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Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show you're gonna love. We're answering all your emails about orgasms, fetishes, jealousy, challenges in your relationship, sexual confidence and so much more. So thanks for listening. I need to talk to you about something. Some very exciting news. You all know I love my magic wand. My magic wand vibrator that I've talked about for years. It's been around for 30 years. Not mine personally, but the magic wand has been, we call it the Cadillac of all vibrators because it truly, if you've never had an orgasm, you want to have multiple orgasms. This thing started out as a personal body massager and now it has taken over as being the top vibrator for 30 years. But now the big news. Vibratex, the company that brought you the original magic wand, they have released it from its cord. There is no cord. There is no limits to how you can enjoy it. It is now rechargeable. Do you know what that means? Do you know what that means? Where you could Take it. You could, like, go camping. You could take it anywhere.

I know. Before that you had to bring a generator to plug it into.

Now I know. Menace, do you have.

It's out in the wild.

I know. It's crazy. And it's really good. It has a new silicone head. It really feels amazing, I have to say. And it has more speed patterns, four amazing vibration patterns, intensity settings. I'm so loving my Magic Wand Rechargeable. And you should check out their website, magic wandrechargeable.com. because if you've been hearing about this magic wand thing for a while and you haven't really, you haven't even bought one yet, you gotta check it out, read more about it and it'll be your sure thing. It'll be your go to. And you can use it during sex, the whole thing. During intercourse. I hope you love it as much as we do. I know you will. Fill us in. Thanks for listening.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standard.

Oh my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean?

Like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good. Being bad feels pretty good.

Well, you know, Emily's not the kind.

Of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to all of our podcasts. Sign up for our mailing list and do that. Sign up for it because it's a good time. It's a good time. Email once a week. And also we have two shows a week, so easily you could subscribe, you could listen on your smartphone, you could listen online, however you want to listen. Hi, Menace. What's up with you?

How you doing?

I'm so good.

Good. We. We had a great couple of shows. The best couple of shows.

They were fun.

A round table.

I know. What'd you think about that?

Single people. That was awesome.

That was awesome.

And then casual.

It's the casual sex show from last week, right, Madison. Madison's here too. Producer Madison. Yep, last week.

And then I announced that I have a dog. My dog, Chiro. And a lot of people from the Sex with Emily podcasts are following the dog and loving the dog, so follow it on Instagram.

My dog, Churro. Yes, I'm loving it.

C H U R R O. And then. Yeah. So that's what's been going on with my life. Just, you know, working like crazy. I'm gonna take some vacation, go to Boston and New York. So what's up?

How long are you gone? Do we know this schedule?

I don't know.

Probably not pass it by us because we might need to do some shows. So just let me know where you're gonna be.

I know all the. Yeah, all the scheduling has been up to before that, so I don't know. We haven't talked about it yet.

But I love that you're traveling. That's good. So the dog. Has it brought you closer together? Does your girlfriend want to get pregnant now?

No, no, no, not at all. This is very, like, anti. Because it's. She's still just a puppy. Yeah. So she wakes up in the middle of the night, and I can't really wake up in the middle of the night because I have to work every morning. I get up at 3am and then so she has to wake up. So it's kind of put her in a bad mood because she has to work and she has to do.

This is hard. Yeah, that's a bu.

Mean, you have to wake up every two hours for the dog.

So cute.

Oh, the cute.

Every two hours. She's not trained yet.

Yeah, she's just a baby.

Send her to, like, a school to train for like a week, and then you bring them back and they're trained.

I believe you can probably just do that. Yeah.

Boarding school.

No, people do that. Like my brother.

Yeah.

He, like, adopted a dog and was like, take the dog for a few weeks.

Yeah, I'm sure you can do that, but that costs like, thousands of dollars and I'd rather go to Boston, New York.

And I totally get it, but I think that's exciting. Congratulations. Mazel. To have what they say in the Jewish. The Jewish people.

Thank you so much. We were kind of talking last time that you were gonna go on a date and how that goes, what you end up doing.

I did end up going on a date, and it was just mediocre. I ended up cutting it short. I had to make up a.

How do you cut it short?

You say, I have a really early meeting tomorrow. I didn't get a lot of sleep last night, which were all true, and I just wasn't into it. Here's the thing. I think that sleep so much about life is trusting your gut and your instincts about people. And a lot of what I've done in dating is stayed too long, as you know. I've dated people for too long. I've kept employees for too long, you know, giving people a chance, whatever. But a lot of times you just know.

You just know you're growing as a person before you're like, ah, I don't really like them, but I'm still gonna go out anyways.

I know. Someone told me that yesterday too, that I've grown. Oh, I was with my friends from San Francisco. Were in town. That's like. They're like, wow. You're like, emily. Like, they haven't seen me in three years. But remember. Do you remember my friend Stelio who has an amazing house in Noe Valley? We used to go. He moved to Santa Fe, but we used to go to his house and.

We could show him there.

It's beautiful.

Awesome.

Yeah. And he's been my friend for 15 years. And he's like, I can't even believe what you're talking. Like, he knew he was making no money. I'm like, instead of paying taxis, $40 for the airport, can I drive you to the airport? You know?

Yeah.

And I told him all the business. He was exciting. So, yeah, I do feel like I'm growns up.

That's great.

Thank you very much.

Good.

So, yeah, the date was. And then I had a wedding this weekend in Ojai, which is so funny. So I went, have you been to Ojai?

I've heard of it.

It's pretty. It's like, on the way near Santa Barbara. I know. You and I are like, so Northern California was like, have you not been to Ojai? I'm like, okay, I'll tell you about. I know Napa, as you know. I know Big Sur, but I don't know much. So Ojai is really pretty. There's lots of spas there and stuff. But I went for a friend's wedding. Funny enough, a guy met on the beach in Thailand 15 years ago when I was traveling. An Israeli guy, sweetheart, we had a weak fling on the beach 15 years ago.

Okay.

We're Facebook friends.

Yeah.

So I was in Israel, as you know, and he saw that I was in Israel, and he said, oh, my.

God, you're in Israel.

Are you gonna be in Tel Aviv? I live in Tel Aviv. What? I'm marrying a woman from LA in a few months. She lives with me, I think you guys, you'd be, you know. And I haven't talked to him. He's 15 years. I said, awesome, I'll come meet up with you guys. So we all went out. I love his wife. Literally, we did not stop talking the whole time. She's awesome. So they're like, come to our wedding. So nothing awkward, weird that I hooked up with her husband 15 years ago.

I don't know. I've been invited to weddings, right? Where I've had past relationships with somebody and I never go.

But it was a week in Thailand. It was. It was still 15 years ago. Not even a week. It might have been three days with.

The groom or, you know. Well, no, no, it looks like naked and all kinds of crazy stuff.

It's been so long. And here's the thing. I think she's so funny, though, because she said, well, when he said you were from la, because I'm not from la. I'm from San Francisco, if anything, in Michigan. I thought, and she's from Beverly. Like, she's from Beverly Hills. She's like. I just thought, oh, God, she's gonna want to play the name game, girl. And then she's like, oh, my God. But we just loved each other right away. And you're right, it is. All my friends are like, you're going without a date without knowing anybody. And I'm like, just driving up to Ojai, never been. So I got there and it's. Yeah. I love stag, by the way, at a wedding. But it was really fun. It was at their family house outside, and it was half part Israeli, part American, and it was beautiful. And they met on Tinder in Israel. Cause she lives in Israel. Yeah, they met on Tinder. Wow. It was exciting. And I just know you love all my ex boyfriend stories, but you don't even have boyfriend. But ex.

Whatever.

I just think that connections in life, if you can keep them going. If you spend time in your life with someone that you for what really care about, because we have a history.

You really cared about.

But you know what?

I met the clothes I met. They have such interesting friends. If I had gone out with them in Israel and it was a bust and they were boring, would I be at their wedding? No. But I found them very, very interesting people. And I love that.

I went, that's totally cool. I would hang out with them, like, 99% of the time. I just wouldn't do it at their wedding. That's all. I'm just. We're just different. You Go on trips with your ex boyfriends, with your current boyfriend. We're just different people.

Which I'm gonna do that again. Right, Totally. We are different people. But that's what makes the world go around. So it's funny, our last show about casual shacks, I just wanted to mention. Did you put this in this email in here? Oh. Cause going back to that really quickly, someone said they listened to the show. And after listening last week's show with the panel, one thing struck him. What happened to sex being an act of love? While sex was filled with physical excitement promotes pure enjoyment. When one performs sex as an act of love, not just lust. Personally, I think it brings you another level. Maybe it's a topic for another show. I think he was just thinking that we didn't talk about love enough during casual sex, which it was a casual sex shout out to Anthony.

Thank you for.

I love when you guys email me your thoughts about the show. Specific examples. I just want to appreciate that.

And please tell me what city and how you listen to the podcast. Exactly. I listen to the podcast on.

I'm not getting into emails now, but for some reason that was just there and I wanted to bring it up.

On iTunes or podcast one or whatever and what city you're from. You can even say, you know, a fake name. It's all good. But to answer his question too, it was more like about one night stands and, you know, just casual hookups. I understand the love part. I love talking about love and hope that people find somebody that they spend the rest of their life with. Emily might not be on board. She doesn't think that'll ever last. But that wasn't the topic at hand, right?

That was the topic at hand. But I think it's a.

He was.

He was sweet about you. It's a good point that we could talk more about love.

We're just searching for it for everybody.

No, we are, but it's funny that you should say that. Also, I was on a podcast this week, a guest on Susan Pinsky's podcast called Calling out with Susan Pinsky. And she's like psychic mediums on the show. And I got my read by a psychic in. She was in New York on the phone. She didn't know me, but she said that she did see. God, I wish. The podcast just came out today, everyone. You should check it out. It was really funny and it was good. And it was with my friend Emily as well. And she said she just read a lot of stuff and she said that she knew that I.

She said, I'm.

Gonna write another book. It's gonna be very successful. She said that I'm gonna have some kind of something like a sex move or something that I call the Emily. Or I'm gonna do something Emily. Or it could be a vibrator, she said. Because I said a vibrator. She said, that's gonna also be very successful as far as meeting someone. She said, I've never really been in the space to. And I just kind of pick and choose whatever guys, but I'm not really into it. But there will be someone coming into my life in the next.

I've already told you the next big thing.

What?

Emily's Box.

I know.

And you just put. You just put toys and like samples and stuff like that.

I'm selling my box. I'm doing.

I definitely thought it was Emily's Box.

And then people can get a monthly box of just cool products that you.

That would be cool.

That's what I'm saying.

Some condoms. I know.

Listen to me.

Whatever.

You know how much I'm trying to like.

I understand.

I love it. Emily's Box. Who wants to manage my Emily Box program? Email me feedback.com. i'll give you a percentage of sales. We'll about talk. Talk about it after.

I'm telling you right there.

Yeah. No, we just need someone to spearhead. We don't have.

We don't have something called the Loot Crate that I'm friends with. And they. They've already done millions of dollars in sales within less than eight months.

Say. What's it called? Loot Box.

Loot Crate. But it's like Comic Con.

I mean. I know. I mean, I have got my Emily Tony products. I've got, you know, put them in the box.

Everybody wants your box.

I know. They do. Emily's Box kind of stuff. I kind of like it. Emily's sex box. No, get into it.

This Emily's Box.

No, you're right.

Emily's box.

Yeah. You can be on TV and say, emily's Box.

I like it.

Sex box.

I like it. I like it. Madness. And anyway, did I. I guess I didn't. The Anthony thing. I kind of half read it. Was that too. Did I get the point?

Yeah, no, I think so.

He was.

Yeah, he was just trying to. Trying to speak up for the people who believe that love makes sex better.

Love makes sex better. And thanks for having standards there, Anthony, because we're done with you.

Okay, so.

So I got a little sex in the news.

All right, do it.

This one's pretty intense.

What do you mean?

It's pretty disturbing.

Okay.

An anesthesiologist busted calling patients manhood penis Ebola during surgery. Ebola. So this man was knocked. He was under. He went under to have surgery.

Right.

So when he was doing that, you know, they put you under the anesthesiologist, you're knocked out. The patient, he was doing a what? A colonoscopy.

Colonoscopy, which is the most vulnerable a person can be while knocked out. Anyway, you can go to the doctor.

Penis surgery like me.

So here's the thing. Oh, dude, that was so wish.

I'm like, I'm wondering if there's any video out there of it.

I was in the. Of your penis.

My penis being.

Well, listen to what happened to this. The patient had set his phone to record so he wouldn't miss the doctor's post op instructions, but ended up taping medical stuff. Staff joking that a rash on his member was probably tuberculosis in the penis or penis Ebola. But it goes on. I mean he recorded them like the anesthesia is joking about the rash. And they said he wasn't really a man. That man annoyed me his first five minutes in here. After finished five minutes talking to you. I wanted to punch you in the face and madden you up a bit. They think he's probably gay. I'm gonna mark hemorrhoids even though we don't see them and probably won't.

That was the worst part when I was reading it and he's like, what.

Kind of doctors are these?

Whatever. If he was being an a hole, then whatever.

No, dude, you don't talk like this.

It's terrible. And they're.

He's suing them.

Yeah, stick some stones, people. Get over it.

Actually really quick. Shout out. Yeah, shout out to my GI who listens to the show. The guy who did my colonoscopy, Dr. Trivedi is like in love with this show.

I love him. Let's have him on.

I don't think that's gonna work out. But I say I trust you with your colonoscopies.

Dr. Trivedi.

You would never do anything this awful.

No, it's just bad. It's just bad physically.

Anything happened to this guy? No.

Yeah, he's suing though, for a lot of money. He damaging. They called his penis small, didn't they? They slander.

Wow.

Slander.

They said he had Ebola.

He's the one that has the audio. He didn't put it out there. He's the one that's Slandering himself by putting it in the public.

Well, I think he actually was just, like, bringing it to, like, lawyers because he wanted. I think he heard dollar signs when he was listening. He was like, well, that's rude. And then was like, oh, wait, I make money off of this. And now it's public.

You know what? It sucks. It's embarrassing, and I would be upset to you, but to go ahead.

Now everyone knows he's got rashes on his penis. On the other hand, to sue over it.

You're being a pussy. I'm sorry.

Okay, got it. All right. Man dresses up as a giant penis. Another penis story to promote sex. Safe sex, a Norwegian sex education charity, wants to encourage people to use condoms and have safer sex. They came up with a really novel way to promote their cause. Using a man dressed up as a giant penis. Penis. Philip, he's 19, was the lucky one to get the unusual job. He dresses up in a giant penis costume and runs around beaches and parks giving people a fright as he sprays them with golden confetti. Apparently, all in a good cause, kind of like a golden shower. I thought it was hilarious. If I can do a good thing for others just by being a dick, there's nothing better, he says. Now, the reason why he was a winner for this, I guess apparently there's casting, is because he was 6 foot 4 inches tall. So I wonder. Wow, size does matter when you want to dress up as a penis. It doesn't really matter with a penis. The other thing is. Madison, can you show that penis is so. Did you look at the picture? I did.

Let me see this.

Let me see if I can pull it up. It's the most awkward. Stumpy. Like it? I got it right here. Look at this costume. Do you think this is weird Menace?

Look at it. Oops.

It's hard to tell that it's even a penis. It's like a thick. It's like a.

No, I would say that was a penis. But it has balls on it.

I know, but it's bizarre. So what he's doing, he's going up behind people on the beach. Do you remember that guy at Fisherman's Worth in San Francisco? He used to jump up with the trees behind you. He'd have, like, a tree in his head.

He died, by the way. He did? Yeah. Well, there was two of them, so one of them died.

I'm sure there was a few, but this guy jumps up on you and he's a penis. But they're trying to promote safe sex, so I'M all, you know, I'm all for that. But suddenly lots of people, he said, wants to touch the penis, take pictures with the penis.

I almost felt harassed.

I mean, I would definitely throw that guy in a hug. Like, you'd want a picture of you just hugging.

For sure.

I actually want the penis costume. But I'm all for safe sex, so whatever they gotta do. Because apparently there's a high STD rate and they don't use a lot of condoms in Norway, so. That was the point.

Good.

Good to know.

But jumping up behind people? Come on. That's kind of ridiculous.

I know.

Spraying them with glitter.

Oh, my God, it's a penis. Okay.

How mad would you be?

I'd be so mad. I don't like a dick in the back or a dick in the box or a dick surprising me. Okay. Emails menace. Tell them what they got to do when they email us. Cause I think you're really convincing to the people.

They listen to you more when you email us. This is all you have to do. You don't have to use your real name. It's all good. But we'd love to hear what area you're from and how you listen to the podcast. Like if you listen on itunes, if you listen on podcast one, or you just listen at sex with emily.com, just. Just let us know, because we like to see, you know, where we should focus on.

Exactly. And. Right. And you also said. Sorry, I was talking to Madison. You said that to put your name and where you're from and all that.

Yeah. And always, wherever you get the podcast from, if there's a place to comment on the podcast or review it, just do that. This. You know, not to guilt trip you, but that's the least you can do. Emily works hard every day on the podcast. Please just do that. And then she can sleep at night.

Okay.

Thank you.

That's all I want to sleep. Okay. Hi, Emily. I've been dating my boyfriend for three months. We are both. Oh, these are the emails. Yeah. Feedbackexwithemily.com Love hearing from you. Hi, Emily. I've been dating my boyfriend for three months. We are both 23, and he is my first boyfriend. I love the idea of blowjobs. I haven't done much of them, but my boyfriend doesn't like them at all. When I get near him with my mouth, he says not to bother. It doesn't get him off. We do talk about sex, and I've told him how much I'd love to get him off with my mouth, but he doesn't seem into it. Is there a way I can convince him to want more blowjobs? P.S. love your show, Melina.

Wow.

Haven't gotten many of these emails, although I've gotten some. I've gotten some that guys don't love blowjobs. And women feel sort of like maybe they're doing something wrong.

Yeah, they're probably terrible at it.

This is more common. Yeah, there's a lot of women that aren't as great, which is why I'm taking my blowjob workshop and oral sex workshop on the road. We just did that killer one at Hustle last week and I think it is more common than you think here. Melina, some guys are blowjob fanatics, some guys aren't. And he just might not be entirely comfortable with the act. Maybe he has a post traumatic blowjob disorder where someone gave him a really bad blowjob or he hurt himself, or maybe he just. The two other times he had blowjobs, who knows? He wasn't able to get off that way. So I'm not sure. It's just like people have limiting beliefs about how they can orgasm. But I mean. Madison, do you know guys who don't like blowjobs?

No, I don't know any guys. But the only reason that I would think would be is they just receive really bad ones and then they go, it's not even worth it. I'd rather just have sex with you, you know?

Yeah. Or maybe.

Right, exactly.

And women do, I think in their, you know, I'm not gonna stereotype. There's some women who are great, but there are certain things, like, you know, having enough pressure, having enough saliva, making sure it's wet, Like I'm using my hands. Using your hands. Using your mouth. I mean, I just think that. Melina, if you want to like, read up on some blow, they can just be like, hey, baby, try this one. Tell me you can't come from this. I mean, you could have some fun with it. But first ask him why he's not a fan. Maybe like I said, he had a bad experience. He could be insecure. It could be some religious reasons.

Maybe he feels he can't last that long. And then so he rather have, you know, because once a guy, maybe he gets to completion, it's going to take him a while to get back in fighting shape to have actual sex again. And maybe that's what his. His goal is.

And he might be thinking to himself, exactly. Like, if you. If. Right. If I ejaculate, you will want to have sex. I just think you got to talk to him about it. I think that there, I mean it could be a million. There could be a million different things going on. It could be that he thinks that, yeah, he won't. And you could say if the thing is that he's afraid he's going to ejaculate and not be able to have sex. You could be like, you know, babe, tonight's all about you. Just want you to come work on it, use your hands, give him a hand job, try to raise around this. But first ask. I mean, maybe it's painful for him, I don't know. But talk to him about it and then practice. You can practice your bowdob skills if he's down, if he's not, you know, that's what you got to do. We all make sacrifices in relationships.

Agreed.

Okay, next one is about orgasms.

All right. The elusive orgasms.

Emily, I am 22 year old female in a relationship of two years and I've been listening to your podcast while I run. I've experienced orgasms during masturbation and through sex, but they feel very different. I'm wanting to know if what I'm feeling is a actually an orgasm or not during sex, with or without clitoral stimulation. When I reach a peak, it feels like a huge wave being lifted off my shoulders and a rush of emotions comes to the surface and a wave comes over me. Sometimes I even cry in a good way. Is this an orgasm or close to an orgasm? Anita? Anita, I'd say you're having a friggin orgasm there. Yeah. Now it's true that your orgasms during masturbation might feel different than your orgasms during intercourse. It sounds like you might be having a blended orgasm or a G spot orgasm that's more internal with his penis. I'm not sure how you masturbate if it's clitorally. It definitely does feel a little bit different. But it sounds like you're having that full body emotion. Shaking, crying. I believe you're having an orgasm.

I mean also, wouldn't, wouldn't there be some fluid also?

If she squirted, you mean?

No, I mean just a little bit, right. If she's having an orgasm.

Sometimes there's a fluid. Yeah, I mean, do you not feel saddest? Is there something that I wonder where she's asking, you know, if she's not totally. Because I always feel like you just know. You just know. But there's again, like if it was triggered by clitoral Caresses, intercourse, G spot stimulation. We don't know. Orgasms in context are different too, because they're very exciting. If you just fell in love with someone in a relationship, it could be like, you could just be having a lot of emot right now.

During lovemaking, if there's longer sessions, he's touching everywhere, there could be more intense climaxes that it built up to. But I would say, you know, stop questioning it. It sounds like you're good to go. Oh, oh, oh.

Just go with it.

I know the first couple of times I had orgasms, I was kind of like, whoa, what is going on here? Like, you're not 100. You know it feels good, but you're not 100% sure if it's an orgasm, if it's close, like, the buildup feels like an orgasm in itself, and then the actual orgasm happens. You're like, what in God's name was that?

And you're still practicing your yacht how? Well, I mean, you know, good for you. Keep going. Keep masturbating, keep playing with yourself. You're gonna know it's good. Okay, but first, now, before we get back to fetishes, which I know Magnus loves talking about that, we're gonna talk about our sponsor, Emily and Tony, which is actually my candles that I make. I have a brand called Emily and Tony. You go to emilyandy.com and if you've never heard of a massage candle or used one, you're gonna want one because it is.

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Because it smells good and it's fun to use.

Have you had fun using it?

Me personally?

Oh, he doesn't massage. It's okay.

I mean, I don't massage.

You like the down under comfort?

I love the down under comfort. It is awesome.

That's for your boss.

But I use the candle all the time for the house, just not as massage candles, but my co workers, which, remember, I don't know if you remember this. Gave me a bunch to give my co workers, and they absolutely love it.

I love it. Okay, that's good. So basically, it's a massage. It's a candle. Look, it's a beautiful candle, made in France. It's made of amazing ingredients, if you care about that stuff. Aromatherapy sketch. In the mood. But what happens is you light it, you blow it out, and it turns into warm, sexy, sensual, luxurious massage oil.

That'S fun to play with and it's not.

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I've done under comfort.

Uh huh.

Which is. Oh well, it's summer. We could talk about that too. It's a cream to a powder form. Who did I give it to? I was at a party the other night after Susan Pinsky's podcast. Rayvon from American Idol was a friend of her. Whatever. He's on it right now. And his stylist for American Idol was there. And he's like, is that you, Emily? He's like, I use your diner comfort. I've given it to everyone on the road with American Idol changes our life. Cause it's a cream to a. How do you make a lot of men use talcum powder and they sweat or women use it under their breasts, lower back. You know that dripping sweat in the summer when you just can't stop it? It's coming from every pore and you use deodorant. But like, what do you do about your ass sweat or your boob sweat or whatever. You put this on, it smells amazing. And it. No rash, no chafing, you stop sweating, you feel fresh.

Let's just say you don't have time to. You work all day and you have a date right after you. You apply this and you'll smell great. Because what about if you're working all day, you have a date after, it goes really well, and then you smell down there, you're not gonna get laid, you know?

No, exactly. And you still smell good at night, right? You get home hours later, you smell good. Okay, so you guys, that's enough about that pantyhose fetish, all right? Emily? I just love pantyhose. Everything about them, how they feel when I put them on, how my wife looks and feels and how other women look. I've mentioned to my wife how sexy she looks and I bought her some pantyhose. What are your thoughts on pantyhose and how can I incorporate that more into our sex life? Thanks, Marcus.

All right.

Okay, Marcus. This is not unusual to have a fetish. Usually this is defined fetish. Typically you need the object present to actually have an orgasm, to ejaculate, to be aroused. And so you're saying that, you know, lingerie fetish is. That's focused on pantyhose. Totally common for some people. It's like the look, the feel. Some men get aroused when you put it on yourself. Totally get it. But it sounds like you're interested in all of it and you want to incorporate it into sex. So why not have your wife wear some do a sexy strip tees for you? What about those thigh highs? Those are super sexy. Still made out of pantyhose.

Yeah. There's also people that are really into. Is he didn't mention sniffing panties, right?

He did not mention sniffing. But there's a lot of guys.

I know we were just talking about this today because on the Woody show, on the Woody show that I do, they had this. We have this thing called freak of the week and we read just like Craigslist ads. And in the ad there was one guy who's just like, hey, I'm looking for somebody to sniff their panties and that's it. And he goes, by the way, I live in my car.

Oh, my God.

Crazy.

That Internet. There's something about that Internet, that interaction.

Yeah, but like, it's weird because, like some lingerie I think is hot. Like the girls with like boy shorts and stuff like that. But the stuff that has like all the crazy straps.

I know you don't love that stuff. We've always talked about that. They're trying too hard.

So cheesy. To me, that reminds me of like when I was a kid and I would see like girls in their lingerie on posters and so like 80s and they should have aquanet, like frizzy hair.

I know, I know. But some women like lingerie and some.

Men find it, so they love it.

Like the thigh highs. These are pantyhose. Yeah, but that's true. Here's the thing, Menace. Even if you don't find it sexy for a woman, sometimes you put on the matching panties and your bra or you're wearing lingerie. We feel sexy. It gives us confidence. So, you know, hopefully that transfers because we all know that confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear in the bedroom.

Yes.

So if you're feeling really good about what you're wearing, you know that's gonna help too. But here's the thing with you here, Marcus, is that she can do a striptease. You could even have her wear like a cheaper pair and rip em off her. I think that's hot. I've had a guy do that once. Like rip off my pantyhose.

Yeah, yeah. Have you just rip em in half.

Ripped them like you ripped off the crotch and boom. Huh.

Wow.

Yeah, I was like, I'm down. She can wear them during sex too. Like if she's wearing thigh eyes. Or you could rip a hole in it if she's cool with that.

They're cheap.

You buy em like a dollar at the drugstore to be like fancy ones. Use them as bondage to blindfold. You said you want to incorporate them. If she's cool with you wearing them, you can wear them. But she could also wrap around your eyes and your face, you can smell them. And she could blindfold you. You could trace them across your naked body. The material, she could wrap your penis in it very lightly and use like. She could use, like drape it over your penis. The feeling of that. She could use some beads, she could use some feathers. I mean, there's different things she could do to take out your penis using incorporating it. The possibilities literally are endless. So if your wife is down with this, it's his wife, correct? Yeah, I'm cool with it too. Just keep talking about it.

Yeah, go for it.

I would love it if a guy was. I mean, if he was like, I'm really into you wearing sexy lingerie every time we had sex. I'd be like. Or sexy, whatever. I'd be like, cool.

Yeah, you would love that.

I would. It's true. All right. Okay, we're gonna.

Time for another one.

Dear Emily, I've been dating my partner for about a year now, and from the initial part point of our relationship, he made it very clear that he genuinely is not jealous. At first I thought, okay, this is great. But as time progressed, he repeatedly talked. Having threesomes with either men or women. Claims he would enjoy seeing me with someone else. This isn't what concerns me. It's the fact that he says he would like me to have sexual encounters with other women behind his back and then tell him about it, claiming that what turns him on is the cheating aspect of it. Another huge concern I have is that recently there was a conversation about Facebook and he claims that he doesn't mind if I explicitly flirt with other men online and even talk about sexual things with them. I am so confused as to what all this means. And to be honest, I don't like it one bit. It makes me feel undervalued and somewhat self conscious. Any advice? Is this just a bad situation that will only get worse? Xoxo Emily. Her name's Emily as well. Okay. How long have they been together?

A year.

Okay, Emily. It sounds like it's like a borderline cuckold fetish. When you want to see your partner with somebody else. Usually it's another.

It doesn't mean that he doesn't value or find you attractive. It's sort of like his fetish. His desire is predicated on seeing. Part of it is predicated on seeing you with other men or other women. And it's kind of like a desire that you want to be turned on by being spanked or something. Like, this is what visually would turn him on.

And so it's like he wants you to cheat, but he wants to know about it because it's the thrill of him getting off.

Yeah, I. I don't understand that at all. I know, but I know there's a lot of people into that, right?

I mean, a lot of people are. But you have to have both partners that are into it. So there's way to, like, carefully walk into this situation. Like, maybe you do just start talking about it when you're having sex. He could say, like, oh, I think it's so hot that, you know, watching.

You, I wonder how those situations go down. Like, is there. Is the guy.

Like, let's say the husband, Is he just in the corner saying, yeah, do that, you know? Yeah, get commentary and stuff like that?

Yeah, I mean, it's kind of like a. It's what you say.

I kind of like, I happen to know about this because we had to do some research. We had a Dr. David Lee. Was he the one who was talking about hot wives and stuff? And literally it's the. The excitement comes from watching your wife. It's almost like a shaming thing. Like. Like an S M thing. It's like a submissive thing. That's like the shame and the, like, I don't know, the kind of aggression that comes from watching another man ravage your wife and watching her enjoy it. So they literally sit in the corner with their penis in their hands and kind of like, watch it.

Yeah, they watch. Yeah, but it's that. But it's also sort of. Did you say it's also sort of a shaming thing too? Whereas it's like, my penis is bigger. I don't feel as good, but it's like. It's just like how pain and pleasure are so closely linked. Yes, but if you're not comfortable cheating on your boyfriend. But he's not even calling it cheating. Indulge the fantasies other ways. So you gotta talk more about this, the threesome idea. Further. Again, role playing. And then you could dirty talk it. Tell them about an affair that hasn't even happened yet. Or maybe what your fantasies are and just see how that goes. You might be able to rope you into this. I don't know. But if you don't feel comfortable with it, it's a good time to know. A year in.

Yeah.

Yeah.

This is not the kind of thing that every woman's gonna come around to. But this is. This happens. And I'm glad that he's telling you. Cause I don't think you should wait too long sharing sexual fantasies with people.

No, not at all.

Madness. If there's any sexual fantasies you'd like to share with me, please go. Otherwise, we're going to wrap up this puppy.

All right. Fantasies. Trying to think what's. Wait, let me ask you first. What's your fantasy?

I need to update them. Let me see. I haven't. I think I've done a lot of things that I want to do.

My fantasy would be. I don't know, I guess I'd like to do a little more bondage. I've done some, but maybe somebody who's a little more experienced, a little more bondage. Play. I've had threesomes. I've been with a woman. I've done a lot of stuff I gotta update. There's gotta be more.

You gotta make a new list.

I need to make a new bucket list.

Yeah.

Madison, any fantasies for you'd like to share? In parting words?

I was just thinking about that. I need more time. I need to think these things out.

I didn't mean to spring it on, you know, off the top of my head.

I'm like. I don't know. I'm so boring. I'm like, ah, like, windows open, hotel on the beach. Just sounds nice.

I see you next week, though. On vacation.

Oh, yeah. With his family. I'm like, sleeping with his sister. I'm not even, like, sleeping in the same room with him.

Wow.

They're tradition. Well, they're traditional. And his younger sister has an older boyfriend who's coming too, so it's more of like a they don't want them to sleep together, so my boyfriend and I can't sleep together kind of thing.

Dude, buzz kill.

That's okay. We're gonna have sex in random places.

Yes. Be careful with the sand in your ass, though.

Oh, no. Hotel bathrooms.

Yeah, totally. You guys will make it happen. Okay. The other thing I wanted to say to everyone is follow Menace on Menace Ennis the Woody show. You can download the podcast.

Yeah.

Thank you. We just talked about you again today. Today you're coming up on the show.

Do you want me just to come in there? And now you don't.

We.

Bondage came up, and I talked about how we had some people on the show and, like, all the stories that they shared.

Right.

Because some story came up about bondage, and I go, oh, that's mild. I go, when we had guests on. On the Sex with Emily podcast, they shared crazy stuff.

Crazy stuff.

Crazy.

Yeah. I mean, you gotta listen to. It was Sunny Magic. What was it called?

Sex with Sex with Sunny Megatron.

Yeah. Yeah. But no, no, that's what.

No, it's not. We called it. We called.

It was Menace here that day.

No, no, no. I'm talking about old school.

Yeah.

San Francisco bondage.

Yeah. Check out our shows, you guys.

It was talking about, like, this chick was talking about, like, urination in the mouth.

Oh, she was a dominatrix from my sex school. Yeah, Sarah.

I remember that. Okay.

We've got a lot of podcasts.

She was saying how, like, some client was upset because she drank coffee before. It was, like, blowing my mind.

I know.

We should have been to our lives.

And she said she had a lot of requests for that.

We should get more people like that.

We have a lot of them.

I know.

We'll put it on the list. Yeah. What do you guys. What do you guys want to hear about on the show? If you've been listening or even if you just started, you're like, God, I really want to hear blank. Email me feedbackextwithemily. Also, I'm going to be in New York September 18th to the 20th for the sexual Health Expo, which we've had great success with it. We've been. We did it in Los Angeles and then we did it in Phoenix. Now we're gonna be in New York. So I will be giving you more information about that. And a lot of people. When you heard I was teaching my Hustler workshop, you're like, come to my town. Come to my town. If you can arrange it, you can figure out a way to get me to where you're at. I will come teach you. We will come talk. I'd love to meet you all, so thanks. Oh, also follow me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. It's all sexwithemily facebook.com sexwithemily I love you all. Thank you, Madison. Great production. Thank you, Menace, for being fabulous. And I love you all. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackexwithemily.com.

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