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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.

Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz My man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my.

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean?

Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding?

Me.

Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can check out my podcast, send it for my mailing list. God damn it. Have you not sent it for my mailing list? I give really good email. I mean, I have other skills as well, but I have to say that people, they like my emails. Check it out. We send them once a week. We do not spam you. And they're pretty entertaining. And they link to a lot of the great stuff at our site, which every day we're posting blogs and videos and things that will help you have better sex and relationships, because that's what I'm all about. And I'm all about these sexy ladies here. Hi.

Hi.

Hello.

This is so fun. I love these shows because we. I've got these, you guys. There is nothing held back here. I know, because. Okay, so I'm gonna go around and introduce you guys, and then we're gonna talk about when we first met. Like, how I know that they would be awesome on the show. So first. Okay, so I have Grace. Yes. Hi. Hi.

Hi.

Hi, Grace. Hello. So tell me. Tell me about yourself. How old are you?

Oh, my name is Grace parra. I am 31 years old. I am sassy Latina. It's not relevant at all. No, I love our conversation.

I just got a picture. Oh, there are pictures on the site.

There are pictures on the site. Great. And I'm a writer, host, comedian, actress, I guess I should say, too. Yeah. Hyphen it. One of those LA hyphenates. I love it. Yeah. And I'm a real big fan of sex. Talking about sex, being canned about sex. Avoiding talking about sex with my father.

Right. That's good. That's probably a good thing. I mean, I don't know. Dads don't use the word.

Dads will get it. Moms get it a little bit.

Yeah, yeah, but dads know.

Dad know.

That's smart. Okay, wait a minute. Are you in a relationship? What's your relationship status?

I am single. I am single as the day is long. No, that's not. That's nothing.

That sounded so sad, Grace.

It does sound very sad. I'm. Yeah.

Single, but it won't be after this show.

I don't know.

Once they hear about you.

I'm. But dating.

Okay. Single, but dating. Got it. Okay. Jennifer or Jen?

Jen. Yes.

Jen.

Hi. How are you?

Hi, Jen. I'm good. Good to see you.

Oh, I'm excited to be here. My name is Jen Bartels. I'm also a comedian and actress and creator of Things that are Important to me in my heart. That sounded cute and deep. And we actually have a show. Grace and I have this show called Lady Free Comedy that we do at UCB here in Los Angeles. That's kind of a, I guess, similar air to this show, which is us just being stupidly candid, not the most educated, but always wanting to further our education on sex topics. So, so excited to be here. And how can people find that?

Like, I just want to say that I'm honored because I was in your first show.

You were amazing.

Yes.

You guys gotta check it out. It was really fun. And I have to say, I knew, Like, I walked into, like, our green room, and I think Grace was at you. You're like. You were like.

Yeah.

So this guy. I was seeing this guy, and, like, some guy came in my chest. And then I had another date, and I didn't have time to shower, and then I went home, and then I had another guy, and then I'm like, no shower. The concrete. He smelled the. I mean. So I'm like.

We just got right into it.

I don't even think we said hi.

We didn't say hi.

I don't even think I said, like, I'm.

Emily came on.

It was like, these girls can get down. So that was a good. That was behind the. Wait till you see the show.

Oh, yeah.

Okay.

Oh, yeah.

So. Okay. Kim. Hi, Kim.

Hi, Emily.

How are you?

I'm doing great, thanks.

So tell me, Kim. So Kim's a friend of mine. And tell me about you. You live in, like. We all live in Los Angeles.

Yes.

Okay.

And how old are you?

Well, I'm 42 and very single, and I've never been married, so you can imagine how many sex stories I have to share.

Right, because you're not a virgin. You haven't been a virgin for a while.

Well, yeah, it's been a few years, so. A very long time. But no, I. It's just something I'm totally interested in. It's a big part of my life and definitely open to just, like, talking about it today and sharing some crazy stories.

And you're single now. You said single, very single. Yes. I'm sorry, Jennifer, did you say I'm separated?

So I'm newly single.

Okay. Separate. You were married?

I was married.

And now I'm going through a divorce.

Oh, okay. And how long were you married?

I was married for two years, but I was with him for seven. Okay, so it was the same dick for seven years.

Wow. Okay, so now you're just going, we're all single.

Yeah.

This is insane. Okay. Lori, Assistant producer Lori. Hello. Hi, sweetie. So tell me you.

I'm 27. 27 years old, and I am single, looking for more, you know?

You want a relationship?

Well, I always want a relationship. Yeah. I just feel like I'm wired that way. But I also very much enjoy casual sex.

Right. It's a good time. Just especially when part of her job is like, I gotta try out this toy tonight. Can you. Can you come over and. Right. Laurie said some good stories.

I want that job, by the way.

It's awesome.

Yeah, it's actually. I mean, I don't wanna tell her. I don't know. Maybe she. You know. No one likes the boss when I leave. No, I'm kidding. But we have a good time in the.

We do.

Lori had her first multiple orgasm after using a toy in the office. I just want to just launch with that because I just introduced her that way.

Now, wait, was it in the office?

No, not in the office.

Okay.

But we have interned. We will. She was an intern, but we've interned. Sex Toy review day. We just did a sex toy review show recently, but she was saying the night before that she had never had a multiple orgasm. And she was trying this thing called the We Vibe Touch.

It's.

We Vibe makes a bunch of sex toys, but it's a clitoral toy. And she was like, I've never had one. I said, you know, just because you never had one. Because a lot of things about sex is, we think I can only orgasm this way. I can only do things that way. And then Lori took the touch home that night and night. And I was like, well, don't limit. You never know. It could happen. She came in, I. We were on mic like this, in the same place. So how was the We Vibe touched? She's like, I had five orgasms.

Yeah.

Five in the one.

That's incredible.

Like, plant, like seed in my brain.

One after the other.

It was like one, and then a minute later, two right next to each other. And then like 15 seconds later, another.

So, like aftershocks.

It was like little tremors.

Like the big one and then after.

Right.

Awesome.

Wow. Yeah. I know.

That's amazing.

I know. It's amazing.

I want that, by the way. I also.

Do you want the Toy. Have you ever had. Okay, so let's. Okay. So, Grace, have you had multiple orgasms?

I have occasionally, but only self inflicted.

Okay.

Never been given multiples by a man or by a toy.

Oh, really?

Neither man nor machine has been able to.

Neither man nor machine.

But you.

So your fingers are typically how you masturbate?

Well, actually, I do this sort of like kegelsy thing. Oh, does anybody else do this? Kege, this is something we talked about a little bit on Lady Freak, but yeah, I am like.

You pump the Kegel muscles. Yeah.

Yeah.

Like I don't use my fingers at all.

You don't even touch yourself?

Don't even touch myself. Which is how sometimes the middle of the night, I can wake up mid orgasm.

Wait, you hands free masturbate?

I hands free masturbate?

Yep.

Have you always done that?

Always. I don't know how I learned it. Don't know how I picked it up, but it's. I've always done that.

Yeah, no, I've. This is why I'm saying, you guys, we talked about this intensity. We have this product called the Intensity that does your Kegel exercise. It's the most amazing product in the world, and it does it for you. So your kegels become stronger. And what I'm saying is when they become stronger that your pelvic floor, you can actually walk around like aroused all the. All the time because your muscles are bigger. That's why every woman needs to do their kagalad. Her pelvic floor drops. It's not straight, especially after childbirth or as you get older every year, you know. But we all exercise her outside because as everyone can see, no one's going. Her pelvic floor looks kind of lazy. But I'm telling you, I love this. Really? That's it. I've never. Yeah, okay.

Yeah, I could talk about. I mean, it's great in many ways. It's a little bit difficult though, because translating that to sex.

So during intercourse, you typically. Do you have orgasms, though?

It's much harder for me in.

Only 30% can during.

Is that the official stat?

Yeah, that is 70% cannot. Okay. Kim. What? I can. No, I can't during intercourse. Every time if I want to. See. I don't know why you're here. I have a hard time having friends like this.

I have to, like, think about it and really focus on it, though.

Is it a certain position or can you do it for multiple positions?

Mostly like me on top. So I wish I other. I could do it other.

No, but still. So on top. So is it. Is it G spot or clitoral? Dune.

It's G spot for sure. Absolutely.

See, mine's clitoral. I can. On top. It's a surefire way. We could. We could do it and still make dinner reservations and not be late. Because if I hop on every time. Every time, every time. Unless I've been drinking too much, because then that's a different problem.

Yeah, the bourbon pussy problem. The bpp. Anyway, I wish I could come other ways, like I see in porn. Like girls, I guess, quote unquote. I don't know if they're really coming, but, like, from the back, like from. Or the guy. Yeah.

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

And I'm just like. I don't know how that happens. They're lying.

Yeah. Well, we're anal sex, actually. Absolutely. No, they. Some of them. Important. They might not be in that moment, but a lot of women can have orgasm through anal sex because the tissues are so closely hitting up against your G spot. And it's possible. It is possible. Use lots of lube. Not for every woman, but it can happen. So, yes, you're right. That is so. But you also want to be able to have a G spot orgasm, too, or can you have that as well, during.

No, it's more clitoral stimulation.

And have you had a G spot orgasm?

I have once or twice, but it's a rarity. It was like a special gift.

It was a gift from God. Thank you. Okay. Yes.

Kim, I wanted to add something to that. It actually didn't start for me until, like, my mid-30s.

Really?

Yeah.

I think that there was, like, training or I had to learn my body. I had to learn what really worked.

So how did you do that, Kim?

Yeah, I was just reading.

I really.

I actually read a book called the G Spot, and it was really, like, inspired me, and I really, like, put effort into it, and I think a lot of it's mental.

It is. How did you. Did you. Did you get a G Spot toy or did you just start playing around? You just read about how to move during sex. So what did you learn?

I just learned about really getting yourself really aroused. Like, like, on the outside. And, like, you're. Of course, it's really helpful if your clit is.

Yeah. They say to have a clitoral. They say. I say, I know this. That it really helps to have a clitoral orgasm first. And then it's so much easier to find your G spot because it becomes more engorged and Swiss. You're already turned on But I really.

Have to focus on it. I think I actually like visualize in my mind that I want it to happen. And then I feel like that makes it it much easier for sure.

Before your mid-30s, had you tried to make. Because I've never had one and I try.

No, I don't maybe read this book.

So you.

You didn't even try?

I don't really. Honestly don't remember.

But definitely the mentally, like I have to really take myself there and I really have to be into the guy. Can't happen with just everyone. I really have to like, care about him or have some kind of a feel, you know, feelings of some sort.

That's so important. I can't just anything. I can't just meet a guy and do it.

On the flip side though, if you really care about somebod. Oh my God. If you're into somebody, it's like water works, right?

Oh, yeah. Oh, you get like squishy pussy. Like.

Oh, I wish I have never done that. I'd be interested in it. Yeah, I'd be very. In fact, I had a goal actually before I turned 31, that I would have squirty fun before 31.

That should be the name of your birthday. You already heard. Okay. Squirty something before 32. We can make this happen for you.

Oh, yeah, Squirty Lou before 32.

Yeah.

Okay.

Yeah, yeah, totally. I mean, you can learn to squirt. You can learn to squirt. So you want to set up? Okay, so. And then masturbate. Did we talk about how you do you masturbate, Jen?

I do. I masturbate quite a bit.

How?

First, the funny thing, we talked about this in the last show. I will fuck on my bed. But when I masturbate, I hide underneath next to my bed. So in case any neighbor can find a way to peek in, they can't see me.

Oh, my God.

Really?

Like you're afraid they're gonna.

I don't know. I will. I can openly do things on my bed sexually. But when I'm by myself, I'm like dirty little girl. And so I like go and I like sit by myself sitting on the floor. Like laying on the floor. It's not a cold floor.

It's a warm room.

Yeah. No, it's not like a. It's not a cage. Like, it's not. I masturbate and I use my fingers, but I just rub my clit. So I don't like finger myself directly. Yeah, like. Yeah, like I directly rub my clit.

That's something that I actually have been learning about myself. Direct stimulation to my clit is too much, right?

That's very. That's actually common. So this is why. This is why we're talking about this, because you're gonna. We have five women in the room and five different ways of organ vaginas. We're all different. It's true. We all organ them differently. And there's a lot of women who just. Their clitorises are way too sensitive.

Too sensitive?

Yeah, they just can't. They can't have it touched. They have to, like, work up to it. So that makes sense. But some women are like, you know, you see porn.

This is a question with. When you have too much sex or your, like, clit is just getting touched and simulated for, like, a few hours. Then in the morning or in the middle of the night. Once recently, my clit felt like it was going on its own. It was having little seizures. And I don't know if it was, like, withdrawal or. I had overly rubbed it. Like, it was.

Did it hurt?

No, it didn't hurt. It just felt like it was like aftershocks. It was aftershocks of just little.

That's like. That's like. Like multiple orgasms kind of.

Right.

But it wasn't an orgasm.

I was just laying there and I was like. And then I. I always think dark. I'm like, my clit's gonna fall off.

No, your clit cannot fall off.

Okay.

I thought you were asking me. No, but you can, like, sometimes, you know, with different toys, you want to mix it up if you're only using one toy. Just like anything you want. Do you ever use. But you don't use toys?

I used the rabbit for a while. Then I got so addicted to it because it's. It stimulates your butt, it stimulates your pussy hole, and then it stimulates your clit, and that's. It was like a Christmas morning. And then when I have a real dick, I was like, this is it, right?

Damn it. What else? You don't vibrate. You don't turn around. Those little balls inside.

Did you insert it, though, all the way in? Like, that's.

It was.

How deep did it go?

I mean, it goes pretty deep. It's a decent sized.

Yeah. Have you received. You guys have sent us sex in my office. Kids gotten some presents. You don't understand. It's a good time. The presents of the toys. So. So the. So you. But you don't have. Did you have a G spot orgasm with that insertion rabbit toy?

Yes. That was one of the times by myself that I've had one.

Got it.

Yeah, it just. It stimulates everything. It was one of like the best dildos on the market for a while. Yeah. Because it did so much. It blew my mind the first time that I had it.

I have the knockoff, the. The gasm.

The G. I thought you were gonna say the Ferret.

There's so many different kinds of rabbit vibes now. Like, they make hundreds of them now with like, they just. Just basically it's insertion and then they have the little things on the outside of it. Yeah, that's a clean one. Yeah. So that. That's cool. And Kim.

Yes.

Vibration experiences.

Guilty.

Yeah.

You know, my favorite toy is. What's that little pink one that you get?

Oh, the Jeju Mimi. That's my favorite.

Yeah, you got there real quick, by the way. That. That's impressive. You're in a second.

I literally have 300 toys. Five thousands toys. But that is my favorite.

That's my go to every time.

Right. It's so powerful, so efficient. So it looks like a little. I'll show you guys pictures after you guys. You guys. If you've been listening, I talk about it for a while. It's because I've tried everything. It still is my go to. And it's. It looks like a little. Like it's silicone. It's like a little. It's rechargeable. Like an egg of stone. Like a pebble. Yeah, yeah. And you can hold it in your hand. There it is. Yeah, it's like that you hold in your hand. It's rechargeable and it just has these. The reason why I know the owners and the reason why I feel like I love it so it's soft, but it's. It's a different kind of vibration. It's a thumpy. More like a motor. You love a thump. I love a hump and a thump.

I love a hump and a thumb.

And it's just. There's something about it. So that's what you used. Have you ever used it with a partner?

Ah, yes.

As a matter of fact, I put it underneath his perennium.

His balls?

Yes.

Loved it.

Oh, crazy.

Have you guys ever done any ball play? Guys love that. This vibrations. We think it's for us men. You put a little something. They're pretty on their balls.

I have never done any sex toy play with a guy before. You gotta get on that.

I do too.

I get scared, though. I just don't want to like pop a ball or like you know, hurt it. Because what ends up happening is I accidentally kick it or I do something. So I always get scared to bring toys near their sensitive ball sack.

Well, first, yeah, you don't do it the first time you're with them. But I felt that way, too. I had a really bad experience in my early 20s. Like, I think I knocked some guy in the balls or something, and I did something bad, and I literally blocked balls from my life. It was like I had, like, post traumatic ball disorder. I did not touch balls for, like, years. I, like, forgot they existed. And all of a sudden I was like, oh, my God. I. I get back into the balls, and then I realized, like, the ways to, like, handle them. Like, you just hope you start really soft. You put them in your hands. Kind of like those little Benoit balls. Yeah, yeah. You know, like that. And then. But then. And you can add a little lube and then just see the little vibrations on the lowest speed of any vibrator you have, and you just rub it in the balls. I'm telling you, no guys ever complain.

They crazy guys love you.

Put in the perineum, too, really gently. Like the taint in between. Yeah, gently. And right when he was about to orgasm.

Yeah, I was just kind of like, you know, during, like, the foreplay. Just kind of heating things up. It was super hot. It's definitely a go to.

Okay, good. I think the Mimi.

Yeah.

And I think it's good to talk to a guy about it.

Like, hey, you know, what's up?

Yeah, not a surprise. Like, lift up your balls.

Here we go.

Exactly. No, you don't want to rush it.

But.

Yeah, I. I know what you mean with the balls. I got scared. What about you, Lori?

I love balls. I. My favorite thing about. Well, I love the. Okay, I should say I like the scrotum in particular. I like to hold them. And then I like when your hand is a different temperature than their balls, and then the scrotum, like, like, moves and you can feel it moving. Like, I get a big kick out of that.

Yeah. And you find that some guys, though, there are guys that do ask them for you gentle start, gently. Or they were like, no, don't touch my balls. Have you ever had that?

They usually ask me to, you know, access their balls at some point. I go for the blow job pretty quick. I usually go for a blow job, and then I feel like, I don't know, 9 out of 10 times I'll hear like, oh, don't touch my balls.

Yeah, I know, you're right. That is.

You know what?

That was a nice transition. Let's go into blowjobs for a minute. Oh, let's. I want to know, how do you guys feel about blowjobs?

I love them. I love them. I really genuinely enjoy giving them. I like the feeling. I like the taste. I like the power.

It's powerful, right?

Powerful.

Yeah.

It's fun. It's really fun. I think it's. I probably. I think I might enjoy giving blowjobs more than I like receiving oral.

Really? Okay. You have the sensitive clitoris. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that makes sense.

Yeah, I like. Yeah.

Wow. It's good because there is blowjobs. Gets a bad. Men give. Like the women stop giving him. They don't really like it. Or there are.

I don't understand that.

I don't either, but you are. Okay, let's move to Jen for. Who's Jen?

Yeah.

You were married.

Yeah.

Seven years.

Yeah.

There's a. There's a myth and maybe it's a wives tale. Then when you get married, you stop giving blowjobs.

Oh, sex went. I mean, this is sad, but it's the honest fact. Yeah. Sex, it just went downhill. I mean, everything, it just. Sometimes it works. And you can make it work. And then sometimes you become so comfortable with someone that it's not. It goes a little. Falls by the wayside, falls by the wayside. And then it's just like life gets in the way. And so that's like my big focus now is like, that's not gonna happen with whoever I end up with next. But I do like giving blowjobs if I like the person. And I've gotten big on this thing where I like, even after he's been inside, then when he's right before he's about to come, I'll go back down and take it, Right.

You're like, come my mouth.

Yes. And it's so fucking hot. Can I say the F word?

Yeah, it's fine.

Right?

Okay. And I've just. It's been something. I'm like, I'm surprising my. I'm like, oh, okay. It's powerful. But it's also like if you like doing it and you know, it feels so wonderful to them. It's like a little mission I'm going on. I'm like, here I go. And I kiss my way down and then we go.

Wow, that's hot. Okay, good. Okay. Well, Kim, fan over it. Yes.

Huge fan.

Huge fan.

I mean, I would give them all day if I could. God.

See, and I love this. You guys Because I have friends who are like, no, women don't really like them. They lie.

I have friends like that, too. And I'm like. And some women don't look at my face.

Exactly.

And I think there's a lot to it, though. Like, the hygiene aspect, Liking the person, connecting with the person. I'm not just gonna, like, suck any dick that's. That puts his dick in my mouth.

Right.

You know?

Do you feel like you. Is it the kind of thing that you would do, like, on the first date?

Yeah, totally.

Sure.

Totally.

If it was a good first date. Sure.

If it was a good first date. I mean, what makes a good first date good enough that he gets a blow dough. You're connecting.

Oh.

I mean, I think, like, sense of humor paid for the bill. Wasn't, like, weird about it. Like, you got the French fries and I got the.

And you gotta be gone. French fries.

Fred is the worst.

That guy's a jerk.

Okay, so, Lori, blowjob.

I do love giving blow jobs. I feel like it's almost like I think I'm good at it. So it's, like, showing off when I do it. Like, are you ready for.

What makes you think that you're good at it?

Feedback.

Feedback.

You always do it.

When we did the blowjob workshop or the oral sex workshop, and I was watching through the PowerPoint and I was like, yep, I do all of that.

Oh, good.

Those are all things I can make.

Okay, good.

Except if it's, like, super, super large, then I get scared.

But we gotta get into that. Large penises. Yes. Kim.

I also think that you're, like, if, you know you're good at it, if you're really passionate about it, like, if you're into it, the guy's gonna be into it no matter what.

Enthusiasm is the number one thing.

But I have an issue when it comes to eye contact. I never know how much to give.

Just a little glance at her. That's the whole time.

No, that's so creepy. Cause that's happened to me where a guy's, like, going down on me and he's, like, looking up at me all the time for approval. And I'm not, you know, this guy, and I'm not. I'm just not into it. It's just, like, too much, man.

We almost feel like it's a show at that point. Like, it's, like, not real. Because you're like, how do I look? Do I look like I'm liking what I'm liking?

Right, Exactly. Right. Right. I think you Just gotta give them a little furtive glances every once in a while so they can kind of like, remember in their spank bank.

I don't know.

Right. Yeah. Okay. So do you guys have any blowjob tricks? Like your face. Do you have, like, a go to weird?

I was just gonna ask that. I was just gonna be like. Well, no, I was gonna ask.

I was like, ask me for blowjob tips.

Yeah.

Anybody here? I was like, are there any cool tips? Like, I know for me, I have big lips. I like to engulf as much as I can. Let's not use those teeth. And then when it's in my mouth, I'll use my tongue to kind of swirl around. Swirl around. So it's like a double thing. So you're getting in my mouth, but then I'm using my tongue to, like, kind of go around the tip?

Yeah, the tip and the frenulum, which is the most sensitive underside.

Yeah, the underneath of the disc. Yes, that's what I read about.

Nice. Okay, good. Any blowjob tips that you think have worked?

Well, if you are like me. This is so unsexy. Let's get unsexy for a second.

Yeah, why not?

If you're like me and you have.

Acid reflux.

Oh, deep throat.

Well, I like a deep throat. I do like that. But I have a combination of acid reflux and post nasal drip.

Oh, gosh.

Which is a great thing, though.

So hot.

It's so hot. Here's the great thing about post nasal drip, though. There's always a little extra accumulation of, like, fluid back there.

Oh, so you can make it wet?

Yeah, so I'm constantly making it wet. Like, there's just, like. It's a never. I never get dry during blow jobs. I can just like. There's just like, this barrel of.

That's amazing because really, it's like, number one is enthusiasm. Number two is, like, making sure, like, that it's super wet and slippery. Three is, like, enough pressure. So I got it with the wet.

The wet.

That can be hard for me. Sometimes I just, like, I need to take more water. Lube?

Yeah, lube. But I don't like tasting lube.

But there's some good tasting lube.

Don't they have, like, really cherry ones?

Well, I have this new trick. Wait, Kim, let's get to you blowjob tricks.

I have one little one that sometimes it's like my magic trick trick that I'll pull.

Ooh, magic trick. A magic blowjob trick.

So.

So I think it's Kind of like interesting. And maybe I don't even know because obviously I've never had a blow job, but I've actually taken my finger and put it inside the corner of my mouth and kind of swirled my fingertip around while I was.

Wait, back up. You're giving him a blow up? No, his penis is in your mouth.

Yeah. And then I'll take my finger and then kind of touch the tip with my finger. Just to create a different sense we're all doing this.

Can we get a picture?

Just to create a different sensation on him.

Like, not on me.

I'm sorry. Well, it's in my mouth, but it goes like this. And then I touch a little bit on the side with my finger. Does this make sense?

That is genius. I'm doing it right now.

It's pretty hot.

Is it? How far in is he? And then you're fingers, you know, like.

The whole head is in.

Right.

Then my fingertip is kind of swirling around a little because it just creates a different sensation.

Yeah, that's what you're not expecting it. Exactly. It's the whole thing of, like the. What they don't expect.

Yeah.

Okay. That's a good tip. Lori, any good blowjob tips always use.

The hands on the shaft? Yeah, I feel like. Just make sure there's coverage. And I feel like for a little while in my blowjob career, I had neglected the whole suction part of it. Like I was. I was inserting and everything, but I wasn't like sucking at all or there was no tight vacuum around it.

Right. You want to create that vacuum, you.

Just gotta be implementing that. Then everybody, you gotta think that you.

Gotta mimic like a vagina or an ass or whatever they're into. And in their hand, that's the tightness you want. So if you can make your mouth create that.

I try to do that. Sometimes I don't use my hand because I work my do mouth play and I'm like, oh, no, I'm going to it. My mouth will feel like my vagina. I'm going to do that.

How do you. So you do the deep throat too?

I'll do deep throat, but it's really. I mean. And it's not constant. Because if I do it, you'll just hear lots of.

Is that attractive to guys, you think?

I mean, I'm sure some people might be attracted to some, but not like.

Oh, she's about to choke.

Yeah, yeah.

I'm so too.

I'm good with like filling up my mouth as much as I Can. But also keeping that friction like you.

Said, that tightness like right at the very bottom.

Then.

So your mouth is going as down, but you're still kind of using your.

Hand a little bit. Like I might cut the base, but then it's just more about like with whatever I can comfortably fit in my mouth that I know feels good.

And then size.

Yeah. Depending on the size. Like, that's another thing. Guys.

Nipple play is something that I get into, by the way. You got one hand on the shaft, mouth around penis, and then with the.

Other hand you're playing with his nipples.

Yeah.

Okay. See, I've always found this fascinating because some men are like, I feel nothing. But some guys like it really into it. So have you found that more men are into.

Because I.

Actually that's the other thing I forgot. I don't do that as often anymore.

Yeah, a couple guys have been really into it and then they ask for it.

So you do squeeze it, do you?

No, I mean, I like rub around it. Rub around it? Yeah, and I'll kind of like tap it lightly because it's very sensitive. And like, nipples get erect during. For men. Nipples get erect during. During sex stuff. For women. My. I feel like my boobs get a, like a cup size bigger.

Yeah, no, it's true. You get, you get. You do the.

I don't know what the science is behind that. Is that true? Like, like our boobs, when you get erect.

Yeah, they can. When you're turned on, your nipples swell and all that. Absolutely.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So, yeah, that's fun.

Okay, little nibble play there.

What about butt stuff?

Let's get into that.

Well, like, I guess so. I mean, I don't mean to have such a direct segue, but when you're giving a blow job, there are some people that I know that are who have said, oh, yeah, my husband or so and so likes when I touch his asshole a little bit.

Right.

How do you get into that without being like, I'm about to touch that asshole?

That's a great question. Okay, so. Right. Because a lot of guys, they really believe that if they have any anal play, anything in their butt whatsoever, it'll make them gay. Let's say if they're a straight man, that they won't like it. But a lot of it, the fear comes to, like, it's gay. It's not. Right. There's something taboo about it, which we all know. Anal sex is taboo across the board. However, there is like the male prostate, which they call like the male G spot. And I'm telling you, not every man, but many men, they do like that. Like, you put a finger in, but you don't want to just go right in. So, like, what I just tell men, too, about anal sex with women is that you never just want to, like, stick it in. You got to play. So what I say is, like, use some lube. I'm a huge. You guys are lube fans?

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like, my dream is, like, lube on every nightstand in the world, that you just take a little lube, maybe make sure you could, you know, put your fingers wet, and then you just start, like, rubbing around it with your finger. Like, around his anus, maybe when you're giving a blow job and just see how he reacts. And then you can just start, like, tapping up into it with your finger. And then if he doesn't, like, freak out, then you can just kind of, like, stick a finger in, see how it feels, you know, See if he goes, ah. Or, you know. But I think that a lot of guys are kind of, like, into it. Sometimes you do it right before they come, but you never want to surprise them right away. Just stick the finger. What's been your experience, Kim? Because you were nodding over there knowingly.

Well, I just experienced this last week.

So she had anal sex just in preparation for the show, Right?

What a good student.

But no, with the whole, like, touching, like, during, like, the blow job thing. And it wasn't even, like, something I had to ask. I just, like, like, slowly kind of made my way there and did some of that, like, tapping and touching, but definitely with lube, because it's not even, like, cool. There's, like, hair, and it gets kind of gnarly, so it made it nice and easy and smooth. And, I mean, he went crazy.

Wow.

Amazing.

Okay, and then was this when you were blowjob. Giving him blowjob, or.

Yeah, it was.

Yeah.

And did you stick a finger in or.

I didn't go in because he's kind of new, and I just kind of felt like that was crossing a line. Maybe I wanted to get.

Yeah, you get to know him better. You don't just, like, rush into the anal. I mean, some people do, but.

But it was still, like, really. I know it really turned him on, and I definitely know it made his orgasm, like, way harder.

Yeah, you put a finger in there. Some men have, like. It's, like, the best orgasms, really.

Even.

Even rubbing the perennium, you know?

But you should be careful with hygiene. I have a story from a long Time ago with. With fingering a man's asshole.

Okay?

And I just don't. Because some dudes are just. I mean, this isn't just dudes, but this could be anybody. Like, you got to prepare for that. You can't just go to Sizzler and then let's meet up later and then I'm gonna stick a finger in your ass, so. Because I'll throw up. Like, I can't do it. So I. I don't know. It's like this whole kind of setup of like, you want to make sure everyone's clean and comfortable with what's about to happen, but then you don't want to be like, I can't wait to stick a finger in your ass tonight. Like, you can. So it's just. I feel like there's a lot of little.

What was the bad experience?

He. So I. Yeah, yeah, I. I stuck it in and he loved it. He would love when I did it. And I was like, okay, that's fine. And then too many times, it was just like, I. I take out my finger and I was like, I'm going to throw.

Was it like, in your nail?

Yes, it was like I had to scrub off my finger and, like, soak it. Like a shoe. Like a shoe that stepped in dog poop. It was disgusting.

I don't like that.

This is a note. Who is ever listening? Just pay a little extra attention to your asshole if you think something might happen.

Right.

And your junk, by the way.

Clean junk. What would you say? Clean junk. They're balls.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I'm into clean balls.

I also think this is just a personal opinion. Shouldn't guys be, like, shaving their balls?

Okay, well, let's talk about that.

Yeah.

What about grooming in men? Go.

I think that's just. Should be like, a standard.

They shave their balls. I don't even notice.

I just don't like hairy balls.

Yeah, yeah.

It's gross.

Yeah, Yeah, I know what you mean. I feel similarly. But here's the thing. I don't like fully shaved balls. I like for there to be a little bit of hair. I don't. Honestly, it's the same way that I feel about pubic hair on women, too. I don't really.

I don't want. Yeah. I don't want to look like I'm nine years old. No, me neither.

I don't. I like there being a little bit of a landing strip. A little bit. I mean, like, I don't worry, guys. I get up there and I shave that puss. Do not worry.

Good.

But there's a little. But I leave a little landing strip, and I like that in guys too. I like a little hair.

It's so hard to landing stitch. And I'm just, like, lazy. I'm too work because I got a laser. So like, most of it's off, but I left landing stir because the bush came back and I'm like. And then I have nothing because it's all gone. So then I still get this little bit, but I'm not really good at crafting it. So I just shave it off.

No, I'm very bad at crafting it, but I think it's like a.

Like, it's bad, but I think it's like we're doing it. And I think as women, a lot of women, there's this, like, this idea or this pressure or this, like, social thing to, like, keep your vagina clean and trim. And I feel like the same should go for men if you're gonna, like, you know, thanks for kissing and touching and doing this. And look what I've done to respect my body and you touching it.

Right. Spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on a baby Max.

Yeah. Just to your friend.

Yeah.

And I feel like the same way, like, men should just trim. Step it up and trim and just, you know, or trim their pubic hair.

And their ball hair.

Yeah.

And I don't even think that men even really realize that how much better sex feels when it's all smooth, because it does for me, the smoother it is, the better. Better it feels. And I think that they might not even realize, like, all the benefits of the fingers and the tongue and all the other sensory experiences going on Right.

When you remove the hair. That's actually. Good point. Yeah, that's a really good point. What do we think?

I like pubic hair. I'm. I don't know. Like, I like a full facial beard also. And I feel like for the same reason, I. I don't like to see, like, I appreciate it to be trimmed because, you know, when you're, like, blowing someone, it gets, like, in your nose, your eyes, or whatever. I don't like there to be, like, too much trimming or shaving.

I agree. I agree.

I like it too. Yeah. Don't be more landscaped.

Clean up, clean up.

It's like, clean up your room. Little, like, swipe down, make sure everything's.

And with my own vagina, I wax it myself and I leave a landing strip also. But because that's the part that's the most painful.

Right.

On the monocubus above the clitoris. I won't take that off because it just hurts. Hurts the most out of every other area.

Okay.

About the beard thing, though, by the way, the sensation of having a guy go down on you when he has a beard, I love. Yeah, me too.

I love.

Yeah, it can feel scruff, but not if it's too newly scruffy. That could be.

It has to be. It has to be like a little.

Bushy grown out enough. She's like squishy socks.

I kind of like it a little bit.

See, we're all different.

I love that.

I've gotten beard rash down there, though. And I had to, like, do A and D ointment for, like, a lot of days.

I've had that too. Yeah, I blocked it.

Okay, so that was good about balls manscaping. Okay, when we come back, we're gonna get hardcore anal. But I have to just take a moment here to talk about some of the people that we love in this show that help keep this show free and exciting.

Let's get into anal, you guys, Because I feel like when I started my show, it. I thought that. I feel like just the last 10 years, even, it was always about, like, blowjobs, whatever, but anal with porn and everything, I just feel like everyone wants to talk about anal, but a lot of people are also confused and intimidated about anal sex. So what's been your experience with anal sex?

Oh, I might reveal myself to be the most. The most inexperienced. Actually, I've never had anal.

Okay.

I've had some fingers up there, which I don't mind, but I've never. I think, like, it didn't really enter into my world until after, like, probably like, only in the last maybe three years has it been a thing that people are really talking about. And it's never kind of naturally come up in conversation with guys that I dated prior to that.

Okay. So they weren't even. They weren't like, hey, baby, I wanna.

No, no. And like the last year it's been definitely, definitely more prominent.

Okay.

With fingers and so forth. But I've never had full. Now I would. I totally would. It's not something that I'm dying to have because of the poop issue that we discussed. Yeah, I also.

Okay, well, I poop a lot, though, so I just taught an anal sex workshop.

Oh, yeah.

No, but I. I did. And I really think that so many people are interested in learning about it because they are very confused by, you know, how to keep clean. Do you do enemas? And I was like, no enemas. You don't want to buy like an enema in the store. But you could do a water enema, like just by the enema thing, the squeezy thing, and just put warm water in it and you like flush through three times and it would just to make sure that you're ready and you're not worried about the poop thing.

Sure, sure.

Because before that I always said just don't have a large, don't, don't go out for Mexican food in a veno. But really you gotta make sure that you're like emptied out. Is a way to do it.

To me it feels like a new frontier of intimacy. I have yet to find the person that I really want to.

No, right? No, It's a big thing. It is a big thing. You know, there's a lot of taboo, there's a lot of intimacy, psychological, emotionally, like just someone going in your ass.

Totally.

You're like there, you're like intimate. So okay, what about you, Jen?

Well, I have a. I like a good finger in my butt, but not. We don't need to shoot it up there real quick and.

No, it never should be.

It should be like. I almost just prefer like when I'm on top, just like you can touch it and just put it in a little bit. Like a little like worm going into a hole. But I like that. And so it's made me want to do more anal stuff.

Okay.

I've done anal once and it lasted like two minutes and I was very drunk on tequila and it felt like a reversal poop. It felt like poop was going back into. Cause like, you know the feeling when you poop and the poop comes out, it felt like the poop was going back in and I was like, what's happening? This is the wrong route, you know. And it just felt. Felt weird and rushed and not the best experience, but I'd be down.

Well, that's okay. So what I want to say to you is that it's so common that women like anal sex just gets a bad rep because a lot of people just don't know what they're doing. And first time experiences for many women is that they're with a partner, they're drunk. As I always say this in my show, they're drunk. The guy just put. Sticks it in without, without prep, because prep takes. You gotta warm her up. You wanna use your fingers, you wanna make sure she's relaxed. And you. There's lots of lube. Like when I Say lots of lube. Like, you can just keep pouring on the lube. And. And so women have experienced. I just shove it in. It's painful because the problem is we're so nervous, we clench. Yeah, well, that's the worst thing you can do when you're having it because you're, like, scared. So you got to make sure that you're really relaxed, that they've already started to, like, you know, do like, maybe like a little massage around your anus, play with some fingers, lube. And you just got to keep breathing and breathing and make sure that he goes in slow. But so many women, like, don't know this, or guys don't know this. And then they're like, it was horrible the first time. I'll never do again. So I'm here on the planet so people can try this and maybe have a good experience. Have a good experience next time. What about you, Kim?

Well.

Looks like I'm the anal here today.

I love it. Everyone needs anal. Slut. Okay.

No, not, like, seriously. I think it's my age. I've, you know, had maybe more partners, but actually, I don't even think I really got into it or even enjoyed it or got much out of it until maybe in my early 30s because it was kind of weird and when I was younger or whatever. But definitely something that I like to share with, like, somebody that I'm really into. I like to feel really safe and comfortable. It's not like, hey, let's just hook up and have anal tonight. It's definitely something that I think is very exciting when it's kind of spontaneous. And it's actually, once you get into it, it's like. I mean, it's hot. No, no, no. Well, no, but I get really turned on.

Especially, like, because they're so turned on too.

Yeah. And especially if, like, you're touching, watching, like, your clit while they're back there. And like, there's just so many, like, things like you just. I don't know, it definitely takes things to the next level.

So what anal, what positions do you like for anal?

I just like, you know, like, the guy behind is obviously, like, probably works the best. But I've actually been on top before too.

Right.

And like squatting and like, facing, you know, away.

Yeah. Like reverse cowgirl. Yeah.

Anal, which is super hot too. But just like you said, Emily, you have to like, like start out with just like the tip and then you have to breathe and then you have to, like, really go. You have to, like, inch your. Your way in like, very slowly because it is kind of painful at the beginning, it feels like.

But then it's right. But if you breathe and you go slow, then it's almost like you guys breathe together. Like, you breathe in, and then when you breathe out, he puts in a little more. So it's like you're really, like, synchronized. I mean, it sounds a lot more difficult, but if you just do that and you're relaxed and you keep breathing, it actually is a lot less painful. And it can feel really amazing once you get into that relationship.

It sounds, like, intimate and wonderful. I know. I want a different.

Let's all go a Vel and then go out for drinks before or after. Lori, what about you?

I've had a lot of anal.

Oh, good.

Always in a serious relationship, because I think, you know, being able to prep for it is really important. Like, I like to have a shower. I have done, like, water enemas when I was nervous about what meals I had had that day. And it is really intimate. So I. I have to have someone that I know is gonna, like, listen to me when I say, no, that hurts, or whatever. The first time I did it, I was, like, really drunk and on my period, and I was like, let's just use the other hole.

You're like, innovative thinker running a racetrack.

And I was so drunk that at the time I was really into it. And I woke up in kind of pain the next day because I didn't do it right. And then in the next relationship that I did it in, we took every step and every precaution to make it feel good. And I was psyching myself into having it feel good. Then one time we did it, and I was on top like normal cowgirl, and it just, like, felt amazing. It was. It was like, oh, man, this is the. This is the first time I've ever done it that it feels, I think, better for me than it's feeling for them.

Wow.

See, and I've been chasing that.

Chasing that anal high.

Yeah.

You will get it again, I promise. But that's the thing about sex, is that, you know, that you. We do get so limited the way we think that we can enjoy that sex. And my whole purpose, you know, on the planet is telling people that it can expand and grow. And actually there's. Our bodies have so many nerve endings that feel really good that we don't even know about. And it can constantly get better your sex life and expand and grow and have different sensations all the time, which I love. So you guys. Okay, so Anal. Any other tips for anal? Did we cover that? Do.

I mean, how about, like, toys with anal?

Yeah, toys, Butt plugs or vibrators you can use.

Yeah, you can use your vibrator while you're having anal. And your clitoris or inside.

That's analytical double penetration.

I mean.

Tried it? Yeah, yeah. You've tried it. How is it?

Yeah, no, I think that's what I was thinking about starting.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I would start there. Like either a toy or something that just kind of preps my butthole for future use.

Yeah.

Little beads.

Right there's anal. Okay, so butt plugs. Here's another great thing for. Okay, go back to masturbation for a minute.

Yeah.

If you're not used to, like, having anything in your butt, there's some great butt plugs that you can get, like silicone butt plugs and that you could. There's different sizes. There's all different stuff. And you just use a little lube when you're masturbating next time and just try sticking it in and seeing how that feels. So you get used to the sensation of having something inside you. It's great. It's a great warmup and it's a great way just to know, like, how you like it. And a lot of you wear butt plugs, like, if they don't want to have anal sex yet with someone or just as, you know, mix it up, they'll wear it during sex. Butt plug.

You wear it so you keep it in the whole time?

Yeah, you can keep it in. You can wear it during foreplay.

I've done anal beads before, actually.

I'm remembering talk to you about that.

And it was. It's really wonderful when you're right before you're about to come. Like, I was on top and we used anal beads, which are little beads.

That go in and you pull it out. You feel the.

And it's just this sensation of just like it was at the same time, which is so important. Timing, of course. And it was like he came as I came and then he. As he pulled the little beanies out, and I was like, oh, my God.

Wow.

Because it really was stimulating.

So many things.

It's hot.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

That's really hot.

Maybe I should do that. It's been a while since I think.

You should do it tonight. Let's.

At what point did you put the beads in?

Before.

Yeah. As we're starting to fuck or I'm on top. We lubed up the beads, I believe. I remember there wasn't Like a long string. It wasn't a pearl that went down. It wasn't six yards. And then we put them in. Just not even all of them, just a few of them in me. And then right before I was like, I'm gonna come. And then he took them out. And that kind of helped me come. That's the thing too. This is a tip for, I think most men, I don't know if they know if you are willing to touch a girl's asshole. You know, know it's clean, it's good. Maybe she's on top, you're grabbing her ass. Touch her asshole. If she's about to come and she will come. Like, to me, it's the cherry on the. Like, if I'm like, oh, there. Oh, no, there it goes. Just like an activation button, right?

Or how about spanking your ass?

Oh, I love spanking. I love being spanked so much. I love. I like handprints on my ass. Next day, what the hell.

Love it, right?

I don't know why I got so.

Staccato there, but some guys don't know. I like, I love. I loved your delivery. It was very strong, powerful.

You know, I think that, like spanking and touching, like your bum. I think these kinds of things, actually what they do for me is they bring me. My mind wanders when I'm having sex. And they make you more present. Yeah, it brings you back into like, what's happening with the person. Because I think I. That I'm guilty. My mind wanders, I'm thinking about, like, things I have to do, whatever. Not that I'm not enjoying it.

Right.

But it really snaps you back into reality. And then you're like, wow, this is like really happening. And that can push you over the edge to have your orgasm.

Yeah. Just something a little different. Not expecting it. What do you think, Lori?

I like to play the submissive role in bed, so I'm totally into being spanked. And also with anal sex, I feel like I'm totally submitting, like this. I could get hurt if someone were to, you know, be too rough. And that's hot to me. Yeah.

Do you ever use handcuffs or any sort of like.

I've never used hand ups. I've been tied up once, but it was kind of like. Like we were both laughing about it. That never ever really went successfully.

I like being tied up. Yeah, it's happened a few times, actually.

I like it too. Yeah. And there's so many great things you can use, you don't need. Like, like the Handcuffs, and they have, like, Velcro ones. They have bondage tape. It's really easy. I have these restraints because I get all this stuff sent to me, and so I have these restraints that just live under my bed. It's my sport sheets, and they just live under my bed. They're on both sides. They're for hands and for feet. You can't see them. So my housekeeper comes in. They're, like, lying on the floor. I'm like, I got tucked in underneath the bed, but they're always there. Like, I always have restraints. I have to say I haven't used them enough.

But do you use them on the guy or do you let.

No, I'm submissive in bad news, but I would. I would. I haven't had experience because I think.

There'S men that like to be.

Oh, for sure. A lot of men like to. Have you guys ever had experience where you dominated a man?

Yes. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Tell me about that.

Oh, God. Let me think if I can. I mean, I. I enjoy, like, I'm kind of a smaller person.

Smaller? You're little. Like a spinner?

Yeah, yeah, A total spinner. So I like climbing on a guy and, like, just splaying all of his legs and arms out and then telling him what to do and telling him, you can't use your arms, you can't use your hands, you can't use your legs right now. Just deal with it. And then having my way with him just licking where I want to lick.

Right. That's hot.

And he can't touch his dick either, so sticking it in when I'm ready for it and kind of grabbing his face and slapping a little bit. I don't like to be slapped, but I will lightly slap.

And if you were to go be like, oh, I don't want that. Or they're like, whoa.

I mean, no. Yeah.

No.

Well, who direct you? Look at all these hot ladies. I'll do fucking whatever you want to. Tie me up and stick something banana in my butt. Don't stick a banana in your butt. Don't do that. Okay, so what. What about fantasy? When you guys are masturbating, do you guys think about some things when you're masturbating? And if so, what kind of things do you fantasize about?

I think my thing that I've noticed, and I've been more open, especially since we've started doing our show. You just kind. And also, as you've gotten older, like you said, you just become more comfortable in what you like. And being open about it. And I'm really into. I can't fantasize or watch or think about, like, a dude fucking a girl. It's like, well, that happens to me. That's a real thing. So I'm really big on girl on girl. Even though I've never gone down on a girl or gone all the way with a girl. I've, you know, done some stuff, but nothing crazy. And then gay sex. Watching two men.

Yes. A lot of women I really like. So common. Those are the two most common for women is gay sex and women watching women. Even if they've never. Women always, always emailed like, it. Does it make me gay? I'm like, no, just what. What turns you on? It's beautiful. Seeing suit.

Two.

Two women together. Yeah. Yeah. What do you. About you? Kim's been. Wow.

I'm not the guy thing. I've never been into that. I saw it.

Some gay porn, you mean?

Yeah, I mean, as a woman, I just thought that just. I mean, does nothing for me.

Right. But it's very.

Yeah, it's cool.

I know. It's so common. That's like.

Yeah, but.

Yeah, that's so amazing. You know, I. I just cheat every time. I just cheat.

Oh, porn. What kind of porn do you watch?

Everything.

Like what? Like, how do you know when you go to YouTube? We porn or whatever.

I just kind of see, like, what's new, what's streaming. It doesn't even take long. It's just like, I cheat. I just need that.

No, it's. I need the.

I need the visual stimulation. I can't just like.

You're not creating your own stuff in my head, Laura. He's like, I got some porn.

I think about almost exclusive. All right, so try not to get weirded out. But I almost exclusively think about women. I know.

Oh, wow.

That you're not even. Wow.

That you naked, like, having sex with one of the women that I don't. I know in my life. Not necessarily that I'm attracted to or anything. It's just I've gone through all of them.

Like, have you been with a woman before? Yes. Okay.

So I'd say I'm like 35% gay.

Oh.

So, like, I. I don't know. I also have a 30.

I was 30.

That wasn't on your resume. No, we've talked about everything.

I gravitate towards men. I've never been with a woman. I've wanted to, but I just.

So why would you.

No, I mean, I've never been in.

A relationship oh, got it.

But you've hooked up with them.

I've hooked up with a woman and, like, had, you know, flirtation. Dating situations with women, but not as often or as successfully as with men. But when masturbating, I'll even, like, go into it trying to think about a guy that I know, and it'll switch at the end to a girl that I know.

Just every time. I don't think about women that I know. But I love boobs and I love thinking about boobs. I like looking at pictures of boobs. And when I look at porn, it's all about women with, like, big tits, right? Big, real tits, ideally, but there's some I don't know. And, like, I've never been with a woman and do you want to be.

With the woman, you think at all? Is that the bucket list?

I wouldn't say no. But I don't, like. I don't know what. I don't know what to do with vaginas.

I know. You just gotta get down there and get into it. Well, you do know, because you have one.

I do. That's true.

Oh, but you don't love a man performing oral sex. And you see.

Well, I like it, but I don't. I think that I enjoy giving more than I enjoy.

It's funny once you get the vagina, because I've been with a few. I've had a few experiences, I've dabbled. You just kind of know. I don't know. It's like riding a bike. No, I'm kidding. It's not the same thing because I never did it before. But, like, you have a vagina, so you're like, oh, I kind of know.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Trying to think of a good analogy. If I had to, like, curl your hair, Kimberly, because you can curl hair. I can curl your hair. Stupid. But no vaginas. You kind of get it. Yeah. I mean, yeah. A few times I'm like, oh, okay. I think I can just get in, right?

Yeah.

Like what you would want because you.

Know you have one. Yeah.

Like, I just think about when someone's going down on me. How do I like it? And then I just. Would do that.

Right, right.

And I usually let them go first.

Oh, really?

So that I can see, like, what.

The woman.

The woman.

Yeah.

Like what their style is. And then I'll just. Just copy smart.

Okay, so what is the. So we're talking about fantasy, and then I want to know what is. What is the one thing that a guy can do? Is there anything that's your go to. That will turn you on every time. Like if he nibbles your neck or if he. Do you love oral sex? Does he have to talk dirty? Anything comes to mind?

There's a couple things to me. One is anything in my neck, ear area. It is such an erotic zone for me and it like. And that's why I like. I actually like doggy style a lot because when the guy's behind you and he's just like kind of whispering or like licking that area, I mean it just. That turns me on a lot. I would say that. And then also like licking my nipples. Not doing anything hard to them.

Not squeezing.

No, I don't even like squeezing. I don't like pinching. I don't like any of it.

It almost makes me nauseous when someone overly pinches my nipples. It's almost like it makes me nauseous.

Yeah.

Weird.

But rubbing is so tantalizing.

Yeah. Rubbing in my soft. Going around circles or something. It's great. Again, another great place to have lube.

Yes.

Yeah.

Yes.

Okay, so that's a big turn on nipples. Anything else for you guys? The big turn on ears.

I think ears is a big thing. Like that little like that breathy S. I love it. That breathy S after one glass of wine and it's like we're going home. Because I also don't want to be too shit bomb drunk. I want to enjoy the sex with you. And then talking dirty. I'm really into that. I think that's just something. I just like it. I like when it's. I like, I like eye contact. And sometimes you got to force yourself because you're like closing those eyes and you're trying to get there or you're, you know, you've been with someone for a while and I'm just. I'm really trying to learn, like. No, I'm going to look at you and you're gonna look at me and like we're in each other right now.

The whole time, you mean? Or is it some point during sex?

Oh, yeah. At some point during sex. Not like I'm staring in like a. Like a murderer, but like.

Yeah, but dirty talk. I agree. I think. What do you think about dirty talk?

I love it, love it, love it, love it. But I have to answer the question that we were talking about.

Yeah. Thanks.

Things that turn me on. I really love it when I'm like totally like in it, like having sex and like we're like, he's in me and we're like, going at it and I love, like mixing it up. And I like him to go down on me, to break it up. So, like we're doing it and then he's like going down on me because it just gets so overstimulated that like, brings me to like, it heightens my orgasms too.

So you like okay, oral sex when he goes down on you and can you.

While we're having sex? Right.

Or he stops, goes on. Yeah, that's awesome.

Yeah, that's like.

I love that.

Amazing.

The longer you can go down to me and prolong it, take breaks, I don't care. But come back.

It builds it for me. It allows me to build like my whole orgasm.

Right. And that's what sex should be about. Building the orgasm, building the arousal.

Right.

Ideally.

I totally second the ear thing. Like, the ear thing is huge for me, but I also. Hair pulling and ass grass grabbing we'll always get.

But it's all those nerve endings. And here's the thing about the neck. We all said this. The neck is like one of the, you know, top erogenous zones for men and for women. There's a lot of nerve endings there. So that's why it feels so good. And I just. And don't you feel. Have you had this experience when you're with someone at the beginning and they do it like once or twice and then they just like, forget about your neck?

Oh, yeah, I hate that.

Can you just kiss my neck? I feel like I'm going to put like a little, little bullet tie here. Like kiss the neck.

That happens a lot in general. I think it's about trying to like, keep it fresh because it will, it will never. I mean, it's like a psychological study that after the first three months a lot of things can fall by the wayside or it can get monotonous and just biology.

It's true. After a year, year and a half, it's like we, you're. You're bonded, the oxytocin, all of that. And then after all this takes the dive and you gotta. That's why couples have to work on bringing it back up.

This is why I don't have relationships.

Because it dives.

Now I'm teasing.

No, I get it. It's exciting. The new, the newness of sex is, you know, there's nothing quite like that. You don't get that. But the thing about being with someone committed is that you just. Then it's fun. That I would say sex is fun. Like work on a way to keep connecting and changing it up and trying different things. Okay, biggest. Did you answer your biggest question? Yeah. Oh, yeah. Hair pulling for that. Okay, so what about turn off? Like, is there anything a guy, everything's going great, and he does something and you're like, ugh, Uber. You know.

Oh, man, I gotta think about this.

During kissing, if you.

And if you keep your tongue stiff.

Ugh.

You know, like.

Like a pencil kissing, actually.

Yeah.

Like a.

Like a dark kissing's so important to me. You're like, licking too. Just like. I like it to be wet, but, like, you can really screw up.

I have a. Similar to. That is one time I dated this guy who would finger me, but his way of fingering was to insert his finger and then just leave it there. I called him dead finger. It just.

Just.

That is. Guys, when it. I love being fingered. Like, to me, one of the sexiest things is being fingered under a table or at a bar, by the way, that's something I also like.

Oh, public sex.

Public sex. Love it. So like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that, like, kind of like, you know, getting fingered when you shouldn't be getting fingered is great, but the worst thing you can do is just fucking stick it out there and then not.

It's like a turkey thermometer.

Yeah. It's so bizarre. You're like, what? Shake it around.

Shake it around.

Something turn off.

I'm like, I think that's such an individual thing. There's not one thing.

No. I guess having a guy doesn't try to please. So do we all like oral. Oral sex perform?

Oh, man. I had a guy that, like. I call him Big Dick because he had a big dick, but.

So that's a good way to remember him.

Big Dick was like. I was like, why don't you go down to me? Like, I. And he's like, I don't do that. And I was like, why? What do you mean you don't do that? He's like, trust me, you won't need it. I'm like, no, trust me, I do need it all already. Oh, he was awful.

Guys. Some guys. Do you ever find that. So you were oral. You like oral sex performed and you came?

Love it. But I just had this happen recently where this guy was like. I was like, okay, my turn. And he was like, no. And I was like, what, Are you kidding me? I was like, so turned.

Like, this wasn't a yes or no.

And he was kind of like, well, I. You know, I like to do that with girls that I'm like, seeing or Dating. And I'm like, you just saw my whole body. What the hell? You know? But yeah, I don't. We'd messed around, right? But I was still expecting it because it seems so normal to me these days. It's just like kissing somebody. Like go down on me. Like if you're.

Exactly.

If you're getting intimate and taking off your clothes, I think you should be having oral sex.

Yeah.

I mean, come on.

Why don't you guys like oral sex?

I like oral sex. I think it's. It's good. I don't need it done for an hour and a half. Like, I get in my head. My head goes a mile a minute. That's just my brain. So I like it. But then it's. For me, it's more just foreplay until we're ready to do.

That's how I feel too, because I love leading up to penetration.

Penetration. But we also don't want to go, right? I mean, sometimes you want a quickie, but typically we need something. Yeah. So as far as oral sex, since we're all pretty much fans. Although you said I do like it.

I just think I enjoy giving it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. So. But is there one tip you think that guys, if you could tell men in the world a big message right now from you to guys. What is the one thing that you wish they knew about oral sex? Or it can even be. If you don't have answer that it could be about sex in general.

I think that for. I mean, maybe it's just my body or what I love, but I don't really get a lot of satisfaction from oral sex unless he's touching my G spot.

Okay. With two fingers. One finger.

One.

Or two, depending on how big his fingers are, I guess. But there has to be some pressure on my G spot while he's like licking my clothes.

Okay. Otherwise you won't have an oral. I mean.

No, absolutely not.

Nope.

I'm totally opposite.

Yeah.

Like, if I'm. I really love getting oral sex. But it's almost like if I'm about to come and he'll put fingers in me, it'll stop my orgasm because it'll like bed of nails effect, I guess, like split the sensation.

I agree. See, it's to every woman. But I've talked about it's. So that's why guys, when you call, they're always like, I think I'm bad at oral sex because my recent girlfriend can't calm. I'm like, just because your last girlfriend liked it a certain way. We're gonna show you right now that we are all different. So what about you, Jen?

Oh, no, it's the same I. That recently has happened where it was clitoral stimulation with the tongue. And it's like a nice swirl motion. Not just like, give me some tips. Like, use your tongue and find the clit and really use some sort of swirling motion to activate it. And to start, you know, to make it feel good. Don't just go down there and lick it. Like, it's a cone like that to me. That's not eating out. That's not oral sex to me. And then I also like one or two fingers, which hasn't always happened. And then as of recently, I was like, whoa. And it just. It was another in the vagina, but it like deeply going in there.

See, I was gonna say, say what I like about oral sex is that it's when a guy.

You're the kegel girl.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So the deeper he can go in with his tongue, the more I like it. And almost like drawing out the juices. That sounds gross.

Oh, no, but that's not like that.

Kind of come hither thing where he's like, like lapping you up. I mean, that I love like a guy with a. With a long tongue. I love.

Wow. I wish. Do they ever say that on dating sites? Like, I'm four, like, went to Princeton and I've got my tongue is 4.5 inches of rack.

I wish they would. I think that a long tongue is underrated.

That's how I've never even, like, thought about it. I mean, I just think if they're good or not. But I'm like, maybe you have really stubby tongue.

Yeah, you might.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Because guys always want to know, how do I do it? Am I doing it right? And I always say, like, go slower than you think. Because guys, sometimes they go right to it. And if we are sensitive, like, I like when guys tease and they lick your inner thighs and they take their time. Like, the ideal situation is that I think that we were begging for it. We want it.

I'd say, like, lay off the clip for like, the first three minutes. Don't even touch it. Yeah.

Also ask guys, like, if you're down there and you're kissing my vagina, then we're in a moment together. So feel, have that confidence. Which I think is a real turn on in general is confidence to be like, what do you like? What do you want? How am I like, you know, and make it sexy. But, like, do you like what I'M doing or I don't know, like, talk about it. Talk about it.

Have you guys ever. Has there ever been a way that you communicate? Like you thought, God, this guy, it's never gonna work. He's a bad kisser or he's bad this. But then you had a talk and then it turned around. That's actually life. Or is it just like, oh, he was. Tell me, dude.

I had my. It was my boyfriend and he. I felt like when we were kissing, he would never open his mouth enough. Like, it was like he was tight mouthed. Like, I couldn't get in there and.

I didn't know why. Yeah, big dick Harry French fried ready?

Comes back, like in a totally neutral setting. I was like, hey, why do you. Why do you kiss like this? And he's like, oh, I just have like an insecurity about my breath. And I'm like, dude, your breath's fine. It was always fine. It's. It's never been alarming for me.

Right.

And then after that, he just started opening his mouth and it changed everything.

Great, that's good.

See, but I had no idea he was thinking. I thought that's just how he kissed, but he was thinking like, oh, my.

Breath wash. Maybe he had someone tell me about this.

Yeah. At one point, like he was traumatized or something. But yeah, good breath.

It's a good story because it can turn around. Were you going to say something?

Nope.

Okay, I have a question. Have you guys ever had a threesome?

Oh, no. No. And I've been thinking recently that maybe that I. I would be into it.

Okay.

And the reason is because of this boob thing. Because I'm like, if I like boobs so much, why don't. But I know that I love a dick, so why don't I have.

Why don't have boobs and dick?

Why not have both?

Right? It's a sure thing with a freestyle.

Because then, then it's like, I know what to do with a dick. And then I like, can maybe play around with boobs and see what happens.

No expectations. You can just play around, see how it goes.

But I do have this concern. I think I'm very, very selfish. Like, in bed, I want all the attention on me, right? So I don't actually. That's been a. That's been a bit of a turn off for me. When I think about three threesomes. I'm like, I don't like. And I think as a result, I don't think that I could have a threesome with anybody. That I'm in a relationship with or that I care a lot about. I think it has to be somebody that I'm a friend of and somebody that I like, but not somebody that I am super emotionally connected to. Because seeing a guy that I'm emotionally connected to having sex with somebody else.

That's true. I mean, typically the best threesomes are. Or my best threesome experience, and this also is confirmed by other people, is that when it's been someone that I know may have casually dating, we're not committed and there's another woman and there's no feelings. And there's no. There's feelings. I like the guy enough to sleep with him, but I'm not. Like, we're together. He brought a third in.

Exactly.

We're all unattached, but we came together for this beautiful night of threesomes. Okay. Threesome.

Yes, but with two guys.

Oh, nice.

I recommend it.

Yeah, yeah. No, it's on my list.

What did they do to each other? Nothing.

It was all about me.

Okay.

That is what I.

Well. But I like a dick, though, so maybe I just go, you know, double.

Ds, dicks on parade.

I have no. I would do it, but I'm very big on what you just said, which is the idea that, like, it would be casual, it would be respectful and friendly. But I don't know if I fall for somebody, if I could see them fucking around.

It's really hard to. Right.

I just. I mean, I'm cool. I'm not that cool.

Right?

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I've never had a threesome. I had a little bit of a lesbian orgy in sixth grade, but I've never.

Yeah.

It was not.

Best quote of this.

Straight up. It was. Was nuts. But having an adult threesome is definitely my.

When you're out of middle school.

Right.

It's definitely probably one or two on my bucket list. Like, I really would like to.

It's not hard to find, is it? I don't know.

Lori manifests. Tonight you'll have a threesome.

What dynamic do you want? You want another guy? Two guys?

I would like another girl.

Okay.

Okay. Or maybe two other girls. I don't know.

Oh, right.

Oh, three girls.

Right.

Because you're 35% lad. Right? Maybe if we go to 45 by.

The end of the month.

Okay, you guys, I think we gotta wrap this up. We got it all in. You guys are great. Thank you so much for being here. This was a dream. We gotta have you back. I think I kind of asked this. But there is one last question. I kind of said, is there any one thing I guess I just say about men, that you just think that if you could talk to every man. I was saying about oral sex, but is there anything that you just wish that men. You think that's very misunderstood over and over again by men sexually.

I mean, we've talked about this a bit at Lady Freak, and I think it was during the show that you were on Emily, where the men are just so. They're able to so easily disconnect emotionally after sex. And for women, it is, at least in my experience, it is much harder. It is, especially if there are, like, actual deep feelings involved. So I would just caution men to be cognizant of that, to be aware of the emotional side of sex.

Because we have the oxytocin after orgasm. We feel connected. And you just fell asleep.

And you just fell asleep. And then even like in the, in the days after, you know, there's just like, you can move on with your life and not think about it. But here I am thinking, like, we just had this. We just shared our physical juices together.

And you were in my stomach. You were lapping up my juices.

You were lapping up my juices with your six inch tongue.

And now you're texting me like, hey, yeah.

Or not even.

Or not. We didn't even get it. We're gonna do another dating show with you guys. Yeah, you can talk about that. But I want to get sex. What? Anything that you'd like to impart, Jen.

I think just be vocal about what you want, what you like and what the other person wants. Like, and not be afraid to do that. I think as I've gotten older, it's like, it's not dorky to be, like, sexually open to get that pleasure that you want out of your partner and to try new things and to keep it spicy because I'm getting out of something where it could have been a little spicier. And so now I'm like, excited now.

You'll never go back there to the unspice again. Spicy. Spicy. What about you, Kim?

Well, this isn't really all about sex. It's more about just sex and relationships, but just being, like, upfront with what you. Your intention is and what you're there for, you know, like, if you just want to hook up and have sex, just say it, because there are a lot of women that will give it to you and you're gonna have better sex than if you're. If you're not like being authentic.

Don't pretend that you want a relationship. And yeah, just be like, what are we about? You mean before?

Yeah. Or don't be like all making plans like, oh, I want to see you next, you know, whatever. Just like be upfront. Tell somebody what you're up for and just be authentic.

Yeah, it's great, Lori.

I would say sexually with guys to make sure there's always a crescendo or a build up to tease. Yeah, the teasing thing and the foreplay and building. I just think I can't tell enough guys this. There has to be something before something else.

Foreplay is a suggestion. It's. Foreplay is a requirement, not a suggestion.

Yes.

Okay, guys, well, thank you so much. And is there anything. How can people find you find your show? Twitter all the time.

Well, yeah, Jen and I have our show. Yeah, we have our show@ladyfreakcomedy.com that's where you can go see info about us. And then my Twitter handle is raceparra360.g r a c e p a r r a360. Instagram is the same too. Yeah, hit me up.

Yeah, Lady Freecomedy every month at UCB Sunset. My handles are Jen bgiggle. I'm on Snapchat now. I'm doing a horrible job at it, but. And you can watch my sketch show on True tv, Friends of the People that comes on every Thursday night at 11.

Okay, cool. We'll have all this at our site as well. We'll be taking some pictures if you want to see how sexy these ladies are. Kim, no one can find you because.

You can't find me anywhere.

Right? Exactly. It's cool. Okay. Lori.

Yeah.

Sex with Emily.

Yeah, sex with Emily.

I'm there. She's there. Okay, you guys, you're wonderful. Thank you so much for being here. This was really a fun show. And thank you everyone. Thank you, Madison, for producing a great show. Thank you to Lori and thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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