7 Dec 2025 · 58 min
In this episode of Sex with Emily, host Emily Morse talks with guests Daniel and Alicia about their first visit to Club Kiss, a San Francisco‑based sex club. The conversation details the couple’s observations of the party’s layout, the variety of sexual activities (including foursomes, female‑on‑female play, and group watching), and their personal reactions to being observed. Daniel describes how the presence of onlookers heightened his arousal, while Alicia reflects on the comfort and trust built with her partner. They discuss navigating consent, the importance of communication, and the supportive atmosphere that made them feel safe. The guests share practical advice for newcomers—emphasizing no pressure, clear boundaries, and the value of trying new experiences together. The episode concludes with a promotional segment for Qualia Magnesium, presented as a supplement that supports sleep, focus, and sexual wellbeing.
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That's good. Tuesday, how was your day yesterday?
Honestly? Do you want to know?
Honestly? Yeah.
My day was like the show. Everything was fine, and then I went home, met with my bookkeeper for two and a half hours.
Oh, that's fun.
It's depressing.
Yeah.
Not that it's bad.
The dog destroyed your day. First off, I'll tell you that the.
Dog came to the show yesterday. If you want to check out yesterday's show, she was on camera.
Please don't.
She was so cute. She was really cute on camera.
Yeah, she's a natural. We're actually listening to the podcast.
I was annoying.
What the hell is going.
I know. My dog ate her length six leash, but no, my bookie burn. That's just like, numbers and charts and flows are. It's not my thing. Not a number person. I mean, it's all good, money's fine, whatever. But that's what I did. And then I worked until 1am and fell asleep. Super fun.
Sweet.
What about you? I. Oh, you would see. No, that was another night.
No, I went to a secret meeting. I can't really talk about. Oh, no, no, seriously, Secret meeting. I'm sworn to secrecy. I can't. I can't say what I was.
So you're just teasing me now because you know.
No, no, I can tell you later. I just can't tell you on the show. But I was. Yeah, I went to.
Who was there?
People.
I can't.
What'd you eat?
There was no food. But there was alcohol.
Yeah, it was at. It was on top of a penthouse even. It was in a penthouse.
Nice.
Yeah.
So it was. You were with fancy people?
Yeah, I was in like industry people, but not people.
They have the shitty kind of alcohol that you drink or just really nice alcohol.
They had nice alcohol.
Were you bummed?
It was too classy for me.
It was too classy.
It was very classy though.
Was it a work secret meeting or was it a.
Nothing involving my company? No.
Oh, another company.
It was another company. Yeah. And they were just like mixing, you know, artistic and media people together.
Wow. You making a sex tape?
I am.
Highly produced sex tape.
Yeah, I wish. No, but it was a really good time. There was like this huge rooftop, so you can walk.
Oh, it was a nice night.
All over the city and stuff like that.
Wasn't it a nice night? Kind of.
It was a nice night. Yeah, it was good times. I took a couple pictures, if you follow me, on Instagram. I took one picture on Instagram.
How do you do that? White Menace?
Yeah, everything white.
Everything's white.
But yeah, it was a good time. I was. I was giggling just before the show because this morning I was doing something that was kind of funny.
What'd you do? If you do say so yourself on.
My blog@White Menace.com, like, I come up with these top tens and then in the Bay Area, I said, oh, these are the top 10 taquerias that I like. Right. People really enjoy them. They like. They. People like check them out in the thousands. I do not know why people were into. You know, food is. Food is a common ground. Everybody has to eat.
Totally.
Anyways. But it got me thinking about like tacos and stuff like that.
Thinking about tacos.
There was a taco on the Taco Bell menu that I loved in the late 90s okay. And it was called the four alarm double decker Taco, and they took it off the menu. And I've been upset ever since. Since, like, I think it was 99.
Right.
That they took it off.
Okay.
It's been off the menu that long?
It's a long time.
I went through the company directory and I started calling people to try to bring it back. That's what I was doing this morning.
Serious?
Yes.
Things aren't that busy around the office, huh?
No, it's just, like, sometimes I just get obsessed with these things. And I know you're like, I just have to get it out of the way. Like, I have to let them.
Did you tweet them in Taco Bell?
I did tweet Taco Bell. They haven't tweeted me back.
Maybe you didn't do that.
But these are, like, the weird, like, things. That's what you do.
That's hilarious. I love it. It was called the what?
The form. The four alarm Double decker Taco Bell.
Oh, my God. I'm sure that was like a heart attack on a plate. That sounds really good.
2011. And I'm still thinking about.
You're still thinking about the taco. Yeah, I am Taco Bell and I don't have a great relationship. I worked at a bar my four years in college. I was a cocktail waitress at this bar, and there was a Taco Bell inside of it, thank God. And so we got free Taco Bell every single night after our shift. And it was like 2am and you're drunk or we drink during our shift. And because doesn't everyone in college when you're a cocktail waitress, drink?
Yeah, that's not the smart thing to do when you want to make money.
It is a smart thing to do.
No, it's not.
Okay. Well, I always made a lot of money. It was the best job I've ever had. I always think I should just go back to that because it was like, dollar pitcher night. You get a dollar and then people 5. It was awesome. Point is, free taco bell for four years always. So I can never eat Taco Bell again.
Speaking about tacos.
Yes. So sexy sex tacos.
How many of your patrons did you go home with? How many of the guys?
I met a ton of guys in college. I have to say. I was like. It was the one bar. It was called Rick's. It was in Ann Arbor, Michigan, where I went to college. I went to University of Michigan, and it was like the one. There was, like, two bars in town that were Cool. And the Rick's was cool and they had live music. And I have to say I met several of my. I was not a go. I never. This is a true statement and you're not going to believe me, I think. But for the four years I went to college, I think I only had went home with someone that I didn't really know that well. One time I did not have sex with him. Like I made out with him, but I Never had a 18 stand. Never randomly hooked up. I always had boyfriends from one year. Each year I had a different boyfriend. So I, but one of the guys I did meet at the bar and then ended up dating him for a year. But I didn't like randomly. I'm kind of mad at myself. I was a little uptight, really. Believe it or not. Yeah, I was like in college, I was just really. Yeah, I was more of a prude, if you will.
Well, I, I, I'm trying to think what is the percentage of, you know. Because there's always the guys that go out with their friends and they're with a bunch of guys and then they see like a hot waitress. Like how many times does it actually were a guy takes that waitress home?
I think a lot.
What's the percentage?
I think it happened. I don't know what the percentage is, but I definitely met a million. Like I met so many guys in college that it was like a joke. It was like because I was working at the bar, like I, I met, they would call, like it just crazy. Like it was. I had a lot of men in college, but then I always had a boyfriend. I was always the girl with a boyfriend because I would date him for. I feel like if I could go back and do over, I would do over college and do more dudes. I would do have more sex. I would not be in the relationships.
Because now you wouldn't want to have your fun now.
I was, I was very much a serial monogamist like all through like my teens, my 20s. And I just kind of feel like now I'm just like, you didn't have.
You didn't get to have your fun?
I didn't get to my friend. So I've been having a lot of fun the last 10 years. It's been awesome.
Yeah, I actually take her up.
Most people do hook up at bars in college and go home together, right?
Yeah, but see, I went to like an art school which was really a community college. So you never really got to meet anybody.
Right.
But I did, I did meet a Girl and became friends with her, and then we ended up sleeping together like 10 years later. Okay, but really long is a really long courting.
Yes. You know, courting phase.
But I guess it does happen, but.
Oh, yeah, for sure. I mean, I'm trying to think. I don't think. No, I never went out because I was always so. I think when you're younger, too, you're worried about what people are gonna think. Everyone' finds out your business. Like, oh, I heard you hooked up with so and so last night. I just didn't want everyone, anyone to ever talk about me, Whatever. But maybe I would have been more open if I wasn't so concerned what people think. But now I really don't care. Yeah, but in college you care. What?
No, nothing.
Okay.
See why you always get distracted?
I'm doing something, and if you're doing something else, I'm gonna go there.
Here, can you just put that top on top of here?
Oh, we're fixing the mic. Okay. So. But yeah, I was. It was the best job ever. And free drinking and free boo. Free booze and free drinking. And all this in college for four years.
That was good.
Best job.
Yeah, I wish. Yeah. You would have, you know, sledded it up a little bit more.
I know I was not slutty. I've never been slutty, per se.
Okay.
Yeah. Okay. So then the other things I have to tell you are, I don't know. We've got news. What else can we talk about for a second? Okay, we can get into this. No, What's.
What's today? Today is Tuesday. Right. What's going on with you this week?
What's going on with you this week?
This week I'm throwing an event on Friday night. Did you get my invite?
Oh, yeah, I got that email.
Yeah. For a woman who's running for mayor of San Francisco, her name's Joanna Reese, and I'm supporting her 100% to be the next mayor. The election's in November and I'm throwing her an event in San Francisco at Roe from 6:30 to 8:30, if anyone wants to come.
Can you get me hired to be her social media director?
Oh, why? She needs help.
Yes.
Yes. Yeah. Joanna Reese. She's awesome. So I'm doing that on Friday night, and then I'm going to a dinner party tonight. Guy I've been dating is having a dinner party at his house with some peeps.
Classy.
No, not like that. He's not like that, but with his roommates who are awesome.
Let me guess. You're helping with the entire meal, right? The guy that you're dating, you're gonna help him?
No. He cooks. I don't ever. I never cook. Every guy I date cooks. Okay, okay, so then. And then at least try. What else am I doing?
You can go pick up a pie.
And pretend like me.
A cheesecake for.
I can't get away with this shit anymore because everyone knows that I don't do anything like that.
Yeah, but at least go get something.
Oh, and then tomorrow night I'm going to this really fun thing. I was just thinking my thing. Go get something. I'll bring wine.
That's lame. Like something to eat. Like an appetizer or something.
No, appetizer, dessert.
I love an effort. God damn it.
Okay, okay, okay. What should I do? Really? What should I bring?
At least go to Whole Foods and get some.
I will.
There's a Whole Foods right across from the house.
Get some like, some pastries or some snacks or like cheese and crackers and stuff like that.
Okay, good. Cheese and crackers at least.
Cheese and crackers.
Well, it's just casual Tim and his two roommates and they're friends and.
Yeah, I don't know. I would. I. I wouldn't. Are you're hanging out with them for the first time or. You know, you met them.
I've met. I've met them before.
Yeah, but I don't know you.
I shouldn't show up my lame ass self is what you're saying.
Yeah, my buddy's bringing over his girl. She better be bringing something. Like a pie or something like that.
You know, pie?
Yeah.
What was your pie posting the other day? Didn't you do post about pie?
Oh, I did a post about PI. Facts. Facts about pie. You know, back pies go all the way back to the Egyptian times.
No, I did not know that.
Yeah, you should read my blog. You learn a lot.
Facts about pies, facts about tacos. Yeah, I really going to read your blog more often.
You should.
I'm going to. Yeah. RSS feed that. Whatever you do.
But I'm just saying, like I. I would kind of judge her a little bit. I'm like, you would.
You'd be like that cheap ass bit. Showed up with nothing but. I don't know.
This bitch is so lame.
Yeah, I mean everyone knows I don't cook. It's kind of a thing. And it's funny, I've hung out there before and his roommate's always trying to teach me that. She's always like, did you want me to show you how to make the bacon. Like if we're making bacon in the morning.
Yeah. And you're like, nah.
I'm like, no, I'm cool. I'm good, I'm good. But I'll have some in that bacon. Come on.
So lame. They're probably talking so much shit about you.
No, they're not. No one cares if someone can cook or not in this day and age.
Yeah, they do.
Who?
What planet do you live on?
What planet do you live on?
I live on earth.
Unlike yourself, I've never learned to cook. I do other things. I have another.
But I'm saying you don't. I'm not saying you have to do it.
Oh, you're gonna traumatize me again because this happened. I was watch one of the old shows from June when you're like, menace said to me, what? He is like, what do you bring to the table in a relationship? You don't cook, you don't whatever else I don't do. And you were like. And then I had to call exes and find out what I brought to the table. I'm just saying they were very short conversations.
I'm saying tonight you should, you should bring something to.
I'll step it up. I'll step it up for you.
Don't bring some lame ass bottle of wine.
Oh, I'm gonna bring bottle of wine for sure.
Yeah, but bring something on top of that.
I will, I will. Okay, now I'm all stressed out.
Thanks.
Perfect.
Love that.
Okay, should we get into some news?
Yes. Feedback is sexemily.com or call the show if you think that Emily should bring something other than wine.
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It's up on the website too. Sex with emily.com.
Oh, sexually.com is. So where you want to go and vote on our poll, which we'll get to in a minute. But here's sex in the news that we have a new poll today. I know you love our polls. People cheat less now than they did in 1975. Shocked by this, I thought the numbers kept going up. That's all you ever hear is the numbers go up every year. It used to be like 60, 40 men and now then it was 50, 50 and now. Okay, the good news keeps rolling in. For those concerned about infidelity, couples are being more monogamous than they were in the 70s, researchers studied 6,000 men and women. They found that men and women, no matter if gay or straight, are much more faithful than our predecessors. In 1975, 28% of straight men reported having sex with someone other than their wife. In 2000, that number dropped 20%. Maybe people are lying more. No, I just don't believe. Why the dramatic decrease in extramarital affairs? The authors say an increase in awareness of HIV and STDs are causing couples to be extra cautious. But I thought, like this whole Facebook and online that people are just cheating more. There's more. Like everyone's saying there's more opportunity to cheat. I just figured that's happening and I'm shocked. But the 70s would have been a rocking time to be having sex. I would have been cheating my ass off in the 70s because think about the birth control pill just came out in 69. Women were told in 1969, 1968. And that was. If that's really kicked off the whole women's lib movement is when they got the birth control. Because until that time they were so nervous they could only have wait till they had sex and marriage because they could get pregnant. There weren't condoms as readily. They. So when they. All the women went on the pale, they were like, oh my God, bring it. And that's what launched the whole 70s swinging 70s.
That's where it went all downhill.
I so wish my parents were single in the 70s. My dad used to go to discos every night and stuff, and they had so much fun.
Did he go to 54?
We weren't in New York. We were in Michigan. I know, but he went to the equivalent in Michigan.
Really?
Yeah. He'd go out with his, like, gold chains with his friends, partying at night. It was so fun. That would have been so fun. So people were cheating less now. But I. I don't agree with this study.
Well, I think also a lot of people, because it's so in the media now more than ever. I think back then it wasn't really if people were cheating. It wasn't. There was as many tabloids and you hear at least on the man side, you're like, oh, that guy just got took for 150 million, you know, for cheating and stuff like that. So I think people are more aware of the risk on top of.
Yeah, but I think that can happen. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's true. There is a great risk. But. But people are doing. It just seems that people are. I don't know. Like, I have a friend who's freaking out right now in the Midwest. She's. She says that literally she's been married for 10 years at literally six of her friends. In the couples that she's in, she's like a nice. Like, it's not like, I know you're gonna have make a judgment, but like, six of her close friends are all like, cheating, breaking up, getting divorced. You've all been married. And she's like, what? She sent me this email yesterday. She called me the day she goes, emily, I have a quick question for you. She's like, what is love? What does love mean? I was like, whoa, what's going on? So anyway, I just feel like people are cheating, but guess not as much, which is happiness.
What did you respond with? What does love mean?
It was really hard for me. I was like. I was driving. I was like, what do you mean, what is love? Like? There's so many different kinds of love. I said, there's like friendship love, and there's dog love, and there's love love. And there's like. I said, are you talking about the romantic love? Because she's like, yes, it doesn't last. I'm like, well, that' a different kind of love. I mean, you love your partner. I'm like, I love you. We've been best friends for 20 years. You know, I think there's all different kinds of love, but love, I think, is like loyalty and trust and. And longevity, like knowing someone for a really long time. And love is puppy dogs and.
Well, when's the last time you felt.
Love for a man?
Yeah, the butterfly love.
Long time ago.
Long time ago.
Butterfly love.
Yeah.
How many times do you think that's happened in your life?
Such a bummer. Because you know what? Not that many. Like. Like when I was 22, I met this guy and I dated him for like two and a half years, and I loved him like that was butter. But I don't know if it's because I was younger and less. Less. I feel like it's easier to fall less dated. Thank you. I think it's easier to fall in love when you're younger, like, because you don't have all the baggage and you're not jaded and you're not. Not that I have so much baggage. Like, I don't have kids or divorces or anything, but I just think you're. You fall in love more freely. Either that or he was the love of my life and miss it. No, I don't believe in that. But I loved him. Butterflies. It's been a really long time since I felt the butterflies. I've got to say that. And that's what my friend was bemoaning. Is that she's been with her husband for 10 years and she's like, I'll never feel butterflies again. And she misses that.
Do you think that's her fault that.
She doesn't feel butterflies? I think it's, it's, it's, it's biology. Like we know you're with someone for a long time, you're not going to feel the butterflies anymore because things change, the chemicals, like falling in love. The butterflies come from like crazy testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, serotonin. All this crazy stuff's going on in your body when you're falling in love. The first 612 months that you're with someone and that just changes, it dives after a while.
So what do you explain the people that are married for 60, 80 years.
That they have to. How do I explain that or what do I tell them about it?
How do you explain that?
I explain that they don't have the butterflies anymore, but they have this much deeper, stronger, intense, long lasting love that isn't about butterflies and crazy sex, but it's about commitment and friendship and being there for each other. And that's like that. But you should still like go to get a hotel room every once in a while and leave the kids at home.
For real?
For real. Okay. Iran's hot sex ed DVD yesterday. The other day we heard about China's sex ed program. The hottest selling item in Tehran pharmacies this summer is an allergy medicine or vitamin C. It's a sex education CD dvd, the first ever released in the Islamic republic called Beloved Companion, which has been blazing off the shelves. We've sold hundreds since it was released. Until now, Iranian and foreign films sold on dvd, air in theaters, have been completely censored. No nudity, no foul language, no new endo left by the time is left by the time the censors hack their way through. But now they have this. They got a stamp of approval from the Ministry of Health. Thank God. They need sex education there. So.
So it's like they're porn.
Exactly.
Unmarried young men and women flirting in parks or cruising around in cars are often picked up by the morality police. Like they're so more like they don't let anything show there, but they're finally doing sex ed. So that's good.
That's really cool.
That's really cool. Having kids lowers a man's testosterone level. Researchers believe that the change in hormone levels men experience when they have children simply make them more family oriented, interested in caring for the child. Fatherhood and the demands of Having a newborn baby require many emotional, physical, psychological, and physical adjustments. So their testosterone dips. That makes sense. But I bet you it goes right back up again. And then they want to start boning everyone. The neighbors.
Oh, no, for sure. They want to have sex with their wife and their wife won't have sex with them.
Well, only right after they have kids because it's really tough and it hurts and they're in pain. That's a tough time.
You have to wait like six. Six weeks.
Six to eight weeks. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. They also suspected encourages more monogamous behavior. But I don't know, I guess I just know so many people who have reached out to me during that time and they're like, I want to cheat. I want whatever. My wife, like, just messed up, man.
That's the mother of my child.
I know.
I don't know. I don't know.
I know a lot of messed up people.
People just can't have the same mentality as I am. Like, when it comes to. When it just comes to, like, you're together, you're together.
I know. Modest. You're good.
I understand.
When was the time you felt butterflies?
I know it's been a while. Yeah, it's been a couple years.
When you were engaged.
I was engaged. It definitely. Yeah.
Oh, but I want to feel that, like.
So excited. Yeah. Anyway, I do.
But like, I don't know. I don't know what's wrong with people these days.
What do you mean?
They just can't. Once they're together with somebody, they just can't be happy just being together.
No, they can't be. A lot of people can't be happy while just being together because life is complicated and we have a lot of needs and desires and we think that one person has to fill that. And when our mate isn't filling all those needs, we look elsewhere. But really, one person can't do it all for you.
Well, my deal is, you know, I'm gonna try my best to make it work.
And stop's not a great husband one day. I can't wait. Can I go to your wedding?
Yeah, sure.
Right?
Yeah.
I'm going to be.
My wedding is going to be ridiculous.
Your wedding is going to be.
You're going to be too drunk to make a speech.
I'm going to make a great speech. Okay. There's a new emotional phone that can moistly kiss your cheek.
A what?
A phone. An emotional phone. If you see a bunch of people making out with their cell phones on your morning commute in the near future. Do not panic. A series of new phone prototypes have just been sewn at the Mobile HCI conference in Stockholm, Sweden. That will make whispering sweet nothings to your beloved or panting to your boss mid run that you're going to go to be a few minutes late feel a lot more intimate or weird. The emotional phone, developed by German designer can stimulate heavy breathing, hand holding and kissing. This is kind of like the sex thing.
It's the thing with the. That I've been talking about.
It's a moisturized wet sponge membrane. I don't want my phone kissing me. I'm already too attached to my phone. If I start making out with my phone, I've got a problem.
Yeah, well, robot, you know, your lover just gives you a little. Little peck on the cheek, then you.
Could feel it with your phone.
What's wrong with that? People love. Love their partners. God.
People are calling it creepy, awkward, disgusting and disturbing.
We're talking a lot about love today.
I know, but it was funny. My friend called me, like, literally in tears, like, what does love mean? I need to know the meaning of love. We are talking about love today. Love is. Love is a beautiful thing when you can find it.
Yeah.
Love is when you can. You'll do anything for that person.
Yeah. You do anything for them, they got your back. I think it sounds nice.
It does. You should try it out.
I should. Yeah.
It's fun.
I'm going to, for sure.
When it goes bad, it goes bad. But then you just live and you learn and then you move on.
I think I just always held back a little bit. I was a little shut down.
Yeah.
I don't know. But I did fall in love, like. Yeah. When I was 22.
Tequila always tears down that wall.
Tequila tears.
Then you love everybody.
I can't remember my. Oh, I should bring my tequila recipe tonight and make margaritas.
Yeah, you should.
But I can't remember what it was.
You. It was the one thing I made for menace.
I remember you.
It was agave and I had to heat it up.
Yeah. But. Yeah, you diluted the agave a little bit.
Three parts.
So it wasn't as sugary.
Yeah, right. It was amaz. And then what else do you put in it?
Then you put in the margarita lime. Done.
I'll do that.
What about the. You can bring in the panty dropper. I told you, the panty dropper.
Oh, we were all drinking that the other night.
Really?
Yeah. Didn't I tell you that yesterday?
Yeah, you did, but you did it. You did the recipe wrong. You have to use lime, not lemon.
I didn't remember that, but I love the panty dropper, too. Ginger ale, vodka and lime, and grenadine, maybe.
Grenadine if you want to make a true panty dropper menace.
You've really changed my life. I teach you all about sex, and you teach me all about how to become an alcoholic. Awesome. I know. That's really.
I better your life.
What'd you say?
I better your life.
You do better my life every day. I get excited to see you. Okay, we have a new poll that I'm gonna get into now. Have you ever had a threesome? No, but I'd like to. Yes, but it was not fun. No, not my thing. Yes. And I'm excited for my next one.
I think it's number one.
No, but I'd like to.
Huh?
Number one for you.
I think number one is. I know, but I would like to.
Yes, that's what you would say. For you.
Yeah.
Okay.
So it's been that close.
I know, honey. I can help you.
Sometimes you just get, you know, it's too late in the night to make it happen.
It's too late if you're drunk. It's, like, about to happen. Yeah. No, but you'd like to. Oh, we gotta hook that up for you. I want people to go vote on this right now. It's very important because we are gonna be talking about that because a big impetus today, so just to tease what's coming up later is. It's confessions from a sex family intern at her first sex party.
And.
And there was a lot of talk about perhaps they would have a threesome there. We don't know what happened yet. We're going to find out, so. And they hadn't had one before, so. Have you ever threesome? Nobody would like to. Yes, but it was not fun. Not my thing. Yes. And I'm excited for my next one. I'd have to say yes, and I'm excited for my next one.
All right. I like how your answers are all the way at the bottom. Mine's all the way at the top.
I know. We're just like that. We're different like that. Okay. Do you want some.
Can I give you some emails?
Yeah. My favorite part.
Okay. And then after that, we're going to read the winners to our contest. What you give up for great sex. Special present from Adam and Eve. Emily, do women admire or criticize each other's labia? As in her lips are so pretty or small or dainty or her Lips are a mess. I know that some women are self conscious about their own labia, which makes me think that there are some aesthetic criteria. Do plastic surgeons have neoprene models of different labial models for women seeking labiaplasty? Are you looking for the Jenna Jameson style or the Natalie Portman look? As a guy, I have some standards, but they are rather. But they are limit. But they are limits rather than exact specifics. For example, prolapsed innards is too much, and.
Prebutile slits are not enough prebuterol slits. He knows way too much. He knows more than I do.
Why is a guy asking this?
They are distinctive, interesting, whatever, cute, impressive, exotic. From Alex.
I don't understand why Alex would be asking if other women.
Because he's clearly obsessed with labias and he wants to know if women talk about other women's labies. And I. I don't. I don't talk to my friends. I've never had a friend complain to me about her labia.
I never.
And my friends and I talk about everything.
Yeah. All my girls that are friends, they have never brought that up.
No, I think that's really like. That's like a mental penis size.
Yeah. I don't like.
So my labias.
Yeah.
Flapping in the wind.
Yeah. I don't talk about my penis size with my friends.
I don't think that women do. Maybe like a really close friend, she'd be like, I'm thinking of getting the surgery. And if you're talking about. Do plastic surgeons have neoprene models? I'm assuming they do. Because for any other, like, if you get a boob job, they. You feel different boobs, you get a nose job, they show you different. No, it's like.
I think. I think he's probably trying to get one of those. He wants.
Do you want Natalie Portman's labia? A mold of her labia? Is that what you're asking for? No, I don't think women talk about that much. I think that men talk about it more than women.
Remember? We don't talk this. We don't talk.
But you think it. You're like, oh, that's a weird labyrinth. You've run into weird labias. Right?
Yeah.
I've never thought that.
I'm not gonna comment on this because I.
She did it once and it was bad. We got hundreds of emails and people were not happy. Menace insulted women's labia and, I don't know, we always had to cancel the show. It raged more than the handoff debate. I Think for a while. I think that men. There was a woman who wrote in a few weeks ago about her labia, and she was thinking surgery. And then someone else wrote in and was like, you know what? Labias. All labels are beautiful. Like, some men like big labia. So I think it's like, if you're really uncomfortable with it, it's inhibiting your sex life, then maybe you should look into that. But I just think really just kind of accept and love your body. It's fine. Men, people will love it, too. You'll find someone who loves your labia just the way it is.
Yeah.
It's up to you.
Right.
Don't take into consideration and think about.
It longer if you're young, too. Like plastic surgery, I think at a young age, even an older age. But just like, I don't know. Learn to love your labia. All right, Emily. I've been hanging out with this girl for three weeks, though. She just ended things with her ex about six weeks ago. Now, how long till I say I want more or just go for it and try to get more out of it? We have so much fun going out, people we know. But I want more. Is there anything I can say to tell her or let her know I want more? From Kennewick, Washington, 25 years old. Pete.
No. Okay. She just ended it with her ex three weeks, six weeks ago. How long till you say you want more? Just go for it. Well, okay, this is tricky. I say he's 25 years old. He's hanging out with this chick. Just go for it. I mean, she probably has some mourning period, but when you're 25, six weeks is, you know.
How long was she with that guy before?
Does it say no?
Okay.
They could have been together 12 weeks. Who knows? Not very long.
Yeah. I mean, if they're together for, like, a couple years, she might answer like, oh, I want to have fun right now. I'm gonna go party with my girls and get crazy and drink martinis and cry in the street. My heels. My heels. Off in the dirty street. I see that all the time at night around here.
Women without their heels. Yeah, because the feet, they hurt.
You can get those soles to put them in there.
I know. I have them. I always forget to put men.
But it's just funny because.
It sucks as a man, because, you know, like, you're a good guy. You'll take care of her. And you would do anything for this girl because you really, really like her.
Right?
But she wants to have that party phase because she's been locked down, all that stuff. She's going to go through all this turmoil and it's gonna suck.
Right? And he is the rebound guy. Pete, you are the rebound guy. If she just broke up with him. But I would say just hanging out and being friends and not letting her know that you like her is gonna put you into the friend zone. So that's your other danger.
I always go in the friend zone.
Because it's very dark place and it's hard to get out. You can't get out. Can't get out.
Sometimes I also say you do have to say something, but I would consider some timeframe because it's only six, eight weeks ago that they broke up and like consider how long they were together. If they're only together like a year, then yeah, go ahead and go for it. But if they're in a relationship like four years, then, dude, you gotta.
That takes a little more time.
You gotta give her a little breathing room, right?
But you can still try to make out with her one night when you're really drunk. No, that's just kidding though. But that could lead diner. I don't know why I said that. That's not the thing you'd say. Hi, Emily Madison. Am I starting to like get corrupted by you?
No, I'm making you more real.
I'm real, dude.
I'm bringing you down to earth.
Emily and Menace, I was catching up on your show from a week ago and you said one phrase that really grabbed my attention. I am not a slut.
Bros before hoes. What?
I am not a slut. Apparently I said I am not a slut. I'm a 23 year old female lost, average in 18, have had about 15 partners, give or take a couple drunken one night stands. I don't feel bad about this, but I know that if guys find this out, they always seem to think I'm a huge slut. Why is it that by having a healthy sex life, I'm or any female declared a slut? I know that this is probably one of the oldest questions in the book and can be answered in a million different ways, but sometimes it still gets under my skin. I have to say that listening to your show made me feel so much better with my healthy sex life. Thank you for reminding men and women that it's okay to have sex and try new things and talk about it. You and Menace are great. Keep the good work, Suzanne. Yeah. You're so not a slut. And first of all, don't be talking to men about how People you slept with with ever, never, ever, ever reveal your number. I don't care how old you are, how many men you slept with. Low high. It's never ever bodes well for any conversation, for any relationship to discuss the number of partners you have. Guys will always ask. Women will always ask. And all it's going to end up in a fight. They're going to be judging you. If it's too, too few, too many, it's just, it's no one needs to know but yourself. So stop talking about it. Because if they're judging you, they're going to judge you.
Yeah, it's just automatically going to ruin your relationship.
Never talk. Exactly. Automatically never talk about the number.
If they keep on pressing you, impressing you.
Don't, don't never reveal.
It's not move on.
I don't see any scenarios where it's like, oh, I'm so glad I know that now. I feel so much closer to you now. I feel like you've had 15 other dicks and that's all I can think about. You know what I mean? Like it clouds their vision. When men hear about other penises, they just picture all those other penises in the room. Clouds are vision about it. Okay, so that's how we got for emails right now because we have to move into the contest winner and then we have to move into our. My I'm so excited to talk to my intern about her sex party. I can't stand it. Okay, so our contest was what would you give up for amazing sex?
And then here's some of our responses before I read the winner.
Okay. Amanda says this is off on Facebook. We put cheesecake and booze. However, I'd prefer to have. I prefer to have all three. Someone else said Dervion said breakfast, lunch and dinner. Rachel said chocolate and ten pounds. Amber says dessert. Women are so food focused. Right? I think I said chocolate. Natalie said reading and writing. David said my left nut. All the things people give up for good sex. Rebecca said I would have to say alcohol. While some believe alcohol helps to relieve any anxiety over intimate situations, eliminating it means you feel everything. Travis says hours of my day or sleep. John says football, NFL football for the rest of his life, but only if it isn't a one time thing. So he has have great sex all the time. Okay, so another guy says joker said from Waterloo. He said, what would I give up for great sex? I gave up two things. My car and masturbating.
His car and masturbating for great sex. That's a good one.
David said, beer on a day. Beer on a day, for a day basis. Seriously, the only way to have really great sex is to give up yourself. Keith said, I give up my sight. I can still bask in the intimacy with the sound, touch, breathing, the sense of sex, and the miracle that happens as I regain my sight. That's beautiful. Okay, someone else said, a giant load of cum.
Oh, okay. Classy.
Someone else said, bad sex. I would give up my car for some great sex. Okay. And then someone else said they gave up flirting. But I haven't read the winner yet.
What is the winner?
The winner said.
Before I tell you what I would give up for guaranteed amazing sex, I have to say that Sex with Emily is my favorite podcast. I listened to it religiously every day, and I became a Friends with Benefits member the minute it was an option. That being said, I would give up sex with Emily for a month if I was guaranteed good sex. Please don't hate me. Nikki from Potomac, Maryland, she wins a special prize from Adam and Eve.
She's kissing your ass. I loved it.
Kiss my ass.
See, you love the attention. You just need it. That's how you survive. That's. You don't even have food in it. That's why you don't have food in your house.
Why?
Because you just live off attention. That's what you feed off of. That's what you feed off of is attention. That's how you survive.
So not true. I love attention.
There's no food in your goddamn house.
That was funny. That was well written. I just read them all to you before I would tell you. I have to say that I thought that was funny. She's like, I give up sex only for a month. That's funny.
I would have picked the cum.
1.
Load it.
Come.
Whatever. Okay.
Bring a dumb truck. Dump truck.
So, Nikki, you won a prize from Adam and eve, our sponsor, AdamandEve.com we're going to send you something that vibrates and that's phallic shape. Probably likely. I don't know. They're picking the prize. But yeah, Adam and Eve. Just so FYI, if you're looking to buy sex toys or you're looking to do anything, buy any rings or lingerie or DVDs. Sex AdamAndEve.com is your place to go. You get three adult DVDs plus free shipping, plus 50 off was one item plus all this other stuff. So just use coupon code Emily at checkout for adamandeve.com. do that now.
Okay, so what the Hell happened? What is going on? Explain everything from the beginning with our intern.
Okay, let's step from the beginning.
Alicia, what happened?
Get your cute little butt over here.
Get the. Get the microphone.
And I'm sitting. Or should I stand?
Let me see. No, that's cool. I got it.
I could stand.
I got it. No, it's perfect right here. Okay, got it, got it, got it.
I don't even have any notes. Hi. This is Alicia. She's been an intern. Okay, I'll give you the. We'll give you the background. Okay.
You don't talk for a second. Go ahead and talk.
Hello.
Okay, a little bit, A little bit. No, you're. You're cool. You can stand a little bit.
Okay.
Okay.
Right there. You're perfect. Don't talk and just stand right there and talk. Okay, cool.
Okay, awesome. Hi, lovely. Alicia, my intern. Okay, so Alicia's been my intern for how long now?
Only a couple of months.
Okay, A couple months. Two months.
Yeah, it was like the end of July.
Okay, End of July. And so she asked me. So what happened was. I don't really remember. Tell me what happened. You asked me.
Well, I was trying to plan my boyfriend's 25th birthday, and I wanted to do something a little bit different because we have a really healthy sexual lifestyle, and I wanted to have a threesome. I know. I knew he always wanted to have one. I've always wanted to have one. So I was trying to plan two.
Chicks and a guy. Or two guys.
No, two girls and a guy.
Okay.
That'd be weird.
I know.
Yeah.
Yeah. You guys talked about the threesome thing that before.
Yeah, we had. So I was trying to surprise him at something special. And then Emily was like, hey, why don't you guys go to Club Kiss? Because I was having problems thinking of, like, how to find another girl.
Right. Club Kiss is. There was a woman on the show. Polly, I don't think you were here. Polly runs Polly Emery. No, her name's Polly.
Polly something.
Anyway, Polly owns this club in the city called Clubs. Club Kiss in San Francisco. And they do all these. It's not really a sex party, but they call them play parties, and you can go, and the rules are that it's couples and single women can go, and they never. They don't tell you the location until that day, and it's somewhere in the city. And so she came on the show and talked about throwing sex parties. And so I thought I had the brochure, and I was like, okay, check it out. So we called Polly. Polly Hooked it up, got her in and. Yeah. So I want to know. And then her boyfriend, also. Daniel.
Yep.
He's gonna. Should we call him now? He's just gonna sit so we can listen and kind of pipe in. Yeah, we're good. I mean, I think we'll still keep talking. Just get him on the phone, but. So I want to know how it all done, because he didn't know you were. You guys had talked about everything.
Yeah, I had been teasing him for a couple of weeks, saying, like, I planned something crazy for your birthday. Like, you're not gonna believe it. You're never gonna forget this. And he just started assuming that it was going to be a threesome.
Oh, he assumed it? Yeah.
He assumed it was gonna be a threesome.
Hello? He's here. Oh, crap.
Hang on one sec.
Okay. Oh, she doesn't have headphones.
Yeah. Do we have an extra set?
Hello?
Oh, yeah, yeah. Okay, hold on.
Honey. Hi, can you hear us?
Yeah.
Okay.
Hi, Daniel. We're gonna have you sit there for a second. We're just gonna hook up some headphones here for.
Holy shit. Okay, hold on one second.
Hold on.
Daniel, can you just not comment right now and you guys can talk?
Yeah, we're gonna keep talking, Daniel, but we just wanted to get you on the line. Okay, so no problem. So all week long, you're saying to him, all month long, you're like, I've got something. I've got something. I've got something.
Yeah, I've had this plan for like a month.
Okay, okay.
You guys don't have. You guys just look at the microphone. Okay, Sorry.
So he thinks that.
Because I want everybody to hear this.
So he thinks he. How do you. He says to you, I think it's a threesome.
Yeah. I was like, what are you assuming that it's going to be like, I just want to know. To see if he's on track at all.
Okay.
And he was assuming it was a threesome, and then it wasn't till the night before we were out at a bar, and I was like, I really want to tell you. I feel like I should just let you know now because it kind of is like, a big surprise.
Right? Big.
And so I told him, and he was definitely really excited, but nervous.
Right. How did you tell him? Like, what did you say? I'm going to. We're going to this play party or we're going to this.
Yeah, I said, we're going to an underground sex club.
I love it. We're going to an underground sex club.
I'M just gonna give you my headphones and let you guys talk because you.
Won'T be able to hear.
No, no, no. I'll figure it out. You guys go ahead and keep on talking.
Okay. Because you have to be able to hear.
Yeah.
Okay. So. And so. Okay, so he was a little nervous. And then you guys went, okay. So then you go. Did you guys talk beforehand about, like, did you set. Because one of the big things for people is that they have to. I always tell couples when they're going to their first sex party or planning the first threesome, that you have to talk about it beforehand. You have to establish ground rules. For example, like, I don't want you kissing someone, but I want you to. You can have sex, but I don't want. You know, I don't want to take the person home or whatever it is.
No, definitely. We really had to talk about that.
Smart.
We brought up the whole, what if a guy approaches me? Situation, and I let him know that, like, that's really not what I'm going there for. That's not on my agenda. If it does happen, I'll just let them know, like, I'm really only here for your girl. If we think, we'll think that she's cute.
Right?
Yeah. And then the whole issue of, like, okay, you can be with the girl, but only as long as I'm there.
Right.
You know, like, no running away. You know, I want to know where you're at.
Nobody back. Got it.
But also just. We have really great communication. So I was like, yeah, I was like, we trust each other. We love each other. Just, like, communicate with me. Let me know when you're ever. You're not feeling comfortable. If you do see someone that you think is cute. If you want to do anything different, you know, like, just talk to me.
Right.
And that's what we did.
And so were you worried that you were gonna be jealous or anything? Because a lot of things that come.
Up, I figured if I was there. No.
Right.
If I was participating also, then, no. If it was just, like, I didn't want to have a moment to take, like, to step back and to see him. Another woman for a second, because I think he's incredibly sexy, and I just want to, like, see him do his thing. But that never got to that point.
Oh, it didn't get to that point. Okay, well, we'll get to that in a minute. Daniel, can you hear me?
I'm still here.
Hi, Daniel. Thank you so much for calling in. You're awesome. So what did you think when Alicia said, we're going to this underground sex club tomorrow, what was your first thought?
Kind of like two things. Just super excited and super nervous at the same time.
Yeah.
And then I'm crazy.
Yeah, she's crazy. Awesome.
She really is.
I know. Right? So. So you were kind of nervous and you guys had the conversation and stuff, and so you've never had a threesome? Neither one of you have ever had a threesome before, right?
I never have.
No, I have not.
Okay, so you get. So then you do that, and then what happens? You go to get to the party. Is it working? No. Okay, you go to the party.
Yeah.
We got to the party and we got, like, a little tour of the area. Just kind of like the different rooms and the setup and what people were going to be doing. Just so, you know, we weren't kind of blindsided.
Right.
And I think Alicia and I just kind of looked at each other like, okay, this is where it's all going to happen. But we really had no idea what was going to happen.
Right.
What was the scene like? Can you describe the rooms?
They had a couple. They had two or three different rooms. One in the back was kind of like large with lots of beds laid out. One was kind of a dungeon setting, which was interesting.
A dungeon, Right. Dungeons are big.
And then two were smaller rooms, which kind of were just like different colored drapes and couches and low lighting. And they had a DJ and a dance floor with a stripper pole, which was cool.
Of course, you guys can't have a sex party without a stripper pole. And then what were people dressed like you guys would.
Pretty normal. Like, there were some people that were in lingerie, some people were in dresses, some people were just in jeans and T shirts. Like. Okay, it was whatever you felt comfortable in.
So did you guys, like, check out, scope out of their couples.
Kind of, Yeah. I don't know.
Dan, were you looking around more than I was?
Honestly, I. My eyes were really just focused on you. I just wanted to make sure we were okay. I think, like, the whole idea of going was to try.
I just wasn't. I wasn't ready to actually approach someone until I think we both had maybe thought that somebody would approach us.
Right.
We realized it's kind of. You gotta. You gotta be a little bit open about it.
Yeah, well, you learn, you know. You learn. Yeah. I mean, yeah, I guess you do have to start approaching. Did you start talking to other couples and stuff?
Well, yeah, we were definitely being a little social, like, at first when we got there, we kind of just made our way, like, to a couch and just were talking and making out a little bit and got on top of it. But when it came to trying to communicate with other people, we were really just talking. We weren't really flirting.
Right.
And so we were surprised.
It's a whole different art form, I guess.
Yeah, we'd be surprised when we would meet people and see them talking to other people and seeming like they were having normal conversations and then see them having a foursome 20 minutes later.
Oh, really? So tell me about that. Tell me about what you saw there.
We saw lots and lots of sex.
So, like, what?
It wasn't like.
It wasn't like, in your face sex, right?
Kind of, yeah. You walk in a room and you see a girl on our knees, you know, sucking on a guy and.
Right. Naked.
No, that girl wasn't naked. But then, like, in, like, the big playroom, everyone was naked and so should we talk about what we did? Should we get.
Yeah, of course.
So Dan braved it, and we found some. A little back corner space in one of the largest rooms there. And to our left, there was a foursome. And right in front of us, there was a foursome.
What do you mean there was a foursome?
There is two. There is two couples together.
So they weren't all having sex, the foursome they were swapping?
I don't think so. I feel like couples remain couples. It was just kind of what I really liked about this club. What it was. I think it's more girl inspired swapping.
Yes, it is, girl. It's all about the women. Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
I never saw couples really swapping their guys. I think it was just girls were really into each other, and the guys.
Were just having fun watching their girls.
Be together, watching their girls play with other girls.
Oh, right.
Like, there was a foursome in front of us. They seemed to be having a lot of fun with each other. So there was a guy that was doing his girlfriend from the back, and then she was eating out a girl in front of her. And then the woman who was getting eaten out, her husband was just laying there next to her, just being like, okay, like, when are you gonna start playing with me? But she was just, like, enjoying herself and was just, like, taking it all out.
So he was just lying there going, who's gonna suck me?
No, but he was. He had a giant smile on his face, you know?
That's so sweet. Yeah.
And then to our left, it was definitely more. There was no swapping. There the girls were in the middle and the guys were on the outside. And it was really just, like, the guys playing with the girls and.
And the girls were playing with each other. Yeah. There's a lot of female. On female action, definitely.
We never saw any guys. We never saw, like, any guys, like, kissing each other.
Okay. No. No men kissing each other. Two men kissing each other. Okay.
And not even really, like, anyone doing anything. Like, it was more about, like, it was more passionate sex. It wasn't like girls getting pounded over the place.
Right. Passion at the top.
Yeah.
So was it hot? Like, what did you turn you guys on to watch these other couples having sex? How about you, Daniel?
I really had to loosen up at first.
Yeah. You need a few cocktails, huh?
What had happened is we. We went to a room and just started to kind of turn each other on basically.
Right.
And go back and then have some drinks. And before we knew it, honestly, when the dance floor was packed, everybody had left, all the rooms had filled up, and. And there was sex happening in every room.
Wow.
We weren't kind of there as people poured in. So as we walked around and looked in, we were both looking like, you know, this is actually happening.
Yeah. People are having sex at a sex party. Wow, that's awesome.
Like, that's kind of odd. We should do it.
You should do it. So then you.
So then we probed each other. It was like, we're here. We both know we're comfortable enough. We just need to relax.
Right.
And then she took my hand and we went. We went to the furthest back room and kind of just had a view of the whole room. And she just sort of. She started on me and got me comfortable, so.
Right. And then you.
You started on me.
Apparently, we had some watchers, too.
Really?
Oh, yeah, that's true.
I'm sorry.
I did see people watching you guys, like, go down on each other kind of thing.
Yeah. Because there was a wall. So people could, like, stand along the back wall and just kind of, like, play with each other while watching other people.
Okay.
But I was always facing him. I kind of, like.
You didn't want to see the people watching.
Well, no, well, it wasn't that. I just, like. I just wanted.
You wanted to connect with him.
Yeah, exactly. I just wanted it to be like. Just don't even realize that, like, everyone else is here. Like, it's.
Right.
We're just having sex together.
Exactly. Okay. That's really cool. So then you got it. Got comfortable. You get into it, right?
Yeah. Well, like, you got Hard. And it was time.
It was time. And then you guys had sex in the room. Did you get naked?
Yeah, we were both fully naked.
Wow. And. And you know that people were around watching.
Yeah, I mean, I found out later on.
You found out? We were like, hey, that was nice.
No, no. Dan told me afterwards. He's like, no, there was definitely some people. Like, Dan got a high five from a guy.
No way. You got a high five for what, Daniel? What'd you do? What was the move?
Did he.
Could he specify what the high five was all about?
I don't think it was that. It was just. The high five was basically like, oh, we had just met each other casually, and then I just see you fucking your girlfriend.
Right.
That's awesome, you guys. So you had your first.
I think Felicia was real focused on me, and I kind of surveyed the room while we were having sex. And eventually that really started to turn me on that people were paying attention to us.
It did turn you on that people were watching? Yeah. I'm sure that can be really hot. Some people, you know, now you know something about yourself. Right. You wouldn't have known that before, but it is kind of hot. I love it.
We just. We did break a big wall, and I told her afterwards that I think we've totally kicked a notch up now.
I love it.
We're just gonna keep going for these kinds of things, but.
Oh, I can open up a whole world for you.
She just started her internship. Okay.
Yeah.
But just the level of trust, you.
Know, that's what she had this morning. To me, when she came in, she's like. She feels like you guys are even closer now.
I think so. I really do.
We didn't do the threesome thing, and I think that wasn't for lack of her wanting to. I think it was maybe.
I just really didn't pursue it.
Right.
Like, how I talked about it.
Right. And it's hard to do. Like, it's hard to. Threesomes. Don't they? Seriously, it's like all the stars have to be aligned. Like, it's not an easy thing to make happen. But I think it's amazing that you guys had sacked. Like, I think it's almost better that you guys just went and had sex and did that experience, and next time you'll know more and more and it'll all happen.
Yeah, no, we definitely. We did that and then went and danced and definitely were feeling a little bit of alcohol by then. The music was getting better, and then we even went and did it again. Like, no one else was really around this time.
Right.
It was actually kind of funny. We walked in a couple that were just playing with each other, and then we started having sex and they just laughed. We were like, okay. We don't know if we, like, scared them away or.
No, probably not at a sex party. So how many different couples would you say you saw happen having sex at this party?
Oh, I don't know, babe.
No. Yeah. No, just throughout the evening.
You mean switching or just.
No, just like, couple. Like, how much sex actually was there? Like 100. How many people were there?
Oh, man, it was probably like 40, 50.
Okay. That's kind of intimate, right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
And everyone was definitely kept running into the same people, like, if you need to go to the bathroom.
Right, right, right. Okay. That's really cool, you guys. I think it's great that it really opened up your relationship and you feel closer now. Yeah.
I'd say there was only about, like, really just a handful of people that weren't doing anything.
Right. But most people get into it. Yeah.
Because they went there. They're like, okay, we're gonna go test this out. And, you know, there's always. There can be the chance that someone just really doesn't feel that comfortable.
Right. And it's the thing about Club Kiss. And if anyone wants to check it out, I think it's Club Kiss. Sanford, Club Kiss. SIFA is their website Club Kiss sf or is it just Club Kiss? You can find it, but if anyone wants to check it out, they're a great club in the city and you can go there and it's safe. Didn't you feel safe?
I felt really comfortable.
They made us feel really comfortable.
Yeah. Like, as I had gone there and like a sexy red dress and like, even change in some lingerie that he'd.
Bought in for you. I love that you wore your lingerie there. What did it look like?
It was cute. It was polka dotted and, like, see through on the sides and kind of look like a little French maid.
Oh, cute French maid. Daniel, Good job.
No, he's the best.
Yeah. That's awesome. Okay, well, thank you so much. What'd you say?
I pushed her to put it on, so she did.
That is hot. See, it's good to push your limits like that.
Yeah, why not?
Now what? What's. So what's next?
Who knows? We went to a strip club the next night and I was like, oh, this is kind of boring.
Strip club. Whatevs. Yeah. Cause you guys hadn't been to a strip club. Club before. Right? Or you hadn't.
I had never been together.
Not together. No, not together. Okay, got it. Well, thank you so much, Danielle, for calling in. I appreciate it.
Oh, I'm glad to talk about it. Thank you for helping us.
Of course. Anytime. I'm here to help people have better sex. Bye, Daniel. Happy birthday, baby.
Thank you so much.
Bye, baby.
I'll see you later.
Bye. Thank you. Thanks, Alicia, so much. That was a great story. I love it. Okay, so any takeaways, any advice for people if they've never been, or what would you say?
I'd say if you feel like you're with someone that you can do something like that with, then definitely go and give it a try. Just go check it out.
Go check it out.
Cause there's. Everyone was so nice there. We really did feel comfortable. And we also. We told each other when we got there, like, we don't have to do anything, right?
It's totally fine. No pressure, no press.
No press.
Yeah, no pressure. We can just get each other excited and leave and go home and do.
It in our sex in the middle of the thing. I love it.
Yeah, it was awesome.
They had sex in a room with people watching.
I know. Our first time was in a giant group of people. Then we went to a smaller room, and then, of course, we went home and did it all night.
Now, is that now that. I mean, you initially went there to have a threesome.
That was kind of the plan.
That was the plan. But then.
Now that every. The experience ended up being everybody watching you, is that what you ended up getting off on, or was that just kind of.
Yeah, I mean, it was nice.
You're like, oh, that's weird that I experienced that, but I liked it.
Or no, I mean, it was kind of nice. Like, it was kind of like porn was on blast behind me. Like, you just hear girls moaning throughout this whole, you know, venue. You're just kind of like, I want to moan too, you know?
That's hot. Oh, my God, I love it. Okay. Yay. Thanks, Alicia.
No problem.
Thank you, Emily. This is all her doing.
And look, it enhanced their sex life, and it's enhanced the relationship. I mean.
Yeah.
Okay, so that's great. Okay, well, thank you so much. Thanks, everyone. I really think we're done here. Right? Yeah, we gotta wrap up. Thanks, everyone, for listening to sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedbackex with emily.com.
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