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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mark our sacred institutions.

Bedroom eyes, they call them, in a bygone day. Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh my.

Do women know about shrinkage?

Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I feel so drunk.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sex with emily.com where you can check out all of our podcasts. Sign up for our mailing list. If you haven't done that yet in 2016, you totally should. And a lot of great things. We update the site every single day. Follow us on all the social media that you are obsessed with. I know you are. Instagram, Twitter, it's allexwithemily. And facebook.com sex with Emily. Hi miss.

What's going on? Emily, how you been?

I've been good.

What is happening with your life? Well, tell me everything.

Typically this is the week. This last two weeks is when all the sex conferences happen. And by sex conferences. Let me clarify. There is no sex. I actually did not have any sex.

Wow.

At the conferences. Yeah, I know, it's a bummer.

See any people having sex? Anything are the after parties. I know you get crazy with those.

After. I'm so bummed. I had to miss one of the after party because I did Loveline. So the first one was and Me, which is the adult Novelty Manufacturers Expo. It's all the sex toys products that are like there's some really cool things happening and that was really fun. And then there was X Biz, which is. They had an award show and that's all the porn awards. But there's the pre porn awards and that's the Pajama party for all the people who work in the business. And apparently things went off at the Andaz, and there were some sex parties and crazy stuff happening. And I had Zoo Loveline that night.

Oh, damn it.

I didn't see anything happening.

What about the Avion Awards?

Yeah, these are like the mini. Well, they're not that many. I mean, there was like a thousand people there. But, yeah, it was a big thing at the JW Marriott downtown. It was really fun. I was nominated for two awards. It's all rigged, whatever. And. And then, yeah, it was really fun, but it was just every year. Oh, and then there was Sexual Health Expo, which I'm the host of, and that was amazing. In Universal City. All which. I'd never been to Universal City. It's right, like, six minutes from my house, but it feels like it's so far, but it's. Wow. And. Yeah. And that's where all our fans get to come. That's like. Other two things are industry. But this was like, people get to come and learn. And, like, there was amazing workshops. I taught a workshop. I mean, I did a live podcast, which you couldn't come to, which was sad. And people were teaching workshops, and we had a booth and we had Mitt. Oh, I gotta give you my. Dude, you're gonna love this.

What?

Right there. I can't believe I was eating your Tic Tacs before the show. Because I brought you a special present.

Oh, you did?

And this is something that you're gonna love.

What?

Check it out. Mints on the bottom, mints on the top, lip balm on the bottom. It's a party. It's a Sex with Emily party. In your pants. Oh, what? Party in your mouth? Yeah. There's mints on the top. And I meant I brought that for you.

That's awesome.

I know.

Thank you.

You're welcome. So that was that. And. But then every year, there's a third year in a row, I have a little tickle in my throat, a little sticky, but I'm okay.

It was fun.

Yeah. And I'm 10, and I'm. I'm considering AVN this weekend, which is the adult video. Do you want to go? You go to Vegas every weekend. You're probably already there now.

I have, like, four Vegas trips. I'm going in, like, two weeks.

Okay. We're never on the same Vegas plane. Damn, it makes me so sad.

I would love to go to Avian Awards. That'd be fun.

You'd love it. It's really fun. I mean, you Love it for like a minute. I think you'd be into it.

Uh huh.

It's like, you know, if you're into porn stars.

Yeah. But no, it'd be fun just talking to the people, you know, I'm sure you can get like some great interviews there and stuff like that.

You can get great interviews. And when I went two years ago, I gave the keynote and so it was like, you know me, I was like super stressed out about the keynote and then it was really fun. But now I would go and I wouldn't have an agenda. Just like talk to people and talk to the porn stars that I met, you know. You meet a lot of nice people.

Yeah.

Good networking. Like people are like molding like fleshlights, like molding porn stars vaginas into new flashlights. And there's a lot of activity going on.

Sweet. Yeah, I'm sorry I couldn't make that. That live podcast, which I would have loved to do because we had so much Fun doing the 10 year anniversary live podcast.

People love the show of the live podcast.

Yeah, they enjoyed it. That was such an amazing time. And you know, getting to meet listeners and incorporating listeners into the show and you know, just meeting everybody was really, really cool. I had to take. My mom was in town.

I know, that's right. How was that?

It was cool. Nothing sexy or fun when your mom's in town. So I mean, I took her to Disneyland. Of course she hasn't been there in 20 years. So we did that and then we had my. I mean, she's obsessed with my dog, so we took the dog. Santa Monica.

Yeah, it is, right?

Yeah, yeah, totally. And then that's pretty much it. So nothing really cool.

Dude, I want to do it. You know what was really cool about the. About she is there was a lot of people there. The sexual health expo is that there was a ton of people there that were like, oh, I was at your live show and I was like, you were. They were wearing like the sex Elmy T shirts and we didn't get to meet people after that. Well, you had to leave early to do your morning. I know you have to get up early, but we didn't have like a meet and greet after. So I was like, just.

I know.

Grateful that people there we got to do so people, the improv wants us to come back and do another live show.

Oh really?

That's cool. But it won't be as. I mean, I won't be as neurotic and crazy about it, but. Well, maybe, but we should do it.

I'm totally down. That was so much fun.

Yeah, that was really fun.

Even if. Even if, like, two people show up, it was just cool just being in a different environment.

I know.

You know?

I know.

Yeah.

So that'd be fun. And then one more thing I have to say before we get down to sexy business is Hustler Workshop. My next one is for Valentine's Day coming up fast, and it's going to be February 2nd at the. @ the Hustler in West.

Covina.

Mm. And it's called Shopping with.

Emily.

Nice. I'm going to take you shopping so you do not mess up this Valentine's.

Day. All.

Right? Valentine's Day is.

Stressful.

Yeah. Even if you're alone, Just come with me, you guys. I'm gonna take you. Cause it's fun. I've had a lot of women show up. Guys and women, couples, everyone. And I take them around, look at the best vibes, best toys, best products, and it's fun. We'll go shopping so you can. It's February 2nd, 7 o'. Clock. RSVPExWithemily.com dude, that hustlers.

Everywhere. I've been seeing, like, huge stores just keep on.

Popping. I know. It's taking over the.

World. You know what? Since I mean, you're such good friends with them.

Now.

Yes. Have them send us to New Orleans. They have. They have. They're all over New.

Orleans. Really? They'd love.

To. Let's go out there and do a live show, and then we can finally do our drunk show. Because New Orleans, there's no way you'd be.

Able. They wouldn't let us not be.

Drunk. I.

Know. Like, here's a cup. Welcome to New.

Orleans. Because I was just there recently, and it would be so much fun. All you see is Hustler all over the.

Place. Seriously, I. I mean, I haven't been to New Orleans in 10.

Years. Let's totally go. So much.

Fun. Okay, but let's not say this and then not do.

It. I'm down, you.

Guys. That we were going to.

Do. Yeah.

Yeah. That was 10 years, five years ago. We were going to. I know.

Whatever. But we got to be an environment like the improv.

Or. I'll talk to.

Hustler.

Hustler. I'll talk to Hustler. I know. They keep saying, like, they want us to come to other stores and do it.

So. Dude, that'd be so much fun. I ran into family listeners in New.

Orleans. I love that. I know. Okay, I'll tell them we'll talk to. We'll talk to them tomorrow. I mean, it's on the list. I promise. Okay. So that's. That's really good. I like.

It.

Sweet. What are you doing for Valentine's Day with your sweetheart? I can see you not doing anything just because that's you, but maybe I'm wrong. Well, changed and.

Matured. Yeah. I think I do have to take her somewhere to eat. She loves steak. She's like a hundred pounds. Like 110 pounds. Right? Small little thing like yourself. But she. She loves eating steak. She eats more than I do. That's why I'm so goddamn.

Fat. Because thin, actually.

Yeah. But when I eat, and some. A lot of times I'm not even hungry. It's just because she's eating. I don't know where the hell it all.

Goes. That's so.

Interesting.

Yeah. So I wouldn't know because I've.

Never met her, but she's like the man. You met her a couple times. You just don't know. But she's like the man of the relationship. She's like, I just. I just want to go to a steakhouse, and I'm good for Valentine's.

Day. Like BOA or.

Something. Yeah, she loves boa. I went to this. This other place just recently called.

Morning G. Warren G. Don't know.

It. Morton G. Morton G.

Yeah. I do know.

More. Yeah. In West Hollywood. That place was amazing. I highly.

Recommend. Can't mess up with.

Steakhouse. So I'll probably do that. And then I. It's always hit and miss if I want to do flowers or not, because my mom's a.

Florist. Every year I think of this. I think of your mom being a florist on Valentine's.

Day. Such a.

Waste. I know. Can't your mom send you some flowers? But that. Would that be money out of her?

Yeah. Yeah. So we'll see. Depends. But we are gonna be in Vegas just before.

That.

Okay. So we're gonna.

Be. What's there in Vegas that weekend, I think.

Vaughn. We're gonna. We're gonna go to the JLo show and then maybe maybe meet.

JLo. Oh, that's awesome. I'm going to Justin Timberlake in San.

Francisco.

What? Yeah, I.

Know.

Sweet. Not Justin Timberlake. Oh, my.

God. I'm.

Like. Can we just delete this? Justin.

Bieber. Oh, Justin Bieber. I was like. I was like. Wait. I was.

Like. I'm sorry. I'm like, you guys. I'm like Dayquil. I mean, so.

I'm. Yeah, yeah. No, you know that I've gone to a bunch of JT.

Shows. Yeah, I totally. And I love Justin Timber. Like, I just. I don't know why I thought that, my friend. I'm going with my goddaughter to Justin.

Bieber.

Sweet. I know. I'm really excited. Okay, let's get into sex of the news. All right. Because. And I saved this one for you because I thought you would really like.

It. Okay, thank.

You. 11 new sex slang words for.

2016. Oh.

Wow. I'm just gonna pick out a few of my faves here. Yes, millennials say the darndest and dirtiest things. But seriously, the new sex slang terms that are becoming popular in 2016 are equal parts hilarious and cringe inducing. Check out what everyone will be saying this year and see if you're in the know. We're warning you now. Some of these are worthy of a.

Brown. Oh, I can't.

Wait. Okay, post.

Boned. Post boned.

Okay. When you're running late because of an unexpected sexual encounter. Example. So sorry, I got postponed. I'm on my way to the.

Office. Oh, I get it. Yeah.

Hilarious. Okay, side.

Chick. Okay, side chick. That's been around for a couple.

Years. Yeah. Oh, dude, we just pass over it. Okay. The other woman, or mistress. A girl is a relationship with someone while that person is in another relationship. Example. I thought Bernadette was dating him, but turns out she's just that side chick. That's sketchy. Okay, snatch.

Chat. All.

Right. A naked photo that a girl sends to her object of desire on Snapchat. Example. Wallace, I wish you could see the snatch chat that Belinda just sent me. It was.

Dirty. All.

Right.

Doppelganger.

Doppelganger. I like that one. When you have sex with someone because they look like someone else who you really want to bang. So you know the word. Doppelganger. Doppelganger. Yeah, I heard that Alan attacks with Martha because she's basically Rihanna's.

Doppelganger. Oh.

What? Yep. That's a good one.

Okay. Truffle.

Butter. Truffle butter. Well, that's a year old.

Yeah. Okay, we have to get into it. I really don't.

Want. You don't know because we talked about.

It. No, I do know what it.

Is. On another show and you almost threw.

Up. I know. I don't want to talk about truffle butter, but that is a big one. You guys. Google it. How about. How.

About. Yeah, tell me. Lay it on.

Me. Master.

Weight. Master.

Weight. When waiting for porn in your computer to buffer in the middle of masturbation. Damn this WI fi. I guess I'll just have to master.

Weight. That's.

Hilarious.

What else do I like here.

Sasquatch? When someone's pubic region has not been trimmed in a long time and it's getting out of control. I took one look at that Sasquatch and ran out as fast as I.

Could. Oh, really.

Sasquatch? Yeah. There you go.

Madison. I'll do the.

Same. Do you have any things that I don't know about? Any new words, lingo? Because you're just. You're the cool kid on the.

Block. I know. I mean, like, new slang terms.

Sexual slang.

Terms. Doesn't matter. Anything slang, just so I seem.

Cool. Yeah. Nothing really standing out right.

Now. Okay, cool. Yeah, that's fine. Just. Just check it in. I.

Know. Oh, there's a term. There's a term. It's called. It's going to be a movie. So when you're going out, right? It's gonna be so crazy. It's gonna be like a movie. Okay.

So. Oh, it's gonna be like a movie.

Yeah.

Yeah. This would be so crazy. Like a.

Movie. It's gonna be a movie. I. So dumb. But I know. It's basically. If you're gonna go out, the. The night is gonna end up.

Like the movie Hangover.

Right? Or something like.

That. Okay, got.

It. It's gonna be a.

Movie. I got.

It. I don't get.

It. I get.

It. It's.

Dumb. But people are using it again. It's gonna be like a movie.

Man. It's gonna. It's gonna be a movie. It's not gonna.

Be. Got.

It. Leave out.

The. Like. I don't. I always use too many.

Words.

Yes. I just need to be edited as I.

Speak.

Yes. Okay. Being turned on makes you stupid. There's a study that came out. Being turned on makes you stupid. We know this, right? In the heat of the moment, being turned on can make people pretty dumb. A new study found sexual arousal can give people tunnel vision, much in the same way that being hungry or thirsty does, causing them to think only of satisfying their need for gratification. So the study, published in the January issue of Archive of Sexual Behavior, they included two experience on Canadian college students. They answered questions about how aroused they were, whether they would engage in risky sexual behavior, like having sex without a condom in different scenarios. In the second experiment, participants watched the same clips and indicated how aroused they were and then played blackjack. Okay, that's just the setup. Both men and women were more likely to say they would make riskier decisions, having sex without a condom, making an unsafe gamble, and bladjack when they were more aroused. So the authors noted that previous studies found that men were more likely to make bad decisions, but not women. And in this study, it showed that women were too. Women are like, forget the condom. I'm so aroused right now. I thought it was alcohol. I always thought it was, like, arousal plus.

Alcohol. They're super.

Thirsty. They're thirsty, man. She's so thirsty. She's so thirsty. So sex.

Education. Usually guys are thirsty, but, yeah, girls are thirsty. And girls. But girls, they. They put. Here's another term. Sorry, I'm just remembering. So.

Good. You can't do it on the spot, but you're just whipping them out. I love.

That. There's the thirst.

Trap. The.

Trap. No, thirst.

Trap. Thirst.

Trap. So thirst trap is when girls post sexy photos online, like Instagram and stuff like that, so all the thirsty guys will pay attention to.

Them. The thirst trap. That's a good one. I've never heard.

Of. Are you posting thirst traps.

Online? I should post more Thirst traps work. It could be sexy photos. Like, I'm just not. It's not my natural go to. To be like, sexy.

Photos.

Yeah. Okay, so what we're saying here is that sexual education programs have to place more emphasis on the fact that men and women have difficulty making safer sex decisions when they're aroused. Even if you got the condoms all poison, ready to go, and you're ready when you're aroused, you make bad decisions. Throw in alcohol, throw in.

Drugs. Yeah, you're just, like, terrible.

Defense. I.

Know. I'm just ready to.

Go. I know. I wish you could just, like, automatically just train people to make it habitual to just put the condom on. Like, just like, you leave the house, you put your shoes on, and.

Then you put the condom.

On. No, I'm just saying in life, like, you have sex with the condom. Sex. Like, it just shouldn't be, like, a thought. Like, you shouldn't even be saying that. You.

Debate. Yeah, the freaking condom on.

Do. It just pisses me off, really? Because people just like, oh, I mean, even someone last night called in the Loveline, and they were like, well, we want to have a threesome, but we're thinking of going with someone that we know rather than, like, someone random online because we feel like they'll be safer. Like, they won't have a sexually transmitted disease. None of your friends have diseases, but everyone sketchy online does. People don't realize that your friends have Diseases, too. Your friends can give you an STD just as much as someone you don't.

Know. They don't screen their friends.

First. You can't. And some of the stuff you can. Even if you got your hand on someone's test results just came back. It could still mean they're caring. It didn't show up yet. Every six months, you have to get.

Tested. I know there's something. I don't know if it's out yet, but I've definitely seen articles on it where they're going to have a SCD checker through your smartphone. They have, like, a little.

Attachment. They do have, like, services where you can get tested. You can show people your results. I don't think you can get tested in the moment, but you can show your certified.

Results. My lab.

Box. Yeah.

Mylabbox.com. oh.

Really? That's true. But it's not instant. But yeah, it's a cool.

Company. Sex test. Dude. When we make a billion.

Dollars. Because when are we going to make a.

Billion? I really want.

To. Trying to make a million.

Dollars. I really want to be on a private jet one time in my.

Life. Call my brother. No, seriously, dude. Never in your life have.

You. No. Oh, yeah, yeah.

Once. I'm working on.

It. I know, but I want to be on the. The sex with Emily jet and.

Like, going great with this. I'd be like.

Lips.

Yeah. Can make a jet. I mean, do you think there's, like, some. There's some lips. Are you talking shaped like lips? But there must be some kind of TSA regulations against, like, having a plane or some kind of federal.

Aviation. No, I. So there's a private.

Airport. Limps can be.

Lips. Yeah. There's a private airport in. In Van Nuys, California. And they said, like, all crazy type of.

There. It's.

Amazing. Like, some. Some country guy had his face on the side of the plane. I'm sure you can put some lips. We're talking about lips on your.

Face. A billion is a lot. Like, we need some major. We need some major ideas.

Here.

Yeah. And I'm not Emily Sex.

Test. Boom. On your iPhone. Do it at your house. Let's get your team together and make that.

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Emails. When are you gonna model your.

Vagina? You know I'm not. It's funny you said that because at the sexual health Expo, my friend Nikki and she was like, oh, my God, you finally. You finally did it. You remember Nikki, my friend from.

Australia?

She was into pegging. Is she the blonde.

One?

Yes. Yes, she was. She stood out because she was telling me how she wanted to peg.

Guys and I know that was like five years ago. She's over it, I think. Yeah, it's cute though. You're right, we.

Were. No, but she was wearing. She was wearing a.

Penis. She.

Did. It was crazy. That's why I remember her and I never remember anybody, but it's like she did a woman wearing a penis. Talking about pegging, people kind of sticks.

Out. I know, it does stick out. She would go crazy because she came in from Australia for school three times a year and she'd buy everything and she'd go to Good Vibes and she's like, I want to. Yeah, I gotta find somebody to strap on. And she did. She came on our show with her strap.

On. Yeah, but she was asking.

You. She was like, oh, my God, you did it. You made a Fleshlight. I'm so proud of you. I'm like, I'm. No, these are just fleshlights on our table. This is not my vagina, per se. No, it's.

Not. Could have sold a.

Couple. So we're gonna. Exactly. On our way to a.

Billion.

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Though. Sometimes I'm like.

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Know? Right. It does help with context. Okay. Dear Emily, my boyfriend likes when I'm rough and controlling with him. What are some tips of new things to do?

Becca. Oh.

Becca. Becca, baby. Well, this is good. I love that he told her what he needed, boyfriend communicated his desires, and she's like, I'm down. I'll be rough with you. So I don't know what they've tried so far. Again, it's, you know, be great to, you know, have a little more information. But there's some ways to get started. You could do power play so you can, you know, verbally control him. It sounds like, you know, you can tell him what you want to do, what you're going to do to him next. Certain acts that you, like, lick or kiss or touch. You know, you could say, like, I want you to lick me. I want you to touch me. I want you to do all these things to me. I don't know if he. He probably see. That's kind of awesome to have a guy, you're like, go down on me, like, do this, do that. So you can probably just figure out what you want and order him, you know, have him do it. You can also get one of these remote control vibes that they.

Have. Wait, no. Are you swishing around that.

Him. He wants to be rough. He wants her to be.

Rough. Yes. So usually it's her dominating. It's not him, like, giving directions.

Like, well, but it could be both. She rough and controlling. So he might want her to say, like, lick my pussy. Like, lick my boobs. Go down on me. Do all that. And. Or he might want to be, like, thrown onto the bed and tied.

Up.

Yeah. So it's a little bit of both. We don't really know. I'm just giving her a whole potpourri of.

Just. Yeah, but she wants some ideas. So what are we gonna.

Do? So. So tell him what he has to obey you. Like, he has to, like, sex acts that he has to do. You get a remote control vibe, and you can either vibe him or he could vibe you. Like the we vibe one that you wear. Dirty talk goes hand in hand with power play. Like, get rough with words. Be like, you're my bitch. I'm. I got. I'm gonna Take care of.

You. She's like, I'm gonna drink, drain your bank account.

Right? I'm gonna, you know, I'm gonna tie you up. I'm gonna tie you up and steal your wallet.

Yeah. Set the house on.

Fire. Menace will not be tied up because he doesn't want to lose his wallet. You know, you could bring props. So, again, I think that if he wants you to be rough with him and controlling, I would blindfold him. I would tie him up, play with bondage, play with cuffs, play with, you know, silk ties. Use a paddle, use a whip, use a flogger, use, you know, all. Every. And you don't even have to go out and buy things. You could use, like, different sensations. You could use ice cubes. You could use, like, a necklace, like, if you have, like, a pearl necklace or, like, not like the jacket, but, like, you know, different sensations that you have around your house. Watch porn together for inspiration, which I love this. You know, he's probably watching porn anyway. If you're not sure what to do exactly, flip around, watch some scenes together and see what turns you both on. It's great inspiration to find out, you know, what he's into and what's off limits. But I just think getting some great cuffs, like, you know, and some bondage and just telling him what you're gonna do to him and that he's your dirty bitch or.

Something.

Yeah. Play out with it. Yeah. That's the story. Good luck with that, Becca. I like it. I like that he told her, I like that she's into it. That's what I love. That's magic. She was like, I don't know what to do because I don't really want to.

Die. Well, she sounds awesome, and every girl should be like that. Hopefully, if.

He. You mean giving into her partner's needs. Every.

Desire. Yeah. And vice.

Versa. Right? And vice versa. I agree. That'd be so.

Great. See? Okay, you didn't think I was gonna be.

Misogynistic? I did. I thought it's a big word for you. I did think you were gonna be a misogynist. I did. I did. Yeah. I love when you're equal.

Opportunity.

Totally. So good. Why are you downing the tic tacs and not the sex? The elements. Are you saving them for a.

Better? Yeah, I'm saving them for a better. I'm sorry, guys. I. Once I open a thing immense, I eat the entire thing and it's.

Okay. It's better than, like, a whole thing of French fries. Yeah, I'll have one Because I have a bad throat. Okay. This is from a Michigander. A fellow Michigander, which is what we.

Call. Oh, yeah, yeah.

Yeah. Hey there, fellow Michigander. So Michigander. That's how we say it. So long story. Should I say it in a Michigan accent? So long story short, I just toured America in a production of a show, met a girl while on tour and fell in love pretty fast. She left her current boyfriend for me. They were in a bad relationship. She said that even if I hadn't come around yonder. Can you focus on this? All right. Met a girl on tour and fell in love pretty fast. She left a current boyfriend for me. They were in a bad relationship. She said that even if I hadn't come around, they would have broken up. But I'm not entirely sure if that's true. We are four months into the relationship now. Should I be worried that she could do the same thing to me? Is she a serial monogamist? Can I ask her that? I'd rather not get used to or I'd rather not get used or taken advantage of. I'm also an all or nothing guy. If I'm in a relationship, I want it to be a loving relationship. I feel kind of hidden by her. Is that. Is this shame? He feels hidden by her? P.S. i love your show and thanks for the help.

Chadwick. 27 and P.P.S. it's cold as here in Michigan.

Dude. It's so my mom. I talked to my mom today. She's like, it is. So she was in a white out just real quick coming up from Chicago the other.

Day. Oh.

Wow. 40 car pileup on the.

I94. She was.

Driving. It was like the second she crossed the. She was going. She was at my cousin's house. And the second she crossed the border from Chicago to Michigan, she couldn't help it. It was white out. 40 park. Two people.

Died. Oh, see, no. There's no reason to go outside and travel during that at all. I know, I'm sorry. Wait till the snow.

Melts. Well, she didn't know and they wouldn't have left.

Chicago.

Yeah. Okay. So, Chadwick, I'm not making fun of you. I have the same accent. I swear to God and my family does. And I love you. Okay, so, Chadwick, I find the question, should I be worried? An interesting one because it sounds like you're already worried. Is it funny when people say, like, should I be worried? Like you want, but you're having a good time. It's a new relationship and he's worried that she's a serial monogamist and that she left her boyfriend for him, and so he's worried that she's going to leave him for someone.

Else. Yeah, well, that's understandable.

Right? Totally understandable. I think that you might be concerned that she's going to leave you, but things like they're going pretty well right now. I don't want you to psych yourself out. Maybe you're looking for a reason to be upset right here, but you're in the honeymoon phase now. It's only been a few. How long? How many months has it been, Chadwick?

Four.

Months. Also, no matter how many times I told you this, no matter what you do, you can never prevent somebody from leaving you if they want to leave.

You. That's true. There was.

So. You can't ruin. You're going to sabotage your own relationship if you worry about that.

Constantly. It's true. It's true. And it's a self fulfilling prophecy. Because even if you think it's in your mind, you're doing things that are gonna get her to move. You're being needy. You're like, are you really gonna. You're asking her, are you gonna leave.

It? So you're gonna.

Show. I would just chill in this honeymoon phase. It's early, you're having fun, things are great. But I understand that your mind is wandering towards what it means. And it's not, you know, ideal that she left her previous relationship for you. But. And also my only concern is that when you go from one relationship to the next, which I was guilty of, I was a serial monogamist, which I actually don't think is like a bad thing, per se, but we all need downtime. We all need time by ourselves to process. Not in a relationship, to figure out who we are and what we want. And it's just part of the process of becoming adult and understanding. Like, you know, our needs change over time. So that's just my only concern, that she's going from one to the next. But it sounds like you guys are getting along. I'm wondering if you've residual guilt or bad feelings about the way it happened. Even though she said that she was gonna leave the guy anyway, she kind of left him for that. For the ex. So if you're having doubts and concerns though, and you feel like this is a real relationship you want to work on, just be honest with her. Just say, hey, listen, I'm feeling this way. Use the I words. I've been feeling like things are so amazing. I can't help but to think, though, you know, you just let that relationship, and now we're in this new relationship. It makes me feel like maybe you're looking for a relationship. I'm not sure. Like, it makes me feel like you might be. You might leave me soon looking for another one. I don't. Just tell how you're.

Feeling.

Yeah. What do you think? No, be.

Honest. I mean, it's so early then in the relationship, you start having conversations like.

That. That's like, no, four months into the human phase. This is the.

Thing. Yeah. And then you have to start. They're like, I'm trying to talk them down. That would throw me back a little bit if it was somebody coming at me like that. And it's only four months.

In. I agree. I agree. And so don't do it, Ted. But I think if you have to. Chadwick, if you're like, if this is eating you up inside and you feel like your behavior is, like, kind of pushing her away, or in your mind, you're thinking, you can't stop thinking about the fact that she's, like, a serial monogamist and she might leave you, then you have to talk about it. But I think ride out the honeymoon phase as long as you can. It's four months. This is when it's good times. You know, you don't have to have, like, Abby talks about what she might be doing in the.

Future. No matter what stage you are in your relationship, you can never stop somebody from wanting to leave you if they want to leave.

You. So true. So just matter what happens, they're always gonna leave. I know you always say with it, yeah, it's gonna.

Happen. There's nothing there could.

Be. For so many reasons, people. Yeah, we try our.

Best.

Yep. Try to.

Commit. Didn't work.

Out. It's.

Okay. Move.

On.

Yeah. All right. What do you got.

Next? Oh, sex tips for large.

Penises. Oh, really, please. I need to know all of.

Them. Hi, Emily. My penis is a bit larger than average. And whenever I'm with a woman for the first time, it seems to really hurt her, not me. To be clear, it seems to hurt a lot on the first penetration of the night, but stops hurting after a minute or two. And all good from there. Typically, women get used to it after a few weeks, but until then, I have to be slow and I have to be careful. What worries me is that some women might have toughed it out and never said anything. And also, there's women who have never been with someone large and don't know how to avoid hurting. So from now on, I want to be prepared. My question is, what can I do to make it easier for women? I try to go slow. I always try to go along in the foreplay, but that doesn't seem to help much from the initial penetration. Thanks, Jeff. In the Bay.

Area. Jeff, Bay Area, what's going on? Our old.

Hometown. I love it. I've been missing it. My heart hurts. Yeah, I miss the Bay Area. Okay, Jeff, first of all, I love that you're so concerned about your partner's comfort and pleasure. I love that he's like, worry, you know, like, he's gonna hurt her. And like I said, guys are going, oh, yeah, sure, your penis is big. We get. I've actually had more emails from large penis men than smaller penis men.

So. Asking if you're.

Available. No, really, like, they're like, asking, what if I'm available? They're like, hey, running on a date. Here's my big.

Penis. Here's a.

Photo. Every woman's different, as is her anatomy. And what feels uncomfortable for one woman might not affect another. So pay attention to her body language, like during the initial penetration, and don't be afraid to check in with her to make sure that she's doing okay and that it feels okay and that she's not holding back on any pain she might be feeling. And so communication is the key here to knowing that there's no pain happening anywhere. But you wanna make sure, like you said, you did a lot of foreplay. Double the foreplay. We require it. It will get her turned on. Make sure that she's more wet and open, literally and figuratively. But no matter how much foreplay you're providing, you need to load up on the lube. Lube is huge when you have a larger member. It is your very best friend in the situation. Like, have one of those pump. You should have like a quart of like, pump lube by your bed. Even with regular sized penis, Even with any sight, there's no regular. Even with any penis. Lubricant always enhances sexual satisfaction for women. They're more likely to orgasm. It's more pleasurable. And with the guy with the big penis, this is your saving grace. Like, she's gonna be able to ease in, up, down, whatever. Much easier. And it makes it's much more smoother and easier experience. Also, positions are key. Woman on top is great because she can control the thrusting, she can control how shallow she goes. She can control the depth and penetration rather than if you're just going at it like a.

Jackhammer.

Yeah. Which I'm sure you're not, dude, you so don't do that. But she can control it that way. Spooning is another great option for well endowed men because you can kind of like, I love spooning because I love cuddling. And then she. Because it limits the thrusting and gives her full control of the. Gives you full control of the penetration and can go very slow when they're on the backs. And then he can reach around and play with her clitoris, which is always important. There's like a clitoris tickler that looked like one of those back scratchers. Because I always say to, like whenever we're talking about sex positions, I'm like, then you can reach around and grab her clitoris. But I'm trying to think of what position you can't reach around and grab her clitoris. I guess if you're pounding away, like in missionary, but, like, you know those back scratcher things. Yeah, yeah. What if there was one that was like, really tall and had a little vibration at the end and you could just. Everywhere you go, you can tickle your clitoris. It's called the clitoris.

Tickler. All right, Pandit, there's.

Our.

Okay. Don't trip on the private.

Jet. I'll give you a free trip on the private jet. We should do a crowdfunding.

Thing. A crowdfunding. I don't.

Know. Totally.

And also, you want to avoid. I'm sorry to say this because dog doggy style is huge for men. Huge position for huge.

Men. Love.

It. Be sure to avoid positions like doggy style, though, or anything that involves her legs being in the air, because with this type of access, it hurts more. Her legs are going back. He has more deeper penetration than her. But I think you're doing great. Foreplay lube. Love it. Okay, yeah. More, more.

More. All right, lay it on me. What do you.

Got? Okay, that's what I got for you. Sex sheets. Hi. All right. My boyfriend and I are 27 and both of them listen to your podcast. Thank you so much. We're about to move in together and need your help with an ongoing problem. Basically, we have a lot of great sex. We don't use condoms and always end up with all types of body fluid stains on our sheets. Other couples must run into this too. Are there any specific sheets or ideas you can suggest to. The stains aren't visible. Grace. It's hard, man, when you have a lot of sex. It's.

True. I mean, those rubber.

Sheets. Well, there are rubber sheets. It's true. Congrats though on all the great sex and the cohabitation. I think that's great for you guys here. Grace, as for your sheet, this is a common issue that many couples and singles face. And it's recommended that you wash your sheets. I say once a week. Some people say twice a week. But I mean the sooner, the more often you can wash your sheets and the more sheets you have to change out, the better. I think you want to have 100% cotton sheets if you can. Polyester sheets all like flannel sheets. They all get like hot and moldier and they're just not as good for you. They don't breathe as much. Use a water based lube. There's less chance of staining the sheets. Keep wipes by your bed like intimate wipes, like delight wipes close to the bed for quick and easy cleanup. I think a lot of us kind of roll over and fall asleep which is kind of a fun part of sex. But you want to make sure you clean up after things. Avoiding like massage oil, licking food off each other, anal stuff, all that. There's no reason if you know that you're gonna have like a crazy night of wild sex that you can put another sheet down or some towels down on top of the sheets that are like your bad sheets and then afterwards you just throw them in the thing. That's, that's what I do a.

Lot. Go to Ross or TJ Maxx or something and right. Spend 10 bucks on sheets. They still have like a good thread count on those.

Too. They do, yeah. They get good threshold. I just think it's a great deal. It's a great deal there. White sheets might not be so great. Although if you're really good at bleaching you can do that because hotels, hotels always have really nice sheet and you know people are doing nasty stuff in hotels. But you got to like bleach. Bleach.

Bleach. I once spilled an entire Gatorade bottle at the W hotel on a white.

Bed.

Right. I'm sure it looked like it murdered.

Somebody.

Exactly. I'm sure they fixed that. No.

Problem. Yeah, no problem. They always do. But you light colored paisley provides good camo and patterns. If you got patterns on the sheets, no one can tell. And yeah. Keep a colored comforter or blanket that gets removed during sexy times can be thrown over the sheets for easy cover up. But easy. Just wash them. That's easy. That's easy. Cheesy, easy, beasy. But I try to use towels and stuff. Yeah, okay. Backdoor bleaching. How do you feel about anal bleaching menace? Do you have any.

Opinions?

So bleaching is you're just dying the hair or you're not actually ripping it.

Out. It's like. No, it's actually your.

Skin. Uh.

Huh. It's like you're the skin. People think their skin should be pink, like a.

Little. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah. Gorilla. Not like a.

Gorilla. I mean.

Kissing. What are the.

Pink. Yeah.

Yeah. Okay, here we go. My name is Mikayla. What? You.

Know. No, no, no, I know what you're talking.

About. Yeah, my name is Mikayla. I'm 21, from Toronto. I've listened to your podcast for a year now and I love the show as I've learned something from every episode. I'm curious about anal bleaching slash lightning. I looked on Hustler Hollywood's website as well as on the Amazon for Lightning products, but the reviews for most of the products weren't great. If someone's interested in this type of thing, are there any products you would suggest or maybe a DIY natural option? Is it even safe to do? I have light skin but like most people I'm assuming my skin is darker in that area and I would feel a little more comfortable if it wasn't so dark. Would love to know your thoughts on this topic and any recommendations you have. Thanks Emily.

Michaela. So the bleaching, huh? I don't really know too much.

About it, I'll tell you why do you, I mean I'm not a fan of it because I think it goes back to, you know, she's singing porn probably. She's thinking like no one probably said like why is your Angus so dark? I think that she's thinking that that's what she needs to do. So Michaela, why do you think you need anal bleaching? You mentioned that, you know, she mentions here she thinks it'll make her more.

Confident. Did she attach a photo so we can.

See? We'd like to see your anus and tell you if it needs to be bleached.

Done. Send a photo and then why even waste our time? I know, like I can't even tell you like the degree of if it needs to be bleached or not. I mean I'm not saying that she's dumb, but I'm just saying that.

Common, this is actually a good email because a lot of people, women her age, which she's 21, she's concerned probably because she watches porn. Maybe some douchebag guy said something to her and she feels like she's got a problem with dark skin. Like, her skin's too.

Dark. I know, but we don't.

Know.

Okay, but do you think a guy's gonna be like, yeah, let's have anal, let's have.

Anal. Guys are effing disgusting. They're gonna have sex over.

There. You know what I mean? Seriously, this really upsets me. Really. Because he's not gonna be deterred by her darker.

Skin. Not at.

All. I know, I know, I know. Focus on having more pleasure.

Mikaela. Guys are gross. They'll do whatever.

Right? Less than appearance. I know it's not as safe as you. Would you say guys are gonna do it anyway. Guys, she's like a white girl. Like, I mean, whatever. And even still, it doesn't matter. Like, she's like, I'm white skinned, but it's like a little browner. I mean, and it doesn't even last. And here's the thing, it's not as safe as people would have you believe. Stay away from home bleaching kits, because many of them have acid in it, which can be harmful to the surrounding areas. And some like, burn and scar. There's been stories about this. Like, people, like, it's not good. Like, you do not want to be bleaching your butthole. Yeah. You want to steer clear products that have hydroquinone in.

Them. Hydroquinone still send a photo so we can. We can check. Yeah, well, we'll have swatches that we can hold up next to it and.

See. We're going to compare your. We're going to do an ass bleaching. We want everyone to send. No, no, no. I'm not going to say this because actually people would do this. I'm not even. There's like some DIY.

Options. Yeah, Be.

Careful. I'm not gonna talk about it. I think, Mikhail, work on your own, like, stuff. I think you're an awesome chick and I love that you're asking this, but I don't think you need to. I.

Think. I think she's totally.

Over. Get a bikini wax. That's fine. Like, do some other things. Maybe get your hair highlighted. Spend the money on that. I don't know. But the anal bleaching, it doesn't. It's not even like, it's a permanent thing and it could be painful and you could burn off your.

Anus. Yeah, you don't want that. No, that would be.

Terrible. So anus burning, anal burning, that's what we got here. Menace is.

There. It's such a great Time hanging out with you, Emily. I love.

It. I love that you love.

It.

Yeah. And our New Year's resolution is to hang out, like, what was it like, three times a.

Week. Three times a week.

Yes. I'm so excited for.

That. Let's do.

It. Okay. Well, thank you, Menace. And everyone can find you at.

Menace. Yep, Menace On Twitter and Instagram and my dog, my dog, Chiro. There's a lot of Sex with Emily. Listeners that follow her there. She's always up to her shenanigans. I think that one of the latest things I posted is her snoring in bed. She's a big.

Snorer. Oh, really? That would drive me insane. And you miss her, like, right now? Does your heart.

Hurt? Yeah. Oh, she's waiting for me in the house, but. Oh, I was just at the World Dog Awards not too long.

Ago.

Really? Yeah, it was hilarious. It was at. No, we were just at attending, but we were on. On.

Tv. You.

Were? Yeah, it was in Santa Monica at the Bob Hope airplane.

Hangar. Go, go.

Go. I just see something I do just.

Go. I know that's good. I something I would do, and I, like, sit and think about it, and then I fall asleep, take a nap. That's awesome. Okay. Thank you, Menace. And you can find me on Twitter and Instagram is at Sex with Emily and also facebook.com sex with.

Emily. I'm telling you, you guys need Snapchat, but you don't listen to.

Me. I do. It's on this. I have a Snapchat. Sex with Emily. So can they just follow me on Snapchat right now? I have it all set.

Up.

Yeah. So, I mean, how to do.

It? You might not have, like. I mean, you guys are in the office a lot working on the show, but it'll be great for when you're at events like you want. You're at the Avians and stuff like that. People would love to see that on.

Snapchat. Okay, can you. Can we do our first Snapchat right now before we.

Leave? Let's snap it.

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