rechargeable, but they're tucked away. Oh, dear.

Electricity bill must be. They're not all charged.

But the problem is these vibrators these days, they don't come with like, this is a fun factory vibrator. This is a vibratex. Then you gotta match the cords with the vibrator. I don't freaking know which goes with which. I didn't have a label maker out when I was masturbating. Charging it. What? I realized that the problem is I'm getting back to analingus in a minute. Is it my house is not only not kid proof, it's not date proof. So I had this date come over.

A few weeks ago and he slipped on a dildo.

Literally. Yeah. I'm like, oh, my God, I forgot there was one charging in the bathroom. I mean, I need a full on hour to hide. I've got a wedge. Oh, man, thank God the Sybian's not set up yet because I don't know what the hell I'm doing with that. Like, it's really, like, it's not date proof at all. It's a problem.

I'll set up the Sybian, I promise.

Will you?

I swear.

Okay. Awesome. And you and your girlfriend can come use it.

I just want to see what it looks like.

It's awesome. I mean, it's got 500 heads to it and you guys are going to die. We're gonna do some videos on it. All right. Okay. So anyway, backdoor play. Here's the Deal. The lining of your anal activity is very thin. And so it does not provide enough lubrication. That's why I'm always saying whenever you are having anal sex, even if you're using your fingers, you wanna use lube, not your saliva. So all that spitting you see in porn and stuff, that's also bacteria. That's not safe. So nothing should go near your back door. Toys, fingers, penis, anything should go back there and then in your vagina, on your vagina, any of that. So keep wipes all that stuff by your bed, like I do. I can never find them though, buried under toys. All right, we've got some oral sex. We've got some more things about oral sex. Are we good here, people?

Few minutes.

We're having a good time here. Okay. Dear Emily, I love the show. Okay, here's a sitch. I love performing oral sex on my lady friends. Here's the caveat. My orgasms are not as intense without it. And I recently started sleeping with someone who insists that I gargle after going down on her. And it completely takes me out of the mood. I'm not opposed to the taste. She really is clean. So why must I gargle after? Is that a thing to do?

He goes down to her and she's.

Like, don't make out with me.

Wow. You never hear about that.

I know. You always hear the guy who's like, you just swallowed my jizz. Brush your teeth. I know some guys do that. Yeah. And it's offensive.

It's just weird.

But whatever.

It's not your own jizz. It's not like some other guys, you know?

Yeah. Cause that'd be really weird.

Yeah.

Okay. So you should just, you know. So why must I gargle after? Is that a thing to do? Ask Going downtown now to go and rinse my. Is that a thing to go downtown and then rinse my mouth? Should I suck it up and mentally get back into the game? Like, it's pissing him off. He's like, I just gave you an orgasm and now you want me to go to the bathroom and get out of the mood and gargle. But I guess it's not unusual. Cause women are always self conscious. And men about their penis and about their taste of how they taste down there. I think for men they're thinking like, not even just like. I think for women, they're like, I think it's the same thing. They think that they're not gonna taste good. Like, thank you for going down there. But I don't want anything to do with it for their hygiene. Cause we're always wondering if we're clean or not. And I have to admit that there have been guys I've been with who it's been a while since the guys been like, don't kiss me. But I also don't try to. For. I'm not, like, trying to make out with them right after I swallow their semen. But I do understand this. And obviously he's probably one of these guys who's okay with her kissing him after fellatio. But if it's a deal breaker, I would bring it up. Or just, why doesn't he just put some of those breath strips by your bed instead of having to get out of bed? Or just keep some mouthwash by the bed poured into a cup? I mean, the thing is, I don't think this should trip him out as much as it. I mean, I think we can put an end to this. I think that you could, like, split the difference if it freaks her out and you still want to make out. Like, put a breath strip in your mouth or, like, drink some water. Cause for me, like, after, if I. Let's say I swallow, I'll drink some water, and then, you know, it's all good. We're all fine. Like, you're not gonna get sick from it. But he's offended, and it takes him out of the mood. Has this ever happened to you with a girl?

No. That's just weird. No, I think I always hear that with guys, though, you know?

But why is it. Why are guys so freaked out and girls typically aren't?

I don't know. Because guys are weird, too. It's hard to understand things like that.

I think guys are like, I want to taste my jizz.

Or maybe.

And then I called Uber. Just kidding.

Well, maybe also, like, maybe she had a bad past experience. You know, something happened.

Yeah, maybe she had a bacterial vaginosis or something and someone went down on.

Her and yeast infection or. I don't know.

I don't know. All it takes is really one guy to be like, that's like, you're disgusting down there. Or like, things are not so fresh and it just. You're ruining. Yeah, you are finished for life. It's true. Or some guy tells you you got a small penis in the locker room at a young age. I mean, if anyone insults your genitalia across the board, it will stick with you for life. So that could be it as well. So, Sean, nothing wrong with talking to her and saying, you know, is that Sean. Right, Like I think you should. Jason.

Yeah. To say, hey, do I, do I really need to go do that right now?

Right. Like I think he tastes great. It tastes like flowers.

Sean, I also find it kind of weird that you're even tasting Jason. It's Jason.

Yeah, whatever.

I thought you just said Sean.

I did. It was a mistake a couple ones ago. Corrected it.

My bad. Jason.

I do find it kind of weird, like you're getting laid.

Who cares?

You're a guy, you know what I'm saying?

I know, but he's sensitive about it.

Guys don't really care. Or sensitive or care about this kind of stuff.

No.

So you know, if that's just something like something she had a bad experience in the past and that's what she really wants to do to get through it. You know what? You're still getting laid. There's a billion guys out there not getting laid. I know that it would be happy to fucking go.

To the grocery store. Yeah. Dinner.

They would walk 50 miles to their house. To the chick's house.

You know, joke man cares.

But yeah, at least talk to her at least once. And if she says that's what she likes and just stick with it, there's a lot worse things that she would make you do.

Exactly.

Thank you, Menace, it's been a wonderful show and thank you everyone for listening. Here's the dealio. Thank you so much, Madison producing, Matt for the show. And thank you to Lori, my intern. Thank you Menace, as always for being here out of your busy day, your schedule. I know you're super famous and stuff, but I love it. And I love you honey, so much. And also, yeah, review us on itunes like we said. We love that. And one more thing, one more thing. I'm gonna ask you one more thing before I go. Follow. This is the three. Follow me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram Ex with Emily. I love you all. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackextwithemily.com.

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