Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: The Sex Number Rule

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz? My man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards.

Oh, my. Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me?

Oh, my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Yeah, they are.

I'm here with menace.

Hey, what's going on, Emily? How you doing?

I'm great.

It's been a minute.

It's been a minute. It has been a minute. Last time I saw you was at the radio. The Grammys, Radio Row, which you were.

Very nervous for, but I'm a veteran of it.

I was nervous, dude.

Well, you asked me like a billion questions about it. I'm like, I'm busy, you know, I don't got time for all that.

No, I didn't. Dude, I love that. You love saying that. I was not nervous. I had no idea what it was. You're like, oh, yeah, I'm interested. I'm gonna be interviewing, like, Justin Timberlake that day and da, da, da. And then you. I didn't know. It was a big.

Yeah, it's kind of a thing. It was super fun.

How do you explain what is like 40 top radio stations around the country.

Yeah. So they. They go to the Staples center where the Grammys is held, and backstage they have. Yeah. About 40 to 50 radio stations across the country. They all sit down and then it's just kind of like rapid fire, where people just brought by, like, anyone from, like. Yeah, like a Justin Timberlake or famous singer.

He's a teen kid. Everyone's freaked out about him.

The teen kid.

You know the Brothers, the Jonas, bro?

Jonas Brothers. Oh, yeah, yeah. Joe Jonas. Yeah.

Cause the woman who was, you know, you get like an escort, she was like, oh, I just saw Joe. Joe. She was, like, following him. I'm sorry, I'm next. I'm not that upset yesterday.

Yeah, well, all the girls were, like, super thirsty for Joe Jonas. That's why. Because he just did like, an underwear ad, I think, for Calvin Klein, like Bieber.

But he probably didn't get it photoshopped.

Probably not. So, yeah, they were like, super excited for him. We saw Big Sean was there while you were there. You probably don't know who he was.

No idea. Big guy.

Yeah, no, he's actually a little guy, but he's. He's dating Ariana Grande right now. Yeah, yeah. So you might know who she is. But yeah, it was a good time.

I got to meet your family, cuz. Menace Woody show every morning. I never got to meet your people you cheat on me with. Every day.

Yeah, every day. You know, if people are new to the podcast, I'm also part of a morning show in Los Angeles. It's called the woody show on alt98.7. And you'd can hear it every day from 6am to 10am, but we're there doing interviews. And yeah, again, on the list of people, I was looking down, and it said, Emily Morris. I go, what the hell? Why is she on the list? You know, because you're amazing. That's why.

Right.

So I go, of course, yes. We check. Yes, for we want to interview you. And then we did the interview. And here's the funniest part of the interview.

Okay.

That you have no idea what happened.

Tell me.

Do you know the entire time my girlfriend was standing right there?

Dude, shut up.

Where?

Okay. I wouldn't interrupt you. No, no. The thing is, because my girlfriend and I, we. Hold on, hold on. She's calm. Calm down. Okay, okay. So, like, since the area is such rapid fire, we don't have, like, a lot of time to talk. It's like, in and out. And so my girlfriend, like, oh, you know, really want to do the whole thing, but then they're like, ah, then it's gonna, like. It's gonna mess up the flow of, like, the people coming in. So we didn't say anything, but she was standing right there. She was the one taking all the photos.

I don't even remember.

Yeah, see, now you don't remember.

I can't believe it. Did she still, like, not like, thank God I didn't ask her for a glass.

No, no, no, no. She doesn't care.

Okay, that's. I can't. Why wouldn't you just say, hey, that's my girlfriend?

Because then it would stop everything up. I was, like, super busy.

Oh, it was busy. That is hilarious. I love that.

If it was a totally different situation.

Meta and I have an ongoing thing. He's got some girlfriend he's had for, like, 16 years, and I never met except for once.

No, you met her twice now.

Twice. That does not count. Meeting. And so.

Okay, yeah, well, let's do a little backstory. I was gonna say the first. So the first time was. It was just super awkward because Emily was running late, of course, as always. And Emily was, like, running into the studio, and I was gonna introduce my girlfriend, but right when Emily runs in the studio, she immediately thinks, like, my girlfriend's, like, either an intern or works at the radio. Hold on, hold on. Either intern or works at the radio station and goes to her, not knowing who she is, and says, can you give me some water? But let me tell you, what do I.

And then Candy from Real Housewives of Atlanta was our. Have a lot of big celebrity guests. Candy from Real Housewives of Atlanta was there. I think I was getting water. For both of us, because I don't know where the water.

What to do.

And I was like, oh, do you mind? No.

It's a total honest mistake. I understand. But it was just, like, so awkward, and we're already getting into the show, and then, you know, I was just like, ah, you know what? Eff it. So.

Right.

Yeah.

And so now I get to meet her again. She's taking pictures. But now the interview was fun. And you guys said you played it.

Yeah, we played it on the. On the radio.

That's cool. That was fun. I thought we were kind of grilling everyone about their sex lives.

Yeah, we were.

It was good times. Except for you, who will never. I'm just assuming that your sex is rocking.

So we're not gonna talk about it on the daily.

That was fun. I can't believe your girl. I'm gonna murder you. I would have, like, pulled her aside. I'm gonna make her come on the show one day. I'm gonna find her surreptitiously. Like, I'm gonna go around you and find her for sure.

So what's going on with your life, though?

Lots of stuff. Things are rocking here as family. Like, I've been very busy doing things. I hosted the. I haven't seen you since then, but I talked about it on my previous show that just came out. The 50 Shades of Grey premiere. It was a Premiere at the Grove, which was an interesting film. I didn't love the film. I did read the book.

It wasn't.

That guy's not hot. No. That guy, Jamie Dore. I can't even. He has no emotion. He's not sexy. He's like nothing to me.

They said of people that. I heard. I heard Robin. Robin Quivers from the Howard Stern Show. She's like, you couldn't believe that the guy was a character at all. Like, he was that power. You didn't believe that he was powerful. You didn't believe that they were actually into each other. I don't know. I haven't seen the film, so I can't comment. But this is what.

I wasn't. Great. So I did that. I've just been very busy. I've been social lately. So I went to an event the other night with. It was like a pre Oscars event, because. Oscars. And it was hosted by Gretchen Rossi from the Real Housewives of Orange County. And Slade. Remember Slade's family? Who. I know. And that was really funny because I was gonna tell you something about this that happened that night, but it was just Funny, because they were like, we loved your show. And Sexton, you know, they were talking about, like, sex stuff and their sex life, of course. And that was fun. Did you do anything for the Oscars?

For the Oscars? No. I went home and I watched it on tv.

It's the boringest thing I've ever seen in my life.

Yeah.

You know me sitting through movies.

Oh, yeah. You can't sit there for.

I was gonna tear my eyes out. It was so freaking boring. But, you know, it was such a big deal in la. It was raining and everyone's really, like, oh, my God, it rained. So upset. But it was fine. And I've been, like, doing a lot of stuff.

Tinder. Any Tindering?

No, I haven't been doing Tindering. I've been dating.

You haven't been dating?

I have been dating.

Oh, you have been dating?

Yeah, I'm dating someone that actually I like.

Is this the same person you've kind of been dating for a while?

Different? Well, yes, but this was someone that was. Yes, I was dating a few people and this one was more casual. But I think I like him. Things are good.

Really?

Yeah. Yeah. What? He's.

What about this person?

You know, I'll tell you something if you tell me something about your relationship.

What?

No, it's very new.

I'm just saying, like, what?

It's new in the same.

What kind of guy is he? Surfer guy?

No, no, he's a person.

Is he the cheese?

No, he's got a real job. No, he was on used cars. He's a real guy. He's a real man.

Is he random guy that only drives, has a bicycle?

Not at all. He's got a good job. He's.

He does things.

Impressive. I actually met him looking for apartments from San Francisco. I was here looking, and we were both looking at apartments at the same time. So he's like a San Francisco guy, but he moved there. Yeah. So it's awesome.

So you have, like, stuff to talk about.

I've got regular. We've talked. Oh, totally. See each other. It's good. Yeah. I'm happy about it. And it's, you know, I, again, still don't have a ton of time, but this is the year of making more time, so I am trying to be more social. I'm going to this. This black tie event on Saturday night with Dr. Drew and his wife Susan.

Nice.

The Hillsides charity thing in Pasadena. Black tie. And it's so funny because last year she wanted to fix me up with, like, all of her hot doctor friends there. She's always like trying to fix me up with people. But this year I'm just going, you know, solo stag. I'm not bringing the guy. Yeah, it'll be fun getting all dressed up. Susan has a very interesting podcast called Calling out with Susan Pinsky. And it's a. I was on it and she actually had a psychic on there who was reading. I know. I don't know what you think about this, but they read me really well when I'm on there and they kind of predicted this particular person that I'm dating now. They said what he was doing, who he was, and it's very on tap. Yeah, it's good.

She's very nice. I ran into her and Drew once in a while. Vegas. Got to talk with her. She was really cool.

It was a good time. And then tonight I'm going to Sam Phillips birthday party. You know, crazy Sam Phillips single life. Do you know her? And. And then what else? I don't know. It's just been. Oh. Oh. I wanted to tell you Manis that this is one thing that I really wanted to tell you that. That this would make you very happy.

All right.

I'm actually doing a formal.

Steak and blowjob day event. Really? Steak and BJ event. It's actually at Hustler stores. Hustler Hollywood. I believe it's Friday, March 13th. So keep listening. We're gonna be put our website and all that stuff.

But yes, please keep me updated because I'll talk about it.

You were the one who like I think even told me about it for the first time a few years ago. But it sort of just to be like kind of a mea couple to men who are like, you know, I didn't love Valentine's Day. That was bs. We want a day. We want steak and blowjobs, damn it. Which is all guys really, really want anyway. But we're doing a really fun party with actual steak, good food and wine. And I'm gonna teach a little blowjob lesson class. And then people go shopping and it's in Hollywood. It's fun. If you've been to that houseware store, it's friggin amazing.

I've been by it a billion times. I haven't been actually. It's parking. It's cool. But it's a legendary.

It's legendary.

But they have Hustler stores across the country.

Yeah, like 12, 13 cities.

Yeah.

Yeah. So if anyone goes to a Hustler store, you can also just tell them Emily Sent you. And you get 20% off anything there. And they have every toy, every porn, every day. It's crazy. Crazy good. And also, April 14th, I'll be co hosting the People Podcast Awards in Vegas.

I know.

That's huge. I know, right?

That's super huge.

I want you to come one of our Vegas trips. I know that we never do together.

Yeah, I gotta triple check. I would love to go though.

I know.

Yeah, you should.

Totally.

Cause you know I'm into all that podcasting stuff.

Okay.

Is all the voting closed on that?

I think so. Did you vote for me? That's cool. Whatevs. No, I think it is closed. But I don't really know how it all goes down. I had to like tweet it out. And you guys should follow me on Twitter. Cause we do a lot of fun stuff on Twitter and Facebook. But we do giveaways and then I'll tell you to vote for me and stuff. But then sometimes I also mostly give you very interesting sex stuff to change your sex life.

Your Instagram been.

And I've been doing more Instagrams lately. It's good. Instagram stacked with Emily. Do you see it? You never like my shit, do you?

I do okay.

How's your Instagram menace? It's great.

It's funny, right? When we were doing the show, I got a comment mentioning the show because they're asking, what is that? For years now I've talked about this Taco Bell taco that I love.

Double alarm. Turf alarm.

Because I love bringing in food and sex into the conversation.

Exactly.

It's a four alarm devil decoration.

No, no, no, no. You don't like sex in the conversation there. Taco Bell has nothing to do with sex. It was just an obsession.

Doesn't food, like get you?

I'm Taco Bell. Taco Bell makes me want to go to sleep. Makes me want to spend an hour.

Maybe, but not for everybody. You don't make a blank statement.

Like that was when I was a waitress in college. I was a cocktail waitress all four years. No, but there was a Taco Bell in the bar. And so we got all the Taco Bell we could eat at 2am that's awesome. I know, dude. You would have loved it. It was the best job I ever had because we had dollar pitcher night and everyone would just give me a five. And so I think I made more money than I ever made in my life in. I probably should go back to doing that. I always fall back on that. But I wasn't great at holding all the trays and all that stuff.

Oh, and for our longtime listeners, yeah, the dream. If you haven't caught it, the dream has come true. Since moving to Los Angeles, I've gotten to go to the Taco Bell headquarters a few times now.

What do you do there? Like, who you talking to, Mr. The dog.

I was around the CEO the other day. But the thing is, it's. It's great because they do. They have like a test kitchen. Like, Kono and Brian just did a whole bit about it. It was hilarious. It was all over the Internet recently. But they have the test kitchen where products are not even. They're not even out yet. You get to try them.

Are you the tester now?

Yeah, I'm like the pro tester.

You're like a list talk about.

Do they know that you always talk about it?

About talk? Oh, yeah, they know. They know. And now they like. You should be like, my stuff on Instagram.

They like your store. That's a big deal.

It's cool. And it's crazy because the offices are amazing. And then, yes, they have a Taco Bell inside the headquarters.

You know, it's all you can eat double decker.

But it's super cool and it's fun and. Yeah, supporters.

Anything else good going on in your life before we get into some sex and news and some emails?

No. I do have some Vegas trips coming up in March. Not April?

Yeah, I'm going twice in April.

April is Coachella, Right? Coachella time.

April. What? I want to go this year.

Well, it's two weekends. I think it's first weekend of April. I don't know. I'll have somebody Google it right now.

Yeah, I think it is the first weekend April.

But you had that legendary story.

You'Ve shared with us many times. But there's always new listeners.

Oh, right.

If people don't know what Coachella is, it is a huge music festival in Southern California, close to Palm Springs, California. Every big artist you can think of from around the world goes there and plays just like other parts of the country. And it is amazing. And it's out in the desert, it's hot and all this stuff, but great music. But you have gone to this festival and what has happened at this festival?

What has happened at this festival? I was dating a guy like 2006, who I actually just. Second part of the story is I ran into him the other day. He lives in la. And we went and we were VIP because his best friend ran the festival. So, like, totally VIP had the golf cart, the whole Thing the whole time. And so we were partying all day, and then I found ourselves at one point backstage having sex on the grass somewhere at Gala. Yeah. Didn't get caught. It was fun. We had sex all day outside of the. We had sex in the car earlier, and then we had sex backstage. So I have very fond memories of that. But I ran into him. I hadn't seen him in years because we broke up. And I ran into him the other day at a restaurant, and I was there with. Oh, funny enough. Do you remember from Misadvise Reid, who teaches the one? He was like, polyamorous. Don't do that. So we were sitting there, and this guy was sitting at the table, and I hadn't seen him in years. I'm like, oh, my God. How are you? We're talking, talking, talking. And then it was like, so good to see you. And then he comes out. He goes, here's the other Emily. And turns out, like, his new girlfriend's name is Emily.

Oh, sweet.

I'm like, oh, the other. I'm sure she loves that because we dated 10 years ago, and I saw him, and I was like, wasn't that fun? We banged at Coachella. No, I didn't say that. But, yeah. No, I'd like to go to that. I'd like to do more. I have a lot of things coming up. Actually. I'm going to. I'm going to New York next week.

And so what's gonna go on in New York?

I'm actually going to a Tony Robbins seminar.

Oh, what? Yeah. Tony Robbins is the man.

He is the man. I'm so beyond excited. I'm like, first five rows, it's really hard to get, like, to get in. I got into this, and I think it's like. It's like he's like a motivational speaker and business speaker and life speaker, all this stuff. And then I'm also going to do some stuff with Lifestyles. Condoms, who I love. I'm obsessed. Do you use condoms? Condoms, Skin. It's so funny because I've been telling people, Lifestyles. They also have this brand called Skin, S, K, Y, N. And they're polyisoprene, which is not latex. I just think they're amazing. I just. They're thin, they go, great. So I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna see Emily and Tony. Sweet. Yeah. It'll be a good time.

Two quick things, and we'll get into the sex.

The second thing is, I promise, sex is coming so hard that you're gonna Come at the end of the season.

Yeah. The second part is sex. But the first part, Tony Robbins. I just really want to give that guy a shout out, because I don't know if you saw recently, it was about maybe two months ago, he did this thing where he was able to feed over, like, 500,000.

People in America.

Wow.

Like, insane amount of people. He put up, like, a million dollars of his own money.

He's been doing this stuff for a long. He gives back. He's practically preaches. I listen to him, like, when I run. Like, I have all of his things, threes and stuff. And so this is a great opportunity. I met a couple at a party who knows him, and they got me in. It's like a $5,000 seminar. So I'm just thrilled.

I would love to see a picture with you and him next to each.

Other, because he's, like, 6, 7.

He is a gigantic dude. You know, his is like. Like a thing of bananas that would. You know, putting your hand inside of it.

I'm excited.

But the. The other thing, going back to Coachella, where it's near Palm Springs, which almost like one of the hottest places in California. It's. It goes into above 100 all the time. And I was having sex during Coachella in. In the shower, and she fainted because it's so hot.

I remember this.

Fainted.

This wasn't from your sexual parts.

Yeah, probably. And I thought I, like, killed the chick.

You know, you're gonna start dragging the body.

But, yeah, it was. It was pretty hilarious.

We've had good times at Coachella. I'd like to go.

We're looking for that.

Okay. Okay. So we've got some good stuff today from the people. I love hearing from everybody, and I love getting your emails. And also, we have a survey up, and it's now on our site. You can find it really easily. There's a button that says survey socsupplumbing.com will take you two minutes. And we just love to hear from you. We want to know what you like about the show, what you don't like. Because this is our 10th year, we are going to do something big this year. At some point.

Have to.

So, yeah, just want to hear from you. So please do that. So speaking of polls, here's some sex in the news.

All right.

College students enjoy these 11 things more than having sex.

Okay, what do you got?

College students either aren't getting enough good sex, or they found some delicious effing coffee.

Researchers asked 1,200 U.S. undergrads last fall to choose what's in on campus from a list of 77 options. Among the top 15, the iPhone was first. They enjoy their iPhone. We are so addicted to our goddamn phones. It pisses me off. Among the less popular activities according to the Times, were smoking cigarettes, doing drugs, volunteering, blogging, and being eco friendly.

Yeah.

Activities chosen by the super small sample of college students. So Apple iPhone 66%, coffee 63%, texting 61%. Their Facebook 59%, Instagram 55%, drinking beer 51%. Blah, blah, blah. Go down, down, down. Hooking up 43%. It's like number 12 on the list.

Wow.

What is the deal? People aren't like wanting to hook up anymore?

I think like, maybe to be honest, like, people get their like satisfaction through the phone. You know, this is a whole nother interaction. Like even. Okay, yeah, at the end of the day, it's like sex, but also just having the companionship of having somebody around or just like going out on a date or just hanging out and going to the movies and stuff like that. They don't do it. They get that type of feeling through the phone, you know. And people that I've met In their early 20s, not all of them, but a lot of them are super obsessed with Snapchat. Like, that's all I know.

I didn't know it. I have it all day long.

All day long.

I know they're not around each other and they're not around each other. Everyone talks on the phone and then you have all these like relationships that go on through text message and you're obsessed with your phone. And I'm telling you, that is not the way to meet someone, to have a relationship. And even the used car salesman who you always talk about, who I loved, honestly, I'm still really good friends with him. But the best part of our relationship I realized was it was long distance. He lived in LA and when I was in sf. He's a great texter. He gave great texts, he made me laugh. And every time we get a text or like, or whatever, you know, on Facebook or anywhere, you get a serotonin rush, meaning those feel good chemicals. You know, when someone gives you a compliment. And so it's like where it's like the pellets, it's like the Pavlovian dogs. Like we're constantly getting our phone to get more reinforcement. And yet while we're, while that's increasing, we are decreasing our ability to connect with people. And people always have social anxiety. That's really Common. I think that's why kids drink so much and adults and everyone drinks so much or party so much. Because it's hard to talk to members at the. Because really you go to bar, you go out, you get wasted because you hope you get laid. Well, people now aren't even. They're completely losing those skills about how to interact, how to ask people out because they're spending their entire life on the phone and having full on relationships with people that they never see, never talk to and they think they're in love with because they texted for like a month. Yeah.

You know, crazy.

And like the real meat of this story is how is hooking up so low? Like how is Facebook better than hooking up? How is Instagram better than hooking up? Like, you know, really like getting dick and vagpack pics on Snapchat is better than seeing the actual real live body parts that you can tossed touch test parts.

You were thinking about it.

So I just want to know if this is what everyone's doing their time. Like I'd like to go back to school and just like sit on my phone all the time. Not really. I learned things, I saw people, I made friends. We didn't even have phones. We'd be at the bar and be like, if people show up, they show up. If they don't show up, they don't show up.

It should be like an amazing experience in your life if you go to. Unfortunately. I went to an art school and I commuted from my hometown, which was awful. But I visited one of my friends that went to San Diego State and I hung out with him and we went to like parties and we just like hung out with people and it was such an exciting time just to be around and like check out different, you know, types of people.

Right, exactly.

And to know that people are wasting that away on cell phones.

They're on the phones the whole time. Taking selfies of the entire night.

I went to like later when you.

I went to that, what's it called, Hyde, that club in la. You know, it's like the celebrity, whatever, hard to get in a few weeks ago and everybody was just like taking selfies. Taking selfies. Like we are at Hyde. So we're gonna document it, but I'm not actually gonna have any meaningful conversations with anybody. We're just gonna document it.

Look, everyone knows what the fuck is.

I feel like an adult. Like back in the day we didn't have cell phone.

I should bring on Greg from that I work with. He's like so Anti technology is thinking that it's ruining.

It is ruining us everything. It's making our lives. We thought it would make it easier. It makes it harder because you're always on call 247 and these kids clearly in college have not had enough good sex. Or they don't know that like, spending hours in bed is so much better than being on friggin Snapchat. So that's what I gotta say about that. Okay, what's the title of your sex tape? Any sex tape worth itself should have a title as memorable as its action. So when the title of my sex tape was trending on Twitter last weekend, it seemed like the perfect time to brush up on some punny porn names. Like One Night in Paris, which was probably one of the best titles. Although there are many other celebrity sex tapes, few of the titles to back them up. So the one is, let's see here. So people, they did this thing on Twitter where they were asking people what they would name their sex tapes. So what is this? People are saying, like, too fast, too furious, or the fast and the furriest Lawrence of your labia, gone in 60 seconds. That'd be a good one for Permascent. The unbearable whiteness of being the cat stared at us the whole time. Fifty shades of bay. Hey, what's your wi fi password? Missionary. Impossible. Anyway, I think we all know what mine would be, right?

What would it be?

Sex with Emily.

Oh, okay.

True. I feel like people think I'm already a porn star anyway when I meet them. Yeah, and the best part is Kimber, my assistant's been calling lately because I. I use my Sex with Emily email address, like as my primary email. So she was calling to make me a reservation. And every. I'm sitting there and she's like, Emily or whatever. SexWithemily or FeedBackexTextWithemily dot com. She's like, S. Yeah, I know. I hear her, like, going, yeah, S, E, X, W. I mean, what do they think? Like a porn stars coming to their hotel? Yeah, always. But no, alas, I'm not a porn star. What would you call your sex tape?

Bury it if you find it.

Do you still have all your sex tapes?

Burn it.

Do you still have them?

Probably somewhere. Yeah.

I mean, probably somewhere. Does your girlfriend know? Next time I see her, I'm gonna say, did you find menaces?

Oh, yeah. See, that's why you guys.

I'm kidding, dude. She would. We would love you to bff.

Would you? I don't. I don't know.

You don't Know me. Okay.

Microphone's, like, very quiet.

And that's why she liked me, because I'm fun, I'm interesting, I talk a lot. I might even entertain.

Exhausting is what it is.

Exhausting. Okay, so. Which is true. People do get exhausted by me, but you just have to either be able to handle it or get the fuck out.

Yeah.

Okay, so emails from the people. I love hearing from you. Feedbackswithelmily.com and Menace. Do you remember when we used to always say, please tell us where you're from and how you listen?

Yes.

I'm going to say that again, because whenever we say that, people actually do that.

Okay, great.

So where are you from and how do you listen to the show?

Yeah. Do you listen on sexofemily.com? do you listen on itunes? Do you listen on Podcast one? Do you listen on Stitcher?

There's so many great apps that you can listen to, and with every phone, you get an app, basically, you can download.

You can listen on the itunes app.

They have a podcast app?

Yeah, podcast apps.

No matter if you're droid or whatever.

So many different ways that you can listen to a podcast. But we love just hearing, like, how you listen.

Exactly.

Stuff like that and where you from, like, any part of the world you can be from.

We have a lot of listeners in Australia because we've been doing this survey. It's interesting how many listeners we have, like, in different parts of the world.

Australia. I want to go so bad.

Dude, we've been talking about this. Do you remember my friend Nikki from Australia? Dr. Nikki? She was on the show, like, years ago.

Wait, was she blonde? Yeah, okay.

Yeah, big boobs, blonde. I'm actually meeting up with her this weekend, and she's. She keeps trying to get me to get there, and she's got a hookup.

Last time we. She was in Sudi. I don't know if you remember this, but she, like, busted out a fake dong.

A harness. She bought. She bought a harness.

A harness so she could penetrate guys.

Right, right. She wanted a peg. She's very adventurous. I'm gonna see her tomorrow, and I'll ask her about that. Okay, so here's the first question. How do you cope with a partner's high sex number? Hi, Emily. I'm new to your podcast, and I love them so much. They're so insightful. My question for you is more of a situation. I'm 21 years old, and I'm a virgin. I've known this guy for three years, and he lives in Wisconsin. About two hours away. He's now 25. I'm pretty crazy about him and he seems crazy about me, too. My only problem is that he has slept with more women than I'm comfortable with. 30, to be exact.

How does she know? She asked, I'm sure.

Dude, I know.

Why even ask?

I'll get into that in a minute. He told me just because he loves sex, part of me thinks that, well, I can't blame him. He's a single guy in his 20s. At the same time, I wonder if he's trustworthy. Do you think that it would be a good idea getting involved with this guy, or do you think I'm setting myself up for disaster? Thanks, Michelle. Okay, first of all, Michelle, here's. This is for everybody. This is a public service announcement to everybody in a relationship in your 20s. Because I feel like people stop asking. When you get into your 30s, perhaps there is no reason at all that you need this number. It's not going to help. You're not going to get smarter. It's. You're not going to win the lottery. It's not going to help you in any way.

It's not going to educate.

No, it's not going to educate you. All it is is a lose, lose. Because either your partner's up with too many, too few, and you're going to start thinking about, oh, I'm not experienced enough and they were that many people, or he's such a jiggle. Oh, he's such a player. She's such a. I mean, this is not a conversation that you need to have. The only conversations about previous sex you need to have is if perhaps you've contracted a sexual.

For sure.

If you've contracted a sexually transmitted disease, you want to share that. And if there was something particularly, you know, that you've tried in your past, you might want to say, God, I think it'd be really fun to be tied up. I'd love you to tie me up. You don't have to say that you did it. So really, no, don't have this conversation. And the thing is, Michelle, it's making you uncomfortable. Proceed with caution. I get it. But you cannot judge a guy by the number of women you slept with. You know, guys are going to do that. Guys in their 20s are going to go out, sleep around.

Women are as many women as you're.

Letting this number like this guy likes you and you're letting it think, you're probably thinking, you know, you're inexperienced and what's he gonna think? Guys aren't thinking that. Right. Sitting with you going, oh, you weren't as good as number 62.

16.

You know, they're not.

Yeah, they're happy. They're having sex with you.

Exactly.

And okay, so, yeah, we can tell everybody until they're, you know, blue in the face. Like, don't ask. Whatever. And again, yeah, it's too late with her again. So I guess. Yeah, I guess, suppress it. I don't know.

Don't ask them. Tell any apartment. Here's what you say. Yeah, you say, you know what? I just really love the sex that we're having right now. And that's all I'm focused on. Yeah, End a story. End of question.

You're gonna ruin your relationship if you keep on bringing it up.

Right. Then why do you need to know? Like, the thing is, it's like watching a train wreck kind of thing. Like, why do you need to know? It's not gonna ever help you.

Yeah. And don't bring it out. And you're gonna get upset with him one day and you're arguing, and then you're gonna bring that up. That just makes you look weak.

Right. And she wonders if she can trust him. So here's the thing. He's long distance, two hours away. I mean, you guys aren't even together yet. So, I mean, does he say that he wants a committed relationship? Does he make you feel safe when you're with him? Does it seem like it's a fling? I mean, definitely use protection. I cannot emphasize this enough, and this is what I call future tripping. When you're in a situation and you're tripping on what could possibly happen into the future, but you're not even with him yet. So all these things you're thinking about, you're judging him on the number. You're judging him for reasons that you haven't been with him, in a way, like maybe you guys have sex, things are amazing, you commit. You just. Just don't need to trip on this at all about something that hasn't even happened yet. So just take it one day at a time. Keep your eyes open when you're with him. If he says to you, babe, yeah, I'm still dating other people, well, then he's not the guy to trust. And you're not going to be the woman that's going to change him either. Because women stay with guys like that because they think, well, he's going to fall so in love with my vagina that he won't want to sleep with anyone else. But if he's telling you that that's what he's doing.

Yeah.

So just have your eyes open heading in this. Okay, First, a word now from our amazing sponsors, Emily and Tony Candles, which I know you want some, and they're in my car.

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I'll get you some down under comfort too. Good for your balls. Okay, so here's our next one, how to relax for anal sex. Hi, Emily, I love your podcast and follow you on Facebook. I love all your tips, but my question is this. My long term boyfriend loves to have anal sex and I've only been able to have it in the shower and while I've been drinking. We've tried otherwise and it's just been too painful. We've even tried the Ass Play products that are meant to numb you and it's backfired and numbed him instead. So my question is, can the use of muscle relaxers help? I read a few articles that say it can help me. It can help. And equally as many say, it doesn't help. Also, I've noticed the few times I have had anal, I've managed to finish, which is strange. Does that mean that's the only way my body knows how to orgasm? Thank you, Anna.

Wow.

Okay, Anna. Well, great that you can have an orgasm through anal sex, because that's rare. I've only met porn stars. Well, that's not true. I've met a lot of people. But porn stars have been very open about it. And despite what Manus always says, it's not a great idea to be intoxicated. I don't push that as your number one lubrication for trying anything new.

But not muscle relaxers. You can get addicted to that stuff.

Don't take muscle relaxers, don't take numbing agents, alcohol, anything else. All you have to do is you need to learn to relax. Because what happens is, Anna, is that you are not. You're probably tensing up because you know that you've had pain there. And so when you clench those muscles.

When you clench the sphincter muscles, you're actually gonna be making it more painful for you. So you have to breathe, make sure that you're breathing. You might even have to like have them give you a massage first. Like make sure that you are in the most relaxed state possible. I'd rather have it when you have it, when you're not wasted, you know. So try to have it when you're relaxed. It's great to take a shower first. You don't have to have it in the shower. And it's great that you're able to orgasm anally. It's all connected down there. So it is common for people to be able to have orgasms that way. And anal sex can externally stimulate areas in the vagina and cause the orgasm. It's all connected, the G spot. And you know, I have not had that pleasure yet. So breathe, relax. And it's important that you don't go from just the kissing and like him like touching your nipple for two seconds into anal. You need the foreplay. I mean, I would even say try to have a, you know, orgasm first. Maybe he goes down on you, use a sex toy, get all that areas down there warmed up and flowing. Because even for women, if you have Say a clitoral orgasm. First, it's easier to have a G spot orgasm because you're already engorged. The area becomes engorged and swollen. So the same thing is true for anal sex. Just make sure that you are very warmed up. And also, I mean, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Like you cannot use enough lube during sex. Have it right by the bed. Have a flip top, whatever it is, so you can just put more lube in and make sure that he's not sucking in, that he's rubbing the area around. Experiencing with fingers, experience with some butt plugs. And then, then you're already breathing, you're already into the motion. And so, you know, while also he's playing with your, your back door, your anus, you can still be massaging your clitoris, your nipples, anything that you need to relax. So make sure you're in an environment where you've, like, good music playing. You know, you don't feel like anyone's coming in, you're not rushed. And I'm saying you gotta practice all these things, Anna, because the fact that you enjoy it so much and you have an orgasm just means that you're just, you're tensing up and not using enough lube. And you're drunk.

Yeah.

And that's when guys are just gonna shove it in.

And we always say that again, guys. Yeah. Go slow. I know you're excited. I know she's letting you do this.

Yeah.

Relax.

Always go slow, take your time.

Always, always, always. And in fact, I mean, there's so many women that have like post traumatic anal disorder when they, their boyfriend the first time stuck it in without her knowing or thinking that they knew what they were doing. And then forever they write off anal sex for the of rest of their life. Because that can be painful. You can have tears. I mean, this stuff I'm saying isn't just for your pleasure. It's like for your safety. So if you did have a bad experience with it and you're with a partner now and you follow these instructions and you trust this person, I would always say try it again if you had a bad first experience because you might not like it the second time either. And it's not for everybody. Not people don't like blowjobs. There's guys who don't like blowjobs.

Whatever.

I called in love on the other night. Have a dull time. Because women don't like oral sex. So. But it's okay if you don't like anal, but if you Try it the correct way. You might. Okay. Sexually inexperienced at 24. Emily, I haven't had sex since my first girlfriend in high school. This is going on nearly six or seven years of no sex. I did not have sex through all through college and I'm almost halfway through my 20s and I feel like I'm really missing out on an important part of my life. The problem I'm having is my first girlfriend was really insecure, so we really only had missionary sex. Nothing too crazy. I'm worried that when I finally find a girl who will have sex with me, I'm just gonna be so inexperienced that it'll be an unsexy mood killer. I feel like I'm self sabotaging myself, albeit not on purpose. What is your advice for me here, Mike? 24 years old. Okay, Mike, you, this is all in your head. So most of our issues in life are in our head. Most of the suffering we do, you know, are things that we're thinking about.

Yeah, we torture ourselves.

We torture. You are torturing yourself. And I think that's the reason why you're probably not with someone because you're thinking of all the things that could go wrong and that you don't have a lot of experience and what happened with the last girlfriend and that you won't know. And so by putting out that energy, which you are, because what we think becomes our action, what we think, your thoughts become your feelings become your actions. It's all related. Then what you're putting out there in the world is, I'm not that confident of a guy. I'm nervous to make the move. And you're sabotaging yourself. So you gotta flip those thoughts around to like, I'm a sexually attractive male, I'm into it. And I'm going to make sure that the next partner I'm with that the sex is going to be amazing. So just relax and stop the worrying. And what you can do is. Every time you're tripping on this again, he's feature tripping into a situation, think about, flip it and go, wow, how could sex be really great? Think about a scenario that really turned you on or that you want to do. Make sure that when you're with someone, you warm her up. I mean, you know how to kiss, I'm sure, foreplay. And move really, really slow. I know it's going to be your first time in a while. You might want to rip her clothes off like most guys. But pay attention. She will let you know how it's going. Her breath will be Quickening. I mean, guys got to pay attention. They got to pay attention to what she's doing. You're going to be able to tell, especially if you move slow, that she's into it. And no one's expecting you to come in and be like this master. Like, practice makes purpose, practice does make it better. Not perfect. But the only way you're gonna feel more comfortable having sex is to put yourself out there. Like you gotta right where you.

And that's the only way that's gonna happen. Yeah, totally. And then, and then people have dry spells. I know it's like a couple years, but that happens all the time. And then once you get back into it and it happens, you're just gonna want to go like on a begging spree, you know?

And also, you know, it's not a bad idea to listen to podcasts like mine. Get my book hot. Over 200 things you can try tonight you can buy on Amazon. It's like 14 bucks. It's actually a really good book that shows you a lot of different positions Besides missionary. In fact, 200. It's not just positions, but a lot of positions and things like that that you could do to educate yourself so you feel more. Don't just watch porn. I hope that you're not just watching porn to educate yourself. But there's books, there's podcasts, however you like to digest your information. Besides porn, start just learning about female anatomy and what makes you feel good. I mean, I know a lot of guys who told me that when they were younger, they were obsessed and they read every sex book and they know about. I mean, there's some guys I've been with, like in their 30s. I'm like, they clearly have never. Do not know what the clitoris is. Like, no one said, P.S. dude, clitoris. So, you know, read up, read information and make sure that when you connect with someone that it's someone that you like. Like, don't try to just get this all at night, a one night stand, because you might be really bummed out because you might not get the feedback that you need. So just try to build into it someone that you like. It's all good. Okay? This is a long distance college relationship. Emily, I'm a new viewer and I really love your show. Recently you mentioned that your boyfriend in college attended a different university. My boyfriend and I are currently in our first year of college at attend different universities with the same state, within the same state. I was wondering if you have any advice for a long distance relationship. Thank you, Kelly. That's true. My boyfriend, freshman year, went to Michigan State. I went to Michigan. It was like an hour apart and it was long distance. And we spent hours and hours and hours on the phone. This is before we had Skype and all that stuff.

Texting.

We didn't text.

Facebook, Snapchat, we had nothing.

No Snapchat, no nudity. Till this day, I've never sent a naked photo. Communication is the key. You guys have to really talk about real things. Because what happens in these long distance relationships, if too much time goes by where you, you don't see each other, the conversation starts to get a little kind of awkward and then you stop feeling disconnected. And so when you do talk, make sure, you know, it's good to catch up on your day, but make sure that you start to have some real conversations. I don't know how long you guys have been together, but you're young, you're in college, you are foregoing dating other people because you're focused on this relationship, which, to be honest, a lot of college relationships don't necessarily go the distance. And I would say that the best use of your time now would be when you're talking to them to communicate about things that he wants, you know, things that he's looking for, goals. And then also sexually, there's a lot of things about sex that we're uncomfortable talking about face to face with our partner. But maybe like in a text or on the phone or if you have Skype sex.

Skype sex is big, more comfortable and you have more confidence than if you're face to face with.

Exactly. So I would say just keep all forms of communication going, whether it's the, you know what you both want, make sure that you see each other enough and that. Do you see this now? I don't know. Are you. Was she first year college? So I broke up with mine by the end of the first year, to be honest, because it was just. I was in college, I was in bond, I was meeting people. And it wasn't that I met him when I liked more than him, but it was like, there's a lot of freaking guys out here. There's a lot of freaking experiences to have.

We're not saying break up at all.

I'm not telling you to break up at all.

If you can make it work and this is the person that you really love, then you know what? Do everything that you can.

Exactly.

I'm not telling you break up with them. I'm saying make sure that the time that you do spend communicating with Them is valid, valuable, and not just wasted late at night, but, like, you're learning more about each other. You're finding out who each other are, and you expect sexually. If you can't have sex all the time, I'm saying Skype, sex, phone sex, learn which other. Like, next time you're together. This will build the anticipation so it's not awkward. Because another thing that happens in long distance is that it gets awkward. And the first time you see each other again, it's a little uncomfortable. But if you've been doing this, like, foreplay, anticipation through phone and Skype, and when you see each other, it'll just. You'll feel really connected.

Yeah. My quick story about college and dating. And it's funny because when I was in high school, my girlfriend. I was a senior, My girlfriend was a junior. I went to college. I still lived in my hometown. I would commute to San Francisco to go to school. And so my girlfriend and I kept on dating. And then my girlfriend wanted to go to San Diego State, and she didn't get in. And I said, you know what? You can still go. Just go to community college down there and then just transfer, you know? And she goes, well, what about us? I go, well, you know, hopefully we're still together. We'll, you know, we'll make it work. She goes, okay. She gets down to San Diego for a week and just starts partying and then calls me up a week later and goes, so, what do you see in the future for us? And I go, well, you know, hopefully, you know, we're still together. She's like, yeah, I just don't think it's gonna work out.

Right.

But then she, like, went to school for, like, a little while, and then she had to. She moved back to the hometown, and she was, like, trying to get back with me, but I didn't really see.

This working out in her hometown. I mean, that's what happened.

It's not gonna work out.

Yeah, we bummed. We sad.

I was. I think I was sad initially because that was, like, my real, like, first, like, official girlfriend, you know? But then after that, I was just like, you know, you said for a.

Night, you ordered pizza.

Yeah. Guys get over stuff really quickly. Really quickly.

I mean, typically men just go out and start banging women, but I've seen.

Women do that, too.

It's both.

They do that, too, because they call up all their girlfriends and say, hey, you know what? Screw that guy. They're changing their Facebook status to, like, you know, so very single now. And then they call up all the girlfriends and they go out and they get wasted, and they either, A, they do find some guy that they hook up with, or, B, they end up crying at the end of the night.

You know, I think it's best to wait until you're ready, actually. And I like that a lot of women. Like, I have a lot of friends who break up with someone. Like, I can't imagine being with anyone right now. I'm mourning. I was more like a dude, I was like. Because usually I was already over it by the time I broke up with them, but that was my own proclivity.

Yeah. And another thing. Another thing. If someone doesn't want to be with you, they're not worth being upset over at all.

I know. It's such an evil thing. We beat ourselves up. What I do what I do, and it's never what you think anyway.

Yeah. And don't. Yeah. No need to freak out and do something crazy. This person doesn't want to be with you. Okay. Move on. Go to. Go to the next person.

On to the next.

Do not mess up your life. The reason I'm saying, don't mess up your life because just recently here in. In Los Angeles, there was a car chase. And the whole car chase happened because this guy was upset that his girlfriend broke up with him and she started dating some other guy. So she went and, like, he went and confronted. Confronted the guy, ends up, like, punching him or something. And then they call the police, and then he goes on this whole police chase through a neighborhood and then ends up shooting himself.

Oh, my God. From a break.

There is no one. There's no one on this planet that you should be shooting yourself over. I'm sorry.

Totally agree with you. There isn't.

There is millions of people on this planet. You'll find somebody else. You will be okay.

You're not gonna die.

Yeah.

Unless you shoot yourself, which we don't recommend it. No, it's true. But you do think when relationships are over, this is what you go through, and I don't. I think like, in your 20s, you go through this. But what if he's the one? What if I never feel this way again? What if I never find anyone else.

Will feel this way?

But didn't you used to do that after every breakup? And then I used to call my friends and be like, why did I not like him? Why did I break over again? They're like, well, he was drunk. He did. I'm like, oh, yeah. Thank you. Thank you. But then in our minds we train.

You always think about the good stuff.

Yeah, we put him on a pedestal right after. You're like, he was the best thing ever. And guess what, people? You always find someone else.

You do.

So if you think it's not right, you know what? Work on it. But if it's not right, don't do that whole, oh, maybe I made a mistake, because trust your gut and trust yourself.

Well, the new. Well, it's not even a new trend. It's been going on for a long time. But more and more popular every single day is people reuniting on Facebook that they dated a long time ago. And then all they do is think about all the good times, but not any of the times like, why aren't we still together?

Exactly. And the things that you didn't like about them that day are probably still part of his person. Because a lot of times you don't like people because of certain character. I wouldn't say flaws, but they're not necessarily flaws or just things that you can't. That don't jive. You want your values.

You know what? I believe that people can change sometimes. A lot of people say, oh, people never change.

They change if they want to change.

Yeah.

Yeah, definitely. I mean, I think if I could date my boyfriend, I was 20. He's a successful doctor right now. My brother's like, why didn't you marry him?

Brother always says that. That was funny. I was just talking about that today because you. You came up out at work. I forgot what for. I think we were talking about, like, down under comfort or something like that. And they're asking like, oh, she's single. I was like, oh, yeah, she's probably single. Oh, I know what it was.

What?

That came up. And then during the conversation, or somebody has a daughter, and he's like, yeah, I just want to get my daughter married, and I don't care. I want to get her married young, and then I don't care if she gets divorced later because at least, you know, she'll have some, like, payout over that. And your brother always said that. I remember every time your brother was around, he's like, see, Emily, you could have been married and divorced by now.

I say, no. I say, could be married and divorced by now. And he's like, why didn't you, you know, why didn't you get married?

Yeah, he always says that.

He's like, he's a successful doctor now. This is my ex from college. He's really good friends with him. And then my brother. This is Another funny story. You miss this because we did it at Loveline, the show. My brother was in town a few months ago, and he came on the show, and this is when we were taking callers at Lovelines.

That's awesome.

I know he loves you to see. So someone calls in and they're like, hi, I've had a big crush on Emily. He was in Michigan. He lived in Michigan. And my brother's like, send me your bank statement. And then the guy emailed him the next day and was like, pictures. He's like, do you really need my bank statement? Because I'll send it to you to death that my brother was dying.

He's just joking.

I know. It's hilarious. Good times. Oh, one more thing I want to say about long distance is that right now you know I know all about sex toys. The biggest trend taking over the sex toy world is this Bluetooth remote control technology, vibrators. So the Dua by Jaejoo. Is this the coolest thing? I have to show it to you. It's like, first of all, it has a little remote control. It looks like James Bond, but also you can download, so you could be together and controlling it while she's wearing it. You could be standing next to her, controlling it with the remote. However, it also has an app that you can download on your phone. So you and your boyfriend Kelly, he could. You could be wearing the vibrator. He could be at his school. You could be Skyping, and he could be controlling the vibrations from his smartphone from his phone. How freaking cool is that?

Didn't I talk about this on the show, like, 10 years ago? Yeah, I did. I swear. You can dig up the audio.

Let's go dig it up.

And you would probably thought I was crazy at the time, honestly. Imagine if you were in New York and we were in San Francisco, and you could just, like, control it.

What? It could have showed. I do. We could be billionaires right now. Why didn't you make it? You can get that@jeju.com. that's J E J O U E dot com. Use code Emily. Get 10% off. It's the best long distance.

I hate not being billionaires.

I hate it, too. I'm so not close, but I'll let y' all know.

It'd be just so amazing just to have that amount of money. Just so, like, we could build, like, a whole, like, sex studio with, like, cameras and all that kind of stuff. That'd be amazing.

You know, we'd chill, we'd have drinks. I'M working on it. Dude, it's amazing.

That'd be a dream come true. Oh, speaking about like dream come true. Yeah, dream come true.

Spending more time with me.

Yeah, we're talking about money and dream come true. The in North Carolina, single mother, 24, she was one of the, the winners of the Powerball here in America. If you're not listening, in America, it was up to $500 million in the lottery and she was one of the winners. And like at the end of the day, after all the taxes, everything, she takes home $80 million.

Wow.

She has three kids and she's very excited about it. They were like living in a trailer.

I love when the trailer really need it. Right. That's amazing.

So hopefully, you know, they manage the money right.

Because that is way the lottery. Maybe.

Yeah, we should. But you always hear those horror stories too. Like people don't manage the money well.

So hopefully she's got to get a financial planner first thing because she will run through it. Because if your mom. My mom's a financial planner. She never helped me when I need it. But that's cool. She'll help you. Okay, that's all we have time for.

Oh, it's a wrap already.

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