Episode 297 - Top Places to Meet Singles

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Hi. How you doing today?

Great. How are you?

I'm good. You are in a good mood?

I'm in A good mood. I walked in, I'm like, I'm in a good mood. And I think it's because of the sunshine. Because our summer, we get about three days of summer.

Yeah.

Ten days of summer.

There's something in your teeth.

What is it? Red lipstick?

No. Something maybe that you ate.

I thought I got it out.

No, it's still there.

Oh my God.

It's very visible.

Just grab a mirror, you're good.

I don't have a mirror.

Oh, is it gone? No.

Okay, you talk anyways.

Today's show is gonna be awesome already. I can tell that since the weather here in the Bay Area, California, in America is gonna be 77 degrees all week long and then. And then on the weekend it'll be 70 degrees. I do the weather every day. By the way, on the radio, I heard you.

I heard you this morning. You did? Yeah, I was going to the gym and I heard you. It's gone.

Yeah, it is gone.

I heard you on the camera doing something really cute. I don't remember. It was a. You were the first. I was like in my car, it was like 7:30 and I was like turning it on and I was on your station and. And it was you talking and I was so happy. You were giving away something.

Oh yeah.

No, but you were giving away this morning. You were giving away.

So not this morning.

Maybe it was yesterday morning. It was this morning.

I don't start giveaway giving away things till 10 o'. Clock.

You were doing something at 7:30. You were asking people to call in and do something. It was early. I heard you this morning on the radio.

Yeah, I do give out traffic and weather.

No, it wasn't traffic and weather. It was something else. You sounded so cute.

Maybe it was. Maybe it was a commercial of me talking about something.

Okay. I don't know. I wasn't paying attention that much. But I was happy to hear you. I almost texted you, but it was too early.

I get up early.

You do get up early. 4:30am that's crazy. Yeah, it's beautiful. So it's beautiful. So it's very nice here in the Bay Area. It's like what, like 80 degrees today?

77.

That is so perfect. I told you that guys at the beach this weekend. You can never go to the beach in San Francisco. I feel like I'm sort of. Because I didn't know this. I think when I moved to California from Michigan, I assumed made the assumption that it was always sunny here and nice. I don't think I did my research. I Think I meant to move to la, maybe, and not San Francisco? Because it's always.

But, I mean, Michigan is super cold.

It doesn't matter. It's always cold and it's always miserable. And I don't want to be the part of that, and I don't want to be a part of that anywhere I live. So, no, I'm really happy today. I just feel like things are just great.

Well, you talked about LA a lot. When are you gonna.

I know. I was like, oh, I should move to la. No, I'm not gonna move to la.

I'm here for a little while.

I did. I lived there for a few years. Few years ago. I was back and forth a bunch.

What the hell would you do there?

I wouldn't. I mean, I would do a lot. I mean, we. It would be. It would help the show. It'd be different guests, different things, more entertainment stuff. But. Yeah, then you wouldn't be there.

I know it's hard. I mean, a lot of.

People in entertainment don't visit San Francisco.

I know. They really don't.

I had Seth Rogen at work today.

Oh, you did? I know. Seth Rogen is really dull. Yes, I do. How is he? Did you talk to him?

I don't really talk to him, but he's. He's a cool guy. I've heard him in many interviews.

He should be on the show. What's he here for? A new movie? Yeah.

I don't even know what movies. Pumping Up.

Okay.

He was at a station right next to mine.

Right, right, right.

Yeah. I don't know. It's. It's very rare that we get celebrities up here, so it's kind of like a big deal.

They come to visit, but they're not here for their official junket or whatever.

Which is really weird because a major market number four. But it just. It just seems if you're not in la, New York, that's it, you're done.

It's true.

It's true. But I'm glad that we live here, though. I don't think I'm moving. I think for a while I teetered and I'm not gonna move, so. But if you are an American and you're listening to the show, this is a big deal. This week is National Unmarried and Single Americans Week.

Okay.

Okay. It really is like a new. I don't know. And I was looking for who declared it so. Because it's like, there's always a holiday. Yeah, exactly. I didn't see Hallmark's name attached, but National Unmarried and Single Americans week. So we're going to get into that because today's show is the top 10 best places to meet singles. Not like, not geographically, but like specifically, like at the gym, at the laundromat. We're going to get into specific places and tactics of how to meet people. Once you see someone, you're interested in what exactly you should do, how to get the number, how to close the deal. We're going to get into that.

Yeah, because that's what people really need is the opener.

They need the opener. And I'm so tired of people complaining about. I feel like everywhere that someone lives, no matter where they live, it's the worst town to Dayton. Worst town date. And I live in the worst town date.

And I live.

And that's because wherever you go, there you are. And, and, and it's your fault if you think you live in a bad town today and you're not trying hard enough. And we're going to tell you how to try hard. We're going to tell you what to do so you can find someone. Because it's ridiculous. There's a million single people.

I'm guilty of it.

I know you are.

I don't go to certain areas and then I go there and go, oh, my God, there's all these beautiful women. It's crazy. And it's like three months, three minutes from my house, or if I just another. Another city, just like close. It's crazy.

We all get set in our ways. We always talk about this, but you take the same route home from work every day. You do the same things with the same friends and the same people. And people get lazy and they don't really try to find someone. And there are things that you can do, you know, like some of it might sound silly. I go, I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. But if you want to meet someone, then you better do these things. We're going to get into that. It's going to be exciting. And you can Also call us. 415-992-7392 is a number and you can leave us a message on our voicemail anytime we're not on the air from 1 to 2pm we're on. Otherwise, leave us a message, we'll play it on the air. We'll be getting some messages that are good. So we will do that. And don't forget about free Fridays. Coming up with, oh, it's only Tuesday. I thought it was hump day Tuesday.

No, we don't do shows.

We don't do shows on Wednesdays. But for some reason I've been feeling like it's Wednesday but it's Tuesday. And then we have our poll up still that I'd like to read to you. How long would you wait to have sex after your first date? Why wait? If we're compatible? Two or three dates. Don't want to seem too eager. Two weeks to a month, I like to take my time. Or one to three months. I really like to wait till I truly know the person.

I would like to see how this poll ends up.

I know we've gotten a lot of votes, so I'll let you know. I'll let you know. We'll read it. We'll read the results on Thursday.

Any new plans coming up this weekend? I know it's only Tuesday.

I actually have an amazing plan that I just got invited to a wedding. I'm going to be the date of my friend, a girlfriend of mine. And it's a gay wedding. And it's amazing. They're like recreate. It's all white all weekend. You have to wear white. And it's at over the bridge in Marin at Cavallo Point. Have you been there?

No.

It's this amazing.

I don't go to Marin. I don't go anywhere in that Napa wine.

You go south or east? Yeah. And I'm going to be her date all weekend long. It's like this.

Are you guys going to make it fair?

And one of the guys I shouldn't is.

Is there strap ons involved?

No, but he's like. He's a athlete, one of the guys that's getting married. And so the whole team's gonna be there.

Sweet.

So there's gonna be lots of single men, not all gay. But it is a gay wedding so it's gonna be amazing. So I'm gonna be her date. I'm so excited. But I have to find a white dress, like a white fabulous dress, which I don't have at this moment. So that's what I'm do this weekend. I just figured why not sign up for that.

That sounds cool though.

Doesn't sound cool.

Yeah, I love weddings.

I love weddings too. I love weddings. Love, love, love. And I never bring dates to weddings either. But.

This doesn't count. This is what she's bringing me. And whenever I go to weddings and I'm invited with a date, unless I'm like madly in love, which is she.

Is she lesbian?

No, she's straight.

But after a couple of drinks. You guys might.

After a couple drinks, you might. Yeah. Maybe we'll hook up. No, I doubt it. I don't hook up with my friends.

Why not?

Because it's awkward. It's like, oh, I'm trying to think once maybe. But that was just during a threesome scenario. But mostly, I typically do not hook up with my friends because you're my friends. It's random. When you have a threesome, it's like, nice to have like a random chicken.

Well, Snooki and Dina made out on the Jersey Shore.

They did.

For a long time. Yeah, it was kind of a. They were super wasted. No.

And they were filming it.

Yeah. They were filming the entire time.

I love the Jersey Shore.

They went to bed together too.

Did they show it?

Yes.

They showed them in bed together?

Yes.

What were they doing?

Making. Were they touching each other's breasts?

They were making out, but then they woke up the next morning and they go, what happened?

They didn't remember.

Well, they claim not to remember.

They cute chicks.

No, no, no.

Yeah, that happens, I guess. I mean, I say it doesn't happen.

What I'm saying it's going to happen.

I feel like women. It could. It could happen. I might meet some nice lovers. Who knows?

Are you going to take some pictures of you fondling another chick?

Sure.

And put them up on sexy.com?

Sure.

That says as you should if you want to get more people to go there.

Okay, well, more people go to sex only dot com. If I put more racy photos up.

Feedback.

Yes.

That's what everyone's been telling me for years. Just get naked and put pictures up on your website.

You don't have to get naked, but like my.

Some of my guy friends who are super successful and they've had amazing companies, whatever, they're. I'm like, I really need to talk to you. I'm starting this business. They're like, I think you should just get naked or put. Wear some lingerie and put it on your site. I'm like, that's not what I'm about, man. But it could come down to that. You never know.

Hey, hey.

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Yeah, I've seen the book. It's done really well, right?

Yeah, it's well done. So that's what I got. And then what else we doing? What are you doing this week in this beautiful sunshine?

In this beautiful sunshine? I have to go to a concert. I think it's Michelle Branch and somebody else. One of my work concerts.

Right.

But it's open bar, so of course I'll go.

Of course.

And there was something else. Oh, there's a sort of like a Comic Con thing going on over the weekend, but it's like the indie one. It's called Ape.

Okay.

And so I'll probably go to that.

Oh, I did read about it somewhere.

Yeah. So I'm probably going to that and then probably a movie or something.

Okay. No dates or anything?

No, I got a. I got a big.

Are you going to make out with any of your guy friends?

No, I will not make out with any of my guys.

That doesn't happen with guys as much as chicks, but I feel like chicks do it. Maybe younger chicks are typically. Chicks do it because they want for. They do it for the guys. Like they're not that into it themselves, but they do it because they think guys think it's hotter. Chicks still doing that these days.

Yeah.

That's a good time. So the bar, like at 2am they're making out in the bar. Fun. Okay, so I've got some things to say here. I've got three months free of sex family to give to people if they sign up on the Facebook page. Sex family page. If you like our page, you can win. You can be eligible and get three months free of sex family, which is awesome. And I've got some sex in the news we can get into now. And I've got dream mails we'll be reading. And like I said, Top 10 best places to go to meet other single people like you. Because there are more unmarried people in America right now than ever before. How about that? Details of White House crashers. Michal, do you know this thing?

I don't like them.

Okay. Her name. How do you say it? Michal.

And Tariq Salahi's breakup. So she's the one I had to Google because of course I didn't know she is. She's from the real Housewives of D.C. and she left her husband, and now she's with Neil Schoen, the guitarist for the rock band Journey.

Well, let's rewind a little bit. You slightly mentioned it so people would know who. Who the hell you're talking about. She and her husband are the ones that crashed a White House and was able to get into, like, this gala, and they took a bunch of pictures and they put it on Facebook. And then, like, the Secret Service got involved and all this stuff, because they figured out. They tried to figure out how they got in, and then after that happened, yeah, they ended up being on the Real Housewives. But these people are total, like, shysters, okay? They're. They're terrible people. And no one. And what I hate. What I hate about it is people like that that no one cares about. But it's the. Like, the tmz, who I love, just, like, reports on them. Like, no one cares about this.

Well, apparently, yeah. I don't know, but apparently she wants. Apparently, she said that this guy that she married from Journey was the love of her life because she dated him years ago, and then she got back together with him. Dated the other guy. But sneaking into the White House, that's easy. I've snuck into so many places. I've stuck into the Rose bowl, like, three years in a row. I went to University of Michigan, and we were in the Rose Bowl. I've snuck into concerts. You can get in any. I get into. I've never said I would. Sundance every year. I got into every party. Like, the most difficult parties. No one can get in. You have to be on the list. I get in, so hang with me. I can get in anywhere. I would sneak into the way. I wouldn't, though, because it'd be a federal fence, but I could.

Well, the key is look like you know where you're going.

Exactly. You just got to look like, I'm here.

This is what I do. And then. No one messes with you.

No one messes with you. Get in everywhere. So anyway, she's getting divorced. Shock. Who isn't? She's. Anyone in reality shows.

Yeah, right.

They get divorced if you're a couple filmed.

Of course, the woman always leaves the guy.

That's what I knew you were gonna say. That's why I included the story, because I thought you'd say this is the case of a woman, but she's not really stepping. Is she stepping up with a Journey guy? I don't know. But you say that women leave the guy once they get some shine.

Yeah. And it's proven every time. Every single time.

Really?

Yes.

Okay, I don't really see that being true. I see men leaving women all the time for younger babes.

You're Talking about like 70 year old, dried up men.

No, no, no, no. I'm talking about 40 year olds, 50 year olds, 30 year olds, whatever. Okay, love bites. Redheads. No one wants your sperm.

I heard about this today.

Inexplicably, sperm banks are real things. In some places they will pay a man cash on the barrel head for his issue. And because only fresh stuff will do the trick, the sample must be issued on the premises. Everyone wins, right? Wrong. Society's most maligned subgroup, redheads have been told by the Danish, but told by Danish sperm banks to keep their ginger DNA to themselves. Poor guys, they don't want redhead DNA.

Yeah, it's not in demand. They.

Because they only want blondes or Danish. Why?

Yeah, no one. No one asked for. But in Ireland it's still popular because everyone's redhead over there.

Are they really? Okay, didn't know that. Yeah. So no redheads. I love redheads.

Me too.

Reds are amazing. That's dumb. Well, that's dumb.

This is the thing about redheads.

What?

And I love them. I'm not knocking them. But there's. There's no in between with redheads. They're either super hot or super unattractive.

That is chicks. You mean redhead chicks? Yeah.

I don't know. You can probably feel the same way about guys too.

Yeah, I think. I think redhead guys are adorable. I don't think I've ever dated one. But it's not because I'm discriminating. I just haven't.

It's harder to find a redhead guy versus redhead girl.

Yeah.

To be honest, I mean, maybe I'm just not looking for redhead guys, but.

I would totally date a cute redhead guy. So email me feedback.

What's wrong with redheads?

I don't know.

What's all this?

I think it's amazing. It's like you are like a very narrow percentage of the population that has red hair. How amazing is that?

It's cool.

I know. My friend's little girl has red hair. Like she's adorable. Like everyone's like, oh my God, your hair. I mean, you get a lot of attention growing up because you. Bright red hair. It's pretty. Really cool. I think.

Well, I think a lot of it came from a South park episode that was hugely popular where they make fun of redheads and they call them gingers and then, you know, just a Younger generation just made. Made fun of redheads. And then there's even park. Yeah, there's even, like, there was about two years ago where there was this really popular video where this redhead guy just goes off on the whole thing of people making fun of redheads. And he's like, I'm happy to be a ginger. And he references the south park episode where they make fun of redheads.

I asked my redhead friends, I'm like, redhead friend. Once He's a redhead guy friend. And I was like, when you see other redheads, do you like, nod? Like, do redheads. Like, is there like a sort of a thing where they're like, hey, bro. Like, hey, redheads. And he's like, no. But I was curious in college, I asked him that. I remember. I was like, do you have redheads? Like, do you got redhead and you've got redhead?

Yeah, my junior prom date was redhead and she was super hot.

Yeah.

Yeah.

You had chicks in high school?

Yeah, I mean, I didn't hook up with them, but why?

Because you were scared?

Because I was scared. But you got all. She was super high. Yeah.

Yeah.

Good for you.

Hot high. High and high.

She might have been high too.

No, high. If she wanted to go with me.

Right. Okay. Paul Rudd gets naked on screen in Our Idiot Brother. Paul Rudd, who plays the titular idiot brother, apparently gets naked in the flick. Come to think of it, he's shown off the bot in a few movies, so apparently he's been naked in a few movies. I don't know. And he says that he's a big fan of movie nudity and he had his ass in 40 year old virgin on screen. Yeah. Do you remember that?

Huh?

I don't remember. Which scene was that? When he had his ass on the screen? I've seen 40 year old Virgin.

You have?

Yes.

No way. You never watch these type of movies? No.

I thought that was a really good movie.

I don't remember the ass.

His ass. Okay.

But speaking about asses.

Yes.

Last night was the big two and a half man premiere.

Oh, yeah.

I don't really want to give anything away, but somebody is naked pretty much the entire episode.

Seriously? Naked? How naked? It can't be naked. It's.

It's pixelized.

Really?

Yeah.

His penis?

Yeah.

Wow.

So I don't know, like, I'm sure they had like a small COD piece on, but.

Yeah, that's amazing. That's amazing for national television. Was it a good episode?

Yeah, I think. I think they transitioned it really well, to be honest. It was no one's gonna remember Charlie Sheen. It was really. It wasn't over the top. You know, they're just like, everyone knows this. He died in the. In the new episode. That's how they get rid of him.

Okay.

But I think that transition of the. Of the storyline wasn't too crazy or off the wall.

It was Ashton Kutcher. Right.

And Ashton Kutcher is way more. Yeah. And I didn't want to give it away, but you can go watch it@cbs.com, which I did this morning. And.

He'S way more likable than Charlie Sheen.

Yeah, I would think so. Charlie Sheen's so not likable. He's so not attractive at all. The only reason why chicks like him is because his money. Because he's not attractive.

Yeah.

And he's not interesting or anything. Maybe.

I love. I love his craziness. I do. But when I used. I hated Two and a Half Men and I shouldn't ever seen it. I shouldn't say that because I work for the company that makes it. But I never liked the TV show, but I kind of. I kind of liked it with Aston Kutcher.

Wow.

Yeah.

That's what they're hoping.

So we have a bunch of new fans. But it's crazy. At the same time, they had the Charlie Sheen roasted, which I have not seen. That I really want to see. I saw a clip today where Steve O. From Jackass.

Runs face first into Mike Tyson's fist and like, breaks his nose or something like that.

Oh, my God.

Yeah.

I hate Jackass. You know, I hate Jackass.

I really want to see it.

That was for the Charlie Sheen roast or that was.

Yeah, it was like. It was like in the credits of the Charlie Sheen roast, like when everyone's getting up and going, oh, my God. And then he asked. He asked Mike Tyson to put his arm out and he runs fast face first into his fist.

That is crazy. That's. Guys. Guys love that. Guys humor. Guy humor and girl humor are very different. Okay, ways to celebrate unmarried and single American speak. This is just an article on it. We're going to get into the show topic, which is singles, but we're going to. It is national. Unmarried and single American will be kicked off this year on September 18th and goes through to the 24th.

Oh, can you do me a favor? Can you Tag Ashton Kutcher 2 1/2 Men on the website? They'll get you guys some views and talk about how he's naked.

Okay.

Ashton Kutcher naked.

Ashton Kutcher naked. What thanks, Mannis. You're so good. The brain. I love his brain. Wow. Okay. What started in Ohio during the 1980s to celebrate single life. It started in. Okay. Single life and recognizes singles and their contributions to society. Is now widely observed every third full week of September. I've never heard of it before. What is is the Unmarried and Single Americans week?

How long has it been going? No way.

Yes. Yes. I thought this was like a big joke, but it's really real. It's now widely observed the third week of September and with over 99.6 million unmarried people in America. And you tell me you can't find someone to date 99.6 million unmarried people.

They're unmarried for a reason.

You are not alone.

They're broken. They have problems.

I'm not married.

Yeah, problem.

So what should you do during this week? Okay, here's some things that you should do. Be bad. Single should do things that will make you feel young and slightly carefree. Sometimes a relationship can require you to tame up a bit. So when you're single, go crazy. It's debauchery time. You can hit the gym feeling down about being single. Work out. Not only does exercise release endorphins, but a daily gym routine helps you keep you in shape and boost your self esteem. Visit friends and family. It's no secret that a relationship can occupy your time. So while you're a free agent, schedule as much friend and family time as possible. Especially since they're the ones that are always going to be there for you. That's a little. That's a little dig there, isn't it?

Yeah.

No one else is going to be there for you. You might as well hang out with your mom. Date. Duh. You're unattached. So why not date as many people as possible? If nothing else, it's a great way to see what kinds of qualities you do and do not want in your next relationship.

Here's the thing that you should try, okay? Because you're going to totally say no. No. I'm recommending to the guys out there. There's a book at Urban Outfitters. If there's not Urban Outfitters in your city, your town, your country, go to urbanoutfitters.com and there's a website. I mean, there's a book on there, it's called Assholes Finish first. You should just read it and go.

By that just for a way tells.

Guys to be assholes to see what it has to say.

Give me one thing.

It says one thing. I'm trying to See if there's.

Well, I'm gonna read one more. Okay. You can find an expert excerpt. Excerpt of that stupid book. But here's a New York Times, actually. So I was looking up this Unmarried American things or whatever, and there was a story in the New York Times about it. And it says, in a married world, single struggle for attention. And it says the plight of the American single person is cause for growing concern because a hundred. There's 100 million Americans. Nearly half of all adults are unmarried, according to the census. Yet they tend to be overlooked by policies that favor married couples from family leave laws to lower insurance. So I get killed. I have to pay my own insurance.

It's true.

So there's certain things that are bad about being single. Like, you don't get the family. Family leave. And you don't get, like, if you're single, you don't. There's a lot of things you don't get. However, there are some positive things to being single. Single people often contribute more to the community once they marry. They put their energy focus on their partners, you know, and they spend more time with their families and they take care of other people. They're more involved in the neighborhood. They go visit their neighbors. I love being single. I love this article. I was like, yes, yes. I do all those things because I'm single. I see my. I take all my vacations with my family.

I feel vindicated.

I do. I love being single. I just want. I'm just saying. I mean, I do. It's like super fun. It's like I have to remember anyone but myself.

Oh. It's all about it.

Okay, so I've been thinking a lot.

Lately how I don't want to be single anymore.

Really? You're ready to settle down?

I am, but I just don't.

Want to rush into anything too. So I'd have to find the right person to be like that.

Well, I don't even know what that she could walk past here right now and I would never know. Like, I have no idea what you would be looking for.

I have a couple ideas.

Okay. Yeah, tell me one.

Something that's, you know, career driven. Someone that doesn't like their attitude is not bitching, complaining, which is the number one.

Which is your default. You date women that are like. Because you know why this is your problem.

Oh.

You date women who come to you. You don't make the move. So you date women who like you, who fawn all over you. Those women are needy by default because they're, like, going after You. They're like, I just think that women who constantly felt you don't want. You want to do the chase a little, even though you say you don't. You're just kind of picking up who's. You, like, open your door or you want to date me. Okay, come on over and.

Yeah, but I'm not doing that. That's what I'm not doing.

You're not doing anymore, but that's what you did in the past. Yeah.

So now I learned my lesson.

But the reason why you're so jaded and the reason why you always criticize women is because you've dated kind of sucky women. And not all women are not talking.

About my own personal experiences. Observations, honey. It's observations.

I think you. I'm gonna pre screen.

You're gonna pre screen?

Yeah. Tell any woman that you date they have to go through the Emily pre screen.

Okay.

Okay. Deal.

Cool.

That'll be fun. That'll be good times. We'll go to dinner on the first date. I'll go on the first date. Okay. We can get into some emails now.

Go for it.

Okay, let's do that. Hi, Emily. I was in touch back in August about spicing up my sex life and you covered it on the August 11th show. I asked my wife again about using a vibrator during sex. She said she only wants my penis inside of her and says she loves it. She actually says she likes my willy inside her. So I could. I compromised. He said it again. She actually said she likes my willy inside her.

What's wrong with that?

Nothing. So to my next question. So I compromised. She paid homage to my penis and she loves giving me hand jobs and blowjobs. To my next question. We have, like many other Irish couples, joined the baby boon in Ireland at the moment a byproduct of recession in Ireland. What are the sex positions most comfortable for my wife during pregnancy? Or any other suggestions on keeping sexual intimacy alight during pregnancy? Cheers. Kieran. He's from Cork, Ireland.

I think that's gross. So I don't have any comments.

What's gross? Babies.

Yeah. In general.

Okay. I know he's a premium French benefits member, so his email gets answered first. Thanks for emailing us.

Okay, good.

What's gross?

I'm halfway joking too. So don't.

I don't. I don't even know what you said, but it was something about I was being.

Having sex while you're pregnant.

Right. Well, I'm have some positions for him. Okay.

So I miss messing with you.

I know, it's okay.

But I still don't have any comments.

You don't like that?

I think it's up to you. Up to the woman, too, because some women don't want to do it. And then.

I think you were criticizing women that didn't want to have sex. And you're like, watch out if your man doesn't go and leave you. And I. And I was defending. And I was saying, like, look, if.

What are you talking.

I swear I'll find the audio somehow.

Wait, see, I was criticizing what? Women who don't want to have sex when they're pregnant.

Yeah. And they're like, watch out, your man's gonna go cheat on you and all this.

I'm telling you, it's. It's tough to go nine months without sex. So give them a hand.

I said I would do it. I would do it. If my lady doesn't want to have sex while she's pregnant, then fine. That's cool.

Really.

She's having my kid, man. You know, you can make a sacrifice.

That's the right attitude. I totally agree. So there's the goal. So here's some positions during pregnancy. The goal is to prevent excessive pressure on the belly and to restrict penetration as required by the particular partners. Some of the positions are popular for sex during pregnancy. Okay. Women on top of it takes the pressure off her abdomen and allows her to control the depth and frequency of thrusting, which makes sense. Women on her back. It's like the missionary, but with less pressure on the abdomen or uterus. The woman lies on her back and raises her knees up towards her chest. The partner kneels between her legs and enters her from the front. Place a pillow under her bottom for added comfort. And then sideways. That's a really popular one, too. She keeps the pressure off her abdomen while supporting her uterus at the same time. And then spooning. Very popular position to use during the late stages of pregnancy. Allowing only shallow penetration and relieves the pressure of the stomach. And then sitting, she mounts the sitting partner. And then from behind, allowing her to support her stomach and breasts. So those are some popular positions during pregnancy. And then sexual. And how do you keep sexual intimacy alight during pregnancy? I would say give her foot massages and back massages. And I would say tell her she's beautiful and tell her, like, every day. Like, women, like, when they're pregnant, they feel awful, they feel fat, they feel ugly, they feel, like, horrible about them. They feel amazing, too, in many ways. You may be growing inside you, but I think with Sexual intimacy. It has to be a lot about her, Karen. So I think that anything you could do to make her feel better would really be sexually. Would make her feel better about you as a result. And that's.

I would say they like food, too.

Yeah, food. Just be thinking about her. Like, I know it's nine months in front of them.

They're good.

I know. Rub her feet. I mean, seriously, you know what it's like. I had a friend who's pregnant. She's like, all I want is my husband. I know you hate that, but it's like, rub her feet, rub her back, get her a massage. Do something like that. Just take care of her. She's holding your baby.

And then women, you tend to do this while being pregnant. And after you cut all your hair off, you suddenly become. You try to make yourself most unattractive as possible after having.

I know a lot of women that do that. For some reason, they just don't care about how they look after they have a baby. Like, come on. Try to. Try to maintain a little bit. I'm not saying all women, but I'm.

Not after they're like, have to lose weight and they're busy. Like, they have a baby. The hair is hard because you don't have time to do your hair.

Yeah. You cut all your hair off and you just look terrible. Just like, step it up. Like, you're still a woman. You're still a woman. You still look good. Like, keep it up.

Okay? Keep it up.

I understand you got a baby to take care of, but not to throw my men under the bus, but the men should be helping you out, too.

What do you mean?

Telling you.

Helping out with. With the baby stuff. It shouldn't be. It shouldn't be all on the woman.

Totally. I agree. Of course not. Yeah. Try to take. Try to. I would say, Karen, one more thing is just try to take her situation.

Under an account. Try to take account for her situation, like, how hard it is. Like, yeah, just help her in any way you can. So. And what did you just say? You just said something that. I was like, I was going to have a thought about that, but I didn't. Help her any way you can. Like, it's true. Like, if she's still working, like, whatever you can do to help her out would be great. I'm sure. I've never been pregnant, but I can imagine I'd want a lot of help. I'd want a team of professionals.

Oh, God.

Okay. Hey, Emily. Menace. My friends and I hate the phrase walk of shame. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex with a hot person, even if you just met them that night. I am in the best relationship of my life and it came from a one night stand. We renamed it Stride of Pride. Even if you had regrettable sex, you still had sex. Cheers. Logan from San Diego. Because we were talking about the walk of shame a few weeks ago or a few shows ago, and stride of pride, that's my friend always calls it. You've heard that, haven't you?

Stride of pride.

Yeah. Instead of walk of shame, Stride of pride. Like, I got laid.

My friends and I never even use the term walk of shame.

Yeah, we were reading a news story about it or something. I don't care either. But in college, I remember caring, like, those are the walk of shames that you never want to do in college, but otherwise, who cares?

There's some movies where they take your picture when they're walking out.

There's some. What movies?

There's movies. Yeah, I forgot what movie. But they were taking Polaroids when people walked out and then posting them on the wall.

Oh, my God. That's funny. My worst walk of shame was when my dad was coming up to school. I was in Michigan and I was in college, and I'd slept at my boyfriend's house and my dad and our houses were right next to each other. My dad got up to school. He was coming out to visit me for Father Daughter Father Daughter Day at my sorority. I was in sorority and I was at. I was at my boyfriend's house, and I had to, like, sneak. He was already there and I wasn't home yet because I was next door and I had to, like.

Your dad was. You knew your dad was coming?

Yeah, but he was early. He was always early. And I had to get there. And I was in my, like, clothes and like a nice, like, it was like a formal the night before, and I had to, like, sneak. Sneak upstairs, and it was just not good. So that was a bad walk of shame. I got caught. Okay, Emily. Or a stride of pride. But in front of your dad, I was gonna be very proud. Emily, can you expand your discussion of on the period sex? Why good pregnancy?

Why would you want to do that?

I love you, Mendes. Okay, I'm a pretty inexperienced guy. It's messier. Got it. I see. Moral for her is 100%. No, stop it. I'm starting over. Because menaces just ruin this. Ruin this.

All right, let's make it into a beautiful thing.

Can you expand your discussion of on the period sex? I'm a pretty inexperienced guy. It's messier. I got that. I assume oral for her is 100% out, question mark.

But sex with a condom's okay if she's sexually.

What the hell is wrong with you, man?

No, he's right. Go ahead, Doug. I'm reading it again.

No, I'm throwing up my burrito that I ate just before this show.

But sex with the condom's okay if she's interested. Right? From Doug. Okay, Doug, here's the deal.

You probably don't want to perform oral sex on her, and she probably doesn't want you to perform oral sex on her.

Stop mentioning.

He said.

He said.

All right, I know, I know, but.

Honey, he's saying, here, I got it. He goes, I got it. So he's like, I got it.

You need to even ask the question, buddy. On to the next thing.

No, this is a. I'm gonna talk about this for another 20 minutes. How much time do we have left? Yeah, this is a really important discussion because do you know why it happens to women 52 times a year?

It's an easy discussion. You already know all the answers.

We spend a quarter of our lives menstruating. I'm just gonna say that sucks, right? Imagine that. Imagine that. So a quarter of our lives, we spend like a week, a month. Let's say some less, some more. Okay, so it's. You have. It's woman by women. A lot of women enjoy sex on their period. Actually, some women are more orgasmic that way. Some women thinks it much better. Some women, sometimes it's like the second day or third day, but the first day is too heavy. Of, like, doesn't feel good. It's different with everybody. But I would just ask and I would put a towel down. Always put a towel down on your bed. Use a condom. But. But also, I'm not gonna say this, so I'm just gonna say something like that you. You're not as likely to get pregnant when you have your period. Don't you not saying it because people get pregnant when they have their period. But he's want to know what it was? So I'm discussing it, and I like to discuss it more. So anyway. No, you should ask her about it. Some women and some men are totally down with it. There's a lot of guys are like, yeah, cool. Bring it here.

You're good, man.

No, I think it's. I think it's cool when guys are like, I don't care.

Oh, yeah, cool, bro.

Not like the first day or whatever. But like after a while, it's a week without sex. Sometimes you want to have sex. Some guys aren't dieting. You can tell. There's guys were like, no, I'm not cool with that. And there's guys who are like, yeah, whatever. And they really don't care. I know.

Girls won't even tell you.

They don't. They probably didn't know. That's. That's the worst is when you're from a female perspective. Especially when it's the first time you have sex with someone and you don't know that you're getting your period. You really don't know. It's not like you get like a memo or something. Like you know that day that within that two day period, three day period. But you don't always know. Exactly. So sometimes it comes early, sometimes it comes late and you're having sex, you have your period, you're like, oh, sorry, it's annoying. We don't like it. We're not like, oh, we're not not telling you. In fact, we would have sent a blimp to tell you if we had known beforehand rather than have that situation happen. What? You want to change the subject? I'm so not letting you change the subject. Do you got any good stories there? No. Okay. I hope that was helpful, Doug. Okay, Emily, do you have a Kaggle Camp article or have this through text message? I do not have a smartphone and I can download that. I can download apps on. Thanks, Candy. I have an app called Kegel Camp. You can get it in the itunes store or on your iPhone. And it is. I don't have an article about it, but that's not a bad idea to print it up and sell it online.

Yeah, I'm trying to. Yeah, you can do like electronic.

Yeah, I'll do electronic version. I should do that because a lot of people have emailed me. I haven't got around to the Droid version yet. Just on the list. Oh, no, it's on the list. If you knew someone could help me with it, I would do it in a minute.

So hard to find Droid developers.

Why is that? Because it's the Apple sexier.

I honestly, I don't know. You would think it was. There's a lot of programs now that will let you develop both of them at the same time, but.

Really? Yeah, that would be amazing.

It's called. I would have to look it up, but I don't even know how to use that program. I. That's when I call my smart Friend.

I need your help.

But my friends cost like ten grand.

Oh, forget it. Okay, if you have friends, I'll give them so Candy. I will.

I'm sure they'll give you a discount.

Do I have friends that would give him a fellatio or I should give a fellatio.

Either way, discount. Yeah, whatever.

Let me know. Whatevs. I can throw out some fellatio here and there. Hey, Emily. Menace. Love you. Love the show. You two have such a great dynamic.

Thank you.

Is that it? No.

Okay.

I just like to pause with compliments because I love compliments.

Yeah.

I've been listening to the show live.

Off of you have no food in your house. It's just compliments.

I know. I literally have no food. Oh. Because I'm. Well, whatever. Okay. I've been listening to the show. I was just going to cut myself off and I just did and I wasn't going to. And I change.

Okay. I'm listening to the show for over a year. Used to love listening to the shows about used to love listening to the shows about relationships and sex while in high school and found yours by browsing on itunes. What a find. Question. Me and my girl are on a break. We are planning to work things out once I return from school. Although the point of the break wasn't to hook up with other girls. Although. Although the point of the break wasn't to hook up with other girls. Is hooking up while on a break cheating? What do you think I should do? Like I said, I do see a future with this girl, but I want to do some things on my own, so I want to do some things on my own, so I'm sure of her. Thanks in advance, you guys. Rock B. From Edmonton. A.B. it's like Canada. Alberta, Canada. Yeah. I don't know. So. Okay.

You should have clarified the break. I think break usually means you can hook up with other people. That's my experience.

That's why you take a break, so.

You can have sex with people. I think that once you're done and you're back home, if you want to be with this person, you should forget about asking anything that happened in between that period.

Yeah. Don't say, what were you doing the last few months? Or whatever. I would just not talk about it, but she'll probably find out if you guys are going back to school. It sounds like they're going back to school.

Yeah.

And I did that once for the summer and then found out that he, like, slept with everyone and whatever. But. But you just shouldn't talk about it, but it'll probably come out. If you really like this girl, I would be a man and have the conversation with her. So let me just clarify this break. Are we able to date other people? Because she's probably thinking. Wondering the same thing.

She's probably already out banging.

She's probably banging something right now as we're talking. So I don't know. I would say that a break.

She usually somebody while listening to this podcast.

Exactly. People do that. They have sexual listening to our voices. Menace. Isn't that hot Good. I would say that. Yeah. I would say clarify with her if you really want to know. But I think that if you're on a break, you can have sex with other people. And you said that you. You see a future with her, but you want to do some things on your own, so you're sure. So I say do some things on your own. And too young. You're probably in your early 20s. That's too young to pick to commit anyway. College is time for sleeping around, having fun.

Yeah.

Right. I made that mistake. I always had boyfriends and I never. And not that I didn't sleep. I really did, though. Every year, different boyfriend. I regret that. Not that I have many regrets. They were all awesome. We're all Facebook friends. I just think I should have slept around more.

Yeah.

But I've made up for it.

Speaking about Facebook.

Yes. Talk to me about Facebook.

We always like talking about Facebook because.

What'S up with fb?

It's the cause of all these problems. My assistant and I were talking today, and she just brought up this random question. She said, and then it led to a couple of the things I'll share with you. First question was, and I want to hear your answer. Would you update your status while you're on your honeymoon? Would you update your Facebook?

Well, I'm on my honeymoon.

Yeah.

No, I hope I don't have my laptop with me or my computer. My phone, though. That's what I don't even have. I don't even use Facebook on my phone. No, no, that's.

That's good.

I should be having sex on my honeymoon, not updating my Facebook page.

I said that I would not be doing that. And then here's another thing. I brought up the thing where I said, hopefully, like, when I'm married, I won't even. I'll get rid of my Facebook.

Right.

And then she. And then she brought up the same thing where, you know, well, you got a. Your director of social media. You gotta have that. But I can have ones that are not true private. I can have public ones.

Right.

So when I get to that road, I mean, that is what I would love to do, is not even have a Facebook. She goes, what about if your partner wants to have a Facebook and you're not gonna have one? I go, look, if that's what she wants to do and continue to have a Facebook page, that's. That's cool. But I. Hopefully, if I don't have one that we're not at dinner and she's checking at all.

Right, right.

Exactly right.

That's fine with me. And then she shot this idea to me. She goes, what about. Well, how do you. How do you feel if you guys had a joint Facebook? Oh, they keep all the friends.

I go, I still have friends. I have friends who have joint email address. Okay, go ahead.

Yeah, I. If that's what my partner wanted to do, that's fine with me, but I think it's kind of stupid. Right, but you think it's stupid because you want to keep everything private.

No, I just think.

I think.

I think it's important to keep things just separate. Joint Facebook page.

I mean, if that is the true thing that my partner wants to have a Facebook page just to keep up with friends, then what's the problem of having to join Facebook?

It just defeats the whole purpose. It's one face, one book. One face. One face per page. One face per person. Step out of, like, one face per page. I don't want, like, 16 people I'm communicating with.

Step out of your personal feelings.

I am.

Okay.

I always am out of my personal feelings. It wouldn't be a very good show if I was always talking about my own issues and my own personal.

Because you're the person that doesn't want to put their status up on their Facebook. Okay, Step out of that mode right now.

I have no status. Okay.

If the Facebook is about.

Keeping up with friends after you are married, is there a big deal about having. What's wrong with having a joint Facebook?

Just seems stupid. What's the point?

It's.

It's your own thing that you create. It's a work. Facebook, for so many people is an art, is a creative expression. And I think it takes away from that. I think it takes away from your individuality and expressing yourself. A lot of people use it that way, and I think that.

Yeah, but you got married to have a life together. Why can't you share that?

Because you know what? The thing. The biggest downfall of your marriage. Marriage is going to Be that you become enmeshed and that you don't have a separate life. That's a problem.

Okay.

And my status is going to be like, none of your effing business. That's what my status says. If I could. If I could change my Facebook status. None of your business. No, I don't. I think that because big brother wants.

To know if you're with somebody or not.

Yeah, I'm. Yeah. Not going there. Okay. So. But that's a good do. Are people doing that, though? Are people joining their Facebook pages? Or is that just. She said idea.

I haven't seen. She just had that idea and she asked me what my thoughts would be on it.

And you would do it. You're gonna make a good. You'll make a good.

I said, if this one my partner wants to do.

I think you'd make a really good husband one day. I was just thinking that I could see it in you. I think you are evolving into a good man.

What. What does it. What has changed? I always said I would just. If I'm with somebody, I would respect them.

And I just think that you, like, for all your talk, like, you would be good to a woman.

Yeah, I will again. I said that all the time. But I just, like, I'm not gonna take any crap. If I am treating them how they should be treated, respecting them, taking care of them, and I'm getting crap in return, then I'm not gonna be having it.

You just need a strong, smart woman who's got her own life. Done. We already figured it out. We'll find it. Okay, this is the top 10 places. Best places to meet singles. Okay, we gotta get into it.

I wanna hear this.

Yeah. Meet single people in coffee shops. This is one of them. I met a guy in a coffee shop. Well, because I go to the same coffee shop every morning, and I did meet a guy in my coffee shop that I ended up dating for two years.

Really?

Yeah. I still see him there all the time. He's getting married. He thinks I care.

Whatever.

It doesn't matter. But anyway, coffee shops are a favorite when it comes to meeting singles. It may seem obvious to some or completely alien to others, but it works. So what you do is you find a busy coffee shop that you feel comfortable in and take up a space near the main door. Don't bring anything to distract yourself with. The point is, try not to involve yourself into something so completely that you send off the I'm busy vibes. You want to seem approachable and hiding behind a laptop And a book doesn't help. Then make a point of greeting each person who comes into the door. But not like a Walmart greeter. Okay? So don't be like the Walmart greeter. Whether it's a smile or a comment or whether it's a smile or comment or friendly hello. By doing this, you're making yourself known to all the other patrons. You're also making yourself available. Anything that comes your way, blah, blah, blah. I think that's true. The coffee shops, if you ever have seen anyone like in little neighborhoods, like they're all the same people every morning. And if there's someone that you like in that neighborhood, you could go stalk our neighborhood and hang out.

Yeah, there's, I mean the Starbucks I know, at least here in the Bay Area. And it was a big hangout for a lot of people my age. And there's some small indie, Indie coffee shops.

Martha's Coffee. I love Martha's Coffee. It's a San Francisco chain. There's like five of them. If you ever come to San Francisco, you have to get Martha's Coffee. I get every morning. It's amazing.

There was this place called Bay Street Coffee in Fremont, California that I used to go with friends after graduating high school. And then that's where you would see girls that you liked in high school would still be at the coffee shop and then you would talk to them.

Yeah, yeah. But coffee shop is, I, I think it's cool.

I don't know, but I think it's easier to talk when you're like in your 20 somethings, but when you're a little bit older. I, I don't know. Yeah, I think it's a little bit harder to talk to people at the coffee shop now.

I think that people come in, they're kind of like in the morning, they're kind of just wait. I don't know. I think you could smile, say hello. Oh, standing in line.

We always went in the evening though, at the top or in the evening.

Never did mornings go evening. That's true.

Mornings people are too busy. They're going places, apparently.

Coffee shops. Well, you're right. And it could be afternoon. People go get drink coffee all day long. So I think coffee shops are, it's kind of casual. People are taking a break from work if it's not the morning, if it's the afternoon, they're taking their 3 o' clock break or the 2 o'. Clock. I don't know. It's good. Coffee shops. Okay, ready?

All right.

Socially, just meet single Socially, separate from the obvious, there are several special events, social events you can increase, you can attend. To increase your chances of meeting something new, meeting someone new. Try planning a weekly movie night through your friends and see who shows up every week, making it clear that new people are welcome to join at any time. Accept every party, wedding or social networking invitation you are given and attend. How about that? How about saying yes to everything that you're invited to, like, for no reason, not making excuses and just saying yes. Or at least saying yes to one a week. Another idea would be to host your own party where each invitee brings a potluck dish and a single friend. I've been wanting to do that forever. Not the potluck part, because it would be alcohol. But I know so many amazing single people in the city. Like, I could probably fix you up with one of my friends. Like, you don't know any of my friends. And you probably assume they would be drinking wine and you wouldn't like them. I'm just cutting you off there before you even said it. But I probably.

Anyway, you suggest.

I don't even know. No, that's not true. That's a great. These are all great ideas. Okay. Make it clear.

I like that. I kind of want to do a singles party. No, no, no. The whole going to everything that you're invited to.

Yeah. Say yes.

Get invited to a billion.

So do I. I don't go to anything. I do to go to some.

You go. You go to way more things than I do.

No.

Oh, my God.

You know what's so funny?

What?

I assume that I always think that you go to way more than I do.

No. Everything I go to is work. I'm not talking to anybody and I see the same people that.

Oh, really?

Anybody that interact with or. Because it's just like. It's either record label people, security, or people that work at venues. And those are the same people that I see every single.

You have to branch out, my friend.

Yeah. Because I can't go. I can't go in the crowd.

Do you want to come with me to the gay wedding? No. You should come with me to things. I should make you. If you're safe, if this resonated with you. Because I go to my favorite thing in the whole world, and I know this sounds really scary or weird to some people, but I love going into a room, a party, an event where I know nobody. I love going alone. I love going to weddings alone. I love doing things alone because I love meeting new people. I really, truly, truly Love talking to people, meeting people. And I like welcome those events, those kind of things. So I love doing that. So anyway, you'll come with me to something that you would never go to. You just said you would. You just consented.

Yeah, I'll go. I'll go.

Okay. Meet singles at hobbies, special interest groups and support groups. So if you're truly passionate about a particular hobby, look for a community group that services people with similar interests. Your geographic location will determine whether or not there are readily accessible groups waiting for your membership. So smaller communities, they might not be as comprehensive. Talk to local shops, frequent your hobby shops.

You should go to AA meetings because those chicks give it up.

No, they don't. I've been to AA meetings with friends and not just talk about it though. AA meetings publicly. Another, because it's anonymous.

Yeah, but you totally do.

Another idea would be to contact national organizations overseeing some local chapters to see if there's planning any speaking engagements. So just if you're like interested in any certain hobbies or groups or activities, try to get involved. Take a course at a. Is another place. Take a course at a college or university. Whether you're taking a couple of courses to refresh or a full time university student or passionate about painting, taking a painting class. Every community, both large and small, courses you can take. If money is an issue, think about taking class without getting credit. Or look into how old you have to be to receive free classes since many offers. Universities offer free options, tuition free options. And while you want to take classes that you have a personal professional interest in, it never hurt to take something you normally wouldn't. Yeah, take a class in something. Like I should take a cooking class.

I'm going to teach you how to cook. Remember I'm doing my.

Can I be on your show with you?

Yeah, I'll definitely show you how to.

Okay.

Make something. Okay, I'll make some. I'll make it so it's easy.

I literally don't know how to make one thing. Okay.

I'm afraid for you.

You're afraid for me? I am afraid. I was so hungry last night and I had no food and it was sad.

There's a thing in the Bay Area, there's an event that I want to go to. It's called the SJ Bike Party. It's once a month and it's hundreds and hundreds of people just riding on bikes through San Jose, California. And it's not like those people that.

Are like the angry bikers.

No, no. These are just people having fun. They had the last. The last one they just had had an aquatic theme.

Oh, really?

People are dressed up like sharks and stuff.

Mermaids and stuff. You should do that.

Yeah.

It looks every community, every town, no matter how big or small, has, like, the parade or events they do. And you should go right now. Even if your listen is going, yeah, whatever. And if you're listening to this going, yo, whatever. I'm not. Would never do that. I've never done that. Well, when's the time you had a date? I want to know when was the last time you had a date? And if you're complaining to me that you live in a town where you can't find someone to date, then this is your problem. You should do one of these things, I'm telling you. Okay. Join a health club.

I definitely need to do that.

Joining health club solves two problems. You become less of a couch potato and more fit. And think of all the people you'll meet. The friends you meet here will be healthy, athletic, and attractive. You'll look better and feel better at the same time. Or you can go to sporting events. Soccer, football, basketball. Go to professional games or college games. You're most guaranteed to have fun.

There's so many women.

Is this getting you feeling? Don't you feel like you can now since you're ready to meet someone?

Yeah, I got a couple ideas.

Good.

But the sports thing. So many beautiful women that I know that are really into sports, really into baseball, football.

Totally don't own too many in basketball. Even though I like basketball, I love basketball.

Me too. Oh, my God.

I would definitely, like, go to some of the. You. You would think if you go to a sports bar, oh, it's all gonna be a bunch of.

No, it's chicks, chicken, beers all the time.

One of my friends, she told me that she into this certain football team out of. Well, I'll just say Pittsburgh.

Right.

And she was living here in San Francisco. And then they had a bar for. For Pittsburgh fans. And she goes there and she said, I was having so much fun. I just started making out with some random guy because my team got a touchdown.

That is awesome. See, there you go. There you go. Some chicks started making out with a random dude. That is awesome. I used to. When I moved here, I used to go to Michigan football games. There was always not the football games, but to sports bars that they were playing the game. And then all these people from college would be there that I didn't know. But they have Michigan alumni, whatever. So, like, your alumni associations are good in Every cities I'm getting excited. Everyone's gonna get laid. But do we have to go? Because I still have a lot more left. But I could finish it or I've got a few more sessions. Share like one more and then online. These are the best places to meet singles online. This is the latest mess, latest method. There are several online dating sites where you check out profiles and photographs Internet had made. It has made it easier than ever to meet people. Online dating isn't what it used to be. It's become a relatively safe method as you get to know your date before you go with him. Some online dating sites have thousands of participants and are still others. Even more than that, the chances of running low on options are small at the very least. So you're not gonna run out if you date online?

No.

Right.

I mean the water does run dry online.

And then I've got a few more. Maybe we'll just finish them tomorrow. Because it is National Unmarried Desperate Singles Week.

Yeah, we should do that for Thursday. I really like this topic.

I know.

Can you start the show with it on Thursday?

Really?

Yeah.

You want to flip the show format?

Yeah. Can we do that? Will that work? We'll replace it with Sex in the News. We'll start talking about it.

Done. Because I've also got what to do when you meet someone, how to present yourself. Fine.

I like it.

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