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Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cause my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standard. Oh, my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But, you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sex with emily.com where you can check out our podcast. Best thing to do is go to just itunes. Subscribe so you never miss another show again. We're doing two shows a week. You can also, you know, my website's got. Every day we update it with new stories and blogs and videos and all these things that will help you have better sex and relationships, which is what I'm all about. And lately, our Facebook page. Facebook.com sexwithemily but blowing up with your questions. And we've been answering them there as well, so whatever is easier for you. You can tweet me exwithemily, Instagram, I don't care. Sex with Emily. Whatever you wanna do, ask me your questions. I will answer them. And also, every Wednesday, Pacific Standard Time, 12:30pm in the afternoon to 1:00', clock, I do a live Twitter chat. And you can ask me anything you want from 1231 on Twitter. And that's also Axe with Emily. See, there's so many ways we can talk. And also, how many times have you done that? What, like three times? So far?

How filthy does it get?

You know, sometimes it gets a little filthy, but it's pretty legit. Like, people are pretty legit. I don't think there's anything that was too filthy.

I would assume that it's just like a chat room. Like one of those sex chat rooms where everyone's, like, watching the girl on, like, just show us your tits.

No, we're actually gonna do a wrap up. No, you think it would be. But it's like, people are like, you know what? How can I spice up my, you know, relationship?

That's good.

I like that I have A small penis. What should I do? What's the best, you know, thing to. I've never had an orgasm. What's your favorite lube? I mean, people ask me legit questions.

So people keep it on point.

They keep it on point. They're not getting too dirty. I mean, sometimes there's some weird things when I make it. Not about on that, but there's always weird tweets. I get, like, I like sex when I. On the boobs or something, but that's usually it.

Like, when you what on the boobs?

When you what on the boobs? People like, so. Hi, Anderson.

Hi there, Anderson.

I'm here with the lovely Anderson.

I'm lovely.

Anderson is. He wears many hats, but he's got two amazing podcasts you should check out. After Disaster and the Film Vault.

Yeah, After Disaster. Doing their first ever live event coming up pretty soon. In like a month. Hollywood improv.

Oh, that's so cool.

This Saturday night, July 12th.

Okay.

Yeah, it's gonna be a good time.

Can I come?

Of course.

Can I come?

Make sure you gotta buy your. Buy your tickets so I can comp you.

Sorry, you can't come, dude.

I want to support you.

Sneak in the back.

I will pay. I will pay double. How's that? Because that's how much I love Zoom.

Do you have four dollars?

I don't have four. Not on me. Can I charge it?

So you're gonna say something else about after the Twitter chat and I jumped in there.

Oh, no, the Twitter chat. Oh, I was gonna say also. And on Thursday nights from 8:39, 30 Pacific Standard Time, you can call in, ask me questions right now. 800-568-3191. That's what the people can do. How have you been doing? How's your week?

I've been good. Speaking of the After Disaster, again, just real quick, because you brought it up.

Yes.

Because I think this is apropos to your show here. Tell me, did you know that tortoises make sounds when they have sex?

No.

This is what we explored and talked about at length on the After Disaster last night. I cannot stop laughing when I hear this. And I will play it for you before the show's over.

Okay. There is actually sound of them having.

They make sound, Emily. And it's not the clicking or clacking of their shells. It's coming deep from their throats, and they sound like little humans, really. It's unbelievable.

Do you know that it's natural that if you, like, evolutionary biology talks about the reason why, like, women and Men make sounds during sex because women. This is women, typically when they were having sex with, like, their primary partner and there was, like, another partner they were gonna have sex with later, like, that's how it would happen. They'd be having sex, and they would make really loud sounds moaning. So the guy would know, like, that she was ready for him to come in next.

But that's like mating calls. Oh, wait, wait. So the next guy would come.

The next guy would be, like, knowing that she was having sex or not to come in yet because she's like, you know, we're talking about, like, caveman time. Wow.

So, like, instead of putting a sock on the door, you.

Yeah. You just moan and scream and yell. So tortoises doesn't.

We talked about that a little bit last night. Like, it's. It's not a mating call because it's actual the sound of matings.

Right. But it kind of is. But. But it's kind of. Well, right. It's kind of both, though, because you're mating, but then. But then they have sex. Animals are not monogamous, so in a way, it's like, we're ripe. I'm ready to.

Swans are. I've heard. Lobsters are.

Yeah, that's about it. Most of them are not.

Humans pretend to be.

Humans pretend to be, but we're all silently suffering through monogamy.

It's true.

I think monogamy can be an epidemic in our culture, which is why today's show is going to. It's all about new beginnings. Today is how to say goodbye to the bad. Whether it's bad sex, a bad relationship, whatever you're going through and you want to mix up. I'm going to be giving advice today again. We've been getting so many emails lately to feedbackexwithelmily.com as well as Facebook and everywhere else. And I just want to answer my people. I love my listeners. I do. I just. I seriously. I just got a little choked up, which I don't often do. I'm not. I don't get very emotional. But I love you all. So thank you for listening and supporting the show for the last eight years. And so I'm just dedicating a bunch of shows to answering your questions, because that's what this is all about. You know what I'm saying? Okay, so some of the subjects of the emails are, a guy wants to talk about manscaping. A lot of guys email me. They're like, I don't know where my hair should go, where I should have hair someone else guy wants to move on from an abusive marriage. A woman wants to exit a bad date with grace. What do you do about it? We're talking about women, men, ejaculation, all these things. And we will get into that. So I've also got a little bit of sex in the news here and this is what I got to say about that. So a man, okay, men are always sticking their penises in the strangest of places. So a man gives ridiculous reason for getting his penis stick stuck in a pipe in China. So Leontian didn't think people would believe the accident that occurred while he was doing a diy do it yourself home improvement project at home. It was so hot, so I was painting the wall in the nude. He said he arrived at the hospital with his penis encased in a pipe. It had swollen overnight. He slipped on the floor, causing my private parts to fall inside the pipe that was protruding from the wall to take water outside from the air conditioning unit. Unfortunately, I got stuck. As a result, I cut from the wall and tried pouring oil and liquid soap down the sides, but my manhood was so tightly wedged that nothing dripped down. I went to sleep that thinking if I relaxed that the pipe would slide off. But it didn't. Goes to the hospital. Doctors were at a loss. Ended up calling the fire brigade in order to cut off the pipe during a four hour procedure. Once the man's penis was freed, he was left with some bruising but no major damage. In similar stories last year a man fell into a toaster with his manhood and had to call firefighters to help him out. Also in 2008, a vicar was minding his own business, handing hanging up some curtains when he fell into a potato and had to have it removed from his bottom.

A vikre.

A vikar. What's a vikr?

A guy who puts potatoes up his house.

I have no fucking idea. But really, why are men always trying to stick their penises in inappropriate places?

Guys get lonely.

I think if I had a penis, I'd probably do that too.

Yeah. You know what? I talk to a lot of girls. The more aggressive ones are always like, I'd love to have a penis. I just stick it in everything.

I would. I would stick in everything. This is what I've said. I said I would have sex if I had like a penis for a day. I'd have sex, get a few blowjobs. I get a flashlight for sure. Because my office is like filled with flashlights and they're all so cool. Like You've seen them? The masturbations?

Yeah, yeah.

The inside, the little nubby things and they all feel different. Like you could have sex like 10 different people with a flashlight.

Never done a flush. Never done a flashlight. I have not. I need to do that.

Bring you one in next week. Yeah, you know, I'm always bringing in gifts here for you peeps.

Oh yeah, you actually, you left some gifts here last week. I need to give those back to you.

What I give what?

I don't know. You got some, you got some good stuff in a bag though. And I put it safe because it's valuable. Yeah. I love how you speak from like a female's point of view. Like. Yeah, if I had a penis, you know, I go out, I'd have sex with everything. Get a couple blowjobs. It's not that easy, Em.

Yeah it is.

Like you just go out to the corner if you're a girl. Yeah. You want some guy in between your legs. You could have that. You could have that right now. It says nine o' clock on our clock. You could have it by 9:07, guaranteed. Not me.

It's true that girls can get laid.

Out front and find somebody.

No, you're right. I could probably have sex with a guard if he was awake. Who doesn't know to sit for 10 minutes.

Yeah. So I bet three minutes.

Yeah, I forgot about the guards. You could be having sex.

The penis just seems like this amazing thing. Like you guys don't. I mean, granted there are issues. People ejaculate too quickly. Not enough. We're going to get into that actually in a while. Or not. They don't. Can't ejaculate at all. They can't say hard. I understand. But most of the time it seems like the penis is pretty awesome. Like you're going to get off, you're going to have an orgasm. It's gonna happen.

Not all you guys feel that way. My wife is delighted that she doesn't have one.

Really?

And she always just like she looks at me like in bewilderment. Like how do you walk around all day with that thing just there?

Yeah.

How do you do it?

And like inappropriate boners and stuff could be uncomfortable.

Yeah. I got busted in seventh grade once. I. It'll. It scarred me forever.

Did it? What happened?

Like I was in wood shop and I was mocking the teacher because he was really boring and old. So I was laying down on like top of one of the wood surfaces, like where we supposed to be cutting and this really, really large Woman girl that was in class with me, she's like, oh my God, Anderson's wiener is large right now. And I was like half asleep and I woke up. I'm like, oh my God.

Was it really? You had like a boner sticking up. That's.

I was wearing like loose shorts and I didn't know that's what I woke up to.

You still wear loose shorts all the time. Is that why I wear the exact.

Same clothes as I did then in seventh grade?

But yeah. Well, we're gonna take a little picture of us tonight, Lauren. And she's like, should we warn Anderson? Cause we wanna take a picture just like we put up with the podcast. Cause you're on the podcast. I'm like, nah, he always wears his thing. It's gonna be fine.

I wore the. I'm wearing the exact same clothes I wore yesterday.

Exactly.

I didn't get dressed till 8 o' clock at night.

He's not gonna like put on a suit or something, right?

I might have.

Would you have? Okay, well, we might take a little photo too.

I'll hold Stanley. I always hold up my dog when I don't because I don't want people looking at me.

You don't look at it. You can put him in front of your face.

Yeah, put Stanley up and then people just tell you.

Stanley's our mascot. Stanley's the best ever. Okay, so in other sex in the news work. Speaking of a woman being able to get laid whenever she wants, there's now a Sugar daddy university. It's a one night symposium and cocktail party. And the goal of the symposium is to help rich men meet younger women who like them and their cash. How hard is it for them? I don't know why they need a University, but SugarDaddyForMe.com is branching out with this latest pursuit. Removing the tambo of transactional relationships is what they call these. You've heard about all these sugar daddy sites, right? Sugar baby, Sugar daddy and the guy Schneider. Guy started it. A Jew, of course. Just kidding. I'm Jewish. Can I make. I can make Jewish jokes.

As long as you're Jewish. Go ahead.

I'm a Jew, so I can make Jewish jokes. There's nothing wrong with a man providing for the woman of his dreams. Well, she provides for him the way he wants. It starts with a 90 minute symposium and how to how to live the sugar life. It's a prerequisite for understanding the sugar daddy lifestyle. How to navigate it successfully, how to avoid the pitfalls of approaching life incorrectly and Then they put their skills to use in a cocktail party after. I think all you gotta do is waver on a hundred dollar bills and you get a chick. I don't know why you need training for that.

I'm confused.

Or some Gucci bags. These are dudes.

This is dudes that are going to learn how to be sugar daddy.

Learn. Like, because there's all these websites like Sugar Daddy, Sugar Baby, where we women who are like trying to get paid for their college tuition or sleeping with older guys. So they're explaining to them how it all goes down. And then there's a little mixer after with a bunch of sugar babies who are waiting for a Gucci purse or something.

They're explaining to other rich dudes how to be a sugar daddy.

Yeah. Which I don't think it's hard.

I thought it was the other way around. I thought that the girls were.

That's what I thought at first too, when I first started. But no, it's for the dudes. I don't know.

It should be the other way around.

Yeah, well, they're probably like, I know I gave him a little job and he pays my rent. That's pretty easy. But I guess these guys might mess it up sometimes. Who knows? But they need a university, so. Yeah, but it's so funny because we were talking this in my office today and like this few of my interns are like, I would have done that if that was around. I think it was Lauren, my assistant, who said, I would have done that if that was happening.

She would have gone to learn how to be a sugar daddy.

She would have been a sugar daddy. Yet. I don't know. I mean, but then what happens if you know something, you know, you're trying to get a job later and you learn that you paid to read through college. But I don't know if people care anymore. It is common and maybe I would have done it. God knows who, who knows? I went to a state school, but it was a good school, but it wasn't expensive. Okay, so a lot of free sex, though. A lot of free sex at my school.

At your state school? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Michigan. I didn't have enough sex in college.

That's why you're overcompensating.

Exactly. I'm just like the dude who couldn't get laid till he was like 24.

Charles Bukowski.

It's not that I couldn't get laid. It's that I always had boyfriends. I was like monogamous boys. And I was kind of a prude I wasn't a prude, but I really held sex in very high regard. And again, not that I don't, but I was like, I'm not gonna give it up just for anyone. I wasn't like.

You thought it was a different kind of important. You thought it was, like, an important. Yeah. And now you know it's an important. Just in survival and living your life.

It meant something, that moment, making yourself good. Right? Exactly. But I didn't know about, like, orgasms, masturbation, anything. Like, in college, even midway through college, I learned about it. I mean.

That'S my life.

Hey, back to Sugar Daddy University real quick. It is actually a genius business model because, first of all, you know that all your clients have a ton of money. Usually people, a ton of money. They're looking for other things to spend it on.

Right.

And to better themselves. And if there's sex on the other end, there's gonna be tons of millionaires signing up for this thing.

Exactly. And it's transactional, and it's kind of legal because they're not saying. It's kind of like the gigolo guy who was in here is like, well, they're not paying for sex. They're paying for a date. And speaking of gigolos, my next story, Lea Michele. You know Lea Michele from Glee? Her new boyfriend is a former gigolo seen on Cowboys for Angels. Remember the Cowboys for Angels guy who was on the show? He's from the. He runs the gigolo service he was on a few weeks ago.

What, in here?

Yeah.

I don't remember that at all.

You were here. He. He. He came. I don't know who else be working the board. He rounds runs at service for women. Straight women.

I wasn't here.

You weren't here. I don't remember who was here.

Lauren just said I wasn't here.

That's so funny.

Oh, there was that one time where, like, maybe somebody ran the board before I got here.

Oh, Lauren.

Lauren.

Oh, yeah.

Because I was.

That's right. You missed it. Okay.

There's no way I would forget this.

I'm like, dude, how do you forget this guy? So you guys should. It's called Cowboys for Angels, and there's a Showtime show about it and Lea Michelle. So his site, he says it's not about women paying for sex. It's about straight women who are very busy and they just want the. The boyfriend experience. So they go out with these, you know, guys. But then they made a Showtime show called Giggle It. So anyway, Lea Michele is one of the guys that's featured on this Cowboy for Angel site is her new boyfriend. He's a gigolo. It was on tmz, the covered TMZ today, so. But now he's taken his profile down. But he was a paid gigolo. She says he's a dating life coach. Who knows? But, you know, he's probably good in bed because he gets paid for it, so good for her. Getting laid, all that stuff. You don't remember the show? You weren't here. Cowboys for Angels.

I wasn't here.

Check out the past podcast. It was called Cowboys for Angels. And we've got a call coming in, so let's talk to this person here. Let's talk to Nicole. Hi, Nicole. You're on the Sex with Emily show. Thanks for calling. Yes, hi. How you doing?

I'm doing great. How are you doing?

I'm doing really well, thanks. Perfect.

So my question is this. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over six months, and I am. How do I say, pretty explicit about my sexual life.

You're more adventurous.

Very.

Okay, very.

But yet I do follow rules. I'm in a monogamous, committed relationship. I don't cheat. I don't, you know, nothing like that.

Okay.

But my boyfriend is pretty vanilla, all right? I know that he wants to explore some of the things that I have done, but in the past, I did have a previous marriage, and we were married, and again, same thing situation. And we had threesomes. We had this and that, but we had sat down and had some very, you know, cookie cutter rules. And he took it, and I pretty much feel like I created a monster. So how do I do it again without making a monster?

So you're. Okay, so your last. And how old are you if you don't.

41.

41. Okay. So in your last relationship, he was, like, kind of a vanilla. Same story. And then you had threesomes. And then he was, like, all over it. Like, wanted threesomes every day.

Like, go to the bar and pick up this, that, and the other thing. And did what? Whatever, Lord, everything under the sun. And it was like. But when I caught him cheating, and I said, you know what, Richard?

You're cheating.

And he said, no, well, we're doing this at home. Well, and I said, no, there's some very.

What did he do? So you guys are having threesomes, and then he would have sex on the side with some of these girls. Well, what?

Basically, yes. We would agree to a girl for a threesome, and then what? He would do is he would go, I was thinking, outside of me being his wife, the girl agreed to upon the threesome and himself, and he would go out and basically have sex with anything with two legs.

Wow.

And tits.

Okay, so I get it. So you are afraid that would happen again. But now does your new guy, does he know about this side of you, that you're a little more open?

Absolutely.

Okay, absolutely. So have you started bringing some stuff into the relationship?

No, not yet. I guess it's. The reason I haven't is because I'm so fearful.

Yeah, no, I totally understand. Does he know about your history and what happened? Absolutely. Okay, so, you know, you can't. I can't tell you any way to guarantee that it's not gonna happen again. Right. Because you probably thought, it's my husband, I can trust him. But, you know, I would start with, is it a threesome that you're really wanting now? Or what other kinds of things are you looking to try? It's. It's.

I know that my current relationship, his name is Gary.

Okay.

And I know that he.

He's.

Like I said, he's vanilla. But he wants to. To please me and. And I want to please him. And we're very open, we're very honest. We're, you know, we live together, but we are not married.

Okay.

And, you know, he wants to. To kind of touch on that adventurous side. It's something he's never really been able to do.

Okay, so it's the threesome then. So we're talking about threesomes, or is it more like sex toys or watching porn together? Or like, are you. All of it. Okay, it's all of it. So I would just start by talking about your, you know, your fan stuff. You know, first of all, like, what, what, what his fantasy is. Like, is there anything he's been wanting to try that he's never tried? Or is there anything you, you know, things that you could share scenarios with him that you've been wanting to try and, and, and just talk to him about it. But if it, if it is a threesome, then you know this. And even though it might not work, but you. Before any couple is a threesome and you've been together six months, you said, mm, see that to me, I mean, I just think you have to be on really solid ground and you have to discuss the rules ahead of time and say, you know, there is, there will be, you know, she can't sleep over, or I don't want you to kiss her or whatever your rules are. I don. Seeing her outside the relationship and just kind of make that. Make that really clear. But, you know, hopefully he's a good guy. Not like your ex, who can. Who can take it, you know, and if he's open to it. So I think that, you know, you can. Would you ever have thought your ex would have cheated?

Honestly? No, I. Honestly, because, you know, I. We were married and I, you know, I'm. I'm very much. And it's kind of funny because I'm like, you know, every man's dream. And I don't want to be, you know, braggish, but I am the June cleaver. Makes you the cocktail, take your boots off, whatever. But you know what? That's the front. My husband or my boyfriend at the time, now he owns his own business. So I'm socially. I am very correct and, you know.

Right.

But yet, you know, you're a lady.

In the streets and a freak in the sheets. Like every man wants. Exactly. No, I got it. So maybe just don't start off with the threesomes yet. Like, is there something else you could do? Like, adventurous with, like, sex toys or watching porn together or having sex outside? You know, we.

We've had some porn on and, you know, we've kind of role played and we've done this and that and we've had. Oh, my God.

Lord.

I've given him roadhead for about over an hour.

Hope you didn't get any accidents. I mean, I would just say that if you would want to find someone, you know, there's like. Do you guys ever go to any play parties? Where do you live?

We live in northern Wisconsin.

Okay. I heard your accent. I'm from Michigan, so I got the little Midwestern thing going. I mean, there are. I don't know what your area's like, but There's a website, FetLife. Have you heard of FetLife?

I'm actually a member on FetLife.

Okay, so there you go. I mean, you could find people there that are just, you know, don't bring home the women that, you know that. You'd vet them first. You'd have lunch, drinks with them, see who you like. And I honestly. You can't avoid it. You can't avoid it from, you know, I'm sure your husband. There might have been other things going on in a relationship. If you open up this world to him, you are going to risk that. I mean, people disagree with me. They think threesomes are the worst thing ever for relationships. Right. Anderson, you've been on Loveline for 30 years. You. You've heard 30?

Jesus, honey.

Sorry. Not 30. 15. Sorry. Drew's been on for 30 years.

Experience that. Yeah. Usually that's the end of the relationship.

See, this is what Dr. Drew thinks is because I'm on Loveline as well. And they all think this. And I personally have lived it.

It's true in my case, twice.

Yeah. Really? Like, it ruined your relationship two different times.

Yeah. And it was like her wanting to blow it up both times. I never asked for it. She. Two different girls in two different relationships brought in their friend, and they were trying to distance themselves from me emotionally for sure, and they wanted to turn into a more physical thing. And then actually, once the three of us were all, like, a relationship for a while.

Like, I never knew this about you.

For like, a month and a half, but it turned out that they just wanted to be with each other, I think, more than me.

Wow. Okay, well.

And to feel like, you know, and that's exactly what I don't want to happen, because what happened with my ex husband is, you know, we kind of screened the girls and this and that and then brought them in, and we were like, you know, Richard and I were like, okay, you know, here's the rules, yada. And then brought her in and this and that. And then all of a sudden, it was exactly that.

Right.

It was like I felt like the third wheel. And I'm like, oh, okay, well, you guys just go have fun then.

Yeah, I know. I totally get it. So, I mean, the thing is, either bring in someone that, like, is just kind of random, that you're neither. What you don't think would be like, you know, the girl of the dream, and, you know what I'm saying? But she's fun for a night. Maybe she's in from out of town. Maybe you don't repeat it with the same person, so there can't be a relationship. You don't get her phone number after. Maybe it's all through. Maybe you arrange it. He doesn't get her contact information. You know, don't repeat it with your, like, don't bring in your best friend. I always say the best threesomes are when people are like, people you don't know really. You know, I mean, you vet them at first, but it's not like your best friend or it's not like your neighbor. It's more, you know, and then you just, you know, you just monitor it and you're like, okay, don't. Don't duplicate the same thing. But I Think this is something that you need, Nicole, and it sounds like you need it, even though you got burned. But you were married for a while, so there could have been other issues as well. This is a new relationship, so I would just tread really, really lightly and know that you run the risk of it blowing again. But just be careful, and be careful who you choose. And again, maybe you're in charge of the transaction and he's not. You know, you're setting it up, you're getting her number. You're the whole thing.

Exactly, exactly. You know, again, that's why, because I am diligent about following you on Twitter.

Oh, I love it. Thank you so much, Nicole.

Huge, huge Twitter fan, so. Exactly. You know, that's why when I just got your tweet about, you know, the call in, and that's like, you know what? I'm just gonna throw it out there.

Put it out there. Just gonna.

Just gonna ask the question. Because, like I said, I am a member of FetLife. You know, I'm very open and honest on FetLife. You know, I am in a relationship. You know, here's my past.

Right.

But, you know, I absolutely am a firm believer that, you know, a happy man is not a cheating man.

Right. Well, you never know, though. No, you know, I mean, I don't know, Nicole. Good luck to you. Because honestly, he. You never know. Yeah, a happy man could cheat, too. Make sure he really likes you. Just tread lightly with this one and pay attention. Keep your eyes open. It's a new relationship. Remember, there's. You've only been for six months, so you're, like, in the heyday of a relationship right now. So if you're burning and you gotta have a threesome, then do it. But I would just maybe press pause a little bit and wait a little. But that's what I would say. But if you go into it, just know that it could happen, but just kind of try to control the situation more and let me know what happens. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily.

Yeah.

Anderson, people take the threesome thing. No one thinks it's a good idea. And I know that it can. All these things can blow up. Right? But whatever.

Well, it's really hard to be a guy and have a girl say, yeah, it's okay if you bang another person, as long as I'm in the room and still kind of respect the boundaries. Outside of that, it's very difficult for us to understand.

Right. No, I know. And Nicole and I get wanting to have it, too. Like, I'm like, Nicole. Like, I've had threesomes. They've been successful, but never with a boyfriend. It's always been like someone I'm dating. And it was an open. You know, we were kind of dating other people and it kind of worked that way. But I've never been with someone that I love and then seen them have sex with someone else. Okay, Coming up, we have got a call about cock rings. That's one of my favorite things to talk about. But first, a word from our amazing sponsors here at Sex with Emily. Thank you for listening to the show and thank you for supporting my sponsors. Have you ever heard of a massage candle? It looks like a regular candle that instantly turns into massage oil. Why do you need this kind of thing, a candle like this? Because massage gets your partner in the mood. And the warm, luxurious oil feels amazing. I can tell you when you pour it on your body. Andersen, you know, not that I poured on your body, but you have one. It's your secret weapon in the bedroom if you want to spice things up, get your partner in the mood and have incredible sex. The feedback has been outstanding. This is from one of my listeners. Dear Emily, I bought a candle. My girlfriend was skeptical at first, but agreed to try the warm oil on me first and gave me a back rub. Then I reciprocated and we had amazing sex. She could not stop talking about how good the candle smells and how great the massage oil feels. And I am convinced that the scent and the candle helped us through some of the barriers to sex that we face lately. So my candle, Emily and Tony candle, saved a relationship. I love that. So I created these candles so you can have the best sex of your life. Go to emilyandtoni.com use code EMILY for 20% off. That's EMILY and Tony dot com. Check that out also. Okay. I am obsessed. Anderson, with my. No, no. I love. Do you know. No, no, no, no. It is. It's hair remover. I've spent way too much time and money in my lifetime, and I don't even want to do this. But if I count up how much money I've spent on razors and waxing and all this stuff, it just doesn't work. It's a pain. I got to go back and get wax every few weeks. The no, no pro is the hands down best way to remove unwanted hair with zero pain. And it's for men, too. You know, that hair on your back or your long neck hairs. Anderson.

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What's like, what is it?

Oh my. It's the cutest little thing. I love it. It looks like a little like an electric. Like a, like a male. Like a little razor. It looks like. You know what it looks like your phone. Like an iPhone.

Okay.

It's probably like a double iPhone.

Does it use like little electric blades?

It has little blades and it's so easy to use. Like I am loving. I'm using it like an all over my body. I'm gonna be of like no hair in annoying places. And you just rub it up your arm and. And the hair just. It goes. It zaps it and it doesn't hurt at all.

So is it electricity or lasers or blades? What's going on?

Yeah, it's like. It's electricity.

Sweet. Yeah, I'm very interested in the. No, no pro.

Do you want one? I get you.

I don't need one. But I got friends that are hairy.

Okay. A lot of guys are hairy. And women. I'm telling you, because I even have a guy that he's like, what should I do? Should I get a wax? I'm like, I'll use my.

Gotta use the Italian accent.

I know my boyfriend, he's not even Italian. I don't even know why. Okay, should we take the.

Let's do the cock rings and then I definitely want to play you the turtles having sex.

Okay. So let's talk the cock rings. Hello, Rob, thanks for calling. Sex with Emily.

I'm on the air.

Wow.

Thank you.

Anderson. You're the man. Emily, you're so hot.

Thank you.

No problem. Well, I'm calling because I wanted to know about the. Your cock rings that has a longer battery life than 20 minutes.

Oh, oh, okay.

For sure.

There are so many of them. I will tell you right now because. Yeah, like the screaming. Oh. Ones are disposable. They're great. But they're not necessarily. Okay. I will tell you. I like the.

Is this like a pickup line? Rob, you just want to make sure that Everyone knows you go for a long time. You don't want your batteries dying mid after.

No, it was actually a dare. One of my friends, she listens to loveliness and he was listening to the show where Mike was having a cock ring on.

Yeah, I wasn't there that night. He did that. I'm always on Loveline. I wasn't there that night.

That was like the one night you weren't there.

Well, he. Because he would never do that if I was sitting there. I would freak the fuck out of him. That's rude. You have to calm in front of your friends.

I'm gonna tell you. Okay, Let me tell you about the ones that are amazing. Okay, so there is the. So these are all actually. If you go to my website, sexwithemily.com and you click on the good vibes banner, you can get use coupon code GVMILY and you'll get 20% off. So there's one called the pleasure pillar. Vibrating silicone cock ring. And it has a little. Are you looking for one? Right. With the vibrating in it? So it has a little bullet that's inside of it that slides inside. It's rubber. It's rubber. It's one size fits all. It's got a bullet that sticks right through it. And you can. And it vibrates.

Put on your bum.

Yep. Put it and you put it on your penis. And then the vibrate. It's a really strong bullet. So it's called the pleasure pillar. There's also the Mio cock ring by Jaejoo. That's J E J O U E. That one. These are all rechargeable. So these are all ones that you can, you know, use over and over and over again. And then there's the love life is another one. Are you writing this down? It's the share couples ring. It's by. Oh my bod. That one is amazing. And you just recharge them and use them for the rest of your life. So I would invest in one of those.

What I think we need to get to the bottom of why Rob needs this long lasting.

Rob, why do you need a ring for long lasting? Do you last a long time in bed?

Oh, you have no idea how long. I have no idea, really. It's give or take 20 minutes here and there.

Right. And so you have a partner and she wants to try it. Actually.

Yeah, well, I want to try it. She has nothing that doesn't know anything about it.

See, he wants to do it by himself, I think.

No, but do you want to use it, because the vibration on the ring is so she can feel it on her clitoris. But also they have double ones that you could feel it like. There's also ones that you can, like, wrap around your balls and it vibrates. And men, honestly, in my experience, like men. In what I've heard, men like the vibrations as well. Vibrations are not just for women. So just.

I know she. She was listening to that show with Mike, and he had it on throughout the whole show. So I'm in transportation, so I drive for work.

Okay, careful. So now you're gonna. Okay, so you want to wear Emily. Dude, you're gonna drive off the road. You're gonna kill a family of six. Yeah, this is. I'm not. Okay, now we take everything back and.

See, I told you we had to get to the bottom.

Anderson, you're smart.

Well, the whole situation was.

I tried the.

The Trojan Cochrane.

Oh, right. The ones in the store, and they last 20 minutes. You're like, God damn it, I haven't even had an Oregon. Yeah, I get it. Try one of these.

Like, wow. I mean, it feels.

It felt great.

When you apply a little fresh drill.

Yeah, they do a little pressure on it, right?

So I was like, oh, okay.

Wow.

I don't want it to stop. And then the batteries died.

Well, ugh. That's the worst.

For one that I can use. Over.

Okay. Get the Mio cock ring by Jae Joo. Or get the Love life. Or just again, go to my website, click on goodvibes.com and then use coupon code GVMLY20. And you can see. Just put in rings. Okay. And then you'll see the ones I'm talking about. They'll all come up, and you can see which ones are rechargeable. And just buy those, and then they'll charge for, like, hours. And you'll never get pulled over first. But don't do it when you're driving. See, now I'm telling him it's okay. Don't do that when you're driving. Driving. Can you pull over?

Oh, I masturbated while I was driving in my personal car.

Your two calls that you've had on tonight, Emily, have both talked about sexual pleasures in the car.

I know. Really? Really? Oh, right. The other woman was giving the guy roadhead for an hour. Oh, my God.

Nothing funny about that. It's not a painful. From the start, I picture. I picture Rob plugging into, like, his big rig and adding some lube and electrocuting himself with his cockering.

Yeah, I'm nervous, Rob. Now I feel like I want to take it. You just be careful out there, okay?

I will do.

Okay, Rob. Good luck. Go buy this ring, though, and use it with your partner, not on the road. Jesus. People are gonna get an hour long roadhead.

I heard that's why the flashlight was invented, actually was for truckers.

Oh, maybe that's what I heard, because they're not for when they're driving.

Yeah, no, yeah. And then it captures all the fluids so you don't have to worry about that.

That's the thing about the Fleshlight is it's a mask. So people, it's a masturbation sleeve. So yeah, you come right inside of it.

Some of our greatest conventions have been created for truckers. Is that place in Princeton, Pittsburgh. Permani Brothers. And they put the sandwich. They put all the meat and like the coleslaw and the french fries all in the sandwich so that truckers could eat with one hand and drive with the other.

Oh, that's brilliant.

They don't need two hands for eating.

That and a Fleshlight. Those are the two greatest events.

Permanent and Fleshlights, right?

Oh, my God, I love it. Okay, so anyway, we'll get back to the show now. We were still in the show, but back to the emails. No, we're gonna start the emails. You know, whatever I'm saying. Feedbacklme.com thanks for giving me. What?

Cause Rob was asking about the cockrings and you wanted to be able to help him out, which you can. You have that power, Emily. Not many people have the power where you can be like, oh, that's something you want. Well, check this out. Use my name and you get a deal.

I know. I love it. I love that I can provide the world with really good deals on sex toys. Or they can just, you know, come to my garage and.

No, that's probably not a good business model for you.

No. But all my interns are coming over to get toys soon because I just. I can't even like, don't have room for my. My stuff in my. In my house. But yeah, it is a good job.

I still think you should make some kind of short story or video.

You should direct it. You're a filmmaker. Why don't you?

I want to direct it because it's dirty. But, like, you and your little interns are all, like, grooming through the boxes in your garage. There's an earthquake and you guys are all trapped in the garage with nothing but sex toys until the firemen come and get you out.

I love it. And then do we all start having sex and stuff?

Absolutely. Of course.

This is amazing. We got to do it.

Let's super bored. And you're trying to, like, take a kill time by trying all the different sex toys.

That's amazing. And I have a couch in my garage, too, because it's literally a couch, a washer, dryer, and sex toys.

So you can clean them as you go.

Yeah, there's sex toy cleaner. It's the best thing ever.

Washing machine.

Oh, I get it.

You figure out at the end that the washing machine is actually the best sex toy in there.

Exactly. Well, it is. Do you know that you can sit on it and have sex when it's on the spin cycle?

I've heard things.

That's a vibrant. You've heard that for things.

I've heard things.

It's in my book, actually. One of the tips. Hot sex. Have you ever heard of it? Okay. Manscaping. Dear Emily, on recent episodes, you've talked about manscaping and advised against using a razor. I think your audience would be curious to hear what tools of the trade work well for manscaping. I've used one of those. Wow. Micro groomers used for trimming eyebrows and nose hair, as they are cheap, waterproof, and not too sharp. I'm curious what else might exist. Love the show. Emily from Jason. Well, I funny enough just talked about the no, no. I think it's a great investment. It's NonoEmily.com. that's NonoEmily.com. check it out there. Because, honestly, it is the easiest way to remove hair. But if you don't want to remove it all, you just want to trim it, I would say the best thing to do is just to trim. Razors are bad. You get bumps and all that. So I would just say the no no is genius. You could get waxed. If you want to get waxed. That's another way. But I'm all for the no no now. Just because I'm obsessed with it. Like, I'm using it everywhere. I want to get rid of hair. Like, I'm never going to shave my legs again.

You're going to come in bald next week?

I'm gonna be bald. But yeah, try the no no. It's a great investment. You can do it in your home. You can do it in five. You do it, you know, for five minutes and, like, your hair has gone wherever you want it. But, like, are there manscape? I feel like everyone is kind of manscaping. And to me, if I had balls I would not want to shave them like that. Seems like that'd be really painful.

It's dicey. It's very dicey.

You gotta be careful. You gotta have, like, a steady hand.

You ready for turtle sound sex?

Yeah.

Are you sure?

I'm so ready.

Can you handle this?

I can handle it.

I can't. I gotta turn my mic off because I giggle like a song.

Oh, my God. Really? It's the greatest turtle. These are two turtles having sex.

Turtles having sex.

Okay.

Oh, my God.

That's.

That's a turtle. Where the hell did you get that? Oh, my God.

And it's real. I thought for sure it was fake, but I did research.

Oh, my God. We're having a good time.

That's the dude. That's the male turtle.

Oh, God. It's a male turtle.

Tortoise, Tortoise, Tortoise.

Oh, my God. Do you hear him ejaculate or get there?

I don't think so.

Oh, I feel like my heart is warmed and then I feel also bad or something. I don't know. I don't. Okay, stop.

Are you sure it's not the woman crying turtle? The female turtle?

Because it's the dude on top.

Oh, it's a turtle. Okay, got it. You are friggin hilarious. Thank you, Anderson, for bringing that. I don't know how the hell you find it, but you find the best things ever.

This is actually because of you. If it wasn't for you, I wouldn't know about this. Your old intern Lindsay actually showed me because she works on Loveline now, and she and Ruhn were talking about it. I'm like, they don't make sound. Yes, they do. And she played it. So it's one of your old interns.

Because all my interns. You can't believe that my show is like that. So Lauren was my intern before she became my assistant back in the day. Like, her first day that I don't remember. This was like four years ago, her first day working for me. I gave her, like, this huge rabbit vibrator that she took off with her. And she's like, okay. And it was a little big. And I don't know, I just. They all wanted toys. What am I gonna do? And now I've got new interns, and they're like, I've never really used lube before. Like, it's cute. I helped them out.

And there's something you need to know about Emily too, is if you ever go see Emily or walk if she. When she comes to see you and Whenever Emily's in the room, she's handing you the gifts. I don't know if you realize this, but I don't like to take things from you. So I always say thank you. But then I was like, a lot of time I leave them behind because I feel guilty because you're always giving me. You're like my old Jewish grandmother who's like, take home some cookies.

You didn't. You took home the whiskey though, didn't you?

Oh, I took that home when I came to visit you last week in your office. You're like, here, you can take this one or you could take that one. Or why don't you take both? Because they're like, you need them. Like they're displayed.

But I love giving people presents. I am.

And it's funny because you love giving stuff away.

The guy who runs our office building comes in and one night we're having a party there and I was like, I had all snacks. He's like, you're so. Well, like, not. We didn't, but our office building did. I didn't throw a party. I would have invited you, but we had like all these like, oh my God. Everyone came in my office. Do you guys want snacks? He's like, you're so nice. You're like. And I don't. That's sweet.

You're a giver.

I'm a provider. I'm a provider. Not just sex toys. I would provide you with snacks.

Mostly sex toys.

Well, a lot of sex toys.

Unless you had kids so you could have grandkids one day and you just here have sex toys.

Probably better than. I don't really. Although my niece, my 14 year old niece is coming town next week and she's like, and I want to see your office. I mean, how do I let her into my office with like Dylan dildo? You saw it.

You better cue up the turtle sex sounds. She'll like that.

She would like that.

How old is she?

She's 14. I think it's time I should give her my book. Oh my God. My brother and my sister in law would bring in my book.

I feel like we talked about her before and something with her and how you're inappropriate with her, right?

No, that was the 11 year old when she slept over my house when she was 8.

Was she using like a dildo for a microphone or something?

No, no, no.

She was like singing into a mic.

When I lived in San Francisco, all my. I've like, I was in school, I have sex school and I had like hundreds Of I still do hundreds of sex books. Every book I have in my apartment was sex books. Like walls a wall obsessed. And she came home, and I didn't even know she saw them because I don't remember her walking in the room. But maybe she couldn't sleep, God knows what. And she came home, and the first thing she said it was, mommy, why does Emily. Every book on Emily's shelf have the word sex in the title? And then she started reciting the titles, like, cunnilingus for, like, Best Tips for Adorable Homicides. Yeah, adorable. My brother. They almost killed me. They're like, they won't let him come to my house now. Which I guess I understand. Okay, we have another caller. We can take that. Let's talk to Tommy. Hey, Tommy, thanks for calling Sex with Emily. Hi, Emily. Hi. How can I help you this evening?

Tommy, what's the better position? Horsey horse or cowboy?

What's the horsey horse? Because I don't know.

That's a woman riding a horse.

You mean when she's on top of you? Like, do you mean reverse cowgirl?

No, an actual horse.

Is this like a joke?

No, a man underneath and a woman on top.

Oh, woman in top position or cowboy? Reverse. Oh, reverse cowgirl. Got it. Okay, which position is better? For what? Because they're both really good. Woman on top or reverse cowgirl? Reverse cowgirl, I think a lot. Oh, for girls, you mean? Yeah, you know, it depends on the woman. I mean, the thing about reverse cowgirl is that she can really, like, stimulate her clitoris and she can, you know, move in certain ways, like if you, like, your penis can hit her in certain ways if she's like a G spot girl. So it actually depends on the woman. And some women like women on top because they can grind their, you know, clitoris against your stomach and lean forward on you. So there really is no. It depends on the woman and her makeup, her, like, how she orgasms. But I think you can do both. When a woman's on top, you just twist her around and do reverse cowgirl. It's a win win.

It might be tough with the chains on, though, when she's locked to the ventilator downstairs.

Exactly. What are you talking about, Tommy?

Sounds like maybe.

Tommy, you're not locking him up, are you?

No.

Okay, good. So I would say you gotta experiment. I can't tell you there's a one size fits all position for all the women that you're banging, but good luck to you, Tommy. All right. Dear Emily, another email. I have a Problem exiting situations. With grace, I'm able to get my end result to get out of there. But no one leaves feeling very good. I'm wondering if you can offer any tips for getting out of a date when the other person is so focused on sex that there's no way I'd ever get it on with them. I want my exits to be more natural and less socially spastic. Thanks, Rita. So I'm confused with Rita. I wonder if she's on the date. Are you on the date with someone and you know that they're gonna like a first date? You know they want to have sex with you. So if it's your first date, I think you just, you know, don't order dessert, you know, check please. I have an early morning and you leave. But if you're worried about the date before you go, let's say it's a second date, you know, make sure that you have, you know, an escape plan. I always say if I'm on a date and I not into it. Okay, great. This will be a great date. If anyone's listening to this. Any guys, my potential suitor dates. Yeah. Okay, this is how you're gonna know I'm not into you. Oh God. Tomorrow. I never have early tomorrow. I've got the earliest meeting. Cause I don't like give meetings before 11 ever. Not even calls. And I got the earliest meeting tomorrow. I just gotta get up. I got so much. But this has been great. No dessert for me. Nope. Okay, gotta go.

That's when a smooth guy whips out the coke and says, well just do an all nighter then, baby.

If I were into such things. But I'm not. So this leaves you open. You can start out by saying like when you go on the date too, if you're not sure how it's gonna go. You can also start by saying y. I'm so excited. Tomorrow's gonna be a crazy day. But I was so happy because tonight, tomorrow's like a big day for me. I've got a huge project. And then he knows throughout the date that like, you've got this thing tomorrow. And be direct. If you don't plan on seeing this guy again, tell him thanks for the date and you gotta go home. You can also take your own car. I do that a lot on dates. Like even the first, second, third date, I'm like, I'll meet you there. I want an escape plan. I wanna be able to leave. I don't want the awkward dropping me off. Can I come in for a minute? Kiss you know, like he wants to kiss or whatever. This way you can just be like, valet, get the car, and you're out of there. So I think that's the best way to do with Grace. Rita, I'm not sure what you've been doing up until now. And if the person is so focused on, I would just say your ex. It's gotta be natural. You gotta prime them and let them know you're out of there. Right. It's honest. I think that's honest and open, and that's what you gotta do. Anderson, we have time for one more.

Absolutely.

Okay. Dear Emily, I'm 30 and I have delayed ejaculation. I need help. My girlfriend thinks I have to masturbate too vigorously to ejaculate. I experience ed sometimes, but think. But two think. I can't stay hard for as long as it takes me to ejaculate. I've tried not masturbating for a week or two at a time, but nothing helps. This is very frustrating problem to have. We were wondering if you thought a flashlight would help. By the way, I love it when you're a guest host on Loveline and you're a very beautiful and attractive woman. Thanks for your advice in advance, Jonathan. Actually, Jonathan, if you want to last longer in bed, there is a Fleshlight stamina training unit that is just absolutely made for lasting longer in bed. Basically, you do the stop start method. It's called edging. So you use it and you can do this with your hands, too. You don't have to have a flashlight, but a flashlight actually helps where you start at the shaft of your penis and you move your hand up and down as you normally would when you're masturbating and you go towards. Towards the tip. And right when you feel that you're about to ejaculate, you get to that point of no return. You stop for a few minutes, a few seconds, and then you start again. And you can practice and you can learn to control your ejaculation. And so the Fleshlight too, can help you with the stamina training unit. If you go to sexwithelmy.com and you click on the Fleshlight banner, you can see that. And also, Kegel exercises are great for men and women. Doctors will always tell you do Kegel exercises, and no one ever remembers to do them. So five minutes a day. It's your peace stopping muscles. Anderson's probably doing them right now. And you just do it five minutes a day, it can strengthen as well. But I'm confused. Because you said you've delayed ejaculation and erectus. So there's a few things going on here. So if you've delayed ejaculation and sometimes you ejaculate too quickly, you know, delayed ejaculation just, you know, guys have that. It's something that happened throughout their lifetime. I mean, you can always talk to your doctor. I'm not sure if you're taking any medications or anything, but if you, your girlfriend feels you have to masturbate too vigorously for to ejaculate, I mean, I would just tell her that, you know, first of all, you shouldn't ejaculate that vigorously, that you have pain or you've chafing or you have a problem. And just tell your girlfriend that, you know, you want to please her, you enjoy having sex with her, and however you need to get off, I would do it. Maybe, you know, it's through her giving you oral sex or through, you know, I don't know how you do it, but I wouldn't, I wouldn't try to masturbate so vigorously that you're going to hurt yourself. So hopefully, you know the best way to get you there. So check out either one of these. Sounds like he has both problems. He comes too quickly, comes too fast, comes can't stay hard long enough. So also, yeah, that's all. That's what you gotta do. It's a lot of work. I mean, I understand it. I understand that guys are like. And you can't just do it once. These practices guys are like, oh, do it once. No, you gotta do it a few weeks, month. You'll see results. And also, I have an iPhone app called Kegel Camp, which pops up every day on your phone, reminds you to do your exercises, and my voice walks you through it.

When's the last time you Kegeled?

I'm doing them now.

I thought you might be.

Every day at 11:30, I set my alarm for Kegel Camp. Time for Kegel Camp. And I do them like almost every day.

Unless you have a meeting. Because sometimes you have meetings.

I can do them during my meeting.

Yeah.

No, my meetings, you're right. But yeah, usually I have a call at 11 and then 11:30 to 11:35, I do my Kegel.

But as far as that deadbeat date is concerned, you got one at 7:30. A with new York.

That's what I always say. I'm like, oh, my business partner's in New York and I've got an early call.

Why are you broadcasting this woman?

I Don't care.

Actually, you know what? Anyone who's listening to this who's gonna date you, they're probably dating you anyways.

No. Or they're just not gonna date me now.

Creepers.

I don't think that anyone who's ever listened to the show I've dated. Like, I don't think there's ever been anyone who I listened to your show, and they listened to it after, and then I don't know.

And then they stop dating.

Yeah, they stop. Well, I did just have a date with a guy recently, about two weeks ago, and he hadn't listened to my show, and then he said, I'm gonna listen to your show, and now we're going out again tomorrow. And I was like, don't listen. Because I actually would prefer the guys I date not to listen. Just because I don't. I don't care. I mean, why would he need to.

Listen to you're you, though, on your show?

I'm me on my show, and I'm me on the date, but I don't care if he lit. But now it's like, I'm seeing him tomorrow. So has he listened? Do we need to talk about my show? The whole thing? Because the first date, he didn't remember. He didn't Google me. And I was like, oh, my God, I went out with the guy.

Oh, that's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

So it was interesting. But then he was like, whoa, what do you do? And then we talked about it the whole time. Anyway, so then that was kind of.

He probably listened with his mom. No big deal. You know? Know, she probably wanted to make sure that you were right for her son.

Right? Exactly.

No, not exactly at all.

Wait, what'd you say?

He probably listened with his mom.

No, he didn't.

Okay. And then. Not exactly.

I'm sorry. I was.

Emily, she has very few faults, but one of them is that she is a woman, so she has a hard time focusing. Double tasking.

Multitasking, I'm good at. Except for I sent someone a thousand bucks today.

I didn't even say multitasking. I said double tasking because you can't. It's all right, though. Did you do it today with $1,000?

No, I was paying someone through Chase, and I paid them 1,000 instead of 100.

Oh, lucky.

But then it was cool because he was like, emily, I don't think you meant to send me $1,000. You sent me $100. I mean, you meant to send me.

Is it because you were talking and doing Something else.

Yes. I was doing 8 million things at once and I said, I put a zero on it. I put an extra zero.

It's a great example of how good you are at multitasking.

I know it's terrible. I shouldn't be dealing with numbers anyway. But I want to go back to one thing. The delayed ejaculator, because I gave him advice for the premature because he said he has all these other issues. So everything I said to you will help you. And the more you get to know your own penis and how it works without having your girlfriend around, whether it's ed PE or delayed ejaculation, whatever it is during masturbation. And your alone time is when you're going to figure out the best way to work your own penis. Same with women and masturbation, the whole thing. So I think that's what we got time for tonight. Anderson and I just want to thank everyone for listening to the show. And I've been just really heartened to get all of your emails to receive our emails. It's been going crazy lately, so I just love hearing from you.

And she says these things off air before the show, too. She talks to both. She's 100% serious.

Like, it's going mad. We got like 20,000 new likes on Facebook in the last week.

She's like. She's like, touched.

I am.

Emily's like, very touched. I could cry.

I'm not even a crier, but, like, I could cry. It feels amazing just hearing from you and I love you all. So thanks, everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com hey, everyone. Thanks for listening to the show and I appreciate you supporting my sponsors. So this one you're gonna love. I know a lot of you out there live in the LA area or you come here often. So you gotta make sure you stop by the Hustler Hollywood store. That should be your main destination when you get here, you know, because everyone wants the Hollywood sign, the walk, you know, the stars, the whole thing. What are they called?

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Perhaps play a little game called Just.

A Tip, just for a second, just to see how it feels.

Hey, this is Jordan Harbinger, host of the Art of Charm podcast, the number one dating and relationship advice podcast in itunes.

I'm Emily Morse, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, the number one sex and relationship podcast on itunes. And it's.

And this is just the tip. Alright?

We hear a lot about the clitoris and all that stuff and oral sex. Can you give us some oral sex tips?

Yes. Here's the first one. Women really want to know that you're actually into it, that you want to be down there, that you find her attractive, and that you've got all the time in the world. Because otherwise we're just concerned that you're not interested. And we're looking at the clock. So first thing you got to do is assure that you're into it. You know, be enthusiastic. Okay.

Instead of like the whole like, she's making me do this.

Yeah. Or the guys who go down there for like two seconds with their tongue and like I just went down on her. It's like two seconds. Like you didn't even do anything. I didn't even know you were there. So a lot of women have insecurities about it. They have insecurities about hygiene and so they just make sure that you. She knows that you're into it. Next thing is you got to bring your tongue into the mix. So don't do it. Never start out too hard. When you're performing oral sex, start lightly.

How else would you have oral sex?

I don't know. I don't know why I said shove.

The clit in your nose and inhale. Actually, I bet that would feel really good.

But you can first start by using your tongue along the length of her clitoris. So the clitoris is not only that little bud under the hood, but it extends deep inside the woman's body. So flick your tongue quickly along the shaft, and you create vibrations that feel really, really good. And another thing is, you know how she loves her vibrator. So next time you're performing oral sex, you can hum a little bit. The hominy will feel good.

Any particular tune?

Whatever you want. Whatever tunes you want. Yeah, just. Mmm. Or, you know, if you're musically inclined, she might be impressed by a song.

The theme to a ballad. Yeah, about like a Richard Marx ballad.

Exactly. Yeah. Whatever she's into. So try that. You can hum, you can lick. You can lick and flick. And just be sure to mix up all the movements that you're doing. Like, you want to make sure you're not doing the same thing the whole time. So flick the tongue, be wet sometimes. Insert a finger now and then. See what she's into, Play around, have fun.

Got it. Experiment. Fun.

Science. Exactly.

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