Escaping the Friend Zone

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Hello, Emily. How are you doing today?

I'm doing fabulous. How are you, Menace?

I'm good. I can never say that without sounding weird. I don't know why.

Sounding what? How are you today?

How are you doing today?

I'm good today, Menace, how are you?

I'm good.

I'm so glad you're back in town.

Thank you.

In this new town. It's not like you're in town. We were both in a new town.

Yeah, it's crazy. We. We both live in Los Angeles now. We're both like hardcore San Francisco hardcore.

Like, I never thought you'd leave.

Yeah, I never thought you would leave too, but you just.

But I don't miss it for a second. Everyone's like, do you miss it? I'm like, I miss my friends, honestly. I mean, I'm like, San Francisco who?

Yeah, I talked about this. I've talked about this on a previous podcast with you. But the Bay Area, which is the surrounding area of San Francisco, I totally miss because I love. I love it. That's where I grew up and.

Right.

But the. The San Francisco being there. Do not miss it. It took me a half a day to get over.

I don't really. I don't even remember it. Like, really. I live there forever.

A pain in the ass. Just to go. Just. Just to go outside. You know, this. Think of like every time you went outside, it cost you at least $20.

But same with here. Parking. I just went by dentist. It was $15.

Well, I don't. I don't know where you're park. I've had. I haven't had any of that trouble.

Okay. It's parking spot and stuff in your building. You've got like a sweet place with a pool. Yeah. When you gonna invite me over for a pool party when I get furniture? You don't have any furniture. I know. I didn't either for the longest time. Yeah, it's just easier. No, it's easier, but the traffic does suck here. But the weather's amazing every time. I'm like, so used to the San Francisco, like, you're going out and you're wearing layers and layers and hair. It's like you just can be in a T shirt.

And then also, I don't. I haven't really got stuck in traffic either. I don't understand.

Do you drive?

I drive all the time.

You just have to drive before 4.

Maybe. I just, like, put myself in an area. It has everything that I need and all the events that I go to. Yeah, or like in the. In the area.

I think you're just in one town.

I think a lot of people, too. I'm not saying you, but a lot of people I talk to who say, oh, I gotta deal with all this traffic and all this stuff. A lot of people here are area snobs. Like, oh, you live in that area.

I know they're all caught up in that.

You live in a shitty apartment.

Because.

Because I have a amazing place. But it's not like, maybe the cool and hip place to live.

People like that, they're identifying by the neighborhood because people, LA is very caught up in image and where you live in your car.

And it's crazy because then I go, I go and talk to them about the place that they live in is. It's crap. But they get to say that they live in a certain area.

Right. Which is so silly. And you have to.

And they have to deal with all the traffic and the driving just to go to that area. And so I just love different parents. I just laugh at them.

I know, I don't even get it.

They make their life difficult.

But the interesting thing that I noticed to that same note is that in la, all that stuff does matter much more than I think San Francisco. The fact that there are on every single corner, there's a car wash, there is a beauty salon, there is a tanning salon, like, literally a nail salon. Like, more than I've ever seen. A lot of what?

Donut shops.

Like, crazy donut shops and wheat shops. Yeah. But it's like, it's funny because it's so much about, like, cars. Like San Francisco. There's one car wash right, too. I mean, it's not a big deal, but here it's like everyone's in their car. It matters. All that out appearance stuff, which you would think being la, but now it's like, oh, my God, I guess I should get my go tanning or something.

Yeah. What's crazy is because I was talking to my friend that moved here from San Francisco and we're just talking about cars and I'm just, I. I want to save money. I don't know why I've been like, so financially, like, crazy lately about like saving money and just actually having extra money.

Right?

And I was like, yeah, I just wanna. I wanna hybrid. He's like, oh, man. Dude, LA car culture is crazy. And I always see like these crazy thousandaires I call them, because they'll live in like some dump that I'll be driving by.

But you can Mercedes or something.

The nicest car ever is like parked out in front.

Yeah, exactly. No, it's all about the car here. You can lease a car for nothing and then live like, you know, eat noodles every night, Ramen noodles. But you got a Mercedes and in San Francisco, I don't care. Like, my car's never clean. Like people. I don't care. People here.

Yeah, that was one San Francisco people didn't really care about cars.

They don't care about cars. No. But last night I saw my friend Lindsay and she's like, you're still driving that car. And I'm like, what's.

I don't.

What she get a bigger car because I have a Mini.

Yeah.

She's like, you should just get a bigger car for LA so you can see what's going on around you. I'm like, what are you talking about? It was the craziest thing. I'm like, you just don't like my car. My car's cute.

Yeah, it's fine.

Love my freaking car. Forget you. Okay, today's show, we are going to be talking about the friend zone. Are you in it? How did you get in it? And how do you want to get out of it? If you're in it, there might be some benefits to it, but this is something that I hear from a lot of my listeners. Like, why did she put me in the friend zone? I wanted to sleep with this girl. And we just became friends, but also for women. I've got some advice for you too, because you keep finding guys that you just. God, I liked them, but I just wanted to be friends with them. So maybe we can figure out your dating patterns and stuff too. And we're also answering some of the emails that you sent to feedbackexwithemily. Dot com. And as always, I want to thank my sponsor, Good Vibrations, because they're the ones who help me keep the show free. So you can all listen to it and download it whenever you want. And I can give you two shows a week. So if you are interested, as you should be, in trying out a cool sex toy, go to sexwithemily.com goodvibes. Just click on the banner. I'm sort of obsessed with the new Leia vibrator. There's lots of great clitoral vibrators. If you've been looking for your G spot or your partner's G spot, they've got G spot vibrators. As you know, I love everything from the Jae Joo line. J E J O U E. It means to play in French. And my new favorite Jeju toy, you know, I've heard of the Mimi is the G key. It's a G spot toy. And it. You can curve it around and it vibrates and it recharges. Their toys are just so well made. So just check it out. They're at good vibes sexloving.com goodvibes. That's what I gotta say about that. And what.

Let's talk about a couple things you want to please. Because you just said recently that you want to get into television. I mean, to actually watch tv.

Right.

And I think I've been binging on this show on Netflix. Is Scandal a lot of people have been talking about. It's already in its fourth season. I'm only on season two.

Okay.

And it's all about sex and politics. How can you not get into that?

I have to watch it.

You worked in politics.

I'm writing it down. Okay. This is. I'm adding it to my list of things.

It's about this.

Do I have to watch on Netflix?

I mean, if you want.

I don't have a Netflix thing.

You don't have a Netflix?

Should I get one?

I think you have it on tv.

I did in my San Francisco tv.

Yeah.

I haven't set up my new one.

You have a rope for you or something?

No.

Something that you can watch Netflix on. I think you do. Oh, I just like in your. It's in your DVD player.

I wrote Scandal. I don't know what it means.

I put that DVD player together. I remember.

Okay, Just come over and help me.

Anyway.

Okay. So why do you love that? Sex and politics? Because that's everyone. FYI, I worked in politics before everyone. So I did have a more legitimate career.

And it's not even what's it about? I mean, I'm not even gonna give away too much, but it's about this woman that was working on somebody's campaign, and the guy becomes the president, and she's sleeping with the president. It's all about the relationship because he's.

Married and all this stuff. Oh, wow. Sounds like my life really good.

And it's all about, like, super dirty politics. Like, people are getting murdered and all this kind of stuff.

It's really cool. I really want to see it. And you just have to see. How do you just have time to sit and binge? Like. Does that mean like eight hours?

Well, right now. And I don't want my new job. But you. You would just at night, just throw it on. You'll totally.

I know. I gotta come home and just.

I definitely recommend it. Everybody.

What else? Anything else good lately? I'd like one more suggestion.

You on television. Well, you gotta get. Because I'm assuming one day that you probably would be part of another reality show one day. You gotta just, like, at least watch some of the. The Bravo stuff of. In the Real Housewives. Atlanta and New York. I mean, I've never liked New York.

But New York, Atlanta, you like?

I love Atlanta. Atlanta's the best.

We had candy on the show once. But I. I don't love Atlanta.

Atlanta's my favorite.

I like Beverly Hills and Orange County.

Keep it real. What?

Atlanta keeps it real.

Yeah.

I don't like New Jersey.

Nah, I don't really like New Jersey. I've always hated New York. But New York is, like, really stepping up. And Beverly Hills is also, like, my second favorite to Atlanta. Right.

I love Is a good one. And then. But there's other like. Like, I've never seen Breaking Bad. That's the one I was trying to remember.

I never even seen one episode.

I want to see Breaking Bad. Like, I feel like I'm the last person on the planet. Even my mom's like, you haven't seen Breaking Bad? Like, my mom's on me all the time.

The same boat. And people were obsessed with it. I never.

Okay, so it's on the list. When life settles down.

And then other stuff going on in the news. We haven't even talked about this since I've been. You know. Robin Thicke, he said that.

Yes. Going through uncoupling as well.

Yeah. So I know this might be old news to people, but at least we can talk about it a little bit. So Robin Thicke, he has a famous actress wife. I'm sorry, I can't Remember her name right now. And then he's had that, that he had that one hit song lately that was lines.

Right.

Huge. And he was in interviews saying like, oh, yeah, me and my wife, we've been in love since high school.

Yeah, that's your first kind of.

We have like an open relationship, like open to date people. And he was going out, like talking about this kind of stuff.

Right, right.

And I think it was kind of cool when it was like not in the public eye and.

Right.

So people never asked her about it.

Right.

And then there would be, you know, photos of him, like grabbing girls butts.

Twerking with Miley Cyrus, that whole thing. Right.

Stuff like that. So all this, you know, now it's in the public, now she's feeling heat off it. But before it might have been all good, you know. And then so she said, I had enough. And then he like, this is my woman. I don't want to break up with her. So he like flew and just met with her and he's like publicly at his concert saying, you know, I want to be with my wife and stuff like that. Really trying to make an effort to.

So what's. So. But she's not going to do it or. We don't know.

I don't know yet because.

So he was saying they were in an open relationship and she wasn't.

Did she ever say, well, I didn't agree to that, or she was just saying it.

She never really talked publicly about it.

Right.

When he was in interviews, he was.

Saying, oh, same goes to your head. You want to bang a few celebrities and you're like, oh, my wife was pretty good.

Yeah.

Right.

Now he's like, I want to get back with her.

What?

Another scandal?

Tell me so. Scandal. Scandal, scandal.

I don't know if you would know this guy, but he's had a bunch of hits. His name is T.I. he also has a reality show. Yeah. T.I. and his. His wife, who was in another female group called Escape, they've had a reality show all about family and family values and all this stuff.

Right.

And now it comes out that he is fathering another child with another.

No way. It's always the ones who's talking about family values that are like, don't really have any. So they seem super happy on the show and everything was great.

Yeah, everything's good. It's all about, you know, it's not.

Fun and games until you get another.

Woman pregnant, raising kids and all this stuff. And it's crazy because his. His wife is out promoting something of course, it always happens like this. And now she has to answer the questions. And Wendy Williams, who is a famous radio dish jockey from New York, and now she has.

I didn't know she started in radio as well.

Yeah, she has an awesome talk show straight up asked her about it, and she's like, yeah, you know, we're going through some issues right now. So I don't know if Tiny is saying, oh, we're working through it just because they're about to launch a new season of this television show, and no one's gonna really watch it if she says, oh, yeah, we're breaking up.

Or rally shows, really. There was an article, an article, A post I saw recently about how. How the Beverly Hill or how the Housewives empire has all been torn apart. How, like, 10 of them have declared bankruptcy. There's been six divorces, one suicide. I mean, it really can turn to the reality.

Are going to jail.

Yeah, exactly. Because they try to keep up to lifestyle now. I was poor when I was shooting my reality show, and I still am. I did not try to do anything. No. But I. Yeah, it's funny that it could tear people apart.

Yeah. It's crazy. And this is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. And I don't even think they can do this, but one of the New Jersey couples, they have kids, and so they pleaded guilty. One of them, I think, has to do, like, seven years. One of them has to do four years. Now they're trying to work with a judge saying, oh, can we go in separately?

Oh, because the kids.

Could one person do, like, their four years?

Who's gonna watch the kids, though? That kind of makes sense for the kids of a parent.

You can't, like.

You can't be like, I'll be judged in seven years. Yeah, I know.

Seven years. I'll do my four years.

What were they. It was like. It was like white collar crimes, right?

Yeah. Like, I don't know. Yeah. Just trying to keep up with the Joneses type stuff.

Yeah. I swear to God, I don't.

And crazy. Another guy is up for trial, too, for identity theft. One of the guys on the show from Real Housewives, Atlanta, Phaedra's husband, Apollo.

Apollo. Yeah. He would. He. He did identity. He stole someone's identity.

That's what they're saying.

Whenever you hear it. It's true.

The rumors are probably true, but isn't that freaking crazy? You're like, why would you do that?

To get some guys money.

Like, he pretended to get money, but it's crazy. I understand.

You know, you gotta look good on the show.

You gotta look like, yeah, you're driving, you know, expensive cars and all this kind of stuff. But, dude, like, you're on one of the most popular shows.

I know they don't pay you anything.

I know they don't pay you anything. But figure out other avenues to use that. Like Bethany. Bethany, like, made herself a millionaire off of those shows. Yeah, people can do it like Candy.

I'm trying.

Candy already had a bunch of money because of music, but she still made a bunch of money off of that, too.

You know, you just gotta do it in the right way because it's a great platform. They don't pay you anything. In fact, when I was on my show, I thought they were paying me. And then after taxes, it was like, it was already paltry. All the work I put in, hundreds of hours. And then after that, it was half of that. You guys would laugh. I told you how much it was, but it was ridiculous. So it's very hard to make a living in entertainment. That's my mother tells me. What's your plan B, Emily? What's your plan B? But speaking of making money and trying to make a living so I can do what I love here, Menace, I want to know how you feel about my Emily and Tony down under comfort. I love it. So it's a. Did you use it every day? Because I know I need to owe you another bottle.

I use it a lot.

Tell me how you felt. It's a down. It's a. It's a down. It's for your down under areas for men and for women, to keep your down. Like, it's like a deodorant for your balls, for your. In between your legs.

Yeah. Like, look, I'm. I'm going to keep it real with you. I don't make any money off Emily and Tony. No stuff.

Not yet. No. I can pay you a lot.

Yeah, I don't. And I'm just gonna keep it real. It guys, you really. You know your balls stink in between the flap of your balls and your legs. You know it smells, right? And let's just say.

Don't know, though. Some guys are like, no, I'm fine. I showered this morning. I'm like, no, you're not.

Dude stinks. No. Even if you showered and then throughout the day, it smells. Why not have it not smell, right?

Exactly, exactly. Like just you put it on.

How much is a bottle?

It's like $18.

$18.

And it's. Yeah, it's Totally. And men are like freaking out. Like I like oh my God, this is the most amazing thing because it's a cream. So a lot of men use talcum powder which is carcinogenic. It's a cream tool powder formula and it goes out and it's citrusy and smells really good. And then you just know that you're fresh all day. Down under comfort. Go to emilyandtoni.com, use coupon code EMILY for 20% off your purchase. And I'm telling you, you probably think you're fresh and you're not. Like Menace said smells and women too under your breasts. My friend Mike Catherwood uses it when he chafes at the gym. Yeah, yeah.

And it's what, six cents a day?

Yeah, exactly. It's nothing. And it supports my show. So I can continue to. If I make money on it eventually, which I hope to. I would do the show every friggin day of my life. Okay, so support the show.

They've been doing the show for years. Come on people.

I know, just go to Emily. Tony. It's a good gift. I'm not guilt trivia and the candles are amazing.

But I am.

You are. That's nice. Menace, I swear I'm bringing you some more of it next week because you ran out. I love that you actually use it, especially in la. It's so hot, dude, it's hot here every day.

You get dry down there too.

I know you goo, you goo. Get it dry. It's so hot here every day. Okay, so we've got some news. Then we're gonna get into the friend zone thing. This, I love this. Okay, a man is unhappy with the sex he had with the prostitute so he sues her for $80,000.

$80,000.

I'm sorry, isn't it first of all illegal to be a prostitute? And then in most states and then. Okay, I'm gonna read the story. A New Zealand man attempted to sue a prostitute for denying him a full refund only to have the lawsuit denied in court. The man, identified in court documents as Mr. N, claimed that he did not stay for the full two hours he paid for during his last meeting with a prostitute known as Ms. M, who he says also owed him money for a cell phone he brought to her to schedule their weekly arrangements. Mr. N sought over 80,000 in compensation and damages from Mrs. M in Aucklands High Court. The two had previously agreed to meet regularly for two months but their last session was cut due was cut short to a verbal disagreement at a Whoreh house. What the hell? Are people really think that they're going to somehow. The judges dismissed each claim, calling Mr. N's case a sinister use of the courts process.

Yeah, he should have got, he should have paid him.

Are you an idiot? I mean really, she should have like paid him. I mean 80,000 in damages because he left a cell phone and she cut him off for an hour. Like people are insane.

People like the dumbasses that call, they call the cops because their weed was stolen or something like that.

Right, exactly. Do they do that?

Yeah, people do that all the time.

Because they're so high and they're bummed. They're like, damn, I need another hit. I need another bong hit.

If your weed is stolen, just call it a loss. Do not call the cops.

That's so funny. Never do something illegal when you're doing something illegal too. That's another one.

Do you know it's funny because you're talking about. Well, prostitution's legal in Nevada, right?

Which I'm going to do.

You know that in Nevada is actually this even regards to. It's an old law and I'm, I guarantee you it's not enforced. But it's illegal to have sex without a condom in Nevada and people are breaking the law every day.

Every day right now. Fifteen people are breaking the law right now in Nevada. It's illegal to have sex without a condom.

Yeah.

Should be illegal everywhere to have sex.

You know, one of those dumb, who's.

Gonna catch you sex loss type, someone waiting outside your door going, did you just use a condom?

Let me see, let me see. Let me get the camera out.

You know, really, I know that is kind of silly and I guess it's, you know, in Vegas they should be using it. They should be using more condoms in Vegas.

Definitely.

People just make me crazy when they're like, oh, I had this one night stand, I didn't use a condom. People use freaking condoms. It's just so dumb. Really. You could get a disease and she might tell you, oh yeah, I'm on the pill. She's not. Then you're a baby daddy. I mean, you don't know what could go wrong.

People, you don't want no kids unless.

You want kids with her and you want something to take care of for the next 18 years. What?

Oh, no, I was just seeing how I can take your power cord for your.

Oh, do you want it for my phone? Oh, yeah, I'm done actually.

Okay, cool.

So awesome. I did step into the new iPhone century.

Do you Think. Okay, let me ask you this. Speaking about iPhones and all that kind of stuff.

What about guys that are on their phones all the time?

Okay, this. This is a problem. In fact, I think that the reason why a lot of people are single and complain about being single, this. Starting with that, is because they are on their frigging iPhones the whole time. And you're not paying attention. Men and women, you're not paying attention to the world around you. So. And I'm guilty. I'm in an elevator. I'm dry. I'm wherever. I'm walking down the street on my phone. And you're not actually, like, paying attention to the world because we're so freaking glued to our cell phones. It makes me crazy now. If I'm dating a guy and he's on his phone the whole time, I think I would feel. I'd feel bad. I feel like we have quality time together, and I would feel rejected. Now I'm on the phone and I've been known to drive guys crazy because I am on the phone all the time. So I'm guilty.

And you're probably texting ex boyfriends anyways.

I usually am. And so I think that, yeah, it would probably drive me. Did you? Why? How did your girlfriend feel about.

Drives her crazy, too. But I consciously brought this up. I said, hey, you know what? When we. We moved to San Francisco, I mean, away from San Francisco to Los Angeles. How about we do this? This would be. This would be a good idea. Every time we're at a meal, we're not on our cell phones. Oh, that's a good.

That's a great rule. Yeah.

And she's like, oh, you're not gonna last. I go, no, I'll do it, I swear.

So what about. But you always take pictures of your meals and post them. I do.

I mean, that's like.

So you're allowed to take. So you're. So you're allowed to take one Instagram photo and then put it away.

But she's just as bad as me with the phone too.

Oh, she is.

Yeah.

So have you guys been able to do that? It is hard. I mean, I'm telling you, I don't think it's healthy.

We're not. We're not great at it, but we're.

Trying to make an effort. I think it's so mature. I mean, I think that couples, if they're trying to recon, you should have, like, a no cell phone weekend. Like, I feel like we feel like we can't be away from our phones or no cell phone night when you go to dinner, like don't bring your phone with you or leave it in the car. Like I know when I work out or go to the gym or go for a run, like I don't bring my phone with me. That's my mom.

The worst part is though, she's always trying to blame it on me. She's like, I'm only on my phone because you're always on the phone.

Yeah, I can see that though. Like if I'm with someone and they pick up their phone, then I'm like, oh good, I pick up my phone. But I do try. Like if I'm on a date with someone, like the first date, I never check it, but I always go to the bathroom and check it like in the middle of the meal. Like I'm addicted. It's true. But I do think it prohib of them even connecting. Like even with my nieces. My brother and my nieces were in town and we're in the hotel room. We spent like the whole day together. But still, but it was like, you know, maybe I'd only been there for two hours at that point. And I look around and everyone's on their cell phone. My 11 year old niece, my 14, my brother, I'm on the phone. I'm like, this is good times. My family, like they fly in from Michigan and we're all like playing games and bonding on our phone. Like yeah, I think it does. I think that it can be a problem in relationships because in life it just takes you away from connecting. Yeah, I, I love that you have that rule with her.

Yeah, I'm trying to be better at it. It's hard though because a lot, and especially with, with work here, I mean if you work in entertainment, Your job is 24 hours a day. I know, it's 24 hours.

Exactly. It's true. And people do expect you to get back to them right away and they're not upset if you don't. I'm already getting behind on Texas. Sometimes. Like I'm like, oh, I had to.

Pull over the other night. Like girlfriend I, she really.

To get a blowjob?

No to. We're leaving a show and she really wanted me to drive. And then I look at my phone, I had like 10 text messages and like people trying to get answers from me and I said, okay, I'll drive. And then people kept on texting message me. So we had to pull over and I said, you gotta drive. I gotta, I gotta.

How important Were these text messages in.

The evening, it's trying to make plans. Like, people like stuff getting delivered to my house.

Right. Okay. So you pull over so you can't text and drive.

Yeah, I don't want to text and drive.

Yeah, I do that all the time. It's really bad.

Don't. Really bad.

I don't do it anymore. Just a red light. Red light. It's really bad.

And do you know what? You know what I think is freaking stupid?

What?

Is.

That they ban talking on the cell phone.

Right.

While you drive. And I think talking on the cell phone while I was driving, I was way better.

Me too.

And safer doing that.

Exactly.

Than texting.

Because people are rely. Exact.

Everyone is texting and getting into accidents. Yeah. And putting their eyes off the road.

Yeah. It's so stupid. I totally agree with you. I agree with you. I agree that you should be able to talk on the phones with the headset, which you can do now.

Yeah, you can.

But you can't hold the phone.

Yeah, you can.

In Michigan. You still can. It almost feels weird now. But yeah, I think that is really, really stupid. But you shouldn't. When you're driving, just, you know, listen to music and chill, man.

Chillax.

Chillaxing. And then the other thing. Listen to sex Family on the radio. Oh, my God. There's apps on your phone you could listen to through. Through podcast One.

Podcast One. Stitcher.

Stitcher. They're all great. People always ask me, like, what's an easy way to listen? There's free apps, and soon I'm gonna have a Sax with Emily app that people can just listen to it through the app.

That's amazing. Yeah.

Like, I mean, I have other iPhone.

Apps, but not the Stitcher app. They already have a bunch of car integrations. So just look at your car and it'll probably be integrated already. Integrated in your car.

I love that. That's what I'm gonna do. So then the other thing. I was just gonna say that you reminded me of a phone. Something.

People breaking up over the phone.

No, people do do that, though. They hook up. They break up over the phone. They text over the phone. Oh, everyone. I've heard lately, so many people. I don't. They're like, oh, yeah, I found out he was cheating me. I'm like, you check the phone. It seems like every relationship ends or people are catching people because of their phones. Like, don't people have passwords on their phones? Or do people just know their partner's password?

Maybe they know their partner's Password. Oh, here's another show that I'm obsessed with.

Okay.

Is Teen Mom.

Oh, no.

Well, why is my favorite.

I know they.

And it's actually. I. Thank God. This is how the show has prevented pregnancy. Teen pregnancy.

That's what. Well, they can't directly. Yeah.

But it's definitely.

It doesn't glamorize it.

It doesn't glamorize it at all. And I, like, hate most of the people on the show, but you can't stop watching.

They hate cancing.

And this girl. Okay, this girl, one of the girls on there. Such a freaking idiot. Okay? So she had twins. She had twins with a guy when she was a teenager, right? And then she ends up cheating on this guy. This guy's a good guy. And then they break up, and then finally he's like, forget it. I want to get back with you and be back with the family. She ends up getting pregnant. Pregnant by some other dude.

She cheats on him again.

Yeah. She gets with some other guy, gets pregnant by another guy. So that guy's, like, out. The original guy that.

Of that she has twins with.

She has twins with. She couldn't work out with this guy.

People are just too young.

And so she's with this new guy and has another kid. But this guy always has to leave and go make money, right? I don't know what type of job that he has, but he always has to leave town to make money. She was mad that he didn't take a local job, right?

Where's the job he could get which.

Which pays less money than the job that he went, right? He. He was gonna go work somewhere for two months and make for 40 grand.

Awesome.

Like, for the gas company.

But he was leaving for two months.

He was leaving for two months. And she was upset that he was leaving and didn't take this job that paid way less. That was local.

Well, she's 17 years old or something.

I mean, she's, like, super young.

I mean, these kids are not making the best. You don't get married before you're 30.

The thing is. The thing is, her mom was asking, like, oh, how did you even find out that he had this local job offer? You're like, oh, I. I was going through his phone.

Yeah, everyone goes through your phone. People like. Like, put your phone under lock and key. I swear to God, I've had guys look at my phone. Just. It's just crazy because everything.

That's even.

Everything. Yeah.

Like, your. Your phone, you got your Facebook, you got your everything. Email, you got Your text messages, you got your Twitter, you got your Instagram. Anything, even if it's totally innocent, can be totally flipped.

Oh, totally flipped around.

Huge argument.

Yeah. People are just.

But then the part that hate that I hated the most about this chick that was always pissed at her, her man was leaving. I'm like, I'm like, girl, you have three freaking kids. He's leaving to go make money to provide for you, and you're bitching and.

Moaning that she's young, she's not emotionally developed. Women have children because they think that it's gonna be one something that will finally love them because they probably had a mess up childhood. So they think it'll finally be something that will unconditionally love me and that I can love and they're just not.

You want the guy to stay home.

Not bring any money, feels like he's leaving her too. And she feels a basic abandonment issues. Well, she's a moron, but I'm glad you like watching the show. Okay, I think we should go into the. Well, let's read an email and then we're going to go into the topic, which is the friend zone. Playing games with a friend. Hi Emily. Thank you. I met this girl two years ago in college and she was really into me, but I wasn't interested in her as anything more than a friend. I think it was partially because of how strong she came onto me. Oftentimes when we'd be drinking though, going out in a group, we'd kiss and even pass out each other's beds. No sex. We were hanging out quite a bit. And then I started developing feelings for her and she seemed to back away. Once my feelings became really strong, I told her how I felt, asked her out. She rejected me straight up and made it clear that she was not that girl for me and said she was an independent girl and just wanted to be friends. This was a year and a half ago and I told her that night I could not be friends with her. Over the past year and a half, I backed off. Rarely initiate anything, saw each other very rarely. And now for the past five or six months, she texts me almost every weekend to go out. But it always seems to be on her terms and she was continually vague and a bit flaky. So I chose not to see her for four months. We're out of college now and to this day she still reaches out and calls text to hang on weekends, has told me she misses me, not to be a stranger, etc. She'll message me during the week saying hi, yet I continually give brief replies, sometimes ignore entirely, and really don't show much interest at all. Truth is, though, that my feelings for her are not gone entirely. I've kind of resigned myself from thinking that this will not amount to anything more than friends. Question is, am I missing a golden opportunity now or am I smart to be acting distant slash disinterested? We're both 23. Thanks for your insight. I really appreciate it. Justin, this is a great question. It's a classic scenario and it's like physics, right? So if something pulls away from you, it's automatically going to follow, right? The law of like, pull, you grab. So he was really all over her. She was not into him. The second he pulls back, she wants more. Now, I'm not saying playing games. She wants the attention, right? And this happened to you in college. It might have been two years ago. So here's the thing. If you still. I get what you're saying, Justin, that you have kind of backed off from her and like, you know, she kind of hurt your feelings. But if she.

Makes plans with you, she's flaky, she's vague. She probably just. That's the thing about these goddamn cell phones. You can send missives off to like 10 guys or 10 girls. Just like, if you're feeling lonely or you want your phone to beep, she might be texting you and ten other guys, right? So she just. And she. And we remember. She remembers that you backed off and she's like, I don't got him wrapped on my finger anymore. We all kind of do that little. Like, even if it's not that conscious, however, I would maybe give it one. If you still think that, you know, I get you. Acting disinterested has kind of worked for her in a way. But if you still haven't seen her lately, you could give it one more go and go out with her and just.

I say one. I say one more time. You blew it in the beginning. That's your opportunity to do it. And then when you came in, there was probably somebody, some other person in the right in the mix that you didn't even know about. So she's like, I don't want to get involved with this guy because I got something else going on. Now, she probably doesn't even have that going on. And she wants the attention. That's why she's hitting you up. I say hang out with her one time. Be super confident and direct. And if she's not down, then cut her loose.

Be dumb, because she's wasting time. I agree. Be confident. But I'm not even saying he might be hanging out with her guy and not even be that attractor. But if you are attracted to her, then just grab her and start making out with her and be like, we're having sex or whatever it is, we're going home tonight. Or come over. Like, be aggressive, be the man, don't be the friend, don't ask her if she's dating anyone. Don't like, be the guy, be that guy. And I'm not saying play games, but don't be like, hey, how you been? What's up? If you see her and you want to sleep with her and you know that you're interested in her, then be that guy. But don't be the friend and see what happens. But also, you don't have to say, don't talk about your feelings and stuff. Just like make the move and if that's okay.

And if you try to make plans like this and she blows you off, then you're done.

We're done. Because flakes are just. It's so annoying. Yeah, you got to just get those people away from your life.

Try to come back and hit me up and I'm just over it.

LA is a town of flakes. People say too. I don't think people said that about San Francisco people, but in la, everyone's like, everyone's flaking.

Super funny.

Guys have been to me like, are you an LA flaky girl? Cuz I don't get back to him and I'm like, no, I'm not. I mean, I'm a little flaky.

I mean, you're a. I mean, even in San Francisco you were what, built for la because you weren't punctual. No one else. LA is punctual. And I'm overly punctual.

You're overly punctual. You were like so early today.

Five minutes early, everybody. I'm overly.

I was impressed. I'm never five minutes early. Okay, our topic today, this is great for Justin and great for everyone. It is the friend zone. So this is a question I get asked all the time by guys, like, what happened? You know, we were friends and I feel like every woman I date, she like just automatically like throws you into the friend zone and this is like menace. You said this happened to you before in life. You've been in the friend zone.

Yes, I have been in the friend zone. And the thing was, I put myself there and I never took any action.

Right.

You know, until years later and then that's where it's too late. Like, just what happened this past email? Because then. Then they only see you as a friend.

Exactly.

Then they have more. They probably, at that time, probably has more options, you know, and they're like, right.

And I think that women maybe. Is it because guys think like they're. You're nervous at first, you're like. Or is it someone your brain, you're like, oh, I should be your friend first. And then, yeah, I shouldn't come on like a douchebag guy. I'll be your friend and then she'll like me. That's what men are kind of socialized. And there's a little fearful to be the aggressive guy and grab her or grab her, let it know that you like her.

Yeah, totally. Because then you're like, oh, I really like hanging out with her. And if I mess it up, then I don't get to see her anymore.

Exactly. Well, let's get that. Let's rewire your brains.

Yeah. And then the thing is, like I've said, you want to be more than a friend. You can't be afraid. You can't be afraid to not be able to see her anymore.

Exactly.

Because you're just gonna be torturing yourself inside every time you see that person. Because you want to be more than a friend.

Exactly.

It's do or die.

You gotta do it.

Just. Just go for it. And again, if she says no, I'm telling you right now, I felt like this. You're. You're. You're not going to die.

You're not going to die. Your life is not over because you got rejected from your friend.

The world is not gonna crumble around you.

Right.

I mean, you might be a little bit sad. Like, oh, man, I really like that person. She's not into me, but at least.

You know you're not wasting another six months dragging around waiting for her to see you as a friend. So don't act like her buddy at first and don't have fear. Don't act like somebody different. Act like yourself. If you're attracted to her, grab her hand. Like, let it know. Right. Let it be known right away that you are attracted to her. So don't even let yourself fall into the friend zone. If you want to kiss her, go in for the kiss. I think if you want to go out with her again, tell her. So, like, right away, after the first time you guys go out, go. This was fun. Let me take you to dinner. So let's say your first date is a lunch. So A lot of people might think a lunch is like, you know, I've gone out with guys. I'm like, is this a date or is it a work thing? It's a lunch. But after, I'd be like, I'd like to take you to dinner. That's a very clear way. I'd like to go out with you, like, one night. That's a very clear way of stating, like, no, this is more than friends. And then let it be known on that date. Like, kiss her at the first date. Or try or just be like, grab her hand. Like, start using, like, affectionate things that she knows right away that you are taking control of it.

And again, tequila is always a good lubricant.

Tequila is a good lubricant, but you gotta make. You gotta make up.

So I always go silver. Because if you go brown, she'll be barfing.

Not every girl drinks. Well, tequila is the female Viagra sometimes. But go for the kiss if you want to go out again. Take her out, ask her out. Make sure she knows it's a date and not just a hangout. So those are some of my initial tips. And also, live your own life. It's very attractive if you're like an independent person and you don't want to be needy. Like, don't be needy. That's the thing. If you're the guy who's always available, don't always be available. And not because you're playing games, but, like, really have a full life rather than just drop everything for this girl. Show that you have your own interests and your own desires, your own friends. Just don't cater her to her needs and be. And if she wants to cry on your shoulder about her ex boyfriend, be like, why are we spending time talking about this guy that you've been dating? Let's go out and dance. Let's go out and get dinner. Don't become her shoulder to cry on.

Yeah. Be confident. Say, I'm sorry, I just don't give a shit about your ex boyfriend.

Yeah, like, I want to talk about.

What'S going on with you.

Yeah, how you been? Just be like, I'm not gonna. Cause a lot of guys also, I've had guys do that to me. They're like, like, tell me about it. Yeah, and I know. And we know that you like us.

And I already knew. I already know you probably already told the same story to five of your other girlfriends.

Exactly. Don't waste your time.

I'm not one of your girlfriends. I have a penis. I want to use it in your vagina.

Yeah. And if it's not with you, let's go out and meet some people tonight. So that's a way to do it.

Let me know if I can or not. So I'm wasting my time.

Exactly. Let me know. Date other people and don't wait around. Date someone sexy, smart, fun, you know, have your own life. Ask their advice about dating other women and see how she responds. If she's uneasy about the conversation, then, you know, you gotta write where you want her. I don't know about. I mean, I don't know. Just like talk about your life. Like make it known that you've got other things going on as you should talk about your sexual desires. Sometimes people put you in the friend zone because they don't feel attracted to you at all. Because you've never done anything that's sexual or that's, you know, you could be tasteful. Don't be like, hey, I like getting my dick socked while I'm driving. But you can be like, you know something, like something tastefully about sex. Like, God, I think it'd be so hot to have sex on a balcony or something.

Just, I mean, don't talk about that like on the first date.

No, don't talk about sex on the first date. Unfortunately I can't. I'm talking about like after you're seeing someone. Just let it be known that you are, you know, attracted. Or you could say like, wow, you look really hot today. I mean, make sure that you are. Let her know that you're attracted to her as well. She'll figure out that you are attractor at that point. Like if you compliment her, tell that she looks hot, sexy like. Because if you're playing the friend guy, you're not gonna do that.

Yeah.

You're not gonna tell her the chicks hot Menace doesn't like telling girls she's hot because. What?

Oh yeah, they just get over the confident and then they think they have you wrapped around their finger. But check this out. Talk about X's. Real quick to go back to reality television for a second.

Yeah.

So good because. Alright, so the Real World has been on MTV for like 20 years. I haven't, I didn't watch it for years because it was so boring. Like.

No, right. It was boring. It was like. Yeah.

So they were back in San Francisco. A new Real World.

Okay.

Amazing. Do you know what they did this year? No, genius. They call it the Real World exit is. So what happens is everyone, they think it's just a normal Real world. It's all good. And halfway through the season, they move in everyone's exes into. Into the house. Exes from just like, they're like recent exes into the house to live with them, and they didn't even know. They just, like. They just like, oh, it's just a regular real world. And, like. And the people that live in there, like, are already, like, hooking up with each other and all this stuff. Stuff.

So they're then.

Then they get home one day, and all their exes are in the house.

They walk in all at once, and their exes are sitting there. Yeah, that's like a dream. That's like a crazy nightmare.

Oh, it's a dream for you because you love to hang out.

Well, I'm still friends with Max.

I'm like, hey, all of them were just like.

And then how long do they have to live with their exes?

Has it already remainder of the season? Yeah, it's already about to wrap up.

But why is it interesting? Because they fight.

Well, yeah, because two of the people already, like, one of them already got one with one of the girls and like, oh, this is my girlfriend now from. From the new season. Right. And then one of them was, like, already hooking up with some other guys.

Yeah, I'm sure they're all hooking up.

And then they're like, exes move in. They're like, oh, hey, and do they like their.

But they broke up with them. That just seems silly to me. I have a better idea for a show.

Okay, go ahead.

Here's my idea for a show by exes.

It was really good.

I mean, no, I can't. I see what you're saying. I can see it's kind of interesting twist, but I think that if they got the exes to go on, that gives me hope for my reality show idea where I think it would be so interesting to have a reality show where your. All of your exes or a few of your exes, they. They come on the show like it's a dating show, but they come on and they, like, tell you. They brief your new partner. They brief people about what you're like to date, or they reveal things about you or they. I just kind of have. I had a better idea. Do you know what I'm saying?

No, no, no, no.

Like, it's a great idea that your exes would be the best to talk to someone new about you like that. Like. Like, just. I would love all my exes to be on the show. I think it'd be hilarious. I don't mind what they say about me. They probably would all say the same thing. And it would be very educational for the. Well, let's say it's a woman, like a bachelorette show. And they're like, it would be a good twist, like, here's your three exes. And what if they like all of the same complaints or different ones? You could learn a lot about yourself by, like, talking to the exes. Plus, there's so many guys that I've dated, and then I've met other girls who have dated them. I'm like, why didn't I meet you three years ago? After I danced out for three years, you did the same exact thing to me. I just think that your exes are a wealth of information that could help you from making mistakes.

Okay. Other than the whole work obsessed thing, what would be the number one complaint.

That guys have about me?

Yes.

That I work too much. Besides that. Yeah, probably that. I don't. I just. I'm not. I don't seem as interested in them or I don't make. I don't prioritize them. Yeah, the same thing as the work thing. I probably don't commit as readily or I don't prioritize them above everything else. All right.

I haven't any complaints in the sex department. Thank God. To my face, at least. I think it's always that I probably seem a little elusive or I'm not totally committed, or I'm sort of in and out. One foot in, one foot out.

You flirt too much. Probably.

I can't help it. It's like my DNA. I'm a flirt. I've always been a flirt. Okay, some kids. But I need to be the guy who can handle that. Like, oh, that's Emily. But most guys can't. And it's not like I'm gonna go.

Bang that too, because I'm touching feely.

I touch people. I do now.

Relationships are like, you know, not that you're a possession, but they'd like to. They'd like to have and say, yeah, this is my girlfriend.

But a lot of times what seems like flirting is not necessarily flirting. I might be touching someone, but it's not like I'm down pants.

But then it's just like. Then it doesn't seem like, oh, that's my girlfriend. Like, oh, it seems.

I get it.

Anybody can have my girlfriend.

Right? But I mean, if they go home with me, they should be happy. I'm just friendly. I would say friendly slash flirty.

Too friendly.

Not too friendly. So what apps. What. What would you say is your number one complaint from all your exes?

For my previous exes? Probably.

That, yeah, it would be. I've tried to try to take out work factor, but it would probably be work that, I mean like one of my ex long term relationships, it was just like, you know, her friends are, you know, they freaking. They work like, like crappy jobs so they don't even care that they can go party on a Tuesday night. And I go, I'm like committed that hey, have a strict sleep schedule because I have to be on the radio at 6am every morning.

So you just weren't.

Yeah. And then her friend's like, oh, you know your man, blah, blah, he doesn't want to go out and all that kind of stuff.

Well then you're dating party girls. Like that's just not.

And then. Yeah, and then I just like I realized that yeah, I don't want to. I want a girl that's just as committed to work.

Exactly.

And doesn't, you know, trip that I have to go do something.

Right.

And then I'm. Yeah, I'm totally a girl who has.

Her own stuff going on. That's good. You are with that person now. I love that. Someday I'd like to meet her again.

Okay, so another thing, it's so funny.

Too that you tell us that. No, we had some visitors.

We had some visitors recently to our place. Who.

The visitor. Seen my girlfriend. Met my girlfriend a bunch of times and then he comes in, he's like, oh, nice to meet you. Like, like you already met her before, right?

I do that. Yeah. I'm bad with. I know what you mean. Was she upset?

Yeah, but I'm sure you do that all the time.

All the time.

You don't remember.

I just say nice to see you now instead of nice to meet you. Yeah, that's what you do. Because then I don't remember everyone that I meet. Not that like I'm meeting. I just have bad memory.

Yeah, sometimes.

Okay. Another thing about the friend zone is you got to touch this person occasionally. She may have no idea that you're interested either. I mean, I think women might assume right away, like she might like you. And like I have so many guy friends too have told me that they so regret that they were always being friends with the girls because they liked her, but they never made the move. And they found out years later that she was like, why didn't you ever make. You had this too, right? They were like, why did you never Make a move with me. So if you start touching them like women, she may have no idea you're interested, but women are physically and visually stimulated. So if you just like touch her arm or like, you know, touch her back or like grab her hand or like tell her something's funny and talk her, she'll start to know. You don't have to grope her, but you can touch her in ways that she will notice that you like her. You could put her hand on her knee, you can massage her shoulder. She'll soon be attracted to you. And you won't have to bring up the thing about escaping the friend zone or have the awkward conversation because she'll know. So make it known that you want it by touching. Okay?

You won't die, people.

You're not gonna die. You are not gonna die. So also you can do that little joke about relationship. So joke that she can't. Well, I hate guys do this to me. But like, there is that little, like, hey, if you keep wearing that perfume, I'm gonna have to like kiss you because you smell so good.

That's cheesy. Don't do that.

It is kind of cheesy. Don't do that. But just make it known right away. And I'm saying like, you're not gonna die. It's rejection now for women. If you weak. I can always kind of tell if a guy's interested if you. Again, this goes for women. If there's someone that you're interested in and you're just friends. I think these are the same things, like let it be known. Like, why is everyone wasting their time, like pining away for people that they have crushes on? I just don't understand it. So I think that you should just keep.

Because guys are afraid and they're shy.

And women are too. So if you know that there's a guy, help him out. You're like, is he interested in me? Maybe I'll make the first move. How would you feel if a woman made the first move?

I would love it. And we actually haven't talked about this topic.

Let's do it.

Is. I think it would be amazing if women were more aggressive. Not like overly aggressive sexually. Like they're like grabbing guys crotches and stuff like that, but expressing it because we. You already said that it's scientifically proven that guys do not read signs.

No, they don't. There was a study that came out that men can't read the signs. They can't tell if women are interested or not.

Sometimes I cannot Tell.

Right. It's true.

They are. And if they just make it more apparent, like, yes, I'm interested in you, or just express it, like, and not try to play these stupid games where, oh, I'm totally giving them signs, like, because the guys don't see the signs.

Exactly, Exactly. They don't. So, yeah, give them signs.

Thank God for Tinder, then, I guess.

So what are the signs?

They have to grab, like, of a photo.

Yeah, but that's.

I'm interested. You're interested.

But if you're friends, how would a girl make it known to you? Maybe if you can't read the signs, she'd have to kiss you. You want her to kiss you first?

That would be great. If a woman kisses you.

Have you had a woman kiss you first?

Yes, I have had a woman kissed me first before.

Okay.

And I. It's. I think it's awesome.

I never. I never make the first move. I know. They don't know the signs. So everyone's gonna help everyone out.

Overly aggressively sleazy guys. Those are the guys that are always getting the chicks.

Exactly.

Don't care. And you're sitting back and you're like, dude, I'm a nice guy. I got a lot of things going on for me. Why is this douchebag getting with all the chicks?

Because you're not confident enough around women that you like, and you don't go in with that confidence. So whatever it is in your life that's holding you back and it. I know it's so. So if you look at studies across the board, women are like, what's the number one thing you find sexy in a man? It's confidence. And then guys are like, oh, great. What does that mean? Well, I always say the most important thing you have to do is cultivate confidence. So whatever it is that you're insecure about, work on that. Go to therapy if you don't like your weight, Go to the gym if you don't like your job, set goals to get a better job. I mean, I know. Easier said than done, but if there are things that are bringing you down, but also, you know, work on yourself, but also just be. Be that guy that you know is. You're around your friends. Like, don't treat women like they're all on a pedestal. And you got to act a totally different way. You just got to get comfortable talking to women. Now, this goes back to a lot of men being fearful of rejection or afraid of talking to women. Just practice when you're out just talking to women. Hey, hey. Not anything interested. You just like, hey, how you doing? Just because I think men get out of practice or they've never had practice, and they're so afraid of the rejection. And you realize that, like, talking to women is just as easy as talking to a guy. And then you'll just become. And you'll get more comfortable, and then that will give you confidence. You just. Confidence talking to women that you don't even see the confidence. Coffee shop, on the bus, wherever. That's what I got to say.

I totally agree with you.

Oh, man, it's. That's what we got for today.

That's very rare.

What is rare?

That I totally agree with you.

I know it's fair and. But it is true that women end up dating just the douchebag or a lot of guys because they're the ones who know how to pick up, who have the game or they can talk to women. And there's all these nice guys in the corner who don't know how to talk to women because I've met them now and they're like, oh, I was a nice guy in college or high school. I'm like, I probably would have dated, but now they have the confidence or whatever. So just don't. Wait. Don't be that guy forever. If you're that guy, like, start doing things. So hang out with your friends who do have the game and learn it. Like, figure out how to have that confidence because that's. You're right. The guys who get most game are the ones who are just making the stupid moves to be a smart guy.

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