Cougar Catching

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And it's like your daily sex and newspaper. There's a lot of information every single day. Like changing.

Exactly.

It's not like, you know how the, you know, website was just basically a placeholder for the podcast. Now there's news, polls, like you said, a Lot of polls going on.

Lots of polls. We'll discuss the polls in the middle. Lots of contests going on. You get free. We're going to be doing webinars. That's another thing that we're adding in. So we're going to do just with. With benefits. Members can do live chats with me, and we're gonna do all the interactive stuff. It'll be super fun. Hi, Menace.

I missed you. I know.

Totally missed you this weekend and Friday's show, which was. It was kind of awesome. It was like girls gone wild in here.

Really.

Friday's show was insane. It was so much fun. Like, my interns were like, this was the best day we've had all summer. Like, they were just crazy because, my friend, the people on the show, we were talking about sex. They're very, very open. They're bisexual. They've hooked up together. One of them was my friend from class who you met. Sarah. Dr. Sarah Miller. She's now a doctor. And they were just about, like, oral sex tips and the threesomes and orgies they've had, and they were just hilarious. Like, they just broke down. Like, there was one moment when she was talking about, like, going down on a woman and the important things you need to do, and she was, like, making noises. And like, she was like, I just want it really wet. And you got like, I just. I can't. I can't. I know that. We went back to my house and watched it. It was just as funny the second time. We were laughing because they're staying with me. We missed you.

How many times did you get flogged over the weekend?

I did not get flogged.

Liar.

I didn't get flogged. I didn't hook up with them. Nothing like that.

I'm not saying you hooked up with them, but they at least spanked you a couple.

They didn't spank me.

Not once.

No. But she spanked me earlier in the week when we were out. But she did not spank me this weekend when she was staying with me.

What's wrong with you?

I don't know. I missed out on some good vlogging.

So also explain. There was a lot of tweets going on over the weekend.

So my intern. So one of my interns went on two blind dates this weekend. So she was doing live tweet updates, live intern updates from her date. Her date.

And there was something about.

Some guy wanted to dress up and the olden times, like, kings and queens kind of stuff.

Yes. The Renaissance fairy tale.

I'M sure you got.

We're getting into that. We're going to talk about that actually on the next one of our shows. We're doing an online dating this week and she's. They're all going to give their play by plays of what are the right things to do online. What's not. Like this guy showed up. She's like he was older than he looked in his picture and he wasn't dressed cute. Like, she didn't like what he was wearing and she like broke it down and did some things she regrets and she's going to talk about that on the show. Ooh, regrets. So live intern updates. That was really fun. And then I played a lot with my new porn box.

I know I set it up. The first thing, first thing that happened is we. You start scrolling through it and it's just like girl on girl, like sex toys. Anal, analingus, analingus.

Crazy hand jobs. There's a whole hand job subcategory.

So I know you sent me the picture and then I. I sent you a message back and you didn't.

I don't think you got it.

You didn't.

What'd you say?

I said, now if only the thing can give me hand jobs.

I know. You wouldn't even want it though.

I know, but I.

Right. You liked.

Because I might have liked it because it. Maybe it's a robot and it wouldn't talk back to me.

Exactly. So what I'm talking about is Fire tv. They're our new sponsor, Fyre tv. It's the ultimate adult video experience. And it really is. They gave me a set top box. But you can watch. You can watch on your iPad, your phone, your computer. You don't have to get the set top box that I got with 15,000 movie titles. You can access those movie titles anywhere. It's like the Netflix of porn. And I want everyone. I think it is the solution to porn. F y r e tv.com Everyone needs to check it out. You get. You get this exclusive wealth and Deception DVD for joining. You get a free movie when you join. And it's just. I can't believe it. Like, I don't even. I don't even think I need cable now. Like, I just have porn.

It is pretty legit. Like me from the technical side of it, it is. It is really good quality top. Like they have this thing down. I think they pretty much have it down more than Netflix.

Yeah.

Because all the movies, they load really fast and you're on a wireless connection.

Right.

And it's like high quality. It's not like pixelated anything like that. It's really. It's done really well.

It's done really well also because you can sort by different categories and they have like a hundred categories. Like we were just saying, like, you could pick out, like they have just subcategory just on hand jobs. Like, you can just watch hand jobs. You could just watch oral sex. You could just watch girl on girl. You could just.

I mean, facials.

Facials.

There's facials.

Which we talk about. We used to talk about orgasming on the face a lot. We had a debate going for a.

While if it was good or bad.

Not that if it's good or bad that men should ask permission first. And some women might be down for it, and some women might be offended by it.

And those people that are offended by.

It, then you don't want to be with them.

You don't want to date them.

Exactly. You have to be like, you don't want me to jack that in your face. We're over.

Yeah, done.

You got to have your bottom line issues that you want to deal with. And Menace, I have to tell you, I know you're gonna be really upset, but I got a dog.

No, I did.

I got the dog last night. So my friend rescued a dog from me.

Oh, my God. I just had a conversation about you over the weekend about the dog. Can I turn it back?

Yes, go into it. Go.

Me and my buddies, we're at work and we're getting ready to go to a club because we're throwing a party and one of them says, oh, my God, Menace, I feel you so much because he just got off the phone with a girl. He's like, I feel you so much about the dog thing. He goes, the dog thing sucks so bad. He goes, we can't do anything. We can't go anywhere for a certain amount of hours. She can't just come over and spend the night at my house and we can just, you know, hang out for the night. We have to go back to her house because of the dog?

No, but this is a part of the dog that I can bring.

And then I said. Then I said, oh, yeah. I go, emily was trying to get a dog forever. And I go, thank God I talked her out of it. And now.

And now the dog arrives.

Now you have a goddamn dog.

We have to name it though, because I named her Scarlet because she's from the south, but now I think it doesn't match with her. So I'm Thinking Dixie, she's really cute. She's Jack Russell, honey, it's gonna be good. And she's. I can bring her everywhere there is hair everywhere. I already have hair. Like, she sheds a little bit, but she's so cute. She slept with me last night and I might never need a man again. Like, she was super cuddly. Like, we didn't have sex or anything. Obviously that sounds sort of wrong for me to say never meet again. There was no peanut butter. There was nothing. But we cuddled and she was sweet and adorable and I've never had a dog. And I think it's good for me. I think it's good for me to commit to something like that. I'm sorry, honey, but she's adorable. And yeah, it was really fun.

I can't wait till she sniffs your butt while you're having sex. I'm gonna laugh.

No, I'll lock her out of the room when I'm having sex.

How are you gonna do that.

Anyways?

Well, I know because dogs like to watch sex. But some dogs, like when I used to dog sit for my friend's dog who got me this dog, like, the dog just. They just kind of sit there and they don't really pay attention.

Is there like you can turn return in 30 days?

Yes. So here's the deal. I gotta be honest with you. So my friend Charlotte, who's my best, is one of my best friends. She just became a vet and she just. She found this dog at a rescue shelter in Louisiana. Drove cross country with her yesterday with four dogs in her car to give out to all my friends.

There's dogs here.

I know, but these were Louisiana. She was working in a shelter anyway, so she's like, Emily, if you don't want to keep Scarlet, I will take her. So I'm kind of trying her out so I don't have to fully commit, but I feel committed. I feel like I want her anyway. So I should tell you real quickly what we're gonna be talking about on today's show. I think that's really important before so menace can mull over the fact that I got a dog. Topics. On today's show, we'll be reading your emails that you sent to feedbackextwithemily.com as you know, if you become a premium Friends with Benefits member, your emails go to the top of the list and we answer them right away. That's another benefits. So anyway, becoming. Okay, here's some of the topics. How long should sex last? Making a woman feel special. How to do that? Friends with benefits for real cougars, Domination, warming up before sex and multi orgasms. And we'll also be giving you tips for pleasuring an uncircumcised man and also a circumcised man today. But we're gonna talk about circumcision versus uncircumcision.

All right. Are you, like, really excited today about something?

Why?

You are talking really fast.

Oh, I am?

Yeah. You know, I don't know. It seems faster than normal.

Sex toys, dog. I don't know what's going on. What's going on?

Nothing. I'm sure. Yeah. I'm not more excited than usual to be here with you.

Did you find a new wiener or something?

I did meet someone, but I didn't see his wiener.

Okay.

I met. Yeah, I did. I met a cool guy on Friday night at a party. But, yeah. Nah. I mean, I don't know.

He likes you, so you don't like him.

No, I get it. I'm not that simple. I'm not that simple. I'm not that simple of a chick.

He wants to commit. So you're over?

No. It's been five minutes. I just met him.

I'm just saying.

I know. No, no, no, no. He wants to commit. He's over. I'm not. Easy Menace. What? That's the Emily from years ago. I'm a different woman now.

Totally.

Totally.

Dude, what about you? Did you hook up with any chicks this weekend?

Not that I can remember. I got wasted at the concert. I didn't throw up this time.

Good, honey.

But it was fun. I had so much fun.

Did you?

Yeah.

Saturday night.

Saturday night was my party. I was okay. I don't drink when I have my parties.

So what was fun? Friday night?

No, Sunday. Yesterday I. There was that concert. That always happens. I take you once in a while. Remember the. The. It's in the Golden Gate Park.

Okay.

Alice throws it.

I went when I summer. Right.

Summer thing. It's awesome because there's open bar and open fun. Open food.

Yeah. But it ends at like 4:30. And I had a dinner that had to go to at 7 with some of my friends. So there was that in between time. So we're like, oh, let's go to another bar. And I'm just like, so wasted.

Right.

And this is the funny thing, so on Twitter, this is my most annoying thing that I hate that women do when they become single. They like. They parade. Like some women do and some don't. But I'm just saying, this is a thing that bugs me a lot.

This particular genre, when they break up.

That they have to announce it to the world. They're having a parade. They need to go to Vegas. They need to go do all these things and tell everybody that they're single. Right? And it so happened. The person that was doing this, I was trying to get a hold of that day earlier, before I even knew that was going on, and put. The number was different, right? And then I. Then she sent out that message, and I go, hey, I'm not responding to what you just said, but I'm just saying that I tried to call you and your. Your number wasn't the same. She's like, oh, I had a break. I had to break out of change my number because it's all crazy, blah, blah. I'm like. And then I start. Because I'm drunk. So I started effing with her, and I go, oh, yeah, I get it. You know, you love bad boys, you know, guy losers and all this stuff. You need. You need projects and all this, Stu. And, dude, she was, like, dying because I was dripping.

She laughing, dying.

And then she goes, are you done lecturing me?

Right? Right. I love that you're lecturing.

That's so funny.

But what do you mean these women, like, I know women who break up with guys and then they, like, post all these sexy pictures of them on Facebook and.

Yeah, just where they just go over the top to let people know that they're single. Now it's just like, dude, people break up every day. You know, it's like, you don't want to feel.

We want to feel.

Yeah, but they feel like they're having, like, a parade down the street and let everybody know. Like, I don't like.

Well, that's why you can't announce it on Facebook either, that you're with someone, because then you got to explain that you're not with someone.

No, I mean, that's the easiest way. You just change your status and you're done. But you don't need it.

What happened?

Oh, I saw single, you know, from. In a relationship.

You don't need to go and tell her.

Clearly, those are people that want to share that information. And maybe there's some other guy. I mean, women do crazy things on Facebook. She's like, maybe there's some guy. She wanted to see that posting because she's really into someone else now. You never know. Maybe she wanted you to see. Maybe she likes you.

I don't know.

I bet she does. So, yeah, that's what we got That's. We could do some sex in the news. Yeah. No.

How was your weekend, though?

Oh, my weekend was awesome. My weekend was so much fun. I went to this really fun party on Friday night.

Where was it?

It was at my friend's house in Potrero Hill. It's a neighborhood. What? It wasn't a bar. Wasn't it? Was it at my friend's house? It was a dinner.

I was just making sure it was an art gallery or cabin somewhere.

No, no, no. It was no cabin, no art gallery. My friend is. It's so. I love this. She was her due date.

She's pregnant.

And it was her due date that day, that Friday night, but it was also her birthday, so she was like, I'm having a party. So she had a huge party. She's about to pop, and she's about to have a baby any minute. And she's dating a guy who's 10 years younger than her. Anyway, she is sexy. She's super hot. Super hot. 10 years younger. So there was like. Like, people in their, like early 20s and 30s and four. I don't know. It was fun and cute. Good looking crowd. It was a. We all commented, like, it was a really good looking crowd. It was like good, cool, awesome people outside. There was a bonfire. It was really, really fun. And I did meet a cute guy. So that's all I'm gonna say about that. And then I went to. For now. And then I went to. I hung out with. I have a bunch of friends in town this weekend, so I did friend stuff. And then Saturday night I went to dinner. Oh, I was watching the Dykes on Bikes march. Cause it was Gay pride.

Yeah.

And it was crazy in the city.

Oh, yeah.

Yeah. Like, just like gay, lesbian, everyone all over the place, costumes and naked, nudity and fun. And I went.

I did see somebody topless, some chicken. And she was hot.

Yeah, she was just walking around.

She just. Yeah, she was just walking around.

Cool. Yeah, there's like lots of hot. Yeah, hot, hot naked chicks in the city. Hot naked men. It was like gay pride, so. And I live near the Castro, so it was really fun. And then I went to. And then yesterday I got my dog. Hadn't met my dog. We'd Skyped, but we hadn't met in person. And we totally hit it off.

Wait, wait, wait, wait.

Hold on.

You just tried to go through that really fast. You Skyped with the dog before I met her?

Yeah, with my friend.

You Skyped with the dog?

Yeah, we Skyped just like, hi, nice to meet you. I mean, she didn't say much back. Cause she's a dog. But my friend Charlotte got me the dog two months ago, and she's been living in the.

So you were talking to the dog through the computer?

Yeah.

Why is that weird? You want to have sex with the computer? Why is it weird to talk to a dog?

It's a goddamn dog.

I know. I was like, hi.

It doesn't know what the hell's going on.

Baby. Hello. Hello.

Oh, so then last night, here's what happened.

We were at a dinner. Okay. So then last night we had a huge dinner party at my friend's house. Like 20 people and a barbecue. I went to two barbecues yesterday. It was super fun. Just like a beautiful day in the city. It was like barbecues to bar. All these rooftops. I know. I'm a little burnt, too. And so we. So we got there, and so there's 20 of us sitting around the table. And Scarlet, my dog, who. We're changing her name. I think I need a new dog.

Okay.

How old is the dog?

Nine months.

You can't change. It's already been called Scarlet.

No, no, no. She's a rescue dog. So my friend just named her Scarlet, like a month ago when she got her. So we can change it.

Oh, you are effing with this dog.

I know. It's fine. But the dog could have chose anybody at the table. There was 20 of us sitting around, and she came over and sat next to me and put her head on my lap. And I feel like she knew that I was her owner.

Oh, God.

Sorry, honey. You'll meet her. We'll bring her in. You'll fall in love.

No, you're not allowed to bring dogs here.

You don't like dogs?

No, I love animals.

I love chicks with dogs.

Yeah. I just don't want the girl around that has a dog.

Sorry I'm around, but it won't impact your life in any way.

Okay, good.

Okay. We could do some. What about your. And your weekend? Sounds like it was super fun.

Yeah, it was amazing. I had a lot of fun. Got to hang out with cool friends and all that. I loved it.

Yeah, mine was good, too. Good friends and just summertime and happiness. And then, you know, I'm gonna be gone. We're gonna be pretty.

You just rung this on me like two minutes before the show started.

I'm leaving. I'm going to Michigan. Oh, speaking of two minutes before the started, that guy called me that. I gave his. I errantly gave My phone number. I errantly gave a phone number to a guy that I met at a party and he called me twice. And he just called me again a week later. And I answered because I didn't know the number and was right before the show. So I thought it could be like producers technical stuff.

Why do you keep on giving your number out to random people?

He was cute, but then his ma. He was cute and then I was like, I don't know, I just. I'm busy. I was busy. I forgot to call him back. I don't know why I do that, but I'm not gonna do anymore. So I'm not. I'm not. I changed my behavior. I'm not like for. I'm not just a.

What's the word? A stagnant creature. I evolve. Okay, okay. Same sex marriage. Sex in the news.

Yeah. FYI, this is big news.

Same sex marriage legalized in New York. That is humongous. I'm sure everyone saw it over the weekend. Last Friday night, the New York Senate cleared the way for New York to become the sixth and largest state to grant gay and lesbian couples the right to be married. So I wonder what's gonna happen. I'm sure that, you know, it says here, four members of the Republican. Four members of the Republican majority joined. All but one Democrat in the Senate supporting the measure. That's amazing. So, yeah, very exciting in New York, the largest city it's happened in.

Yeah, that's. I mean, I hope they don't return.

It like they did here.

Yeah, that's gonna lead the way.

I hope so.

Like, seriously, for a lot, this New York is the hub for this country.

It's happening. It's really, really happening. It's so, so, so exciting. Right before Gay Pride, it was very exciting.

How many people do you think already got married?

A lot, I'm sure. Well, and it happened in San Francisco when our May Newsom, when he was mayor, he announced it. I mean, people, like hundreds of people got married over the week. That first weekend that it happened, hundreds of people were like lined up, snaked around city hall, lesbian gays to get married. So I don't know what happened here. I didn't follow it over the weekend. I was totally unplugged all weekend. Like, oh, oh, speaking of unplugged, my phone died. My phone broke, froze, and I literally felt like my arm was cut off.

Why?

For a four hour period on Saturday, I was not able to receive text or phone calls and I lost a bunch of texts.

Once you reset It.

I didn't know how. And then I had to go to Verizon.

Why'd you email me?

I already called you for another technical question that you didn't call me back about. I don't remember what it was. Now, Friday, I called you Friday. You don't remember. Whatever. I left you a message. I'm like, I know you're not gonna listen to this, but I have a technical question for you. But anyway, this is just a side note that losing your phone or break, not having access to it, I hated how much. How annoyed I was and how much it impacted me and that I lost a bunch of texts. People. Didn't you get my text? And, like, you didn't. Like, you feel like I have no way of telling people that I didn't get their text. They don't know.

My phone dies all the time. So I go periods of time where I will not, you know, have it with me, and I feel naked. Like I just. I fiend for a place to plug it in and charge it.

Me too.

I know it's bad because it really affects relationships too, because if you walk down the streets and you see a couple, one of the couples is looking at their phone.

Exactly. You know, always. There's always. Yeah. When you're out, everyone's on the phone.

Especially here. It's like iPhone country. And just like, it's too. You see, they're both couples. They're both looking at their iPhones.

Yep.

The entire time.

The entire time. They're on their date or whatever. Walking. Yeah. That bums me out. I don't want to do that. I don't want to go on dates when we're both on our phone. That would be a deal breaker. That's a deal breaker on his phone the whole time. First date. We've talked about that.

Oh, yeah, definitely.

But I guess if you're with someone for a while, you got nothing else to say. You're not having sex anymore. You're like, what else? Let's get on the phone. Let's play Words with Friends or whatever people play. Beloved TV Mom Caught crabs. This is from you.

Yeah, I sent that to you.

I know.

Beloved TV mom, why are you taking off your clothes in front of the camera right now?

You almost had a nip slip on camera.

Yeah. Nip slip. Okay. That's what we should label the segment. No. Emily must have missed it. No, I didn't. I don't know why. Beloved TV mom caught. We didn't believe this was real.

You didn't. When I sent it to you.

Well, this morning I read it. Beloved TV mom caught crabs from old New York mayor.

Yeah.

Brady Bunch matriarch, star dancer and Wesson pushing. Florence Henderson reveals in her new memoir that back in the 1960s, she had a thing with late New York City mayor John Lindsay and ended up with a case of little black things, otherwise known as public lice, or crabs. Guess I learned the hard way that crabs do not discriminate, but cross over all socioeconomic strata. Henderson writes, he must have had quite the active life. What a way to put the kibosh on a relationship. So she was married at the time. Wow. People really reveal all their stuff when they get old. How old is she now?

Lucy? Mrs. Brady was.

People don't catch crabs anymore like they used to, do they? You never hear that anymore.

The Dungeness kind.

I don't know. You know what I mean? The crab is like the little black things.

I mean, at least people are talking about it.

I don't want to think of Florence Henderson, Brady Bunch mom with crabs.

What a slore. Like, seriously, That's a great word.

A slutty whore. Yeah, that's awesome.

You never heard of slore before? Okay.

Slutty whore.

Yeah.

Yeah, that's awesome. I'm gonna use it every day. Just like smd.

Yeah. Oh, you're using SMD now?

No, I forget. But I love it.

Smd. Everybody has sucked my dick. I've been telling Emily. I'm like, just tell them smd.

Yeah, it's awes. I'm just like, smd. Whatevs. It's so great.

But I can't believe that is Mrs. Brady's a cheating line.

I know. They were all. She was hooking her up. She was hooking up with Greg Brady when they were doing the show. He wrote a memoir. Like, who would have thought? And I was obsessed with Brady Bunch when I was little. I was a TV obsessed person up until I was like, 19. I watched TV and then I stopped. But I would watch the Brady Bunch every chance I got. I've seen every single one of them 100 times. Like, I loved it. Did you ever watch it?

Oh, yeah, I watched it.

It was so good. But it's so. It seems just so silly now and simple. But look what was happening behind the scenes. She's doing.

Everybody was banging. Like, no. All the characters were hooking up with each other.

I guess that happens.

Yeah.

And with you, when you work with someone that closely, you just hug up with them sometimes.

Start banging.

Yep. Study the shape of Your lips may indicate better sex.

What?

Here's a study that will have you examining a part of your body you probably didn't even know existed. The tuber. The tubercle. Tubercle. It's the little puffy spot in the middle of your upper lip. According to a paper published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, women with more prominent tuberculosis. It's T U B E R C L E S have a greater chance of having vaginal orgasms as opposed to clitoral orgasms from vaginal intercourse. That's so interesting. Why would they think to examine this part of your lip?

So it's bigger. It's supposed to be big.

I guess so. It's more prominent.

Mine's a little bit like off color, like a little white. Cuz I burnt it on a pizza that I cooked in the oven.

Or like a permanent damage?

Permanent damage. Just like maybe 10 years ago.

Okay.

Because see, the thing is with. I don't understand. You know, the pizza. When you get the pizza delivered to your house, it's cool. But when you cook it in the oven at your own home, well, you don't know because you don't cook. But when you cook it in the oven at your own home and you still leave it out for a long time, the sauce is like a million effing degrees. It burns your mouth and the crust is hard as a rock.

I think you're doing something wrong.

I hate it.

I'm so sorry.

No, this is like every.

Like everyone would say this. Who makes pizza at home? I've never done it, but it sucked.

Because you get a delicious pizza delivered to you and then you try to make one at home and it's just. It's just not.

I'm actually going to a friend's house to make pizza tonight. That's funny that you mentioned that.

Who's your friend?

My friend Denise.

Girl Denise.

We have a friend in town who has a bunch of kids and like.

So you're gonna watch her make pizza?

Yeah. Yeah. I'm not helping. I do the dishes sometimes. That's what I contribute to this group. Because last night we had this huge feast too and I didn't cook anything.

Have you brought up that conversation about how I said do you contribute anything to the relationship, to your girlfriends?

No, but I should have asked my ex boyfriend because he was there last night and asked him that. What do I contribute to the relationship? They would have loved that because they rip on me all the time.

Yeah.

And this group of friends.

So you're hanging out with your Ex boyfriend again, all the time.

I hang out with him like once a week from, like six years ago. He's the one who has the cabin that I always go to. So this is that group of friends.

So this is like orgy friends.

We don't have orgies.

Orgies. Who's banging who?

Nobody's banging anybody. I mean, there's a married couple. I mean, I think that I could still bang my ex and I have, like, in over the years, but we just really are better friends. Yeah, but he would be happy to trash me and answer anything about dating me. Like, he's the one who said Emily is the worst girlfriend or something. But that was years ago, and he just says it as a joke because it wasn't really true that I was a bad girlfriend.

Totally not.

I was a really good girlfriend. I think I just. I'm not as. I think guys. I'm not as.

You know, into it.

Into the whole relationship thing.

The girlfriend that's like, trying to make it like, girlfriend, boyfriend. Y. Yeah, I'm just into my own thing. Whatever. We're still good. Close. But he. My ex, every woman there he slept with, like, he, he. Whenever he has parties, it's like eight girls in the room he slept with. They're all his really good friends. So he always keeps friends. He was raised Mormon, so I think it has something to do with that.

No, he just likes to keep them around just in case.

Just in case.

Just like girls do with guys. They call it the. The dildo in a case. You know, you got to break that glass case to get the dildo out. You never heard of that?

No. That's when you date your ex.

No, that's when you keep them around. Oh, yeah. Okay. You know, you break the glass like the fire. There's like a fire. Fire hydra.

Right, right. Don't you people that your go to sex people?

My go to sex people.

You can go.

No, I'm, like, cool with almost every ex girlfriend I have, but I don't try to have sex with them.

Right. No, me neither. Okay. Jada Pinkett Smith has revealed she and Will Smith have an interest. Have sex in interesting places. In quotes. To keep their love life interest exciting, the actress and her Hollywood superstar husband like to experiment when it comes to lovemaking so they don't get stuck in the same old routine. She said we make love in some interesting places. I feel like you have to keep spontaneity. You have to keep your partner on their toes. Because once, you know, it starts getting into routine, it's like it gets very boring. You commit, you give your. You give your life to someone. Jada Pinkett Smith keeps it says she she doesn't mind watching will shoot sex scenes with other actresses, but worries he will show her up with his fictional performance in the bedroom. So they have two children. Da da da. And they like she didn't list any.

Places because I can imagine because Wilson places probably has that mean ridiculous money and they could probably go to most interesting places.

In the world if they wanted to.

Exactly.

But I think she could probably land a helicopter on top of, you know, the.

Great Wall of China.

Sex right there, you know, I know you're right. It probably isn't true. But I was just thinking they have sex like outdoors or something or I don't know. She didn't get into it, but she probably the most important thing about keeping sex hot is keeping the spontaneity, because that's what happens when you get into routine. Routine means that you're no longer spontaneous. Right. But the key to great sex is having some spontaneity there. And so she knows this and that's what's so important. Love their couple. You always see them in the news talking about their sex life. So I think that's important. I like that comment that she knows that. Canada's Gynecologists Create Facebook Sex Ed game what? Yep. Sex education in a modern format, but inspired by the age of chivalry was introduced Friday by the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada. It's a Facebook game called Sex Quest and is aimed at helping Canadians learn about healthy sexuality, contraception and sexually transmitted infection. It's a trivia game about a topic of anything but a trivial game about a topic that is anything but trivia. Am I still talking fast?

No.

Anything. Sex canon should be a positive experience. So it's an attractive game because the reason why they did this is from Canada. 60% of the teens couldn't identify Canada's age of sexual consent, which is 16. And almost 40% overestimate how effective male condoms are when they're used as a sole method of birth control. And then 40% also said the Internet is more useful than their parents and giving them information about sex. So they were like, we got to do a game.

A game. I wonder how they want I want.

To do a sex game. I don't know, but there I I think it'd be fun to do a sex game.

And I'm surprised Facebook lets him do that.

I mean, sex Education. So it's not. Yeah.

Oh, and it's probably. It's probably geo located to Canada.

Yeah.

It's me geeking out right now. I'm like, how do they market it? How do they just keep it in Canada? But that's really cool, though.

I know, right? It's really important. It's very important. Okay. Was Bristol Palin date raped?

Oh, I saw this.

Sarah Palin's daughter said she was too drunk. I laughed so hard. She was too drunk to remember having sex with Levi Johnson on the fateful night five years ago, raising questions about consent because she was got. She was. Got pregnant from him. In her new memoir, Not Afraid of Life, Bristol Payton writes at Levi Johnson, her ex boyfriend and father of her son Tracy, stole her virginity in a wine cooler.

Induced wine cooler.

I love the descriptions. Like, we all know what that. Wine cooler. High school buzz. Did you drink wine coolers in high school?

Hell no. And I know they're not drinking wine coolers.

She said it was wine coolers. She said even though she wanted to wait till she had sex, to wait till she was married to have sex. She said she's not accusing you of date rape, but under Alaska law, a man who has sex with a woman who is incapacitated or unaware of what's happening is committing second degree sexual assault.

What?

Yeah. He qualifies.

Date rape.

I mean, well, why would she even. Isn't she still with him? Or maybe she's not.

No, she's not.

Okay.

And she looks amazing. She had some work done.

She did?

Yeah, she had.

She's like 18.

Yeah, but she had, like, her jaw realigned.

How do you know this? It's in the paper. Arm show. It's on tv. She looks good.

She looks really good.

Cause she's not hot. From what I've seen.

No, you should see the before and after pictures. I'll pull it up on the camera.

Oh, I love before and after pictures. They're my fave.

You should really check it out.

She looks hot, but you can go.

On to the next thing.

But why would she. Yeah, date rape. Okay. Anyway, I doubt.

No, but like, wine coolers. Like, how many wine coolers do you need to get drunk?

Four. No, when I was in high school, I could drink three. And then if I ever had a fourth, I was really drunk. But I could do, like, two and a half. Three. Okay, we've got one more sex. In the news story, women refuse sex until their road is fixed. I think this is an awesome story, but kind of sad, too. More than 250 women from a small town in rural Columbia are going on a sex strike in a bid to get a dangerous road fixed. The women of barbacos, Barbara Koas believe if they carry on with the crossed leg strike, which, which started on Thursday, their sex starved partners will be driven to lobby the government to fix the road that leads from their town of 40,000 people to the rest of the country. So it's like this really bad road. And so these women decide since the men have more power there, they're going to. They're going to hold back on sex from their partners unless. And getting them to protest the road because the women don't have as much power there. So they're like, we're gonna keep sex from our husband.

That's not good.

250 women. We'll see how that goes. I have to follow that.

I got it. I pulled it before and after. That's her before and that's her after.

Oh, okay.

She looks good.

Yeah. Would she get done just her jaw.

Realigned, some chin thing.

She looks good.

Yeah.

Yeah. You do her, huh?

I would do her. I don't know if I would like my mother in law if I married her.

Sarah Palin. Yeah, that would.

Sarah Palin's crazy.

Crazy.

But yeah. Is that. That's it for sex and news. Are we gonna do the emails?

We are gonna do emails.

My favorite part.

Okay.

I love the email. I. I am really interested. I'm gonna go back and listen to the. The intern show.

Yeah. On Friday. Yeah, yeah. It was really good.

I'm sure you're gonna get a lot of emails.

We'd intern toy review day. And then Kelsey reviewed her. You just have to listen to it. She reviewed her sex toy and she wore it on Bart and so she talked about that experience.

Oh, did she explain I said who was using the remote control?

Yeah, she did.

She used the own. She didn't give it to somebody?

No, she didn't give it. You can't connect it. What's the disconnected.

Oh, it's connected.

It's a remote control. But you have to use a remote or you give it to your partner if you're having sex and he's lying next to you, but you can't hand it to a guy at Bart across the way.

She didn't say enough. Next to Bunny, said, hey, can you hold this for me real quick?

So do you mind holding this for me and turning it on really, really, really, really on really fast? No, it was really funny. So every week we're gonna have interns.

Cool.

Okay, today's poll. This is last week's poll. Here's the results. What's your favorite sex position? 4% said reverse cowgirl. 19%.

And you love the reverse cowgirl.

No, men love the reverse cowgirl.

Yeah, but you talk about it because men love it.

I just forgot about it. And then men like it because they can see because it's, you know, it's when it's woman on top but she's turned around so men can see their. Her butt, like, going up and down on their penis. And I think that men like that visual.

I don't know. I never hear about it.

Never?

No.

You never had a woman do it or you've never, like, turned around?

No, I don't. I'm not into it, But I never hear anybody talk about it except for you, so. That's Right. That probably why explains the. The 4%. You probably think a lot of people are into it.

I think men are into it when they're into. When they see it and they're experiencing it. I think they're into it. I don't know. 19%. I do know. 19% said missionary not only. 19% said missionary is their favorite sex position. 37% said doggy style. And 40% said women on top.

Yeah, that's the best. You don't have to work.

That's not why.

Nobody can last longer.

But it is true that you don't have to work. Men can last longer. And you get to see their boobs and bouncing up and down.

You can do that.

And.

Yeah, and then she, like, she pretty much does what she wants too.

Right? Like, she could control the motion.

Yeah. So you know that you're not really messing up because she's, like, taking control.

Exactly. And a lot of women, that's how they orgasm is on top. I'd say say more women than not when they're on top, typically. So, okay, the new poll, which everyone should go vote right now or go Poll.

Sex with Emily.com.

Sex with Emily.com. have you ever thought about a sexual act with a person of the same sex? I'm gay, so yes is one answer. Number two, I'm straight, but I fantasize about the same sex. Number three, I only fantasize about the same sex during masturbation. Number four. No, I never think about same sex partners. Yeah, so go answer that. Hi, I'm liamenis. After participating in your poll about how long we like sex to last, my boyfriend and I timed our sex from foreplay to the finale. It was 28 minutes and it was steamy. Thanks for always giving us something to think about and new things to try. Thanks, Michelle from Baltimore. P.S. i'm a friends With Benefits member. It'd be great to see Menace on the video as well. Contrary to what he might think. Okay, so Menace is gonna be. We just need to get more Friends With Benefits members so we can buy another camera and have it in the studio on Menace. So just join right now if you want to see Menace. We're gonna get another, right?

What? Yeah.

That's the deal, right?

Yeah. The company has to do it. Yeah.

We gotta get other cameras. We need. We need more, you know, we need.

More memories, more equipment.

More equipment.

We just got a CD player the other day, so you can put the intro back on.

I know. Remember our intro that you all loved or hated? We're gonna put that back on.

Yeah.

So, yeah, Menace is not on because he doesn't want to be. Right. I mean, do you not want to be. You would be on.

No, I mean, I. Because I also, like, send out the link to all my videos, fans from my other radio show for my other radio show, and they probably come here and go, like, what the hell's going on?

I know, I know. Well, we just have to do that soon. Thanks, Michelle, and thanks for becoming a Friends With Benefits member. We totally appreciate it. Okay, Emily, Friends With Benefits is awesome. Keep up the great work. Here is my question. Friends With Benefits is our sex family program. I hear all the time that the key to a girl's heart is to make her laugh and make her feel special. However, I do not know exactly what it means to make a girl feel special. What should I be doing, both in a group setting and alone to accomplish this? Billie from Vancouver, Canada. Okay, so I would say that to make a woman feel special, it's the little things. It's not like the big grand, like bringing her flowers or buying her jewelry or making her dinner. It's really the little. And it's more. It's more subtle. Like, you know, we always talk about compliments, like, complimenting her on, like, specific things. Like saying, like, I really like, you know, you look great today. Like, I was going out to this guy and he was like, you look really beautiful tonight. Like, you look. He was, like, very specific about, like, your hair. You know, if they compliment her hair or you compliment her on something specific, not just like, you look hot. So I would think, if you notice, remember specific things about her and what she likes. Like if she you know, she likes a certain ice cream flavor and she's sleeping in her house and you get that ice cream or you get. You keep chocolate at your house or just those, like, little things.

Remembering things.

Remembering things we love. When you remember, like I was dating this guy for a while and he knew that in the morning he'd make coffee and I loved cream in my coffee. And he was like, always. He never had cream in his house. But then like after we were dating for a while, he had cream.

What kind of cream was it?

What kind of cream was it? Baby? I knew you were gonna say something about that. Half and half, whatever. And then. And you gotta listen. Like, I think that a big part about women feeling special is that. No, again, it's the same thing. But listening to what she says and like remembering, like, how was that big meeting you had with your boss today? How did it go? Well, because a lot of times we feel like we're talking to men and it goes right over the head. We're like, how did you not ask me about that? Or if I tell you what I'm doing something, you know, just remember it. Or ask you how my sick mom is or my. Or just it's little tiny things, know, and you're saying in a group, how do you do it? I think it's just by, you know, putting your arm around her, asking her what she wants to drink, making sure she's cool, checking in with her. Like, some women don't like to be like, if you're at maybe with a bunch of your friends, Billy. And you know, just making sure she feels safe.

I retain so much when I'm into somebody. I retain, I don't say anything. I just take it in and I make a mental note, well, why don't.

You ever say anything and use it to your benefit.

I do, I do.

You just said you don't ever say anything.

No, I'm in the moment. I don't say like, oh, you like that.

Oh, right. But you remember it later.

I just remember it.

It's awesome.

I just take it.

That's a great thing to do. So women. I think that's how she feels special because we were all talking this morning, like, what makes you feel special that a guy does? So this was our. This is what we think. I think. And we all think. Okay, this is an interesting one. Okay. Dear Emily, I've always been in a long term relationship and last year was engaged, but decided to call it off. After six months, I started sleeping with someone entirely different from my Ex fiance. He was amazing in bed and I never had someone make me feel as good as he did sexually. The sex was great, but he never asked me to sleep over and put his clothes on immediately after we had sex.

Yup.

We started sexting each other intermittently and continued to sleep together off and on for a year. Eventually, I could not stop thinking about him and how good he made me feel. Often he would not text me back for weeks or months and randomly text, what you doing? We've all gotten those texts. I started to feel like he did not respect me and the friends with benefits was just benefits when he was bored or it was convenient for him. So I eventually asked him in person, why have you never asked me to sleep over or touched me after we have sex? He said, because we don't have a relationship. He said his last relationship hurt him when it ended and he didn't want to go through that again.

Oh, that's bull. But that's a good cover up.

That was it. And I called the next day, no response. Three weeks later he texted me to let me know he was back from Brazil. I still want to have sex with him, but I was hurt badly because it made me feel unworthy of that little amount of respect. What happened? I date lots of other men, but I can't stop thinking about him because the sex was that good. I'm wondering if he enjoyed as much as I did. He said he had fun but did not want to touch me afterwards. And vice, why did I like it so much despite the lack of tenderness afterwards? Single in New York City.

Every single woman ever.

This is such the story.

It's like you want the ones because he doesn't want you back.

I mean, there's a lot of that, but there's also the, you know, we like the chase we like, but also when you connect, you bond with someone when you have sex. So women have the oxytocin hormone that spikes and you get attached to someone sex. But I don't know why. Single in New York City. It sounds like he's not tender, he's not giving you what you need. And he texts you every three weeks. And you're asking me why you keep thinking about it. I mean, you can, you probably just need to start. You got to get under to get over, as I always say. And it sounds like you need to bring someone new into the rotation because you're thinking about this guy who's obviously not very healthy for you right now. I mean, it's not cool if you want to Be like someone who'd be tender after sex and doesn't just put their clothes on like he's not the guy. Like there's nothing he's done just because you've had great sex. There's nothing in here he's done that, shown that he could be relationship worthy or that he respects what you need. It's just about him.

Yeah.

And why are you thinking about it? Because we do this, we tend to think about situations and people in our lives that we know aren't good for us. We know they're not great for us, but we can make choices, too. You can make a healthy choice that you're not gonna return his texts because obviously this has been going on for a while. It sounds like, as you said, six weeks later, six months. It's just, he's shown his colors and it sounds like he's not. He's not gonna give you what you want.

Yeah. Don't fall for it.

Don't fall for it. He's not. He doesn't sound like you're guiding it.

She's not gonna listen to us.

He doesn't respond to your text, and then three weeks later, he says, what are you doing at 12:30 in the morning? You didn't say that it was 12:30, but I assume that it was. And whenever you get those texts, I mean, he's just. He's not your guy. So just listen to me. It's just, you can save yourself months or years of just obsessing and you'll have amazing sex again, I promise you. With someone that is treating you the way you want to be treated. I can't believe that women do that.

They know the answer to the question, and then they're gonna ask us for advice and not change anything about it. You know it. You know it's single in New York.

Change it. Don't respond to these texts. He sounds like. I mean, I'd be so bummed if a guy, like, didn't touch me after sex. Like, I think that women. The whole cuddling thing is not just because, I don't know, we're like, narcissists or we just need to be. It's like you actually physically kind of need to connect with someone and that even if it's for five minutes. What do you do? Menace. Like, top three minutes with girls cuddling. What do you do?

Ooh, that would be.

Oh, you don't cuddle. Right.

Too hot. It's too hot. It's too sweaty and hot. It's dirty. I want to shower Right. Yeah.

Right. So. Right. So don't date madness. And no. So, yeah, I mean, that's a really important thing for. So please listen to it us. We just gave you great advice. Just move on. He's not the guy.

New York. I'm gonna go there in October. Oh, you are already booked.

Awesome. You haven't been or you have been?

I haven't been there in a long time.

Awesome. I love New York. I love it, love it. I should be living there now, but I'm not. Okay. Dear Emily, being a younger man, I become nervous about older women. How would you suggest approaching an older woman? Slash cougar coug. Also, I am from a small town in Alabama where nobody branches out and experiences sexually. Everyone just sticks to their so called traditional practices. How would you suggest approaching a woman who is very conservative about either me dominating her or her dominating me? And shout out to Emily Jimenez for both responding to me on Twitter. It's good to see professionals that actually care about their fans.

That's what I'm saying.

Hi, Joe.

Joe.

Yo, Joe.

Oh, and I do have a Facebook thing that I want to talk about after this.

Okay. So, Jo, like you would any other woman approaching any other woman. I think it's with confidence. I don't think the age matters. I think that you have to approach her with confidence and knowing, you know, just being yourself and being comfortable and being in your own skin and not being too nervous. I don't, I don't know. I don't think that there's a difference between, I don't know what the age that they say cougars are 35 and over, 40 and over. And I don't think there's anything different. But if you're talking about the cougar women say that cougars just want, if you are a cougar, that they're just out for sex. And they're not really are.

The cougs are out for sex, man. It's so easy for you.

Just talk to her and give her attention and buy her a drink and tell her she's hot and you'll get her in bed. But I don't know that all women are like that. So I don't think there's any like, oh, if I'm hitting on a woman in her 20s, she's like this. Do you. Do you think cougars are different? Have you.

Cougars are just. They want to get laid, man. They're out on the hunt.

Right?

My buddy. Oh, I remember when we were 21, he were at a bar and there was like, no one else around. So he's like, oh, I'm just gonna hit on this chick. She ends up being 50 years old and has a daughter that's the same age as he hooked up with her.

Yeah. A 50 year old woman. Oh my God, that's crazy. Yeah, that happens.

And he's like, man, maybe I should date the daughter after exactly.

That stuff has totally happened. But I would say approach her with confidence. And as for dominating her, like learning how to dominate, I would start holding her hands back. Like when you're having sex, like just do like little aggressive things like put her hands back and see if she likes to be like restrained. You could blindfold her. You could just do like little, you know, things to see how she responds. That some women might be totally turned on by being restrained.

Or you can get fire TV and see some crazy ish that I saw in there when I was over at Emily's house.

I know. Oh my God. You could watch the bondage section on fire tv. F Y R E T V And yeah, it's my new baby. That's why I didn't leave my house.

So anyways, going to Facebook. Facebook talk to me. I got a chat message sent to me, but I wasn't by the computer so they logged off before I could respond. It's one of our listeners and she's like, I love the show but I hate that you guys promote telling a guy that you have a boyfriend instead of just telling them that you're not interested.

I don't promote that.

I. I do. I promote it to help guys. So she doesn't like that.

Well, it's not honest. It's really not honest honest.

But man, you know, why do you just need to kill some guys feelings?

Well, I know I'm mixed on it too because I feel like every time a guy asks you out, you should. Like I've done this. Guys have been like, can I get your number? And I'm like, no, but thanks for asking. And this is not a rejection. It's just that I don't think I see a connection. But you want to.

Like that's like a dagger guy's heart right there.

Wasn't necessary. I've done that. I've done the I have a boyfriend thing. Because you don't want it. Because no one likes confrontation. Okay? Girl should never hate confrontation. And so no one ever wants. Even if it's in a work situation or a personal situation, we all would rather take the easy route. So the easy route is saying I have a boyfriend or I have a girlfriend.

And as a woman, you wouldn't go crazy if a guy goes, ah, no, I'm sorry, I'm not interested. Then you're eight. You're gonna analyze yourself right there at that moment, think, why am I not good enough for this person?

Right.

And guys, why is it not. I mean, why is it necessary to do.

Why is it necessary to.

I'm not saying to be. No, yeah, I mean, why is it necessary to be honest to say I. Oh, yeah. I just don't see connection because I just think it's. I know it's the right thing to do. I'm not into like lying to people, but I'm also into. I'm not into hurting people's feelings.

Right, right. I think that there's ways to do it and be like, you know, I'm just not. I just don't see a connection.

And never lie in the club ladies that you're there with your girlfriend, like you're pretending to be lesbian.

Oh, who does that?

20 year old all the time.

Really?

Yeah.

Yeah, I don't.

That doesn't work.

No. Okay, good to know. But I don't, I don't promote. I never promote lying. I promote telling the truth all the time. But I sometimes have failed at that too, and just been like, oh, I've got a boyfriend. Because it's easy, but it's really not the right thing to do. I haven't figured. It's hard. You're right. Because they're like, you're never gonna see this guy again. He asked you out. You're gonna say no, you're gonna crush him. But you can say it in a really nice way that doesn't crush him.

Next time I'm just gonna say no, I think you're happy and I don't want to. I don't want to hang out.

Common when you lose £15.

Yeah, that's what I should do. Facebook lady.

That hit me up exactly. No, no, no, no. But we just all want the truth, don't we? Don't we want the truth?

No, spare me my feelings. Make me feel good. You love ego boosting. I don't understand why you would not support this.

I would support a guy. What would a guy say to me? Like, I'm sorry, or they just don't call back. Or they just don't. And then you know. But you always want to know why, but no one's ever going to tell you why. So this whole breaking up thing and rejection, we should do a show on that.

Just how to break up.

How to break up.

Okay, okay.

Let's get into some sex tips.

What you got for me?

Circumcised versus uncircumcised penises.

Circumcised is amazing.

That's all you know, baby. The simple difference between a circumcised and uncircumcised penis is the thin layer of skin, the foreskin, which is highly sensitive and surrounds the end of the uncircumcised penis, like a slight. We're just giving you the basics here to warm you up. A little foreplay. When erect, an uncircumcised man's foreskin retracts over the shaft, exposing the head of the penis and looking very similar to a circumcised penis. Why are you laughing?

I'm laughing because I had a dream that I was looking at my penis last night, and. And it was just funny to me.

Is it always funny to you when you look at your penis in the dream?

No, it was just funny.

That's normal, right?

I recalled it because, you know, I got drunk the day before and I was paranoid that I would oversleep and miss my radio show.

Oh.

So I kept waking up. So I kept on remembering my dreams. And I had a dream last night that first off, I was on Market street in San Francisco, and I go into the Walgreens and I see Lady Gaga. And I'm talking with Lady Gaga about some T shirt that I like that she was wearing, right? It was really weird. And she goes, which T shirt? And I go, I don't know. I go. I sarcastically said, I'll email you and tell you, okay? Thinking that she gets a bunch of emails. And then I flash to. I'm outside a W hotel that's like 50 miles away from where I was before. And then I had to go pee. So then I go into the W hotel where I've been into a million times. And then suddenly I'm in a bathroom, okay? And I'm peeing, and the. And the floor is slanted, and I just keep on peeing. And then the. The pee, it was, like, super clear. You know, when you go pee sometimes it just looks like water. And it keeps on filling up and up and up, and it's just, like, pouring over the tiles into the hallway of the hotel. And I'm looking down at my wiener, and I'm like, why aren't you stopping?

Why can't you stop peeing? Oh, my God. That sounds.

It was a nightmare.

That sounds like a nightmare. But your Penis looked okay.

My penis did look okay. And it was circumcised in my dream.

Oh, perfect.

Which I am circumcised.

Okay, good. Yeah, most American men are circumcised.

I thought I'd share that story.

It's good to know that you're circumcised. I love that story. I love.

Even in my dreams I'm circumcised.

Right.

But I have friends that are not circumcised.

Do you, what do they say about. Do you guys ever talk about it?

Yeah, we, you know, I kind of joke with him, you know, calling it an anteater and stuff like that. But he, he like endorses it. He's like, oh yeah, he loves it. He embraces it. The thing the sucked is like you can't, you can't really know the difference really because you never know.

Yeah, you will never know if he's better. Exactly. It's just like what kind of orgasms better? Like do I have a better orgasm than she has orgasm? Like we'll never know. I can't explain to you my orgasm to your orgasm or whatever. So that, that's sort of what the debate is about. But during intercourse, oral sex and masturbation, the retracted foreskin acts like a lubricant or a sleeve. So it's like a built in link lubricant. As a penis thrusts, it glides on its own bedding of movable skin, which minimizes the friction. A circumcised penis may need additional lubrication for both partners to experience pleasure. So that's just bonus of uncircumcised penis. Benefits of circumcision One bonus of circumcision is a lower risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases. Removing the foreskin skin. Removing the foreskin shrinks the surface area of mucosal skin vulnerable to viruses, decreasing the chance of transmission. You have better hygiene. Circumcised men don't have to worry about cleaning under the skin where a cheese like secretion collects with men with circumcised penises. Sex facts about circumcised MEN for the circumcised male, the most sensitive spot is a scar on the underneath called the frenulum. So we've talked about that before. Do you remember the frenulum on the penis? Do you know where your most sensitive part of your penis is the most sensitive? No, you don't. Like there's not like a particular part of your. They say it's the frenulum, which is where the scarring is from where you remove. Where they remove the foreskin. And it's like on the underneath part.

It looks like a little. It looks like kind of like the bottom of a chicken. The chickens, like, you know, what's that skin that is called?

You know, they're the chicken.

Their throat area.

I don't know. But so. Wait, what did you just say just now?

What? I say the bottom part. That. Oh, I didn't know which. The most sensitive part.

Oh, right. How do you not know the most sensitive part of penis?

The middle part. I don't know.

I don't know. With a frenulum, it's. And most men. Okay. As your part. Okay. So if you're circumcised, you may. You may need more friction to reach orgasm. Ask your partner to do kegel exercises and squeeze your pelvic floor muscles, which will pull more friction on the head of your penis. If you need more friction. If your circumstances. Facts about uncircumcised men. That extra skin adds some surprise value the first time you unzip his pants, but that's about it. A penis is a penis, and they're all plenty sensitive. Worldwide, about 75% of all adult men are uncircumcised. This varies from country to country. However, over 85% of Americans are cut circumcised.

85%.

85% of Americans. So it's Americans, Muslims. It's like the Middle East. Like, it's Muslims because it's Muslims and Jewish people. It's part of their religion to be circumcised.

So it's like.

I think.

Yeah. I mean, we just been around for a long time. It's like, we, you know, like in the Jewish religion, like, we have brisses. Do you know what that is? When a male child is born in the Jewish religion, like, a week or two later, the moil comes over.

There's a party.

There's a party, like with bagels and cream cheese. And then they cut. There's like a party where you go there and then the moil comes in and like, slices the penis. Like, you go to the bris. Yeah. You watch it. And the baby boy cries and it's a whole thing. So they're trying to ban circumstances. Circumcision in San Francisco right now. It's gonna be on the ballot and whatever. So benefits of being uncircumcised. Well, okay. The facts about it is, okay, I told you that. Benefits of being uncircumcised. Well, circumcised penises become desensitized after years of rubbing its clothes. An uncircumcised head may be more sensitive to touch because it's protected by the skin. The main difference in having sex with an uncircumcised penis is that the foreskin acts as a glider of sorts, and it stays in place when the glands and shaft continue to thrust. This leads to less friction on the vagina and thus a more pleasure experience for the female. Female. They say if you're uncircumcised, make sure your partner is comfortable. Many women get freaked out by foreskin. Talk to her and let her know it's an area that responds to stimulation. All right, tips for uncircumcised guys. While your first glance at foreskin may give you a bit of a jolt, it's nothing to panic over. Try experimenting with this new situation you're in. So the spot where the foreskin meets the penis and the foreskin itself are both removed during circumcision. Both are packed with nerve endings. You can roll it back and forth to stimulate the frenulum, the foreskin, which is the most sensitive part. Like we said, using the tongue or the fingers to stimulate the foreskin and the head is often extremely pleasurable for the man.

It looks like a bagel dog. You know? You know those hot dogs, the bagel. There's the bagel and then the hot dog is inside the bagel. Yeah, it looks like that kind of.

Does look like that. You're right. Yeah. From what I see.

How many bagel dogs have you experienced in your life?

You know, not a ton. I mean, mostly when I was traveling, when I was living in back Southeast Asia, backpacking. And I met a lot of international men.

International bagels, International.

And I would say not many, A few. But then this one, I guess the first one I was with, he was from the UK and he wasn't circumcised.

Yeah.

But we used a condom.

And so how was that experience?

The experience for me, the. Visually, it's fine. It's not. It's just different. You're like, oh. At first you are a little like, oh, I'm not quite sure what to do. That's why we're telling you what to do now.

Yeah.

And. But then we used a condom and I. So I don't remember. I mean, this was a long time ago, but I don't remember it feeling particularly different because you have to always use a condom. But it's just. It's a matter of when you're like doing oral sex or hand jobs. You can play with the foreskin differently. You may be pleased to find that the foreskin offers a whole new dimension of pleasure, not only for your partner, but for you as well. So if he still has foreskin, take advantage of it. And then we've got some more tips. What does your friend say about it? Do they, like. Do they. Do they say that?

No, he's proud of it.

Is he? Like, we don't have arguments, but whatever.

You know, we just joke. Joke about it all the time. Because we say. Because.

Have you seen it as he showed you his penis?

Yeah. He would bust it out once in a while.

Really? Like when you're drinking or something?

No. What was it?

Having lunch?

Because he also has a brother and. Well, a couple brothers, and they're all circumcised. He didn't have it because sometimes, you know, babies, they'll have. When they're young, they'll have, like, heart condition or something, and they can't have it done early. And then either. Either they. They'll never have it done, or they'll have it done later on in life where they can actually remember it, which. That sucks. That would hurt, you know, and.

But he decided not to.

He decided not to have it. And so we would always joke about.

I mean, there is a whole Just.

Like, whip it out.

Right? That's so funny. I mean, there is a whole movement that we should ban it and that it shouldn't be part of practice. But it's the religious groups who are really like, you know, it's part of our culture. So.

Yeah. So, I mean, I don't know how. What side I'm gonna take.

When you have a son.

When I have a son.

So I know. I don't either. Foreskin is very delicate, has tons of nerve endings, and should be handled carefully. You can ask your partner how far back to pull the foreskin and how he likes to be touched. If your partner experiences any pain when trying to retract the foreskin, then stop. So it's different with every man. Just like every man who circumcised is different too. So that you should ask him what feels good, because it might not feel as good. Gently play with the foreskin with your tongue and fingers. Techniques like circling underneath the skin with your tongue and massaging the head with your fingers can feel great. Their tips are really sensitive. Their tips are more sensitive. They're very responsive to the tongue, but, like, they're more sensitive. They say that the tip of an Uncircumcised man is more sensitive than the circumcised man's penis.

Yeah, see, that's the sucks. That's the part that sucks that we'll never really truly know.

Right. But is your tip sensitive?

What? The very tip?

Yeah.

I don't think so. No, I don't believe so.

Got it. Try pulling the skin all the way down and then all the way back up over the head to give them full stimulation.

It's more the middle. The middle part of the shaft is probably the most sensitive.

The most sensitive.

Yeah. I would think.

Okay.

If I had to break down my own penis.

You should really think about it next time you're having sex.

Yeah.

Just for me. Just, if anything, from my own notes, you could just let me know.

I'm like, okay.

I would just like to. We would all like to know menace about your penis and your sensitive areas.

I'll get a diagram of it. Maybe I'll use clone a willy and then I'll.

Oh, yeah, come in with your penis in a mold.

I go, here's my penis. And I'll just, you know, take a little laser point.

I love it. Like in medical school classes. Yeah, right. We'll just hang your penis from the ceiling in here and break it down. Remember, some uncircumcised men find it too sensitive to the touch, and they might want you to avoid that area altogether. Try not to take a personal. Oral can be even more enjoyable for them, they say. However, women who are used to performing oral on a circumcised guy are used to more stronger and direct strokes. But when it comes to dealing with an uncircumcised penis, she might have to be more careful about it. So just, you have to be more sensitive and careful with foreskin around. If you find that he's overly sensitive, let him direct the action. If he knows you are eager to pleasure him, he will just be eager to educate you. So it seems like you gotta, like, just add. Ask the questions. But these are just know that it's more sensitive. So here's some funky facts about circumcision.

Funky facts.

At its peak in the 70s, 91% of American men were snipped at the tip. There has been a sharp decline, and now roughly 65% of boy babies born in the US are circumcised. So the number is dropping.

Really?

Mm. In 1422, the Catholic Church condemned circumcision as a mortal sin. So it used to be a sin. As a sin, yeah. At the turn of the 20th century, circumcision was seen as a way to prevent masturbation.

Are you serious?

Yeah. They thought men wouldn't masturbate. You can't do anything with men to.

Get em stopped masturbating through a wiener anywhere.

Nowadays, circumcision is the most common in the United States, Canada and the Middle East. That's where it all happens. And then here's some quotes from guys who had to say about circumcision. Circumcision may reduce sensitivity some, but I've never heard a man complain that he can't get off because he's circumcised. And then I can't imagine if I were even more sensitive. It already took me long enough to learn how to control ejaculation at my current level of stimulation. I would have to cut short my lovemaking just for a little extra pleasure. Whatever your situation, make the most of what you have.

I heard things about guys reversing their circumcision. Have you heard about that?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But I don't know how you do that exactly. Like, they reverse it when they're older. Yeah, but you can't. Like, you have to do a whole surgery to get the foreskin back out. We were gonna do something about that, but it just seems like you like de.

Grafting off your ass or something to get the extra skin.

I don't know what to. I don't know what to tell you. I don't. I don't really know how you do it, but we could. That could be. Be a circumcision part two show.

Maybe they use part of your earlobe or something. Maybe that's a little piece of extra skin you can use.

Maybe. But you kind of want your earlobe.

Yeah, kind of. I don't know. Maybe I want my foreskin more.

I don't know. You didn't have a choice. I mean, that's what. I was actually debating this with my Sarah, with my sex school friends who are in town over the weekend. And they were, because I was telling them about how we want to ban circumcision in San Francisco. Like, we banned Happy Meals last year in plastic bags. So now we're banning circumcision. And they were just saying that they think it's a good idea because, you know, men like, what, they don't have a choice. They don't have a right to choose and all that stuff. Little baby boys have no right to choose. It's not that you should give them a choice later in life if they'd like to be circumcised. But who's gonna choose that? Like, yeah, I wanna get my foot up. 15.

I heard you gotta stick in a machine now.

Oh, I don't know. I don't wanna know. Okay, tomorrow's show. This is gonna be your favorite show, Menace.

Why?

We're talking about the importance of foreplay.

And facial shots and AI and how.

To have a mind blowing sexual experience without penetration. So without penetration, how you can have amazing sex? Because a lot of times people just. Just have sex and there are so many things you can do that make it hot if you're not just having intercourse.

Did you learn like the power of the force or something?

Yeah. What do you mean have? I. I know all. I know so many magic tricks. I know so many tricks. I will teach you all that tomorrow. Cool.

So wait, you can. Oh, you know what? I am gonna be interested into the. In the show.

Good.

Why?

Why, man?

Because if I can do it without penetration, that means you can probably do something where you can just get yourself off and I don't have to do anything. Right?

Exactly.

Perfect.

No, no, no, it's not true. You're gonna have to get us off too.

Damn.

It's foreplay, Menace. It's. We're playing with each other.

Sorry, this upsets me.

I'm sorry, honey, but I think you like what we learn. Okay, everyone, thanks so much for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com there's one overlooked mineral behind better sleep.

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