Episode 348 - The Future of Fellatio

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Hey Emily, you got a boyfriend? Cuz my man e here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute.

The girl's got have her standards.

Oh my. Do women know about shrinkage? Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean? Like laundry? It shrinks.

Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I feel so good.

Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening to sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can get all of our podcasts and all of our sex information. You can check out my new book, hot sex. Over 200 things you can try tonight. You can also buy it on Amazon or your local bookstore, which is awesome. I'm so happy to be here with menace. We haven't done our show. We've been sort of had a scattered schedule. But it's awesome to be here.

I apologize to everybody, but you know, it's the holidays and I mean that's not an excuse. We should be here doing shows. It's just been so hectic. You've been out of town, I've been out of town. But we're here together.

We're here together.

It's so awesome to be here. And today's show is about oral sex. And we have a special guest that we're calling a little bit who makes these strips. It's called you'd mask, and it's made to make the taste of semen more enjoyable.

Really?

When you're performing oral sex on a man, if you don't like the taste of semen, but you want to be a swallower, you. You put the strip in your. It's like a Listerine strip kind of thing.

Now.

The taste of semen is not wonderful.

No. I love the taste of semen. I would never want to ruin that.

Okay.

But it comes in chocolate, strawberry, watermelon, mango. So we're gonna talk to him, and we're also gonna be just doing some oral sex stuff. And I also have to just give a big shout out to Adam and Eve, and Adam and Eve rocks. And this is why. Listen, we think you should go to Adam and Eve and buy all your sex toys right now. Anything you want to buy for the holidays. If you're doing your holiday shopping right now. A sex toy is the gift that keeps on giving, and it saves you a lot of work if you're with a partner and maybe she has issues with orgasming. Women like to use sex toys. They just do. So just go buy her one right now. At AdamandEve.com, you get 50% off most items. A free gift and free shipping when you enter coupon code Emily at checkout.

All right, I'm not gonna be mean today. I love you, but. But we gotta move the microphone.

Oh, where? In front of it. Okay. Yeah, no, that's fine. I just didn't know if it was gonna be okay. Is this better?

Way better.

Okay. Awesome. See?

I did nicely.

You're so nice.

It's not as fun when I'm nice, though.

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Do you know who was pretty funny? And, you know, I'm big fan of Instagram, you know, so look, for me, White Menace on Instagram, I was outside Good Vibrations, and on the door, it says, home of the antique vibrator museum, like that. And I took a picture of it, I put on my Instagram, and it just, like, blew up. Yeah, it's funny because all. All these women that follow me had, like, hilarious jokes.

That's so funny. Yeah, they have this antique museum. They do have all these, like, old vibrators back in the day, like, Freud used vibrators on women because he's called hysteria. They thought that women. And they would. He would actually.

I think that was just an excuse take things in women.

There's always an excuse to stick things in women. But speaking of Good Vibrations, why were you there, Menace?

Why was it there?

Weren't you coming to my walking. My kissing workshop? Wasn't when you were going to my kissing workshop that you decided not to attend?

I didn't go to that.

Yeah, okay, so I went to a kissing workshop.

I wanted to go that. I'll tell you why I didn't.

But I know why you didn't.

Go ahead, go first, though.

So we had a guest on the show, and we're gonna be playing this show. It's a little out of order, but we're gonna be playing the show that we did with. With Reed. Reed Mahako.

He was.

He's a guest on the show, and he's teaching a course at Good Vibrations the other day, and he asked me to be his model for his kissing class where he was teaching people how to kiss. And so I said I'd be his model. And then I had to go and make out with him in front of 15 people, which I've never done before. But I felt like it was a good service for the community, helping people learn how to kiss. And he said I was a really good kisser.

Yeah. So what happened, though? I went to go there to support you because when we did the show.

And.

They said, oh, yeah, you know, you can. You can sit and you can watch and you can laugh and blah, blah, and just be an observer. And I go, okay, cool, fine. I'm down for that.

Right?

So I show up to the place, and then they meet me at the door and they go, oh, yeah. So.

Second thought is actually this is going to be kind of serious. So we can't have you laugh in the background. I go, okay, fine. That's cool. I'll still. I'll still chill. And then they said, okay. And another thing is, you can't just sit here. You actually have to be a participant.

Right?

And I said, hell, no. I'm gonna be a participant.

They wanted everyone to kiss everyone, but they ended up not doing that. So you could have come anyway. No, you could have seen it. But it was interesting because it was. It was a. It was a good kiss. People were into it, but, I mean, they were into watching it. But Reid has this.

He called it, like, a Tourette's type thing that happens to him when he gets turned on and he starts going like this and shaking. So when I was kissing him, he started shaking, and it was sort of distracting.

Scary.

Yeah, it was kind of scary. Besides that, it was. I've never. I was a little nervous. I had never done anything like that before, and I know him at all. And I just made out with him. I just macked him right there.

Macked him.

Kissed him. Isn't that mack?

No, macking is if, like, you're trying to get with him.

I thought macking is kissing.

No.

What do I know?

That was. You're just making out.

I was just making out with them.

You're just. Why you're trying to get, like, so hip to street lingo these days.

Am I?

Yeah. Well, it's funny because you.

Because I mess it up. That's fine.

You incorrectly.

But yeah, but besides that, at least I'm trying, man. Just give me. Give me some. Give me some props for trying, because you got to try.

Yeah.

And then what else is going on with you?

With me, these days? I hate to give the same generic answer where I am extremely busy all the time, but I am extremely busy. It's, you know, one of the busiest times of the year for me. But I'm very excited because.

You'Ve dated guys without cars and stuff.

Yeah, it's a bummer.

It sucks. And I've been without a car because one of my main sponsors is Scion. I love Scion, and they always give me the new cars that come out. Well, since the Japan earthquake happened, this new line of cars was supposed to come out, and I was supposed to not be carless, but earthquake happened. It's terrible thing. I'm not complaining because I didn't get a car. So I've been without a car ever since then. Today I finally get a car mobile. And it's funny because through my other work, I have to be in six different cities this weekend. So I'm going to be all over driving the car and that's going to be cool because I'm going to meet like a ton of new people.

Yeah. That's awesome. You get a car, honey. That's good.

Car.

Now you can come over and hang out.

Yeah.

Because we kind of live far from each other. I mean, far from San Francisco. It's only seven square miles, but that's good that you have a car.

Yeah. I mean. Yeah. Even though it's seven square miles just to get around everywhere.

Yeah. It takes forever to get around forever.

Or a billion dollars.

Yeah. Or a billion dollars in caps.

Totally.

Okay, so I've got our poll. We haven't gone through our polls lately. This was our latest poll. How would you rate your current sex life? So people say amazing, mind blowing. Only 10%. What? No complaints here. 16%. At least I'm getting some. 23%. I satisfy myself 22%. And what sex life? 29%.

What the hell is that?

That was the largest percentage. And it's what sex life? 29% of our listeners say, what sex life? Why aren't people getting laid?

That is sad.

That is so sad. I know. It bums me out.

That is depressing.

Hopefully, after listening to this, you will.

Give you some tips so you can.

We're given some oral sex tips today for men performing sex on women.

And then. But we are talking about, of course, your favorite topic.

Yeah, it is my favorite topic. But we are talking about these oral strips, oral sex strips as well. Our new poll is anal sex sexy or scary? A, sexy. B, scary.

If you're giving or receiving, I think.

Yeah, exactly. So we want to know what you think about that. We've got our poll. We've got new blogs. We've got a lot of stuff going on.

That's good.

Sexalemly.com Sexhelmondlem.com there's everything happening there, but we can. And you can also leave a message in our voicemail anytime. 415-992-7392 so we've got a little bit of sex in the news we have to talk about. Chris Humphries says he was Kim's reality show pawn. Okay. He said he was just slotted in as a plot line of Kim Kardashian's latest headline and newest business venture. We're told Kris believes Kim never intended to stay married to him but needed a groom to fuel ratings for her show once they were finished, taping she just didn't need a groom anymore. Chris is telling people he feels like a pawn in the game. I don't think that's true.

I don't believe that's true either. That it was intentional, that they're like, oh, this is the guy that I'm gonna get with to get ratings. I don't believe that. I do believe, and I said this in a couple ago in the show, even before they broke up, when they were getting married, that I think that she was just having. She was, you know, just turned 30 something. She's having a freak out. Her sister. Her sister's married. Her other sister has a baby, and she's like, okay, what, what am I doing? I'm. I got out of a relationship that I've been in for a couple years with some other football star. Oh, my God, what am I gonna do? I've been wanting to get married my entire life. And then she just, you know.

I know. I think a lot of women who have that deadline of, oh, I should be married by 30 is ridiculous. Like, throw that deadline out the door. You should not have any deadlines or things that you're trying to meet by a certain age. First of all, you shouldn't get married till you're 30. I think. I think getting married in your 20s is a waste of time. You don't know yourself. You don't know who you are. You're still learning and growing and changing. And so maybe she did feel a lot of pressure. She's the what, the middle child or the oldest? She's the oldest, right?

No, she's the.

I don't know. What?

Middle child.

She's a middle. And so she just feels. Yeah, I can understand that. Yeah.

And I think that also.

What was I about to say? Sorry, guys, long day. It's been a long week.

I know, but this whole thing has been crazy all over the news. I mean, obviously she's like on the COVID of every magazine, but yeah, I'm sure she's bummed, but maybe he just turned out.

I don't think it was a ratings plot at all. You know, people like to initially go for that right in the beginning. Oh, they did for ratings or they did it for publicity. You know, I hate when people say, oh, they released some sex tape for publicity. I. I don't, I don't believe that happens 95 of the time unless there's some D list celebrity that wants to get some attention.

Right.

I don't think A list celebrity or even B list celebrities do that.

I don't think so either. I don't think so either.

Yeah, she was just. I think she was just having a freak out, man. That's all. But. Oh, I know what I was going to say now. Watching all the shows, though.

You could tell it wasn't a match. Like, his personality, he was very dry. Sarcasm.

You know, piss people off like crazy.

Right.

He. He was very sloppy. She is a freaking neat freak, you know? And he can just tell that alone.

Right. And it was so rushed. Like, what was the big rush to get married after four months together? I just think that's a mistake. I think everyone should learn from this. Let's just learn from this. Like in everything in. And all your relationships, you need to learn from them. Like, learn that this is like, what you should not do.

Well, maybe she was taking. She was trying to see. Maybe she saw what happened with her younger sister. Your younger sister met her husband, Klamar Lamar Odomar. So bad. Lamar Odom met him and then within a month, was married, had a wedding, everything. Within a month. And they've been together for a couple years now.

Right, right. But it's still not typically a good advice to follow. You should get to know someone and stay with them longer. So that's all we got for sex. Then you say, because we've got. We've got to move on to some sex stuff. We're going to call our sex strip guy in a few minutes. But sex strips, he makes these sex strips for people who. A lot of women have you been with women who are performing oral sex on you and they won't swallow. They're like, sorry, I don't do that.

Like one.

Just one. She was like, did she spit or did she just not.

Yeah, to spit. Well, some are just like, I don't want it in my mouth at all. But that's like, that's when they're your early 20s.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think so, too. I don't think it's so bad, but I think it's interesting that he made these strips. So we're going to give some tips. I'm saying, well, we could just call him right now so we can get this out of the way. That'll launch our whole oral sex thing here. So here's his number.

All righty. We fix the phone systems, everybody. How excited are you? So you can always call us.

So excited.

Don't worry.

We.

We never remember what the phone number is either. But if you're on sex with emily.com, it's written.

It's right there on sexwithemily.com. so these are called your mask. And they're like little Listerine strips that you can. And this is the founder, this is Michael, and he sent us some. Oh, okay. We're having a contest. If you tell us your best oral sex tips. If you email me feedback. Com. Your mask is giving out three. They're giving out a T shirt. Some strips, some other things. It's a whole package, so you have to include your T shirt size. If you enter this contest, it's feedbackexthemy.com. your best oral sex tips.

And then I also. Can you do something else? Feedback. Where's the best place you've ever received oral sex?

Oh, yeah, That's a good one.

That'd be kind of cool. You don't endorse this, but I've received oral sex on every freeway in the Bay Area.

You have?

Yeah.

You've gotten Roadhead that many times?

Yeah.

Hello, Michael speaking.

Hi, Michael. We're talking about Road Roadhead. You endorse it for or against it?

For. How can I not?

Exactly.

You're a man, though.

I'm not against it. I just think you should pull over. I mean, with all the crazy people on the road.

It's not a cell phone. You can keep it.

True. It is. It is a little dangerous. I'm a believer in pulling over to text and call. Most times anyway. If I didn't have the Bluetooth in the car, I would absolutely.

Exactly.

Pull over for calls, I think.

Well, let me. Can I tell you one thing, though? There was one story that we had in the news where this guy was. They were parked. They were parked and he was receiving fellatio and a car came in and crashed into him. And this chick bit this guy's wiener off. True story.

I've heard that story, but that was also a.

You read the story.

Oh, okay. I read the story. Michael. Hi. Oh, you were.

That actually. You know, that story is actually from. What is it?

World According to Garp.

Yes, exactly. The World According to Garp.

I know.

According to Garp in the book. That was what happened as well.

Yeah, but I'm sure that's happened before. You read an actual story.

I read an actual story. Apparently I don't remember things all the time that I read. Okay. Michael is the founder of your mask. M A S Q U E. Your mask dot com. Which is there. Tell me about your mask and how it came to be. Please.

Michael, Mask is a brand new product. We've created a dissolvable Orally. Excuse me, an orally dissolvable strip that we can mask certain flavor profiles. That doesn't mean we just cover them like an Altoid or something. We can actually make it so your receptors don't taste things like salts and bitters, etc. For a short period of time. And mask is used to block the flavors associated with going down on your man. So the salts and bitters and proteins associated with that, there are a good number of women who find that distasteful, so to speak. And so we. This blocks it for about 15 minutes.

Wow. And so you can have this. So before you perform oral sex, a woman, she puts a strip in her mouth and then she goes to business and she can't taste anything but the sweet taste of chocolate or strawberry or watermelon or mango.

Correct. For up to 15 minutes. It's slightly different for each person. So we've had people that it's lasted 25 minutes for. So. But we say 15 because that's pretty safe.

Did you get a lot of complaints from women? Like, how did you even decide to make this?

Okay. The story is actually really good. The inventor was at dinner with his wife and two other couples and they'd had a few glasses of wine. And the conversation, as it's one to do, turned to sex. And one of the men said to his wife, why is it at the happiest moment of my life you bail on the job, so to speak. And she said, it tastes terrible, I don't like it, blah, blah, blah. And if you knew, knew the guy who invented this, he takes these kinds of things as a challenge. And one of the last things in this 15 minute conversation about this, one of the women said was, if someone could make it taste like chocolate syrup, I'm in.

Right.

And so he said. And so we did a lot of market research. And you know, because it obviously there are a good number of women and men in the gay community that this isn't a problem. They don't find it an issue at all. So when we went out to do, we did a national market research study and found out it is a big problem even for women who are. Who currently swallow or spit.

Right.

There are a significant portion of them who dislike the flavor.

Right, right. Yeah, I hear that. I hear that. I wonder, I mean, a lot of women don't even like performing oral sex. And I'm wondering if it's because of that, if it's because of the taste, maybe men around the world are clapping. There's a huge clapping of men around the world right now because they're just like, so relieved. Right, Exactly. I think this is awesome. And you can find it at YourMask.com S M A S Q U E. And we're also doing a contest, which I just announced three winners. You guys are going to provide gift bags with T shirts and multiple packages of the product, which is great. We're going to have people email us.

Correct, Correct. And I also put together a special promo code for your listeners, if you'd like.

Okay.

And we get. We'll give you $3 off any as many packs as you'd like to buy. And the promo code is, of course, swe, as in sex with Emily.

Got it.

So, yeah. So, well, that'll. That'll be good. Through the, through the month of December, if anybody's interested.

Can I ask you. Great stocking stuffer, another question? In your research, did you find the women that really love you. Swallow. And then the ones that don't love you, they just spit?

No, no, that's not, not, not the case at all. Again, it's one of those that, you know, the big. The big. I actually got married about, just about a year ago, and, you know, there were a lot of jokes amongst her friends that said, you know, up. You don't have to do that anymore. And.

Exactly.

So it doesn't mean that she loves you any less. It's just, you know, theoretically, you love each other, so you're more accepting of the fact that you wouldn't have her do something that she doesn't like.

Right.

So. And this will. Hopefully the response has been, I'll tell you, has been amazing. That the, Some of the quotes that we get in, you know, this, you know, some people have said, well, 15 minutes doesn't seem like very long. But then we get a lot of response that says, because I'm no longer stressed about thinking about that I can do a better job and he's done faster.

Exactly. Yeah, exactly. That's. Oh, I like it. That makes a lot of sense. That makes total sense.

Are you working on a bacon flavor? Because, you know, bacon's pretty popular these days.

It's so funny because a lot of the press we're getting now, we're getting in conjunction with that bacon lube. Yeah. And yeah, so we've. We've definitely crossed that path. I've told you, I can tell you in my initial market research, there's nobody that's really desired that as a, as a flavor.

I know everyone's just on this baking craze. Right now. There's like bacon, vodka, everything really. Bacon popcorn.

Yeah, I would not want that at all. So I love that these actually help women maybe perform better. What a great incentive. Okay. This is awesome. Thank you, Michael. This is great. We're gonna. We're gonna give this away to our listeners and they can always check out. You do use the promo code SWE and check out your website. Thank you very much. We're gonna continue here with some oral sex tips, you know, in the spirit of your mask of mask.com, your mask.com. so thank you. Have a great. Have a great holiday.

Wonderful. You too. Thanks very much.

Thanks. Talking to you. Bye. Thanks for. Good to talk to you.

Wow, we are just on fire today.

Okay, so that's awesome. I wonder if they would make one for women too, for men who going down on women. Some men don't like the taste of women.

Yeah, I would.

You'd need one that lasts 45 minutes though.

45 minutes?

Yeah, because that's how long men should go down on women.

Oh, my God, you're insane.

I'm not insane.

I'm trying to think of like what flavors would I want. What flavors?

Maybe cheeseburger flavor. Cheeseburger pizza.

Because then you'd really be into it. Yeah, exactly. Right. You'd be like menace. Would be like the oral sex king. Yeah. Okay, let's.

We have some oral sex tips that we can. We can give here.

So Red Bull flavored.

Red Bull flavored, Exactly. You could do anything.

I like Rebel. Sugar free. So maybe Nice. Sugar free Rebel. Because then I would get more energy while I'm doing it and then I'll get excited.

I think you should totally do it. I think you should create a menace because then maybe you'd really like.

No, I don't want to take away from this guy's business. I'll just get my.

That's true. We're not gonna like. We're not gonna do anything that's bad. Yeah. Okay, well, let's read an email real quick and then we'll get into.

I like hearing from.

I like hearing from the peeps too. Okay, so, okay, this one is about open relationships. Imagine that.

Another favorite subject is this just like favorite subject day.

Hello. I just got back to the States from Iraq. When I was gone, I encouraged my wife to have sex with others. And then when I talk to her, it turns me on to hear her stories. My question is, what is your opinion on open relationships? I like the idea, but I'm curious what you guys Think this is from Brian. And I think that open relationships work, but they're just as much. They're just as hard work as straight monogamy relationships. So I think that I know a lot of people who are in successful open relationships, but there are challenges. Jealousy comes up, and I think that there's just a whole host of other logistics that you don't have to deal with in a monogamous relationship. But I absolutely think that they work. But it takes a lot more work. I think you become closer with your partner. You become more intimate because you are really discussing. You have to be honest. Don't ask, don't tell. Doesn't work. There's some couples who are like, I'm just going to go bang someone when I'm on vacation, or I'm going to bang someone here and there. And it doesn't. I think that doesn't work. You have to have rules and guidelines. Like, you can only sleep with people when you're out of the country, or when you're out of the state, or when I'm out of town, or you have to let me know a week in advance. You have to make rules. You have to discuss the, you know, the repercussions. I mean, how does she feel about, you know, does she want you to have sex with other people, or do you just want her to? Like, how is this gonna work? Are you having sex with people while you're in Iraq? I don't know, while you're on the road? So you guys need to discuss that.

Yeah, I mean, if it works for you, man. I just.

It's.

I don't know. It's a. It's a very special type of people that do not.

Get jealous, you know?

But see, the thing is, you get jealous in all relationships. Polyamory, open relationship, monogamy. But I think when you're in an open relationship, you learn to deal with jealousy in a different way. Like, because people still get jealous all the time when they're in monogamous relationships. But when you're in an open relationship, like you. You. It comes up a lot more. And I think that you just learn to like. You learn to transcend it. You learn to overcome it. You have to, like, practice it. You're like, why am I feeling jealous right now? And a lot of times, if you turn jealousy on yourself and you're like, why am I jealous? Well, I'm afraid that the woman that he's with, for example, if it's with a guy, she's cuter than I am. She's smarter than I am. He likes her better than I do. And it's all about our ego. It's all about us, like, thinking like, you know, jealousy comes from our own insecurities. And if you can turn it on, the more information you get. If he's like, no, babe, it was just sex or it was just this or that, and you get. And you talk it through, it can help quell your jealous feelings. Mm. So you can learn to deal with jealousy. Do you get jealous?

Do I get jealous when I'm with somebody?

Um.

No. I only have that weird effing thing with me and then I bring it up all the time when I'm at a restaurant. And the. It's so weird. I just hate it when the, the person with is overly talkative to the waiter. I just hate that I'm just like, I'm here with you because I feel like an ass. I'm just sitting here. What the hell am I doing? I'm not part of the conversation.

Right.

I hate that. I hate it. I don't want you. I don't want the girl that I'm with being an asset.

Just annoyed.

Maybe. I'm just annoyed.

Yeah.

I don't, I don't really think she's.

Gonna run off with the guy bringing you the.

No, no, no. And then I also believe I go, the reason I don't get jealous is because no matter what you do and everything that you try to prevent from somebody, because jealousy is stemming, you think this person is gonna cheat on you or do anything, Right? Pretty much. That's pretty much what it is.

Uh huh.

And I believe that no matter what the hell you do to try to prevent somebody from cheating on you, they're gonna cheat on you.

Yeah. It's still gonna happen.

Okay, so that' no point for you to get jealous because you know what, this person's gonna cheat on you. They cheat on you. So hopefully they don't.

Right. You know, hopefully they don't. You're right. Okay. And I don't get jealous that often, but I have been jealous before, and usually it's when, yeah, like when a guy cheated on me when I was like, younger. But I don't typically get jealous because I have high self confidence.

Oh, really?

No, but I do sometimes you get a little threatened, but it's not, it's not a common. What I'm saying is it's not a, it's not a common feeling for me, but it has come up before coming up for everybody. We all get a Little jealous. But you have to realize it is an emotion that you can work with and. And that you can transcend. Okay? So we have to. We gotta wrap it up in a second. But I didn't even give any of my oral sex tips. Can I give some quick oral sex tips? Okay, so here's the thing. These are the tips for giving women amazing oral pleasure. Use your fingers and stimulate the areas surrounding her vagina. First, tease her by touching her entire body except for her vagina.

Now you're into that teasing?

You're into teasing women. Don't go straight. She's not turned on yet. Her clitoris isn't even aroused. Just do all the other things around her clitoris, around her vagina, and, like, you know, like, tease her, give her a massage and warm her up.

I want to put on some scuba gear and just dive into the vagina right now.

We don't want that. We don't want you to dive right in. In fact, if a guy dives right in, I'm not even ready. So this is about prep. Touch her breasts, her hips, her thighs, her labia, her clitoris. And this is something that my friend always says. He's like, I imagine that I'm eating like a juicy mango and I can't stop once you get there. He loves it.

It's creepy.

Yeah. So it's good to get the juice on your face. Get sloppy. Use lots of saliva. Provide extra lubrication. If it's hard for you to enjoy the taste or smell, use a lubricate, a flavored lubricant. Or I'm sure you could use these strips, the mask strips. Right. Couldn't a man use it? I don't know why I meant to ask them that. So women typically take longer to orgasm from oral sex than men. So reserve more than a few minutes to please her orally. And what I'd like to say is three minutes of oral sex, you might as well have just not done it. Three minutes is nothing. Like when a guy's like, oh, I did it for like, three. It doesn't even. I don't even register that you're there yet after three minutes, like, I think you need to do a good, like, 10, 15, 45 minutes.

Well, you know what? You're gonna get a billion emails from guys who are like, yeah, man, I'm all in for 45 to an hour.

There's a lot of men who are menaced. A lot of men love it. They, like, can't get enough on one.

Man that I just cringe about 45.

Okay. But you cringe about the whole thing. I think.

What?

No, I don't.

I think you don't like it.

There's special ladies that I, you know. You just can't just go down on everybody.

Well, do you expect women to all go down on you?

Uh, I'm not gonna force them to go down on me if they don't want to.

Right, but they do.

I'm just never gonna call them again.

Exactly. Right. Okay. Swirl your tongue around her vagina and stick your tongue inside. So these are all different things you can do, because I think guys are confused. They don't know what to do. Do I lick the clitoris? Go all over. Like, explore and see where she moans. Pay att to her moaning and her movements and her body. You can tell if she's like. If she's moving her body closer to you or she's pulling away. You can kind of tell if she's turned out.

Yeah, man. Pretend you're like Indiana Jones and you're, like, going into those caves, and you don't know what's happening, but you're exploring all the caves.

Explore all of it. And you have to mix up your sensations.

So you have to be whipping it.

Some women like to be whipped. You should mix up the pressure.

It should.

You just always start soft, and then you can make it a little more harder with your tongue. A little faster, slower, like, fluttery with your tongue. Little pointy with your tongue. You, like, have to mix it up the whole time. But once you start doing something that feels really good and you can tell that it feels good, then you stick to that. And that's usually what brings a woman to orgasm. Sweet. If she doesn't seem stimulated by something you're doing, try something else or ask what she wants. I think that's just an amazing. Like, every woman is different. Every vagina is different. Women get turned on in different ways. And so I think that you have to ask sometimes if you're like, I really don't know what I'm doing. Like, there's nothing wrong with saying, like, what do you like? Cause hopefully you're with a woman who knows her body. She masturbates, she pleasures herself. She knows what makes herself feel good, and she can just impart that wisdom onto you. I don't think that that is such a. We don't think that you're a loser for asking. In fact, the guy who asks me shows that he really cares about my pleasure.

Mm.

So ask next time. Okay. Menace.

I'll Ask.

Okay.

Ask.

Okay. We gotta wrap it up.

Yeah, we do. Sorry, people, but we're gonna be back with more shows.

We'll be more shows. Good. Tom.

Amazing. We'll be well rested by then.

We will be. Okay, everyone. Yeah. Good to see you.

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