Episode 273 - Fit for Love

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Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Bedroom eyes, they call them in a bygone day. Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend?

Cuz My man E here, he just.

Got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

A girl's gotta have her standards. Oh my.

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my God.

Being bad feels pretty good.

You know, Emily's not the kind of.

Girl you just play with.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information about Sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to the podcast. A lot of you are there right now listening to the podcast. You know, it's free web live web TV show every day, one to two Pacific Standard Time. And we've got some announcements, we've got stuff going on. Hey, Manis Let me just say hello to you.

Hi.

How you doing?

I'm good. How you doing?

I feel bad. I don't want to blow it. But we do have a guest in studio, and they know that. They don't know that I don't talk before the show.

Oh, okay.

So they might think I'm rude, but.

Yeah, he's not rude. He just doesn't talk. Okay, so. And he doesn't talk after the show. In fact, I've never talked to him unless we're on air.

Yeah.

Sign something. Sort of. Yes, we do have a guest. Thanks for mentioning that. He wrote a book called Fit for Love. Billy Sunday Mars. We're talking about the sex. Sex exercises that you can do to enhance your sex life. Is that how you say it?

That's what we do.

That's Fit for Love. He teaches courses, like, forget your aerobics class. Whatever people take. What do people take now?

They take spin classes, yoga or Pilates.

Pilates is big. You should just take this class so you can have better sex. So we're gonna get into that and we'll also. Yeah. Today we're also giving away. Every single day, we're giving away a free Friends with benefits. If you like the Sex with Emily page on Facebook, which is facebook.com sexwithemily Every day, one person will be randomly selected to win a free Sex with Emily membership. And if you're already a fan, you are still eligible. And if you're selected, we'll send you a message and you will get a free membership, and we'll announce your name on the show.

Good.

Good.

So what's going on with you?

You know, lots of things.

Lots of. Oh, I hate when you say that.

I know.

So what are the. Lots of things? Can you tell me anything today?

Today I can tell you. Do you're, like, frustrated with me or something?

No, I just don't. I just don't know what that means.

When you say lots of things.

Yeah, lots of things. Like what?

I don't know.

What's going on with you?

I don't know. I'm just busy doing stuff, working and hanging out with friends. And I got a friend's birthday party night, which is gonna be really fun. She owns this cool club in the city called Project One, and it's her birthday. I'm doing that tonight. And, oh, last night I had a fun dinner with an old friend that I hadn't seen in 30 years, 20 years, or something like that.

Who is this old friend?

He's an old friend.

See, how she says friend, we never slept together. I know, but see, thing is, this is how you can tell with a woman if she hung out with a guy or not. Because she'll say friend. If it was married with two kids.

And lives in New York, it doesn't matter.

I'm not saying that you hooked up with them, made out with them, gave him a hand job or anything like that. I'm just saying the moment that a woman says oh yeah, my friend, it's a guy. Instead of saying oh yeah, I was.

Hanging out with girlfriend because we said we see girlfriends. Uh huh. Yeah. And it's.

It's the instant. It gives it away instantly on the.

Show before he should come back. Anyway, he's an interesting. No, it's a giveaway. Yeah. So he's a guy that I. We knew each other growing up and yeah, it was fun. He has a skincare line that's really popular for men called Anthony's. Anthony's Skincare. Have you heard of it? Well, get you some. It's amazing. They sell it like at Nordstrom and Sephora. Yeah, I haven't heard nice stuff. So anyway, we had. We caught up, we talked about childhood. Yes.

Did you drink wine? What kind of wine did you drink?

I did drink wine. I had some Sauvignon Blanc, I believe. And it was good.

Okay.

Yes, it was really good. And then I don't know what's going on with you? Tell me about you.

I am getting all my schedules together. You might hate me, but I might fly to LA on Friday real quick.

Really?

Just for a couple hours.

That's okay. I'll miss you.

But why Rob Durak doing in la?

What?

Rob Dyrdek. He's a professional skateboarder. He has this big huge warehouse. It's called the Fantasy Factory.

Okay, cool.

And he's on MTV and he's starting another television show and he's having a press thing, so I might have to flip.

That's fine. Just let me just keep posted. We'll just cry and you're not here.

And then I'm just like booking everything, like for the month of October. Got a bunch of concerts and stuff. I booked myself for Lollapalooza 2012.

It was that good today because it was that fun.

I gotta go every year anyway, so my cool. I saw a hotel that I want to stay at next year.

You don't want to say the W again?

I love the W. Love the W, right? You know I'm the biggest. Yeah, but it's just though the Walking factor.

Oh, it was too far.

Yeah.

Got it.

Too far.

So that's what I'm doing.

That sounds really good. All right. I don't know why my.

I don't know what's going on. Nothing is going on. I just. Nothing is going on.

You sure?

I'm sure.

What about that guy you're hanging out with?

He's good. I saw him last night after my dinner. Oh, okay.

How'd that go?

It's good. I like it.

Why aren't you sharing that with me?

What's cool?

I don't know. Because he's kind of awesome. He's a great guy. And so I saw. I'm not in love, dude. I don't fall in love.

Oh, sorry.

I don't do that.

Okay.

No, but I like him.

So what did you do?

We just hung out at his house.

That's it?

Yeah. No, we walked on the mission with my dog.

How's the dog going?

The dog is good. It's fine.

What's the guy feel about the dog?

I think he pretends that he likes her.

Yeah, I would, too.

You pretend that you liked her?

I would pretend I like her.

No, you didn't like her. She was sitting in your lap. You're like, this is a problem when you have men over there and dogs are gonna sit in a lap.

The dog farted on me and it stunk.

I know.

It's got stomach issues. She's got so many issues. So I'm trying her out for another month. I've got, like, a month left. And it's. But it's. What? I've made all these new friends at the dog park. She has play dates. People text me. They're like, is Daisy there? Because Daisy, she is this crazy.

Jack Russell terrier that can't. That is upset, that has so much energy that she never, ever stops. And she. She wears out all the other dogs. Everyone's like, we love playing with your dog because your dog wears out. I'm talking about my dog now a lot.

But that's true.

It's true.

That's what she said.

It's all very sexy. What's going on in Sex with the news?

This is what we got, okay? But this is what we're talking about today. Some topics of the show today include emails, orgasms from oral sex, menopause, and sex, body image and too much stamina in bed. And we've got some sex in the news that I'm gonna get to right now.

Cool.

Okay. Celebrity penis names. Would you name your own Penis. And even if you had, would you reveal your pecker's name to the public? Here's a compilation of celebrities that were so proud that they couldn't help but boast its name. Recently at Jay Leno, Hugh Jackman revealed his Wayne secret identity. You really want to know who old James Roger is? Let me show you. He said, pretending to unbutton his pants. Okay. So last season on Jersey Shore, Snooki was quite taken with Vinnie's strapping manhood. In fact, she loved it so much, she named it Moby Dick.

Yeah.

Did you know this? You know this Jersey shirt?

Yeah.

She always talks about it.

Okay. John Mayer named his effin David Duke something.

C Cock something. Who do you name your penis?

No, I haven't.

It's okay if you did. You can tell me the name.

I haven't, I swear.

Bailey's on name Mars. You name your penis? Is that a personal question? Here, move this closer to you.

It's an alter ego.

Oh, is it? Well, you're like, into the whole sex. Okay, got it. Okay, here's some other. Macaulay Cochin revealed that his nickname for his member is Floyd.

Floyd?

Yeah.

He was with Mila Kunis for a long time.

Yeah. So she probably called him Floyd, too. I think they called Owen Wilson the Butterscotch stallion in reference to his blonde mane and his horse sized dong. Rainn Wilson tweeted his wings name the failed whale.

The Fail Whale.

Uh huh. I can't believe all the. First of all, I can't believe all these dudes are like, outing themselves with their names of their penis. That's kind of why not.

They're just being funny about it.

I know, but I just never knew. I never. I. I wouldn't want some guy to be like, oh, and I'd like you to meet Bob. I'd be like, really? I don't want to know. Your neck.

Bob.

Your penis's name is Bob? Yeah. And you don't want to name yours right now just for fun?

No.

Okay.

Probably not. I can't come up with anything right now. I apologize.

God, you're so lavender today.

I'm not. I'm waiting for you to pop on out.

I'm popping.

All right.

Psychiatrist had sex with married patient as delegation waited outside his office. A psychiatrist had sex with a married woman patient on his consulting room floor while a delegation from the Locals Women Institute was waiting outside for a tour of the hospital. Dr. Stephen Lomax, who was also married at the time, had given the mother of two astrology readings predicting she was on the edge of something new. God damn it.

People are saying yeah, she was of his wiener.

The woman referred to as Mrs. A came to Dr. Lomax, suffering from low self esteem after being diagnosed with a thyroid condition.

Oh, those are the best. The ones with low self esteem. Because they'll love you forever.

Oh my God. I mean, you can't sleep with your patients. Therapists.

Of course they do. All the time.

I know they do, actually, but they really shouldn't. Not that I know. That's.

Do you know by experience?

No, I actually. I actually do know by experience, but not from my own experience. But I know of an experience that happened with someone with their therapist. Not good. We're not gonna get into that. Okay.

Should be a therapist.

What'd you say?

I should be a therapist.

Exactly.

I'll cure you with my wiener.

Okay, perfect. Teen faces prison after sex doll prank goes awry. Okay, so when 18 year old tyel Morton put a blow up sex doll in a bathroom stall on the last day of school, he didn't expect school officials to call bomb squad or that he'd be facing up to eight years in prison and a possible felony record.

What?

Senior prank gone awry has raised questions race, prosecutor, prosecutorial zeal and the post Columbine mindset in small Indiana town. Whatever. So they feel like the. They fear that it was explosives, but it was really a sex doll. Schools are so uptight.

Like I hear about crazy stories where kids are pulling pranks that weren't even that bad. Like the one that I heard most. Actually Jimmy Kimmel brought it up where a kid wanted to ask a girl out to the prom.

Right.

And you know, in high school the big thing is like you ask in a special romantic way and this guy cut out in cardboard, big giant cardboard signs and put them out in front of the school asking this girl to go. Cardboard signs.

Not even like taped to the wall or anything like that.

Right.

Just laid there.

Right.

Okay.

They wouldn't let him go to prom.

Why?

Because they said it was vandalism.

That's so that's how bad it is. Sad. That's crushing this kid. He like went out, did this whole valiant effort.

Yeah. So they made. They put him on the Jimmy Kimmel show and stuff like that.

Did she say yes?

Yeah.

Yeah, of course. I don't remember guys being like, it was a big deal to go to the prom. I don't even remember. Well, I remember prom, but I don't remember being like, it never.

Like it never hit me until I started watching a Lot of reality television like mtv where Laguna beach and all this other stuff where they had a lot of teens on television.

Right.

But I. I don't know where this came out of. Where they would do a big. They would do a big.

You know, moment with the, with the, with the asking of the out.

Oh.

It'S called a blow up doll. So he's saying it's called a blow up doll, so could be the explosives. Yeah. Wow. Anyway. Wait, yeah, so you were saying. Okay. It is a blow up doll. Okay. Anyway. New male vibrator claims to boost erections. In recent days, gadget bloggers just gizmag and tech gadgets have been buzzing about a new handheld gadget for men with erectile dysfunction. Vibrect. Just approved by the fda. Great name. Promises not only how men maintain rigidity without medications, but also to deliver stronger orgasms. To aid erections, Vibrorect is used about seven to 10 minutes prior to sexual intercourse to stimulate penile nerves. Instead of relying on a little blue pill to get things ready for the bedroom, the device, which looks a bit like a hair crimper.

Ouch. Writes delivers targeted nerve stimulation to both dorsal and ventral surface of the penis using medical soft Pads. It'll launch August 15th and will cost $300.

Wow.

How would that work? I mean, I don't get. I guess if it's vibrating, it's. I don't know. What do you think about that?

It's what I talk about in my books. It's the nerves, Right?

Do you think it'll work?

It could. I mean, that's. The penis is a muscle, right? They've used muscle stimulation. I mean, that's what they use for those ab exercises somebody probably was wearing.

Penis is a muscle.

They probably put an ab thing around their wiener.

Maybe did it on purpose and suddenly said, hey, this thing works.

Exactly.

Huh.

Okay, so it's 300 bucks. Do you want one, Menace? I can probably get you one.

No, I'm good.

Okay. Another option for men who have trouble maintaining erections has been dubbed the Viagra condom. Okay, we've heard about this one a few times, but what's the news? Let's see. British biotech company Futura medical has created the new condom currently known as CSD 500, that is coated on the inside with a vaso vasodilator gel that increases blood flow and results in stronger, longer lasting erections. There's so much stuff coming out for men and their penises. I mean, really.

No, you guys, you guys had everything forever.

No we haven't.

All we've had is our hand. You guys like contraptions?

Guys aren't even like migrating over to this stuff though. I mean, pills they are, but I don't know, maybe a condom. That would be good.

There's a.

They've been talking about that.

The mint condom is crazy.

The mint condom? Yeah, it's minty.

It's like a minty.

Is it for your. Does it feel. Supposed to feel good for the penis or is it supposed to be good?

Both.

Both. For both people.

Oh, I don't know about it.

It feels crazy. Yeah. I've used one before.

Where'd you get it? Who makes it?

I don't know.

You just found it? Did you get it at the. Did you get it at the machine inside the nightclub?

No, but those ones are the glow in the dark glow in the dark ones and the ultra crazy just in.

Case you lose the penis. It goes in the dark. That's awesome. Yeah. Okay.

I wonder how that actually like how bright it is in the dark.

I know. I think that you should use one. We're gonna do a condom review show.

Cool. We'll get. Well, you guys find me one and I'll. I'll check it out.

I know.

You look like a lifesaver.

Exactly. I don't know if I'd want to do that. Okay. Are you becoming infertile? Infertility is much as. As much a man's problem as a woman's. And while women's fertility issues are sometimes. Sometimes causing. Caused by missing that narrow wind of opportunities. Men's problems can be lifelong or created by life choices. In the last 50 years, human male fertility has be. Has been declining. And they say it can be because of poor nutrition, your job, drug, alcohol and tobacco use, sexual problems like premature ejaculation, exposure to toxins. So have you heard this? That men are becoming more and more fertile. It's always think it's the woman's problem, right?

Yeah. It's mostly the guys not taking care of themselves.

They have to be healthy.

They have to be healthy. Yeah, definitely.

Men have to exercise. They're gonna become infertile. You hear that menace?

That's cool.

I don't wanna have kids anyways.

Yes, you do. You'll have kids one day.

Maybe. No. Yeah, I definitely would probably have kids.

Definitely would. Probably.

Maybe I have some I don't even know about.

You might. Honey.

You're right.

Maybe you too.

That wouldn't happen. Okay, we can get some emails. But first. But first. But first. But so I have to tell you, we have to talk about the results from last week's poll. Have you ever had sex with a co worker? 39% of men said yes, while 12% of women claim to have sex with a co worker. And then 38% of of men said they hadn't. And 11% of women said they haven't had sex with co worker. So only 12% of women have had sex with a co worker. That's crazy.

It's impossible. They're lying.

That's crazy to me. I figured everyone said with a co worker at some point.

Wouldn't you think it's 50, 50 of all these people?

Yeah, but it's 30, 39% of men and 12% of women. Who are they sleeping with? I don't know. We've slept with co workers. Have you slept with a co worker?

I have to watch myself, especially work. I have to really be careful.

You do to be careful, but I bet you do because you're like, sexy, like talking, touching, all these. I see all your positions in your book. Women. I'm like, they for sure did it. There's pole dancing in here.

It is.

It's just acting.

God.

It's true. People make assumptions about me.

I know. I mean, I left the priesthood for this.

You did. No, she's gullible, doll. I am gullible. But, you know. Yeah. People make exceptions. Okay, this week's new poll, what was the best? What's the best way to tell someone that you want to be more than friends?

I want to be more than friends.

Okay. Number one, just kiss them. Number two, confess your love through an email.

No.

3, blast a love song below their window.

What?

All these suck.

A mutual friend investigates for you. Or you stay in the friend zone and hopefully they'll confess their feelings for you.

First, mutual friend.

You have a mutual friend do it.

Yeah, mutual friend. I mean, that's the easiest without.

We did it like when we were 12. Yeah, but I tell him that I think he's cute.

No, you don't do that. You just kind of like, oh, so.

What, do you kind of check it out? You see, like, what's going on?

Yeah. If you're, if you're, if you have fear of rejection, then you get the friend to investigate. But sometimes I think, you know, you got to practice getting rejected if, if that's gonna happen.

Right.

So just go balls out, man.

Rejection is God's feel. What's up?

You want to what? You want to be with me? Let's do this. If not all right, got it.

Okay, let's know your answers. All right, let's get into some emails.

Okay.

What?

No, I was gonna throw in the. Throw in any guy that says, oh, you know, I don't want to ruin the friendship. Shut the hell up with all that crap.

I know we've said that, like, you can't like, exactly. Like you don't really want to be friends with her. All you think about is banging her. You're not really friends. Like, you pretend you're friends and you want to sleep with her, you might as well confess. Yes, that's how we're doing a poll about it. Okay, emails. Hey, Emily, I listened to your show all the way in Australia, but I have a question. I'm only 17, but I haven't gone the home run. But I get very close. When a guy goes down on me, I never orgasm. Is it because I've never had sex? Thank you. And for the great show, Nadia xx, Queensland, Australia.

Well, she's having guys go down on her, but she's never had sex.

Yeah.

Crazy.

Why is that crazy?

No, I'm just saying that the guys would be doing that without.

Without having intercourse.

Yeah.

Yeah.

She's probably giving them fellatio or something.

Maybe she's only 17. I don't think that's why you're not having an orgasm. I think that you need to masturbate more and know your own body and then you'll be more likely to have an orgasm when he is performing oral sex on you. Or he doesn't really know what he's doing and he probably needs you to guide him and give him some instructions.

Say, this is what I like.

Tell him what you like.

And just move his head here. There.

What?

Just move his head there. Here, There. You know?

Yeah, something like that. Okay, let's get Bill. Let's. Let's have Billy in the. Let's get Billy into the mix here because these are some questions that Billy. Okay, this is Billy Sunday Mars, my guest. Everyone can see on camera now if you're watching us in our famous camera here in the studio, Fit for Love is his book. It's intimate massages to prepare your love for pleasure. Over 20 positions for passionate, sensual sex.

Right now.

Is this your first book?

This is the first book, yes.

Yeah.

The set off book of first of many.

And Emily said that, you know, there's a lot of people can't see because it's a podcast or they can see on camera. They have a lot of photographs in here and you got your first Book. And you already got hot chicks, like, all over you. Yeah. What's going on?

How'd you do that?

How'd you pull that off? You just say, hey, I'm doing a book.

Well, what it is, is especially as a guy, and this is for all the guys to really listen to, very rarely do women find guys that are willing to take the time to learn about them and pay attention to them. So as a guy, take the time to really understand her. Much like the young girl that was just asking, the guy's got to take his time to understand her. He's got to find out what texture she likes, how she likes to be touched, where she likes to be touched. He's got to ask. And so as a guy, you got to ask questions. You got to listen. You got to not be afraid to learn and not know.

Right.

I'm down with that. But what about if they keep on talking? Like they continue the conversation after.

I've already like women to talk very much. He's one of those guys.

If you're doing what you're supposed to.

Do well, she should stop talking if you're doing it right, honey.

She'll be speechless.

Okay.

Good God.

So, Jesus.

I'm reading this book now, actually.

What's really true about sex when. When you do it the right way, it's the woman that falls asleep out.

I think that's true.

Yeah. Guys, you should have more energy afterwards. She's the one that falls asleep.

You talk about that in your book?

Oh, yeah.

That's awesome. Because I hate the that part. That's my least favorite part about sex is when the men felt the man falling asleep part.

No, you build up.

That's my least favorite part.

One of the reasons why I talk about only 20 positions, 20 positions plus the Kama Sutra, it's not thinking about how the woman functions from the inside. You have to look at how she functions from the inside out. Those positions in the Kama Sutra, which, you know, they're cool. It's great. But the main thing is what positions work for her. None of the positions matter if they don't work for her.

Right. So you. So the Kama Sutra. That's how the Kama Sutra did. Look at that. In those positions. But how did you. And you make kind of. You've studied the Kama Sutra as well.

Kamasutra Tantra. Yeah.

You've done it all.

I've had to look.

You have to look.

I haven't always been an expert at this.

You had to do research.

I was A guy who didn't know what he was doing at one point.

So do you think for this 17 year old woman, that Nadia in Queensland, Australia, I'm saying to her like, that she's to figure out her own body, but you're saying that men can come armed with a lot of knowledge that could maybe help her figure out her own body.

She's got to do her own work too. She's got to take the time to learn to understand herself, to find out what she likes. And then it's a partner thing. Guy has to come in and when they're, when they're spending time together, they explore. You have to be willing to explore and to take the time, allow the time to be able to get to know one another. What does she like? How does she like to be touched? Where? Why just work with that?

Totally. So many guys don't ask.

Yeah, I mean, I usually talk to guys and say, hey buddy, do you grill? And they'll go, yeah. I go, do you have to warm up the coals first? They go, yeah, you have to warm up first.

You can't warm her up first.

You have to warm her up first.

You can't just dive in because your penis is hard because you just saw me when you walked in the room. You really can't. You were not ready. We're not even thinking about it yet.

Let's break it down. How long do I have to make out with her? Like how many minutes?

Well, okay, here's the thing. Here's the thing. Do you, do you want a return trip?

Do I want a return trip?

Yeah. Do you want to. Do you want to be called back?

It varies on the lady, you know what I'm saying? But let's say I am interested in returning.

Okay, so you do want. So think about saying it's not just for this moment. Obviously, if you want to be in a relationship with her, you want to learn how she functions and how she feels. Because then when you do that, if you take the time, then you can actually learn how to make her orgasm very, very quickly. So it doesn't take that long. So you're preparing her and that's what it's about. It's learning to prepare her. So she expects it. If in her mind she expects to have an orgasm, it doesn't take nearly as long the second time.

Taking a.

Really. So you could learn. So how did they have. Well, we were gonna. But how do you teach? It's different with every woman.

It's different with every woman.

Every woman is different. So they have to ask. Yeah, but are. Do you also arm them with some like ways?

Oh yeah. Oh yeah.

That's so good.

The massage. First of all, a woman can't have an orgasm if her fight or flight center in her brain is firing. So she's got to be relaxed first. Without fail. It's like. It's like a locked door. It won't happen if that part in her mind, if she's worried about a lot of things, especially if she doesn't trust the guy. It's not happening.

Exactly.

So she's gotta. You gotta take your time to give her trust.

And I'm always fight or flight in my mind. Like I can't relax.

Well, he's gotta give you a nice massage.

He does. Dammit, he does.

She can never relax. She can never relax.

If he's doing things the right way, she'll relax. To work on the. You gotta work on the sacrum, you gotta work on the occipital. It's basically what I call a brain gasm at the top of the just.

I want a brain gasm.

Yeah, that's where it happens anyway.

Can we do that after?

We can work on that for you, but not if you have to drive home.

I don't, I walk, I walk to my office.

Well, we don't want you picked up for, you know, jaywalking and just kind.

Of walking in the streets. Oh my God, I love a brain gasm. So I think I'm always saying that massage is a great way to warm up your partner and a great way to like get it going.

So I recommend alcohol. Do you have any alcohol?

You don't need alcohol once you do it. I mean, basically an orgasm releases the same neurochemicals in the brain as orgasm does. Like ecstasy, that's oxytocin, that's released. Serotonin, like with alcohol, that's released. Cocaine, you got dopamine, that's released. Basically you're releasing every chemical known to man in nice quantities. So that's why I say she gets knocked out. She falls asleep afterwards. You don't have to worry about it. If she can expect that. Basically that's what happens. That's what the positions are for. And it shows where to touch, why, how it's a schematics. It's like, it's like going instead of. You ever been to a. You ever seen one of the pinatas in the Mexican?

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Okay. Basically that's what us guys are like. Well, like guys blindfolded, swinging a pinata Going, honey, am I getting anything? How am I doing anything? Anything, anything. But basically, this takes that away. It shows you what's where and why. It's taken off the blindfold and shows you.

So give me, like, one specific thing.

Like what? In what sense? What do you mean?

One sense for, like, a man to. So she's not warmed. Okay, we already talked about massage. What about, like, different kinds of orgasms? Like, how would you. Because I know in your book you talk a lot about, like, the different.

Kinds multiplied, blended, expanded, and extended.

Yes.

Orgasm du jour. She can open up the menu and say, honey, I'd like this one tonight.

How can she do that? The multiple blended one. I'm like, it sounds like a drink at Starbucks. You had these. Orgasm.

You can do it? It depends. I mean, you have the different areas. You have the clitoris. You have the G spot. You have the anterior fornix, erogenous zone, which is in the back of the. Near the cervix. And you can pick which area. But you have to. The partners have to say, okay. She has to say, okay, I like this spot tonight. That's where we're gonna work.

So she has to call it out every time.

She has to say when they're there. She goes here, and that's when you stay.

Women are always afraid to do that, though.

To do what? To tell men what they want.

Once she knows it can happen. Once she knows it can happen, she's no longer afraid.

So tell me, like. So people come to see you in what state?

People?

I was gonna get into Zephyr, but we'll get into it now.

I was gonna ask you, how long do I have to make out with the chick before I get to do that? I'll show everybody on the camera.

She's warmed up by that time, right?

Yeah. Well, put it this way. You. You have to reverse the process. See, most guys think that women don't want it. If. If a woman knows she can be pleased, then it changes. Because people say that over the course of time that you have to have things with age make a difference and everything else. None of that makes a difference. This is what Tantra teaches. This is what the main thing is. Once a woman knows she can have the orgasm, or as many as she wants, and you're the guy that can do it for her. She's no longer concerned about, oh, I'm in the mood, or not. It changes because the brain chemistry changes.

So you teach women how to have easier, more fluid orgasms?

Yeah. Yeah.

So have you Women that come in, they're like not orgasmic. And then you teach them how to do it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Every. Every woman. Okay, let me, let me make this very clear. To the ends of the Earth and, and other places in the galaxy, there is no such thing as an inorgasmic woman.

Right.

There is no such thing as a woman that's not multi orgasmic. And I mean, as a guy, it's not our fault because none of us were taught, right? No, I mean, when I was growing up, I had tantra. It's like, is that some type of car? Who makes that?

Right? No, guys. And they still don't.

I didn't know. But if we, if we learn, if we take the time. I mean, it, there's, it's, it's all there for us now. And it's something you got to practice. You have to find a good. You literally need a good sex partner. You need a good partner to be intimate with someone you can spend time.

With, because you gotta, like, get in there and explore. Like, it's gonna be like, you can lay out the groundwork here. But it's a little different for most.

I mean, if we can learn to play, we learn to play video games, right? That's a lot of stuff with their hands. And a lot of it is learning manual techniques. Manual technique. I mean, that's one of the most important things in Tantra and learning Taoist techniques is learning. Because you can find places with your finger. You start there and then, you know, you can use your afro named friend afterwards.

Exactly. And friend like men. Like so you. Yeah. So you teach the men.

Yeah, and don't feel bad about it. Don't feel bad. Never feel bad about yourself not knowing. Because no one, no one teaches us this stuff. No one.

Why don't they just.

I was a stripper and I had.

No clue you were a stripper.

I was a stripper.

Wow, that's right.

What was your stripper name?

I didn't have one.

You didn't have one?

I didn't have a stripper.

You got a pretty good Billy Sunday Mars.

That's a good name because you look familiar.

What are you doing in the clubs?

No, I'm not in the strip clubs, but did you ever stop by radio stations?

That's funny. So you were a stripper and then you got into Wii U and then how, then you got into this. How'd you get into Fit for Love?

Because when I was a stripper, I used to ask the woman questions. I would ask, you know, I had, I had a little notebook in my, in my robe. And I used to ask women, I was like the lover undercover.

Oh, I love it.

I asked what we were doing wrong. I said, hey, why are you here? You know, you're getting married or you're, you're in a relationship or whatever, why are you here? And they explained, you know, they would talk, they had a few drinks and they'd tell me what was going on. And I had to. I realized I needed a bigger notebook really quick.

Right, right.

Especially for myself.

So what did you hear? What was most common from women?

He doesn't take the time, he doesn't pay attention.

I would have said that if I was there.

And things like, he doesn't know how to be romantic or he just, he rushes in. And it's kind of like we as guys, we think that women warm up as fast as we do, right. And I mean, we got 10,000 years of get it over quick because the saber toothed tigers come in, right? And now that's not happening.

Exactly. Not so quick, right?

So I mean, women, if you give them time to warm up, the more time she has to warm up. It's like allowing the orgasm to ripen and mature. You can go from a. Fireworks. How long?

No, it's okay. Sorry to interrupt you, but it seems like everything you said today is something that we already preached. Like your book is the guide. You know, you have your, all your diagrams and things that do. But the main thing is which Emily always talks about, which, you know, kind of down with, it's all about communication. Big. The biggest part is communication, correct?

That's part of it.

It's part. It seems like the biggest part of.

It, communication in the beginning.

And also see what you, what each other wants, right?

And you can also communicate without words too. One of the things that guys really can do, if you watch her body, watch her breathing, watch her stomach, because as her stomach rises and falls, it lets you know where she is in her process. Most guy. I mean, here's the thing. It's like that Shakespeare saying, life is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, and in the end signifying nothing. The more noise she's making, the less something's happening. If she's going, oh, oh, oh, oh, nothing's happening. But as she starts betrayal, as she starts to go into it, because she can't say, once her brain shuts off gibberish, right? She starts speaking in tongues until she screams. I mean, this is why I say all sex is a Religious thing. Because in the end she says, oh God. You got it right. And then she falls asleep.

She's got to say oh God.

And then she falls asleep.

So you're saying that women who are making a lot of noise during sex are not really turned on yet, so.

They'Re lying because she has to focus on what she's feeling.

Right? That's true.

If there's a lot of noise happening, like when I. Movement wise, this is why I teach See Menace.

No talking. You'd love it.

The pelvic tilt movement and the pelvic rocking. It's not about a train running in and out. Because you're trying to massage a spot the size of a dime inside of her. So there's a lot of movement. You're missing it. It's like if you had a mosquito bite and you tried to scrat, you.

Were scratching all over the place.

You're not going to get it.

Jackhammer.

You isolate the spot and there's, there's not a lot of movement. It's not a lot of movement. It's just like you're massaging.

Which spot are you talking about? The clitoris. You're talking about like the G spot.

The G spot or the, the, the AFE or the PFE down in the back?

He's got other spots that we don't even talk about that much.

Yeah, no, he. I was looking at the diagram while you're talking and he has a G spot. He had like four different spots.

I know he's got spots.

How did he have these? Because guys have been trying to find these for millions of years now.

Lewis and Cl.

Do you have a G spot locator that we don't know about?

We wanted to do a G spot locator app. How do you suggest that a couple for the first time, if they decide they want to foray into the G spot and figure it out, you show positions in there and what they do.

Yeah, I mean, the best way to do it is manually. You start with. I mean, one of the things you can do, especially as guys, is do a pelvic massage and a perineum massage for her. Because I mean, anybody who's. Most guys haven't read it, but. Eve Ensler, the Vagina Monologues. Most women are really self conscious about how they feel. They look down their self.

Exactly.

If a guy can go down there and really help her to become comfortable with herself and feel like she's special and beautiful there, if he can go in and really take his time with her and basically it's just massage. And eventually what you'll do is make sure you got a lot of lubrication because you don't want it to become chafed. You know, you gotta make sure you have lubrication. And then you slowly. You don't just dive in, you slowly enter. And if you enter with your finger first, she's already prepared for the penis.

Right, right.

So it's not like there's something. It's like you go from the small thing to the larger thing, but, like.

Can take a while. Like a cup for couples together and they're like, trying to find her cheeseburger if she doesn't know where it is or whatever.

And here's the thing with. Remember what I said about earlier? When. When a woman wants to find out where it is, say she hasn't discovered it yet. It's like a credit card. It has to be called in and activated.

Right.

So the guy has to take his time. And you can use your finger.

Right.

Use your one finger. And it's kind of like there's a pubic bone and you find the clitoris, which everybody should know where that is.

Right?

Okay. It's in back of the clitoris and up against the upper wall above and in back of the pubic bone. And it can be anywhere in that area. And it's basically a nerve. Ganglion. Nerve bundle. And you work with that. And you can watch her, you know, as you start to find the place, her eyes will widen.

Right.

And if you start to work with that place after her eyes widen, she'll.

But it can take a little bit of time for her to.

Oh, yeah.

Some women can have orgasms.

They.

All women can't have g. Spotted orgasm.

Eventually. Eventually, yeah. And they can all ejaculate, too.

Yeah, I know that. I've heard that. I've heard they can all ejaculate.

Yes.

Yes, that's true. How about that?

I'll tell you what. If you can do that for her, if you can be the. Especially if you're the guy who discovers that for her, because that's. Now that's opening up worlds to her. That's like a trip to Paris, right? That's opening up a whole other world to her. It's opening up a world within her that she didn't even know was there.

You have like a whole chapter on female ejaculation.

There's not a whole chapter, but it's talked about.

Elaborate. How long did it take you to put this together?

It took a while. I Mean.

Part of it was just being able to explain it in ways that everybody could understand and like, translating in a playful way. I use what's called Manglish. So guys, manguage, because I, you know, there's a lot of people that get into a lot of the woo woo talk and a lot of technical talk. But I'm from Boston. Yeah, it's cold there. We haven't got time. You got to explain it quick.

Yeah, Like, I never heard of a vulva. We call it vagina, right.

And we'll just say vulva.

Vulva is a technical, like, nah, man, this vagina, it covers the, it covers everything.

Yeah, I mean, basically you, you don't have to know a lot. You don't have to get into all kinds of technical names and do all kinds of stuff. Basically, what you, with your, with your girlfriend or wife or your partner, you say, do you like when I touch you here? How does that feel? Is this too, too soft or too hard? How am I touching you? How do you like this? How does that feel? And you can watch her because there's gonna come a time when you're gonna say that you don't actually want her to be talking. You want her to be able to disappear into it.

Yeah. So you do these exercises and she'll just shut up.

I mean, I'm gonna try.

I've never seen him read. He's like enthralled with your book.

No, I'm just saying because. Okay, yeah, we're talking about these, these graphs earlier. It says the, the pfe, The G spot and the afe.

Yeah.

Now how did you find these? And what are these? We can skip the G spot, but what about the, you know, guys like.

The interior foreigner or whatever?

Fornic. Erogen. Well, basically that's at the base of the cervix. And here's another thing for guys. I mean, I get, I get pulled aside by a lot of guys saying, oh, but, but what if I. What if I can't reach that? What if I'm not big enough?

Right.

If when a woman. And this is one of the reasons I teach the exercises, when a woman's knees are lifted up and her pelvic area is shifted, it shortens the vaginal canal so you can reach those areas.

So she, like when she moves her knees back.

Yeah, but you have to tilt her hips. That's what a lot of the work in Tantra is to the bicycle, the thing that I teach in the book there, and the different positions. This is why you prepare her first, because when her muscles are tight in that area, it's difficult for her to have an orgasm. It's also difficult to position her. So this is why I wrote this, so that there's. There's not any problem with the guy trying to do what he wants to do for her. He's already setting everything up.

So if she's not loosened up, then she can't do this stuff. She might have issues.

She might have issues. Tight hips are a problem for men and women. For women, too. If she's got trauma, like a lot of times women hold a lot of stuff from past relationships in their bodies, and the guy thinks he's doing everything right, and he may have been great with his past girlfriend or past relationship, and he says, wow, she doesn't work well. There's a lot of emotional issues. There's a lot of stuff that a woman goes through that us guys don't think that they have to deal with. So pay attention to that.

I love this, man.

You're selling out men all across the nation right now.

But this is what. Hey, look, this is what's great about us is we have an opportunity. Like when I was studying martial arts in China and Japan, they always said, hey, reflect it back on you. We become better men when we reflect it back on us, because otherwise the power is outside of us. So when we start saying, hey, what can I do to be better? You know, that's when you assume discipline and responsibility. That's when we become better. And it's not a matter of being. Because being able to look at myself and go, okay, what can I do? Gives me back my power as a guy to be able to say, okay, it's not out there. Because otherwise I'm waiting for someone out there, some person out there or something out there to make me better. But if I say, hey, look, I can figure. It's like. I mean, if you walked up to a safe and you had to crack the safe and you didn't get the tumblers right, would you blame the safe? The woman's situation? It's a lot like that. Learning how to work with the different tumblers inside of her to figure out.

And if you're.

If you're a master at it or you become a master at it, now you figured it all out, and you're a smart guy. I can tell he's a smart guy.

I'm a smart ass.

Same difference. It just depends on where you guide it from. But I know you. I know you got it. I know you can do this stuff, there's no doubt about it.

I understand we have to do this, but you can. You can break it down with me.

Go for it.

It sucks that we have to do all this stuff.

Right?

I'm saying we. I understand it. We're gonna do it. We have to do it. This is what we have to do to please our ladies. Yeah, okay. I'm not knocking that part.

I'm just saying.

God, like, really? Does it really have to be that complicated that we.

Go above and beyond to do all these things in the beginning?

Yeah.

I have to read all this stuff and.

Yes.

See you in all these crazy positions.

Just. Just. You know what you do? Take out the pictures and Photoshop you in there, man. Just take out.

It's just like, we gotta do all that stuff. Look at it.

Look at that.

Like, how was that photo shoot? Like, that was crazy, right?

Yeah. I was like, did you sleep with these women? No, no, no.

You don't have to go there. I'm just saying, like, how many I wanna know did you have to have there?

So, yeah. Variation of doggy style is. Could be called the froggy style.

And it looks like you're, like, using, like, a sex wedge, like a special padding. Should somebody have. Should everyone have one of those in their house?

Well, you can. Anything. It's positioning. It's basically aligning you because you want to align her pelvic area to your pelvic area.

That's gotta line the pelvic. Pelvic muscles.

It looks like. What kind of piece of furniture would you call that? Like, in your house, that's a cushion.

On your couch where you put the footrest.

Yeah, the foot rest. Like an oversized foot rest.

They called it a hammock.

So wait, what if it's a froggy? It's an alternate position to the doggy style. It's a froggy style.

Well, it's just when you. Because typically people just. In a doggy style, they just. They've got the legs and the knees bent. But what you want to do also is you want to open her knees apart, and that allows you to get better access to her pelvic region because. To the spots inside. Because now her. Her legs are open better from behind.

Right.

So it allows better access.

These are some great positions.

It's like Star Wars. It's like the end scene in Star Wars. You gotta. You gotta open up to be able to get into the, you know, the deeper regions.

It's fit for love.

Thanks.

Fit for love.

I mean, we're gonna Put links up on sex.

Yeah, yeah, totally.

But what's the main place you can buy Amazon? Barnes and Nobles. Borders is gone. God.

Yeah.

That hurts.

Oh, my God. They're.

They're gone.

Gone, huh?

Yeah, they're gone.

That's so sad.

We are now without Borders.

Is it in digital form yet? Do you have digital form?

Yeah, yeah, it's. I've seen it in. It's funny because I was in a gym and somebody was doing the exercise. They had it on their little book, and I'm like.

It's like, on the Kindle or.

The Kindle. Yeah, they were doing the exercise in the book. And the guy walks up and goes, hey, dude. And I get this one, right? I'm like, oh, wow, cool.

That is really cool that he was reading your book. I love it. So I want to go back to something that Menace said here, because I think that menace sometimes speaks for other men.

Yeah.

Not all men, but it's true. He's like, why do we have to do this? Like, I think that what he doesn't see yet, perhaps, is that. Yeah, a guy's like, really, like, a million positions. I gotta do this. I gotta warm her up. I gotta bring her this. I gotta bring her a latte and then massage her for an hour. And, like, one in the.

I gotta pay for dinner.

Gotta pay for dinner.

All this crap.

What am I getting? What am I getting in my return?

But I guess the thing is that once you get into this sexual place with someone where you're so connected in this into a way that you actually. It doesn't feel like work.

Yeah. You act when you get to a.

Place where it, like, actually turns you on to returning.

Are you ready for this? You ready for this? This is the best part. This is what guys. Every guy that I work with loves. This is their favorite part.

What? We want one now.

Once you're able to give her. And I've asked women afterwards, would you prefer diamonds or orgasms? Most women will go orgasms, right?

And so I can prepare a study for you and show you.

Well, because those are women who haven't had orgasms, right?

The ones who are like, I'd rather have new jeans. Like, there's these studies that come out all the time, like, every week. Like, women would rather have their cell phones and have sex. Women would rather buy a new pair of jeans.

But they don't say sex. They. I mean, you're right. They say sex, but not orgasm.

But not when they've had a Billy Sunday Mars type of orgasm. That you teach in your book once.

They'Ve had that orgasm, because it releases the same. It's neurochemicals. It releases the same area of the brain in a massive quantity. So the same thing the diamond you can put down and the diamond they can put away in a drawer. And they're not thinking of wearing the diamond all the time, but in their body. Now their body, in their mind, is programmed. Ooh.

So did you have to have sex with lots of people, lots of women, to write this book? The research?

Actually, no. I've been in a lot of long term relationships.

Oh, that's good.

Not a lot of them, but in long term relationships. So you take your time to get. And this is why I say after a while, it's not a matter of having to do a lot of stuff. I mean, you can actually. You know how. I'm from Boston. Okay. So they have. They had the Boston, Massachusetts minute man.

Right.

After a while, you can make her a minute woman.

Really?

Yeah.

And that is a good. She could have it all done in like, five minutes.

I used to have that, but the chick was crazy, so I couldn't continue.

Right, right. Bummer. Yeah. The women who just pop. But you can make different kinds of.

Was it the internal one or the external one?

Internal.

Internal. Yeah.

Just because you were internal doesn't mean it wasn't external, Though it could have been her clitoris that you were hitting. I'm just saying you probably didn't.

Because if you were. If you were doing some variation of the cat, which is the chordal alignment technique. I love that cubic bones are rubbing together, then you can cause that too. But if she has a. If she has an internal one. Did she fall asleep?

She did fall asleep, but I wanted to throw on there. I was paying a lot of bills too, so that might have helped.

There's a lot. Okay. This is when guys. When guys get in, it's okay. It's cool. There's a lot of things that guys wonder about. About that, you know, if. If she.

Because, I mean, I heard this and it scared the hell out of me. One time, the guy. When I was in China, you know, a guy was. Had a girl he was dating for a while, and what it came out to was, you know, she was with him because he was taking care of her, which, you know, is cool for a guy to take care of his girlfriend or wife. You know, that's.

That's what you're supposed to do.

The masculine part of it anyways. But he lost his job, and when he lost his job. No hunt, no money, no honey.

Yeah.

So basically what? You know, when a woman is just with a guy for that, then, you know, oftentimes that's what's going to happen. Now she's with you and she. And the relationship is good. If both people are working, sooner or later that that's going to come up, that the orgasms aren't happening because she doesn't have to stay for the money. And then the truth comes out.

Right. But if he lost his job and he had read your book and he was getting a really good orgasm, she, you know, she might have stayed.

Yeah.

She might have kept giving the honey.

Yeah, maybe.

I mean, do you find overseas the women are easier to date than the ones here?

I have dated women from Europe and from China and Japan. Now, one thing, less of a pain in the ass, less vocal, but more suggestive.

How's it break that down for me?

Women in America will just say it. A woman from overseas will imply it.

Okay.

She'll give you hints.

Oh, we're just much more direct here.

Much more direct.

Good.

We're better. You're good in America. God bless. Okay. You say something that I pulled up? What?

Oh, no, nothing. I was gonna share a story, but.

I'll do it later. I pulled out a quote from your book that I knew that this was for menace because he'd appreciate this. You say that every man should talk to a lesbian. Every talk to a lesbian, and every woman should talk to a gay man to learn about sex. And we always say that on the show that. Like they should. So what? That is because you could learn more about.

Well, they're more. They're more in touch with their. Their bodies in that sense because they've spent time with a person who's similar anatomically. And so, I mean, a lot of the issues that people have are.

He gets upset. Like when I take my interns to blow job class and there's a woman teaching it, he's like, why can't a man be teaching it?

I'm serious. Because a man has a penis, he knows how it feels.

Well, yeah. I mean, here's the thing with gender issues, and we're really foolish about this. People like what they like. You can't tell somebody what they like. It's in their system. They like what they like. But with that. Now that. With that being said, when we step back, they have spent more time around somebody very similar. So they know a lot more about how people's hormones act, how a lot of emotions act. And the functions that we don't get to see all the time. If you're with somebody or around that atmosphere all the time, you're going to know a little bit more. Plus, you have two people that are very familiar with how their bodies function similarly. So even though a straight male or a straight woman may feel they know, I mean, I have a lot of lesbian friends and a lot of gay friends. And I'll usually tell people, hey, look, let me know what you figured out. I don't care. Tell me what you found out. And they tell me. And it's like, wow, okay. Because even though I'm straight, there's stuff that a gay guy knows about his prostate that as a straight guy, I don't know. So am I going to not feel, learn something, you know, that's important for me and my health? Because I want to be macho?

Right.

That's. That's stupid.

Exactly. There's wealth of knowledge out there. Okay, what are some erogenous zones that. That we don't know about that you uncovered your book or that get ignored? Because I'm always saying, like, pay attention to erogenous zones. But can you break down some of the erogenous zones in the book that you kind of have men and women explore together?

A lot of people, I mean, we.

Don'T know about that. We don't pay attention to.

The love handle area. Typically, as you move towards the base of the spine in those areas there, that's for a woman to allow her back to arch. Just the prodding of that area.

Okay, I'm doing that.

Allows her to feel more alive. And now her back arch is whenever a woman allows her back to arch, that opens up. And then, you know, you obviously want to reposition her during intimacy so she can tuck underneath. But that learning to allow a woman's body to move by touching certain areas, like the back of her. The reason why the ears are such. Yeah, there are soft areas, there's nerves there. The people don't realize it's the feet. Why do women like shoes? Because the same area very close in the brain, is the area where the feet are receiving signals. And the sex area, the ventral tag area.

That's why I love shoes. So I've got hundreds of pairs of boots.

Well, this is why. So massaging your feet is one of the most erogenous.

You talk about foot massages in your.

Oh, yeah, foot massages.

Those are so important. Every man should give a foot massage. Seriously, start with foot massage.

But even more so than erogenous zones is just when you prepare the body, the spine. When a woman is able to relax and you're able to work with her sacrum and relieve lower back tension and relieve tension in the hips and just massage in her glutes and you open up. And that's one of the things is to massage the adductors. When you start massaging her adductors and into her perineum floor, the pelvic floor. Pelvic floor. That allows her when she does have an orgasm because the muscles are loosened. It's like an elastic band.

The more it stretches, the more totally. That makes so much sense. So loosened up because they can be so tight. Like if you exercise a lot, whatever.

So erogenous zones are one thing, but more important because every woman has a place where she likes it more. But the muscles are always the same. So you can always find an area that she's going to like particularly that she's going to call her place of excitation and stimulation. But the deeper ones to prepare her. That's what I've discovered over the course of time. Because if you really want her to have a powerful orgasm, she's not going to really care too much about the erogenous zones once she's able to experience something powerful. And I'm not talking about a lot of women think they've had orgasms, but.

What they think they've had.

It'S kind of like the difference between.

What most people have had are firecrackers and the fourth of July awaits. This is. Even you could go so far. I mean, it's to say porn stars haven't even had orgasms that they can really have.

Right. Wow.

It's true.

I mean, I think there's so much.

And that's our opportunity as guys because.

It'S, it's an opportunity.

An opportunity.

It's an opportunity. It's not like a pain in the ass.

Well, I, I do, I, I, without even reading your book, I can tell I can already recommend it because of the, the photographs. Because guys are very visual.

Yeah.

That's one of the things.

Yeah. Because a guy's not gonna want to read all that. But if you have these interesting photos with the commentary below, I, you know what, what do men really have to lose? Nothing.

Nothing at all. They have like Sports Center.

Yeah.

You show the video and you give the.

Exactly. And do you have video on your website?

It's BillySundayMars.com but I'm going to do some more stuff on the YouTube channel because I've gotten a lot of requests for that and we're doing some video stuff now to give people some ideas on how to do the movements. And it's practice. It's just practice.

It is practice.

The thing is, when you practice this, the core gets really strong. There's a lot of great exercises that, because they're specifically designed for sex, they work on the lower abdominal muscles in ways that no gym could ever.

So you teach, and you teach these pubic bone.

Between the pubic bone and the navel center, that's the lower abdominals. If your legs are moving when you're doing an exercise, you're doing your legs, you're doing your hip flexors. But because of. Because you can't use your legs so much during sex, you have to specifically target those muscles between the pubic bone and the navel.

A lot of work. Trying to remember to do my Kegels and stuff like that.

Kegels. Kegels are good.

Kegels are awesome. I have an app, Kegel Camp.

Get an iPhone store that's going to help you from the inside. But now once you're able to do a pelvic rock, now you have the ability because one is just to squeeze and hold the penis tighter. That's what a kegel does better than that because that's still random. If you learn the exercises which are talking about dropping the G spot down onto the penis and the penis moving up in. Now it's a direct. Can you visualize that? Yeah, it's not moving. It's not missing. You don't miss.

Do you have any proteges or anything that I could sleep with? No, it really, it sounds awesome.

I'm working on that.

Yeah. Are you. Are you creating people? What's a full body orgasm? You talk about that in your book. How can you have a full. Can you teach women out of a full body and men a full body orgasm? Like this isn't just about the woman, obviously. It's about men too.

Well, yeah, for us guys, I mean, really, I mean, we have to last longer. And when we last longer, we actually release more hormones that keep us stronger. Everybody, people don't realize that the way to stay young and healthy is orgasm. Without a doubt. It releases hormones and neurochemicals that allow us to stay younger longer. Without a doubt. Every libidinal herb that they were using for years has been a longevity herb.

Right?

So the full body orgasm, when we're talking about that for both men and women, the longer you wait, the longer you allow it. To mature. It's kind of like building it up. It's building it up and building it up. So when a guy goes in and he just does his thing for three minutes, that's like robbing a bank and walking out with a dollar.

Right?

You know?

Gotcha. Love it. Okay. Awesome. Thank you so much. I think we're good.

Yeah.

Billy. Sunday Mars. We're out of time. Fit for love. We can find this on their website. We'll put on the website, we'll put your book and we're gonna do a little video after this too that everyone can watch. You can watch show and then we're gonna do a little video ourselves with some exercises. Thank you so much for being on the show.

Thank you.

Isn't it fun? We have good times in here. And I've never seen menace so engaged.

Now I'm just listening.

I love it though. I think that we should get you the book.

I think you should.

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