Couples and Toys: Tales From the Intern Sex Drawer

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Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that block our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day.

Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cause my man E here, he just.

Got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh my.

The women know about shrinkage.

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God. I feel so.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. you can check out all of our podcasts, our blogs, our videos. We update the site every day. People love it. They love our content. Check it out. You will Too. It'll improve your sex life. That's all I do. I try to help you with your sex and your relationship. That's my purpose on the planet. Right, Anderson?

Hi, Em.

How you doing?

Okay, now it's eavesdropping. Before the program began, and did I hear you say that you burned something, but yet it was still frozen and fire alarms were going off in your apartment? Did I hear that correctly? How do you burn something and it's still frozen? You're having one of those days. Good.

I can't even talk. Okay, she's having a day.

Today's just been a little crazy. I was in San Francisco for the day yesterday, which was insane. And I was prepping for this meeting I had in San Francisco the entire weekend, so I didn't have any downtime, right? And then I got back late, midnight. And today was crazy. So, yeah, when we were at the office, it was busy, but I knew I was coming to the show. And I'm so excited about the show tonight. But I have to eat, right? I have no food in my house. I haven't talked about this in a while because Menace isn't in the show. But he used to always. I've never cooked anything in my life. You don't know this about me, Anderson. Not once.

She's like my wife.

No, no, seriously. If you were like, emily, here's a piece of chicken, cook it. And you had a gun to my head, and you said, if you can't cook this piece of chicken, you will die. I would have to take the bullet. Cause I wouldn't know what to do with it. I don't have an oven, actually, in my house.

What do you just eat from? Fast food chain?

Yeah, Whole Foods. Not fast food. Whole Foods. McAfee next door. Vegan. Okay. The point is, I have no food, but I'm starving, right? And I had to go home after the show. And all I have after work, after work, I have 10 minutes before I have to get here.

I know. I was getting frantic texts from you on the way to the studio.

I said, I'm okay.

I have to eat. I'm freaking out. I get it. Low blood sugar.

Cause I knew I'd be here. So I go home, and there's one in my freezer. Frozen veggie burger from, like, Ralph's.

From, like, months ago.

Probably months ago. But I need protein. I know. And it's all I have to eat. I have no time to stop. So I put it on the. I do have a stovetop, but not an Oven. And I put stuff in it, and I let it cook for a second and.

Wait, you put it in a pot?

In a pot.

What's it called?

The pan? They're called frying pans. Emily.

You don't understand how little knowledge I have. This. I've used it, like, three times. But even the stovetop in my house. So I'm making it, but I'm trying to get. I'm trying to get ready and get my stuff, and then all of a sudden, the fire alarm starts going off because I was in the other room and I'd forgotten about it. Because it's smoking, right? It's smoking. And did you put any oil or bottle. I put oil in there and then teriyaki sauce. Fire alarm sauce on after.

Emily?

No.

Are you sure you don't cook with teriyaki sauce?

It just seemed easier.

Any applesauce in there?

I don't have applesauce. I would have eaten applesauce if I had it. So the alarm's going off, and I'm like, I gotta go. And then a bee flew in my house. You hear that part? And it starts buzzing around my head. And there's a bee. And so there's a bee. And I have a cannon parade. And I was afraid if I killed. I've never gotten stung by a bee.

I'm afraid of it.

But if I spray the bee, it'll. Don't they sting you? Like, if they're pissed?

Yeah.

So I said, okay. I choose not to do that. I put the raid down. I go. I take off the veggie burden, which is burnt, I think, because the fire alarm's. So I start eating it, and it's still frozen in the middle.

Yeah. So you burnt it, and yet you still.

I eat the whole thing, even the frozen part. But I feel better. I'm not hungry at all anymore.

Was that a honeybee?

I don't know.

Just today, there's a little bee.

I was bad. I thought it was a fly.

I learned a sexual fact about honeybees just today.

What?

The wife told me when they have. When male honeybees have sex, their testicles explode and they die when they climax.

I knew that. I actually knew that. That's a great one. It's so true. I wish that happened to a lot of men.

All right, so let's talk about sex and interns.

Especially some of them that I've. Just kidding. Okay. So really excited, today's show. Madison is here. Hi, Madison.

Hi.

How are you? Madison is my sexy, lovely, smart, like super smart intern. Because it's easy to get a hot chick in LA to work for you like an intern, something that's not hard. Yeah, dude, interns everyone. But Madison is actually really smart. She's an amazing writer. You have to check out her blogs. Everyone loves them. And we have intern sex toy review day. We've been doing this for years now. And Lauren, who's my assistant, she was my former intern. She's also been part of intern sex toy review day, doing it for years. And Madison hadn't used. True that you had not used a toy before with your boyfriend?

Yes, that is absolutely true. During my time in my internship, my boyfriend stumbled across my sex toy and it was an experience for everyone.

Exactly. What? Okay, back up. We need details. Okay. How long have you been with your boyfriend?

We have been dating for about two years. Yeah. So on and off. Just kind of getting into things.

And had you used sex toys before? I mean, had you on your own? You had.

Oh, yeah, obviously a drawer. Yeah, I'd been having. It wasn't quite a drawer. I had a magic bullet. One of those cute little cove, like whatever covert numbers where you could just kind of like stash it somewhere.

Is it the bullet? Just a little bullet. Not the one with the cord.

It literally. Oh, no, it's attached to a cord with a little reminder.

I know that. With a round bullet, right?

Exactly.

That's like a starter for a lot of people. Okay.

Exactly. I got it at some passion party when I was like 18 and I've just been like, carrying it with me.

Oh, my God.

I. College. I'm so glad you work now. We have new toys. You did college too?

Yeah.

You've had it for like seven years.

Oh, no. I mean, I went to College in like 2012. Not so bad.

Okay, got it. Okay. It's fine if you did. I just. It upsets me. I want everyone who works for me to have new toys all the time.

Yeah.

Oh, yeah.

That sucks that you have. That's your sex toy drawer. I actually have to shove mine shut.

Shove them shut. I don't even have furniture. I just have sex toys in my house. Like, I just have a house of sex toys. But no, but anyway, so you have the drawer and the toy, and then what else was in there?

That was it. Pretty much. And even that I was a little bit hesitant talking about, like, I hadn't actually brought it up to anyone. Me and my friends don't talk about sex toys.

Yeah.

Just not at all. It's like, not really a thing with My group of friends. So it was just kind of one of those hush hush things. And my boyfriend's a super sexual guy and he'd always ask me about masturbating and I never really felt like comfortable talking to him about it.

Okay, so what would he say to you? He'd say, so, you know, well.

Cause he masturbates all the time. So he'd be like, come on, like you don't masturbate. Tell me, like, da, da, da. How often? When do you do it? How do you do it? And I just be like, yeah, no, like I'm just not a sexual person. And I don't know why.

Wow, okay. Two years. This whole time you're saying it.

Yeah, exactly.

Well, I'm not a sexual person, but. You guys have sex a lot?

Oh, yeah, no, we have sex a lot. But I. When I met him, I wasn't really like having a lot of sex. I was kind of holding on to it, saving it for something special.

Was he your first?

No, definitely not my first. But I had gone on like a six month hiatus when I started dating him. And I made him wait three months.

Wow, that's good.

Yeah, I mean, it worked out.

Three months is good. That's it. Okay, so then you start having sex and then. And then your sex life is good.

It's art. My sex life is great. I'm not gonna lie. Best sex I've ever had.

Okay, so you're 24. How old? 24. Okay, so best sex you had. What makes you say that?

The fact that the first time we ever had sex, I orgasmed like three times.

Oh, my God.

And that's unusual.

That is really unusual.

Yeah, it was kind of incredible.

People know that's unusual because if they do. I want to say this, but typically if a woman does orgasm the first time, she's faking. Okay, go ahead.

Yeah, no, and it was like, it was genuinely real. And I hadn't really had that kind of an explosive experience with anyone before him. I'd had maybe one or two intercourse orgasms in my entire life.

And was it a G spot? Was.

It was both, actually.

Oh, my God. That is really good sex. I was gonna be like, whatever, it's not good. But that. No, that's pretty good.

Okay, so wait, I picture something going on here. So you tell your boyfriend, they're gonna be talking about the sex toy with him right today. And he's like, okay, you can do that under one condition. You explain to everyone what a great sex animal I am.

He made you yeah. How big is.

I promise, how big is penis? It's average.

Average.

Yeah. We talk about it a lot. Like, the fact that it's average.

What does it mean?

And kind of insecure. It's literally like middle.

Middle. Six, Six. Six. Six inches.

I mean, I pulled out a tape measure, but. I know.

I'm sure he has.

Yeah, I know. I'm sure he has, but every guy.

Measures their penis, right, Anderson?

I've heard that.

Anderson, you've measured your penis?

I'm two Bic lighters.

Yeah, I was gonna say some people.

Measure it mini Bics.

Not the mini Bics, bitch. The big ones.

Of course.

That's what I meant.

It's like a perspective shot, you know, like, compared to a roll of quarters. Bigger. Smaller. Definitely bigger.

Okay. Bigger than roll. Okay, got it. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to get your words. Penis. I told her we wouldn't get into too much. I can't help it. Okay, so. I'm kidding. So he. So you like his penis and you like having sex with him, and it's really good, and you've orgasms and does he now when you say but, you said, I'm not a sexual person, but yet you're having good sex with him.

Yeah.

He thinks you're a sexual person. Right.

Honestly, he didn't. I think he thought that I was, like, a sexual retard before I met him. We don't really talk about it all that much. Or we didn't talk about it all that much. That's what I'll get around to.

Okay, got it. So, okay, what about oral sex? Did you perform oral sex?

Yes. That's another fun thing. And, I mean, we didn't talk about this beforehand, Anderson, I swear. But I didn't even tell her.

I was gonna ask her about her. I was gonna say, keep it to the toy, but, no, I can't.

Yeah, no, it's already open. Bag of worms, you know, everywhere. Can of worms. Yeah. I didn't like oral sex. Like, I did never let guys go down on me if they started to head over there. I was like. Because I had a couple really bad experiences with it. One actually resulted in me having some kind of, like, a situation where I had to go to the doctor. I had been, like, hurt by someone who had been performing oral sex on me.

Oh, my God.

Hurt.

What did he do?

He bite you? What did he. Light a bit.

I mean, we're gonna get real graphic in here. But there is a part of me that was swollen much bigger than it should have been. And it was because of sex.

Yeah. Wait, like razors between his teeth?

I don't know if he bit it or he, like. I don't know what he did. He might have. I have no idea. All I know, it was. It was rough. And so after that, like, I'd had a couple experiences. The guys being like, I'm gonna be the best you ever had, and then instead, just like, giving me roadburn and.

Oh, my God.

Yeah, so I just stopped.

People listen to my oral sex tip shows, go honestly.

And I'm also like, I used to be really self conscious about my lady situation. I thought it was ugly. I still kind of wonder if it is. I think all girls kind of question if maybe their vagina is ugly. So I definitely thought that mine was okay.

Really?

Yeah.

So, yeah.

Lauren, do you have a question if yours was ugly?

I spent my college years in a sorority house, so we. I got to see other girls often and then.

But did you compare? I never. I don't ever pay attention. I guess I'm so, like, I always thought mine was fine. I barely played, so that's what I thought.

No one complained.

I never cared until someone gave me a compliment. And then I started caring what you said.

What?

No. Someone gave me. No, so. Oh, my God, this is so bad.

This is Lauren, my assistant.

Anyway, yeah, I got a text message that said, oh, I can't wait to, like, see that, like, beautiful pussy. Beautiful pussy.

I know what it said.

Yeah, exactly. And I was like, oh, that's kind of a weird thing to say.

Yeah.

Oh, like, oh, okay. But then I was like, oh, that's. Now I'm.

Oh, wait, do other people think that my pussy's not beautiful? Right, Right, Exactly. Oh, God. Well, okay. Yeah. I'm telling you that it. I think that women, a lot of women are. Do have those insecurities about it. And I'm telling you, if you're. If you have that. I always tell women, like, put a mirror up to it, like, touch yourself. Look at yourself. I wrote that. Who was that blog? That was it.

Glamour, how to masturbate.

But what was the glamour one? When I was. Yeah. Okay, so I have a new column@glamour.com Glamour magazine, something every Sunday night. And I did Wrote specifically tips in there for women about, like, how you should, like, learn to love it. I mean, no, you've heard me say this. You've truly read it. Because it was a homework. It was how to do your. What was it? Right, like, tips that, like, not homework, but, like, Sexual homework, masturbation. So the point is, a lot of women do have, like, insecurities. And men. Yeah, and maybe men do judge. Just like we were talking about men's penises just now. But it's not like we won't sleep with a big one or small. We don't really care. But guys be like, oh, it was hot. It was not, but if they like you. So anyway, women just learn to love your bodies. It is how it is. We all. Everyone looks different. That's the thing. There is no perfect way that your vagina should look. But anyway, I get it. And when you're younger, 20s, I understand. And also, the truth is, women aren't that comfortable with men performing oral sex on them as well as guys don't know what the hell they're doing in their 20s, typically. So case in point, you're in the emergency room. So this guy is blowing your mind.

Yeah. So he is already doing a great job. And when he would ask me about masturbation and sex toys and things of that nature, I just kind of like, dodge the question. I'd be really vague. Just I wasn't really ready to share that part of myself with him. Also, I was kind of worried that if I brought up the fact that I had a vibrator, he would either A, be intimidated or B, be like, I love this. Sex is so much better with this toy. Let's never have regular sex again. And that's.

Oh, so you thought he would think. Interesting.

Yeah, I mean, because like I said, he's a really sexual person. I wasn't really sure what to expect with it, and it's just like I wanted to.

How often did you. Were you masturbating on your own, though, with the boyfriend?

Honestly, not that often. Like, it was like a once in a while kind of thing. Especially when I was living in the dorms. Anyone who's living in a dorm knows that masturbation is just like, does not go hand in hand with dorm room.

Living hand in hand. So. Okay, so you did that much. And then. And then what happens with the boyfriend? Okay, so also you guys, she details this amazingly in the blog at sexthomy.com, but let's talk about the story.

Okay, so I had been pleasuring myself. My favorite time to masturbate is in the late afternoon.

Yeah, that's the best time, right? Take it out.

Even though my roommates. Yeah, even though my roommates are home. I don't really care. I just, you know, go up my room, do my thing. And so I had masturbated before he was coming over and he came over.

Kind of like pre game.

Yeah, exactly. And so I, he comes over and I'm like getting ready and everything and he starts kind of like looking suspicious, looking around my room and I'm like, what are you doing? He's like, I think I hear something. And he's following this sound straight to my goody drawer where my little bullet is in there just a buzzing away, no big deal. I had like it got jostled in there or something and it turned itself back on. And he immediately goes, is this a vibrator? And I just like froze deer in the headlights was like, okay, I have two choices. I can either lie to him and be like, oh my God, it was a gag gif. Don't look at it, just look away and like throw it in the corner. Or I could just be honest and see what happened.

Right.

So I just was like, yeah, that's a vibrator. And all these questions came up. But he was so excited. I mean like eyes bright and bubbly, like new version of Grand Theft Auto excited. And I was like, yeah. I was like, okay, it's gonna be alright.

So then did you, did you use it together that moment?

Yeah, not right then. We were about to go somewhere so it was kind of like.

So you brought it in the car?

Yeah. So he didn't let it go? Let's just say I wouldn't have gotten away with us not using it after that. And so yeah, we brought it in maybe like that night it could have been a day later. And it was really fun. I like let him first I showed him how I use it by myself.

Okay.

And then I let him try it on me and then we had sex and used it the whole time and it was awesome. It was great.

That's. And he, and he likes it because he enjoyed it. He never used a toy with a woman before.

Yeah, I don't think he had.

And what did he like about it?

He basically liked the fact that I was enjoying myself so thoroughly and he.

Just adds it now. Here's a. You're multi orgasmic woman. But yet adding the toy was like, it was extra. It was like I always see it's like a threesome but it's like not awkward after and you have to kick the person on a butt.

It was.

Yeah, it was essentially leave the first one to leave whatever, however goes.

It was that whole thing where it's like he, you know, he can have an orgasm every time guaranteed and it takes me a little bit longer. So essentially, all of a sudden, with.

Like, most women on the planet.

Yeah, with my little friend, all of a sudden, I was, like, lapping him. I was getting multiple orgasms out of it before he was even close to done. And he loved that. Like, he loved seeing what it could do.

He didn't have to, like, think about his, like, yeah, great Aunt Martha or something. So he wouldn't have orgasm. Exactly, because you already comment. Right. So it helped.

Yeah, it was.

That's awesome. So it was a good experience overall. I'm so happy for you.

It was fantastic. And then it also opened up the conversation for other things. So, like, now that he knew that I, you know, I obviously masturbated, I had a toy. I was more ahead of the game than he thought that I was. All of a sudden, he starts asking me other questions of other things that I want to try and things I might be into and things he's into and sex toys that he might want to get for me. And all of a sudden, it was literally just, like, everywhere.

Just.

It totally opened up our sex life.

Okay, so this was just in the last few months then?

Yeah, this happened right around the same time I started that.

Well, you also took a job at sex with them.

Yeah.

Two, three months. So did that. I mean, he must have thought that if you took a job, it wasn't just cuz, like. Yeah, you, like. You know what? Tweeter. Yeah, she's a freak. No, I mean, you got to think something now that. Not that we're freaks. We're all nice, very nice girls. But, yeah, so this is.

You did go to lube wrestling, right? With me.

Lauren. Oh, Lauren. Her first business trip. Business trip to Vegas, which we do go twice a year. She did go. She did on the first night. Came to a lube wrestling match and won. Right? Did you win? Yes. She kicked ass and she broke her toe, though. That was a bummer. But it was a good trip, so. Yeah. Welcome to see. I'm so glad this is your sex life, because this is what I want to say. It's funny because this was our show today, but last night I was texting with a guy friend, and he was like, oh, I was just dating this girl Emily, and she had a rabbit, and she talked about her rabbit, and it made me think of you. I'm like, this all through text was so annoying because it was like, taking. I'm like, can we just talk about this for five minutes? It took me, like, an hour to get the story out of him. And he was like, well. I said, well, have you used it together? No, we never. He just broke up with her, actually. They were together three months. Why didn't you ever use it? I don't know. I was nervous to bring it up because I thought maybe she wouldn't want to show me and. But then she would bring it up and then I. But whatever. And he was like, I just. I didn't want. You know. So here's my point. And so he's never used toy with a girl. And he was like, I'm not a bum because I thought it'd be hot. He goes, I think it's so sexy to watch a woman masturbate and to get off, it's so hot. And. And I was like, yeah, why don't women understand that it's mute or mutual masturbation? And so I think your story's a great example why I'm always talking about sound like sex stories. Like you should get them. Like I'm a pusher or something. It's because whatever it is, it could be like a bondage tape. It could be. It could be a massage candle. It could be anything. I mean, it could be blindfolding each other. It's just a little extra something than what you're normally doing that will keep it interesting. And it opens the floodgates. And I've never once. So. So it's not to myself. Like, people really don't like. Women do have insecurities about like, oh, he's gonna see my org. I'm like that crazy face. My orgasm. Like, I don't want him watching me. My ugly vagina. Whatever things are going through your head. And I don't know, Anderson, do guys think, oh, she's gonna see me touching my penis in my masturbation face when I come?

Some guys might. Yeah. But you know, once that game on.

Yeah. When you're like exactly.

But women afterwards, you might have some regrets.

Yeah. But women can't help thinking about it. So. So what I'm saying is this is. This is like the thing is that women are mentioned. Understand that it's not only like going to make things interesting, but it again, it opens the door for new things for conversation. So now it's like this whole gateway thing. So I said to him last time, I was like, oh, yeah, you know, you should next time. Whatever. So I said that. Sorry. So I thought he. Yes. I love. This is the point that women have to understand that mutual masturbation is also. Yeah. A great way for. To learn for couples.

You know, you guys don't give yourselves enough credit is what it is. Like, you don't realize. You think, like, why would this be sexy? Me touching myself and doing this?

This is what I'm saying. That's my point.

There's websites, many of them, that are devoted to that. I mean, that gets guys like, to see that a lot.

Here was my bottom line. So I. Thank you, Anderson. I was having, like, a mind gets. It's the. It's the frozen veggie burger is making me. Don't eat those brain. I didn't mean to. I didn't know it was frozen. It was burnt.

On the bright side, what is she gonna get? Like, salmonella from the veggie burger?

Yeah, I probably am.

I'm gonna die. I'm about to die.

I'm like, not. I see. Literally, I'm seeing spots. No, but I was gonna say, is that that masturbation with the toys with the boyfriend? Is that. I've never once in all these years I've been doing this, I've never got an email from people like, oh, why'd you tell me to blindfold my husband? Was the worst idea or what? You know, so it's like, it's always. It's never bad. It's always. People were, like, afraid of it and whatever, but there's never been. It was like, it ruined our sex life. She dumped me and married her vibrator. Like, never happened, you know, and no women. And if you are with a guy who's like, oh, it's gross, or why can't I please? You might not be your person. So I think this is a great example of that.

But if those things do happen, you should probably email us, because that would be hilarious.

Oh, yeah, if they do, email me@feedbackextme.com.

If something crazy happened when you pulled.

Out a vibrator, that is a great idea. Please tell us, because I've never. All I hear, and this is, I think our event at Hustler last week. There was a bunch of people said, oh, oh, no. It was the new intern today that I was interviewing. She's not replacing Madison. She said to me, oh, and I heard about your podcast from my ex boyfriend, like, six months ago, and he told me to listen to it, and it totally opened up my sex life. And then we started buying all these toys and we start cock rings and all this stuff. And she was just, like, excited that. That too. But then she said they broke up before they used the cock ring. And she was really bombed. Like. Well, we've got like hundreds of them in the office. Okay, so now you use a toy now, do you. Now where. What other things did it open up for you?

Okay, well, so you gave me a G Twist Smart Vibes from Good Vibes.

Oh, this is the intern sex story. Hence the intern sex story. How do you like it? Say it again. It's the.

Okay, it is the G Twist Smart vibe from Good Vibes Toys. It came highly recommended on goodvibes.com friendly, non threatening. It's pink and it's shaped like a penis, which I actually was, like, gravitating toward because I've never had an internal sex problem.

Oh, you just had the bullet.

Yeah. So I've never.

It's so interesting because you have G spot orgasms very easily, but you never had a. I mean, I guess you don't need. Can you give them with. Can you give yourself a G spot orgasm with your fingers?

No, I was actually laughing about that. For some reason, my hand can't go that way. I can't seem to finagle it where I can get that angle. My boyfriend can do it very easily. Really? Like no effort at all? Yeah, I have no idea what it is. He just. He has the touch and I don't. But I know it's possible.

I get why you like this guy. Okay, so when we come back, you're gonna tell us all about it. But first we have to do a quick word from our sponsors here. So, as you know, I so appreciate everyone listening to the show and help you have the sex life that you deserve. So I want to give you the best shot possible. So thanks for supporting all my sponsors. So here's one. This is an important one, people. Have you ever felt like you don't feel that fresh down Under? We were talking about insecurities earlier. Whatever. But sometimes, you know, you shower in the morning, at night, you might not be so fresh. I created a solution called Down Under Comfort. It's a cream to powder formula that keeps you fresh and dry all day, which means you'll be ready for action at any time. It's for men and women, can be used anywhere in your body. It prevents sweat stains and chafing. And that feeling that you might not be so fresh. You're probably thinking, I showered this morning. I'm fine. But guess what? Hygiene is the number one complaint I do hear from men and women about sex. So the weather. It's summer. It's hot, it's muggy, it's gross. And Your breasts, your balls. Everything gets sweatier. So check out Downer comfort. Go to emilyandtoni.com, use coupon code EMILY for 20% off. And this is the thing about this product is that you never think you need a product like this until you use it. And then you can't stop using it. Changes your life also. I have to thank you, everyone. Good Vibes, you gotta check them out. They provide us with all these amazing sex toys that we talk about on the show. And they carry the Vibratex, the Rabbit habit, which we love. They carry the magic wand and all the other toys. So go to sexwithemily.com, click on the Good Vibrations banner, and then you'll see all my favorite toys. I have a store there. Use coupon code GVMILY20 for 20% off. So check it out. Now that's sexualmily.com, click on Good Vibes GV Emily 20. 20% off. Get your foot toys. Okay, Madison. Hi. So tell me about the lovely G twist.

Okay, so first things first. One of the best things about it that I discovered was that it has eight function settings for vibrating and pulsating. And then also on top of that, it's got these little, like, plus and minuses so you can control how intense vibrations are.

It's like the sleep number bed.

Exactly. Except mix it all up.

The sleep number bed does not come with a turbo boost button at the bottom, which scared the bejesus out of me the first time I used it. Yeah, it was like all of a sudden, it's just like. Like it's kicking. It's like in Fast and the Furious, like, kicking. That car with the nitrous or whatever, it just takes it off and terrified me. No, it feels good when you're expecting it. Like, it wasn't quite.

Well, it was like a new car. You were like, test driving. Yeah.

So that was one of my vagina. Yeah, that was one of my points, is that. That I wanted to be very clear on is that when you're trying out a sex toy for the first time, I would definitely recommend doing it solo. I tried the G twist for the first time with my boyfriend, and my goodness, because he can't feel it. He has no idea what's going on, and it can get a little uncomfortable.

It can hurt you. Keeps pushing it.

Yeah, exactly. He's the one who scared me with the turbo boost. So it was like, coming inside of me and he hit the turbo boost, and I was like, what is going on? And then I was like, please never do that ever again. So as far as a vibrator goes, can I just say, this thing knocks my Magic Bullet totally off the shelves.

She threw it away?

Yeah. I mean, I haven't even looked at it in so long. Sorry. Magic Bullet. You were great for a while, but I've upgraded.

I'm so loyal. Like, it went to college, high school, the whole thing.

Exactly. But I found something new which is huge in pink and has eight function settings. So I've mentioned that I am able to have a G spot orgasm. Unfortunately, I was not able to. To find it with this guy.

Okay.

I mean, I lubed it up to the maximum. Anyone who tries this toy, I'd recommend using as much lube as possible.

Lube is always important with. It's great to use lube with toys.

Yeah, absolutely. So I'd recommend lots of lube. One of the things about it, it's ridged. Like, it's got like a kind of like a spiral pattern on it, which is supposed to enhance pleasure. But I found it to be a little bit too girthy for me right off the bat.

Every woman's different, right?

Yeah. Maybe just because it's my first toy.

Or something like that. Your first internal toy and used to a penis.

Because your boyfriend's average.

Yeah. Well, maybe that's it, too.

Why do you gotta bring up her boyfriend's penis again?

Poor guy.

Yeah.

You know.

Okay.

It does its work. That's. It's not.

It does. I think your boyfriend's penis is like the.

It's the proof.

He always.

He's always like.

He nailed it from the first time they had sex. Anderson, can you say that?

He nailed it? I get it.

But I'm okay, so. And then you. Okay, you used it with him. The first time you used it was with him. Okay, I got it. And then. Okay, good. So there's other Keep Going Feather G Spot toys, too, that we could try for you, but you've also used it.

I use it externally. Yeah. So I looked online, actually, because I was, like, not ready to give up on it. I was like, you know what? Other people gave it great reviews, so I'm gonna try it different ways. I tried, like, mounting it, basically. Like, I've tried it in all different ways. Shapes formed.

You mounted the G twist.

Yes.

Were you alone with it or was it.

Yes, I was. Because I just couldn't bring myself.

So you gotta mount it.

I just couldn't bring myself to mount the sex toy right in front of him. I had to wait until I was alone.

Sometimes you wanna wait till you mount the toy. I get it. Y.

Like said online that that's the way they do it, is they, like, lay on their stomach and use it that way because it, like, presses more on the G spot.

It does. It's true. Because has a little bendy tip.

It's like that thing that we were talking about where you can, like, put your hand on your pelvis and that can help put more pressure on it. It's like if you lay on your stomach, you're doing that for your own purposes. But I'm just clumsy, and I had trouble maneuvering it. And it was just. It was just kind of. I think it's too expert level for me, personally. I think a more expert, like, expert toy user would get a lot more benefit out of it.

Yeah.

Or.

Yeah, exactly. And I do it. Every toy doesn't work for every person. But you. But you like it externally and it's strong. I know. I love it. See, I love the G twist. I've used it. I get it. But every vagina is different. Like snowflakes. Yes. All different sizes, shapes.

Absolutely.

All those things. So I totally got it.

Is there such thing as the sex games, like the X Games, or, like, chicks who are. Because when she's talking about, like, how you got to be an advanced user, I'm just picturing, like, chick came in on the stage going, I'm an advanced user of these toys.

I'm a sex games gold medalist. I think I would be the advanced user of toys.

Yeah, I bet you would.

I was about to say, I was like, I probably. Like, I.

You ever make anyone wait three months.

Like.

Madison did here?

I'm my first. I made him wait a year.

Yeah, but you're, like, 13, right?

I was 17. Have I ever made anyone wait three months since? No.

No.

But Max was 24. I can't remember the first. I mean, maybe when in my 24, maybe I. Maybe I would wait a month.

Yeah.

It's reasonable. Three months is a long time.

Yeah. No, but people do it. Good for you, Honestly. And that was great. So things are. Now I want to hear more about how you think it's expanded because you said once you bought the toy and it opened up all these things. So tell me where it's gone.

So now we have moved on to one. He just keeps buying lube, and I don't understand.

I know. Buy things with my. I have lube in the office. Would you stop buying lube?

He does this. It's not even me. I haven't purchased lube in my entire life.

He just, you know, that lube is awesome. Everyone, check out the. If you go to again to my good vibes page. There's the please meet the please. Lube is great. By goodbye, I mean all my favorite lubes are there. But it enhances sex, right?

Yeah. I also brought him home the Fleshlight lube. And I brought him home the Max for Men masturbation cream. And he went nuts. Like, he went totally bananas over it. And masturbation guys are like, what do I need?

You have a hand. What do I need? But, like, why not try something else? We've got a million things to try. So try some freaking lube.

Yeah, it's not that. It's not the dark ages anymore. You do not need a tube sock.

Masturbate with some cream. Big fucking deal. Like, do something different.

Next up, Fleshlight. Emily just hooked me up with a Fleshlight. I get to bring it home to my boyfriend and be the hero.

Does he want one?

He's been asking, like, I brought it up to him, Poppy. And he's been asking about it, you know, like, kind of like that little kid waiting at the door just like, so is my flashlight here yet?

And I'm like, wait forever. But otherwise, you're desk. I walk in today, I'm like, how are you working? This is Madison's desk in the office. She's got this big desk, and the entire thing is taken up with flashlights. And then Madison's, like, working off. You can move the box of flashlights off your desk.

I make do.

No, you're good. You're like that. You're spunky like that. You're cool. You can adapt your adapter.

So you're gonna bring it home.

Will you come back on?

Absolutely.

Will he come back on?

I don't know.

Could he call in anonymously?

He could call in, probably talk about it or.

So the Fleshlight is a male masturbation sleep. You've heard me talk about it before. And are you gonna use it? So this is a great mutual masturbation thing.

Absolutely.

You could get him up with the Fleshlight and then we'll give you another toy. Whatever you want.

You know, I'm taking on the Dahlia.

The Dahlia. The vibrato.

I'm really excited.

You are gonna love the Vibratox Dahlia because that is also a G spot toy, but it's very differently shaped.

Smooth.

It's smooth. And it has different functions, so use it first. Powerful but it's also got the lot of clitoral stimulation. It's completely different. You are.

You're really excited.

Dude, this is gonna rock your world. You've never had, like. It's like one. A rabbit. It's like a version of the rabbit, but it's. It's has the little.

Yeah, it's got, like a little butterfly.

It's got a little butterfly with the clitorises. And then it's got the thing that the things that go.

Never done that.

Oh, use it tonight and come in tomorrow.

I will. I'm coming in on Thursday. Okay. So I will.

Like a blender.

Yeah. No, the rabbit habit actually is over. The pearls with the blender goes around and around, but this one doesn't just has the top, so it goes. It looks like a rat. Like the rabbit, by the way, one.

Of these ones that, like, kind of rotates like. Oh, there's a rotating spider.

So it internally goes in her vagina.

No, you can see around the radio.

It goes in her vagina. And then there's a little thing at the top that spins around and it's like, hello, G Spot. Hello, G Spot, if you want. But you could also separately control. And then it's got this little fluttering thing on the outside, like a little butterfly that goes on her clitoris. It's dahlia. Like a flower.

It actually looks as precious as she's describing.

For the record, it's really cool.

It sounds very. Like a lot of moving parts.

It's adorable.

Well, we'll see how it goes down.

In the old days, did you have to crank up your vibrators?

Oh, these are.

No, there is an antique vibrator museum in San Francisco. I have a video of it. They never need to go.

They look like treasure devices, though they.

Don'T quite look like. They're, like, huge. Well, have you seen, like, Masters of Sax Entertainment? Like, the Big Five? Anyway, we'll get into that, but Madison, so. You rock. You've been awesome. Everyone should check out Madison stuff on my website. It's under her name, Madison sexfamily.com and any last words? And how do you like being intern here?

I love being an intern. I'm not just saying that because.

No, but honestly, I should have said that. So what do you hate about it?

I'm having so much fun. The only thing I hate is living so far. But I know you gotta move to. When you move to September.

Yeah. You'll be so happy. It'll change your life. Is your boyfriend to come with you?

That's up for debate.

Are you gonna dump him?

No, no, no, no, no, no. That would be a really awkward.

Don't. I'm kidding. Oh, he's listening to show. Don't break up with them. I'm kidding. Don't both talk after. Okay, everyone. Anderson, you're awesome.

Thank you.

Okay, thanks, Anderson.

Thank you, darling. And thanks, everyone. Follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram. All that stuff is sex with Emily. Thanks so much for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

Thanks so much for listening to the show. As you heard, we did talk about the flashlight, and it really does. Madison, are you excited to get the flashlight for your boyfriend?

Yes, I am so excited.

I know it's gonna be awesome because it's actually. You get to masturbate with it or you could use it on. On your own. A lot of men use it. It simulates the sensations of real sex and it looks and feels like the real deal. You had them on your desk all day. Did you think there was a bunch of peens? But it's hidden, though. It's a flesh. It's in a nice little. They call it a fleshlight because it looks like a flashlight.

I'm getting the flight. Getting him the flight too. So it's super stealthy. You have no idea what the flight is. Opening it up.

Yeah, exactly. And then even then, you can't tell. And it's really cool. It's lightweight, the flight, all of this. And they also have the stamina training unit. If you want to last longer in bed, you'll experience some of those mind blowing orgasms. If you have a penis and you use it, which I do not, but I wish I did. And if you, you know, want to check any of these out, you should go to sex withelmi.com fleshlight or just click on the Fleshlight banner on my page and you can see where it goes. To all my favorite fleshlights, the most popular ones that I know you've all been buying because you're buying them like crazy. Madison's coming back and telling us about her experience again. Go to sexwithelmi.com Fleshlight check it out.

You're kind of like a Fleshlight, Emily.

What do you mean?

Because somebody, one of your friends, said if it could cook, I'd leave my wife.

Yes, you're right. I can't cook. Oh, my God.

So if Emily could cook, he would leave this wife.

No one would even date me. Jesus. Okay, thanks everyone for listening. Sex With Emily, perhaps play a little.

Game called Just a Tip, Just for a second, just to see how it feels. Hey, this is Jordan Harbinger, host of the Art of Charm podcast, the number one dating and relationship advice podcast in itunes.

I'm Emily Morse, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, the number one sex and relationship podcast on itunes and@sexwithemily.com. and this is just the tip.

You know, a lot of guys are writing in and saying as they get older, their libido is going up and down. But I'm actually hearing from a lot of young guys that are saying, you know, certain things are killing their sex drive as well. What are some of these things guys are doing that are just really screwing them up?

It's true. I've actually noticed as well that it's young men, too, and older men. So, first of all, for anyone alcohol, I know we all want a little liquid courage. I've heard it before. There's nothing wrong with a little liquid courage. But when you go beyond one drink.

Or two, it can interfere with erections.

Right. It drains the courage from your penis.

Exactly.

Elsewhere. And it doesn't go back.

Exactly. So unfortunately, you might have the courage to make the move, but your penis is having none of it. Also tobacco, even a few cigarettes. A lot of guys like, oh, I only smoke when I drink. How often do you drink? Every day. Guess what? That could affect you too. It actually impairs the blood flow to your penis.

Oh, no.

So that's a bummer.

Yeah. That's a big problem.

Yep. Gotta bite out of your butt.

You smoke yourself impotent.

Exactly.

Oh, man.

See? Makes you never want to smoke again. Or antidepressants. They also have a lot of sexual side effects, including loss of desire, difficulty reaching orgasm. So check with your doctor.

That's ironic, because that would make me so depressed.

Well, exactly. You're like, oh, my God, I'm so depressed. Oh, now I feel better. Can't have an orgasm. I'm gonna kill myself again. No, no, it's true.

It is a bummer.

So there's these huge side effects. And then marijuana. Very sexually unpredictable drug. Yeah. People say it enhances lovemaking, while many users say it makes them withdrawal or more anxious.

Oh, yeah. I mean, people in college were like, man, I'm so horny. I smoke pot, I smoke pot, I curl up in a ball and go to sleep.

Exactly.

That's why I don't do it after.

Each drinking thing ever. Exactly. Right. So those are some things. Check in with your diet, your health and the healthier you are, the healthier sex life you'll have.

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