Easy Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

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The conversation around sexual hey, we all.

Need to mix it up sometimes.

Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? Well, with creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life and I'm here to tell you how. First, we'll talk about planning a sexcation with low lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what's left?

I advise one caller on sexual teasing.

And how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing. How to have more fun with casual sex if your current routine, even with new people, is leaving you bored. Intentions with Emily for each episode I want to start off by setting an.

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I got an email from Instagram. 31 year old. He said he needs some staycation planning. How do you plan a sexcation? Do I just plan it? Do we do it together? He's 31 and married. So I got to thinking, how do we plan a great staycation? One thing that I want to tell you is that I have this few ideas for you. We have to remember this, that typically when we ask for something, we were thinking about, well, what would be a bucket list? Or how do we keep it interesting? It has to do with novelty. It typically comes down to doing something that is novel, something that you're not doing every single night over and over again, I. E. You know, having sex in the same bedroom, staring at the same ceiling. That is not novel, that is not interesting. Something that is a little bit outside of your routine. And I think that right now more than ever, if you've noticed this, that this is really the time to use our imagination. Imagination and to have fun. That's something we have control of, right? Of our imagination and what we want to happen. And we can pretty much make things happen. First easy thing, hook up somewhere new. So outside the bedroom, I don't care if it's in the kitchen, if it's in the pantry, in the kitchen. I have a friend who has three kids. She lives in Chicago. She called me and she said, guess what we did, My husband and I, the kids were all like watching TV or doing something. And she pulled him into the pantry. It's like a walk in pantry in the kitchen. And they had like a quickie in the pantry. And it was novel and it was different, it was unexpected. They've been together like 15 years. And she was like, we're doing in the pantry, so suck up somewhere new. Just change the location. You could do some teasing. So this is what I love. And I think there is the lost.

Art of the tease.

Like, when was the last time you did a buildup towards sex? You sort of sent your partner a sexy text. Maybe it's a picture of you in a certain position and telling them what you're waiting for when they come home, whispering in their ear what you want to do. Like maybe you're at a family picnic that's going to end soon and you're like, we get home, I'm going to give you a. The most incredible sexy back rub, something like that. Use your imagination. The other thing this made me think about is you could listen. A lot of us, I'm myself, am considering taking a road trip. Hook up under the stars. You could make. You could even do this in your backyard. You could put down a blanket, light some candles, give each other like a sexy massage. Putting some, you know, oil on your partner and massaging their body, surprising them with that and then switching terms, you know, under the night sky is a beautiful thing to do. And it's something different. I don't think I can emphasize enough the art of the tease, the art of massage. Listen, a lot of us are not in the mood for sex. We're stressed out. We have things to worry about. The kids are around. We're worried about work, money, finances. But when you just get your hands on your partner and you start to like kind of calm them, even if it's like a 10 minute massage, what it does is not only does it feel good, but it calms the nervous system. And you'll find that your mood can completely change and then you'll totally be in the mood for anything. Maybe it's just a massage that night or maybe you find once you breathe into the massage that oh, actually I'm in the mood for sex. All this touching actually got me in the mood for it. You could also do this with a massage candle. Massage candles are really fun because it's atmosphere. You light it for a few minutes and then you blow it out and then you like pour it on your partner. It's like this warm. It's not a regular candle. Don't do it with a regular candle. Cause that hurts. But a massage candle is just like luxurious oil. Like it turns into oil. It's not waxy or messy or sticky or hot. So doing this thing of like playing with an ice cube, swirling it around in your mouth, playing with hot and cold are all things you can do. Those are some of my tips.

Hi, Stacy, 30 in Utah. What's going on?

Hello.

Hi.

So there is 17 years between my husband and I.

Okay.

I have orgasms all the time. I have orgasms every time I pee. I have orgasms when the hot water of the shower runs over my body. I just have orgasms. And it sounds like I'm in a pretty different situation than a lot of other women out there. But my husband and I try everything, and there's nothing that we don't try. We have a really great sex life. Other than the fact at the moment, I feel like I personally am kind of bored.

Right.

I get it.

Because I am so into trying anything and everything that there is to do with me, but not so much anything and everything that there is to do with him.

You're not into it, or he's not into trying to. Other things.

He's not into trying other things with. And stuff like that.

Okay. Have you talked to him about this?

Have you ever said, hey, I'd love to? And he says, nope, we've tried it.

He says it hurts him. And so we've tried other things, like smaller toys and even more experience talking about, yeah, it.

Prostate play.

Yes.

And it hurts.

And you just a finger and all of that. Like, we have really tried it because like I said, I'm kind of over giving my body.

Yeah, Yeah, I get it.

So do you think that it's not that I'm.

I understand. You're like, no, I don't. Stace. I get it.

I'm Stacey.

You're like my buddy Stace. I feel like you. I totally get it. You're like. But he's kind of like, no, well, it's fine. It's fine. I don't want to do anything. And typically it's because he probably doesn't really know what else is on the table. So he's like, I don't know. Or maybe he was told growing up that it wasn't okay to explore other things. And so I think it's really just a matter of, like, learning together what could be interesting. So maybe he doesn't want anal play. Like, that's fine. That's not for every person. Like, for you, first off, because you have so many orgasms. I'm really glad you're calling right now because here's the thing. I know I talk about orgasms a lot. It is my job.

But it is not the end all, be all with sex.

Like, it's about intimacy. It's about connection. It's about playing. It's not so linear. So maybe you have your orgasm, Stacy, like, right away. But then you guys could play together. You could do some, like, bondage. It's really a great way for couples to kind of focus. Like, if you do a blindfold over him and then you start to like, tease his body and use, like, a massage candle and different Sensations like ice cubes and cold things and hot things, and you just sort of play with it. That could be a way to tease him so he can kind of see what else is out there.

Yeah, we've tried. We have swings and we have the candles and we've tried ice cubes and we have bondage kits. We have different kinds of swings and different kinds of bondage kits and all kinds of different toys.

And he just. Is he into this?

It's not that. Yeah, no, we're into all of it. Like, yes, it's all great. I'm not complaining about our sex life. I'm just kind of hit a wall of stuff to try new with me.

Oh, with you? What about orgasm denial? What about him teasing you so it's like you can't come yet? Like, he's not really touching you. You get the blindfold. He's, like, teasing you, like, blowing on you using a feather massage oil. Like, playing all around everywhere. But has he tried this stuff on you?

So orgasm denial is not really our thing. Mostly because I have so many orgasms.

Right, but what if you had the buildup toward, like.

But what I'm saying is teasing you.

Just knock out an orgasm. So now it's because. Because that's kind of hot. For many people, it's hot to, like, not just go right for the clitoris or right for anything and just kind of like, massaging your inner thighs and, like, playing with you and teasing. Because then. Then that's like, the arousal process. Yes. So do some teasing. Do some playing.

All right.

There you go. Stacey, that's drink number seven. Yeah, let me know.

Let's talk to Jeff in California.

I'm a gay. I'm a gay male.

Okay.

I have this thing where I like to, like, suck dick. You know, put it my way.

On brand.

The guys like it. And so, yeah, I have, like. But I'm getting kind of carried away lately because I'm like, I have a house by myself. I need some help. Because they come over, like, two or three times and I. I start to get bored. I gotta, like, spice it up a little bit. I need some input. What can I do?

Wow.

What are you saying?

You want to spice up your blowjobs?

Well, yeah. I have these guys. There's like, two or three that come over all the time, like, consistently. We have sex, we hook up. I get bored easy.

Okay, well, I've got some. I mean, you've come to the right place. We all know how to give a blowjob. Not all of us. But many of us know how to give blowjobs. But you're right, why we keep doing the same things over and over again. So have you ever done anything with, like, temperature play? Have you ever, like, used a blindfold on one? And they come in, you blindfold them. Because when you take away one sense with a blindfold, everything else becomes more heightened. And then you can have, like a bowl of ice by the bed. You can have an ice cube in your mouth. And then you could take the ice cube and like, drip it over their body. And you know, when you put penis in your mouth, you could, your mouth will be cold. Then there's some incredible warming, like, warming lubes, playing with, like, warming or cooling products. You could also do, you know, just like, teasing. You could use a toy. Have you ever used a toy or a ring?

I love cock rings, girl. We love those.

Yes. I love cock rings.

Yeah, they're the best. The vibrating ones are spectacular.

Yes.

Is it wrong to ask someone, like, say a guy comes over and I feel bad, but if I tell, you know, there's some guys have a little aroma, I'm not gonna lie, you know, women do too, but it gets here. I mean it. For the first time, I'm like, hey, buddy, jump in the shower. Is that, is that rude?

Well, hygiene is such an interesting question because I, I, this is something that, how do you do it? We all, it's awkward. We all know it is. But I think that there's a, that we all know what it means, right? You're like, hey, buddy, jump in the shower. I'll be like, oh, shit. But I think you would say one shot. You could say, hey, I haven't showered yet. Want to shower together?

Because then you guarantee that it's that you're both clean going into it.

I think it's the way you say it. You could even, like, kind of like, instead of like, duh, take a shower. You know, you could just say, like, my profile.

Is that okay? I put up my profile online.

Yes, yes.

You could say, let's shower together and have a cocktail. Like, let's shower together and hang out. You could, even after the shower, what would be fun is if you shower together, you got the candles going. And then you could use some, like, of this war, like, warming oil. And then you could like, lie them down. You could give them a massage, put it all over their body. Massage is so underrated. And then if you get something that could kind of make it fun, oil up his body and then use a vibrator, right? Teasing them. You don't. And a vibrating doesn't just have to be on the.

The. If you will.

You could use it all over their body, right? You could tease them. You could kiss them. It's just play with them while you're wearing it.

While you're wearing it?

Yeah, while you're wearing. Or just holding it in your hand. No. Well, yes, you can tease it while you're wearing it as well. You could, but you could also just use it in your hand and, like, use it on down their back. Use it all over. Like, literally tease them with it in your hand and just drag it all over their body with the oil. With a blindfold. You could do prostate play. Do you ever do any prostate play?

Absolutely.

Yeah.

There you go. Fingers and hands free. Yeah. I mean, do.

Listen, you.

You know, all the things I think a lot of this stuff about spicing it up or keeping it interesting is atmosphere. Atmosphere and just doing one thing different. And that could be showering together. It could be a new toy. It could be just something smelling amazing. When they come into the room, the bed's made. It's a different location.

There's a knock on my door right now, believe it or not.

Oh, my God.

Go have. Let me know how it goes. Do you think it's them?

Have fun.

Now you're. Yeah. Did I help? Did you get some good stuff?

Yeah, you got it, girl. Thank you.

Okay. Of course I'm here for you. Amazing.

Stick around, because after the break, I'm.

Talking to callers about mixing up their.

Masturbation routines and spicing up sex in.

A once sexless marriage.

This is from Casey, 31, in Wisconsin. Hi, Dr. Emily. I recently decided to go out on a limb and test the waters as a third in a dominant sub. Sub relationship. We were talking all about fantasies, and.

I brought up that I enjoy outings.

My partner has a remote or an app and can play, tease, punish, or reward me throughout the night as they want or deem appropriate, depending on the mood. It's a huge turn on for me because of the feeling of having our own little secret. Well, we all agreed that it was super hot. And after further conversation, we are trying.

To find a product that would allow.

One individual to control two toys at the same time. Something that could be used if we were in the same place or if one of us is traveling, but it seems to not be a thing. I for sure would have thought this is an option somewhere by now, but it's proving difficult to find help. All right, I love this question. I love that you're spicing it up. I love that you're in a triad. I love that you're exploring all of your fantasies. And I can't agree with you more that playing with a remote control toy. You literally are just making me like, want to do this on Saturday night. Because I'm like, we haven't done that in a while. Because my experience with park partners playing with a toy when we go out and let me. You have to understand what she's asking here. Literally your partner has a remote app on their phone, and then you're wearing the toy when you're out and about. And at any time, they can just turn on the app and then you're getting vibrated while you're ordering a meal at a party, going for a walk in a movie theater. It's really fun, it's really hot. And it does engage in power play because your partner is literally in control of your pleasure or pain, depending on how you decide to play.

And so if anyone is interested more.

In this kink, you're like, what are you talking about? I do have a really great chapter on kink in my new book, Smart Sex, which hopefully you will all pre order. So getting into some other things about kink, if anyone's curious, kink is all about dominance and submission, and so is sexuality. So is any kind of sex. There's always someone leading in, someone following, which is dominance and submission. So even if you're thinking I'm not very kinky, I'm going to be honest, most of us are a little bit kinky. Because what's not kinky, what's more vanilla is typically missionary sex and make it out. And so there's a lot more to sex when you are open to playing around. And I think using a remote controlled toy is a great place to start because you are playing with these power dynamics. And the thing about using a toy, especially when you're out and about, is that's the novelty, that's a spontaneity, and that's the variety that a lot of you are craving in relationships. You know when you're telling me that it's getting boring or you want to spice it up, sometimes just a new toy could be everything you need to keep things hot, you know? And as Casey says, it's super fun for your pleasure to be at the mercy of your partner, especially if you're a submissive. So if you're looking to spice up.

Your sex life, I highly recommend playing.

With Bluetooth controlled toys. And by the way, I've been talking about Bluetooth controlled toys for years. What I love is when you're asking me for it, it's like, I'm not pushing it on you and saying, you're gonna love it. So, Casey, I'm not sure that any app exists that can control two toys at the same time. You know, so if one of you is traveling, you might just need to splurge on two remote controlled sex toys. You know, the more the merrier. Am I right? Why not? But for the times that you are together, I highly recommend an app controlled couples toy like a vibrating cock ring, which is a great place to start. And Lelo makes a great one. It's called the Tour 3.

And what I love is it's a.

Brand new update to their tour too. So I love when someone's updating a sex toy. You're like, it was good, but now it's even better. Has more pleasure settings, intensities, and now it has a Bluetooth connection. So your dominant partner control the couple's ring with the Lelo app. I just talked to another caller about vibrating cock rings, and they're so fun because really remember this, you can use them on any body part between two people. They can be worn on the shaft, or you can hold it like a handheld vibrator. The clitoris, the nipples, the lips, the inner elbows. I mean, all those amazing erogenous zones all over your body. Just remember, we are bodies covered in nerve endings that feel really great when stimulated. So, you know, find the vibe, find the parts that feel good, and feel free to use a vibrator wherever. I'm not sure if the other two people in your pally relationship are penis or vulva owners or who is a dominant one, but using a couple's ring could be a great solution for controlling the pleasure for two people via an app, even if it's the same singular toy. And I do think you can also have multiple Lelo toys connected to their app. But you might have to get a few toys and take turns controlling each one. And Lelo has so many great options. Their toys are all incredible. You know, we'll make sure to put it in the show notes. It can also be fun to pass the toy between you two throughout the night. You know, maybe you're at a party and one of you is wearing the toy, and then you go to the bathroom and you pass it to someone else. And your punishments or rewards could determine who gets a turn with the toy. So you're all playing together in this really super hot Erotic fantasy that's coming to life. And then whenever you need to exchange a toy. Now I'm thinking this through with you. I'm like, okay, what could you do? You could go to the bathroom or somewhere at the party to exchange the toy and hook up all at the commands of your dominant partner, who's essentially controlling the evening and controlling how you play. And if one of you is traveling, then you could take the toy and be brought into the mix virtually while the other two of you are together having sex. How hot is that? So it's like you're still together, but you're not together. That's why I love the innovation of Bluetooth enabled toys, by the way. These toys are also great if you're in a long distance relationship. It's literally always my first suggestion when someone's long distance. I say, have you gotten a Bluetooth toy yet? I hope this was helpful, Casey. Please let me know how it goes. I can't wait to hear all the details.

Okay, this is from Destiny 36 in Texas. Hey, Dr. Emily. I'm a 36 year old single woman living in Texas. Thanks to you, I started exploring myself more and had my first clitor orgasm. And by just using my fingers. This was exciting for me as I never really put the time and effort into it before. Well, now three years later, I want to explore it, but I find myself doing the exact same thing every time I masturbate. I don't have a partner, although I would like one, but I have not really met anyone that I like on the apps and the casual route is not my style. My two questions, how could I take my masturbation routine to another level? Maybe try to have a G spot orgasm? And any suggestions how to find a partner? Thank you so much. Xx Des. All right, Des, this is a great question. First off, I love that you were first inspired just to kind of let your fingers do the walk in and see what felt good to you and exploit yourself. And just remember what she's saying here is that she just started exploring and then had an orgasm. But remember, it doesn't happen right away. And my best advice is just to masturbate. If you haven't before. It's been a while to just start to touch yourself without the goal of an orgasm or what it should feel like. Because then you could really get into your senses and you can really think about, well, what actually feels good. You know, if I move my hands, I tease myself on my inner thighs or I always think like, what if you were like on Your deathbed or something, and then you, like, touch the back of your knee, and then you're like, oh, I can now have like a kneegasm. Or you learned all these different ways to have pleasure and you didn't know. So this is what I'm talking about, about exploring. And so you want to take it to the next level here, because you've already had one. And so I think, yeah, why not try internally? I mean, the clitoris is where the magic happens for so many of us. 8,000 nerve endings. And I would argue that the G spot is the internal clitoral nerves. So it's really just knowing that your G spot has a head to it, which a lot of us know, but also has legs. And those legs extend behind your labia and internally. And so, yeah, I would try to use your fingers and just start exploring your G spot. It does help to have, like, a clitoral orgasm first or to already be aroused and to mix it up. I don't know if you've ever tried a dildo, if you've ever tried playing with your nipples, too, because remember, it's the same parts of your brain that stimulates your clitoris, your nipples, they're reaching that same part. So it's all responsible for your orgasm and pleasure. They are connected. And so I would, you know, recommend trying out some internal pressure. Try out different positions. So, for example, if you're going to go internally, you're going to use your fingers or get a dildo first. Elevate your hips. Destiny put a pillow underneath you. And this goes for literally everybody who's sexual right now, that there's something about elevating just a little bit. And so you're either your partner has more access to your pelvic floor or you do, but it's just a different angle. So much about mixing up masturbation is trying different angles. If you're always on your back, masturbate on your stomach. If you've never used a toy, try the vibration. It feels amazing. I mean, really, it's just. You want to use a lot of lube. You can try it with your fingers, and you just kind of go inside, applying pressure. It's about an inner two thirds of your. Inside your vaginal opening, and you just apply pressure to it. You can also have a hand on your clitoris, and the hand inside. I would say positions. I would say maybe you could even listen to some erotica. I'm really into listening to erotica. There's a site called Triquin. It's Q U I N N since we don't want to. I mean, I'm such an audio person, obviously, but I'm visual in many ways. But something about just listening to someone be super, like, sexy and hot. And they have, for all genders, all orientations, whatever you're interested in, they have something for you there. So I would just recommend playing with some of that, playing with positions and playing with timing and seeing if you could tease yourself and just kind of maybe delay orgasm. That's another thing to do, to mix it up. You know, one of the reasons why we love, like the early parts of a relationship is before we actually get sexual with someone is because, like, the intimacy starts to build. There's a little bit of teasing, there's a little bit of not knowing what's going to happen next. And we can actually do that to ourselves as well. And so I like teasing myself. It's a fun thing to do. So I recommend all that. Destiny, we could talk to Scott, 47 in Pennsylvania. Hi, Scott.

Thanks for calling.

Hello.

Hello.

Thank you for taking the call.

Of course.

I've been married for 23 years. Probably the first 20 years, 21 years, was pretty sexless.

Oh, wow.

Usually maybe once a month. Maybe once every other month kind of thing.

Okay.

And there's often a fight and argument over how often we would have sex. Probably about the last year and a half, things have changed a lot differently. We are having sex probably weekly now.

Wow.

Which is great.

Amazing.

I don't mean to feel greedy.

Whatever.

I feel that we're doing the same thing over and over and over again. I want to do something new and different.

Okay, that makes sense.

But at the same point, I don't want to kind of push her away or whatever and not be grateful for what we have now.

Well, have you talked to her about.

Your sex life before? Like, what made it.

Yeah, like I said, Reverend I thought about, like I said, toys and stuff like that or whatever. And one possibly introduced that, but at least know in the past that she was kind of against that kind of stuff.

But I just want, you know, just add something new or different.

I think you should, like, listen, you've.

Been with her a long time in the past. We were all not into toys, thinking that we only could have orgasms a certain way, that.

That we've all these beliefs.

Right.

That she's.

She's just still holding onto that. But I think if you can kind of just introduce her and just. I mean, the best way to say is like, I. I'm so. I Love our sex life. I love all the sex we've been having and give her, like, compliments about things that you really like and say, and I would love to try some sex toys. I think it'd be really hot to, you know what kind of pleasure a sex toy could bring you. I would think that would be so sexy to watch you have orgasms that way or to take our sex life to another place and experiment and have fun together. So if you couch it like that, I mean, if you really.

Which I think is the truth, then.

She might be more likely to listen.

Than just like, next question.

I would be. I'm sorry. Yeah, my next question would be. Whatever. She is very, very sensitive, and she probably would orgasm very easily with a toy.

Okay.

Is there something that is less.

I mean, less vibrational or less.

Oh, you could use a dildo with her. Why don't you get, like, a steel? Like, there's dildo. Does she like internal stimulation?

Yes.

So I think getting something that doesn't vibrate like a dildo. Actually, a dildo is something that doesn't vibrate. So it can be made of silicone, it can be made of steel.

Get she into nipple play. You could get her some nipple clamps.

You could get some. You could do some spanking, you know, some bondage gear. But first, we gotta meet her where she's at first. Let's see what she would be into. But I think it sounds like internal toys could be great, especially if she's for women who have a lot of. For women who are very sensitive, like, clitoral toys aren't as great.

They're just painful even.

Okay.

All right.

All right, Scott. Got you here for you.

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