Best Of: Sex, Love and Totally Turned On with Carmen Electra

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a gone day. Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cuz my man E here, he just.

Got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standard.

Oh my. The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean?

Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind.

Of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sex withelmi.com have you been to sexwithelmily.com lately. There's so many fun things happening there. Do you know that we post articles every day? Blog posts, videos, Things that will, you know, enhance your sex life. All these questions you guys email me, I'll bet you we've answered it on there. If you're a blog or podcast, so check it out. I'm excited. Carmen Electra is gonna be joining us shortly, which is exciting, right? Anderson? But right now I have Anderson, who's just as sexy.

What up, Em?

How you doing?

As sexy as Carmen Electra.

Yeah.

That is false super sexy advertising. You could be sued.

Check out Anderson's picture.

You could be sued for lying to your listeners, Em. But thank you.

Yeah, I mean it. I mean it. How you doing?

I'm doing good. I'm doing well. I'm crazy, as per usual, but not as crazy as you, so that's all right.

I feel like I'm crazy. I think I seem confident.

So far, guys, she hasn't been in her purse once and she's been here for 10 minutes. I'm always in the b. Yeah, we've established that.

I'm always in the bag. I know I've got a lot going on in the bag. So funny though, how many people, like, someone tweeted me the other day, oh, you have sex with me? I'm like, no, but thanks for having those questions.

Was that Mike Catherwood's friend?

No, but he's been. Okay. So some background.

Yeah.

On last week's loveliness. So Loveline last week was interesting. So I hope. Loveline is a nationally syndicated radio show. If you've heard me talk about it. Dr. Drew. It's been on. Anderson's been on it for 25 years.

32.

And you always listen to the podcast, too, of Loveline. But last week we had millionaire matchmaker Patty Sanger on, who was also on my show. And since it was matchmaking, Mike says, I'm gonna fix you up with my friend Victor. So Victor called into the show and Mike tried to arrange a little fix up, a little thing. And Victor said he was interested in dating me because I said, what do you think we've in common? He says, well, you like sex and I like sex. Which I thought was brilliant, would be a great match. But then Mike gave my phone number and he's been texting me. I am.

Why would you give this fucker your phone number?

Mike gave him my number. He texted me and I didn't text him back. I did text him back once maybe.

But no, Mike was telling me last night, I think it was off air, though, that he was saying that he wanted to have sex with you in some kind of like a bob or something. Did you get that one or some kind of hat or something? I don't know.

Well, no, he actually.

I was offended for you. I was offended for you.

He's text clean. So far there has been no dick pics or anything.

I think if he was like my sister and I get offended and upset when people are dumb.

My brother doesn't even think of me as a sister. That's really sweet.

Well, I got you.

I know. So, yeah, no dick pics. He was actually just telling him what he ate for dinner or something.

You know what that means?

What?

Small dick.

Oh, my God. Why? Because he's nothing else. Because he's not sending me dick.

He's not showing you? Yeah.

And how would you know if you get dick pic? That's not that I want one. People don't send dick pics.

Have you ever gotten them?

No, I've never. Nor have I sent any naked photos.

2000 episodes, sex with Emily. No one sent.

I don't know. Have we ever gotten on Facebook? I don't think so, no. You think dick pics? We don't get dick pics all the time. We do.

Apparently somebody. Madison's claiming that dick pics come into the old sex with them. Here, get on the mic.

Get on the mic, Madison. Madison. Producer Madison. Get on the mic.

Get on the mic. Yeah.

Which mic?

Green. Go green.

Okay. Thanks, Madison, for filling me in.

Yeah, no, we actually got a. We got a dick pic. A pretty serious dick pic.

What does that mean? What is a serious dick pic?

I wish that I could show all the audience, all the people listening the picture, but it was from a guy and like this.

I love that they don't bother me with that.

It says dis dick for you was the subject line of the. Of the email. And I opened it and it is a enormous black man and an enormous penis.

You didn't have to say enormous black man. You could have just said enormous. We all know it's black.

Yeah, I mean enormous man with an enormous penis attached. And he is just looking into the camera like a serial killer. And I sent it to the interns and was like, hey, like, just a reminder to check feedback, you know, like, oh, my God.

Yeah. So many of those we don't get that I don't want to hear. Tomorrow we're going to get like 8 million.

Like one a week maybe. Like sometimes we get a couple and we get them in our Facebook messages and we get them in feedback, and sometimes we get them actually in Twitter.

Okay.

No, it's nice.

I'm glad they can't sue me for sexual harassment because it's sex with Emily. So, like, wouldn't the courts throw it out if, like, one of the interns or you tried to sue me?

This is also that the listeners are beating off as they listen, a lot of them. So that's nice.

I really hope that they're just trying to have better sex and relationships, but maybe they do beat off every once in a while. Should I talk dirty to them? What are you wearing?

I think a lot of them think that you're a madam and that you're going to, like, set them up because they always email you, like, emily, I'm looking for hot single girl, please to please to sex with. And I'm like, ashley Madison. We don't do that.

Yeah, you've already got it. You've already got the model halfway built. Ashley Madison's going down, right?

And everyone assumes it anyway. When I hand on my business card, they're like, oh, I'm like, listen, I'm not a prostitute.

Sex with Emily, it's kind of misleading.

It is misleading because it's actually not about sex with me. I really cut that off. And I actually know. But I've never, till this day, sent a nude photo of myself to anyone.

Smart move. Smart, smart move.

But then I feel like, you know, I was having a serious discussion about this. My friends are like, never like, guys want that. My friend, like, looked at me, she was like, emily, but don't you, like, if you're dating someone, like, guys are visual. They need that. And I'm like, I just don't trust guys. This is what they do. They get the naked picture. They're like, whoever they're sitting next to, they're like, check out this chick.

I'm. Baby, you know what? Okay. I've received naked pictures from girls I have never dreamed of showing them to other.

Cause you're like, the good guy.

I've shown them to.

You're a good guy.

But like, guys.

No, but I'm like, I'm every guy's. All my guy friends. I'm like their guy friend. I'm like, their best.

Hey, guys were having relationships and being just fine long before iPhones with the capability.

Right?

Long before Polaroids.

Exactly. Thank you very much. I'm not doing it. I'm holding out for as long as I can. Okay.

If you're gonna do it. Do it now. Don't wait till you're 65. 70.

No, that'd be bad. Well, that's why it's so funny that you see. Yeah, you're right. And my mom always said to me, I did do a naked. I did do a. I was in this movie called I'm a Sex Addict.

What was going on?

Okay, yeah, no, I was gonna tell you. Like, three different things popped in my head, but I never said picker. But I remember doing this movie. I am a sex addict. Which I was not. Was a feature film. Did you hear? Nothing?

We talked about this briefly a while ago.

Okay, well, I was in this film. It came out, like, 2,000. God, like 10 years ago. And it's on Netflix and stuff like that. But I would not show my breasts in the film. And he really wanted me to. And then my mom at the time was like, well, this is the best you're ever gonna look. She always said that to me every year. Which is not true. I look at it and I'm like, I'm not doing it.

I'm not sure your mom tried. Did the producer get to your mom, do you think?

No, but she was like, well, what do you. I'm like, mom, she wasn't saying that, but, like, they wanted me to show more of my body, and I'm like, I don't want to. But then I also did these boudoir photos once because there was a woman on my show who's like, did free. But they never show anything naked, and I've never shown anything.

But you were naked, though, and the camera was in front of you.

But I was, like, wearing lingerie. But I'm like, who am I going to show them to? Maybe I could do, like, a special, like, 9.95 on my site, and I'll release it.

A calendar.

Just kidding. I'm not doing that.

Do a calendar.

I'm doing a calendar. Do they.

People still do that Sex with Emily calendar. It'll be, like, in all the mechanic shops across the country.

I want to Sex with Emily calendar. Of all the dick pics we've gotten. Oh, God, no, no, that wouldn't do very well. Okay, another sexy news story. A firefighter's called to cut shower rings off of a guy's penis. Why didn't he just buy a cock ring? I don't know. Yeah, dude, you don't know how many things people go to the emergency room around their penis or their butthole.

Shower rings are big, though, aren't they.

Well, I don't know. The skies were stuck sometimes. Depends. They come in all sizes, so. Firefighters were called to remove four curtain rings stuck around a man's penis. The hapless fellow was taken to the hospital after the rings got stuck around his member. But doctors at the facility in Colombia lacked the specialist cutting tools required for such a tricky job and had to call in firefighters. Rescue experts spent over an hour removing the metal rings. According to the news outlet, the procedure required a steady hand in a sensitive region, and firefighters had to be extra careful not to enter the stricken man. And he had irreparable damage to the man's penis. The unnamed man remained in a inpatient at the hospital. And you received medical and psychological care, and he's embarrassed. Embarrassment.

What part of the world?

Colombia.

Colombia, like South America? Not like.

Yeah, Cali Valley, Delaca, where cocaine is and stuff.

Fire department. Really? That's bizarre.

I don't know. Maybe they were metal fire rings. You know what I mean? You got to get it done. So that's the deal.

I don't. I don't. I would think. And you know what's funny, too, is.

Just use the stretchy penis.

Man's little penis. Right. He's got the rings around it. And you know that if it was out here, at least, like, two, three giant trucks had to, like, drive a few miles to get to them just to go take off the tiny little rings. You know what I mean?

Yeah. It's a waste of taxpayers.

Oh, so much. So much. Yeah. They should have, like, one guy on a red motorcycle who goes out, like, he scouts, and he gets there quick, and then he'll, like, call back and be like, yeah, no fire. There's a cat in a tree. Don't worry about it. I'll get it out. You know what I mean?

Yeah, you're right.

We don't need the whole fleet to.

Go, dude, he could have died, though. It sounds like it was pretty serious. It was cutting off his circulation. And also. Yeah, there's also. Here's some other things since I'm preparing for my anal sex workshop today. I'm doing a lot of anal sex research, and one of my slides in my PowerPoint is about all the things that have gotten stuck in butts.

Oh, cool.

In hospitals. Yeah.

Are you gonna do this at where she. Or at Hustler Suite tonight?

So a lot. It's very common. You know, we've all heard, like, people stick, like, vegetables and things with their butt light bulbs. So there's light bulbs in people's butt. And in San Francisco, I've heard there is a special. It is so common, you guys. And don't do this. Okay. This should be a warning. A machine that actually removes light bulbs sucks the light bulbs out.

What is the name of that machine?

I do not know. Google it. We should google it.

What is the name?

How crazy. So this is. This is. This is the takeaway from this butt story is that you should only put things in your butt with flared edges so it can't go into your butt and you don't have to have surgery.

I would think a light bulb is the worst thing. Other than maybe shards of glass.

I can't even talk about. Right. Because then you.

But that's gonna become shards.

Yeah. How dangerous is that? That's why there's a special machine in San Francisco, because a lot of men are doing it. Yeah. Or women. I don't want to discriminate. Who knows? Okay, so that's my news. And I'll get into a little bit of emails here. Do the special machine, Madison.

Gonna look up the name of it.

Be careful, people. But yeah, unless you can afford to.

Have a machine at home, which I bet it's a very expensive machine because it's so specialized.

Well, why are you sticking light bulb in your butt anyway? Just feel it.

Must be a thing.

Gonna look it up right now for us. Because. Better than a hamster. Yeah. People do stick hamsters in their body. That's not real, though.

I like to think that that's not.

The Richard Gere story.

Yeah, I know. I don't think it's true.

I think it is true.

I like to believe it's not. I know nurses. And nurses will like tell you point blank. Like, I saw the X ray. I was in the room. It was him. And I just don't buy it.

Yeah, I. I don't know. Why would it be such a. Some people have done that though.

Hamsters. He likes. He likes animals. He's in that movie Hotchee.

Yeah, I think he got the idea. He's like, oh, you know, it'd be really great. I'm really into animals right now. I'm gonna stick a gerbil my butt.

No, he wasn't doing it to like have sex with a gerbil. It wasn't like a love affair. It was like. Because the thing spasms. That's the rumor.

This is what I'm talking about. My workshop, you guys. And if you want to read anything more about anal sex, go to my website. There's right ways and Wrong ways to your anus. And the right ways are that there are so many amazing nerve endings.

Pets.

What? It doesn't involve pets. It involves a lot of lube, which is my favorite thing in the world. Lube is an amazing product. And things with flared edges, but also fingers, penises. That's about it.

If you got a hamster, how many things went up before you get to the point where, like, you know what? That's just not cutting it.

You keep raising the bar.

I gotta do a hamster. I gotta do something alive.

I really. I really don't know. That's a great question. If you've had a hamster in your butt, please email me or get some help first. Yeah, so. But really. But anal sex is interesting because it's like, you really. People just don't know how to do it right and you just need to warm up and usually. But anyway, check it out. My website. I can't talk. I can't. I can't anal out right now if I'm gonna do it.

You can't anal out right now. I'm saving for tonight.

I don't want to blow my anal load right now.

Wow. I wish you didn't say that.

I'm so sorry. I wish I didn't either. Some words. I have a problem with some words. Some things. Okay, so we can get into some emails.

By the way, I heard. I heard it in my head, Shards of glass earlier. And I wish that I hadn't said that. It wasn't lost on me when I was talking about the light bulb in the butt and shards of glass instead of shards of glass.

Oh, sharts.

Yes. I was there.

That lost on me.

It's filthy. And I. And I just. But I want to let the people know who are listening at home. I didn't miss it. I just didn't choose to say it.

That was really mature of you. Okay.

Yeah.

I appreciate it because we don't want to take this show down to the level that people might assume that it's. I was actually interviewed. Oh, you know what? There's a few things. I was in Chris Jericho. Remember, he was on the call.

I love that man.

I love him, too. He is such a good guy. He's got a great podcast called the Chris Jericho Podcast. What's called Talk is Jericho is his Talk Is Jericho. I was on his podcast the other. He aired it. He launched it, promoted it this week, and it was really popular. I have to say, it was a really good podcast. And a lot of people on Twitter were Very excited about it. So you should check that out. We talked a lot about.

Sex and it was a very, like, serious. You'd think it would be. But, like, I really got a lot of stuff, people. The thing is, I do so many podcasts. You know, I've done thousands. I've been on guests, but people were just like, on Twitter, like, oh, my God, that was amazing. I learned a lot. So you guys should check that one out. And I was also on Paul Mercurio's podcast, who's on Loveline, and he's a writer for the.

He's done a lot of stuff.

Stewart and Stephen Colbert show the new one.

What is he doing?

Cbs, I think, right? Yeah. Cibis. I heard his hilarious promos. Cibis.

Cbs.

Watch me on cibis. I was like, all right.

Is that what he said?

Anyway, it's not very funny. Kept calling instead of cbs. He was like, acting like he was like a really bad reader and he was reading CBS's Cibus. Anyways.

Apparently it is funny, though. Funny. On the phone. He used to practice a little bit. So we talked a lot about.

Lube on his podcast today, too. But he was like, I've never used lube. I've never knew sex toys. It was interesting. I've been. It's just interesting to talk to people like that.

Who was he bragging?

No, like, I don't need glue.

They're always wet.

That he had that old school thing. He was like, I feel like I would feel very clinical and it would be very, like, if there was a sex toy embed with me and my wife, I would feel like it would just be. She'd like it more than I would.

One of those guys.

Yeah, those men still exist. So I. I taught him, you know, different ways.

Did you scold him? Did you shame him?

I did. I'm gonna send him a bunch of goddamn sex toys.

So you can just throw right in the trash.

Your wife, because believe me, she wants one if you haven't used any.

So this just in about San Francisco.

Go ahead.

Okay. This just in Madison. Yeah.

The San Francisco item out of butt removal thing. It is a hoax.

That is not real.

It was actually. It looks like it's propaganda from a Christian youth leader.

Oh, I love that reporting stuff that isn't true.

Yeah, I mean, that's why we had to fact check. You know, there are, like, signs all throughout San Francisco that are like. But like, you know, like light bulb removal, like 25 cents and stuff.

Like 25 cents.

They're actually from what I Can see. I can't find anything about an actual thing that removes items. I have found a lot of funny lists.

But you know what's so funny is that my friend who was a doctor and who was a doctor, he's a doctor here in San Francisco, told me that that existed. That's why I thought maybe it was true.

We're gonna have to have him dig that up because I need to know doctors sometimes, right?

Drew's one of the. Dr. Drew is one of the most gullible people I know.

That's kind of true.

Just because they're doctors.

Feel like they're just in school and they're studying for so long. Medical school. Like, they just. They're very literal.

I love that a Christian group came up with that. I just. I'm imagining the boardroom discussion where they're sitting around going, how are we going to take these fairies down? Let's make up a machine that doesn't exist that sucks things out of your ass.

Let's just. Okay, well, let's just say that. That the situation is dire enough that you just shouldn't stick it up your ass if there's any take home message.

Even more so now because there's not a machine that exists.

Exactly, guys. And then you're gonna have some sharts in your ass.

He.

It's true. Okay.

What?

Go, go.

I want to talk. I want to get into the emails. So I want to thank you all for emailing me. @feedbackexwithelmy.com we do read all your emails and we look at your dick pics, but don't send those. And when you do, email us. I love when you tell me how old you are and where you're writing from and how you listen to is great. Wanna know how you listen? You know, you can always listen on itunes and stuff like that, but the apps and stuff, many ways.

Stitcher.

Okay. Stitcher is a great app. I used to. Before you. Before I knew you, I would record.

There in San Francisco at the Stitcher studios.

Butt machines are. Yep. Or not. Yeah. At the Stitcher studios in San Francisco. Okay. Here you go. Ready?

Yeah.

Hi, Emily. My name is Thomas. I am 35 years old and have a serious issue with talking to women. This has been a problem for a long time. I'm heterosexual and I can converse with women I'm not attracted to. But when there's attraction, I get nervous, anxious, don't know what to say, end up having something stupid. I end up saying something stupid or talking myself out of saying anything at all everyone says, just get over it and put yourself out there. And it's as natural as breathing to them. But it's not easy for me. I've only been on one date and it was unbelievably awkward. I work in a shop with all guys, no women. Commute, eat, shower, go to bed. I really don't hang around in social atmospheres, but when I do, I'm usually with my parents and my brother. My parents are very encouraging. Mom is the one who actually had to put yourself out there. And they both have said that they want grandchildren. So what now? Thanks, Thomas.

How old is Thomas?

35.

He left porn off the list because I know that that's on there.

What's on there?

He said all he does is work, drive home, eat, sleep. But I'm sure that there's a healthy.

Amount of time maybe before he goes to bed, he watches porn. Okay, Thomas, he's 35 and he spends a lot of time with his parents and at work. So I think there's a lot of things going on here. And it sounds like he's just case of the social anxiety, which a lot of people have, especially when they meet someone attractive. This happens to a lot of guys and women. I was talking to my friend who's very attractive woman, and she was the same one actually was telling me to send the naked photos to guys. But she was saying, you know, and she's like, I get a hitting guys, but the second I see attractive guy, she's like. And if he smiles at me, I turn away. And it's just really common that people, that people do this, they get it and they don't get over it. The problem is, and she's 35, if you, if you never break through any anxieties. What?

Hook them up.

Oh, I don't know where he lives. He didn't tell me where he lives. Thomas, why didn't he tell where he lives? Is it. If you. It's like if you don't work on this anxiety, things don't go away. Like while we go to therapy issues, they will continue to plague you and they actually get worse and worse if you don't work on it. So I think that you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself and it doesn't come as easy to you. But again, like dating, like I always say, and talking to people, it's a muscle that you have to exercise. And I know that you're saying that you can talk to unattractive women, but. But just practice saying hi. Practice these Skills of talking and just, like, communicate. It doesn't have to be. Here's the thing.

There's no practice on your mom's friends.

Yeah, I guess so. But he says he can talk to women that he's not attracted to. And so it's like ripping off a band aid. Just start saying hi. That's it. You just gotta smile, say hi. And a great thing to do is. I'm not gonna tell you any pickup lines. I'm not gonna say that you gotta walk a certain way. You know, it is important to be confident. And it is important. Even if you gotta fake it till you make it and you just start. You can observe something. Made it great. Formula for talking to someone is like, let's say you didn't say that you get coffee. I'm assuming, you know, maybe you got to pick up coffee or breakfast in the morning. You walk in, let's say you're standing there in the coffee shop, and you observe something that's going on there. And so you could say, oh, yeah, you know, I. I didn't know they had the pumpkin spice lattes this time of year. You know, and then you ask a question. So you observe something. You ask, have you had a pumpkin spice latte? See what they say? And then you, you know, and then you ask a question. And then you just start a conversation about something that's happening in the moment. So. So that's a way to practice, you know, just talking.

Don't do that line in October, though. Cause she'll turn and say, of course they have fucking pumpkin lattes in October, you fool.

I mean, it can be really scary. But also, you have to think you're not going to die. What is the worst thing that is going to happen to you?

This guy probably messes. Thomas probably has problems with, like, tests that are really important. It's a pressure thing, too. If he talks to, like, women, he's not interested without any problem. But then as soon as it means something to him, he cracks.

And also, he's 35, so I'm assuming it's been going on for. Exactly. It's been going on a long time.

I got the same problem. We all have the same problem. We all do. We just figured, how did you get past it? I never really did. I never talked to strange women. I mean, everyone that I dated, they either asked me out or they're like, friends of friends. And I was hanging around for a while, and I really waited for signals to slap me across the face before I made a move. Because rejection Is a horrifying thing.

Horrifying especially for men, you guys, that's what you guys have to deal with. So you could also try, you know, online dating. Hello? Who isn't online dating right now?

Yeah, not Ashley Madison. Don't do that.

Don't do Ashley Madison. But you can get, you know, you can go online. You can, you know, put go any website, find one, plenty of fish. What are the popular ones now? You know, good. Match.com, plenty of fish. What's the other big one?

Grindr.

Not Grindr. We don't know that he's gay. I don't think he's gay. Tinder.

Tinder is a big one.

Yeah, but what's plenty of fish. And what's the other one? Everyone likes the online dating one. Not what's the other?

Match.com.

No, not match. OkCupid. OkCupid. OkCUPID. And then you can start a conversation. You can put an online profile, Ask your friends, ask your mom. She seems to be very interested in your dating life. Get some good pictures. And then when you crap. We've done a lot of shows on online dating and we've done a lot of things about actual dating. We have a podcast called, it's a dating survival podcast that might help we get all into how to date and how to approach people. But when you start, you know, dating online, that's another way that you don't have to actually have that anxiety of talking to someone. And also tell everyone that you know. Just like when you're looking for a job, tell all your friends you're looking for someone, you like to meet someone. Do they know anyone? Fix you up.

And it sounds like he's also just thinking about it too much. He's overthinking it and it's like becoming a self fulfilling prophecy. If he actually like threw himself into a passion or something and then met people through that, whether it's like gardening or you know, writing or whatever. And then if you're working yourself, then other and stop looking out, kind of look inward. Other people, they start to come, they'll come to you.

Do something that you love. So I, I'm worried that you're just, all you're doing is working to hang out with your mom. So Thomas, take class. Not hot, no, but like, yeah, exactly. Like take class like on the weekends. Like do you work on the weekends? You probably don't. What do you like doing? Do you like hiking? Do you like wine? There's wine. Whatever. Take classes, do something you're interested in. Gym, whatever. You'll be fine. And check out our shows and check out our website, because we have a lot of information on this, Thomas. So good luck to you. Let me know how it goes. And again, you will get past this.

And you're not in the minority. You're in the majority.

You're in the majority. So there's nothing wrong with you. Don't freak out. Just do it. Just start practicing right now.

Life too short. Have an affair.

Exactly. Or not.

I think Carmen's gonna be here soon. You got another email. You do before she.

Yeah, this is. Yeah, I do. Partner hates oral sex. This one's about that. Yeah. Dear Emily, the man I love doesn't like giving oral sex. He'll do it maybe once a month, stay down there for a minute or less, then go into penetration. I've discussed this with him and he said he just doesn't like it. I've been with other men before him and they all absolutely loved it. Is it possible for a man not to like it and be straight? That's from Amanda. Oh, my God. I'm glad that my. I think that Carmen. Hi, Carmen.

Hi.

How are you? Good.

How are you?

Good to see you.

Just in time for this question.

I think that Carmen would actually help me answer this question, even though we're just meeting right now. You can sit there. Carmen, I'm going to read this. I'm going to tell you. I get a lot of emails from listeners and we were just answering this question. I'll read again. This woman, email me. The man she is dating doesn't like performing oral sex on her. She says he'll do it once a month, stay down there for a minute, go into penetration. And she's talked to him about it and he doesn't like it. She says she's been with other men and they've loved it. And she wants to know, is he. Could he be.

Dump him?

Really? I agree with you. Have you ever had this happen to you? A guy doesn't like it? No, because why would they be with you? Because.

Well, maybe they didn't like it, but they just lied and dealt with it.

Yeah. I mean, that could be true.

I mean, foreplay is, you know, extremely important.

It's so important. Exactly. So that's like my biggest. So I had this happen. I was dating a guy once and for what? For way too long. It was a long distance thing. So I just thought, mm, I'll give him a chance. Like, he would do it again. The same thing. First of all, don't do any foreplay for a minute and then stick it in. That's a huge mistake.

What's the minimum? Five minutes for oral sex or just.

In general for foreplay?

Yeah. Is there a minimum?

10, 15. I mean, you know.

Yeah. I think you could agree, like, it doesn't need to go on forever.

No.

You know, and so.

But.

But teasing at first is. I mean, is ultimate.

Exactly.

Just a little tease, kind of, you know.

Yeah.

Make you want it.

Exactly. Make us. The best case scenario is that we're like, please have sex with me now. Please do it now.

Use your instincts. I mean, it's kind of a feel like you should be able to read her a little bit.

Exactly, exactly.

And it'll make everything better. Just tease her for a little bit. One minute is nothing. So, but here's the thing, just to answer Amanda, is that it might come surprise to you, but not all women enjoy blowjobs. Not all men love performing oral sex. And men are different in their preferences and their skills. And maybe he had a bad experience, maybe his past partner didn't like it. Hygiene, who knows? But he might also might not like it because he doesn't know what he's doing.

Well, there's other things you can do.

Right. But she really likes it. But if he hates it and doesn't want to do it, for me, that's doable.

I wouldn't want it done to me if someone didn't want to do it.

Because my thing is, if he doesn't. If he doesn't. If he's confused about how to do it, maybe a bad experience, she could be like, listen, here's what I like. Here's what I don't like. But if he's like, I'm out. Because I had a boyfriend once, and I said to him, curious, is it that you don't. Exactly. I said, is it that you don't like it? Is that you're not sure what you're doing, or you think I don't like it? He's like, nah, it's just not my thing. And I was like, hmm, you're not my thing. And then we ended the relationship just like that.

And then he said, give me a blowjob.

Yeah. And I was like, no, your penis is going nowhere near my mouth at all. So, you know, I don't know, though. I think, Amanda, I mean, honestly, to me, this would be a deal breaker. I think that you need to get deeper into the situation. And if he says that he's at a bad situation, you can probably work around it. Show him what you like. But if you refuse to do it, this is your choice. I'd be out. Karma would be out.

What about this move, guys? Like if you make sure that you finish her off before you even start any. Is that all right?

Yeah, totally.

And then like, if you go too quick, it doesn't matter because you've already done.

Well, she comes First. It's a great book by Ian Kerner. There's a book called she Come First. And the whole theory's like, yeah, whipped man.

A whipped man.

No, but it's true. I mean, that's always great to make her come first and then you have to worry about it. But I mean, one minute of oral sex or one minute of anything, it's like, why bother? Give me a glass of water right now. They could have done that. That would have been much more effective.

I mean, I guess if there's a real connection and you really, you know, you're really feeling each other and it's just something they're not into.

There's.

There's just other things you can do.

Yeah, there are other things. You could use toys. He could use a toy on you.

You could use lube, a little porn.

Right? Things turn you on. But if she. But if you, if she loves oral sex and he's not getting it, you know, but if you're like, ah, you know what? I love that. Yeah. I don't want to say dump him if you love him and everything's great, but he just doesn't like it. It doesn't mean he's gay. It just means that, believe it or not, there are guys that don't like it. Because straight men don't like it. Just like women don't like blowjobs. So if you still like this guy Amanda, then talk to him about it, see what's going on and see if you can live with it and just get a lot of friggin sex toys. And there is, there's one thing I want to say is that there is a toy by Lilo. The aura which stimulates the feeling of oral sex. It looks a little round thing has a little thing, looks like a tongue going. It's really cool.

I don't know about that.

I know, I should get you. Oh, I did bring you some toys though. You did? I did. You're gonna die.

So have some fun.

Thanks. So I gotta say that you could try that if you need it that badly.

I mean, you know, little pocket rocket action.

Exactly. What kind of sex toys? Okay, so thank you yeah.

It'S called the Lilo aura. And if you want one, go to my website, sexy.com.

Click on the noise.

No, I was just making it, but it kind of. It's quiet.

Use it and not have her know. You know what I mean?

It's not that good. Believe me. It's not that good, but it's pretty. It's pretty damn good. It's a Lila aura. Click on the good vibe.

Communication, you know, they need to communicate.

Exactly. Yeah. Don't assume he's not gay, but talk to him about all this stuff, and.

If you're into him, we can work around it.

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But have you ever been with a guy that you're like, sex was at and you were out?

I mean, I think in. In the long term, I think sex is a huge part of relationship because, you know, someone may stray if, you.

Know, if you're not pleasing them or.

If you don't feel, you know, you could. You could make your partner feel not wanted or like you're not attracted to him or her.

Exactly.

You gotta keep going sort of, you know, without the communication. It all boils down to that.

It does.

You know, you need to talk, be open with what you like, and then go for it and have fun.

I know. Sex is fun. That's.

Sex is fun.

Sex is so fun.

Role play. I mean, do you do the role playing?

Like, how do you.

Of course I do.

Okay. Okay. So can you just tell me. Give me a scenario. Walk me through, like, the last time you played a scenario.

This would be good. The last time I heard anyone do a role play and explain, it was ice tea and coco. They explained to me how they role play and that was fun.

And they. And love that.

That was like five years ago. Yeah. And I'll never forget it.

Yeah.

Now Carmen's turn.

Well, you can, you know, I mean, obviously depending on your partner or whatever, but, you know, you can always play sort of master mistress.

Right. So do you dress up and stuff? Like, do you? Sure. Cause here's my. Not.

Not every time, right? Not every time, but sometimes you just want to, you know, get to it.

Right, Exactly. But with one.

And then other time, it's this. It's like, exciting sort of the planning.

How do you start it, though? Like, are you like, hey, tonight I'm gonna be there. You just say, hey, master. And then they know, like, I'm just saying with guys, like that's a key.

Phrase to let them know it's on.

Like, do you initiate the role playing? I cuz I, I should be better at it. I have so many little costumes and cute things.

I overthink things.

I just see you vibe, you know, I mean, I think you just have sexual compatibility. You just vibe with that person. And I, I don't know, I, I truly believe that, that for women, a lot of it's up here. It's in the brain.

It's true.

And so if you, if you, if, if you're dating someone that's really intelligent and sexual, you know, they'll get you there, you know?

Right.

They'll talk you through it and then ideas start to pop up and you know.

Exactly. You can just say, you know, I.

Mean, it's fun to be a mistress.

It is fun. It is to be.

Take it out on all your frustrations.

He dropped Coco off in the ghetto and then he would get out of the car, come around the corner and like pretend to abduct.

Really? That's so funny. That's fun. You know what? That's fun though. That's totally fun. Yeah.

I mean, that's probably why they're together.

I was just gonna say that.

I mean, absolutely, you gotta say missionary every.

Nobody. I mean, no, I just fell asleep when you said that word, missionary all the time. Really? No, it's true. You just. Little things like little tiny sex toys now, do you? You like sex toys, you said.

Yeah, I do.

Have you. What's your favorite?

I have to be honest, you know, I've tried quite a few and I still go back to the pocket rocket.

You know, it's so funny. I love the pocket rocket too. That was my first one. You put the little bat, it still has got a battery, and you just carry it around.

What was the one? The bunny with the bunny ears that just. The rabbit didn't work.

The rabbit didn't work for you?

It didn't work.

You know, I, Yeah, I. We kind of talk about that in the office a lot because it's like, it's like dual. It's like I want one or the other.

I'm just confused. And like.

Have you ever had the, The Magic Wand?

Magic Wand is a big hit too.

Okay, well.

And you can kind of do that on the sly.

The Magic Wand.

Yeah, because it's a back massager, but for women it's a whole other thing.

Oh, you can just leave it out.

Yeah, yeah. You have to.

An adult person like me would go over and have no idea that your vibrator is just sitting on the coffee table. I would have no tell. Are you in your purse? What are you doing?

Giving Carmen our first present. Okay, it is now unplugged, so you can. It's rechargeable. Magic wand.

I know someone that's gonna have some fun tonight.

Oh, yeah, right. There you go with your lube.

This is awes.

I know. So you now you just charge it and you doesn't see, it used to be connected to the wall so much. You're welcome. Yeah, I. I thought you'd like it. I don't know. What woman doesn't like the magic wand, right?

I mean, yeah, it's like the magic wand or like I said, the pocket rocket.

Exactly. One of these two. So are you dating anyone right now?

I am. It's new.

Okay, so the sex is still good. Probably. So how did you meet him? Yeah, I'm not gonna ask you.

I accidentally met him. I. I've been working on music lately, so I've gone back to my roots a little bit.

Wow, right? That's how you started, right?

Yeah, I started off with music in the very beginning.

I was gonna ask you. Tell me about, like, the beginning. Like, how did that all start? You came to la. You were from. You're from the Midwest. You're from Ohio, right? From Michigan. Cincinnati, Ohio from Michigan. Midwestern girls moving out for the dream.

And I went to performing arts school and studied, you know, classical ballet and, you know, modern dance and was just in that environment.

So by the time I was graduating, I was looking for sort of a job, you know, and trying to figure out what I was gonna do with, you know, the arts. And I ended up. Ended up dancing in this magic show. And I saved up my money. My family doesn't have a lot of money, so I saved up a little money and I met by accident, I met a girl that lives here in Los Angeles. And she said, you can stay at my house. I think you'd be a great. You know, you could back. Back up. Dance for Janet Jackson. You'd be great. Wow.

Amazing.

And that's all that. I came to la.

You're like, Janet Jackson.

I'll be a backup dancer.

So Jennifer J. Lo, she was like a Laker girl for a minute, right? She was kind of a dancer.

That was Paula Abdul.

No, JLO was too.

Jlo was a fly girl.

Oh, okay, okay. I don't know because, you know, she's.

From the East Coast, Right?

All right, okay, okay, okay, okay. But.

That'S funny because you're from. Right. You were like, okay, back up. That sounds good. So you came back up, did you? Right? And then you came down?

Yeah. So. So my first, you know, I decided to stay for a week in la and actually, actually the first, the first thing I did when I.

We used to sneak into clubs. We were too young, right? So my friend had a fake ID and we'd sneak into all these clubs and whatever. It was so much fun.

Oh, my God.

That was coming from Ohio.

I know, right?

You come out, you're like in Hollywood.

Did guys just live love you? I mean, have you always been like this sex symbol, this sexy? You must have had so much attention. 19 year old Carmen Electra. I can't even. Right. I mean, so you came out. I know. Really? I mean, you think I.

Sweet.

Anyway, my first. It wasn't really a job because we didn't get paid for it, but I danced on Soul Train.

You did?

Yeah.

Wow.

Where do they shoot that?

I don't even remember. I mean. Yeah, in Los Angeles. In la.

That's huge though.

I did the Scrabble board and they put me on the risers and, you know, went down the Soul Train line. So I thought I had made it. Like, that was it. I'm so happy I've made it. You know, you don't get paid to do it, but I thought I'd made it. Anyway. I was really excited about that, but.

I'm excited about that. Okay.

I ended up getting a demo deal. I met. Met this girl and she just, you know, she had a band that Prince was producing and I actually auditioned for Prince to be a backup.

A backup dancer.

Backup dancer.

Prince. Like, okay, Amazing. Yeah.

It was really weird though, because we were just at a club and she approached me and it felt kind of, you know, like, this is surreal.

Yeah.

You know, basically, you know, his brother's gonna come pick you, pick us up and then you'll go. We'll go to his house and audition.

Prince has a brother?

Yeah, he does.

I didn't know that, Wayne.

Yeah. Okay. We're learning a lot.

Bodyguard for a while, but yeah. So I went and like, there was a part of me that's like, no, don't go. I'm like, we're in la. Ooh, scary stuff happens in la. From Cincinnati, you know.

How'd you even know it was Prince? How did you know that? Like, you weren't gonna show up. Just some random person's dang.

Like, that was, that was, you know, we didn't yeah.

This is what not to do, guys.

I was just trusting, you know, I was just trusting this, you know, this woman.

Woman that. At least it was a woman. Would you have gotten in the car if it was a guy that approached you?

Oh, no.

No. Okay.

No way.

Smart.

Okay.

And then, so a blue. Blue BMW pulls up.

It's a good sign. BMW wasn't like a meter. Okay.

So it was, you know, it was like. It was colorful.

It wasn't like a right van.

Yeah. It wasn't black.

BMW out blue. Fine.

Well, it just, you know, that felt very Prince ish to have. All right, you know.

Okay, wait.

Now if it was purple, hands down. I'm gonna audition. I'm auditioning, Right?

Oh, my God, I love this. So you get the blue BMW.

Yeah.

And then what?

And we go to his house in LA. Yeah.

Okay.

Yeah. Keep in mind, I was 18 years old.

Oh, my God. Little Carmen. Okay.

Really nervous.

I'm nervous. Yeah.

I remember meeting him for the first time, and he was cool, you know, he was just kind of down to earth. And he said, so, you want to be in this band? And I said, yes, I want to. I want to be. I want to be in the band. So he said, do you sing? And I said, yeah. And he got on the piano and he played Do Re Mi from the Sound of Music. And I was in that musical, so I knew it probably better than him.

Oh, my God. That's okay. I love that song, too. I know it by heart. But.

Okay, so, like, I could do the other parts to it. And, you know, it was kind of a silly thing. I think he was just kind of playing around.

Warm up. Right?

Yeah, whatever. So I did that. And, you know, he was like, okay. And then he said, were you nervous?

You must.

I was dying. I mean, I was so nervous, I didn't know what to do with myself.

Honestly. And then I was at his house and, you know, 18 years old and just not knowing.

And Prince is like, what to expect. That he's the biggest singer at that time. Oh, yeah. Okay.

Absolutely. Yeah. So then he said, I heard you're a really good dancer. And I said, well, I love to dance. Blah, blah, blah. Next thing you know, I'm dancing to. I think Graffiti Bridge was coming out at that time, so. So he played some of the songs, and I just freestyled, danced, and.

Didn'T hear anything. Actually. I didn't get a relax at the time.

At the moment, you weren't hearing anything. Or afterwards, like, you left.

And he's like, see? Ya. Bye. Yeah.

I got no response. And so this woman with her band kept saying, you were amazing. I really want you in my band. I don't know why he won't give me an answer. And Princeton Coy, hard to get.

Okay.

So she said, I know some people at Capitol Records. I'll take you in there and you can audition for them. I went in. I ended up getting a demo deal with Capital.

Wow.

And so I was able to go home, visit my family, and they flew.

Like it was worth it. Yay.

So they flew me back. I stayed at the Holiday Inn.

In Glendale here, you know. And then through my friend, Prince got ahold of me and said, I just wanted you to know I think you should do your own thing. I don't think you should be a backup for anybody.

Wow. So he squashed your backup dreams. But then Lau, look at you.

But I said, you know. So he said, come to the studio. I wrote you a song.

Oh, my God. Okay.

And I went into the studio and I was really nervous listening to the song and. But really, you know. You know. God, Prince wrote me a song. That's crazy. That's insane. How does that happen? I don't even know.

He's never written me a song.

But, you know, basically, I'm under contract for a demo deal at Capitol. He got me out of it. I moved to Minneapolis for a couple years. And you did. Recorded. Yeah, recorded.

Did you guys date?

Album.

Now I'm like, flashback. Did you guys date?

It was very flirtatious, you know, it was very, very flirtatious.

Okay. But you maybe. Maybe hooked up. Okay, that means yes.

With the Prince.

With Prince.

What's this? Did he introduce you to.

I would die. I used to have sex to Prince, like, in high school. That's what I'd say. My first. Not with him, but to him to, like, you know. Al. Asa. Yeah.

Little red Corvette.

Yeah.

I was really little. We weren't allowed to watch Purple Rain.

And so with Abalonia.

Yeah.

We would sneak and watch it. We just thought it was the hottest movie.

As Prince or the Artist Formerly Known as.

He wasn't the greatest Formerly Known as Yet.

Right. And he only did that because, like, he lost access to his name. Right. Like, it was. It was tied up with a trademark or something, and he couldn't get it back from the record company. Right.

Yeah.

And they own the music.

What was it like having sex with him? Can you just tell me? You're kissing him. I guess. Come on. It's been so long. Now he's Like, I don't kiss. No, that's right. That's actually smart. Neither do I. I changed names, though. I changed. Changed names of people.

But it was amazing. I mean, I toured. I opened up for him. I had my own band.

That's so awesome.

On the Diamonds and Pearls tour in Europe. I learned a lot. I learned a lot from him.

Okay.

And I'm really grateful.

It's a great story that she was shooting to be a backup dancer, and then she.

In one week, it was. Things just clicked. So I knew I was kind of on the right path at that point.

Okay. God. I mean, you were. So now. Okay, so now you've done all this stuff and then you've become like this, like.

Well, I decided to, you know, I decided after living in Minneapolis for a couple years that I wanted to move to la.

Move to la. It's more fun. Yeah. Let's be honest. In the Midwest, you're like, really? I'm back in the Midwest. But you're with Prince, so it's hard. And I just had this Midwest. Prince, Louisiana.

Yeah. And it was kind of, you know, I would be bored sometimes. You know, there wasn't a lot to do. I didn't have a lot of friends there, so.

I get it.

I moved to la. And then I kind of decided. It was weird because I remember him saying to me, you know, you can stay in la, but you'll be on your own. Or you can come back to Minneapolis.

Wow. I was sitting here and I loved you.

Like, what do I do? And I didn't want to go back, you know.

Right. I totally understand.

And so I decided to stay. But I. I didn't have a bank account.

That's ballsy.

I had.

That's very bally.

I had 5,000 cash.

You must really hate the snow.

Yeah, it's really bad. The snow is bad.

You got the big spoon with the cherry. Right. Isn't that out there in Minnesota? That's, like, the thing that's known for.

She was with Prince. She was upstairs at Paisley Park. I mean, that's freaking amazing. Okay, but now. Okay, so now you. You're always. I meant, people see you as like, this all. You are like the ultimate sex symbol. Like Kameron Lecter. Like, you are. Yeah, you are. So how do you. How do you feel about that? Like, I love that title.

I love hearing that.

Right.

I mean. I mean, you know.

Have you always felt sexy?

I always wanted to be. You know, I always wanted to be. Obviously. I've had moments where I feel sexy in Moments where I don't feel sexy at all.

But what makes you feel the sexy, sexiest?

Performing on stage in lingerie.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Okay, so like just sort of doing.

The dancing, the burlesque thing, or, you know, dancing.

Okay, how about, like in front of an audience? Right. Well, make it do you. New days we wake up, you're like, I don't feel sexy at all.

Oh, all the time.

And so what do you do with that? With your. I mean, you have insecurities too, just like normal women.

Absolutely.

Right. And then what?

I. I just try to take my mind off of it and do something, you know?

Right. Because now every day you feel sexy.

Focusing on your flaws and, you know, beating yourself up. You know, it doesn't get really get you anywhere, so.

Right, okay. You know, so now. But so, okay, so now you're dating someone and I want, I want to get some sex tips from you. Okay. You just made a lube, so I want to know, like, what is like if you could describe, like the best sex you ever had, what would it be like if there was like a moment or something happened or just. Yeah, your best case scenario, sex. What would happen?

Or it could be a fantasy, you know?

You know, I've. I've fantasized quite a bit about s m. Right.

50. Have you ever. Should have bought you some whips, Chains.

I have a cane. I have, but I have many, many different.

Submissive or being dominant?

I like both.

You do?

Yeah.

Switch.

So have you done that? So you've done it with men? Have you, like, gotten into the whole bdsm?

Sure, a little bit. I mean, I'm not, you know, full blown, like, dominatrix hardcore. I mean, if I'm on the other side of things, then I, you know, I can be hardcore.

Right. Wow.

I don't know. I don't. I don't want to, like, end up bleeding and you know what I mean?

But like, maybe like handcuffs. Bondage. Little bondage.

A little.

A little.

A little pain. A little bit, you know, just enough.

Right? Just enough. Because it.

Just enough of feeling like you're being controlled.

Right. It's hot.

It's hot.

So what would be like your beginner?

But I do like to be dominant as well.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Do you feel like, have you ever been with a guy who's like, no, I do not want you to be dominant and you like, you ever try it or you can kind of tell if they want it.

You just vibe out. I mean, what you're saying earlier, you just kind of vibe out with your partner and you can kind of sense.

Where they want to go guide you in bed. That is like a pet peeve of yours. Like sexually, you're like, oh, such a turn off.

A non talker.

Like dirty talk.

Yeah, I love dirty talk.

Me too.

I mean, come on.

Filthy talk.

Filthy.

Yeah, filthy. The filthiest.

Yeah.

We want to.

We want to make it. I keep my mouth shut.

I know you do on the show too, which is sometimes about your sex life. He's married. He's like. I asked him like I'm married.

So to me that's a huge part of foreplay. Even without being touched.

Because again, our brain larger sex organ. Talk to me dirty and I'm like, there, kiss it down. I'm sure you do still, but.

And you know, to me, kissing is a huge turn on as well. I mean, it sounds simple after going. Talking about S and M. No, but it's true.

I think about it.

Most intimate thing you can do.

Yeah, right? Yeah.

Yeah. Look. How about looking in your eyes during sex?

What?

Do you like looking in someone's eyes when you're having sex with them?

Yeah, sure.

Yeah. Okay. Sometimes.

Sometimes you do.

Unless they're like spanking you or something.

Unless I'm in control. Then I might say, look me in my eyes.

Right, okay. Exactly. To make them do it. Right. Yeah.

Sounds scary.

That sounds terrifying. Okay, so what's like your biggest turn on them? Like, what could a guy do? I guess dirty talk. Is there anything like, what's your favorite sense of foreplay? Like, do you like oral sex? So I'm performing oral sex on you. Is that like a.

Sure.

Because some women don't. They're like really sensitive down there. They just don't like it.

Multi orgasmic women don't like that.

Yeah, that's what Drew always says.

True though, right? I've noticed it.

I learned that from him. You did?

Yeah.

How do you know they weren't just like, oh, because you've actually had sex with them and they had multiple orgasms. Do you know this? Women who can have mult. But I can have multiple orgasms and I love oral sex.

Well, of course you can. You're sex family. You can do it all. You're like the superwoman of sex.

I have multiple orgasms as well.

Right. During. During intercourse.

So yeah.

So many women.

But you're not like. Not like 50 and 30 minutes.

I can. That's like the magic. I can have like 20.

Magic wand.

Oh, my record. Yeah.

Well, dude, you counted 20.

Yeah. Really? I Haven't really?

How did you do it and count. That seems distracting.

Well, I want to know. I want to see how far you go with it.

The magic. I'm late. I gotta go.

It's really uncomfortable for a minute and then it just gets more intense.

You gotta push past it.

You gotta push past it.

You gotta keep going. You gotta keep going. So you like. Exactly.

God, I'm just telling you everything I know. I love seeing you get to me.

You just open up. So this new guy you're dating. Sure, yeah. I just want to know, so how long did you wait to like have sex with him? It's okay if you didn't.

No, we did. Yeah, I think it's important. I mean, I don't, you know, you.

Don'T have any rules around that. I don't.

I've never like, I've never slept around. I've never. Even during this time of dating, you know, I've always been in long term relationships. So at least five years. And you know, this is throughout my 20s, you know, long relationship. I would go right into another one without a break, which wasn't good.

So a lot of that going on. And then these, this past couple years, actually I wanted to date, you know.

How did you meet guys? So how do you meet guys?

But I won't, I won't. I don't have sex right away. I want, I want them to wait. And I want to know because I don't want to. I don't want to feel gross or sit there and go, oh my God, what do I do? Why do that?

And then also being who you are, don't you think that a lot of men, I mean, I have it at a much smaller scale, but I think people be like, oh, sex, family, I'm going to walk in, they'll be like a. And it'll be crazy. You know what I mean? So you also think that guys are like making assumptions. I'm sure you are amazing in that. But you also don't want to get. You gotta like, you don't want to just give it up.

And guys would just want to be able to say to their friends, I had sex with Carmen Electra. So you got to be worried about that too.

And then when you're dating, like, it's, it's, it's interesting because, you know, since I didn't do it in my 20s, I'm. I thought this is what I need to do. I need to go on some dates and you know, meet a lot of people. Doesn't mean you're having sex doesn't mean you're even kissing.

Exactly, you know. How'd you meet this guy? Did you get fixed up with him? Did you meet.

No, I met him accidentally. I was going in to record a song, and he has a studio next door to my label, and they were having problems with the technical. Yeah, technical problems. So they walked me over.

You're a technical person. You're gonna fix it.

No, the guy was okay. You wish you were there. No.

Yeah, the recording studio at my label, they were having to fix this thing.

Over here.

Hell no.

I have so.

Are you kidding?

She can work the magic wand, though. Okay.

I can't turn that on.

Yeah, wait till the new one. You gotta see. It's different levels. It's a whole different thing. Okay. But anyway, so you met this guy and then.

Well, yeah, I went in to record and then everyone left, and I was alone, and I felt really shy all of a sudden. And we would just. We vibed off of each other.

Wow. You felt it right away.

Didn't. Didn't get the song done that night at all, but didn't do anything else. I mean, we just basically talked.

Okay.

We talked a lot. And he, you know, asked me for my number.

And, you know, you start texting and stuff at first. Don't you feel like now, yeah, we.

Were texting a lot. But I do believe that at some point you have to get on the phone.

Yeah, exactly. We're old school. I don't want. Stop texting me, make a plan with me, or call me.

I had a date with someone that I was really attracted to at one point, and he would only text.

I hate that.

And he just said, I don't. I. I don't talk.

It's not the sign of a real man.

He said, I don't talk on the phone. I'm like, well, how I. How am I gonna get to know you, right, if I can't hear your tone?

I'm a wicked good texter.

Was he, like, younger? I'm just wondering if it's, like, a younger generation.

No, actually, he wasn't.

I hate him.

Did he have money? Yeah, maybe he had an assistant who text for him and made him really suave. You know what I mean?

Who knows? I mean, the thing about, yeah, I can't go out, because then you realize I just spent an hour and a half. Like, this happened. This guy was dating one night. We were, like, texting for an hour and a half, and then he was like, come over. I'm like, dude, I would have come over an hour and a half ago when we started texting, but now we're texting.

We wasted all this time.

Exactly. We are all wasting our lives texting. Like, life is just like, I'm gonna be like, oh, I texted. And I.

Don't get me wrong, I love a good text. I like to text. You can get your point across. You can get it.

Yeah. Like, I'll be there in 10 minutes.

If you're dating and you're getting to know someone at some point, you know, I want to get to know you. I want to hear your tone.

Right.

I mean, you can. You can misinterpret texts.

Exactly.

You know, I totally. I don't know.

I know. I got it. So this guy's good. So you're dating. It's fairly new. Sex is fun now. It's good. You like them. You're not gonna talk to me about it? Okay, so if you had to give everyone.

We've been dating for three months. So it's.

It's.

It's new, but so far, so good. I'm happy.

Do you feel like that you like, for example, the dirty talk? Because I'm seriously, like, I'm gonna admit this, but I love the dirty talk. And I'm not even great at initiating if they don't. So I've been seeing someone and I'm like, we never talk dirty. And I'm thinking, I guess I gotta start talking dirty to him.

That's a lot of pressure for a guy, guys. It really is.

It's an instant switch for me.

You just can't help it.

You're like, I'm turned on. I mean, you know, I know if a guy does, it turns me on instantly.

He says the wrong thing, though, you know, I'm always worried I gotta put my foot in my mouth and say something just horrible about her mom or something. You know what I mean?

I love the Seinfeld episode when he's like, do you want me to lay out your mother's panties? Do you remember that Signfeld episode?

No. Was that Jerry that said that or George?

It was Jerry. And she was like, what?

I'm afraid I'm gonna say something that just completely cut the mood off, so I don't even say anything.

Really Dirty mind.

Then it's pretty fucked.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

But he got married. Like, someone married him, so that's true. But maybe she likes your dirty, sick mind.

We'll never know because I'm not gonna talk dirty to her.

She's so. I know Exactly. Okay, I think we gotta wrap this up. That's all we have time for. I'm so glad. I know. Well, there's. There's more. I mean, if you. Do you want to give me, like, your top sex tip? Your top lube slash sex tip.

Top sex tip. I've got the lip tips.

It's, you know, I mean, it's. It's all about, you know, sort of liking the same things, I guess. And, you know, like I said, I like to role play. I like to have fun. Sometimes I just wake up in the morning and, like, half asleep and have sex.

Like, have bloodjacks. I love says.

Yeah.

Yeah. You like giving up, right? Don't you think you always have to, like, in a relationship? Like, you hear these stories, like, oh, I got married. I stopped getting blow jobs. Like, why would you do that? Why would you stop?

Yeah, it's a weird marriage thing. You know, all of a sudden that's.

You gotta do more.

Yeah, you gotta do more. Pick up the pace.

When you stop having sex, you are roommates, people. When you stop giving blowjobs, you're cliche. I don't want to hear that. That happens. Okay.

But, I mean, I can understand. Everyone likes what they like and. And that's what it's all about.

Yeah. I mean, if your guy doesn't like blowjobs, you're fine. But most of us, it's a matter.

Of, you know, being sexually attracted to each other and liking the same things.

Exactly.

You know.

Right. Carmen, you're so beautiful and pretty and sexy and thank you for being here. I really appreciate it. Thanks for having me. Yeah. And they can find you, Carmen. Electra, Twitter, Instagram, all that stuff.

Yeah.

Okay, Carmen, thanks for being here. And thank you, everyone for listening. And thank you, Madison, for a great show. Thank you, Anderson. Love you dearly. And thanks, everyone, for listening. Was it good for you? You email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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